The Psychology of Patience in The Quran

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hamdulillah all praises you to Allah subhanho wa Taala we praise Him and we seek his help. And we seek refuge in Allah from the evil of our souls and the consequences of our actions. Whomever Allah guides, none can misguide. And whomever he misguides none can guide him back to the straight path, a bear witness and I testify that there is no deity worthy of worship other than a law. And I bear witness and I testify that Muhammad Sallallahu it he was setting them is the final prophet and the most perfect worshipper of Allah, as to what follows Allah Subhana huzzah either reminds us in the Quran to be conscious of him when he says yeah, you Hello, Dina amen otaku la haka Ducati, while

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Last week, a sister came to me were called me up and explained

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A situation of hers.

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And her story is very tragic. I'm not going to go into the details, but she suffered one calamity after another, from being a refugee, to personal marital problems, to financial problems, and then an issue with her child. And she was almost to the point of breaking down completely and saying for how long? For how long is this going to happen? I feel helpless and hopeless. And in the course of that conversation, I reminded her of some verses of the Quran. And I'm going to use that to summarize this whole book for today. And we can call this whole tub up the psychology of the Quranic verses related to patients. How does the Quran appeal to us? What is the methodology of the Quran to

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remind us of being patient? We've heard a lot of hood wasn't gurus about sober. And of course, these are important and I encourage you to listen and re listen to them. But there is a layer underneath that. What is the psychology of sober? How does the Quran appeal to us to be patient? And what motivation does it use to remind us of the importance of patience? There are so many verses but of course, time is limited, so we'll only mention a few of them. And remember, this is not about the blessings of patience, that is another football. This is about the psychology of patience. Allah says in the Quran, what Bashir is obedient,

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give good tidings to those who are patient. Bashara means to cause to cheer up. And that is why a smile comes from the same root in the Arabic language. This is really profound because the one who is patient, we come and we console that person. We never say Cheer up. We never say good news. We feel that the one who is afflicted we need to make them feel sympathetic and that's fine. Nothing wrong with that. The Quran flips it around. We're Beshear tell them they're fortunate. Tell them they're lucky what Bashir is sobbing in. And the psychology here is very straightforward, and that is that from our perspective, those that are being afflicted and our patient, Allah has blessed

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them. Allah has chosen them. They are the elite amongst us they are the chosen as our Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, When Allah loves somebody, he afflicts them with some calamity some disaster in Allah tala either have become a better home. The more someone is beloved to Allah, the more they are tested in the other Hadeeth the ones who are tested the most are the profits and then those closest to them and then those closest to them what best should change the psychology around when you're struggling, when you're undergoing misfortunes, when calamity seemed to surround you, rather than feel despondent, depressed, flip it around. Allah has chosen you be given glad

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tidings, what Bashir and the choice or the choosing is that Allah subhana wa tada is going to raise your ranks up. The Quran also tells us Westar in ob Sabri was Salah, seek help, is the honor yeah can I can stain seek help through prayer and through patience. Patience is being recommended to us as a tool is there no. Patience is a tool to cope. It is a mechanism that we use to cope with the problems around us. So Allah is telling us that patience is going to be our way out that long tunnel with the light at the end of it. The only thing that's going to get us through that tunnel is patience is terino the Sabri was Salah, so sobor is an aid suburb is a tool do not look at patients

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as a chore. Don't look at it as something that is negative. rather look at it as your lifeline. Look at it as literally something that's going to pull you out esteana was terino the Sabri was Salah, notice as well that Allah subhana wa tada mentions in the Koran, of the few categories that Allah says will law who you're a boo, Allah loves. There's only like 11 or 12 verses that Allah says Allah who you're ever And of the people that Allah loves will law who you hibou sabi Deen. Allah loves those who are patient. And once again, those that are troubled, those that are afflicted, they feel the world has abandoned them, they feel they're all alone. They feel

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Nobody loves them. Why is this happening? And Allah tells us a psychology of Subhan Allah tells us in the Koran I love you will love who you are and busaba it in of the few categories that Allah explicitly links his love with are those that are afflicted with calamities, those that are struggling, those that are in difficult times and situations and they're constantly being forced to renegotiate. Allah says I love you will love your hibel slobodian and that's why they're being tested once again, the psychology of sobor because the one who is struggling feels abandoned, the one who is struggling feels no one loves me. And that's why Allah says I love you will love your

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hair buzzsaw meaning. The same psychology is applied in another verse in the Quran. Instead of saying muhabba Allah says ma will Allahu ma sobbing in the lahoma slobin in again, only a desert or So Allah is with Allah is with in Allah ma sabihin. Allah is with those who are patient, because once again the psychology of patients once again, when you're struggling, when you have difficulties when you're in pain, you always feel alone. It's human nature, you feel alone, abandoned, neglected. So the Quran comes and Allah says explicitly in Allah ma sabihin, Allah is with you. You're not alone. Allah azza wa jal loves you Allah will take care of you. Once again we have here the

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beautiful psychology of counseling the patients in the Koran. And yet another verse in the Quran, Allah subhana wa tada mentions a very interesting series of situations when we show patients Allah praises those who are patients patient by saying well Sabina filbert Sir, he was wrong. He was heinous, but as three things are mentioned, Allah says the righteous are those who show patience in baksa, Amba, raw and heinous bus. These are three different nouns. What do they imply? And by the way, linguistically, all three of them overlap linguistically. All three of them have similar meanings, painful suffering, those who are patient at times of distress, yet each one takes on a

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very specific connotation as bad sa means financial tightness. You don't have enough money. Okay, finances are overburdening you you don't have a job you're in debt you owe people was Sabina filbert sir. Barbara is when you are in Morocco, your body is in pain, you're sick or your loved one is sick. This is the raw and he knows bucks is during times of civil war during times of actual battle. You know what civil war is going on? Look at what is happening around the world in Myanmar in Syria and China May Allah make their situation easier for them in Kashmir and follows through we can go on and on. That's enough bas. And Allah mentions these three in order of difficulty because out of them

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financial difficulty is the least worrisome and then bodily is definitely much more difficult than financial and then Civil War bombs dropping people attacking that is no doubt the worst of them. And alum mentions all three was saw beating fl baxa is what barah what heinous bus. Now notice again, these are the three situations and Subhanallah it just so happened that the sister who called me she had all three of them and I said Allah mentioned you in the Quran explicitly in your situation. This is all your situation and this first cheered her up immensely It is as if she hadn't read it before and it was like the first time because it literally financial situation bodily situation and also

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civil war and refugee literally it's all there was saw a video NFL but sorry, wha wha heinous bus. It's all there. Allah azza wa jal has told you I know what you're undergoing. I know and I am going to praise you and reward you and take care of you as you go through your financial problems. And as you battle your sicknesses and illnesses and as even the political situation deteriorates, don't worry, I will give you that patience and I will take care of you and this again shows us the psychology of the Koran of the psychology of the Koran as well when it comes to patients is that Allah subhana wa tada reminds us that leadership nobility is only arrived at via the mechanism of

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patience, the Chosen Few the leaders of mankind you do not become a leader according to Allah subhana wa tada without a struggle, and the struggle must entail patience. And this is explicit throughout the Quran. For example, what you're now imagine you're doing a BM de nada ma Sabo, we made them imaams when Allah says we made them imaams It doesn't mean the Imam of the Salah. It means religious leaders. It means people that are admired and respected. Allah says we made them IE moms that others follow their guidance from when did that happen? How did they become a moms lamb

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Mouse about Oh, one day displayed patience. The only way that Allah will choose you and raise you up to become an EMA for mankind is when you display patients. So once again the psychology you are not abandoned, you have been chosen to be on the elite side, you have been selected by Allah to be raised up to be an Imam for the rest of mankind, where you are now imagine you're doing a BMD na lamelle Subaru. Also Allah says in the Quran, talking about the most elite of all the prophets was to come out sabara kulula zmanim in a rusu we're talking about prophets and messengers in our weekly lectures, and we talked about messengers the higher than prophets, and then there is a category of

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messengers that is the highest and that is all awesome. And Allah mentions five of them in the Koran There are five oralism what has made them people of fortitude, was become a Sabra as mimin urusan the number one characteristic that made these five the best of all of mankind is because they displayed patience, once again the psychology of the haoran when you're undergoing struggles, when you have to display patients realize you have plenty of role models before you the best of the best had to display patients. And when you follow those role models, guess what you will in turn become a role model you yourself will become a role model for others around you. What you are now in Allah is

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gonna make you an Imam if you are patient for his sake. And that is why patience is one of the fundamental realities of faith our Prophet system called patience the head of emang he called it the crux of email and you cannot have email without demonstrating patience. And of course, patience is one of the best blessings that comes directly from Allah and of the psychology of sobor is that Allah subhana wa tada reminds us that subber is a gift that he gives. So the very fact that you are displaying patience even if you're struggling. Allah didn't say patience is going to be easy. He never said that. Patience is difficult. Patience means you control yourself. Patience means you

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don't act immature. Patience means you control your tongue. Patience is difficult, nobody said is going to be easy, but the very fact that you are displaying it even if you're struggling indicates and this is the final point that will mention indicates that Allah is conferring his blessings directly on you was Bill wama Saba Luca Ellerbee Be patient and remember, your server will only come from a law the very fact I said to this sister, the very fact that yes, you're struggling but you're displaying patients. It indicates Allah has opened the doors directly on you. Was there one more sobre illa Billah Allah is showering you with Southern realize the very fact that this is happening

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right now and you're still keeping it even if you feel you're going to go but you're still there you're still maintaining your Eman your regal your taco you're still doing your sauna, watts and accepting Allah other even as you struggle realize this means the doors are open and the last summer is coming directly on to you because the Prophet is told in the singular was spirit one our sub ruca illa Billah Be patient Jonas will Allah and realize all of your sub will only come from Allah Allah is the one who gives server to us. So the very fact that you are patient indicates Allah doors have been opened up and Saba is pouring down on you the one who puts you in that situation has done it

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for a wisdom known to him and he shall give you the server and when he gives you the server he shall raise your ranks up because he loves you as you are being patient and he is with you. Allahu masabi and he wants to raise your ranks higher and higher and he wants to make you a leader and a role model do not look at patients as the end patients is a mechanism to cope through the struggle of this world and via demonstrating patience. Allah raises our ranks in this world and most importantly in the next May Allah Subhana Allah Allah bless me and you with through the Quran. And may He make us of those who is versus they understand and applies how that and how long throughout our lifespan

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ask Allah forgiveness us will ask him for his or her food and the Rockman

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hamdulillah All praise is due to Allah the one and the unique. It is He that we worship and it is His blessings that we seek. He is the Lord of the oppressed and he answers the door of the week. The question arises how does one attain patience and again much can be

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are only mentioned to because of time, first and foremost of the most miraculous things about patients of the most miraculous things about patients. And I've said this even on this member before, one of the few things that we are told, simply wanting patients will get it for you simply desiring it will open up the doors. If only money were so easy if I want money I'll get it doesn't work that way for money for money, you have to strive, but for patients, you just have to desire that's all. You just have to want patience and you will get patients. How do we know this hadith in Sahih Muslim woman yet the sub bar you sub bit Hola. whoever desires patience, Allah will grant him

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patience. It's that simple. That's all that you need to do. I mean, what a miracle, what a blessing. All that is required. You want and you desire, that's it. Your heart has to want to be patient woman, your top bar, you Sabir hula, that's all that is required to be patient. And of course, other things can be done as well. And the second thing that we'll mention is of the ways that we perfect our patients of the ways that we make sure we are patient is through the fast of Ramadan. And of course, this whole book is linked directly to Ramadan, which is going to be coming in a few weeks and the whole topic of Ramadan and the topic of patients are interlinked together, how and why?

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Because Ramadan and fasting, it's like our gym, so that we practice patients, we go day and night, and we withhold we abstain from that which we need to survive. It's a daily routine and ritual to perfect our suburb, perfecting Ramadan, and perfecting fasting is one of the main tools that we will need to perfect the concept of patience. One of the wisdoms of Ramadan is to make us all more patient and that is why our Prophet systems that Hadith is intimated that fasting is half of stubborn half of sobor you will master it by fasting. And he said in the Hadith in the Saudi that Ramadan is short or sober, the month of Sabra, the month of Ramadan is the month of summer and

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fasting is half of Southern so simply by perfecting Ramadan and making sure we fast properly and fulfilling the requirements of Allah in this month, we have Alhamdulillah mastered half of the art of patience and the other half will come by other ways. So Ramadan is coming up amongst upon us and we know that patience is a necessary tool to live for the rest of our lives. So now as we prepare for this month, and as we get ready to prepare psychologically and spiritually and mentally of the things that we should prepare is that we welcome Ramadan as our exercise mechanism to perfect this tool of patience along with so many other things the Koran and sadhaka and Likud anttila and fasting

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and spending the night in solid all of this is also going to be there but this Ramadan in particular look to this month as the month to perfect patience so that insha Allah huzzah Allah we have this tool was the universe somebody was set up for the rest of our lives, we can utilize it to overcome trials and calamities and tribulations because in the end of the day, dear brothers and sisters, this is a world of trials and calamities. There is no eternal peace in this world there is no ultimate happiness in this world that is in the next life This world will be one problem today another problem tomorrow we will continuously need support to overcome every single problem and it

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is through our server and through overcoming those problems that we attain ultimate blessings in the next and raise our ranks in Jannah that is the goal dear brothers and sisters and in order to get that goal we need to master the art of patience May Allah subhana wa tada make us of those who are patient Allah who may need it for me no allama letter if you had to meet them, Manila Fatah, WA Hamad Illa for Raja wala Dana, la vita, wala Maria, Juan Elashi feta, well I see it on inla yourself. Allah Allah now what is one in a readiness? Hakuna Be a man well attach I feel Kubina Zilla Lila Dena amanu robina in Nakata. oh four Rahim. Allah is in Islam I will Muslim mean Allah

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