Channel: Abdul Rahman Chao
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All praise is due to Allah subhanahu wa taala we praise Allah subhanho wa Taala we thank him we seek his forgiveness or we seek His guidance.
Whomsoever Allah subhanahu wa taala guides, none shall be led astray and whomever Allah subhanaw taala allows to be led astray, Nan shall guide them back to the straight path.
A companion of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa aalihi wa sallam who had just become Muslim, as a recent was in congregational prayer with the other companions. And of course the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was leading them in prayer. And during prayer, someone sneezed.
And because this companion
might have been a heck of a tsunami, because he was not
familiar with the rules of Salah and the etiquette of Salah. He responded to the person who had sneeze in prayer and he said, your hammock Allah, Allah have mercy on you.
He said when I did that, some of the companions gave him a look.
And later on, some of them started striking their ties to let me know that I had, you know, I shouldn't speak.
After the prayer was over the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam,
I want you to look at the way of how the prophesy Salam instructed, he simply said
this is the way
We pray, there is no talking in it. And prayer consists of disbelief, glorification of Allah subhanho wa Taala and praising Allah subhanho wa taala.
This Companion of the Prophet sallallahu sallam, how did he describe this learning process? He said, For you Febi were on me. In other words, he was saying, my mother and father be ransomed for the Prophet SAW Salem, ma e to malaman Kabul. I have never seen a teacher before, like the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam.
And he and he said for Allah, He said, By Allah, the Messenger of Allah, ma Kahani, Walla, Walla, shatter money, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam at that moment, he didn't reprimand me, nor did he hit me. And nor did he insulting.
Brothers and sisters.
When it comes to the way how we correct other people, especially when it comes to the way how we discipline our children, and when we see something that is done wrong, how is how is it that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam saw something so blatantly done here in the prayer by saying, That man saying, Allah, may Allah have mercy on you, for the person who sneezed and get the professor Salam, with complete calmness and equanimity, was able to correct this mistake without any shaming and blaming and faulting and nitpicking. None of that.
And I invite you to think about the ways of how we have been brought up.
Because a lot of times, unless you have made a conscious effort to change the way how you parent or the way you correct others, whether it is those around you or your children or other people, a lot of times we end up defaulting to the way how we were disciplined when we are growing up. So if we were shamed, and if we were abused,
it is likely that some people might end up making that mistake.
You look at the prophets Allah Allah wa salam, Aisha Radi Allahu anha, she describes the prophets of Allah was, excuse me and it's been Malik will be Allah and he described that the Prophet sallallahu Sallam in what words he says, Let me Hakuna Nabi sallallahu alayhi wa sallam suburban wala for Hashem what Allah
the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was never someone who was cursing and nor was he vulgar, and nor was he the one that was cursing other people invoking the curse of Allah upon other people.
Well, that can can absolutely Adina in the Manitoba man who teddy bear JB, you know, but if someone was wrong, if the pumps and Salem was trying to discipline another person, he would say at most, what is with him, teddy bear Jeopardy, you know, and this phrase teddy bear JB, you know, in Arabic literally means may there be dust on his forehead, but it has to be taken in a metaphorical way. It just basically means what's wrong with this person? You know, he's basically made a blunder. And that metaphor was to say, he has dusts on his forehead.
I want you to think about the way how the prophets and Sanlam is disciplining and the way how he was correcting. And think about how we correct do we call our children animals?
Did the prophets I seldom ever call the children of his companions by animals when he was angry with them?
Allah subhanho wa Taala says, Allah Allah hulak in our name, for you indeed are of the best of character
Akula called harder or softer Allah Hello, welcome. I mean, first of all, you know who who will have a full reign.
hamdu lillah wa salatu salam ala Rasulillah. While early he was here.
It is difficult.
Speaking for myself as a teacher, as a parent, it is difficult sometimes you will be faced with trying times where students or your children or whatnot, your grandchildren, they might do something wrong. And the first thing you might do is to lash out and to say something that you might regret later. It is part of the human nature. I showed the Allahu Taala on her. One time she was sitting with the prophets are so low, and some people had passed in front of the prophets are so low. And they said in this scenario, they happen to be a few people, the children of Israel that were living in Medina and they said to the process Allah
them from their own dislike or anger of that day they said Assam Wiley criada. So let that beat you, Messenger of Allah, the Prophet sallallaahu. Selim despite being told death be unto you, the prophets of Allah, Allah wa salam, what did he say? What Ali
and to you?
When I showed her the Allahu Taala and her
heard this, she became so enraged, she became so angry, and she says no and does it to you and me the curse of Allah. And she kept going and going going, and the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam corrected this and he says, Madeline ya Isha. I like to be risk what a yucky will own fuel for Ash. Slow down on Isha, slow down. Be kind, be gentle, and beware of violence, and any sort of flowers. A young man that was under the care of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam name was Amara even at the selama he was with the Prophet SAW Salem and they were eating at a table I wouldn't say table but a plate in front of them filled with food.
And this young man he says, What cannot yet he thought leash, my hand was going around in the playground, and from here grabbing, yet totally show off his sofa. It was going, grabbing food from here, going over there grabbing food, and it was making a mess.
In some of the cultures that we would be taught, we might just end up saying, Hey, Ben, Sham, disrespectful, rude. How dare you your hands are dirty, etc. Look at the prophets. I said and what did he say?
He said, Yeah, hula Samila were cool be a Munich were cool me my unique. The prophets I send them he says, oh, young child, young boy.
say Bismillah before you eat the promises Salam is not just correcting his behavior, but he's also teaching him the the manners of how to eat, say Bismillah before in other words, slow down, say Bismillah before you're before you eat. Well could be a mnemonic and eat with your right hand will cool me my yearly and eat what is in front of you. And this, this young man, he said, he said fam Aza la killcare Playa Mithibai. He says and that until now since that day, that is the way how I eat.
Why was this young man
able to implement the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam advice and discipline because the prophets or seller was not yelling, nor was he screaming? What was he hitting the Prophet SAW Salem was direct and firm.
Speaking about direct, it is from the way of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam that he would sometimes be indirect.
Because not everything that is wrong requires you to say it to its face and make it apparent to everyone. Sometimes you can teach something, teach a moment and build a sha Allah with the story. It can be by intimating it by making a note of it without directly saying it. And we have the famous story of Betty era who was this slave woman? She came to Aisha Radi Allahu Allah, and she asked her, I need help. Basically, she was an indentured slave. And basically her owners had said that if you want to be free, you have to pay this amount. But they put a false condition and they said your you want to call it a kinship alliance is still with us. Even after you are manumitted and emancipated.
So I showed up the Allahu and has said I'm ready to pay. But there is this false condition that sense that the that your allegiance is still your wallet is still to those individuals.
And so they refused. And so when the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam heard about this
illegal condition in this agreement that they were proposing, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam he got up and he says, Maribel region?
Yesterday tuna shoo Rupa laser tweaky tabula, what is it with some people who are putting conditions that Allah has not put conditions in the book of Allah?
Whatever condition is not in the book of Allah than it is Balton even if there are 100 conditions, we ask Allah subhanahu wa taala to improve us, we ask Allah subhanaw taala to make us among those who demonstrate good unkind behavior, in our disciplining of our children, and in those that we care for, through the guidance of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam in Allah Hamid Aikido is a luna Luna Viola the phenomenal sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was a steamer who
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