Channel: Abdul Nasir Jangda
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De La salatu salam ala rasulillah where Allah Allah He was Safi edge marine. salaam aleikum wa rahmatullah wa barakato.
All right. So we had a short little intermission there.
And we'll pick up from where we left off. So once we grasp the basic premise of what is good character, what is a clock? What is character, what is conduct? The next topic, obviously, and this is again, a Quranic injunction that allows pelotonia says for machinery, but that congratulate the slaves, and levena SME on their own those slaves of a lot those slaves, who very attentively very carefully, they listen, and they take note of what is being said, for you to be on Atlanta, and then they follow the best of that advice, or they follow it to the best of their ability, all right, to the best of their capacity. So in the law says, that colonial above that the people who actually
heat the remainder are intelligent people. So it's very,
was very fitting for us to do right now is to take this topic of good conduct and good character, and talk about its practical implementation into our daily everyday lives. How can we do that, and the best way to go about doing that is actually take into consideration a practical role model, somebody that who we can observe somebody that we can study somebody that we can note every little thing about that person's character in their life, and then work on extracting lessons and guidelines from their life, and then implement that as the best way to go role model. Right, having a role model, that's the best way to manage that that's the best way to accomplish something is to
have a role model, have a mentor have an advisor? Well, Allah subhanaw taala in the Quran tells us he provided the ultimate role model for us, the katakana leconfield rasulillah he was such a hustler in the Messenger of Allah, you will find the most excellent role model. And something that's very interesting about the even the grammar of the language of that ayah is Allah says in the Messenger of Allah, there is a most excellent role model. And the last panel, Rotella did not make it specific. It is not proper, it is common.
He kept a general who's worked and hasn't gotten a an exemplary role model, meaning that a role model in regards to anything and everything that you would want to accomplish, you'll find the most excellent, amazing role model in the Messenger of Allah sallallahu sallam, he's it. He's the man. He's the guy to observe. So now that that's established, let's start taking some of the advice of the prophets allows him to considerations, what can we do on a daily practical level, to start implementing good character good conduct into our lives, and on the larger scale, then establish a community of good conduct good character, good o'clock, a community of good luck. But that begins
with individuals, a community is just a collection of individuals at the end of the day, all right, or a network of families at the most. So it begins with the individuals regardless, so we're gonna have to start with ourselves. All right, I can't impact anyone else's behavior. I can only control mine and hope that my character my behavior will then serve as inspiration, or will provide guidance or direction to other people. They'll take from that they'll be encouraged by that. They'll be motivated by that. And that establishes a culture. All right. And that's exactly what happened at the time of the prophet SAW system. Because we forget about something. You're the prophets allottee.
Some wasn't sent to a people. All right, the Sahaba the Arabs, the the people of that time. The these weren't like angels on earth before Islam, and the Prophet was sent amongst them. And then of course, everything was awesome. And everything was handy dandy and everything was fine. Because he was, yes, they were some of the most amazing people who ever walked the face of this earth. They were amazing. All right, they were remarkable. But well, but their potential was limitless. And then somebody had to come and motivate them to live up to their potential. All right, so the Prophet of Allah Salaam, he said, when he came to the Arabs, this chart, remember what they were like. These
are people who lacked empathy. These people were these were people who lacks empathy. These were people where this was a society where the rich would feed on the poor, the powerful would devour the weak. Alright, orphans, and widows, were treated less than animals. All right. I mean, it was a terrible, terrible time in society is a very horrible time in human history. All right, and that's the time in the era and the situation in which the profits a lot of the time was sent. These were people who would literally kill each other over little little things, little gestures of dishonor, disrespect,
that if he this person felt that you didn't show proper respect to him, or you dishonored him in some small, minor trivial way. That was really in the guy's head, he kill you over it.
tribes had fought each other for so long they forgot why they were fighting. It forgot. Olson has Raj. Yeah, we got a fight. Oh, Scott beef with cousin's wife? I don't know.
I was told I'm supposed to hate because Raj. Really? Why? Well, my dad Aiden has? Really, why did he because he's great, because is that my grandfather, Aiden cousins. And that was it. That was a story like why no explanation before for hundreds of years for generations.
So that was the situation we should process some game. But once the process some game, he was able to establish he was able to change the culture, through nothing through through his own example.
primarily through his own example, his own character, and he was able to inspire people motivate people. All right.
So what are some of those basic guidelines and rules that we can start to implement our start within the Muslim community? One of the teachings of the prophets Allah the sender, both he instructed and he exemplified, was saying Salaam.
All right, in the narration of the Prophet sallallahu sallam, he commands us he says, salema, Allah menar after manlam tarrif say hello to everybody, you either know them or you don't, doesn't matter, say Salaam to everybody. All right. And the process of in fact tells us that one of the signs of the coming of the hour I mean, one of the signs of the last day of the Day of Judgment, meaning when times will start to become corrupt. When corruption will spread, one of the signs of corruption becoming rampant and spreading on the earth is that people will say Salaam to people they know and they won't say Salaam to people they don't know. So when I come here to the MSA conference, I know
these four guys I'm just gonna say Salaam to them. The fifth brother sitting right there. I never met him before. So I'll just be like salt lake I'm sorry. Come slowly come. How's it going? Guys? Everything's okay. And do just sitting there like you're really for real? Right? But that's one of the signs of the Day of Judgment, people will act that way. And what's the incentive? Again? What's the benefit? The profits? allottee some tells us that laughter the whole ginetta told me no, you will never enter into paradise until you truly believe will then took me know how to help you and you'll never truly believe until you really love each other. And I didn't know Kamala she needed to
move with him. Should I not tell you about something should not direct you into? Should I direct you towards something that if you implement this, you will begin to grow closer to each other as a community, the bonds of community will be strengthened brotherhood and sisterhood. Therefore you'll start to become better believers. Therefore, you will qualify to enter into paradise. What is that secret? What is that one thing I can tell you that you can do? A few Salama Bina can spread Salam amongst yourselves. The prophets, Allah Nizam says when two believers they shake hands, and they say Salaam to each other, before their hands separate all their minor sins have been forgiven. That's
like that. That's like this.
Boo. Yeah. All right.
All right. So that's it.
Now what was the character of the prophets of money sent him? He didn't just preach it, he lived it. All right. What was his character? Someone levada? Who was send them the Prophet peace and blessings be upon him the Sahaba say, not only did he say say Salaam Salaam the Quran says when somebody says Salaam to you then return their Salaam better than that, or at least equal to what they said. So somebody says, I said, I'm on a coma to lie you about our character who don't say,
right? Don't know return somebody salon back to them better or equal, say salon to them. And that doesn't just mean in words, people usually think that's a quantity of words. That's also the attitude with which you say it's always excellent aneko vows
right? No, return it back properly, give them a better salon back or at least reciprocate. All right. So the Quran even tells us that but now the Sahaba say that the process has taught us the protocol of saying Salaam protocol. Why to get so Ghost Protocol, right? Hang from a building. No. protocol means he taught us a procedure like the specifics of saying Salam meaning what he taught us etiquettes of saying Salaam meaning he taught us certain things like somebody who's younger should start the salon initiate the salon, say salon first. Somebody who's younger should say salon first to somebody who's older.
All right, so when I come across Dr. Sharif, I should say salon first He's my elder. All right. Somebody who walks into a room and there's people already in the room that person walking into a salon to everybody. protocol, little little things like this. All right. That HERE COMES TO GET fascinating for remember when we talked about in like Allah Allah.
The Prophet does have good character he is on top of good character. Check this out. So the Prophet says that's what's good character right? But then, the Prophet peace and blessings be upon him. His own personal practice was that this obviously he taught us a young
a younger person should start saying Salaam first to the older person. But whenever we would meet him whenever we would come across him, even though we would be the younger person there, we could never beat him to the punch. He'd always be the first one to say salami, see a bunch of kids slowly come kids, how's it going? That's it. There's nothing about it. We walk into the room, he was already sitting in the room. So now it's on us to start the setup. We look into the room before we even fully throw slowly go How's it going, guys? Just like that he'd always beat us to the punch. You see that? You see the clock, the character the conduct. And today unfortunately, salon has
become some type of weird social capital.
Right? You know, what I'm talking about, is become like a tool for social
elitism, right? Like it's a tool. It's a maneuver to establish your superiority, your social superiority over another person who says salon first. So I walk in and conveniently pretend like be very aloof, like, I don't notice anybody. So somebody comes to
you, I didn't notice you. Yeah, that's why you were striking a pose because you didn't notice him. Right? Like somebody will actually say like, Oh, nothing said to her. She didn't say Salaam to me last time. So I'm gonna say Salaam to her. Now she's not saying Salaam and you're not saying Salam before you know and nobody takes along teacher like 30 people awkwardly standing around in a room. Nobody would say Salaam to each other. right because it's a substance out of something that's gonna play out garbage. Nonsense things along first.
The prophets a lot. He says when two believers say Salaam to each other. It's a beautiful thing. Like I said, Your sins are forgiven. But then the Prophet says will hate or Houma
but the better of the two. They're both awesome. Both believers both saying Salaam to each other. Both of their sins are being forgiven. But the better amongst the two. Alessi Yabba Oba Salah is the one who says Salaam first he's the better amongst the two. Who says Salaam first. Right? So that's the first thing we got to get a habit of we got to get into a habit of thinking aloud to each other. All right, and greet each other and greet each other like like with some level of happiness, not like dread, like oh
right like there's worry or concern like what's gonna happen now. I'll be excited show love show affection show acceptance, show brotherhood and sisterhood and Salaam establishing Salaam is the first part of that. So the one the lessons we learned from the process of saying Salaam. Another lesson that we learned from the process, I mean, implementing good o'clock good character and overall filter fixing the culture of a community. Another very valuable lesson here is
something specific I'll go to giving gifts, right? Little gestures, right? giving gifts doesn't mean that you buy somebody like an iPad. All right, pretty sure they would appreciate it. But all right. So we're talking about little gestures, of kindness, of generosity, of love, of acceptance of brotherhood and sisterhood towards each other. The Prophet sallallahu Sallam said, the hard do to have boo. Alright, which it's it's really beautiful and eloquent the way he said it just two verbs. But what it literally means is that the Prophet said, give gifts to each other. And you'll start to grow to love one another.
The hearts come together will join the hearts of wins the hearts, it brings the hearts closer together, giving gifts, showing little gestures of kindness to each other. All right, and somehow analog, you know how we have this, we have this this again, another etiquette, another piece of wisdom. Another something good that we were taught as children just by our society in our culture, we didn't know it at a religious context, right? Was that it's the thought that counts. There's a whole idea of this thought that counts right? The profits a lot he taught us the example of it's the thought that counts. He said give gifts to each other you'll grow to love one another one another.
But don't create like an unrealistic standard don't make this difficult, but it's the thought that counts the profits a lot. He said I'm setting another narration, low D to bkr in B curar. In excuse me, no D to be chorion la cabeza curar. In the Arabic language in classical Arabic, it basically refers to the limb of a body meaning like an extremity. And what it basically refers to is like the leg bone of an animal. And it refers to just the bone. Now like you bring somebody like a roasted leg of a lamb. That's a pretty awesome gift. Right? Not that meaning like a bone just like a bare bone of an animal. Not even something you could do something with right like you could, I don't know
it'd be a tool or something. No, it's just like a leg bone of an animal.
So which is basically useless and frankly, kind of disgusting, right? Like walking by us and you see the skeleton of a cow.
Now that's a gift right there. Right? So the Prophet sallallahu Sallam said that if somebody came to me and randomly just brought me like, just a random leg bone of a dead animal as a gift that I would accept it. I will say to sokola head on thank you very much Oh god.
cc though he said I'd accepted, I'd accepted is a thought that counts. So you see our clock of such high caliber, such high character by the prophet sallallahu, alayhi wasallam. Right, and how to deal with people another piece of advice, or that we get from the life of the prophets a lot about good character, good conduct. And this is actually described about the prophets a lot he summoned the Quran
is empathy. The quality of empathy is one of the most powerful attributes and qualities of the prophets a lot. So his empathy. All right. And empathy basically means to simplify. Empathy means that not to just be sympathetic towards someone show sympathy for someone like oh, that's okay. You seen that meme? I know that feel bro. Right? So now that not just that, right? But empathy actually means where you can literally feel somebody's pain. You can put yourself into their shoes, literally you feel their pain, you share their pain, that's empathy,
and the process and possesses quality of empathy. I am number 128. I believe the second last verse the second last if sutra number nine, surah. Toba is a beautiful, powerful I have the Quran that that describes the Prophet peace and blessings be upon him, to us to the believers as a blessing upon us. Lakota Jaya, Kumara su lumen and fujichrome that was definitely there came to you a messenger from amongst yourselves may use from amongst us one of you. He's a community member. You know why that's so relevant. And that's such a powerful point. That if somebody comes from outside like I'm here as a guest, I will I'm not even here in Columbus for a full 24 hours. I can put on a
face I can put on an act, I can be very nice. I can smile, I can pretend like I like all you people. When in reality, I would hate you people. That's not the case. But I'm saying as an example. All right, just just clarifying. No, but honestly, you get my point. If somebody is an outsider, you can put on an act, right? You can put on an act, you can pretend for one day, two days, three days, three weeks, you can pretend but a lie saying no. He's from amongst you. He was born in your neighborhood down the street from you he grew up in your neighborhood you played together as kids he would you went to the same school like he's from amongst you. This is not an act at this point. You
know him? Like how well do you know somebody that you grew up down the street from and you went to the same school and you went to the same machine, and the same Sunday school in the same university and the same members? How well do you know that person you know that person completely? Right? So you know, him, he's from amongst you. But now that fact is established? So Ally's saying this because he's saying that what I'm about to tell you about him. All of you can attest to this. I was telling the Arabs at that time. NACA jochum rasuluh men and Fujiko Aziz una la Hema and Ito. Aziz in classical Arabic basically means something that's very heavy, or hard or harsh.
Right? So it's very hard on him. It's very heavy on him. It weighs on him. What weighs on him manito the difficulty that you go through
the adversity that you experience, the trouble that you have.
So the trouble that you guys are going through is hard on him. He feels your pain. He feels your pain, as he's earned it humanity. Harrison Aleykum and his Heroes is like to really like one something desire something to work hard to gain something else. All right, so hurry sunako he's very, very and what it basically means to be emotionally invested into something. So when I'm hurries after something I'm like, emotionally invested into the acquisition of that thing. All right, so let's say Harrison Aleykum. He's fully emotionally vested into what money, job, career, fame, popularity. Aleykum he's fully invested 100% emotionally into your well being
He's worried about you guys. He's always concerned about how to help you how you can be more successful, how you can come out. And then Allah says Bill momineen are all for him. And then specifically with the believers, he's very gentle, very compassionate, and very merciful.
All right. Now I want to point out two things to you.
If Allah says at first he describes the Prophet as being, it's very hard on him what you're going through. And you know, he's fully invested into your well being, and then specifically with the believers, he's very compassionate and very merciful. Allah made a little specific mention of the believers at the end. So that automatically means that what was said before was
for everyone. It was universal.
That's all people, all human beings, all the creation of God. He's troubled by their pain, he's bothered by their suffering. He's invested into their well being, regardless of who they are, where they come from. And in fact, this even extended to animals, to even other creation of Allah, that we consider to be like inanimate objects.
There wasn't the prophets as I was walking by in a camera was moaning and crying. And some of the scholars actually in the explanation of that Hadith, they actually say that when they camel, all the creation of Allah recognize the fact that this is the Messenger of Allah. That's one of his miracles. All right. And so some scholars actually say that the camel actually started to cry and moan loud because it saw the profits a lot he set up, so it was appealing to him for help. So I started to cry and moan. The profits along they sent him went near to the camel places hand on his head and like literally how you pet an animal to calm and relax. He petted the head of the camel
until it became relaxed. And then the prophet SAW someone asked, Who owns this camel? Who owns this camel? So a man said O Messenger of Allah camel belongs to me, Muslim guy. You know what the first question was? The Prophet says, I'm asked him, he asked him a lotta tequila
isn't Don't you fear God?
Don't you feel
your abuses animal? working long hours, you don't let them rest. You don't feed them properly. You're abusing animals. God will ask you about this. compassion and mercy. Worrying troubled. You know, there's a beautiful story about the prophet SAW sent him that when he first came to Medina, and the mustard was established, there was a stump like the stump of a tree trunk, like a stump like a tree trunk. All right, the the profit the stump of a tree, the Prophet says I would lean against that, and he would lecture and he would give his sermons and things like that.
So there was actually a wealthy woman in Medina, and I'm sorry woman who actually said that I have a worker who's a very good carpenter, I can have him build you a member of podium, like the steps. I can have him build one for you the process, I'm sure if you'd like. So she built she had a member and a podium bill for the profits a lot. All right, that was a sister that had that done. All right. So when the profit somebody said was sitting there, and they brought it in, and they placed it there, and they said, O Messenger of Allah, it's ready for you. So the process and got up away from that tree stump. And he went over and sat on the podium, the narration the Hadith describes. And
these are issues of faith and belief that the narration describes at the tree stump began to moan and wail like cry.
And the Prophet says, I'm actually got up off the podium, went back to the tree, some places hand on it until it became quiet. And he comforted it, a random creation of Allah. That was the mercy of the messenger Salafi center. So that's empathy. You know, the process of could be going through anything, and he would still put other people's pain and suffering before his own. I won't go into the long version, because it's a long story, but the Battle of all right, I want you to make a note, I want you to read about the Battle of what happened that day. To summarize, to give you a brief list, the prophesy son was injured. The Prophet Muhammad peace and blessing God was injured on the
day, he lost two teeth. He was cracked over the head with a stick, so he's bleeding from his head. All right, he injury to his head. And then he was writing like an iron helmet, that when they hit him over the head, not only did it injured his head, but at the same time, the edges of the helmet which ended right here pierced into his cheeks.
And they had to literally rip the helmet out of his face. And it bled so profusely, that they couldn't stop the bleeding out either the other women got water and, and the whole face of the process was covered in blood by that point from the sides and from where his head was bleeding. abou I've done I've been Masuda with a loved one who actually says I can still remember that day like yesterday, when I saw the process of wiping blood away from his face. face was drenched in blood. He went phase yehudah manual, he was blown away from his face. And he said a lot of muffling on Wi Fi. Now,
Allah forgive my people, they don't understand what they do.
God don't punish these people. Because of this. They don't realize what they do. They don't understand.
They don't get it. So don't punish them for this. All right. And then eventually he talks about how Fatuma the daughter of the prophet SAW some literally took a part of the straw mat that the process of them was sitting on, and she burned it into ash.
Haha, she's and then she stuffed that into his wounds and then finally his bleeding stopped. He went through that. On top of that, the prophet SAW Selim lost his uncle on that day, Hamza, who he grew up with, this was kind of like that uncle nephew relationship where they were more like older and younger brother. More than they were like uncle and nephew. They actually were nurse. They were breastfed by the same foster mother. All right, through a bad nurse both of them so they shared a foster mother. And they were very close an agent, they literally grew up together. So he was like an older brother to the profits house and process them loved him so much. And he lost him on that day
he was killed. Not only that, but his body was mutilated. And the foster son was so pained by the loss of his uncle, that the narration actually describes and there's a difference of opinion about the narration. But the muscle of the human moment mentions this. In his heart, I mentioned this in the Sierra, that the Prophet was performing the janazah prayers for the for the for the fallen for the martyrs, and there was about 70 of them. And the first one was the uncle of the Hamza, after he was done with the janazah, the funeral prayers when they came to move his body, so please don't move them yet. Please don't take them away from my eyes yet. Don't move with me yet. And so he's like,
bring the second one. They brought the second one. And he prayed again, and then they when they were after a second one, they were moving them he said, leave my uncle.
And they brought a third one and then they got the procedure. And it's so the narration says that the Prophet prayed janazah 70 times over his uncle, because he couldn't let go.
Think about how much he went through that day.
And here's the real kicker. After he went through all of this, just a short list of everything you went through. On that day.
He leaves a hood, which is right outside of Medina. If you ever go for Hajj or Umrah you visit or heard it's not too far, but they were entering back into Medina. And the news had spread that a lot of Muslims have fallen. A lot of fathers a lot of husbands have fallen.
So many of the women, the wives and the mothers and things like that had sent children like little the sons or the little brothers. They had send them out, go and look for your dad go and look for your older brother. Because they hadn't confirmed who had fallen who's gonna come make it back.
And the Prophet systems coming in. And there's just one little boy, his father's name was Rashid. He's known as the son of Bashir, for the Allahumma. This boys literally running around, and he's asking do you have you seen my dad my dad's Bashir? Have you seen my dad? My dad's Bashir? He's running around asking everyone. And after he asks a bunch of people and nobody has an answer for him, nobody's seen him. He starts to hyperventilate.
As you can imagine that situation, because now that reality setting in
maybe my dad was killed, and he starts to cry, just stand there and just cry, like painfully gut wrenching cry.
Because he starts to realize my dad is dead.
And the Prophet systems walking back in, he's riding back into Medina. And he sees his boy sitting there crying, and he pulls up to him and he's sitting on an animal, he reaches down, he lifts the little boy up, places him on the animal with him and he hugs him.
And the narration says while he's hugging me telling him, it's okay. It's okay. It's alright, quiet, stops is crying until the child becomes a little more quiet.
And then the profits are sent to console him, says, aren't you he says what's wrong? He's like, my dad hasn't come back.
And the Prophet actually asked somebody who was Bashir
and they say no messenger of Allah, He fell.
The Prophet of Allah Salah, awesome, looks back at this child looks him in the face and says, I'm not total, though, aren't you? Okay? That from here on today, an akuna
abarca. Well, Mark, that from here on out today. I mean, Muhammad Sallallahu sallam, I will be your father and I will be your mother.
Don't worry about it, son will take care of you. You got family where your family that's empathy,
in a moment of personal tragedy,
to forget about everything.
And to Love A Child like that, to care about a child like that.
And he actually taught this to his community. After he sets the example he teaches this, he turns to the rest of all the Sahaba that are coming in from our hood, and says, you see all these children sitting here. All these children walking around looking for their fathers, the orphans. He says I want everyone to pick up one of these children and hug him and put them on your ride with him and comfort him as we walk back into Medina show love to these children.
That's empathy. That's the quality of the province of Santa, how can we implement this? How can we live this very, very simple terms. I'll put it
You always try to understand where people are coming from. That was a quality of the process of he understood where people were coming from. He didn't judge them and hold them by a standard by somebody else's standard by his own standard or based on his own upbringing, or based on his upbringing. He understood where they were coming from. And he gave him that opportunity and he gave them a concession accordingly. All right, more examples, practical examples. We all know the famous story about a better one, which basically means a country bumpkin. Right. You know, I'm talking about just like somebody from the country, right? Like a country bumpkin, he walks into the masjid
walks over. And again, I'm not in the mustard, so I'm going to describe it a little bit more openly. He walks into the masjid due to the process of sitting there talking with everybody just walks over to the corner, zip, and he starts to pee in the masjid. Can you imagine that? So you just let it rip in the machine. That's it. So good. Imagine that. Can you imagine that scene? I want you. That's why I'm describing it vividly. I want you to imagine what that's like. All right, your prayer room here
at OSU, you're sitting there and you're praying, we just got done with a lot. Dude walks into source ping in the corner.
That beat is going to die.
I'll be straight with you. All right, I'm gonna go UFC on him. Right? So that is gonna die. That's how we react, let's be honest. And we're not even at the spiritual caliber and level that the Sahaba were right that the companions of the Prophet work. But we murdered that dude. Right?
The Prophet says, I'm sitting there. It's the machine of the Prophet, one of the most sacred places on earth. We traveled 1000s of miles and spent 1000s of dollars to be able to go pray in that mosque. So one of the most sacred places on earth, it's called the harem. It's sacred ground. All right.
The prophets sitting there in a doozers ping in that Masjid.
The Sahaba were like, Oh, no, you didn't write today.
And the process until everybody everybody relax, calm down. Take a deep breath. It'll be okay. And he actually says the words in the narration. Let him finish. What?
I'll finish him. Right. Let him finish. Okay, Sammy, I know Tom is a messenger of God, you don't argue with the man. Let him finish. All right. When the man finishes, zip, he starts to walk out like doo doo doo. The province has sent him says like, excuse me. You think I could talk to you for a few minutes? Somebody asked you that nicely, that politely Of course you go and talk to him, especially after you've been in his area, whatever it was, and he didn't even bother you. Why not? And then the relation actually is when the examination actually tells us that those same Sahaba were freaking out. The Prophet then actually tells him you guys don't clean up his mess.
Go clean up.
And then when he sets the man down, why is he treating him like this? Because he understands where he's coming from. He's a villager even though these things. The Prophet explains to him. This is a Masjid. It's a place of worship. It's sacred. It's clean. We don't do stuff like that here. You know, we pray here and stuff. Man. It's like, okay, I didn't know I didn't realize. All right. Don't worry, I won't do it again. The man says I never met somebody more amazing ever for the rest of my life. I've never met anybody more amazing than, than Muhammad ceylonese.
understanding where people come from another famous nation we know about, which shows that that the attitude the character of the professor setup, is when a young man, a young man comes up to the prophet SAW said Oh, while he's sitting with his companions, and says to the prophets, a lot of Sunday, you know, that girl hurts so and so hurt. Yeah. Yeah, I'd like to go and commit a sin with her.
Again, I'm using more appropriate language because I don't like talking vulgarly. Alright, it's brothers and sisters are here. There's no need to be inappropriate. But I will say this much.
I'm saying it in general terms. I'd like to go and even fornicate with her go and commit a sin with her. I'm using those types of terms because I would like to be appropriate and respectful. I want you to try to imagine how a young man would say that in his own slang, and how filthy and obscene that would sound. Don't say it.
I don't know. I have to say that one time, I was like describing and dude yelled out a term. I was like, face. I was facepalm. Right? So but so don't say it. But just play it in your head. What do they call that type of stuff in music, in rap songs that act? How inappropriate are the terms? How disgusting are the terms? How disrespectful are the terms?
And I imagine using a word like that. Would you even see that to like somebody older than you? Would you say that to your father? Would you say that to the Imam of the masjid.
You all can be like, Yeah, I'd like to go and bleep bleep bleep bleep bad words to her. Could you ever speak like that? to anybody? Of course not. Would you? If you were sitting with the Imam of your machine, and the young guy walked up and said something like that? What would you do? I'll tell you what I do. I get the uncle slap your uncle slap his potash, right? I get the uncle slap my hand on his face, occupy his face.
I had to pick on your theme just a little bit. Right? But I'm telling you that's the reaction, right? That's a gut reaction. Forget about your mama's a mush it forget about anybody's dad. This is the messenger of God. Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam.
This is a man that Allah has praised.
This is a man that is the closest thing the best of luck creation.
This is a man that communicates directly with God. This is a man who is a conduit and a vessel for the Word of God.
To walk up to him and say something like that to him. The Sahaba were outraged.
Gentlemen, what's wrong with you? How dare you speak to the prophet of God like that? Again, what was the reaction of the prophet SAW Salah?
Everybody relax. There'll be no body slammed here today. Everybody relax.
And you spoke to young men who've been a little bit closer to listen.
Young men, young men. Listen.
What you just said.
And the process of didn't repeat that word. teaches us some etiquette.
All right, sometimes in an effort to connect.
We might cross certain lines and boundaries. That's why I didn't say an inappropriate word. It's not so properly and repeat the word. We just said what you just said. What you just suggested? What if somebody was to go and do that?
With your sister?
With your daughter? When do you go have a daughter with your daughter?
That'd be okay with. You're cool with that.
He's like No way. Absolutely not. I've never heard that dude. How dare you speak like
what the process have said then young.
You just said that about somebody else's sister
about somebody else's daughter. Think about that.
And the young man literally sat there and said,
I didn't realize it never occurred. understanding where people come from.
Maybe you were brought up in a family where these values were taught to you. But maybe he wasn't.
Maybe you come from a community where you have that much sense. Maybe he doesn't.
Every day, there are people that walk in off the streets.
Every day, there are people that come from all types of backgrounds.
Who didn't receive some basic therapy and a lot of things.
We're talking about major stuff like this, like inappropriate talking stuff. I've seen poor poor poor souls. Miss Hakeem bhrs I feel so bad for them.
When they accidentally like, you know, when they go into the restroom of the masjid, instead of taking off their shoes outside and wearing the mustard slippers into the restaurant, they just first time at the message is walking with their shoes, and they get chewed out like never, they've never gotten chewed out like that in their life before.
They get ripped to shreds. They get called all types of horrible things they get yelled at.
Think about what that person's experience was like.
And at the end of it what this of course was, I didn't know.
I didn't know.
And that's the experience a prophet of Allah saw some think about what type of benefit of the doubt you would offer to people
willing to consider where they're coming from understanding where they're coming from. So this young man's is something wildly inappropriate about a sister in the community. And the Prophet says relax, not tolerating that. publisher understand where this young man is coming from maybe doesn't know you ain't supposed to talk like that.
And so he explains it to him and when the young man says smash a bottle, I never thought of it that way. never occurred.
Then the Prophet of Allah sallallahu Sallam said, all right now you know, and then to let him know that there were no hard feelings between them.
The Prophet of Allah sallallahu Sallam the narration describes you reached out and he put his hand on his chest, and he made to offer him Allahu
Allah, Allah purify his heart. God please purify his heart touched him.
physical contact, can you imagine getting like that type of a loving, caring touch from the prophet of God. It's a lovely setup.
In making blah for you.
And when somebody just kind of grabs you hold you by your arm or your shoulder and says it's all good, don't worry about it. Don't worry about don't sweat it, you feel like a million bucks.
The prophet of God did that for this young man. And the narration actually goes on to say that there was nobody in that community that was more of an advocate of decency, and modesty than that young man.
Be willing to consider where people are coming from.
Don't assume things about people, gives them the benefit of the doubt. That was a prophetic quality. And that's important for our club. And that's necessary for building a community. All right.
Another quality of the profits a lot. So there's there's so many that we could talk about, I mean, the list goes on and on. What's my time?
What time do I finish?
So I have another?
That's not happening. All right.
15 minutes. That's what I'm talking about.
May Allah forgive the conference organizers? Everything you say? I mean, that's my new thing. All right. So. So some other things that the province has some practice that that can be good guidelines for us, in terms of implementing good character, good o'clock, and establishing community culture of good o'clock, good character, so many things. So how to I don't even know what to pinpoint and what to specifically pick out. But, you know, we talked about, you know, respect for elders.
respect for elders, I want to talk about this one. All right. I'll tell you why.
We're dealing with a very interesting community dynamic today.
A very interesting community dynamic. Today hear us specifically, where we are not just yet there's always a generational gap, there's always a little bit of disillusionment between younger and older generation, they don't understand as they don't get as the older ones. Like all they're all crazy and out of control. They don't listen, nobody. That always happens with every generation. With us, there's the added cultural gap as well. Whereas the older generation, a lot of them, I mean, of course, aside from the Convert to reverse, or people like but a bulk of our community are immigrants, or children of immigrants, my parents came here to the United States 40 years ago. So
that that's the dynamics that you add into it a cultural gap as well. And you got a recipe for disaster. And that's where we sit here right now today. All right, no, I cracked a couple of jokes here and there about the guy getting yelled at the machine or the uncle slap and stuff like that. But there's a little bit of truth to these jokes, right. And we're obviously struggling with trying to figure you know, figure this relationship out and, you know, reconcile these differences, we're struggling in regards to that. But that doesn't change the fact that we still owe respect to our elders. And people that are older than us in the age. There's a beautiful narration Fatimah guys,
the conquest of Makkah. All right. This is the most glorious victorious moment of the life of the prophets love the setup. for 20 years. His enemies have 20 years, the people who oppressed him who tortured him and his family and his followers kicked him out of his own home. And then when he moved somewhere else, and he attacked his new home. for 20 years, these people made his life difficult.
He's got the upper hand on them today. He's the boss. He's the man. He's sitting on top of everything. Now. He's got the last laugh.
And I want you to note about the conduct in the character of the prophet SAW Selim. I'll start off with one thing, forgiveness. And I've talked about respecting others, I'll come to that forgiveness. Forgiveness is another big part of a HELOC and character, being willing to forgive people. Be willing to forgive people to show mercy to people. And the Prophet peace be upon him taught us a very valuable lesson. Malaya.
Like somebody who's not willing to extend mercy show mercy to somebody else, will not be shown any mercy does not deserve to be shown any mercy is not worthy of any mercy. Because he can't show mercy to anybody else. Alright, so being merciful towards each other. And being part of mercy is being forgiving towards each other. And the same principle applies. Somebody who can forgive somebody else, doesn't deserve any forgiveness doesn't deserve to be forgiven. That person doesn't deserve it.
And the prophet of God, Salah lohani, sudden peace and blessings be upon him. He's standing here
at the at the top, with all of these people sitting in front of him, who tortured him who mess with him who you know, the daughter of the prophets on
His eldest daughters ain't up, you know, you know, the oldest child. The oldest child, oftentimes, there's almost like a there's like a friendship type relationship with the oldest child. All right now the second and third and middle children are like, dang, bro. Right? Like, for real? No, but you understand, it's just something you experience. There's there's almost like this, this this different type of connection with the first child in the sense of, and sometimes you're not as merciful or compassionate towards the older child as you are towards the younger ones. But that's also because you're, they almost kind of manifests into being almost like a buddy. To you. My
children are still very young. My older child, Miriam is four and a half years old. So she's still a baby, by all means, right? But even then, with money, um, I just kind of feel that way. Right? Like, I'll just talk to her I'll wrestle with her. I'll mess around with her. Right? I just talked to her. She's like my buddy, right? So this morning when I was leaving on my flight,
you know, she she woke up. And she was just like, No, I want to come with you to the airport. My brother was coming into the airport to drop me off instead of my wife. And so she's like, I want to come home with you. I'll go drop you off at the airport. I was like, come on, dawg. Let's go as row, right? Stick my buddy, right, my money or my buddy. So there's this relationship zeyneb, the eldest daughter of the process almost like that with
when the prophet of God peace of blessings be upon him back in the days of Makkah, when he would go around the season of Hajj would come. Many people from all over Arabia would would come there. And they would set up camps in Manila, like we do today in hajj as well. All right, but of course, they weren't doing the Islamic Hajj, but they were doing the Arab tradition, Hajj, right, inherited from Abraham, and then they had corrupted the practice over time. But nevertheless, there were certain elements of the practice that were existent. And one of the where people come from all over the place and they would set up tents and camps and meet up like we do today in the Islamic proper Hajj.
The Prophet sees that as an opportunity in the later days in Mecca to go around and speak to these outside tribes and outside people and share the message of Assad with him and see if he could find an ally. A supporter outside may not win he may I'm totally
right, he would present themselves before people and he would say, who are helped me who will give us Islam a safe refuge and a place to flourish from. Right so he was going around talking to people pitching this to people. And then the narration describes the Prophet actually calls this the most difficult experience of his life, that he was literally be rejected by 10th, after 10th after 10th after
some would call him a liar, some would curse him out, some would kick him out, some would spit on him, someone throw dirt on him, some would slap him around. It's terrible experience, being humiliated like that all day long,
all day long.
And then the narration describes actually a young he was a young boy at that time, a and he would become Muslim much later on. He said I was there at that hedge that season with my grandfather, and we were standing up on a hill and we were looking over Mena, and we saw this slightly taller, really handsome men.
The prophets a lot.
And he was going from 10 to 10 talking to people
and people were treating them bad.
And he just kept going he had no quit in him. So hard.
No quit in him. And went from 10 to 10 to 10 talking to people and when he finally got done and he reached the end, and like the the edge of that little field, the value of money the field of Mena when you reach the end, there was a beautiful girl. Giardia, like would be like a 1012 year old girl.
So beautiful little girl.
Jheri curl will be a she was like she was like glowing, she was beautiful.
And she was standing there, with a bowl of water in her hands, and tears streaming down her face. She was crying.
And under the wind, he's narrating this somebody asks him, who was a little girl holding the water crying. And he says that was the daughter of the profits.
She held the water there narration goes on to describe that the processing came and washed his hands and washed his face because he had dirt and everything all over his entity. And she was standing there the whole time waiting with a bowl of water so that he could clean himself and he washed his hands in his face. And then she's crying and then their promises and wipes the tears from her face says Don't cry little girl
says Don't cry, sweetie, don't cry.
He's like a lover will not alone will not allow your father to be humiliated or be disgraced. Like he won't. He won't leave you won't abandon your father.
But this religion that your father has been sent with one day will reach every single corner of the world
which we see that today.
We're sitting in Columbus, Ohio.
Hey, right? Words of Kanye, right? We're sitting in Columbus, Ohio talking about Islam for hours. So hon Allah.
Right? So the prophets a lot he sent him. So I get carried away when I told these stories. They know, that's his daughter. She was the one in the process. I always felt a strong connection to her because she was old enough to witness the days of prophethood. And to witness the days of oppression and rejection, so connected to her. When he went to Medina when he migrated to Medina.
By that time now she was older, she was a teenager. She had been married now.
she was with her husband.
And the process of it was painful for him to leave her behind. But she was married, she had a husband, she had a family.
And when he went to Medina, he kept writing letters kept trying to negotiate her husband had not yet become Muslim.
And so he kept trying to negotiate, kept trying to write letters kept trying to work out something so she could come. Eventually, the Battle of button happened. He came to fight against the Muslims. He got captured as a prisoner of war. The Prophet eventually released him on the condition of saying, you send my daughter to me.
I need my baby girl with me here. I miss her. She's a believer. She belongs here with us. You send her to me. The narration says that she's leaving Mecca. And she's pregnant.
Sick grandchild of the profits a lot.
some hooligan, some rough some roughnecks and mcca
they were like, Hey, yo, bro, you hurt. Mohammed's daughter's trying to leave.
We can't let her leave like that broad daylight. What did these people think they are, is artel
can just do whatever they want.
He's been exiled from here. He's a wanted man. We can let them leave like this.
So they go out there
to try to stop her. One of them
goes past the limit. He takes his spear and he launches another
and he hits her in the stomach.
She loses her child. She suffers a big nasty wound an injury that never fully healed. And she eventually died from complications of that same wound that same injury two years later.
These people had taken his daughter away.
Think think about what you would do with somebody like that when you had the upper hand. What would you do to somebody like that?
I'd settle the score.
Some lesser man.
But the Messenger of God piece of blessing man taught us the way it should be. He's standing at the front of these people. These people are all collected in front of them. And they're literally like having their hands class together. touching the ground bending down, kneeling, kneeling down saying please be merciful. Because they know what they've done.
They see Bilaal, these are dragged through the streets, they see the face of the Prophet, and they can still remember the pain that he felt when his uncle was killed when his daughter was injured.
And they know what's coming their way. See, please be merciful. Please be merciful. What are you going to do with us? What are you going to do whatever you decided. The prophet of God's love is some stands in front of them and says,
all I got to say to you, is exactly what Joseph said to his brothers. Yusuf Ali. Salaam. latter three bollock.
I got no beef with you today.
I got no beef. No score to settle. I got no axe to grind with you people today. Y'all feel lucky? You're my forgiveness. go seek forgiveness from God. Well, I mean, he's the most Merciful of all those capable of showing any mercy.
I leave your affair with can you work it out with him? Me? I'm fine. Don't worry about it.
Don't worry about it. Think about what that means. That type of mercy, that type of forgiveness. We get to start somewhere.
So practice, mercy and forgiveness. And the Prophet system gave us a golden rule, didn't he? Like me? No, I had to come Hata you have bellissima. You're humble.
do unto others as you would have them do unto you. Right?
That's the old proverb right.
None of you truly believe until you love for your brother what you love for yourself.
Treat others like you want to be treated. Simple and easy as that come out to Dino to that what goes around comes around.
But not just meaning from other people that will but even with God.
If I can't be merciful if I can't be forgiving to other people. What makes me feel so entitled. When I raised my hands in prayer and I say all
Please forgive me. Oh law Please help me. Yet I can't help another human being Yeah, I can't forgive my own brother.
What makes me feel so entitled when I sit there and I asked for forgiveness and mercy, so inculcate incorporate the qualities of forgiveness and mercy.
All right. Probably because time is also up. The last quality I'll end with. And I feel it's a good note to end on.
small little tips and advice from the prophets a lesson but very useful, very practical, very effective. Another quality that the prophet SAW some had was He always
was grateful to people
who would always appreciate people, that's a good word. He was always appreciative. You always appreciate what people did. Well, people offered always.
It was extremely appreciative towards people who thank them. That's why when you know, the prophecy, some one of the restrictions put on him by God was that he could not consume charity.
He could not take charity, can I use charity for himself or his family?
And that amazing Oh, by the way,
you see, you see what that means? That's like, basically, as the leader, and as a collector of public funds, he was not allowed to use any public funds for him or his own family.
In that amazing, no question of corruption.
So much so that think about this. This wasn't just something like, yeah, we try not to pull anything from the public phone, but you know, occasionally got a write off an expense.
Oh, that's just a little reimbursement for that. He's walking with his grandson, and his grandson. It's it's Hudson or Hussein. I forget which one it was. But he's literally probably four or five years old at this time. A full four year old is a child, a child. I have a four year old Trust me. All right. This is innocent little, just people. They're just innocent creation of a law. They don't even realize what's going on after time. is happy and they just bounce around.
Right? Just like that. Okay. He's walking with his grandson. And the narration actually describes he's holding his hand walking with Him. And it describes that the grandson hasn't or Hussein whichever one it was, wasn't even walking us like jumping. He was like skipping with him. He was like bouncing around. Right. And the process was walking with him walking with his grandson. Nice day outside.
And there was a collection going on for charity. The dates of charity dates were being collected for charity. All right, Zakat sadaqa.
And as you're walking by what does a little kid do? A lot of times when they see dates are kind of like seeing m&ms on a little kid do Ooh, right? I went to a restaurant earlier this weekend. You know, sometimes they got like mints and things like that. You're supposed to get on your way out. My daughter grabbed them on the way in. Right? We go and we sit down and they're giving us the menu. She's like a blue open this sounds like that's after the food. Right? So but that's it. That's what kids do. It's like, Oh, yeah, candy, right? So it's just instinct as human nature. So this little kid is bouncing around walking around, they walk by a big old pile of juicy dates.
All right. And so he sees and he's like Nom, nom nom, right. So he goes in, he picks up a date.
And he puts one in his mouth.
The narration says that the prophets lie some sigh, stopped, took the dates out of his hand, put his finger in his mouth, pulled the date out, put it back.
Sunday, we can eat this.
Like that's how serious of an issue was.
So that I even forgot where I started from. Why even was talking about this?
appreciation, I forgot to start talking about appreciation where we started talking about something Ah, all right, it clicks it takes a little while. It's lagging my software so.
So when sadaqa would be brought so if you brought a basket of fruit to the Prophet peace be upon him and said, O Messenger of a lot. This is Southern card, this is charity, please give it away. He would take it and he would pass it out to people. But when somebody would bring a gift, he would accept the gift. It's from the center of the process and to accept the gift. All right. So when somebody would bring him a gift, he will not only accept it, but he was saying that person you'd make the offer that person and then before that person left like if it was an edible like a food item, which oftentimes what happened at that time, currency wasn't a big thing. It was a lot of
times food and material goods. is like it was that type of a thing. Their profit would actually pick up at least some of it or pick one of it and he would consume it like you would eat in front of that person. Show that person you take it Oh man, I'm de la Mashallah. Awesome. tastes great. sokola hair. Thank you so much.
into context doesn't sound like a big deal. Why wouldn't you do that? It's nice. That sounds like a big deal. Think about how important and busy this man is. So here's like a little basket of dates for you. Yeah, leave it in the corner. Right? Like, Hey, I'm busy. What do you want me to do? I'm taking care of y'all. I'm busy. Leave it. But to stop everything and say, Oh, thank you so much.
Nom. Yeah, this is awesome. Thank you very much. I make sure I take it home, give some to the family, hey, you want some of this good stuff to come on everybody party time. Like to do all that appreciate people. The processing was very appreciative towards people.
And he taught us a valuable principle to live by again. And I'll end with this. The end there's many variations of this Hadith, this narration, but the Prophet system basically said in one variation, he said, la Yesh, Guru la ha, men, like his crew, NASA.
He will never be grateful to God, who the one who is not grateful to people
in gratitude, a lack of appreciation or lack of showing appreciation. Because the word sugar in Arabic doesn't mean to just be appreciative. It means to express appreciation and gratitude that's built into the meaning classic Arabic, not kind of like you do something nice for me. And I'm just kind of like,
it's like, dude, you could at least be thankful. Show some appreciation. I'm grateful. I'm thankful. Appreciate your writing here, buddy. I got you covered right in there. That's not enough. We expect the expression at least a Thank you. Hello, hate on at least a head nod like, right, like received like something. Right? What the Prophet of Allah ceylonese sent him said, somebody who does not express his gratitude to people will never be grateful to Allah can be grateful to Allah, because that type of a lack of appreciation and gratitude is a disease of the heart, and will eventually grow to the point where this person will be ungrateful towards a lie as well. Again, connecting
social behavior, conduct back to our relationship with Allah,
going to be grateful to God, learn to be grateful to people around you. You want to be appreciative towards a lot. Learn to show your appreciation to people.
All right. So I'll end with this. And I wanted to say here, just as a last note, in the spirit of appreciation, I always like to say this at the end of programs, you know, people always appreciate and thank speakers and things like that. But you have to understand that there's a lot of people that make these types of programs possible, and they make these programs successful. I basically show up and talk. All right, and if you knew me, as a kid growing up, you'd realize that that's not really much of a task. All right. I had a problem talking too much when I was a kid, my daughter, she just started school this year. And so I had a parent teacher meeting us kind of like bullied
just like color stuff like what do you need to be with me about joking but uh, so I went in to go meet with the teacher. And she's like, Oh, she's great. Really smart, very intelligent, picking everything up. Just talks a little too much. I started laughing teacher did not appreciate that. She was like, You think that's funny? I was like Nah, just it takes too long to explain it to you but yeah, that sounds a lot like me so but so I just came here and spoke but there are a lot of people who put weeks and weeks if not months of effort into making this all possible bringing everything together. One person I specifically want to mention I got the very unfortunate news, sister
shine All right. For those who know you know why I call her sister Shine Shine Yeah. All right. So sister shine y'all been communicating and talking to us literally for months and she's been Mashallah on task and the first email she sent was like back in like october november something crazy like that like Ramadan time, I was like, really? From now. Right? But Mashallah, you know, and we I got the news a little while ago about her grandfather passing away. May Allah bless him and forgive him may have lost, you're supposed to say I mean, by the way, all right, everybody likes to clap. Say I mean, I may have lost Fine Arts Allah enter him into paradise, may have lost hunter
enlightened his grave in his cupboard. And may Allah subhanaw taala give him the company of them to be invested directly in the Shahada, the Salah hain. I mean, may Allah subhanaw taala also make this difficult time easy for her and her family. And may Allah reward them fully for everything that's going on over here. And of course, at the same time, show your appreciation and thanks to all the brothers and sisters, the MSA, the people who put a lot of work into making this event possible. It's really really a huge blessing from Allah huge defeat from Allah. And if we can't learn to be thankful or grateful and appreciative towards people, that that's going to catch up with us one day,
where it might lead to us being ungrateful and unappreciative with the law. So let's try to implement that those are just a few samplings from the life of the prophet to live seminar wanted to one last advice I had a clock and character as you've seen today, here in this program,
can be learned and observed very properly, by studying intensively, the life of the Prophet ceylonese. Learning about how we lived his life, how we walked and talk, how he dealt with people how we interacted with people studying Sierra, I know many of you know us from the perspective of us teaching Koran. And I've been to Columbus, a teacher suta tscm class, some of you might know about our Tafseer recordings and things like that. There's a lot of Tafseer videos, I got online setting, I always recommend two things. Each and every single Muslim needs to have a thorough study, of course, on the meaning of the Quran, so that it the words mean something to you, it comes to life.
All right. And number two life of the prophets alavesa not necessarily a hadith text. All right, that's there's nothing wrong with setting Hadith. But before you study Hadith, you should study Sierra, because that's the backdrop of those are the that's the context. That's the layout. That's the lay of the land. That's the scenery. All right. So steady, the life the seat of the profits. Awesome. And I actually have some recommendations, read a book, read a book, y'all in college
should come pretty naturally to y'all. All right. A couple of recommendations I have on books to read a very good narrative of this era, which is captivating, told, like you've probably haven't read in your life before. It's called Muhammad and his life based on the earliest sources. And I'm a longtime I would just say, Mohammed Roby. And the author's name is Martin lings, Rama hola he passed away a few years ago. Amazing, amazing the way it's written. It's captivating. There's of course, a few issues here and there that some scholars bring up. But you won't have to worry about that. Those are academic type issues and resources, you won't have to worry about that. But it will give you a
good narrative, it'll make the story come to life for you. And you can ask for factual references like names and dates and places a good English what I like to call Encyclopedia of the sila, the life of the Prophet seldom is called the sealed nectar. co vector co vector is not written as a story like a narrative, but it's solid when it comes to all the information. It's like an encyclopedia, it's like a wiki for the life of the Prophet ceylonese. Alright, so these are two resources at the same time, vast majority of the just like the fear, vast majority of the in depth classical resources on the CETA are have not been translated into English language yet. So a task
that I took upon myself, and I had done this a few years ago, I did a three year series on the Sierra, we got about halfway through the Macan period.
But I restarted that, in an effort to design record it and documented properly. So I started right after my bond is passed from a bond. And every week, I conduct a class on the Syrah, taking about eight to 10, classical resources on the CLR. And reading through them, condensing them and presenting them in the English language properly, kind of like how you saw here today. All right. And that's done every single week. All right, it's got a live session on Tuesday, evenings that you can it's free, it's open, live session you can tune into. And even if you can't tune in live, it's Tuesday evenings after Isha. So I think that would be like around 9pm. For you guys on Tuesday
nights. Even if you can't we record all the sessions, we put them online, for free. All right, open, just take it just use it so far. I'll give you the website. So far. I've done about 16 hours of lecture. And we are only at the point in time where the profits a lot the same as 12 years old.
So it's humbling. It's very thorough, and you could learn a lot from it. It's amazing when you read about his childhood, and what he went through. All right, the place where you can find it is Calum institute.org QA l am lm institute.org. And then slash live if you want to watch the live session on Tuesday, if you want the recordings slash podcast, it's an iTunes as well. Alright, so you can download it straight to your phone and listen to it on the go whatever you'd like whatever suits you in Sharla. Just because lectures are good, they're beneficial. They're motivational, but I want you to take it a step further. I want you to study. Once you read, I want you to learn and then become
an advocate. Alright, and spread and teach and propagate and preach what you learn in trauma. They just come along later on for your patients. I apologize for going a little over time.
nevermind, I'm back.
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Question number one, I'm going to sit down and do this I'm tired.
What would be the proper response to a curious non Muslim?
When asked why no female specific rewards are mentioned in Islam with regards to heaven,
not accurate, female specific rewards are mentioned. The issue is about
the whole issue about, you know, what's called, like heavenly companions, you know, the houde, and things like that. Alright, the maidens of Paradise what's been translated, but not a real, completely accurate translation? That's the issue that is often brought up the wire those types of incentives offered towards men and not women. There's two answers to the question. One is that just because it's something that is more inclined or more in line with male versus female desires, all right. But some scholars and classical scholars have also given the answer that if you really read it, and look at it, and you analyze it properly,
it's just it's mentioning the masculine. But the other part of that is that the masculine is the universal gender, and the English majors here.
And English majors. Absolutely not fantastic. All right. Our future should be bright. Alright, so any pre med, raise your hands, if you're pre med fantastic, can always count on y'all. Okay, so.
But, uh, so the masculine is the universal gender. So some classical scholars have said that mask is a universal gender. So Allah knows best. I mean, it's best to just leave it at that, but that is a possibility. All right, I know that makes some people uncomfortable, especially more so due to cultural taboo, than it is anything else. But hey, deal with it. All right. It is what it is. Okay. And this answer that I gave, by the way you can find in classic with of Sears, like 1000 year old some Sahaba. Some students of Sahaba, Tabby only held this position opinion. They knew a lot better than we do. All right.
Okay, we'll come back to this later.
Okay, I talked about that.
This question I like, Alright, what is a good way to bring a friend back to Islam or just move over your site and organize these? What's a good way to bring a friend back to Islam? like a like a best friend like a childhood buddy? All right.
This kind of goes back to what we talked about in our lecture.
You know, a lot of times people like that. They don't want to be preached to. They're tired of being preached to, they're tired of being told how terrible how miserable, how sinful, how Haram, they are. All right. So the best thing you can do for somebody like that, it just be a good friend.
Just be a good friend. Just be there for them. You know, the Prophet says someone so many people over just by being there just by offering a compliment just by supporting them in a time of difficulty and the time of tragedy and time of adversity. So just try to be a good friend. Just try to be there for them. All right. And be a good influence is through your presence. Just through your presence. I got you know, there's so many stories about somebody coming closer to the dean or starting to pray, not because they were told to pray, but but there was a really nice guy who was very nice to him, or, you know, he was helping him out or he gave him a job or he would give him a
ride or something like that. And when time for Salah would come then he would just stop himself and just go pray himself. And eventually one day the guy's like, I'm just sitting here, chillin, just watching you pray, might as well pray with you. I started praying one day, that was it. That's all it took. So let people get a little comfortable. And again, this goes back to try to understand where they're coming from. Maybe what they need, what they need is not a three hour lecture from you. Maybe what they just need is a shoulder to cry on. These need somebody treat them like a human being.
I have a good friend. Well, I mean, I know him pretty well as an acquaintance more of a good acquaintance.
He was experiencing some very serious health issues.
And in dealing with his health issues, didn't necessarily have some type of remedy or cure. It was just kind of a process he had to work through.
He got hooked on he got addicted to medications.
And it started to become very, very bad destructive behavior.
His life basically fell apart because of this addiction.
He got very serious, it was a wake up call, he got very serious about cleaning himself up and cleaning his act up. But by that time, because his life had completely fallen apart, it became somewhat of a public spectacle. It became public knowledge about this guy being a junkie or whatever you want to call it.
That basically, every time he was with somebody he was getting preached to.
He was being told why it's bad and don't do this and don't do that eventually got a little bit tired, especially once he started to clean up his act. It's kind of like, Alright, that's enough.
one thing that really, really helped him and then so even though he kind of cleaned up his act like he was able to fix this habit.
One thing that remained busted, though about him was he had kind of lost faith in the community. He just didn't want to be a part of the community anymore. Because when I went through some difficulty, everybody wanted to make themselves feel better about themselves by talking about how miserable I was, and saying the whole
you know, the whole, like, false pity type of thing, where you express pity, but really what you're just trying to say is Dude, that was really messed up. It's like a more outwardly religious way to gossip about somebody backed by somebody. Right? And Subhanallah like, just you choose a model that doesn't make it. Okay. All right, just as a note, just plugging into Savonarola is automatically converted, signed, like via converter. All right, cool. All right, so doesn't work like that. So either it was that or when I did make my way back. I was trying to fix myself. I was cleaning a bag and I got my act together, then no and nobody wants to stop lecturing me.
acquitted dude, can I just go have lunch with you? Because I feel like having lunch with another human being.
Like, can I sit and just say Hey, how's it going? Without you saying oh man is everything okay? Now? Like, you know, you really should be you know, you should start trying to fast inshallah it'll help. Like, seriously, bro, why are you giving me advice? They ask for anything I said slower.
Response proper responses walakum wa sallam. Not advice. Right? He was so turned off by this experience. Yeah, I want nothing to do with the community.
My way of interacting and dealing with him throughout the crisis and even after shortly after the crisis in the aftermath of the crisis was we were just hanging out
even though he wanted advice for me, by rarely would give it I just hang out. Be like, yo, let's go grab a burger over there. Let's go chill won't play ball. Let's go. just chillin, just talking about the weather talking about his car, talking about game on TV. Just like whatever.
And he said it really really helped him work through the issue that somebody treated like a human being. Alright, so try to be there for that person. Just let remind them that they are a human being. All right.
Um, hold on to that one. That's 3d.
Awesome. If someone stops running the job, can they be forgiven? What advice do you have to help them? Can they be forgiven? Absolutely. Why not? See, that's not it has nothing to do with me. It has nothing to do with the community. It has nothing to do with anybody is between you and Allah
is between you and Allah luck and forgive anything and everything in La Jolla. Nova Jamia? In fact a lot of prompt reminders, forgiveness, remind, he provides the most sinful people about his forgiveness. Yeah, by the levina a sort of for Allah and forsaken la Rahmatullah. Don't you dare ever disappear from the mercy of Allah. So absolutely, they can be forgiven. My advice to them though, is that
just ask yourself a sincere, honest question. Cut other people out of the equation. Put everybody else aside, put the community aside, leave everybody on the side and just assess your relationship with them.
Just figure out I'll tell you to through a story. I
was speaking at a program it was like an Islamic awareness week program and they before I spoke
They had this panel of basically brothers and sisters who were converts reverts who has accepted Islam. This is talking about their experiences a sister on their very educated, very, very smart,
who had just literally accepted Islam maybe about six, eight months ago, before this panel, she's talking about it. And then she was wearing a hijab, and somebody asked her about the hijab. And she said, that's interesting to ask about that, because I literally started wearing it a few weeks ago. Really what happened? She says that after I accepted Islam, because she was very intelligent, like a PhD student and all this stuff, she was like, naturally, she had a more intellectual academic approach to some as well. So she would intellectually and academically analyze everything in Islam. What are the evidences? Where are they from? Are they authentic? What did they have to say? What did
philosophers say? What about this? What about that, like literacy to analyze everything. And she told us something I was confused about, I couldn't figure it out. And she said, I engaged in like dozens of discussions and debates and online, you know, chat rooms and message boards and the works. And she said, I ended up more confused than I was before. That's all it happened. She then talked a little bit about some experiences she had in her life, where she got severely injured, and she almost lost a job and,
you know, some other issues in our personal relationships. And, like, literally, everything hit the fan all at once. Everything just melted down at once.
And their life was in shambles. And she said that in that moment, she got an early opportunity to practice live her faith. So she just turned to Allah. She said, I just prayed a lot, please help me. She had for a week or two based on my old habits. I kind of, you know, went into crisis mode and, you know, crying and complaining and all that. And then I realized, but I'm a Muslim now.
I got an outfit. She I just prayed. And I mean, lots of dryness, Allah helped me. She goes, literally within a week, everything came together.
Everything was soft. And she said, I was just sitting there in my house thinking, Man, I have so much to be grateful to you. Look, you've done so much for me.
If you want me to do this, and finally, what do I care? You've done so much for me. But does it bother me do something for you? You only were done. She said that's it. No question asked. All my intellectual debates and discussions, did nothing.
It was a moment of reflection and gratitude. that convinced me. That's it. That's all I need. That's all it takes. So can you be forgiving? Yes. But my advice to you is put everyone and everything aside.
All right, there's a lot of it can be seen as good peer pressure, like in religious practicing circles, there's a peer pressure, like of the other side, not like where they're all, like passing you a blunt telling you to get high, right. But there's the other type of peer pressure where the all of them were hit jobs. So you start to feel the pressure where that might seem like a good thing. But there is one downside to it that then you're you know, you're you're feeling pressured into it. And a lot of times you don't have convictions about your own decision, you're not sure about what you're doing. Right? So put everything aside for a moment. It's between you and Allah.
And if you think about that, honestly, and you really think about everything that was given to you, you won't have no problem doing anything Allah wants you to do. It's as simple as that. All right, gratitude begets obedience. Very simple formula. Right?
Okay, let's see what else we got.
as Muslims, I've often seen a drastic shift in how we interact with one another and how we interact with non Muslims. Should there be a distinction? If yes, why and what? Okay, should there be a distinction
at a very basic level based off that I have the Quran that I told you before in the prophetic example that he said as well, when it comes to the most basic elements of character and o'clock and treatment, such as being just and being honorable and being dignified and being respectful, those are universal values, they apply to everybody, Muslim, non Muslim alike. There are certain elements of naturally how you treat me will be different than how you treat a family member.
Understand, because that's somebody of a member of your household, the closer somebody is, so somebody has a random brother in the machine, you you know, your treat your cousin differently. You'll give a little bit of extra special consideration to your cousin than you will to the random dude at the machine.
And then you'll give some extra special consideration to your own brother, then he will tell your cousin correct or not.
Everyone's really based off of that simple logic bill moving in a row for him. We saw that I as well. There is extra special consideration given to Muslims, but that's not the at the
Expensive how we treat non Muslims you understand again we got two extremes here we got one extreme where it's like non Muslims Kfar I'm gonna kill you
right if I didn't love my job and my nice house so much I kill you
that's when extreme Alright, that's stupid
I that makes no sense that contradicts a religion absolutely not is a universal values of justice and honor and dignity and respect for another human being for a living thing.
All right, so absolutely not the opposite extreme. I got a comment on it. All right, is kind of like taking your own people for granted. And then being extra very nice polite with outsiders. The promises I'm actually talked about this integration as well. There's a very interesting narration, a hadith where some of the women are talking and they're describing like the behavior of some of their husbands. And one of them says that
let me try to remember either a duck Allah azza wa jal fajita,
right that when he enters into the home, he becomes a lion.
Like he's roaring and he's mad, and he's angry and he's hungry.
And when he goes outside, then he's like a fox. Like he's all quiet and Sly and
nice and humble. Right? That there is that type unfortunate type of mentality where somebody, you come across him in public and he'll be like, Sony come running for salami, hold the door open for you. He'll let you sit First, you'll hand you a plate first. Go at home complete jerk. total jerk. Right. So that that's an unfortunate reality. Right? So that definitely needs to be corrected. And similarly then that also affects like the tone in the Muslim community at your work nice and polite. Absolutely. never raise your voice in the masjid. Hey, you, brother.
Right? It's like ready to punch somebody ready to fight anybody in the machine that anytime about anything? Right? So that's the opposite extreme. Where it's almost like a sellout type of mentality. Ruhama avena. Whom should that wailuku fiery Robin. That's what he's talking about. That when it comes to dealing with the disbeliever and doesn't use the word far, people who actually rejected oppose the faith that there'll be firm, firm does mean inappropriate, but firm solid will have a number of very soft and merciful amongst themselves dealing with each other. All right, so then there is a little bit of a balance that needs to be achieved that way.
Hear this. Hello. Alright.
What are we gonna do, folks? All right.
So last question.
event coordinator fail. You're supposed to get me out of this. not bury me deeper.
Yes. Somebody reminded me Thank you very, very much, whoever you are. I kind of went halfway with one of my examples. I was talking about the McCain I was supposed to talk about something about respecting elders. They'll talk about the mercy and forgiveness and just that loss. And I didn't talk about respecting elders. Really. I mean, I only do this because it's an amazing story. He's the prophet of God. He's a messenger of Allah. sallallahu alayhi salam, there's no more important more respectable human being on the face of this earth.
All right, and he's a leader, and he's just conquered a city. And he's got all this stuff to figure out.
He's sitting near the Kaaba. It's kind of like this headquarters that's raised managing everything from
Abu Bakar, viola Juan, who his best friend is but his homie.
He sees him walking in. And along with him, he's got his dad, Abu Bakar his dad, remember Abu Bakar at this point is also 50 plus years old. So is that is a super old guy. All right, is holding him by the hand walking and the thing about aboubaker is data. buku hoffa was that he was blind.
He was blind. So he's holding him by his hand walking him. And the narration says that he was so older, all His hair was white. His eyebrows were white, his eyelashes, his beard, everything was white. superduper old. All right, and he's bringing his dad and when the profits a lot of them sees them
bucket bringing is that the process of actually gets up and says, Why didn't you tell me?
Why didn't you tell me that the chef wanted to see me I would have gone and seeing him.
Hello, Dr. Chef is bait.
Why don't you leave the chef at home? Why not it
is would have gone to him.
I would have came to him, I should leave the shadow to Keith and look at the respect he shows an elder
is a prophet to measure. And by the way, he's a Muslim, he had this old man
told him that he's come to accept Islam, he just sees himself. Seriously. You're not the uncle here.
What's wrong with you?
Let the uncle rest at home. He's blind. He's old, what's wrong with you? I would have gone to uncle. If he wanted to see me so bad. I would have gone and visited him. But the respect he shows his elders.
And then of course the Buddha comes in sits and says my father wants to accept a song. And actually abubaker says something very interesting. It'll be nice note to close on, says something very interesting. He says that.
He says that
a messenger of Allah he needed to come to you.
Because he came from EMA and he came for guidance needed to come to you. You have to go to guidance. To walk to it. You have to work for it. For an old blind man just walking from his house in Missouri was a big deal. But he had to do that. We have to put some work into it folks. write a book and understood that I'll be good luck on and we'll be pleased with him. So he said no, he's he had to come to us supposed to come to you to get this receive this.
Then when they sit down in the process to them gives him you know, Shahada, EMA and the testimony of faith brings them into Islam. He looks over at Abu Bakar in a book is crying literally tears.
So the process of looks at him and says tears of joy. Yeah, Babak. So happy makes you cry.
He says no messenger of alarm sad.
You're sad. Your dad at this advanced ages accepting Islam.
And you're sad.
when the Prophet of Allah sallallahu Sallam had character of that level, we respected people so much.
Look how we would affect their hearts. Look how we would win over their hearts.
abubaker says to the prophets of Salaam to some sad and I cry because I can't sit here. And just I can't help but wish that instead of my dad sitting there accepting some becoming Muslim, it would have been your uncle Abu Talib, the man who raised you
because he would have made you happy
Subhana Allah, he's willing to put his own happiness aside, the Islam of his father aside and choose the happiness of the Prophet sallallahu Sallam choose the man who raised the process on the uncle of the prophets of Solomon said that's the type of loyalty, dedication devotion. That was a product of that character that the process of him had.
When he treated them with such respect and dignity and honor and love and kindness and generosity and mercy and forgiveness.
That's the feeling that was created in our hearts.
That's our most powerful form of power. That's our most powerful tool of power. A lot of misconceptions about us, I'm out there and we got to do the work that we do.
We got to intellectually dispel, we got to academically answer. We got to put, you know, public and marketing and advertising and public statements and media. I'm not denying that we got to do that. But we can't forget the most important aspect of it. That's my o'clock. That's my character. That's the most important part of it. And that's what puts the buttock and the blessing and all the other work that we do.
That work will become much more fruitful when I live it when I breathe it. When I walk in and I talked
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