Channel: Yasmin Mogahed
Series: Yasmin Mogahed - Serenity
Santa Monica, this is this meme, which I hit and you're listening to serenity streaming live on one legacy radio. Today, I actually have a sort of a special show, I wanted to talk about something that's actually very dear to me. And it's a topic that I hope inshallah will touch the lives of other people. And it was sparked by something that I experienced a few months ago. And that is that I met a woman. And for those of you who have been following my page on Facebook and or Twitter, you know about this story, but I met a woman, her name is Taya, big. And upon a law
meeting, this woman has really, really affected me very, very deeply subpanel law, this, this woman has a special of five children. And three of her children, when they turned around the age of three, her first child, one day, she she was, you know, she was that she was at her school. And basically, the mother got a call from the teacher and informed the mother tayyiba that her child wasn't, wasn't speaking anymore, she had, she had stopped talking, she just wasn't talking that day anymore. She was completely normal. And, and then one day, she, she wasn't talking anymore. So, you know, this was concerning to the teacher, she wasn't sure what was wrong, you know, the mother wasn't sure what
was wrong. And she continued to not speak. And so she eventually, you know, she took her to the doctor. And what she ended up finding out from the doctor was that her daughter had a rare genetic disease called MPs. and due to this genetic disease, her daughter would never speak again. And that, in fact, she would,
little by little lose on her her ability to, to walk, to see to, to eat, to swallow. And, and she would little by little lose all of these abilities until she eventually died. And so, this woman was being told this about her child and then her next child, her other daughter, she, the same thing happened to her, she, you know, started again, this, this, this pattern, and she found out when she took her to the doctor, that she also had that same disease, and the same thing was going to happen to her. And then her third daughter, she has three daughters and to two boys and two sons, and she found out yet again, this child also had the same disease. So, now, she has three three daughters
with this with MPs. And now, this this was many years ago, and now the three of them are, they live in wheelchairs, they an oxygen and they they cannot speak they cannot walk, they cannot even swallow their own saliva Subhanallah and so, I actually got the honor the humbling honor of visiting her in her home and Subhanallah it was an
extremely powerful experience, because on the one hand, you see this external situation, that is so
intense, basically the three of them, you know, in their wheelchairs, and you know, oxygen tanks around and the, the externally It was a very, very powerful and intense situation, but what really, really moves move to me was tehava herself, actually, and
when you looked at her, she was just Masha Allah, just smiling. She was she is one of the most pleasant and, and beautiful people to be around. And it was her statement that really, really moved me that was I am when this is this is a quote, I am drowning in gratitude.
SubhanAllah it's, it's amazing to me because
we have so much and we're not grateful.
But she's drowning in gratitude. And what that really shows you is, this is the help of Allah subhanaw taala that no matter what situation you're in, if Allah makes it easy for you, you can you can smile through it, you could smile through its Panama, and right now, you know, she was she had a need that I found out about recently just about the plays ago in the evening and that was she had a need for her daughter.
New wheelchair builders were getting too small and causing bruises on her on her on her daughter. So she needed a new wheelchair. And I noticed this, actually, she hadn't asked me anything about I had noticed a post that she had on her Facebook, in which they had a contest, and they were trying to,
they had a contest, whoever got the most likes on a picture with the company, the wheelchair company was going to give away a free wheelchair. So I saw that, and I thought inshallah, you know, we can do this, right, we got this. So, we did and ended up you know, it's panela the likes went through the roof and Hamza that she,
you know, she, she's far ahead of others. And then and then I realized, as I talked, talked with her more and more, how much of a financial crisis this woman was in. And you would never know it again, by just talking to her and, and seeing the smile on her face. And seeing her though, that this woman has smell lamella increase her the contentment that she has, that that she actually, I found out that her family is very much in debt due to these medical bills, and that the community was not helping her that she was, you know, she had tried in the past fundraise for surgeries that her daughters needed, and, and people just did not give for years. So Pamela, and,
you know, she, she needed medical beds for them, they were severely in debt, they needed to move to another house, and they couldn't be until they fill their debts, a number of things and so panela you know,
what happened in the last 2448 hours was something very, very inspiring. And that is that when, when we posted about her situation, SAP HANA life was absolutely amazing how much the community came together and and gave for her for this cause. And if, you know, if you look at pages, or the the website is there, but Subhanallah in just one day, we raised I think we're right now over $33,000 on just one site, and there was a different one on PayPal, but Subhanallah it's just this story turned out to be such an inspiring story, not just of, of gratitude, and and, and, you know, ease in hardship but also of the community coming together. And really standing as one body as the prophets
of I said them said that the the oma is like one body, and if any part of that body is in pain, the rest of the body comes and, and, and acts and you know, reacts to help that part. And this is exactly 100 that what we've witnessed, and inshallah will continue to witness and I asked you to continue to support this cause and to spread it, and you can find them on my page and either on Facebook or on Twitter. And so said this cause because Subhanallah This is exactly what it means to be one body to be one oma that when you see some part that's hurting, you feel it as if it's part of your own body. And inshallah we're gonna take a short break here. And when we return, we'll continue
on the reflections from this very inspiring story.
Salam aleikum. This is the end you're listening to serenity streaming live on one legacy radio. We are talking today about gratitude. We're talking about a personal story that I've experienced, and you know how much I learned from it and reflections on that. And inshallah I hope that this story can be a source of inspiration for other people as well. And there's a number of different lessons that I hope that we can take from it. One of the one of them is that you know, Allah subhanaw taala says, For example, and they'll put n in ma Los Rios RA, and this is one that we hear you know, we've probably heard this is since we were children, but this area is very often miss translated. And
usually if you ask a person What does enamal Osorio mean, people will say, after hardship comes ease. And this is not what the ayah says the A S has enamal three asstra and the word ma means width, not after it doesn't say bad, bad in Arabic, bad in Arabic is after but here it says Ma, and what that means is that with hardship comes ease with at the same time and Subhanallah This is
You know, really a lesson that we can see in our lives and in the universe, every time we reflect, we can see that any time Allah subhanaw taala gives a hardship upon someone, at the same time, he gives them ease at the same time. And, you know, that he is comes in different forms. So what that means is, no matter how hard something is for you, no matter how heavy a trial is, you will always have some ease in that trial. And we don't you know, and it comes upon a lot from Allah in different forms. So if you think back to whatever time in your life that seemed like it was the absolute hardest time in your life, and you bring that to mind, you know, when you when you were in it, you
may have just focused on the problem itself. And maybe you just felt this, the, the weight of it, and you didn't notice the ease, but if you really reflect on it, you will see that there were there was ease at the same time, that it wasn't entirely bad. So if Allah subhanaw taala, for example, gave you financial difficulty at that time, but at least but you were healthy, and your children were healthy. You may be when you you know had a health problem. Yes, your maybe your health was compromised, but you had your amen and your amen was strong. So Subhanallah there's always you know, in fact, it isn't just one ease, you know, with the hardship but rather so many countless Allah
subhanaw taala says, well endowed dunya Mottola, he left suha if you tried just tried to count the Nam the favors the blessings of Allah subhanaw taala, you would never be able to count them you would never be able to. Because it's so much. It's so many you know, and we may have one hardship and have, you know, a million eases a million blessings. We have our eyesight, we have our hearing, we have the ability to swallow our own saliva and swallow this was something that I never even thought about. I mean, who thinks every time they swallow, and hamdulillah I just swallowed my saliva and I didn't choke on it. Nobody does that. Because you don't even think about it. It's just,
it's just automatic. It's an it's a gift that Allah subhanaw taala gave us. And we never thank him for it. Because we don't even notice it. We aren't even exposed to the the lack of that gift and what that would be like, and Subhanallah when you see someone and this was, again, an eye opening experience for me to see a woman whose child cannot swallow their own saliva, and therefore she has to suction it, otherwise they choke on it. And that to me just absolutely blew my mind because I can swallow my saliva and I never say Alhamdulillah for it, because it's just something we take for granted. And there are countless things just like that. So the idea that we have to realize is that
in Amal Srinivasan, Allah never will give you a hardship without also giving you countless eases at the same time. And similarly, Allah subhanaw taala will never give you a hardship that you cannot bear. Allah says in the, in the last episode of tillbaka law, you can live alone of sin, Allah was that Allah never puts a burden on a person on a huge honor on any of us, except what we can bear that we have to you know, realize that Allah subhanaw taala knows exactly what he's doing. And Allah subhanaw taala knows exactly what we are able to carry, and what we are able to withstand. And, and he has a perfect order. Never think that whatever it is that you have in your life, you just it's
too much for you. Because if it was really too much for you, you wouldn't have it in your life. Allow only gives you what you can bear and Allah gives you the ability to bear it. And Subhanallah sometimes the greatest blessing, the greatest ease, the greatest provision, in the time of hardship, is that ability to bear it, it is the sub it is the patience that he gives along with the hardship in order for you to bear it. And if you're really blessed, it's the rudder that Allah subhanaw taala it gives you the ability
not just you know, Subhan Allah the ability, not just to say, yeah, I'm dealing with it, I'm okay. But to say I'm drowning in gratitude. That's a whole different level. And that's what a riddle is. That's what contentment is. And that's the highest level ask Allah subhanaw taala to to bless us with that type of level that whenever something hits us, we are able to say no matter what it is, I am drowning in gratitude. So Pamela, this is such an inspirational message and this is real this is you know, handled there's there's many stories we have profits and peace be upon them all and companions that have you know, passed away but this is
This is today this is now this is a New Jersey, you know, analog this is happening and this is this is something that we can all attain that by the help of Allah subhanaw taala no matter what he gives us, we can we can actually make it something that is that is for us and we can even within that hardship smile, you know Subhanallah you think about the sia and what happened to her the the wife of Freetown and this was one of the four perfect women as the profit side of them told us and when she was, you know, she, she had it hard, you know, she was married to the worse to being right. And the most oppressive and he used to kill, you know, children, babies just so that they wouldn't, you
know, take over and, and yet she was in that hardship she was being tortured by him and his and his henchmen. And Allah subhanaw taala gave her the ability to see her home in Jenna. And it was through that vision of her home in Jenna, that she was able to smile. Now imagine that you're in the midst of your hardship, in the depth of it. And yet Allah gives you the patience and even the riddle of the contentment to be able to smile, even in that hardship. That is the help of Allah subhanaw taala. That is the Nasir of Allah subhanaw taala we always think that the help of Allah subhanaw taala only comes when the hardship is removed. But that's true. the help of Allah subhanaw taala is
the is the karma, the ability to be steadfast in the heart, the ability to have patience, in the hardship and the ability even to have thought and contentment in the hardship. When you think about the the people of the ditch and you think about what happened to them and how they ended up in the woman who whose children were thrown into the ditch and were burned. And and you know, here we look at the story and we say man, it's a depressing story. They all ended up dying, they all ended up going into the ditch. Where was the help of Allah. And yet, the help of Allah came in the ability of that woman to stay steadfast that that woman was able to stay steadfast on on her fifth on her he
meant even despite what was going on with her, and that Allah subhanaw taala gave her the aid the ease in that her own child said to her, her own child spoke to her and said, have issues you are on the truth. And so that was where Allah subhanaw taala gave him his and his and his help is that he made her able to be steadfast and this is what we asked Allah Subhana Allah for is that that in our hardship, it is not the hardship that we really should be afraid of. But we should be afraid that a hardship would hit us and we are not in the refuge of Allah subhana wa Tada. That is what we should fear. Because if you have shelter, you don't worry about a storm. If you have shelter, you don't
worry about rain. If you have food, you don't worry about hunger, but the only time you worry about rain or storms or hunger is when you don't have food or when you don't have shelter. So we ask Allah subhanaw taala that he always give us that food and that risk of his neediness and of sub and an end of Ramadan at the highest level and of his refuge and his daughter, inshallah may take another short break and when we return I'll be hearing from you in the chat box.
Salam Alaikum This is Jasmine Mujahid and you're listening to serenity streaming live on one legacy radio. I want to go ahead and look at the chat box and respond to your comments and your questions. But before I do that, I want to remind you first you know about the website and about donating and sharing this this cause this family needs our support not just now but but regularly monthly. inshallah we hope to set up something to help them monthly. I did post the the link in the chat box as well as on my on my on my page. And I also want to remind you about the podcasts for serenity on one legacy radio. It is it is really important and I asked you to subscribe to serenity I we need to
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Now, go ahead, and you can click on that, and it can give you the the way to subscribe, I'm sure that you'll get a username and password. And after that you have access to all the podcasts for a year, inshallah. So just a couple things one person had suggested, and I want to share the suggestion in the chat box, that every day, just thinking and bringing to mind the things that you are grateful for, in fact, vanilla researchers in psychology and in basically the Science of Happiness, what they have found is that there's something the theory holds that basically people have a certain level of happiness, and not much changes it in general. So if like a tragic thing
happens to you, that level dips for a while, but then you basically go back to your kind of your threshold of happiness, your your your level, and if something good happens, you know, you win a million dollars you get married, whatever it is, it'll it'll go up for a little bit. And then you go back to that same level, that there's kind of like this level of happiness, and it's a little bit, it's not much moves it up or down, except very temporarily, and this is this has been replicated a lot in psychological research. But one thing that they did find among the few things that can actually increase your threshold or your level, your base level of happiness is gratitude.
SubhanAllah, that just being grateful, more grateful can actually just make you an overall happier person. So besides it being a part of you're a better part of your, your worship to Allah subhanaw taala, to thank him and to be grateful to him, it actually is good for you, that it makes you happier and makes you a happier person and a better person. So it's something that is extremely important that we do regularly is think about all the things and thank Allah subhanaw taala, for all the things that we are grateful for, not only the things that we have, not only the things that have happened to us, but for the things that have not happened to us, and will come to the lab, we also
have not gotten into a car accident and become paralyzed, we also have not lost all of our belongings, you know, there's a lot of things that have not happened to us that have happened to others. So we ask Allah subhanaw taala and we thank him for the things that we have and and the things that have happened and the things that have not at all that Allah subhanho data has protected us from and Allah has protected us from a lot handed up.
Lastly, there was the question that what do you do when you have events that are haunting you from your past or a hardship in the context of hardship? And again, you know, the answer that I would give is the answer for everything is Deanna that Allah subhanaw taala seek refuge in Allah. Allah is the refuge and the only refuge when we pray at least 17 times a day we say he can't Nabu what Yeah, can a Stein at least 17 times a day if we're just praying our five prayers, just those we say to Allah, new alone, do we worship and You alone do we seek help from and and so what I what we really need to internalize and understand is that Allah is the only refuge Allahu mastan Allah is the only
refuge in every single thing that we face. whether it's good or it's bad or it's easy or it's hard. Allah is the only refuge so I I say seek refuge and Allah subhanaw taala ask Allah subhanaw taala to to cure you to save you to make it easy on you. Because the only one who can cure us the only one who can save us the only one who can make things easy is Allah subhanaw taala and know that nothing is easy, except what Allah subhanaw taala has made easy aloha melesa Hola, illa majra alto Santa, Oh Allah there is nothing that is easy except what you have made easy and if Allah wills he can make the hardest thing easy as we see in the case of ESEA and as we see in the case of Thai have a big
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