1st Seminary Of Knowledge 2012 Lecture 3b 2 Of 2
Channel: Abdulbary Yahya
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I used to like,
I used to like playing, you know, music and then things like that. So they used to like that at one time as a youth, and he used to hang around with the other people also the people who used to drink and so forth. This was, there's a there's a time in his life in his youth, when this occurred. And one day,
remembered, he was saying some some lines. Then he remembered a verse in which Allah somehow says, I love yet Nina levena am and when duck shall pollute only the karela Allah get Nila levena amaranthaceae boo boo Nicola, isn't it time for the believers to have their hearts
tremble in the remembrance of Allah subhanho wa Taala. And when he remember that, he said, yes, it is time. And he started he repented to Allah Subhana aipad returned to Allah subhanho wa Taala until he became who he was, I do not know about it. What's the lesson that we can take from here? The lesson that we can take from here is that we all can make a difference, and that we all can change no matter what state what condition we're in. Allah Subhana Allah, Allah is Ever merciful. Allah subhanho wa Taala is ever Merciful, and do not do not lose hope in the comforting Mercy of Allah subhanho wa Taala because no one loses hope in the comforting Mercy of Allah except for the non
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indeed, do not lose hope in the comforting Mercy of Allah. For no one loses hope in the company Mercy of Allah except those who are disbelievers. Why is it that when a person loses hope in the mercy of Allah, he's a disbeliever. Do you know why? Because as if he's saying your law, my sins are so great, your mercy can encompass it. I was a biller. How can you say such a thing? Allah subhanho wa Taala can forgive you and you change when you change your lifestyle you change when you repent to Allah subhana wa Tada, you can inshallah make a difference. You know, one of the, one of the characteristics of the man and Maddie, you know, no matter you guys know him, you hear about him
one of the conditions but one of the characteristics that the prophet SAW him described him, he said, Your Slayer movie Yeoman? Well, Allah,
Allah subhanho wa Taala rectify his condition in one day and one night.
Some of the scholars have said maybe he was just a regular Muhammad Abdullah. But something happened where he turned to Allah subhana wa Tada. And he didn't become just a regular Mohammed Abdullah.
he repents, and he changes his ways. And he becomes Mohammed Abdullah Al Mahdi.
And so I'm not giving I'm not telling you this that, you know, you know, one time maybe you have the hopes of becoming Mohammed, Abdullah Medina, you know,
is that that you can make a change. You can be the best that you can you have to try to be the best that you can be. When you repent to Allah and when you change your ways, don't just be a better person. Why not try to be the best that you can be? Try to be the best that you can be. There was a scholar who lived at the same time as Abdullah Mubarak.
His name was alfoil of Narayan. Do you know as a young he used to be a highway robber.
Used to be highway Robert, do you know what a highway robber is? Not just any regular highway robber. He was a ruthless highway robber between Mecca and Medina.
Between the two
sacred sites on the face of this earth, where the pilgrims are going back and forth, and he used to rob people between Mecca and Medina, and he was so ruthless, that you know, mothers used to tell stories that time when they didn't go to sleep, you know, like, you know, in the West, if a child does not go to sleep, you go, you better go sleep. I'm getting the boogeyman on you.
It scares me with the boogeyman. He loves that Boogey Man. You don't go to sleep. I'm gonna call it a full day.
That's how ruthless he was. So one day
one of his students
He, of course was known as IBL haramain worshipper of Beckham, Medina, so said, How did you become who you are right now? Tell us about the day you repented.
And so he said, I was planning to jump into a house and was on the roof.
I saw an old, an old man praying. And so before I jumped in, I said, let me just listen to this old man, why is he crying? So profusely? What is he saying? Why is he crying so profusely? So you heard him recite a verse he recited, he was reciting the Quran. And he came across that same verse, in which Allah subhana wa Taala says,
isn't it time for the believers to have their hearts crumble? And the remembrance of Allah? And so at that moment, he said, yes, it is time as well. They have Yes, it is time.
And then so he jumped from the house. And he was walking and reflecting about his life
of who he was. And he wanted to repent. And so he saw
ahead, he went to that area, and he saw a light. And he went to that area, and he saw two people in the tent. And they were talking to each other. And so he laid next to the tent. And he was listening in on what they were saying, one of them said, you know, we really should be going, we really should get going, we can't stop at this time. We can stop, we're already late. And the other person says to him, Are you out of your mind? Do you know where we are? We are in an era inhabited by the ruthless and full day.
I'm not going on at this time of the night when you know, he's out there. We're not traveling, we're staying here. That's what he hears this. He says,
you know, alum brought me here to listen to these people for a reason.
Their hearts should be trembling and the fear of Allah not in the fear of the name, I love for them. So he got up, took a shower. And he went,
and he started to cry until
he cried and cried and cried, repented to Allah subhanho wa Taala for all his actions. And he continued to be with the scholars. And he studied with them. And he became from the highway robber of Mecca and Medina to the I beaten her on a
why because when he changed, he didn't say he didn't change just to be a better Muslim.
He made the conviction to be the best Muslim.
So all of us also, when we repent to Allah every single day, why don't we make the conviction to be the best not just to be a better Muslim? And that's why you're if you're sitting down, right, and it's time for prayer, you might there might be a football game on or some sports that is on the TV, and yet, it's going over time, right? And then it's time to pray you know, it's time to pray and you hear the other.
I want you to ask yourself,
where would the best Muslim in Singapore be? At this time?
I think the best Muslim in Singapore will be the first line in the masjid
remembering Allah making Vic reading the Quran waiting for the prayer, he wouldn't be sitting in the couch at this time. And then you say to yourself, inshallah, I want to be that best Muslim that I can be. Why not? Don't make the intention just to be a better person, but make the intention to be the best. And this is the difference between just the regular people regular Mohammed Abdullah, and Mohammed Abdullah Al Mahdi.
You make the intention to be the best. And this is the difference between the regular Abdullah
just Abdullah and someone like Abdullah having robotic, they always intended, they always wanted to be the best. And to be the best. You also have to hang around and be with the best people be with the righteous people. And that's why the lightning robotic he used to associate himself with the honorable people with the good people and safer to software baby Josie he mentioned he said, the lightning robotics home, he had a very large house, a very spacious house.
he said that there was not a single person of knowledge
Someone who is known for piety and righteousness, or someone who was known for to have more Oh, like, you know, man, men would mean someone who's like the real men, you know, men, not just males. We have a lot of males nowadays, but don't have to be men. Okay? A lot of males, but all the men, he was in, not the males, all the men were in his house, the real men talking about all the scholars when his house, all the students of knowledge were in his house. And so this was the house of the law had no robotic, and Abdullah Mubarak.
He was also very generous and very kind. He was the best of neighbors. He had a neighbor, who was a Jew.
he lived, of course, Abdullah robotics house was
somewhat near the masjid. And so another Muslim once you buy that, you that house, and that house was probably going for about 100 100,000 or so their homes. And so that was the going price. And so this Muslim went to this Jew, and he said, I would like to buy this house from you.
And so he said, I'll sell it to you for 200,000. So he looked at him, he said, 200,000, that's extravagant. I mean, the going price, the maximum price you probably get for this house is 100,000.
So he said, Yes. 100,000 for the house, and another 100,000 for being the neighbor of Abdullah Mubarak, you don't know what kind of person this guy is. You'd be the neighbor, his neighbor. DVS neighbor is worth the price of the house itself.
Because that's the type of person he was. That's how kind he was to his neighbor, even though his neighbors, he was his neighbor was a non Muslim. Nowadays, sometimes you have a neighbor who's non Muslim. And then people come in, I'm gonna bite us as well. You know, there's a Muslim that I think I take the other house.
We have to be the best people that we can be. You don't just just don't try to just be a better person, but be the best. And I'm Dylan robotic Rahim Allah.
It's not just the appearance, you know, the status that he everyone knew him. He was a great scholar known for all kinds of things. And so one of his students came to him when his students are with him when he said, I used to think,
no, why isn't the Latin robotic different from a How is he different from us? He prays just like we pray,
how is he able to achieve such high status, and memory and memory and knowledge and so forth in rank?
How he plays like, we pray, we pray when he plays, we also fast when he fast, you know, same time, same type of things. So they always used to wonder what is it that differentiates us from him?
We try to do whatever he does, but then how is he able to get so much blessings in his time, and as well.
And so he said, one day, when I
was traveling with him, I found out
it was a windy night.
And it blew the candle or blue the light and it became dark. And so everyone was looking for
some way to
And then when we actually when we did, so when we're in the dark, everyone is just busy doing things, finding ways to
bring the light back. And then we looked at Abdullah robotic. And we found out we found that he his beard
was wet with tears. He had been crying the whole time that the lights went out.
And so we asked him why.
And he said when the lights went out, I thought about the grief
and the darkness in the grave. And he continued to cry and cry. And so that student affairs he said at that moment, I knew what the difference between us and him was.
It was his heart also. The difference was in his heart. We're running around doing this and he's thinking about the hereafter. He's thinking about the grave. And so
Rahim Allah was one of those, one of the people, as I mentioned, that was known for for many things. And he was always, always advising others.
He was always advising others, even advise them even the scholars always would send advice to others, not to focus on just one type of worship, but to try to diversify the worship. Awesome.
diversify your worship awesome. So he sent a letter.
He sent a letter to alpha alumni up to remind him
and he put it together in some very beautiful poetry. He sent
to him to try to remind him to remind even the even the scholars. And so in the letter he said, Yeah, Robbie didn't have I mean, oh, worshipper of Al haramain, who is this? Who's obviously domain
as well. 11 today, all right. It's contemporary. Yeah, I've even heard I mean, low upside Alterna, the alimta and nikka fillory by the Teton. He said if you were to see us then you would know that you and your worship you're just playing around compared to what we're what we're doing what the people in the forefront are doing. He said, Men can if they will have the will be do more at those who are you know, the cheeks have are wet with tears flowing down their cheeks for neurone AB edema in at at a heart level. But us we're not talking about cheeks flowing. We have blood that's flowing. And there's a big difference there. Okay, now you treebo hayleigh houfy belted no you ride your
horses to show off the other people for neurona for Julio Luna Yeomans sovi, hottie Tata, who we are horses are attacking people, you know, in, in the fall in the front line. So he's reminding us later of nyame. About that, not about the greatness, of striving in the way in the path of a loss of handwork, and to diversify also, the worship of Allah subhanho wa Taala. So just his reminding other people also, this is something that we, we should remind each other, notice that he's a scholar, and the other person is a scholar, but you need someone, you need to be around with people who are there to remind you, that who are not afraid to say that you're wrong, or that you can do better. And
that's the type of people whom you want to be around with. And that's why the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam he said, and what made me
a believer is a mirror of another believer. What does that mean? A believer is a mirror of another believer. What it means is a believer would advise his friends, and advise the people that he's around,
about things that he himself might not be able to see, with sincere advice. Because when you have
a spot on your face, you yourself cannot see that spots. But everyone can see that spot, it is it and it is on the most honorable part of your body, like most notice a part of your body, everyone can see except for you. So there are faults that you may have, that you yourself may not be able to see it. But if your friend and your companion is not a mirror for you, then you're not going to wipe that spot, and everyone will see it, the other people might not be close enough to remind you.
And to mention that to you, because they don't want to embarrass you. But anyone who is a believer, a close friend, your close friend, should remind you, and anyone who does who does not, then he's not really your close buddy. He's not really a close friend. And that's why I remember I had a friend
in in Medina used to, we were classmates.
And one day he did something. And I didn't say anything to him. He did something wrong, and it didn't say anything to him.
And then he found out that I knew what he did. And I didn't say anything. I didn't remind him. So he came to me. He said, I don't want to hang around with you anymore. So I'm saying what's what happened? You know what's going on? And he says, You know, I don't want to hang around with you anymore. I said, He's like, it's like one of my best friends. Right? And you know, to have one of your best friends say this to you is like a job. But how Why is he saying this? What did I do? He said, it's not what you did. It's what you didn't do.
Next time, if you see me, you see me doing that, again. They're doing something wrong. You have to remind me You have to tell me, the other people are not going to tell me they're not close enough to tell me. And if you don't tell me, then who is going to tell me how am I going to improve myself? Unless you promise that you will always remind me even even it might be it might be hard for me to swallow. difficult for me to take hard for me to swallow my pride sometimes, but you're the only one that can remind me because the other people are not close enough. So you have to be my mirror.
Because I'm not I don't see those faults, but you can see them. And that's why you have to be around with people who are good. And this is something that Abdullah knew about it. Rahim Allah was always around people who are good and always took care of people who were who are also
similar and people who were close to Allah subhanho wa Taala and devoted themselves to the worship of Allah subhanho wa Taala. And of the Lord knew about it.
When it came to the study of Hadith, the study of
you know, being with the scholars, like yesterday, we mentioned a little bit about email, Malik Malik Rahim Allah, mo monocolor, whom I took also from, they were also contemporaries in a study with each other. Abdullah Mubarak and Lima Malik Rahim Allah. And
Abdullah novatek Rahim Allah,
he would not waste his time. Remember, this is someone who
this is someone who used to seek knowledge. And if you are appreciative of the time that you have, and you take advantage of the time that you have to use it and the obedience of a law, as I mentioned, Allah will increase it for you. So one day,
a companion of his or one of the companion of his said to him, he said,
either under solita, Lima lethargy, this man.
He said, Every time you finish your prayers,
you never sit around with us. You never sit around with us.
And so he said,
I sit with the companions and the Tajiri.
I sit with the companions of the Prophet sublime and tangerine. And I look at the books, I read the books, and I've read their atharv their sayings. And what do you think? What would What do you think I should do with you guys? Why would I be hanging around with you guys? All you guys do is sit around talking about other people
backbiting other people. And so he was very, very cautious, careful of his time. And this is, you know, when you speak about balancing, having your balance, this is something that's very important, especially in the time that we have right now. You know, we have a lot of time saving gadgets, we but the only thing we don't have is time. And the reason is because these time saving gadgets sometimes distract us more than they actually help us. Sometimes you say okay, they're very beneficial, yes. But when you sit down, sometimes you become distracted. And so if the distraction becomes greater than the benefit, maybe you should find another way to seek knowledge.
Maybe you should find another way to seek knowledge, find a different means and different methods to do so. And so Abdullah novatek Rahim Allah used to not hang around with these people are talking used to take care of that. And especially as I mentioned, during our time, you have a lot of distractions. And not only those types of distractions, but one of the bests a hobby to help save time to help us is the beautiful Hadith in which the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam mentioned, he said in in herston, in Islam and Muslim Taku magnanni part of the excellence of a person's Islam is leaving that which does not concern him. So there's so many things that we read about and that we
do that we spend our time trying to learn, trying to know trying to find out about that don't benefit us. And so there are people who are who waste their time in learning about the stars, the superstars, football players, and all kinds of things. And there are some people who spend all their time only about politics and video about this and that and they waste a lot of their time. And then there are some people their faces on Facebook
all the time. Every time the thing is Oh, Mashallah. Oh,
I see the sister went on a picnic today. Like Yes, the sister went to pick an older brother. He went shopping yesterday, and he bought a new pair of shoes. Yes, but how does that benefit you? Like you're meeting about these statuses or this person? Oh, he didn't like his bathroom. Like see all kinds of things. Every time I know some people Mashallah one status comes with reading. They know every little thing about their friends, whatever they're doing, you're wasting your time. Every time you read that status. You can be spent it can be spent remembering Allah subhanho wa Taala memorizing the Quran. Soc. When he was sitting down after the prayer, he didn't want to sit down
with those guys, because they were speaking about stuff that was not beneficial. So you have to look at
If you want to save time, you have to spend your time and doing things that are beneficial. And you have to be consistent in trying to do things that will help you to, to be in a habit of doing good deeds. And so that's why the best deeds in the sight of Allah that which is most consistent title, man, add one more Highway in fun. If you want to change something, you want to change ourselves, start doing things, even if it's a little bit but doing it doing it consistently. So you know, one of the things that I actually don't like to do is I don't like to clean my car.
I don't like to clean my car.
But this is what I do, though. So that I don't have to clean my car really, every time I get into my car, and also my kids, my kids also, when we get in the car, the rule is if you leave the car, you have to take three pieces of trash.
Everyone, that's your ticket out of the car, do you don't have three pieces, of course, I've had guests, I'm not gonna let them do that. But everybody in the family knows the guy take a look for three pieces. And believe it or not, when you do this often enough, you won't find any trash, you won't find any rubbish or anything like that in your car. In fact, my children before we stop at the supermarket, they call for the garbage, they call for the trash, they look, I got that when I got that one, you can't take that one. Okay, don't fall for it. He understood. Before I used to like on the weekends, I would like you know, spend time trying to clean my car. But after doing this, I
don't have to just as long as you're consistent in doing something. And so that's why every single time also, if you don't like to do the dishes, for example, you know, cleaning your dishes. So every time I go to the to the to the kitchen, but every time very consistent every time I do just one plate or one dish, I just go and do it. Then when I come again, even if I forget something, I'm coming back again, if I step in the kitchen, I'm gonna do one. And at the end of the day, there's no there's no dirty dishes out there. Hello, what's up? And I don't know, I feel it because you know, you know, oh, one dish, and that's not that's a lot. Right? It's not a lot. And also, so you be
consistent in the things that you're doing. And you'll see, if you're like, for example, every time you turn on the computer, you might say, Well, what when do I have time for to read the paper and recite the Quran, what every time you turn on your computer, before you start anything, read at least the page of the Quran. It's not much. But if you can do it consistently, you'll see that you'll find yourself reading much more than that. But no matter how tired you are, do that. So I want you to before you you know, in order for us to be balanced and do things, I want you to try to try your very best to look for daily deeds
of weekly deeds, maybe, and also like monthly deeds, and try to be consistent with him. Like for example, daily, how much are you going to read? How much this this and that are you going to, to do? Like how much setup Are you going to give in the week, and so forth. So this is how I try to be consistent with this. And try to also, by doing this, you're showing your appreciation, and you're thankful for the blessing that Allah has given you in terms of time, and, and the health and the wealth that you have. So the lessons that we learn from those little robotic from his life, and then we can go on because, but you know, the time of course, it's not gonna
be enough for us to cover many things. But one of the most important things when it comes to the life of W Mubarak is sincerity,
devotion, determination, and being thankful to Allah Subhana Allah by spending the blessings that you have, in the path of Allah subhanho, wa Taala. And always trying to do the best, whatever you're doing, try to be the best that you can be in everything that you're doing. And so part of being the best, of course, is imitating and following the best. And so one of the most important things also is to understand and to learn about the stories of the people before. And this is one of the best things to help us to keep us going. And this is just an introduction, and who of the lovely robotic rahimullah was, and I want you in child on your homework.
Okay, we'll give you homework. When you get home, we promise, then inshallah you'll read a lot more. And try to read and find out who Abdullah Mubarak was. And then you'll see all the things that he did all the different things, all the different actions that he did. And then you'll see also his character, and some of the things that he said, some of the wisdoms that he has, because these are our scholars and these are the people you know who emulated
companions of the prophets of light. So, we emulated the Prophet Muhammad Sallallahu wasallam. We just want to focus on Allah Highland, livigno, Mohammed Ali Osiris.
Maybe one just one quick question. Did Abdullah even Mubarak writes any books? Yes, I don't know about it, he had a lot. He has collected collections of Heidi, and some, he's a very scholar of Hadith. So there are a lot, there are a lot of collections of books related to different smaller topics that he did have. And, and so you can check out some of the books of the Hadith that he collected. But this was Remember, these were the earlier times in which there were not too many collections, but he has collections were one of the earlier collections relating to the hobby for the purpose of love. So
he has one of the first books I'm called Kitab azova, which is about piety and righteousness, a hadith about devote devotion, devoting ourselves in the worship of Allah subhanho wa Taala. And
staying away from the, you know, from from Allah allowing the dunya to use you to take away to take, it didn't mean that he'd stayed away from dunya. You see, he was very rich. He was someone who was very rich.
No questions, which is
So building upon your talk.
So I've delivered Mubarak was very knowledgeable, and also very wealthy at the same time and generous, of course. So if we want to aspire to be like him, ourselves, how do we do so to the best of our ability to to be like him knowledgeable, as well as generous and successful in the world? to certain extent? Yes.
As I mentioned before,
I'm done. Mubarak Rahim Allah.
He said to us, the little girl,
the reason why I devote myself to business is because of you guys, you and your students, you and your students, you have people, Mashallah who devote themselves to calling others to Islam. But you also have people who, if you, let's say, if you if you don't have the time to do that, then you can help the people, you will get all the reward of all the Hadeeth in the IRS and software that will be cited, if you support those people if you help those people. And that's what the great scholars of the past, they were scholars also at the same time, you also should not be you also should not forget about yourself studying. So you do your best to try to study. But if you have the correct
intention, let's say I want let's say you're in Singapore right now, and you're about to enter the university. And so you have to think about the oma think about the the the Muslims in Singapore, what do they need? Do they need doctors? Do they need engineers? Do they need lawyers? What area is most needed in this community where I can support you? Or did they need teacher do they need a principal they need people? What kind of people are most in need. And so you make that intention? Whatever you're doing, to be at the surface of Islam. And when you have the correct intention. Then Allah Subhana, Allah bless in sha Allah will bless you in whatever you're doing. And thus,
the also, like I mentioned, be generous. As I mentioned, sometimes a person is rich, because he's generous, not because he's rich. And thus he's generous, is generous. That's why he's rich. And so you have to realize that you're spending that wealth in the path of a loss of handler that don't forget the people who are in need. Don't forget to help other people. Don't forget to give in the path of Allah Subhana Allah that Allah will bless the wealth that you have. And when the last one I blesses the wealth that you have, you'll be happy with whatever you have, and it will be enough for you. Because some people, they might have a lot of wealth, but there's no blessing in it. It might
cause them more harm. So like sometimes, you know, their children gets sick, something happens to the car, all kinds of things are occurring, and they're causing you more headaches and causing you more money even though you're making more money and more money is going out because there's
No blessing. There's no Baraka in it. And so if you have the intention, whatever you're doing to help those who are helping those who are, are spending their way in the path of Allah, then inshallah Allah subhana wa increase it for you. And that's why people like, madam mouth. That's why people like Abu Bakar the love IMO, he was a very wealthy merchant, you have to understand, he gave all his wealth. He gave all his wealth when the Prophet sallallahu Sallam asked for it. But you might say some people might say, Hey, is that something that's permissible even to give all your wealth? What are you going to leave for your family? Isn't that if someone were to do that, wouldn't
when they'd be negligent in taking care of another obligation which is their family? Well, in the case of a robocall, the Messenger of Allah son did not scold him, did not prevent him from doing so. Why? Because on a shout out de la, she said, Canada Abu Bakr in at Europa rush, Abu Bakar, was the best merchant of the operation. He was the best merchant of the Quran. That means the Messenger of Allah knew that he was able to in time he would be able to take care of his family, and take care of even if he gave all his Well, it's just like us right now, some of us we can, we can give everything that we have. But if we still have our jobs, right, next week, or next year, or next month, then
that your salary will continue to come. And they can build up from that again. So this is what this was the case of Abubakar de la. And he spent as well, in the path of Allah, look how many slaves he freed. Look how many Cypress might have now found what they learn free. Look how many people have might have not been fed all of Medina. And so how but he was also one of the most pious people when the most righteous of people, but they were also they had a lot of wealth, because Allah bless their well, because they spent their wealth in the path of a loss of handling them. So make the correct intention. Whatever you're doing, do it for the sake of a loss of animals to help the most Islam and
the Muslims. If you have the when even when you're choosing your major, when you're choosing a major so that you can help Islam and the Muslims, Allah Subhana, Allah bless you, and bless your life and your wealth and also your family, your children, also children.
The next question is, you said to be around good people, my 10 year old came home and said that his best friend in school has a bad attitude, and is always being reprimanded. How do I advise him to mix with this quote unquote, best friend of his, okay?
Well, with the child, of course, you know, they like to follow and they like to do things, but you want to make, you want to try to remind your child to even at 10 years old, believe it or not, they can understand the principles. If your child is in a place where he's being influenced as you're not influencing, then he should still take himself out and be with people who are good. But if that child can influence others, so instead of him influence the other person, why does it need not try to influence that other friend, try to teach him to be a leader, teach him to be the person to remind other people, whether that person is Muslim or not. Sometimes when you speak to that person,
you know, tell them to be good, when it comes to attitude and things that are good. Tell them to continue to remind other people, and if he's not able to, then also try to take care of maybe, maybe, maybe sometimes it just all you can do is just find another place for him or remind the parents, also the parents of that person. Because sometimes we are good, we take care of our children. But if we don't, if we're not careful, where we're putting our children, and we're not helping each other, then it's not going to work. Because like I mentioned last night, it takes a whole village to raise a child, because you have your friends, your aunts and uncles, they
themselves also have children if you send your children to them. And if they're bad, they're going to be influenced also. So it's a, it's a communal effort. It's not just one person, or one thing, and if that's the case of your children, is being influenced by the other person, if he's not being influenced, he's not behaving like that the other person is only behaving, then teach him to remind the other person at least, and then maybe that's it's up to a lesser extent, if he's not being influenced, then it's okay for him to just to continue to try to advise make sure that he doesn't copy and imitate, and that's all, but the best thing to do is to try to put him in a situation or a
case. I don't know, if you have you know, Islamic schools or places that are better, maybe there are schools that are better and so forth, that you can put them in, then of course, that's the better option well out on
the next question, we don't lose hope in the mercy of a law, but how do you cope with the regrets and if the sins affect you in the dunya?
Okay, well, you don't lose. You know, you don't if you don't lose hope. Of course, we don't lose
Hoping you can really say you don't lose hope in Allah subhanho wa Taala there are a couple of things, okay, not losing hope and mercy of Allah Subhana Allah and, and not losing hope, in the mercy of Allah and in the sense that there are two, there are two types of people, they lose hope in the mercy of Allah and they don't repent. They don't repent to Allah Subhana Allah because they think their sins are so great. And that's also that's, that's also a major sin. Another type of person is a person who loses hope, because of the calamities that have befallen upon him, and he's, and he loses hope and to the point where some people are thinking even about suicide, that person
that those types of people who lose hope in Allah subhanho wa Taala, in the help of Allah subhanho wa Taala. It is like, they are saying, Allah Subhana does not know the state or the condition that we have to understand. Allah knows what you're going through, Allah knows what you're going through, and he knows that you can handle it. And so when you lose hope, and you say, you know, you know, this is too tough for me, I don't want, I don't want this anymore, and you're complaining and things like that. That's a part of losing hope and a loss of handle at that. And that's a major sin because you're, it's like you're saying, Allah does not know what you're going through. And so Allah does
know what you're going through, and so continue to be strong. And what can you repeat the question, maybe there's a second part.
It's just how do you cope with the regrets. Now they regret the regret that comes afterwards. Sometimes, you know, when a person commits a sin, and they regrets, and they're always thinking about that, that's not always bad. That's not always bad. Like, there's some things that happened before that you did. And it continues to make, make yourself a better person, then, and it continues to make yourself a more humble person. And you continue to ask Allah Subhana Allah, and it affects you in a positive way where it's bringing you closer to Allah, then that's good, because the Prophet sallallahu Sallam said, Sometimes a servant will commit a sin, and he's so regretful of that sin,
that it will eventually lead him to gender,
it will eventually lead him to gender so sometimes, but if it makes you regret to the point where it's causing you a lot of stress and sorrow, relating to the dunya, that's a different matter, that's then you just come closer to Allah, any any of those sores, or scars, or any harm,
that any emotional scars are will always heal faster with the remembrance of a loss. So be in continuous state of the remnants Allah reciting the Quran that will help heal the scars, and so forth relating to that. Well, we'll have one more question, what advice would you give to somebody? Or would we give to somebody rather, who has no motivation to perform Santa? Why is it difficult for someone to performance on us?
Well, when it comes to prayers, and any generally any types of a bidat,
if it is difficult for us
to perform, or to be motivated to pray, to pray, and so forth.
It's generally it's sometimes it's not. It's not.
It's not the prayer itself. There are other things that might be affecting you like for example, sins. When a person commits sins, it's going to be harder for the wake up and worship Allah subhanho wa Taala. So you have to one of the ways to motivate yourself, when it comes to the prayers is to know the virtues of the prayers, to know the virtues of the prayers, and also to remind yourself to do all that you can to increase your Eman. Be in the remembrance of Allah tried to avoid all the sins because when a person is in the disobedience of Allah, then it's harder for the limbs, in the body in the heart, to turn to Allah Subhana Allah. So it starts with repenting and cleansing
yourself and continually
be in the obedience of Allah and other aspects increase your they're always Everyone has different types of things that they like. And so do the good things, let's say do can continue to to, to recite the Quran more the Quran, and maybe the Quran will also help you with that and but one of the best things you can do is of course, seeking knowledge because when you know the great reward of it is much easier. And if you have a person in your house that does not pray. Sometimes when you always tell them you know, it's time to pray, you should be praying. That gets to the point where they think you're nagging. They think you're always bothering them. It's enough Why you always telling me
to pray every single time forget and then they get they get tired because they know that you're always telling them to pray, you're always going to tell them pray. Of course you remind the person to pray, but try to remind them in different ways. For example, when you see somebody not praying you might you might not need to just tell Okay, pray and pray and so forth. Maybe bring them to the masjid to listen to lectures, or give them some you know, books to read.
Or you yourself, tell them stories not related to the prayer, but anything that will raise their demand because once the man is raised, they will automatically want to pray and return to Allah Subhana Allah so look for different ways not just one way just to go oh you got to pray you gotta pray you don't pray. Maybe tell them the story of Abdullah robotic, telling the stories and sometimes even though it might be indirectly or not related directly, but as long as it's raising their Eman, then inshallah, then you're bringing them closer to making it easy for them to pray.
Hi, Ron. So we've come to the end of the q&a segment. So we'll have a five minute break. Let's allow our speaker to leave the room first. And so we'll take a five minute break and after five minutes, we will start at the eighth lecture by musty men controller. See you later. See you soon.