The Impact of A Good (or Bad) Spouse

Yasir Qadhi


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AI: Summary © The importance of having a decent life partner is discussed in a series of segments covering topics such as Islam, relationships, and personal experiences. The speakers emphasize the need for gentle leadership, respecting personal relationships, and learning from the time of the Sahaba. They also mention the challenges of finding a partner who is the same as one of two and the importance of acknowledging and respecting differences in one's opinion.
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influence you, what impact do you think your life partner will have on you? If a mere friendship might positively or negatively influence you? What impact do you think your life partner will have on you? If a mere friendship might positively or negatively influence you? Then what do you think the lifelong partnership and the companionship of a spouse will have on your entirety of this life and perhaps even the next life? It is because of this that the importance of a righteous spouse. And the importance of Asana or saw there have to be your life partner is something that the Quran and the Sunnah stress from beginning to end. In fact, Allah reminds us in a very powerful descriptive

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verse in Surah Noor al hobby thatch wooden hobby thin wall hobby thrown a little hobby set, what a year or two the year been. What are you born with per year but this is the general rule. I'll hobby thoughts. Wicked and filthy women are four wicked and filthy men, and wicked and filthy men are for wicked and filthy women. And pure and righteous women are for pure and righteous men, and pure and righteous men are for pure and righteous women. This is the way things ought to be this is the general rule, birds of a feather flock together. So your life partner is an extension of who you are. The one whom you choose to live with. And the one whom you actually live with, should be

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representative of who you are. And that is why Allah Subhana Allah Allah has forbidden for Muslim men or women to marry polytheistic men or women. Allah says in the Quran, what tongue to hell Moshe Ekati what you mean do not marry America lady or men. Do not marry America lady until they have Iman. What Amma to Muslim women atone Hierro men which nicotine Willow Archer but come a Amma, a slave lady that is believing in Allah you might think socially she's not to your level, you might think the socio economic status is too much. Allah says a believing lady who is an AMA is better and pure for you. Then America, a polytheistic lady, even if her beauty bedazzles you even if you think

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she is very good for you, the fact that she is a Musharaka means you are not allowed to marry her. And then Allah goes on while Tunc your whole machete Kena hat you may know and do not marry your women to Mushrik to polytheistic men until they believe ALLAH says even a man who is an avid but a believer in Allah is better for you. Then a mushrik even if the machinic bedazzles you even if you think he has wealth, he has power. He has status since he doesn't have eemaan He is not worthy for your women. And Allah then says Willa, aka Runa Illa. Now, these are going to influence and call you to the fire of our notice. Simply by marrying such a partner. The potential to influence you will be

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so great that you might end up on the path

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towards Jahannam This is why ALLAH SubhanA wa Tada has forbidden marriage to a mushrik or a Musharaka. And the Quran and the Sunnah and the Syrah and the lives of the sahaba. And human history is full of examples of righteous couples and examples of the opposite. For example, Allah subhanho wa Taala praises the Prophet Zakariya in the Quran. And Allah azza wa jal praises the courier's wife and Allah says about the birth both of them listen to this inner home the two of them can who you Sadie Runa Phil Hyatts, they would race one another to do good deeds. They would help one another they would push one another to do good deeds. You Sadie Aruna Phil Hi rod means the two of them are

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in healthy competition. They are team partners, and they're helping one another to do good deeds. Well, yeah, do Runa and the both of them would make dua to us and worship us and pray us to us, Robin whare hubba out of loyalty and out of desiring what we have and out of a fear of punishment from ours. And Allah says, and to us they were all submitting what can we learn haha, Shireen. So Allah praises the couple Zachary and his wife. And Allah says the both of them would help one another. The both of them were on this race together, the both of them would pray together, worship together, make dua together. And this shows us the ideal couple, and that is they're helping one

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another on the race towards Jana. They're competing with one another, not against one another. Each one is gently pushing the other forward. They're on the same team wanting to help the other out. And that is what our Prophet system described. May Allah have mercy on that wife who wakes up for tahajjud and then wakes her husband up as well? May Allah have mercy on the husband who wakes up for tahajjud and then waits his wife up as well, this notion of helping one another for righteousness, pushing one another to piety and SubhanAllah. How many amongst us, we might not to be as pious, as righteous as we are, had it not been that ALLAH blessed us with a spouse who is better than us with

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a spouse who pushes us forward with a spouse who reminds us to not do an evil deed and to strive for better deeds, and whoever has such a spouse should thank Allah subhanho wa taala. And then after that be appreciative of one spouse, how important is it to have righteous spouses. In fact, simply by having a righteous spouse, your entire status changes. And of course, the example that comes to mind, even though it is the best of all examples, but still an example that is reflective for all of us the example of our mothers, the wives of the Prophet sallallahu either he was sending them, the mere fact that they are his wife, sallAllahu, either he was setting them makes them different from

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all other women simply because their companion and their husband is who he is, automatically, they get something different. Ya Nissa Nebby less tuna. Get ahead a minute Nisa, oh wives of the Prophet, you are not like any other wives simply by having a Nikka contract. And simply by being a life partner, to the one whom Allah has chosen to be able to live Allah mean, you automatically have more responsibility. That's why Allah says in the series of verses, if you commit a sin or wives of the Prophet, Your punishment will be more and if you do a good deed, your reward will be more as well. Now, obviously, I'm not comparing any couple to the prophets or some of his wives, but the concept,

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the concept of a wife, taking on the responsibilities, the McCombe the status of the husband, and vice versa. This is something that we all experience, even in this life. Subhanallah how many times that the success of the husband, the wife rises up with that success, the success of the wife, the husband rises up as a result of that success. Subhanallah is how many times in the beginning of the marriage and average couple comes together, and then Allah blesses the one of them to keep on rising, rising, rising, they might become the CEO, the richest person, the President, and the wife for the spouse has to rise with that. And along with that, the responsibilities come if this is

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something we see in this dunya for this dunya how much more so for the deen how much more so for our religion, so be careful brothers and sisters, before you get married, of who you are married to. And when you are married, examine your spouse for their religiosity because frankly, usually speaking, not always usually their religiosity is a reflection of your religiosity. So just like the righteous spouse helps the righteous spouse towards Jana, so to the wicked spouse, the evil spouse can be a mechanism of leading to jahannam and this tool we see from the Quran and from the Sierra from the of those who oppose the Prophet system and from human history. One of the first Revelations is about a

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couple who would help one another

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In evil, Tibet yada a biller have been WhatsApp Ebola. The uncle of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam one of his worst enemies one of his staunchest opponents, Allah azza wa jal curses him and then Allah says one Morocco to who and his wife Hamada tell hottub she will be carrying the sticks that are going to burn even more. It is said that his wife and her name was omit Jamil, the sister of Abu Sufian. His wife, Omar Jamil, would eavesdrop and makan society find out as an anecdote or something that could be used, twisted, deformed, she would rush to her husband, and she would tell her husband ideas and plots and plans, then the husband would do something to harm Islam. So Allah

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is saying, just like she would rush back to her husband carrying snippets and news, then in the fire of hell, she will be rushing to her husband carrying the fuel that is going to make Jahannam worse for them. Subhan Allah, that's an evil couple. That is a couple that aided one another in evil in fitna, in opposing Islam, well, then, as they aided one another in this dunya they shall aid one another in the Hereafter, but not up there, down there. So we see this reality brothers and sisters, as a hobby through a little hobby theme will tell you about whether you've been filthy or for filthy and pure or for pure. And this is the general rule, but it is not always the case. There are plenty

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of exceptions. And sometimes those exceptions are worthy for us to think about and reflect one of those exceptions multiple times actually, Allah mentions some of these exceptions in the Quran. For example, the last verses of Surah to him, What does Allah say? barraba Allah Who method and Lilina Cafaro. Allah has given you a simile today an example to those who reject him. Look at the wives of Norway, and the wives of loot and Murata. No Hanumangarh. Ruth, look at the wife of Noah and loot can attack the Aberdeen him and everybody now Salia hain, the two of them, they were married to two very righteous servants of Ours, they had the best husbands. They had the best husbands on Earth, at

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that time, the prophet nor was the best human on Earth. At that time, the prophet Luth was of the best humans on Earth. But did that association in and of itself benefit them? For Hana Tao, Huma, they betrayed their husbands, they went against the teachings of their husbands, the piety of their husbands did not rub off on them, the beauty and the type of their husbands did not impact them positively. And instead for HANA Tahoma. So they betrayed them, how did they betrayed them, the wife of the prophet nor the wife of the Prophet noi, you know, at the time the Muslims were being persecuted in the time of no honey has set up, and the wife would hear of who converted because her

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husband's the prophet, and she would tell her people so and so converted, take care of him. She actually her loyalty was to her people against Allah and His Messenger, and she would betrayed the secrets of Noah Haida his salaam by talking about who had embraced Islam by giving that information and leaking that information. It is also said that when no hurry has Salam prepared for the flood and start building the ark, his wife doubted that this could ever happen and his wife mark to this concept of there being a flood or what not. And so Allah azza wa jal did mentioned her in the Quran for HANA Tahoma that the both of them betrayed and asked for loot either his Salam we know what you

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did. The Quran tells us what you did. We know what she did that even though she herself did not participate in the vulgarities of the people of Sodom and Gomorrah, because her kith and kin were from there, because her culture and our society was from there. When the angels came, she sent the message to her people that there is handsome men here you will like these men come and do with them as you please. So once again, she betrayed the secret of her husband. And this was enough that Allah azza wa jal says, oh, people look at this example. Oh people, when the spouse betrays when the spouse does not live up to the ideals for conda Tao, Huma, the both of them betrayed them, and the

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both were told, Well, caillard Hoda Nowra Ma Ma Delphine enter the fire of Jahannam with all those who are going to enter so we see here just because your husband is pious doesn't mean the wife is going to be pious and vice versa as well. If the if the husband is not pious, does it mean the wife is going to be empires? Well thought of Allah who Martha Lilla Dena Amanu and Allah has given me the example to those who believe of whom in Murata fear around the wife of fit around the worst human being to ever walk the face of this earth. We always think Hitler was the worst frown was 10 times 100 times worse than Hitler fit out and was worse than the Hitler of our era. He was

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Is the Hitler times 10 And Allah azza wa jal says his wife, she was not like him. His wife, of course was ossia. His wife ossia, would be tortured by her husband, she would be persecuted. And yet she never abandoned her faith. And she would make dua to Allah subhanho wa Taala even as her husband is torturing her, that Oh Allah, allow me to have a house next to you in Jana. tolerability, indica Beighton. Phil Jana, when a journeyman frown, save me from around and save me from the persecution of the town and make me of those who are righteous. So Allah azza wa jal gave her that dua, just because her husband was the worst of the worst, she did not have an excuse in the eyes of Allah to

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become the worst of the worst, she still had responsibility. And she still had the agency to say, I'm not going to do this. And because she opposed, she became the best of the best. So these examples show us that yes, while it is true, generally speaking, birds of a feather flock together, it's not always true. And if one spouse is not good or good, the other spouse can be good or not good as well. And that is something that the Quran is very clear about. Now, brothers and sisters, the point that comes here, and by the way, of course, right after this, mme has mentioned but even was single. And this is kind of indicating even if you're single, you should not be excused for Jana

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and Jana, whether you're married, whether you're single, you're Jana, and Johanna is not dependent on your spouse, true, your spouse can influence true The general rule is that your spouse does influence but in the eyes of Allah, that is not an excuse. And even if you have the worst spouse, you can be the best, the best spouse, the best person in the eyes of Allah. And if you have the best spouse, well, then you might turn out to be the worst of the worst. So what is some of the lessons we can derive from all of these examples? Well, for those of you who are single still to get married, looking to get married, I tell you bluntly, Inshallah, like an older brother, that you need

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to think long and hard about the decision that will frankly, in all likelihood be the single most important decision of your life. Far more important than your career far more important than which corporation you work for far more important than which city you live in shall be your choice of life partner, who do you choose to invest your entire energies, your emotions, your love to potentially become the father or mother of your children? Who is that person who should be your entire life partner in this world and then inshallah to Allah in the next, be careful brothers and sisters, young men and young women, to not be superficial. Do not look only at beauty, or whatever it is,

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that is number one on your mind. No, remember what our Prophet system said. Look at the one who has religion and manners D in and o'clock. These are the two things because you can have one without the other. There are people who might have some Dean, but they are really bad o'clock they haven't mastered that. Then there are some who might have good manners but they're not praying. They're not good believers. You want to find somebody who has both Dean and o'clock look beyond the superficial look beyond the first few weeks or months brothers sisters, do not to be superficial about the decision that will frankly impact every single stage of your lives. Remember, when you are getting

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married, you are potentially impacting not potentially you are impacting your children, your future children, your future legacy, this person you're marrying, is going to be the mother of your children or the father of your children. Who is this person? You better know this person and make the right decision? Praise taharah praise Takata ask Allah azza wa jal to bless you and look at the deen and the o'clock realize brothers and sisters, that as I said, this decision is going to impact you at every single level and potentially potentially make your agenda or Jahannam easier for you one of the two alone was done. Think about that. If you're already married, if you're already

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married, then it is each spouse's responsibility partially not fully. You are partially responsible men, you are partially responsible women, you are partially responsible not fully in the end of the day. Adults are responsible to Allah directly but partners couples, they have a partial responsibility to positively influence their partner. And so if you're already married, and your two spiritualities are at different levels, Weldon, frankly this is a problem. In a in a survey conducted by BYU University here in America, they surveyed hundreds of couples and they found that spiritual and faith based compatibility was one of the top factors in preserving a marriage. If

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you're on the same wavelength spiritually, if you're on the same wavelength in a faith based in a eemaan and acleda system, then actually that is one of the main

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factors that preserves your deen. contrast to this, if you're in different wavelengths spiritually, if you're on different understandings of what religion and DNR, this is one of the biggest disasters and one of the most potential causes of divorce, you're not on the same wavelength. So brothers and sisters, if you're not on the same wavelength, religiously, you're married and your spouse is not on the same wavelength, do not take this as a trivial matter, do not take this as something that you can or should ignore. Realize that your level of religion, your understanding of religion, it's like your entire operating system, all the programs of your life are going to be affected by it, the most

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important aspect to your existence is your deen. So your spouse should hopefully be on a similar wavelength. And the both of you should be pushing each one forward. But unfortunately, that doesn't always happen. And all too often, one of the two partners changes even. And this is actually a very, very difficult reality that we have to face, both of you marry, and perhaps that the first few years, the first decade, there's a similar wavelength, then one of the two radically changes either goes up, that's the golden Shala, or stuck for a lot goes down. And we have to deal with this as scholars issue because clerics people come to us all the time, that maybe the wife comes and says,

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Oh, I want to practice Islam more, but my husband does not pray, and I'm beginning to pray. Now he's getting angry, I'm wearing the hijab, whatnot, or vice versa. And that is that, you know, the one of the spouses comes in, says, you know, I'm married, and we were like this together, then now all of a sudden, major sins are happening. He's committing major sins, he is not praying, we used to pray. Now he's not praying. So they come to us expecting to solve these issues. And of course, there is no easy solution. So some generic advice to couples who are not on the same wavelength. First and foremost realized if you have changed, if you're the one and if you're listening to the hug, but

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then inshallah most likely, if you have changed, you've risen up, you've become more practicing Muslim. So if you have changed, then realize that it is your responsibility to be super gentle, because in the end of the day, the partner you're married is still the same. You might have had a religious rediscovery you might have had an experience that causes you to become closer to Allah love the messenger more good for you. But realize your partner whom you've been with for 510 15 years, perhaps she hasn't had that. So the fact that you have moved upwards and onwards means there's more responsibility on you to be gentle, and how you push your spouse to get to the same

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level as you also realize a very important point of Islamic theology. Just because you love someone doesn't mean you can guide someone in Nicola de mon Babita. Allah says to the Prophet sallallahu, either he was setting him you cannot guide those whom you love guidance is from Allah what I can Allah Hi yah, demon Yasha. Just because you love somebody, just because that person is your life partner and you have become religious don't think the other person will automatically follow. We see this in North Andover. They love their wives, they love them. It wasn't enough to guide their wives also realize dear partners dear spouses, generally speaking, long lectures, and harsh rhetoric is

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not the best way to move your partner to become more spiritual. Generally speaking, giving threats and being nasty and mean and angry is not the best way to gain the hearts of anyone, much less the hearts of your spouse and your life partner. Realize you might have to work for the long run by demonstrating the positive impact of religion on your life. Show them you are better for the deen show them you are more mature, more loving, more compassionate, demonstrate through your actions, the beauty of being more religious, not through your harshness and tongue, not through threats. And whatever you do brothers and sisters, husbands in particular, whatever you do, do not use the D word

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to try to make your wives a better person. The D word here is divorce. You're not going to threaten your wife to be a better Muslim by threatening to divorce her even if by the way, even if a divorce must take place threatening to divorce so that she becomes a better Muslim. That's not how you want real Islam to come. real Islam has to come from Love of Allah and His Messenger real Islam has to come from within simply threatening and being harsh is not the way to increase love and the man and again I say this, maybe the relationship is so bad that divorce is the only option. If that is the case, then threatening to divorce is not the way to do it the way the Profit System commanded us to

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do it with dignity with kindness with compassion. And don't expect that when you harsh and mean and nasty your partner all of a sudden is going to become the better Muslim or Muslim. No, that's not the tactic to use. Also brothers and sisters, choose your battles wisely.

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The if you mashallah have grown spiritually and you are now doing things you didn't choose to do, don't expect your partner to go all that way up with you begin with the basics began with love of Allah began with love of the prophets Assam began with trying to avoid the major sins, avoid that which are more trivial concentrate on the bigger battles. And also, a lot of times, a lot of friction comes between couples based on understandings of which religious scholar to follow, which must have which shift to take advice from as long as the scholars you're looking up to are mainstream, and within the purview of mainstream Islam don't make this to be an issue of animosity

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discussion should be civil, as I've said in my lectures about sectarianism. If your spouse follows another preacher, another shift of the mainstream, I'm not talking about the fringe of the mainstream of the Ummah, then this is not something that should cause you so much distress, or they're not praying five times a day, or they're not fasting the month of Ramadan, or they're not avoiding the major sins Alhamdulillah. Then as for which the person is listening to this is much more easy to manage, and don't make this an issue of such animosity or hatred. Look at the broader pictures, see the positives and negatives. And most importantly, perhaps the best way to influence

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your partner is simply through the language of love, the language of compassion, the language of spending, quality time, not by lecturing not by, you know, quoting verdicts and photos simply by being a better version of who you were a year or two ago, being the best version you can be and your partner sees how you have changed because of religion. And the last point we'll mention, never ever forget the power of dua Never underestimate the power of dua, our hearts are between the fingers of Allah he changes as however he wishes, we make dua to Allah to make our hearts firm, it would make dua to Allah to bless our partners and spouses and in light of all of this talk of marriage and

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whatnot tomorrow in sha Allah Allah, we're going to be having a full day conference primarily meant for the singles from the hood until Maghrib. About the aspects of choosing the right spouse from motive, Tricia, all of the community has invited practical advice about marriage and then after Isha for the matrimonial section Inshallah, because we believe that as a community center, especially in a non Muslim land, it is our responsibility to take charge of this of this matter, and to be someone who can guide or to be an entity that can guide those that are single about the best way to get married, those that are married about the best way to improve their marriage and those that want to

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get married to facilitate finding partners from within the community that will all be taking place tomorrow. BarakAllahu welcome for what I tell them when I find a way to be male or female to a degree Hakeem Akoto Mattis Marone was tough for a lot of the money welcome. What do you say to Mr. McCollum in festival in the Hall of a photo Rahim?

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hamdulillah Halawa that I had a summit Ulladulla millet voila Mueller wollemi Akula who found what I do? Dear Muslims, we're all aware of the painful loss of one of the iconic scholars of our Ummah, dare I say the iconic scholar of our timeframe and that is Yusuf al Qaradawi. May Allah Subhana Allah have mercy on his soul and grant and for those brothers and sisters, the loss of a scholar is always a time of reflection is always a time of deep introspection. Our Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, Allah does not take knowledge away simply by snatching it out of the chests of people. Allah does not take knowledge away simply by snatching it out of the chests of people. Rather he

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takes knowledge away by the death of Aruna Ma, by the death of scholars. This says how knowledge and scholarship is taken away such that when scholarship is taken away, there are no scholars that are legitimate. So the prophets are some said the people will take ignoramuses to be the rulers. And so they're going to cause themselves to go astray. And they're going to cause others to go astray as well. When scholars leave this earth when scholars move on, that is when we most appreciate them. That is when we realize we should have appreciated them more when they were here. But even if the scholars live them have moved on. Their legacies remained their legacies are there. I remind all of

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us that our profit system told us that the scholars are the inheritors of the prophets respect the odema of this world, take advantage of them make dua for them. And I have a small anecdote I wanted to share about Jacques Cousteau Franco Bowie that demonstrates what real scholarship does, despite the disagreements, no doubt being who he was and being such a iconic mover and shaker you cannot accomplish this global movement without getting criticism and without having BPL people disagree with you. And he wrote his most famous book and Halal haram fit Islam, which is an amazing book and Allah has blessed him with an amazing acceptance no other book of modern fit

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He has been given more acceptance than this book. And this is well known. And I've explained why in my lecture. This book was published back in the 60s 70s and began spreading across the world. Eventually, it's made it made its way to the land of Arabia, where the fatwas of the local Allama were sometimes different than this book and the great scholar of Arabia at the time, the Mufti Sheikh Abdulaziz bin baz, who is his own great art in which they had a great person of knowledge we respect and admire him, he read the book. Yeah, the book read to him. And he wrote a letter to share Qaradawi, which is preserved. And this was back in the early 80s. And he said, Allah has blessed you

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with this book. This book is doing an amazing job. However, I have eight points of disagreement. And because of these points of disagreement, you know, I want you to think about this. I don't want this book to be spread in my country right now, because these are eight issues that I strongly disagree and he listed them one after the other. And he said to the chef, please look into them. And if you can change your mind, I'd appreciate it. Chef called Bobby wrote back, a very beautiful letter again, although this is preserved, and he said, My dear esteemed Mufti Sheikh Abdulaziz even bars, if people would change their filthy opinions for other people, I would be the first to change my

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opinions out of my respect to you. I respect you so much that if people changed opinions out of respect, I will be the first to change my opinions because of my respect for you. But people of knowledge, don't change opinions based upon other people. This is what they're each their heart has reached them to an chakra we said it is the Sunnah of Allah, that within the scholarly community, you will find differences of opinion from the time of the Sahaba there were differences. So we're not going to solve these differences simply by eliminating them. These are the positions I have come to, if I am right, I hope Allah will reward me double. If I'm wrong, I still expect Allah to reward

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me once for a sincere attempt and Jessa Kamala who Koran chef Ibn baz was so impressed with this letter. And the other of this letter he had never met she called Ali, he wrote him an invitation you are invited to Hajj to come and meet me a royal hydro when invited to come and Hajj and the two of them then interact together and they established a friendship together. And Chef Qaradawi says, I was shocked that even though the chef's that although I don't like these eight opinions when I visited the kingdom, lo and behold, my book was allowed to be sold because the Mufti then allowed the book, even though he didn't agree with those opinions. This is what real rhythm does. It teaches

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you tolerance. I don't have to agree. I don't have to necessarily see eye to eye but this is a great item. He has an opinion, live and let live. And I say to all of us here, do not take other religious Muslims as your enemies do not take folks that are lowering their head to Allah praying five times a day having a slightly different belief slightly different than you don't take them as enemies. Even from the time of the Sahaba there was some diversity. So keep that spirit alive. You choose the Allah ma you most like you choose the scholars, you are resonating with most the ones whom you think know the most and fear Allah the most, and then follow them your brother, your spouse, your cousin,

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your best friend chooses another group of scholars as long as they're within the mainstream. And again, what is the mainstream media have given a whole bunch of Buzz last two months about this as long as they're within the mainstream of the Ummah live and let live do not allow animosity to be so much that you cannot tolerate a difference of opinion learn from the spirit of Chef Qaradawi angiopoietin bas despite the fact that they did not see eye to eye on so many issues. They remained utmost firmly brothers in Islam and one Jacobin boss passed away. I was actually in sort of the at the time chef Qaradawi flew in immediately on the same day and he was in the first line to pray

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