Salat al-Istikhara; Reciting Quran During Monthly Cycle Q&A #25

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AI: Summary © The segment discusses the use of the Quran in women's recitation during the Trump administration, highlighting the importance of the title "Hat the Greatest People of Islam" and the use of the "will" in the culture of the United States. The speaker also discusses the importance of praying for the Hara and finding a good Hara, as well as the concept of the heart and its relation to reality. The segment also touches on the importance of praying for the woman and not letting things happen to her.
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Salam Alaikum Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuh Alhamdulillah wa salatu salam ala Rasulillah who Allah Allah He was sabe he woman Wildhammer but welcome to another Tuesday's episode of q&a. And today inshallah Allah will begin with a question from Sister Nadia from South Africa mashallah Tabata Kala, she emails saying that she has been taught in from from her local aroma, that she should not recite the Quran during her monthly cycle. Yet she says that she's logging online, and she's seeing fatawa from other scholars in other countries stating that women can recite the Quran during the menses. And she says that she is memorizing the Quran. And sometimes her cycle lasts for many, many

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days more than a week. And so, her memorization, and her review is cut off. So she emails asking, Can you explain what are the positions of the scholars regarding reciting the Quran, do it for the lady during her monthly cycle. Now, this issue is one that we have to deal with with multiple factors. I want to begin by stating that sister Nadia, you're emailing me saying that your local scholars are saying one thing. And my general philosophy and position is that a Muslim should stick with the scholarly consensus within one's own area. And that is the best thing to do. You don't want to rock the boat, it's not healthy to have positions that are outside of, you know, completely

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unknown in your community as long as their mainstream views you know, obviously, and this position that you have been taught, it is a valid and correct one, it is one that, in fact, the majority of scholars of the past and present have held. And it is true to say that it is the default position of three of the Sunni schools of law. And therefore, if you wish to follow this position and stick with your communities or their mother, and that is great. And this position is the position of many of the Sahaba and to have your own and that is the following that during the monthly cycle that a lady is and also the man in the state of Geneva. So it applies to the man in the state of Geneva, and the

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woman in the state of Geneva and the woman in the state of the men monthly cycle that in all of that ruling is the same and that is that the majority position is that it is not allowed to recite the Quran. during that timeframe. And your mama Timmy the famous scholar of Hadith he writes in his book, The jammer, he writes that this position is the position of the majority of the companions of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam and the tabby rune, meaning their students it is the position of Sophia and authority of Nevada Shafi Imam Muhammad has helped and they all said that the high yield or the lady in the menses and the junior of the man in the state of Geneva should not

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recite the Quran, unless they recite a portion of it like you know, do our banana for dunya hacer una so that much is allowed. And they allowed such a lady and the man to do vicar of Allah. And that's the end quote. So a Timothy is stating that the majority position is that it is not allowed unless they state a portion of the verse for the sake of dua for the sake of Baraka, but not as an act of worship or as a Tila of the Quran. And he then says, but of course it is allowed to do vicar Subhan, Allah Alhamdulillah, La ilaha illallah do as all of that is allowed, but the recitation of the Quran would not be allowed during that stage. Now, what is the main evidence that these route

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AMA and the great scholars of the past have and remember, this is the position of the majority of the Ummah, you have the humbly position, you have the Hanafy position, you have the shaft very position, and it is also the explicit opinion of a number of companions and their students to tap your own. What is the evidence that the US well again, I'll just quote you one or two evidences, then we'll move on to the next position. The most authentic evidence they use. It is not quite explicit, and that's where the controversy comes the most authentic, which is in Sahadi. It's a very authentic idea. Nobody can deny that. It is the authenticity nobody can deny. The meaning is where

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it comes a little bit Great. Ah, Aisha Radi Allahu Anhu our mother she narrates that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam would lean into my room, my chambers. Now pause here. What does she mean by this? So there was a wall between the masjid and between the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, his house that was directly connected to the masjid and if you put your hand outside of the

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While you would enter the house of the Prophet system, if you put your hand outside the house, you would enter the Masjid. So the same wall on one side of it was the house on the other side was the masjid of the Prophet sallallahu. It was said with a small gap between and there are good diagrams online, replicating that that house. And so if the prophet saw some wanted to when he was in the mosque, he could lean back in in the state of erotica. For example, when he's a teacup, he could lean back in and lie down half of his body would be in the house and half of his body would be in the masjid. And so the Prophet I showed the loved one has said that he would lean back into my house

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while I was in the state of menstruation, and he would recite the Quran, he would recite the Quran while I was in my menses. Now, where does this lead? Or how does one derive the prohibition to recite the Quran upon the lady in menses based upon this narration, so some of the great scholars even knew they'll quickly read the famous shot for a scholar. He says that this hadith, or this narration would not have any benefit to derive from it, except if it was well known that the one who is menstruating, the lady who is menstruating is not allowed to recite the Quran. And therefore, the point of the narration comes that it may be recited in front of her it may be recited in her

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presence. Otherwise, he is saying if it was unknown, that ladies, you know, don't have to recite the Quran. What is the purpose of this narration? And that's an interesting point here. Why would I show the loved one make this point of saying I was in my mind says he would recite the Quran what is the point of that? So even Duplicolor it says the whole point of this is it is it was well known amongst the Sahaba that the women would not recite the Quran during their timeframe, their monthly cycle and our issues narration came to prove that you may recite the Quran in her presence that the man may even lean on his wife like the process was sometimes lean on and lie down his head would be on the

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lap of Azure of the law. Why now that doesn't mean anything you may do the cut and recite the Quran, you may recite the Quran, even if the lady cannot that is the position that the majority of scholars have derived from this narration. There is also another narration which is explicit, but it is not authentic. So in this chapter, the chapter of women reciting Quran you have one Hadith that is authentic, but not quite explicit, you have to derive it. And then you have another Hadith that is not authentic, but it is explicit. And this is the famous Hadith which all of the students of knowledge have studied. It is the Heidi that had been our model the law one, that he said that the

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Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said that the lady in menses and the man or woman in the state of Geneva should not recite anything from the Quran. And this hadith is explicit. Absolutely. It is reported in as soon as they've been major, however, pretty much by unanimous consensus of all the scholars of Hadith and why this is the case is beyond the scope of our Be brief lecture. But basically, everybody my Muhammad body himself didn't maybe himself they have they even know Josie, Toby and Noah we have been Tamia on and on the list goes on and on up until our times Jacobian buys all of them. And Shankarlal Barney, they all considered this narration to be weak because it has a

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well known weakness. Everybody knows if even the most basic student of knowledge will know that because of a particular narrator. This narration is not authentic. And it is well known that in our shared era, we do not pass rulings based upon inauthentic narrations. Therefore, putting these two together, this is their main portion of evidence that there is a Hadith and Bahati that seems to indicate this. And then there is a Hadith Element Manager that is explicit about this point. And as I said, this is the position of the majority of the scholars now I said there's a dissenting opinion. What is the dissenting opinion? Well, the famous position of the Maliki School of Law,

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that's the fourth and the final school, the Maliki School of Law. And also, there is a fifth school called the boy Hades or the literalist and also you have some of the earlier opinions. Remember Shafi you met Muhammad, it is narrated from him in a opinion that is not the more well known or accepted one. It is also the position of some of the earliest schools of law that are now defunct, such as the Public School of Law. in Manitoba, the evangelical authority had a school of law it is also the position of Ibn Taymiyyah, who argued very explicitly for this Ibrahim his student very clear in his arguments as well. My own teacher even earthed me and allowed Hummel and also the

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permanent or the Council of Senior Scholars of Saudi Arabia, and generally they are humbly in mentor but in this issue, they broke away from the from the mainstream position, and they allowed the lady in her menses to recite the Quran, and what is their primary evidence? Their primary evidence is to

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summarise what Ibn Taymiyyah says in his fatawa Ibn Taymiyyah says that during the life of the prophet Sallallahu, I said we're doing during the era of the revelation of the Quran, all of the ladies were obviously menstruating. And yet despite that fact, there is nothing explicit and that is authentic in this regard. And therefore, if this was something that would have been forbidden, you would have found multiple a hadith you would have found it to be something well known and narrated the fact that we have to derive it from an explicit Hadith. And that the only from a sorry, we have to derive it from an authentic hadith is not it's not explicit, and that as for the plight of Hadith

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by unanimous consensus of all the schools of law, we do not base our rulings or our theology on a statement that is not authentically attributed to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. And so the position of this other school are the other scholars is that an imminent claim? he elaborates on this quite a lot as well, it will play him says that, essentially, I'm paraphrasing, so don't quote me exactly, but I'm paraphrasing. He's saying that it's really not appropriate for the lady to abandon the Quran for so long. And she should also be reciting. And perhaps if she doesn't recite during this long timeframe, she will forget what she's memorized or her routine and habit will be

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broken. So on what basis are we going to deny her an action of worship, that is not explicitly forbidden in any authentic hadith and of course, it's not forbidden in the Quran itself. So this is the position of inventory of nuclear man and others that it is allowed for the lady in the menses to recite the Quran is especially even more so if she is memorizing, or she is having a routine and she doesn't want to break the routine, or she is reviewing what she has memorized. Now, these are the two positions out there. Me personally in this issue, Allah knows best I am very, very sympathetic to the default majority position. And I and you are saying that your own community and society is

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accustomed to a position. So if you're able to then stick with that position, nonetheless, if you choose to follow based upon what I've just said, that you've been telling me and so many great whatever they have allowed this based upon their understanding of the evidence is and you feel this is where I'll make an exception. If you feel that staying away from the Quran for such a long period of time will impact your memorization will impact your spirituality in this case, I have no hesitation in saying that you may follow the other opinion, because it's not a minority position in the sense that what I mean, it's not something that is extremely unknown. It is one of the major

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schools of law, it is some of the giants of our religion. So it's not an obscure I should say. I mean, in the grand scheme of things, it is a minority, but it's not an obscure there's a difference so obscure is Shas, which means it's very minority, very small group, and minority and majority as we know, this is this would be three schools here, one school there. But the point is that one of the schools of law allows this along with many of the giants along with many modern scholars who, when they look at the evidence is they feel that, that perhaps some of the earliest scholars they they simply out of you know that the fact that the lady should not recite should not pray salah, so

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they made an extrapolation, she should not be a Quran. There is no explicit Hadith in this regard. Now, that having been said, so my personal opinion to be very explicit, is that if you're able to stick with the majority, they seem to have a good basis, because in the end of the day, why would I show the Allahu anha say what you saying unless it was something that was understood, I'm sympathetic to that. Nonetheless, I'm also sympathetic to Ubuntu me and no claim when they say this isn't good enough that the evidence is obscure, and ambiguous is a better term not obscure. And the fact that so many of the, you know, there are no narrations, despite the fact that half the society

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or more is female, and there's no explicit authentic narrations. And so why prohibit somebody from doing something that will make them closer to Allah? So again, my position is, don't obviously if you're a Maliki then no problem. You're following your school. If you are one of the other three schools, stick with your schools, if you're able to, that's the best thing to do. However, if you genuinely feel it's going to be something that will be detrimental because I've memorized the Quran, I know what it is when you're in the mood when you're doing every day, and then you stop I remember Subhanallah when I was memorizing the Quran, if I went on a journey for a day or two and I stopped

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my memorization will impact me it would impact the swiftness of memorization will impact my Maharajah Am I making, you know, my reviewing? And so obviously you're saying you your ministration is longer than a week. I mean, maybe 10 days, let's say so 1/3 of the month and so only 20 days you're memorizing 10 days or not your whole routine is messed up. If that is the case, then if you choose to follow the other position, don't make a big deal. Don't tell your community don't cause any commotion. You know, in your private life, no problem you may

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Follow the fatwa given to me and these major scholars, if you feel that it will be better for your ima. Now that having been said, Before I move on to the next question. This was about the Tilawat of the Quran, or the memorization of the Quran, it was not about touching the most half, that is a separate action and touching the most half is a higher category, because even a man or a woman who does not have will do cannot touch the most half forget about judo and menstruation, even a man or a woman, it's equal here doesn't matter. If you don't have will do, you cannot touch a copy of the most half. And this is the explicit position of all of the Sahaba who have an opinion on this issue.

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There is no dissenting voice amongst the sahaba. And it is the position of all of the schools, the four schools of law, and there are over 20 of the earliest scholars of Islam that we don't even know a single person who went against them in the earliest time of Islam. And, and it is something that is well known that this was their position. It is narrated that Salman al Farsi or the Allahu and the Sahaba of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam that the group of people were traveling with him, and he went to relieve himself. And then he came back. And then his students said that oh, yeah, nice, respected chef or teacher can you do well, do we want to ask you a tough scene of a

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verse, okay. So the Sahaba, the students of Selma and Farsi requested that, you know, we want to talk about the Tafseer of a verse, so can you please do Google send Manna Pharisee, the famous Sahaba he said, Go ahead and ask me, I am not going to touch the Quran. When you touch the Quran you need to have Google. So he explicitly said this. And there is a Hadith of course that is authentic in this regard reported by by Buddha within the Musa Musa email Muhammad and others that are prophets Allah Allahu alayhi wa sallam said that none should touch the Quran, except if they are pure. And when the Quran or sunnah uses law here, they mean pure in the technical sense, meaning the

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sense of having done will do lie. Yeah, Mr. Khurana in the Torah here, this is an explicit Hadith, none should touch the Quran, except if they have to Hara and Dr. Hara here clearly means the issue of having will do when you touch the Musa. Therefore, if you wish to memorize and you're in your monthly cycle, in this case, you should not physically touch your hand to the most half, you have a number of options. Either you can use a computer screen and your mouse and you are not touching the mouse. However, if you do that, or you use an iPad or iPhone, and use some type of you know, instrument or rubber pen or something to go over it, or if you have no other option, except that you

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have a physical copy of the must have. In this case, you will wear a glove just like if I don't have Lulu and I wanted to touch the Quran, I would put some covering and that is why in our culture, it is very common for the most half to have a covering because you don't need to have although to touch the covering. And that's the reason why in our cultures miss so many cultures, the Quran has a covering that in case you need to pull it down in case you need to move it from place A to place B that covering will do the job therefore bottom line in your monthly timeframe.

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If you need to if there's a reason to UAE follow the minority position and recite or memorize the Quran. However, in that timeframe, you cannot touch the most half, you must use either a third party mechanism, let's call it which is like a computer screen. Or you may use an actual copy but you do not touch it, use a glove or use a pencil to move it. Of course you can see no problem but you cannot use your bare hands to touch the sacred book. And this applies to men and women who don't have will do because we respect the Quran as the book of Allah subhanho wa taala. So this is the answer to the first question.

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We now move on to the second question. Sister annum from Canada, Sister nm from Canada emails saying that she has a looks like obviously she's an unmarried lady. She has a proposal from a person and she has prayed is the Hara. And her question is that she is confused about the interpretation of the istikhara. What does it mean? So she's asking she's emailing saying, What are the signs that she should be looking for when it comes to the Sahara? And how can she make a decision? Now this is a very good question. And it's basically a question about the solitude is the Hora and before I began the answer

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let me just say to SR nm and all the young men and women who are worried about marriage and what not, I mean, obviously we ask Allah azza wa jal to find the right your spouse for you. And the salata is the cause.

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It is a very, very necessary step as you undertake this decision. In fact, in the Hadith of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, it is explicitly mentioned that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam would teach us is the hara for marriage and for other purposes and that is why is the Hara is associated with with marriage. Unfortunately, the average Muslim or many people believe it's the Hara is only for marriage and this is a big mistake no, is the Hara is for any major decision? And that's why the Hadith says of Javid of Nagaland others the prophets are some tortoise is the hara for marriage and similar things, what does it mean and similar means of anything of importance,

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anything that is a significant decision that we are required not required, we are strongly encouraged to pray solitude is the heart so, how does one praise the horror and what are the realities of surrender it's the heart of the world is the horror. It comes from the Arabic word for higher and higher it means good high it means that which is beneficial is the horror means to ask for that which is beneficial to seek that which is good that is the meaning of the word Salah tool is the hara and the the notion of praying istikhara it is something that is done for any major decision as we said before you actually do the decision before you sign the contract before you

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don't take the job before you move cities before you do the actual whatever major thing you have in your mind. You pray solitude is the Hara. And there is another thing that you're supposed to do, along with obviously contemplation and decision making two main things that you do. I spoke about this many times. Even Taymiyah mentions that our scholars of the past said that whoever does is the hara and is the Shara will have no regrets two things is the Hara is the Shara is the Hara. You ask Allah azza wa jal for what is best is the Shah. You ask the people whom you trust for their advice. My Shura Shura. Okay, so it's the Hora dua to Allah is the Shara back and forth dialogue with the

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people who love you, the people that are experts, the people who know you, the people who know what's going to happen. So if you're going to take a job at a company, you go to the people working in the company, hey, well, what do you think? Or is it a good company? Do you like it or not? If you're moving to a new city, you're going to ask the Muslims of that city here moving to the city. What are the pros and cons Tell me so that is the SHA IRA, and we do both of them is the hara and is to Shara and the Hadith of istikhara. It is the most authentic hadith in Sahih Bukhari that javelin, Abdullah said that the prophet the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam would regularly teach us is

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the hara in all of our affairs, just like he would teach us a sutra from the Quran. This shows us that the Prophet system would make it a habit for the Sahaba that they would learn is the Hara. Just like they would learn a surah from the Quran, they would constantly do is the hara for anything that they needed to and the Hadith goes on that he said, when any one of you is concerned with an issue or a matter when any one of us is concerned you're you're you're troubled, you're bothered, what should I do? When there's a ham and the ham here means a major decision you're worrying plan a plan B plan C which one should I do, by the way is too hard. It doesn't just have to be over two you can

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have three offers in front of you three companies give you the the job and you're wondering which one should I take so you praise the hara over this no problem. So our Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said when any of you is concerned with an issue or a matter, let him pray to raka that are not followed ie to special or cause for salata is the hara, and then let him make this dua. Therefore, when you pray is the hara you should not use the word prayer or fajr prayer or any other prayer to do is the hara you should pray to special regard for Salah is the Hara. Now somebody says, can I combine the Sunnah of the herb with the Sahara? can I combine the two here to rescue this the

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Hara? My response is I don't even want to go there. My dear brother and sister Don't be so lazy. Pray to god please Okay, just don't don't you have a major decision you can make to Dakar Don't be cheap and you buy one get one free in this regard. You're making a major decision. Pray your Sooners and then pray. I'm not saying it's about that. I'm just saying don't be so stingy. Do your Muslim pray today I'll take you less than three minutes for in front of Allah subhana wa Tada. So prayer is the heart of special prayer. Now obviously you cannot pray during the prohibited timeframes, which is after frigid until the sun rises when the sun is above you when the sun is about to set after

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also, other than those three prayer timings anytime of the day and night. Pray to recap special, you may recite anything that you want in it. There's nothing narrated about which surah is you need to recite and then after that this theme is the majority opinion of small groups that before that listening but the majority of position

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because our prophets and most of them said that pray to Raka and then when he says and then this means after the Sneem and then let him say the following do art now because it's the heart are so important. I'm actually going to translate phrase by phrase and I'll say it in Arabic as well so that you can open up a book and write your English skill and write the DUA properly. The DA is as follows Allahumma in the ESTA Heruka will MC O Allah, O Allah, I asked you for what is better based upon your knowledge of Allah I asked you for the better option based upon your knowledge as the hero I'm asking which one is better? Bill mica you have their MO Allah was stuck with the Ruka bill the

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latika and oh Allah I asked you to give me power to do this decision because you have the one that you are the one that gives the power Stelco de rocha, I asked you for the power I asked you for the euro the world the resolve to do it and then opening up the doors to quadratic with your powder and with your coder Oh Allah subhanho wa Taala allow me allow this to happen well as Aluko many public allow them and ask you Allah from your benevolence and your generosity from your magnanimity from your blessing. So Allah I'm asking you for in Nakuru whether aka because of Allah you have power and you are capable and I have no power and I'm incapable what Allah MU What are them and you know

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everything and I know nothing will enter I love who you are. And you are the one who knows the Unseen Oh Allah you know the future. And you know what's what's going to happen if I choose Option A? And you know what's what's gonna happen if I choose option B or Wallah you are the it will Haven the I love Allah who you you know everything Oh ALLAH. So of course I asked you which of the two will be better because you know which of the two will be better? And Oh Allah, I asked you not only which one is better, I asked you to give me the power to then undertake the decision to actually choose the one that is better and open up the doors for the one that is better. And then so this is

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the Mocha demo, this is the introduction. And then you say the phrase Allahumma in Quinta, Thailand under the armor, oh Allah if you know that this matter has an armor now. If you want to add a phrase here, even if you don't speak Arabic, no problem. You can say it in your local language in your in your English, whatever it is, Oh Allah, if you know that this matter, you only had the ammo you pause you say, my accepting the job at this company or my accepting the proposal of this man or if you're the man wanting to propose that, if you know that this matter my proposing to the sister so you can say it. And if you want you can be quiet and have it in your knee. Because Allah knows your

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Nia and Allah knows why you're praying is the harder so either of the two is acceptable even though there's no question that the better is to verbalize it because that will be more perfect. And so the reason I said not in Arabic because obviously not everybody speaks Arabic so no problem. If you say it in another language, Allah understands all languages. So you say Oh ALLAH if you know that this matter, Kira LiFi Dini, when she walked over to me, that this matter is better for me, in my religion, and for my livelihood, my worldly affairs and for my ask Iran so look at the three things Subhanallah What a beautiful comprehensive two. Oh Allah if you know that this job offer that I'm

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going to take with the new company, oh Allah if you know that this proposal in marriage I will let you know that my moving from this city to that city will be better for my religion and be better for my livelihood and be better for my akhira What more do you want Subhan Allah all three things Oh ALLAH if you know will be better for all of them. And then one version in another version he says IG the empty will actually the affairs of mine that are short term and the affairs of mine that are long term, the affairs of this world and the affairs of the next one if it is better for me in all of these regard then what are we supposed to say? * dude holy warrior said holy from Abba weekly

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fee then Oh Allah make it possible for me and bless me with the power to do it felt comfortable and familiar who both of them are allowed here we are Sid Hooli and make it easy for me and then bless me with it so Subhanallah once again a beautiful dua number one give me the power to do it. Number two make the doing of it easy for me number three once I've done it bless that decision and make it the best for me what a beautiful beautiful draft and honestly dear Muslims, it surprises me how stingy some people are with this blessing of is the hara they don't take advantage of it. And it is one of the best blessings that Allah has blessed this from my with why would you not want to praise

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the hara for each and every major decision? So if so then you say for delivery or for totally were suited, automatically fee fee hit and then you say hola hola and Quinta, Thailand and the higher the number and oh Allah if you know that this deed or this matter and then you can say it again shall rule li D will arise you will accept the hierarchy but to me

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Be if it's going to be for my detriment in my religion and for my livelihood and for my next life in this case for serif one knee was serif knee and who a double turn me away from it and turn it away from me let the both of us turn our backs and walk away from each other, let it not be something that I go towards or it comes towards me break it away from me and break me away from it. And then you end this to that in a beautiful way that Allah McNeil Hydra Hydra can or Allah homak Dooley both are allowed, oh Allah decree for me good wherever that is some Marubeni behind somebody, maybe again, both are allowed Rob linea norderney And then oh Allah make me pleased with whatever decision

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you have made. So the ending is also very powerful that Oh Allah, whatever decision I make, give me the power to do the better of the decision. And then whatever decision has been made, oh Allah make me content with that decision. Now, this is the famous hadith of Jabil in Sahih Bukhari and I've explained the entire Hadith. So going back, our sister is saying, and it applies to anybody that anytime you're in a major situation now pause here we pray is the Hara. For anything that is significant we and what is significant, you know, it's common sense. You don't press the harder to buy a new suit or something and you don't press the harder for a trivial matter. But you will press

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the harder for something that is significant. And I give multiple examples here, right? Do you want to resign from your job and get another job? That's a very precarious situation. Should I show it or not? You have two jobs on the table offers you don't know which one to take, okay? To propose. And this is the rest of your life, your marriage, to change houses, to change locations. These are big decisions and you're kind of vacillating. should I should I not? That's when you pray is the horror and that's why our Prophet system said when one of you is troubled with a matter when one of you has a hum and hum is a big decision, so we don't trivialize the religion by making fun of his the heart

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and doing it for trivial things. We praise the heart for things of significance so we practice the harder with sincerity with for sure, we then say that the slim we raise our hands up to Allah subhanho wa Taala if you have not memorized the DUA, no problem you're outside of Salah you may pick up a piece of paper and put it in your hands and read it or you may have it in front of you in the book no problem because you're outside of Salah so that is the oldest Hadith can be picked up and read from a book No problem. Now once you've prayed is the hara and you've made the DUA This is where a lot of cultural mythology starts. This is where a lot of you know interesting

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interpretations happen. Some people say that go to sleep immediately on your right hand side and you know make sure you don't drink or eat some people say this Some people say that some peoples are gonna see a dream. And if the dream has, you know, this color or that color or made of his green, go red stop, I don't know what it is. But there is nothing in the Quran and Sunnah about any type of divine sign that will come to you. This type of divine sign is something that is not something that is mentioned in the text. Also, there is another cultural connotation listen to this carefully. A lot of people think that when I pray istikhara, I have to cleanse my heart of any bias towards one

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of the two decisions. And I need to be totally neutral, like something you know, balancing on a needle, let's say just complete neutral. And this the heart is going to come and tippet one way psychologically, they feel this way. And again, this is a notion that has no basis in the Quran, or in the authentic sunnah. And it contradicts the meaning of the Hadith. Now, there is a very, very weak narration almost fabricated, which is in some of the tertiary books mentioned, even a Sunni and his omiyo. Laila, which is a very tertiary book, and it is well known to be full of weak traditions, imam in No, we mentioned this hadith, and then it says, this is a very strange Hadith with people

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that don't know in the chain. So this is where it comes from. What does it say? It says, but it is not from the Prophet. So some it's a mistake to attribute to Him that when one of you is concerned about a matter, let him pray. It's the hardest seven times, and then let him follow the intuition of his heart because that intuition will be what is good for him. Now, this hadith does mention intuition, but it is not a hadith is not authentic, we should say it's not an authentic hadith. So there is no such thing as feeling of the heart. Also this notion of dreams and is the Hara. There is no Hadith that links dreams with this the horror now, can a dream show you something good? Yes. So

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if a dream happens, take it into account. But there is no inherent linkage between this the horror and dreams. So to be clear, dreams are a generic blessing from Allah, they can happen without the horror and with this the horror. A true dream, if it's interpreted properly, is might indeed be something you should act upon. But a dream and it's the horror or not

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intrinsically linked together, some people think they're going to see a dream based on the dream they have to do it, there's the heart or no, we need to be very clear.

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Almost inevitably, when you have an option in front of you, your heart is already either inclined to accept it or reject it. In fact, generally speaking, you will only get to istikhara when you're seriously considering the offer. Right? Generally speaking, you're kinda sorta already somewhat interest generally, I'm not saying you have to be. There's nothing wrong at all with your heart. Even certain I want to do this no problem. It doesn't ruin the istikhara the is the Hara is a dua to Allah to grant you what is best. It's as simple as that. There is no magic formula, there is no art we know it's nothing, mythology, nothing like this. It is the dua to Allah that Oh, Allah, whatever

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is best make that easy for me. There's nothing to do with your emotions, with your dreams with your intuition. Now, could you use your intuition and dreams perhaps, but in and of itself, is the hara has nothing to do with internal intuitions and internal dreams. So you make your istikhara. And you then go with whatever you want to and if you're confused, go ahead and choose one of the two and go with it. Because here's the point, your istikhara will then automatically guide you to that which is best. And if you wish to repeat the istikhara multiple times in and of itself before you make the decision. There is nothing intrinsically wrong if you praise the hara occasionally now if you were

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to do this multiple times, one after the other, that seems to go against the Hadith. But once every day or two, you know, once every few days, you're still contemplating upon the new information comes to you, you spoke with somebody about your job, and you've got some new information. Now you're troubled, you want to press the hot again, no problem. But see, here's the point. You're not going to see some magic light or some green or router or something that's automatically going to definitively tell you go left or right, it's not going to happen. And it might very well be that you proceed with confusion with trepidation. You're not 100% Sure, am I doing right or wrong? And guess

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what you still don't as the harder problem, don't worry about that. The feelings of the heart are independent about the realities of is the heart I mean, allow me to go into a personal anecdote, inshallah it will be useful in this regard.

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I remember a time in my life. When I was sitting in Medina, and we had our firstborn, my firstborn son was born hamdulillah and at that time, we had been living in that up on a very old apartment you know, and student life and so it hamdulillah with the birth of the sun and whatnot hamdulillah Allah opened why because that's what happens Allah has written for you when you have children that is comes from Allah and it Hamdulillah we were in a position now to move into a better apartment and if you know anything about apartment hunting anywhere in the world, it is a nightmare. And if you have known anything about Medina it is a triple nightmare because of the judge and pilgrims and whatnot.

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So anybody who knows this knows you know, so we spent my wife and I weeks weeks traveling around doing everything not liking something or what not finally we saw an apartment that we both instantaneously fell in love with it was perfect in every sense. It was in a different district and Medina and we said Hollis, you know, I spoke with the owner, the owner said okay, you know what? He verbally agreed. He goes, Okay, Inshallah, no problem. We'll agree. Just come back tomorrow with the deposit and we'll sign the contract. Okay. My wife and I are super happy elated we find after weeks we've discovered it it was literally you know, first sight we fell in love with the place come back

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home. And and I had already verbally agreed and I had not practiced the harder that's fine. Fine. No problem because we there was nothing binding yet. It's just a verbal agreement. I come home I pray to Rica. I kid you not within a few minutes, the landlord to be called up. And he is so apologetic. And he's like, you know, I'm so sorry. But when you left my cousin came and told me who are these people because it was his billing I said are the renting department my cousin got furious or not fear has been you know, irritated, like hey, I'm your cousin. How could you not rent me the apartment? So he really apologize that would I be willing to break my verbal contract? You know,

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because he felt bad that he verbally agreed. And I said you know, it's your cousin Subhanallah How can I come between you and your cousin if he wants to be your neighbor and let us double your cylindre him and whatnot. And I interpreted this to be the result of Mr. hodda Okay, because he was eager we were eager everything was fine. It was literally after this Tahara he calls up and he apologizes profusely because anything I do make it up if I have other apartment is gonna be like this one call us and the story Subhanallah within two days, walking distance from our first apartment, we saw the second apartment that we fell in love with even better than the first one that

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we saw. And we moved into that apartment and we lived there for the next five years. My second son and my

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My first daughter were born in that one and then we moved back to America. So we lived in that apartment till we left. So Subhanallah that's what I'm trying to say. When I pray this the hara, my heart was totally with that apartment. I wanted it. I wanted that apartment. But that's the point. I made dua to Allah that Oh Allah, if this is better for me write it for me. And if not turn it away from me. And what happened? It was turned away. And we got a much better apartment for a better deal. Walking distance from the home. Sometimes we could walk there, sometimes we take the car, what better Did you want? SubhanAllah? Right. So that's what I'm trying to say. So that is the Hara is

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not some dream, or some personal intuition, or you have to have some neutrality and not lean towards one way. SubhanAllah. Let's be honest here. If I'm giving a hypothetical example, if Google company, you're getting hypothetical, this is not a free plug for Google gave you a job offer for I don't know a six digit salary with perks and free pizzas every day. I don't know what it is, you know, Google companies have all these perks and you had no other offer. Don't you think your heart would be inclined towards that company? Of course it will. So if you were to praise the hara, with your heart inclined towards the company, no problem, pray it, but you should pray it. Even if you're

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certain you want it. Go ahead and pray it because you never know something might happen and come in the way and something better will then be given to you. So praise the hara, make your decision whatever it is, even if you're vacillating. Even if you're unsure our sister says she has prayed as the Hatha she's still unsure. So then go ahead, make up your mind one of the two based upon what your parents said what your loved one say based upon your whatever you choose whatever factors and guess what, if your decision was wrong, Allah insha Allah azza wa jal, Allah azza wa jal will will maneuver the world around you so that you choose the right decision. And if your decision was right,

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doors will continue to open up. And this is something that our classical scholars mentioned. Even to me and others, they mentioned this type of reality, you praise the horror, you have sincerity, you have your clean, you have to work cool. Allah says in the Quran for either Assumpta fatawa callide Allah once you make a decision how long this will do it and put your trust in Allah. That's what salata is, the Hydra comes now, another issue we have talked about when it comes to Sahara. And I had somebody come up to me a sister came up to me some years ago, very confused, she said, Sure, you know, I pray this to Hara at the time of marriage, but now my husband's divorcing after five six

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years or whatever, and you know, I knew the family so you know, I don't understand I felt good you know, we did this the hara and now my marriage is ending. How come? So our dear sister felt that by praying is the hara basically she's signing up to a foolproof Yanni Masha, Allah 100%, you know, money back guarantee, basically, right, as we say in English, right? That no problem, no issue, that everything's going to be rosy. And again, that's not understanding the philosophy of is the horror. And I said to the sister, that, you know, she had ever got two or three tries said, these beautiful children that you have, would you rather go back in time and not have a marriage and no children? Or

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would you rather have us okay, it's ending, but now you have these beautiful children? And she goes, No, no, of course, they're worth the whole world. They're worth everything. I said, Hello. So there's there's 200 right there. That's it right there is the horror does not mean that whatever you do, is not going to be painful in some aspect of it. So if that were the case, then this whole world you press the harder before every decision. No, this world is a world of trial. This world is a world of tribulation, this world is a world of pain and suffering, everything that you love will also come back to hurt you. If it's related to this world, only the love of Allah and the love of

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the Quran. And the love of the Prophet system will never ever, ever harm you in any way. But the love of any created object even Taymiyah says You love money, you will love your spouse, you will love your children, the very object of your love will also give you some pain and we all know this is the reality right? Love of the hook will always have a little bit of pain as well. The goal is that there's more love than pain, love of the hard work and related to the hardest is nothing but good. So Anyway, point being our dear sister misunderstood and I hope none of you misunderstand. Praying is the hotter does not mean before marriage, that you're never going to have a divorce, that

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the marriage is going to be mashallah Tabata cola CLOUD NINE honeymoon phase till you die? No who said that? Praying is the Hara means getting married was better for you than remaining single simple as that. It's the better of the two options. And if that marriage ends, for whatever reason, it was still better for you to have done that and to have gone through the experience than to not have done it. That's what is the Hara means and that's an important point that we need to realize that is the harder means it is the better of the two alternatives. Not that that alternative is going to be pain free and a piece of Jannah

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Now, one final point before we conclude it's all tied up. And that is that okay, how do I get asked this question a lot as well?

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How do I know that doors are being shut? When they're not fully shut? Like there's one thing fully shut, for example, you apply to a job and you're interested you press the harder, they reply back, sorry, you're rejected, okay? Or you didn't get the job or you propose, and the family for whatever reason says, We're not interested. Thank you. But you know, thanks. But no, thanks. How was that door is shut? Okay, you know that there's nothing you can do? How about if it's not fully shut? How about if it's still in limbo? And you're not sure? Well, is that a yes or no from Eliza? The response, you may continue to praise the hara and continue to try as long as your heart is inclined

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to do so. And there is a logistical opportunity. Simple example. But that's it, you propose for a family, again, being realistic example realistic scenario. And for whatever reason the father to be or the father of the the lady says that, you know, or even somebody else doesn't have to be like, well, we're not interested right now. Okay. Or he puts an unreasonable condition which is still reasonable in his paradigm, your salary is this and this when you get to the higher salary, then we will consider, by the way, subhanAllah, I mean, that's not a very Islamic reason, by the way, because Subhanallah luck and religion are far more precious than any money in this world. To find a

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young man upon religion and upon deen and upon good clap is priceless. To find a man that has millions, but doesn't have any horseshoe and Taqwa and fear of Allah and Good manners of what uses that millions. But anyway, I'm just giving an example that suppose the father in law says Now, let's not say millions, let's be realistic. Let's say that the young man is still in college, let's be realistic. And the father says, You know what, I might be interested, but you have to have a roof over your head. That's a reasonable condition. Now, he's not asking you for millions. Now he's asking you to marry my daughter. I mean, you have to have a reasonable apartment, you have to have a

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decent place. That's a reasonable condition, right? That's not unreasonable. Now, the young man might misinterpret or is this a shutting of the door is Allah telling me is not going to happen? In this case? We say that No, as long as there's a possibility, you may continue to praise the horror, and you may continue to pursue and perhaps a time will come when your heart itself says you know what, okay, maybe it's best to move on. And at that stage, you can move on as well. My point is that it is not a problem to continue to make dua to continue to press harder and try as long as there's a reasonable option obviously, if the young lady you're interested in happens to get married and

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obviously, there is no as the father there, okay, but there are a lot of Marsha value except Allah Scottish, she married somebody else, okay. I'm not, you know, nothing can be done about that bottom line is that it's the horror and attempting to get to your goal may be done as long as there's a reasonable goal. And when that goal is completely shut and it is gone, then you accept the loss other and you move on from that. And I'll conclude by a hadith in sunnah telemovie, which immaterium the calls vary, but the concept is is valid that the Prophet sallallahu wasallam is reported to have said, that of the happiness of the son of Adam, is his is the hara with Allah subhanho wa taala. And

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of the happiness of the son of Adam, is that he is content with what Allah has decreed. And of the unfortunate sadness of the son of Adam is that he leaves is the horror and have the misfortune of the son of Adam is that he is not happy at what Allah has decreed for him and of Hadith so to pray is the harder will make you happy, and to leave us the Hora will make you sad, I advise myself in all of you to always prays to harder for every major decision of your life anything that is significant change in your house, investing moving, you're doing a different job, you know, marriage or anything of a major issue that will impact you that and you know, what is a major issue then pray

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to the conference of ALLAH SubhanA wa Tada say do out is the harder from the heart, raise your hands up to Allah subhana wa Tada. Now you know what it means I summarized it and translated it for you say it from the heart, and then Bismillah make up your mind and go for it. And if it is written for you, Allah will open doors, and you will find it easy. And if it's not written for you, a phone call will come out of nowhere and simply say, Thanks, but no thanks. And then you will accept that color of Allah and move on to another opportunity, realizing that that opportunity will be better for you Shala we'll see you next Tuesday. Until then, just like Kamala Harris and I want Warhammer to ye

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