2024-01-28 – The Virtue Of Apologizing

Abdul Rahman Chao


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when Shara Morimoto decided to have a cooler more data timbira libido to Malala who Kula Bala let him for now.

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As the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was preparing his troops and lining them up.

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Right before the Battle of better the Prophet salallahu alayhi wa sallam was inspecting

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the soldiers, these companions of his well the Allahu Anhu

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and he had a stick with him to ensure that everyone was lined up properly in a straight line.

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And as he went down the line, there was a companion by the name of soybean Kuzia

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a young companion

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and the Prophet sallallahu Sallam noticed that he was standing a little bit ahead

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Have the rest of the companions. So the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam took his stick and he gently

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pushed him, just you could say, poked him on the stomach, in other words, to give him a signal to stand in line correctly.

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So, so I've been Kuzia

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he let out a cry and he said, messenger of Allah. Look at Oh, Jonathan, you have hurt me.

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And I want retaliation. Like you poked me, well, I want to do the same to you.

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Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam lifted up his shirt. And he said, a stupid take back.

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If it hurt you and you can also poke me to be fair.

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So I didn't because he immediately knelt down and he embraced the Prophet SAW Salem in his midsection, and he kissed the promise of Salem stomach.

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The prophets of salaam said, oh, so why are you doing this? He said messenger of Allah.

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We are about to go into battle. In other words, death is right here.

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And I wanted to be the last person

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to be able to touch the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam before I die.

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Brothers and sisters this story

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is a great example.

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Not just of the leadership of the Prophet SAW Salem and the emotional intelligence of the process alum and the emotional perfection and completion of who the process alum is.

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But it shows you how the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was a confidant, emotionally balanced and more importantly,

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very easy to get along. And okay with apologizing?

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The province Allah Allah Selim didn't say,

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that didn't actually hurt. Get over it.

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Stop being a baby about it.

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You know, I'll, I'll poke you one more time and tell you show you if it really hurts or not, no, or the process or limb didn't say, I am the messenger of Allah. Like, you don't need to exaggerate. No. And neither do I want you to think that when the person Selim lifted his shirt up, that he was somehow daring him. No, he wasn't daring him. He wasn't saying like, Oh, yeah, I dare you to poke me. No, he was genuine.

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He was sincere.

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There was no emotional manipulation going on.

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And so brothers and sisters,

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being able to say that you are wrong, being able to apologize, having the courage and the maturity and the ability to apologize if and when you might have offended someone, or have hurt someone that takes mental fortitude.

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And no one is perfect.

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In fact, the scholars have said

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that one of the characteristics of the Prophet sallallahu sallam was that he was very human.

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That yes, when it comes to the revelation of Allah subhanho wa taala. When it comes to, when Allah strong, Allah commands him to do something, to say something in Hua, Allah, it is indeed, revelation from Allah subhanaw taala.

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the processes that didn't make the person Selim non human, or it did not make the process of them divine.

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In fact, this idea of being able to apologize, you find it even in sort of guff

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that we are recommended to read every Friday.

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When Allah subhanho wa taala, commanded Musa alayhi salatu salam to

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to be in the presence and to accompany

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and so he took him on this journey. And the details of that you can read and sort of curve

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but he was going to teach him

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a few interactions and things that he would do and that would confuse Musa

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so he said to Musa in the calendar, Sofia Maria sobre. You're not going to have the patience to

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To be

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with me, you're going to wonder why he's kind of doing this.

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So he went on this journey. And the first time when he spoke out when Musa alayhi salatu salam spoke out, he realized, because the agreement was don't ask me any questions until I tell you the reason why I've done it

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so when he spoke up, and he realized that he shouldn't have Musa apologized

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and he admitted it and he said, lie to Sydney, B mana C to Allah Tala happening, Amina Emery are strong. Do like, forgive me, let me do not hold me accountable for what I have forgotten. I forgot what I told him in a minute or so and do not make this situation more difficult. So brothers and sisters, what are some of the reasons why it is so difficult to apologize?

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It is difficult to apologize. And the number one reason is because of arrogance.

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And I like to call it insecurity.

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When you're not secure with yourself and emotionally mature,

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it is difficult to apologize. And in fact, I want to challenge everyone here

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to think about what it means for a parent to apologize, even for something small that they have done to their child, even if it's they bumped into them. Or maybe they had a bad day. And they instead took it out and screamed at their family.

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And they know deep down in their heart that they shouldn't have done that.

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But they but shaitan justifies it to the parent and says,

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Well, if you apologize to your son, that means your son is not going to respect you anymore.

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They will not do a bit of validation anymore. And I'm here to tell you brothers and sisters,

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that if you want

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people to respect you, you have to have the courage and humility to apologize, even if it's to your wife to your children. These are the people that you should apologize first too.

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But if you're like I'll give you something to cry about stop being a baby. And you don't let and you don't acknowledge their feelings and their emotions. They're going to grow up thinking that they don't need to apologize as well. They end up growing this callus around their heart

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or soft Rolla. I mean, first of all in the whole of a photo Rahim.

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Al hamdu Lillahi Rabbil Alameen wa Salatu was Salam ala Ashrafi lambier, mousseline Nabina Muhammad Ali, he was so happy that you're married or that

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during the time of the process alum,

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the process alum migrated from Mecca to Medina. Mecca, as you know, is a city known for trading and business and commerce. And Medina was a city known for agriculture and farming and taking care of date palm trees, etc.

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And so when the peninsula moved to Medina, he one time witnessed some of the companions claiming the date palm trees, and they were manually pollinating the date palms.

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And so the province of Salem simply remarked from his own opinion, it wasn't revelation from Allah strong data. It was his own personal opinion. And he said,

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I think if they didn't do it, and it's not necessary.

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In other words, the presence of them is just thinking, well, pollination is a natural process, is it really necessary to manually pollinate the date palms.

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So out of respect for the Prophet salallahu Alaihe Salam, the companions in Medina, they did not pollinate that season.

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And that season, the harvest for dates was poor.

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When this news reached the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam,

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the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam he said, you know of the affairs of the dunya better than me.

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And in other narration, it was only my thought.

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For when it is a matter of purse pertaining to Allah subhanho wa Taala I never lie about it, but rather go and pollinate and in another narration, I am not a person

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farming and agriculture show go ahead and pollinate.

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This shows you how the process LM is able to admit that the opinion of other people might be correct in this worldly affair. Even in one of the battles, one of the companions of our system came to him to ask him Messenger of Allah, when you placed your troops in this position on the battlefield, he said, yada Sula. Is this a place that Allah has ordered you to station your troops?

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amends, you don't answer Zelicah Allah.

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The process of selling says La belle harbor Makita. It is his own strategy and thought.

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And so the companion started giving his suggestion the person sent him was not at all offended. He didn't say I am the Prophet, and how dare you challenge my authority, the pastor said and listened. Because this was not an issue of Revelation.

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Brothers and sisters.

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A lot of

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us to go and inspect the city at night and make sure everyone was doing well. And when one of those incidents he was with one of the companies if I'm not mistaken, Abdullah in this room.

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And he saw that there was this house and there was this light coming. And as you know, back then, there was no electricity, obviously. So he went to go investigate what is his light coming from inside the house. So he went into this house without knocking on top, and he saw this old man who was drinking alcohol. And he also had this woman dancing in front of him. Okay, he had his club inside his own house.

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I'm gonna became so enraged.

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And he says, I have never seen

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on any night, worse than an old man who's on his way to die.

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In other words, he has one foot in the grave, and he behaves this way.

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The old man, he was so stunned by barging into his house. He said, Oh, Ameerul Momineen. It is true.

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It is true. But you came into my house without permission.

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And you are coming and spying on me.

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See, I'm not gonna

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he immediately reflected on himself. He didn't, he didn't say, well, doesn't change the fact that you're still wrong. He immediately got up. And he left. And as he left, he started weeping. And in nourishment, he was biting on his throat.

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And he said,

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May the mother of Amar lose him, if he is to come on the day of judgment and being asked by Allah for this.

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So sometime later, this old man who used to come to the modulus of Alma kebab in the masjid and listen to him, he disappeared because he felt embarrassed and awkward. And sometime later on, notice some

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that he was actually sitting in the back. And so Omar said, come close.

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And so that that old man, he thought he thought that I was going to punish him in front of everyone. So I'm gonna send everyone away. And now it was just him, and I'm sitting there.

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And so I'm gonna set come close, come close. So he came close and came close. And he whispered to his ear, he said, I have never told anyone about the identity. I didn't. I didn't disclose who you are to anyone, and I'm never going to do it again.

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And the man said,

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and I testify that Muhammad wa Salam is his messenger, that I too, have not returned to that sin anymore.

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It takes courage, brothers and sisters. It takes confidence.

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It takes humility, to be able to say I was wrong. Because remember, within the sisters, you don't want to be the person who refuses to apologize, who's always about but they, I'm sorry, if you felt that way, because that's a non apology. Or I'm sorry, but you made me do this. You don't want to be the person that comes on the day of judgment and pays with their good deeds. Because the person said them says, Who is the bankrupt person?

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And the companion said, Mr. Law, it is the person

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Who has no money?

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So the person said them said no, but rather, it is the one who comes on the Day of Judgment.

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But he has insulted this person or he has oppressed that person.

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And so those people will come on the day of judgment to get there, right. So they will come and start taking your house and your good deeds.

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And so when the good deeds have run out for Infineon when the good deeds, deeds have run out, the only fair thing that Allah will decide is that those people who are his victims will give their sins to this person

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until that person goes to hell for it.

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So think about it when the sisters is it worth it?

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Is your pride worth that scenario on the Day of Judgment? We ask Allah subhanahu wa taala to guide us we have always found to Allah to forgive us not gonna add you know if you're doing your husband will fill out and it has

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