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Salah Coolness Of The Eyes Part 1 Of 2

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Abdul Nasir Jangda

Channel: Abdul Nasir Jangda

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Early he was

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the dean.

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I mean, there was a I mean

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so we always we always begin by praising Allah prasada always, always pray there was it from the left. Always Always praise Allah. Why do we always praise Him? Because there are some things that we are aware of some young men that we have some blessings that we are aware of right what are some what's a blessing you're aware of?

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Islam big blessing, right? I was gonna say much of your passion because you look good too much on

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your

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site, Mashallah. And also in case you need to read something Hi, you're very tall, right? My mom always short my love. Bless our mothers. Whenever I hear her calling from the room, I know it's out there, I'm in trouble or they're going too far up. I have to get it. But he said I say anything else. What are you grateful for?

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For Health, wood for health, exactly. There's so many things, that if we take a minute and think about it, we say hamdulillah. But believe it or not, there are things that we forget about winter due to logging.

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Like if you even try to count the blessings of Allah, you will not be able to do so. So there are some things that we even forget about. That's why we say 100 always because even when we for eternal, we're not consciously remembering, we should remember to say 200 lat just so we can cover up the fact that we don't remember all the blessings that we have. So we said I mean, and then we asked Allah subhanaw taala to send his peace and blessings upon the Prophet Mohammed Salim who was the one of the biggest blessings that we received because he brought us Islam. Because he is the means by which we learned this religion and learned our o'clock an hour. an hour off he that our

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fifth and every we learned from the Prophet Muhammad SAW Selim, and his amazing example. And the examples of those, his companions, his Sahaba, the blessed generation, whom Allah says brotherly love on Memorial Day one. And then we asked a lot to send this piece of buses upon them as well. And then the end part of the draw, I'm just translating everything is that we asked a lot to make us amongst them, the people who try to follow the Prophet so so let me Dean until the end of time. That's what we say. And mean. Okay, so the talk tonight

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talks about Sheldon I'm just here kind of to prep everybody for the main course you know, when you go and you get some nice Indian Pakistani briyani you know, before you sit down and they give you water and they give you what cucumbers and lettuce and the right of the chutney and then you have to order that's the most simple code in all these. And then they bring the Briana. Okay, so I'm the

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I'm the cucumber in Germany. The Nasir is the main course. Right? So I just wanted to give a couple reflections, about Sala about prayer. As someone who works with youth full time humble Allah has blessed me to be able to make this my life it's a big challenge. But it's also a big blessing. And it opens my eyes to a lot of realities of the oma, first of all, the Muslim home was beautiful from the left. Wonderful, wonderful people Alaska has chosen to give us some of the latter blog, I mean, a couple of things that we focus on with youth, in our community and things that I've noticed with prayer is that prayer is very difficult for a lot of youth to be difficult for a lot of people in

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general, but particularly youth, we struggle with it. And I say we because I also am young. But I also once really, really struggled with prayer.

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And to tell a story, there was one kid who came to me it was a good friend of mine Actually, I can't say his name, because it's being recorded is a good good friend of mine in my community. He's one of my students. And he has a habit of going to the nightclubs and drinking and smoking. He has a habit of that. He's Muslim from the lab, but he has a habit of doing the wrong things, making poor decisions. That doesn't mean he's a bad person. It just means you have bad habits. So he comes to me and he tells me, you know, I'm doing these things XYZ, I'm doing all this bad stuff. And he actually says like, my heart is yearning to get away from it. My heart wants to get away from it. But every

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time Friday night rolls around, I find myself calling the same people and making the same bad choices. So he said What should I do?

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I said, next time you want to go pray salah

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and tell me afterwards if you still want to go because the last part is what

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a lotta

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prayer is a obiter on a loss of Diveroli prayer. It forbids it is a forbidden as a cut. It cuts off the fat shot, right. So I told him to do this.

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He told me, okay, I'll try it. So then next weekend came around, and he actually called me, he said, I'm getting that urge to go out. So please make sure you pray because I don't have will do

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a prayer, the older

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you get, the ones that make will do thing loss of privilege. I'll just get up and pray. Because pray, what to pray what to

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do something, just get up in front of your Lord and just say a lot about and just start, right. Again, in fifth. Is this allowed? Absolutely.

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Everyone's like, who is speaking to me? No, I'm not making up new religion. But when we talk about people who are people, and it's either zero and nothing, or everything, we have to find a way to let them in the backdoor to sneak in, right open a crack and say go go. So he gets up. And he actually prays from the left for like I will, that will do it. So it's not obviously, you know, who knows if it's accepted, but it's not. He didn't fulfill the truth, right, the conditions. But point being is that after he prayed, he said, I felt so guilty now to go out. But I'm not going to go out now. Because I just prayed. So he said, What are you doing? I said, Nothing come over. Right. So he came

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over, we hung out for that night. So the first reflection I had about prayer and sought out for young people. And a lot of people here probably know, some young people who struggle with prayer, is that we have to number one, make it easy for them. Now, I'm not saying that we cut down the rock? Of course not. I'm not saying that we negate will do? No, of course not. What I am saying is that, what I am saying is that a lot of times, we add the, you know, this huge list of responsibilities to young people. And so that is somewhere on that list. So we say make sure that you're studying this, and make sure that you're doing this and make sure you're doing this and all Islamic

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responsibilities. And so that is somewhere usually should be at the top, but it's somewhere on there. And so what they do is they see this long list and they get frustrated, they get overwhelmed, and they say, you know, forget all of it. I'm not gonna do any of it. Because it's just such a long list, man. So I said, Okay, my methodology, the way that we should work is sought out. And that's it.

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And a lot of you might be a little bit shocked right now, and that's okay, feel free to be shocked, because I was shocked to when this first happened. But when you reduce the responsibilities at first,

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then what happens is people that begin to love that feeling that sellout gives them and they begin to love the creator Allah subhanaw taala. And they begin to love the Prophet Muhammad SAW said, in his Sunnah, and they begin to say, what else can I do now that I started to love this thing that I've grown now and do more? And you said, Oh, well, you know what? There's a class of semesters, we're teaching 40 hobbies? No, we are teaching the other side of hain they're teaching Quran Tafseer Why don't you hop in once a week, okay, I'll do that sounds good. And their love and their data and their knowledge, their their total learn, begins to grow. So the first tip, cut down the fat, cut

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everything else out. When we're dealing with young people, parents, older brothers, mentors, community leaders, when we're dealing with young people or people here who maybe don't pray, if you yourself, don't pray right now. Cut out everything else and just start praying. Start praying, right? Number two, and we learned this from the life of the Prophet Muhammad

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is that when people have a lot of bad habits, a ton of bad habits, we focus on the bad as opposed to encouraging the good

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to focus on the bad as opposed to encouraging the good. So young people come to me. And imagine that this first brother who I mentioned the first story, I know he has all these bad habits. He has all these bad friends, he drinks, he clubs, he does all these things. Imagine if I told him Look, you can't pray until you get rid of all of that. Then what's he gonna say? He's already knee deep in it. He's already wading through it like a pool, a swimming pool. I say first you have to get out. And then you have to know the Prophet Muhammad SAW said him. When he dealt with people. He allowed them to do good while they were still unfortunately, in bad. A famous story of this is the Sahaba. They

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came to the prophet SAW some of them they came to the Prophet Muhammad SAW them and they came to him. They said, We know of a man who steals He's a thief.

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He perpetually steals. And they said, jasola What should we do? And the prophet SAW Selim said, Does he pray?

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And they said, Yes. And the prophets also said leave him. Because if he prays, and he steals, one of them will leave.

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One of them will leave. If he continues to do his prayer and solder, then eventually his habit of stealing his sin will leave him. But if he continues to give priority to the thievery to the ceiling, that is prayer, we'll leave it at that prayer leaves, that's when we're going to approach him and talk to him and say, You can't let your prayer lead.

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So the problem is, is sort of focused on the positive and he let sometimes even the negative exists. He let it exists. He saw it and he didn't do anything about it. Because he knows that people sometimes you have to plant the seed. Sometimes you have to pour the Clorox into the thing and let it simmer for a little bit. Let it sit, let it soak. Right. You know, we're talking I was talking with Sheldon Nasir about

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certain health conditions, certain if you're trying to lose weight, for example, when someone's trying to lose weight, the trainer will tell you don't go right away and lift weights. First, you have to lose some pounds first, otherwise your knees will get injured. Sometimes the doctor will say what we're going to do surgery, but before we do surgery, you have to do what fast.

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So you have to prepare yourself before we get rid of all the bad sometimes we have to do a pre preparation. So focus on the good. And the last point is this and this is sometimes I think we especially in the era of an indo Pak community, my mother's Muslim by the way animosity Hassan, but the in the Arab and indo Pak community, sometimes there's a, there's a habit of not giving young people compliments, because we don't want their ego to grow. We don't want them to get big. And so number one is encourage prayer. Number two is sometimes don't get so caught up with the bad deeds. And number three is to give them good news bashira will attend a funeral. And in another rewire the

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prophets have said Sakina will attend a funeral.

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But she remains to give them good news. And don't always turn up. You don't always be giving people bad news and being a Debbie Downer, and the other rewires a second. Which means what gives people tranquility.

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So the beauty of this is that the Prophet also says when you give someone good news, when you give them a shot, it gives them Sakina.

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And Sakina is a feeling that we are all chasing. Every single human being is chasing tranquility in our lives. Financial tranquility, spiritual tranquility, emotional tranquility, education, we all want tranquility, we just want things to be smooth. And so when you give someone good news, it causes that Sakina to come on to them.

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Because that's common to them. And so when a young people want a young person prays, make sure we compliment them for that. Make sure we if they don't have a habit of coming to the machine and someone comes to the machine, from the arm around them. It's a good job. Don't be like well, first time I've ever seen you here.

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Hey, we need to make some more space. This guy never come.

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Put our words in the sounds good to see you here.

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Oh, yeah, I used to work at him. Exactly. I used to work in a certain city in the States. And there was an email there. And this email was a Turkish like,

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man, he was like, very knowledgeable. And he used to walk around after a short prayer with candy in his pockets. And the little kids who he thought the message he would come up to them with he had a stern face, but he rarely smiled. Unless it was time to smile. You know, I'm saying his default face was like,

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so you walk up to the kids. I think kids are old Marshall is old. There's a lot of pleasure. He's old. And he was and the kids like oh my god, what did I do? He goes

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nice. And what did the kid do this? I'm a psychology. I'm getting my degree in counseling. What does that do? He's classically conditioning because you know, Pavlov's dog. Ring the bell doll drools. Right? He's classically conditioning the kids to when they pray, what do they taste? Candy, right? So again, your brother is not Muslim. Right? The prayers would be for Allah alone. Right? But the kids like four years old man, like let him grow to that Nia of his loss, let him grow to that sincere media. There was another man and my machine in Chicago. He had he brought four sons to Federer in Jamaica every day martial law him and his four sons and the sons were aged 18 to seven

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and I asked him I said how do you do it in an age where parents are confused about how to get their kids to even believe like

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I said how do you get your son's to Alton federal in the in the rush everyday gym app? He said every day I tell them that if they pray with the federal exchange about he says that afterwards we will get ice cream every day.

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Right and why? Because the February night the federal election is the one that prevents you from being a hypocrite things like that. So he said we'll do these two, we'll go get ice cream, or we'll get hot chocolate in the winter summertime. And all of his kids are like yeah, ice cream hot chocolate, but this parent will let he's smart because he knows what he's doing. He's creating good memories when you guys go to a restaurant and you have a good experience. Are you gonna go back? Yeah, inshallah inshallah, right? Get some more donor. Come on.

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We gotta yesterday, like we have to come back here. Whenever you go somewhere nice and have a good experience. You want to come back? Yeah, of course. So when you go to the masjid, you have a good experience. So you don't want to come back? Of course you will. And so this father is creating that good experience in his kids minds, right. He's creating that experience in his kids minds. And he's making sure to give them that, that good word, a good word of advice. And so we ask Allah subhanaw taala to make prayer easy for us. We ask Allah to make prayer easy for our young people. For those who are old or young men or women, newly Muslim or Asian Muslim, we asked a lot to make prayer

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beloved to us, and we asked them to make it a calming, cool breeze for us, as the prophet SAW sent him said, I'd be happy I'd be glad whenever he wanted to pray with me.

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They'll be like, aren't you going to

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give us some soothing with it right? Maybe had like give us some soothing with the prayer with the event. So we asked a lot to make it a soothing process for us and we asked them to open our minds and hearts to learn more about the sutra Shut up. The Nasir is going to talk to us about what it is that Salah does for us exactly. Does that come off as a political lobby becoming national and let's talk football until we get so I

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have the NASA Mahima toward him some very beneficial points and lessons you shall know that you benefit from and then from shall Our next speaker is share who saw the loss agenda is positive at the Institute of America focuses on education, especially the fear of an understanding of

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the Arabic in Islamic Studies in Pakistan and the Mufti Taqi Usmani who's a former move to Pakistan, he's also have half the Quran inshallah his lecture and reminder time Today we'll be focusing on sadar how it's cool as far as requests to start up the nozzle to come to the front please.

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smilla la salatu salam ala rasulillah

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salam alaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh

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hamdulillah it's very very nice to be visiting here and see all the beautiful faces

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please excuse a little bit the rasp Enos of my voice I've been losing my voice a little bit and that's why I'm not actually eating candy while I speak to you, it's a it's a sore throat loss engine so I'm just trying to help the voice recover a little bit inshallah. So handler was very excited to visit the community and see the beautiful community and meeting you know, Shaquille the mom Shaquille and seeing all the amazing programs you have here. It's it's been very rewarding to visit humbler

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man Bob Murphy is, you know, we call him

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you know, made some very amazing points about Salah. I wanted to talk today a little bit about the historical significance of prayer.

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What role did prayer play in the history of our Deen or religion, Islam? What is the historical significance of it, the historical importance of it. So in order to understand that we have to go back to the life of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wasallam.

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And we go to the 11th year of Naboo Prophethood, when the Prophet of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was about 51 years old.

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It had been a little over a decade, since he started preaching and teaching the message of the song. That decade had been very, very difficult.

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Of course, this was his purpose of life. This was the reason why he existed. And so he was committed to it. And it brought so much blessing to so many people. But it had been very challenging and very difficult.

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But the challenge and the difficulty that the prophets a lot of its own face, especially at a personal level, at a human level, I

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was about to reach its peak.

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He was about to go through the most difficult time of his life at a very human level.

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The Prophet of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam,

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at this point in time in his life, 10 years after preaching and teaching the message of Islam.

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He suffered the very tragic loss of his beloved wife, Khadija, the Allahu Allah, may Allah be pleased with him.

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And you know, one of the things I often talk to my community about is that a lot of times it's very unfortunate that when we talk about the Quran, when we talk about the life of Rasulullah, sallAllahu Sallam desiro, it's become eager. one of two things, either it's become a form of entertainment. Somebody could say a star for the law, how could it be entertainment? The example is that if there's an episode of a television show, or

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an issue of a magazine, and you've read it, you've watched it. You've seen this episode once, and you turn on the TV and that episode is coming on again. Same one, what we call a rerun. Do you sit and watch it again?

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Now what do you do?

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You change the channel, turn it off, right? But you change the channel at the very least.

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You don't sit down and watch it again. Okay, maybe it was really good. Can you watch it a second time? It comes on a third time do you watch it again? A third time? Absolutely not. There's nothing else on so maybe you kind of leave it on and do some other things. You know, playing with your phone, whatever it's on. It comes on for the fourth time. On the fourth day, the same exact episode is on for the fourth time. Will you watch it

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Not, if you would still watch it, you have problems that I can't help you with. You have other issues. All right. But my point is that's entertainment. If you've done it once you're not interested a second time. That's entertainment. A lot of times May Allah forgive us when we talk about the life but also less a lot a solemn. A lot of times it's like entertainment. Somebody's telling us the story of the journey to thought if we come back the next week to the chef's halakhah, she has the same today we're going to talk about the journey to immediately I put my hand up chef says Yes, brother, what can I do for you? We already talked about this. Like we're done with it. I

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seen this episode already. Show me a new episode. That's very problematic. The second unfortunate reality a lot of times is when we talk about the Sierra, or even the Koran. A lot of times we have what I like to call the Wikipedia approach available Wikipedia is you know how you read stuff on Wikipedia, you just look up information. So you just pull it up, and then you just read Okay, he was born in 1979, and then in 1986, and then in 1994, and then 19, you don't you just kind of read down through a list just facts on a page. A lot of times when we study the Sierra, the life of the prophets, a lot of them. Oh, and then in the 11th year Prophet would nimueh his wife Khadija died

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next next next. No, no. What did that mean to the prophets a lot.

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I want you to understand this from a human level.

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The Allahu Donna died when she passed away. The prophets, a lot of them had been married to her for more than 25 years.

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They had been married for longer than 25 years.

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There's I speak, I spot some younger faces here. Raise your hand if you're under the age of 25.

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Exactly. Plenty of people here. Now I want you to think about this. The prophets, a lot of them had been married to Khadija rhodiola and her longer than you've been alive.

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They were married, their marriage was longer than your lifespan.

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25 years is a lifetime. Do you know what it's like when you've been married to someone for 25 years?

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You're like this.

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Your lives are intertwined.

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You know what the other person is going to say before they say it. You know what they're thinking just by looking at their face. You know what they're going to do? Imagine 25 years of sitting with someone talking with someone waking up to next to someone eating with someone praying with someone 25 years.

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And then all of a sudden you wake up in the morning and you look over and that person is not there anymore.

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Now it's hard to imagine that feeling

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25 years, the love of his life. This might sound cheesy to some people, but Khadija radi Allahu taala and her was it was the love of the prophet SAW sounds like she was his his his partner in life, his love his wife

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to lose someone like that.

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Think about how difficult it was to bid for the profits on a personal level.

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You know, and what we know about the love that the profits a lot of them had for a dw Lavanya from even some of the narrations. I'm going to quickly go through them so I can make sure I can get to all the points I wanted to make.

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But about four years after a loved one had passed away for almost five years, the Battle of blood that happened after the Battle of the prophets, a lot of them saw a necklace that used to belong to her de la de la. Five years later, he's remarried. He lives in another city. He just looks at the necklace and he starts to cry.

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He said what happened on messenger of Allah. So this Khadija necklace, looking at it just takes me back to those beautiful times. Think about how much you must have missed her

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a decade after she passed away a decade.

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Some Sahaba asked the prophets a lot he some of the younger Sahaba and the unsought of Medina they asked the prophets Also, please tell us about our mother Khadija. We hear about her such amazing things, but we never knew her. Tell us about her. The narration says the prophets Allah said in the cabinet, what kind of

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she was and she just was which is the Arabic expression for saying where do I even begin? I don't have the words to describe how amazing she was.

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I don't even know where to start. I can't even explain it to you. You have to be there to know.

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This is a decade later this how much he remembers and how we miss the the sister of Khadija Her name was Hala.

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She had also made the migration to HR from Mecca to Medina.

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It said that she was very similar. You're not some sisters are very some brothers. They'll be very like siblings. They look similar. They talk like one another, their mannerisms are the same because they grew up together. So she was very close to her.

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She was very much like her. She used to talk like her. Her mannerisms were like her.

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So the prophets lightsome used to wait for Khalid to visit him, because he's to remind him of Khadija.

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And sometimes and she had a very distinct way of knocking the door the same way a DJ used to knock a door.

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Yes, it was a special knock. So when she would knock she would do a special knock the profits are some say Allahumma Allah.

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Oh Allah, thank you for sending Hannah. And they would sit and they would reminisce about Khadija This is 10 years after she passed away

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10 years after she passed away.

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That's why I shadowed the Allahu taala. And he says that you talk about Khadija like there's no other woman in the world.

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Because there was no other woman like Khadija.

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So imagine what a loss it was for the prophets, a lot of them to lose his his beloved wife Khadija, then secondly, she was the mother of his children.

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Can you imagine? See sometimes we don't humanize the profits. And we don't understand. There's so much inspiration there.

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Can you imagine coming home tomorrow, the loved one that was still a little girl?

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I have a five and a half year old. Miriam. I can't even think about that.

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But I try to I can love the profits awesome and understand what he was going through.

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I tried to imagine how difficult it would be to look my money I'm in the face and try to explain to her such a tragedy. I don't know how I would do it.

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Can you imagine the profits are sounds polite when he came home and looked at his little innocent baby girl, beautiful child in the face and try to explain to her that mama is not coming back home again.

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Can you imagine? We don't understand this in our communities. We need to understand this. The prophets loves him after the death after the passing cognito de la was a single parent.

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Yeah, he was a single father.

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Can you imagine how difficult that was?

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You can't unless you've been in those in that position. I often shared this. You know what May Allah protect us all and protect our families.

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But sometimes I help you understand, Allah says you someone that at least looking into their eyes, you can at least understand it a little bit better, you still won't know it, but you can get a feel for it. One time I was talking about this. And a brother came up to me afterwards saying, you know everyone says Salaam and you read everyone out but this brother, just you know sometimes a person comes up to you and the look on their face their eyes, they tell you that they have a story to tell. This brother comes up to me and says Brother, you know what you talked about today? We're talking about this. He said I really like it. It's something that relates to me, like I was able to really

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connect with it.

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So I asked him I said if you don't mind. Do you mind sharing with me? Could you share with me how how you are able to relate to this? He said sure. We sat down. He said you know when we pray to the Lord right now during the program, he said That's the first time I've prayed in over a year.

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Even though I grew up in a practicing Muslim home, very religious parents five times a day Salah, the whole family. I grew up like this. I live my whole life like this. But today was the first time I prayed in over a year. So what happened? He told me that a year over a little over a year ago. I was towards the end of my medical school in the US we have four years of undergrad and four years of medical school, then a residency. He said I was near the end of my medical residency.

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Like a 10 year journey. 11 year journey I was finally ending it.

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And we had I was up he told me he was about he's probably about 30 years old. He said I had a young wife. We had two little babies, two little kids. My wife my whole family had sacrificed with me. in medical school you don't get paid as a medical resident you get paid very little. Not enough to support a family of four. But he said we managed to get by. We lived in a small broken down little apartment in a very bad part of town. We drove one broken down car that barely worked on half the days. But we made it work. And we got through and now I was about to become a full fledged doctor. And I was receiving offers from hospitals and clinics lucrative big time offers your doctors big

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time offers.

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So now we were looking at nice homes, nice schools nice cars we were shopping.

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Very excited. It's you know when you have a plan

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You're planning reaches like that, that point where everything's come together. We were there.

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And he said one day I came home a little early from the hospital for my training.

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And I walk into the door and he said article, I didn't hear a response. I looked at the watch, it was nap time for the babies, and my wife to take a nap too at that time. So I said, Okay, let them sleep. I ate some food, sat down, did some reading. After a little while, I heard the babies wake up and start to kind of cry when they wake up and they get fussy. So I heard some noise. So I got excited. Oh, they're awake. You know, from time, you know, when the kids wake up. And

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I said, let me go check on them.

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I walk into the room, the kids are sitting up on the bed, One of the younger one is crying. The older one is tugging at my wife.

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But she's not responding.

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Being the doctor jumped right in checked, she had passed away.

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on the bed in her sleep sleeping next to my babies.

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She passed away. He said at that point, my life fell apart. He said the first day or two the janazah. And that that feeling that feeling everything. He said it went by in just two days.

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But when we came back from the graveyard reality settled in, he said I was so destroyed by what happened. I locked myself in my room. I didn't come out of my room for over a week.

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Just just I didn't know what to do with myself. He said during that week, I didn't even hold my own children in my hands. Nothing made sense to me. I didn't know what I was supposed to do. Finally, a week later, I came out started to try to put my pieces of my

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the pieces of my life back together again, until I finally got to the point where I started to figure things out.

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But he said one thing was still missing.

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I had lost my eemaan I didn't know what I believed. I didn't know why I should pray just nothing made sense to me about this. And he said my brother who had been with me throughout the entire journey, not just somebody who preach to me, do this. Don't do this, do this don't do. Nobody had taken care of my kids when I couldn't take care of my kids. during that week when I couldn't eat. I didn't even know what time of the day it was. He was the one feeding them washing them cleaning them.

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He was there for me. But he's also very Mashallah devout, very pious.

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He been there supporting me, kept telling me you need to pray. Everything will make sense. Just put your head on the ground before law. It'll talk to a law. It'll make sense.

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And then he said, finally today he dragged me. He said, You are coming to the mercy with me. I'm not taking no for an answer anymore. And so when I came here, the program was going on. And you talked about exactly this. And I found my answer. I was able to find that connection in the profits a lot. He said he knew my pain. He lost his wife. He looked in the innocent face of his children and tried to explain to them that their mother was dead.

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So I found my answer.

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So imagine just just by interacting with his brother, I tried to feel his back and see the payment his eyes feel the pain in his voice, I was able to try to understand

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the pain of Rasulullah sallallahu Sallam at the passing of Khadija.

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And then she who she was the very first person who accepted Islam accepted the message of the prophets. Luddism though is the love of his life, his wife, the mother of his children, his strongest and firmness supporter. And he lost all of that in that one moment.

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Imagine how difficult it was for him.

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But then again to lawmate the prophets a lot of sweat and hasn't

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was written.

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Which means that he made him the ultimate role model the example.

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So it didn't stop here.

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The narrations differ a little bit but from anywhere to three weeks to three months after the passing of Khadija Some say even the other order but three months, three weeks or three months apart from the passing of Khadija, the prophets a lovely son lost his beloved uncle