Mothers of the Believers – Episode 02 – Definition and Blessings of the Mothers

Yasir Qadhi


Channel: Yasir Qadhi


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Episode Notes

What do we mean by Ummahat Ul Mumineen? What are their characteristics?

  • Allah says in the Quran in Surah Ahzab, verse 28 , highlighting the stature of the wives of the Prophet ﷺ:  O Prophet, tell your wives: “If you seek the world and its embellishments, then come and I will make some provision for you and release you in an honourable way.But if you seek Allah and His Messenger and the Abode of the Hereafter, then surely Allah has prepared a great reward for those of you who do good.”
  • There are no women better than them. These women are the role models of femininity and virtuousness.

Is the status of the Mother of the Believers higher than the Ashara Mubashara (the Ten promised Jannah)?

Who has a higher rank in Jannah- 4 amongst the women who have perfected the Iman or the Mother of the Believers?

How many mothers do we have ? There are 11 of them. The Prophet ﷺ was married to 9 of them at the time of his death. 6 of them were from the Qurayshi, 4 of them were non Qurayshi and one was non Arab. The remaining are put into 5 categories and they are not our mothers:

  • Those wives whom he married but the marriage was not consummated.
  • Those whom he proposed to but they turned the proposal down.
  • Those who offer themselves in marriage to the Prophet ﷺ.
  • Those who are offered to him by others but the Prophet ﷺ did not accept.
  • Those who are the sarari of the Prophet ﷺ.


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smilla hamdulillah salat wa salam O Allah Rasool Allah, Allah, Allah wa sahbihi wa.

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So Alhamdulillah today after a very, very many, many months, if not years of promising, we're going to be starting inshallah, to Allah, the series on the mothers of the believers. And I had given a lecture two, three weeks ago regarding the, the issue of the family of the Prophet sallallahu sallam. And very briefly, just a few minutes, just a quick refresher before we move on, because now that we're starting the mother of the believers, we do need to be very, very explicit about the definition of the mother of the believers and the blessings of the mother of the believers before we move on to some of the categories of the women that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam married.

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So we began with certain verse six sort of data is really the main surah in the Quran, that deals with the wives of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and in verse six Allah subhana wa tada says, and bu Ola, meaning I mean and forcing him was why Joe Omaha to him and nebby is Ola, meaning, Ola here means that he is more of a protector and more worthy of the believers than they are for themselves meaning, he has more of a right over them than they have over themselves. He is more concerned about them than they are concerned about themselves. He has more authority over them than they have over themselves. He is the Prophet so a Nebbiolo bit more than enough to see him what as a

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Jew who Omaha to him and his wives or their for their mothers, his wives or their mothers. Here of course as wives or xojo. We all know zoji means in Arabic It means the second or the pair or the dual. And generally speaking, it means spouse as we know, but not all the time. For example, Allah says woman, Galician, Hakuna so Janie, from everything will created pairs here is oh champions pair. And also Allah says in the Quran, are shorter the novella more as wotja home gather those that have done wrong, and they're as large as wide here doesn't mean their spouses and those that have helped them their partners. But in the context of this verse was why'd you Omaha to him obviously, what is

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meant is the wives of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, they are their own their own mahat so what is the own here? Because it's obviously not biological mother. What is the meaning of over here is obviously not biological mother, the concept or the notion of own I've mentioned a number of times before and the Arabs they call the origin of everything the womb. So anything that comes from something else the source of also the, the gist of it is called the own. So for example, Allah subhana wa tada mentions the Quran is having the Makita he mentioned the low helmet

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as being a inovio milky tub, he mentioned MK as being omokoroa. So omokoroa here means not the mother of the cities, but basically, the primary source or the queen of all cities, of course, also means mother. So Allah says in the Quran with regards to Prophet Musa for the NACA illa omic, we return you to your mother and foster mothers are also called home in the Arabic language, Allah says in the Quran will only have to come meaner Radha, your mother's from fostering so Allah calls the foster mother also a mother. But when it comes to the wives of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam mother is neither biological nor fostering. It is a third category that is unique to them.

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There's only one group of people that have been called mother in this fashion, and that is the mother of the believers. And it would be even Kathy or others they mentioned.

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The meaning of mother here is a mother of tarbiyah, and the mother of hope, and the mother of protection. So the mother when we say our mothers, the mother of tarbiyah, and the mother of love and the mother of protection. So Allah subhanho wa Taala explicitly honored the wives of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, over and above the women of their times, by ascribing the highest level of respect, the highest level of love that any person has to a female, and that is to their mother. And Allah says his wives are the mothers of the meaning. And the movement of course, is higher than Muslim, meaning the leaders of the movement, their mothers are the believer or the the wives of the

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Prophet system, the best of the believers, their mothers, or the wives of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, tada, the famous student in a bar said, by this verse, Allah has honored

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the wives of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, Airbnb Hatem, the famous professor, he said, they are their mothers in terms of their sanctity, for they are hot on on every believer, just like his own mother is how long for him. So, the concept of motherhood here then obviously is not biological and it is not Foster. Basically a number of things are being mentioned, the mother ship that is established for the wives of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, it is the mothership, of loving, of honoring, of respecting, of learning from tarbiyah of learning from and also of making marriage how Tom, obviously, there is no Matt omiya the mothers of the believers are not Muslims,

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because a lot explicitly has mentioned that they need to take extra job, men cannot enter in upon them like they entered upon their mothers. They're not the mothers of that nature. Rather, they are the mothers of tarbiyah and love. And Allah subhana wa tada explicitly mentions in the Koran, other characteristics about the wives of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam. And it is essential that we quickly go over two or three of the verses in detail.

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Because again, it wouldn't be appropriate to start talking about the as large without mentioning what Allah says in the Koran, regarding them. So

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we begin with verse number 28. Very quickly, we'll go over them because really, we should go over from 28 to basically 35 we're going to do very quickly that Allah says in the Quran, verse 28, yeah, Johan nebby you that all prophet only as well jika say to your wives, in container to regional Ah ha, and continue to do that. The dunya was in utter if you want this world and its beauty, then come and I will provide for you all that you want. And I will let you go a beautiful letting go meaning I'll divorce you a beautiful divorce. We're in container today then Allah How are Sula who and if you want Allah and His Messenger, what Darrell our hero and the hereafter, then Indeed Allah has

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prepared for the good doors amongst you, a john alima a massive reward. Now, these two verses were revealed as we shall discuss, inshallah, when we get there in more detail.

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And I've already mentioned them in the Sierra lectures, in the fifth year of the hedgerow, when the wives of the Prophet sallallahu I think he was setting them when the money began to come in and the conquests and the the delegations, while the delegations would come in a year or two, but essentially, the livelihood was now better than it was in early Medina. And the whys of the process of being regular women, there's nothing supernatural about them, they desired a better livelihood, and they desired a better sustenance and a better everything. And they kept on asking, asking, asking, until this caused the Prophet sister to basically leave them for one month, the story I went

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over it in the Sierra, then Allah revealed these verses, and these verses, basically gave the wives of the process of a choice, you have a choice. You want this world, I will give it to you, and I will let you go, and you will get whatever honorarium or whatever allotment you wanted, you will get it. But if you choose a law, and His Messenger, then Allah has prepared for you a massive reward, you make the choice. And when this verse came down, the prophet system went to every single wife, beginning with Asia. And he said to Asia, or Ayesha, Allah has revealed a verse, I'm going to recite it to you, but do not be hasty. And go talk to your parents before you make up your mind. Because

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our Prophet system

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might have felt that maybe Ayesha and her haste would make a quick decision that you would later regret. So he said, Don't be hasty. If you need to go to a walker, if you need to go to your mother and father, go to them. Don't make up your mind immediately. Then he recited this verse, Then our issue said that, do you want me to go to my parents to ask whether I should stay or not? I don't need to ask them. Of course, I have chosen Allah and His messenger. And all of the whys of the process of them also chose to stay in the marriage, which means that basically, this is very important. Whoever chooses a law and the messenger and the hereafter, then a law has prepared for

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the righteous amongst you a massive reward, oh wives of the Prophet, the verses Go on, whoever commits amongst you a indecency, then for her the punishment will be double. And a law is easy to be able to do that. But whoever amongst you is devout and worships Allah, and does good deeds. She shall get her reward, double and we should

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have prepared for her a very noble abode. So once again, we have in the first verse a massive reward. Now in this verse, a double reward. Now verse number 32 yeah nice and nebby Oh wise of the Prophet, less to not go ahead him minun Nisa, you are not like any other lady. This is the most explicit verse. Our mothers are not like any other lady, or wives of the Prophet, you are not like any other lady. If you truly fear Allah, then do not be soft in your speech when you talk to other men, just in case somebody who has a disease in this heart might find something and speak in appropriate speech and stay in your houses while coronary boots akuna wallet about Rajan at about

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Raja helia Tula and do not display yourselves like the people or the women of Jah helliya would display themselves and establish the salah and give this occur and obey Allah and His messenger. Verily, Allah wants to purify you from all filth, or people of the house and to cleanse you a pure cleansing. Then Allah says to them, and remember what the coroner my youth Laffy boo Tichenor, what has been recited in your own houses, meaning the house of the prophets of the law, why do you send them of the verses of a law and of his wisdom? Verily, Allah is Latif and Allah is Colombian. And then verse number 35 is very interesting. We have heard this verse many times, we don't many of us

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understand or realize that it has occurred after Allah has talked about the believing mothers. And in this verse, it is the maximum number of male female nouns in the whole or on no other verse has as many male and female nouns in Muslim you know when Muslim it well Medina won't mean it will only Tina will call it it was solid Athena was either party was Sabino salviati will call Shana will harsher it will motocycle Tina will notice the coffee was slightly meaner was slightly mad you will have really no photos you want to have a lot he was kidding a lot. kathina was that karate II De La Paloma. Janelle Lima, the believing men and women, the Muslim men and women are obedient to men and

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women, the truthful men and women that patient men and women, the humble men and women, the charitable men and women, the fasting men and women, the guarding of their chastity, men and women, the ones doing Vicar, men and women, all of these eight, nine categories are mentioned men and women, men and women, all of them, Allah has prepared for them a massive reward. Now, why did this verse come after the verse describing the wives of the Prophet says of the law? Why do you sell them because it is very clear that they are being made the role model for women, there are no women better than them. And then Allah describes all of these adjectives and nouns that believing men, the

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Muslim men, the obedient men and women, and so on and so forth. So all of these verses indicate some of the blessings of the wives of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. And what we learned from this is that these women, our mothers, are the role models for femininity, and they are the role models for virtuous ladies. Now, the question that arises Allah says in the Quran was why'd you who Omaha To whom? Originally, that interview Ola bill, meaning the Prophet is closer to the believing men than they themselves are. And his wives are their mother's trivial question, even though it has been discussed in the past.

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The mothers are the wives of the believing men. How about the believing women? Because the Quran mentions believing men? So the mothers of the wife of the Prophet are sorry, the wives of the Prophet are the mothers of the believing men. Are they also the mothers of the believing women? It is authentically reported that a lady visited eyeshadow, viola Juana, a lady visited Arusha, and she said, Yeah, oma, my dear mother, and Isha said, I am not your mother. I am only the mother to the men. I am your sister.

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So I Chateau de la Juana. She said, I am not your mother, I am your sister.

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However, and so because of this, a few scholars of the past actually said that the mothers of the believers are only for the men. They are not the mothers of the believing women. Because of our issue statement, she herself said to a lady, I'm not your mother, I'm your sister.

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However, it appears that she said this out of modesty,

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or miss Ella, another wife of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, she explicitly said, I am the mother of both the men and women amongst you. And most likely she said, this one, this phrase of Isaiah spread amongst the people. So then she's clarifying that I am the mother of both men.

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And women and a quarter Toby comments on this narration. And he says, There doesn't seem to be any sense to restrict the motherhood to only the men and not to the women. How can the mothers be to the men and not to the women? And even hedge out himself commented on this controversy and he said, the correct opinion, they are the mothers of the meaning and the mothers of the minutes. And that's obvious. Okay. So how do we understand our issue statement? out of modesty, one lady comes in, says, My dear mother, and I'm just your sister. She's just being modest here. I'm your sister in Islam. She's trying to be modest. In reality, they are our mothers believing men and believing women. Okay.

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Now another question that arises, if the wives of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam are called our mothers. What does that make? The prophet SAW Selim?

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The title wise

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should we or can we call the Profit System? Our father?

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You say No, why?

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But why?

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The ion sort of the nice that says what?

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So you're talking about Makana Mohammedan ever had image of

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the prophet or Mohammed Salim is not the father of any of your men. Okay, Jay.

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In reality, the majority position is the opposite of what you have just said.

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A minority said that he should not be called the father based on this verse. But the verse doesn't negate calling him a father to the believers. The verse says he shall never be the father of any of your men, means he's not going to have biological sons that will grow up to be adult men. And in fact,

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even Tamia rights, if he were not like a father to the believers, then his wives would not be called our mothers.

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The fact that his wives are called our mothers indicates that he has a fatherly status to us. And there are in fact, now this leads to a very deep question in all of my eight, nine years here, I've never talked about this issue of the shadow, Shadow art and a lot of detail because it raises a lot of confusions. There's something called shadow art and the art of the Quran. There are many authentic that are at some times we have our party who leads us he recites other parts of the Quran. There are seven or 10 that are mutawa, too. And then there are those that are beyond them, what are what are called shadows. And shadow artists are very, very deep, controversial topic, the average

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Muslim has never heard of them.

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For suffice to say for now that

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either These are two sides of the Sahaba

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or they are Koran that has been revealed in early Islam, and then abrogated and later Islam, these are two opinions and there are other opinions that we shall not mention. So these are two opinions about shaft that shaft Tara at are either Tafseer of the Sahaba.

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And they would say it as to see.

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And that's not a position that I find myself very sympathetic to and another position is that they work on at one point in time.

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Because the Quran has abrogation as you know, and there's other opinions as well that we're not going to go into Now why am I talking about chess cannot? Because in the era of obeying God, and even abass and many of the early tampereen In fact, this verse used to be recited that was why'd you who Omaha to whom were Who?

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Were who are a boon loom. This is a shadow Cara authentically narrator from Eben abus. So, the shadow tiara as we said, however, you want to understand it, it is there and it was recited at one point in time and even at basswood and also obeyed even Calvin others they would recite literally. That was why Juho Maha to whom will who wound alone and he is their father. So this shaft also shows us that we can consider the profitsystem to be a father figure.

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Like we consider his wife's to eat mother figures. Likewise, it is mentioned in the hadith of Abu Dawood in the book of the hora that the prophet SAW they said him said in ended up combat Manzella till one LED. My position amongst you is like that of a father I teach you like a father does. Then the Hadeeth goes on when one of you go to the restroom, washer, so, etc, etc. The point is the process of saying just like a father teaches his children, these awkward facts of life. My position amongst you is that of the world. And this is a hadith. So even if the shadow is not understandable, you have an idea over here. My man Zilla is the Manzella of the wallet, and Mujahid the famous

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student in our bus said, Could Luna be every nubby is like a wallet for his comb. Every Nabhi is like a folder for his own. Therefore, therefore, it is permissible to say that the Prophet system is a father of the believers. There's nothing wrong with that so authentically in the Sharia law and authentic in the Sunnah and authentic in the statements of the Sahaba and tampereen. Okay, so there's no problem and also the fact that his mothers are his wives our mothers What does that mean? It means automatically that he is a father figure to us j yet. Okay, next question. Now that I've answered this one, the next one will be much easier for you. Will the brothers of our mothers be

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called uncles,

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uncles of the believers? And will their sisters be called aunts of the believers? And in Arabic the mother's brother is called

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Han and the mother sister is called

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Carla no not the other side. Is the other side of the hall.

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The hall unlike our Oh hello no nothing like that. Okay, we that we call the mum or whatever right? Yeah. And arrow and Arabic Hall is the mother's brother. Okay, so does this mean therefore then that

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the brothers of his wives and the Sisters of his wives are hard and highlights of the minute and minutes

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well is the oma biological

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we call the mother

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J ID. So the the point that is being made is that we shouldn't extend this analogy the mother is the mother let's not take it too far. This might be a theory but in reality, the oma didn't go that route. And it was very common for the brothers and sisters to the the brothers in particular to take on the term a while or Hall. And obviously this is not the biological one because obviously the brothers and sisters of the y's have the process of they married other people it's not as it became hot, um, like the mothers became hot, obviously. Right? So Isha sister is who?

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As my as my married Zubair, right, and others as well. You know, I bust married, oh, my father, and she's the sister of maimunah. So obviously, the brothers and sisters didn't become held on for the rest of the oma, obviously. However, if they are our mothers, then their brothers can be called hot out of respect and not out of any other, as we said of biological or whatnot, and this was the case, in particular for one person, in particular, one person, bank tin, on being the hall more than anybody else.

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Who more are we rhodiola. One more Alia was the one person who definitely took advantage of that relationship. And he would call himself Hollywood meaning I am the uncle of meaning, because my older sister

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oma, Habiba, Binti

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then Debbie Sophia, right, so, and it is something that he would acknowledge and he would take as this title, and it's not just him, I mean, therefore, if more is the hall, then even Omar is also the HUD, right? Because he's the brother house. In any case, even Kathy writes, this title is just used as an expression. And it's not to affirm an actual relationship and have been Tamia rights, meaning harder and harder. Even Tamia rights. Those who use this title only intended to honor the fact that these people were in laws of the Profit System. That's it. It's nothing, no other

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relationship is established not even necessarily a higher privilege or relationship is just that okay? These were the in laws of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam so we can call him hard or harder Now Allah says in the Quran what is word you who whom, to whom was word you who are Mahajan.

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Therefore, this means that those who were milkier mean, or not on my hat.

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Those who have the right hand positions are not on my hat. And they don't have the blessings given to the oma hat by unanimous consensus of the aroma of Islam. And Maria Aliquippa is the primary example. And there are other examples as well, we do not call Maria our mother, she doesn't have the title of the mother of the believers, because she was not of the so Jan was largely home mahato. So only as watch have the status of mother and therefore also the same rules that applied to the Omaha's did not apply to them. So for example, the extra strict hijab that our mothers had, they had an extra hijab on them, that even their bodies could not be seen. So they had to and they so an

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average lady, if she wears hijab, she may be seen the mothers of the believers she couldn't they could not be seen. Hence when I show was on the Battle of the camel, she was in a hole that she was in a complete sequestered tent on top of the camel. Otherwise it's not necessary for the for women to do that.

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In Islam, and when the incident of hybrid takes place, the the Sofia marriage takes place. The the Sahaba were debating is Sofia amilcare mean, or is she a wife? And they said Let us see if he covers her, then she is our mother. And if he doesn't, she is milking me. So when Sophia came out of the tent, she was covered. And so they knew that Sophia was a mother of the believers. So the extra rulings that apply to the mothers do not apply to

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the the Milka mean, now, going over all of these verses, what are some and things that we've said in the last class? What are some of the blessings given to the mothers of the believers, and this should all be a repeat so I'll do it very quickly. Number one of the blessings of the mothers of the believers, number one, the prophets Allah sallallahu Sallam chose them hence, a law chose them for his prophet, as Allah says in the Quran, what about to the abena will tell you wanted to pray about righteous men belong to righteous women and righteous women belong to righteous men, and there is no one who is more righteous than the Prophet. So I said them so automatically, he being the most

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righteous, his wise become the most righteous woman as well. He chose all of them meaning none of his marriage were blind arranged marriages in the traditional sense that many of our cultures did, every one of his marriages without exception, he was the one who chose and he was the one who initiated except for her deja where, after a little bit of initiation, the both of them agreed, there was no arranged marriage, he was the one who chose them. Therefore, by his choosing of them, this means literally, they were chosen by the prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam and they're choosing automatically means Allah subhana wa tada has chosen for the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa

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sallam. Therefore, number two, we call them our mothers. Number three, Allah says, You are not like other women. Number four, marriage becomes how long for them until they die after the process of they can never get married. Number five, Allah says they get double reward. You live in a modern attain, Allah says you get the double reward. And in the other verse, you will get a general alima number six, they are included in our Salah what every time we say Salah ebrahimian and that is a massive blessing. Every single Muslim who says Allahumma salli ala Muhammad Ali Mohammed we are making to our for our mothers, and this is proven in the Hadith and sorry, Bahati, in another

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version of the Salah, Brahim iya, the prophet system talked a lot more slowly either Mohammed,

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Mohammed wila Ria de Mohammed. So when we say Aloma said either Ali Mohammed we mean as large and Berea by explicit texts of the Koran and this is a major blessing. Number seven of the speciality and blessings. They cannot accept South Africa. Number eight, as Allah says in the Quran, whoever chooses Allah, Allah xojo will give them doubt. And all of them chose a London's messenger. So all of them chose a law. So by explicit text of the Quran, they shall get gender This is explicit in the Quran. Number nine again we quoted the verse. Allah says to them remain in your houses and he commands them to spread knowledge with the Quran ama util if we BeautyCon whatever was recited in

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your house,

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is of the Quran and of wisdom, you need to remind the people about that. And as we shall discuss many of our mothers, they are the primary narrators of Hadith, especially a hadith about our Prophet systems, you know, taking losses and other things that nobody else will narrate other than Him. And number 10 of their greatest blessings is that they shall be the eternal companions and wives of the Prophet sallallahu Sallam in djenne. So they are not just his wives in this world, they are his wives in Jenna for all and all and all and all of eternity. What greater blessing Can that be that they shall be with the prophets. I said, I'm in the palaces of the Prophet sallallahu Sallam

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for all of eternity beyond what the mind can imagine. And this is something again, explicit that they shall be his wives in Jenna. For example, the hadith of Buddha would when the Prophet sallallaahu Selim divorced have sought one divorce, God came to him and said, Oh, Mohammed's awesome take her back, for she is your wife in Jenna. She is your wife in gender. So God is saying you can let her go, she is going to be your wife in general. And that is why they have been prohibited from marrying after him. According to one opinion, one opinion says this is why they have been prohibited. And this is based on nothing explicit, a statement of who they are they for the

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companion, are they for the companion said to his wife, as he was about to die, very romantic sisters. Don't blame me. This is what he said. Okay. He said to his wife, my dear wife, if you wish to be with me in Jenna, then don't marry after me. Because a woman shall be with the last husband of hers in this world. Okay. So he said to his wife, on his deathbed, you have a choice. If you want to marry Go ahead. But if you want to be with me, then don't marry after me. Okay, now, this is a fealty issue, a theological issue. Again, jokes aside, there's nothing explicit in the Koran or sooner that if a lady has had multiple husbands, which one will she be within? Jenna? Will it be

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with the last one? Or will it be with the one she decides that supposing they all make it to gender? That's a technicality that we're not going to discuss in this issue. But

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it is true most scholars say that the logical

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possibility that comes to mind, she should be with the one who's nica was valid when she died. It makes sense. It's just a logical thing. You know, that the last marriage that when the nigga was valid, and she just like, our place in general is decided upon where we are when we die, right? Our class our opinion, our tawakkol So today's a the last marriage, right? So marry wisely and divorce wisely, right? Anyway, jokes aside there inshallah, before I get into more trouble here is for the first opinion, there's no quote on it sooner for this. But according to this, we can use this to prove that there will be his wives in general. And we don't need this technicality, because we have

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the hadith of Buddhahood, where the Prophet was jubilees said she is your wife in gender, and also had Ethan Seibel hottie as well anessa, where I might have been yasim, when he was talking about our mother Isha in the Battle of the German in the Battle of the Campbell, and he was sent to negotiate and remember what happened. And we'll talk a little bit about that as well. He said, I might have been the officer said, I know that she is his wife in this world, and in the next, but and then she went to Lincoln, we disagree with her, even if she is our mother, and she is our mother, and she is his wife in this world, and in the next. So he affirmed the continuity, obviously, of the marital

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relationship in the next life. And it's been hasn't been other great scholars mentioned this explicitly, that if Allah subhanho wa Taala has promised them Dowdell ophira, which he did in the Quran, then which palace will they be in the Palace of the prophets, etc. And therefore,

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because a person is with his family, the Quran says right home was widely home. And the President said a man is with whom those whom he loves. So it is common sense. And to be honest, we don't even need to prove it in all of these ways. But our scholars have proven it that it makes sense as well. So our mothers are not just his wives in this world, they are his wives in the Africa as well. Okay. Next point. Are our mothers have a higher status than the 10 promise gender, or the 10? Like a robot cut an omelet better than them? Okay.

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In this issue in this question, have been hasm. Out of all of the scholars, he seems to be the strongest champion of the status of the mothers of the believers. He is there, Mashallah. Yani defense lawyer, whatever he always wants to give them. He has the most praise for the mother of the believers then pretty much any scholar and he claims

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It's a logical claim, as we just said this 10 seconds ago, which palace will the mothers be in?

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The profits? And where will that palace be?

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Where agenda

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where and for those

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under the arch. So then what does that make them Visser V, the other Sahaba.

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So he uses this theological argument to say that the wives of the Prophet system are better than all of the other men.

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Right? And by the way, Eben hasm has many positions that some of our more feminist and client sisters love, this is one of them, okay. And all of Islamic history, he has positions that are interesting, and this is one of them. However, pretty much the vast majority of scholars date, including a super key has a long passage on this as well. And I've been and many other scholars I mentioned that, look, the the issue of the ashram overshadow the blessings of Abu Bakar of Omar of all of these others, they are explicit, and very, very particular. And there is no comparison in that overall, the 10 promise jet, and in particular obachan and Roma northman. And other than the

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ones that the processes spoke about, they in fact, are have a higher place in not necessarily in gender, but they are more they have a higher rank in the eyes of Allah subhana wa Tada. And the point here is that, and this is an interesting point, which is true as well, the fact that two spouses are together, in general,

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does not necessarily mean that they have the same rank in the eyes of a law. Because in the end of the day, you will have I mean, it will it is impossible almost for two people to be spiritual, they're the exact same level married to each other and earn the same level of gender, yet they will be together in general. So the rank in the eyes of a law does not necessarily translate at all times as your rank engine, you can and what I mean by this is, you can be with somebody of a higher rank, or a lower rank, and the blessings you have are according to your rank, and you don't know because Allah azza wa jal has the power to do that, but you will be physically with them. But the rank is

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something else. So the point being that even in this world of analog, it's possible that you can be even two couples might overall be happy, but one of them is happier than the other. Isn't that the case? Okay. Life is more content for them than the other for example, you can be living together and one is enjoying life better because of whatever factors if we can understand it in this world, then how much more so in the era, the point being that just because they are going to be with the profit system doesn't mean that others do not have a higher rank in the eyes of Allah subhanho wa Taala and this does seem to be the case and Allah azza wa jal knows best. Okay, how about this is about the

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other men Sahaba How about

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the for whom the Prophet systems had perfected their Eman? The four ladies the process have said many amongst men have perfected their Eman, but only for amongst women have perfected their Eman. Who are the four everybody should know number one, medium number two.

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Number two, that's three number two.

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Number three, number four, Fatima. Okay, so other than Khadija who's number three?

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That's obviously she's in the list. How about the other wives?

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How do they compete with these four, once again, even has them is in the camp of the mothers of the believers. And he says other than Miriam, basically all the wires of the process were basically the rank of Khadija automatically, they just get that high rank and they are the best of the best.

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However, most of the other scholars said that this hadith indicates that these four have the highest rank of women. And the mothers are ranked below them. The very fact of the process them said and one of our mothers in the list. And that's Khadija and this clearly indicates therefore that the rest are not on the list or else you would have mentioned them. Okay, so Khadija has that status, and the other mothers are of a rank that still is very, very high but not have that status. Okay. And by the way, all of these questions are of a theoretical nature in the end of the day, it doesn't make much difference to us, but it's just preliminaries before we get to the stories, these are all

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preliminaries that need to be done. Okay, how about the mothers of the believers versus the daughters and in particular, faulty Model B alone wine Hmm. How about the comparison, or the Mafalda over there? The majority position is that fathima is more beloved than the mothers

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Other than Khadija, because Khadija and Fatima are mentioned together. So the vast majority say that Fatima has a rank higher than the mothers other than her own mother, you understand what I'm saying?

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Between Fatima and deja,

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which of the two, they're both in the list.

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Majority say Fatima here. And again, these are all opinions in the end of the day, Allah knows and it doesn't matter to us. And the end of the day, they say Fatima has a higher ranking. And one of the reasons being that the love that the process of them had for Fatima, obviously, I need the every mother and father knows the love for the child is there's no competitors, it's their own category, its own category of that and the the the care and concern that he had for Fatima. In the end of the day, as I said, these are all theoretical issues. Okay, how about hadiza versus Arusha? And again, all of this is theoretical, at the end of the day, they're both and for those that are that is just

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a theoretical is splitting hairs as they say, That's why I'm, by the way, I'm zooming over this because, frankly, I alumnos, I could have had three lectures just on these various issues, who cares at the end of the day, they are all engender for those? And it's so trivial, who is more, but some of times are scholars, they just want to discuss these things. So so that you know, as well, so I'm just quickly going over it. How about between Ayesha and Khadija?

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There's unanimous consensus here. Khadija, why do you say this? Why, why so easily?

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She made the list. Very good. Okay. And

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so she used to be jealous when the brother mentioned who said, issues to be jealous of Khadija. And

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this is the vast majority position that Khadija is the best of the wives of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. One of the early scholars have a bucket of money that would was asked who is better Hadith or Ayesha? And he said, this is a beautiful point. I like this. He said

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gibreel came to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam while he was with Asia, and he gave out issues Allah.

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And Allah sent Djibouti to Heidegger's house to give a lot of salam to Khadija

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big difference.

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And there's a very valid point because both of these Hadith are authentic. And there is a hadith as well, which we will come to when we talk about Khadija. There's a hadith as well, that one day I got angry, because she sends to the love that the process is mad for Khadija, and she angrily said, For how long will you continue to mention an old hag from the orange whose cheeks have gone down and who's toothless? So she used some negative adjectives she had never seen Khadija. But she's just using these adjectives. And Allah has blessed you with someone better than her. She said, I never saw the process of get that angry unless it was for the sake of Allah, that that angry he got there.

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And he said, No, Allah did not give me better than her.

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And then he described the blessings of Khadija she believed in me when nobody believed in me and she supported me when nobody supported me and she gave me her money when nobody said gave me money, and she gave me children when none of you have given me children. So I said after that, I never spoke of Khadija again. But the key phrase is what? No, Allah has not given me better than her. This is pretty explicit that that Khadija is better believe it or not one group of scholars had no idea she was better. And they based on one Hadith, which is embody that the blessings of Ayesha over all the other women are like the blessings of studied over all other food. What is studied, studied was

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their equivalent of biani

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you laugh I am serious 30 was their equivalent of biryani literally. What is biryani? I'm getting definition of banana.

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It is the combination of our staple

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you know, food item or staple protein with our staple basically a starch item right? So 30 it was their equivalent literally it's a mixture of their bread with their meat. Okay, they didn't have rice as you all know I've said a million times the process. We never ate rice in his life.

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But they had a type of bread and they had obviously meat and they had a broth that they would cook and combine and it was their elite dish that they would cook when they only had the wealth and the you know the the the occasion. So he said

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said the superiority of it over all other women is like that of 30 which is their best dish over all other dishes. Right. So this had it seems to indicate who has the best, Isha. But it is responded to that. In fact, in some versions, this hadith is tacked on at the end of the four women, Hadith.

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four women have perfected their eemaan dadadada da, and the blessings of our Isha over other women. So it is as if our issue is being given some blessings, but not to the level of these four.

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Ibn taymiyyah has an interesting take on all of this and even taymiyah says that we should not compare the two. And each one is blessing in a special manner unique to her. So her deja was the blessing of early Islam issue was the buzzword of later Islam, each one support it and was beloved in their own ways. And even taymiyah and others mentioned, let us not forget that when the man came to the process and said, O Messenger of Allah, Who do you love the most instantaneously, he said, Isha amongst the men, I meant her father. And this is a public testimony of the love of Artesia and the wife and the life of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam also, let us not forget that Allah

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azza wa jal chose to take our Prophet system his life when he was in the house of Arusha on the chest of Arusha, literally being hugged by Asia, and the saliva of Arusha was in his mouth because of the miswak. This is not a trivial matter, that the love that was there is also clearly shown. So in the end of the day, even Tamia has a valid point. Yet I still say that the Hadith of the four and 30 clearly indicates that overall, Khadija has a superiority over Ayesha and yet whatever Damien says is true that in later Islam, there is only our issue in that level. But that doesn't compare to what happened in early Islam. So that's the issue of the blessings and the felida and whatnot J.

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Now, how many mothers do we have? We will discuss this question in a lot more detail than today.

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But to begin and jumpstart the discussion,

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the agreed upon number, concerning which there's no difference of opinion, is 11. Two of whom passed away in his lifetime. And so he was married to nine at the time of his death. This is the agreed upon number. You don't have to write these names down. We're gonna go over them one by one in the next week's show, low dollar a day job interview. hoilett. So they've been to Zuma. I've been to the Becker house I've been to Omar Zayn have been to Jose Maria or miss ella hinze been to Romania. Zane. I've been to Josh uwaydah bintan Hadith or Habiba Rama have been to be Sophia, Sophia, I've been to her a and maimunah bentyl Hadith. These are the 11 in the order that he got married to them.

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Six of them were from the Hirsch

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the ones who are not from the Moorish Xena vintage ash, his cousin from his puppy from his mother's side from his father's mother, Xena, Binti, Josh his cousin was not from the khoresh because Dana's father was from the new acid. Xena Binti Hosanna so bozhena she who is married to to Zeno's bozhena herbs were non Qureshi, Zainab bint al hoceima was from other another out of tribal quadpacer Island. maimunah was from w halen, and uwaydah was from the bundle, Hosea. Okay, these four were from the non kurachi out of tribes. So six from the kurush, four from the non kurush. That leaves How many? One? What's the one who's left? Who's nine out of one was nine out of 10 that is Sophia.

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Okay? Nine out of meaning by out of here I mean of the children of Eid nanocarbon. She was from another ethnically, although she spoke Arabic, obviously, but she was not out of by lineage. So 10 of his wives were out of six workato sheet four were non oroshi and one was non Arab. And these 11 were agreed upon, as we said, and he died while he was married to nine of them. The two that died in his lifetime are obviously Khadija and the second one is

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my Mona. Mona pastor. Sorry, not my mono sorry.

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Not my Mona. Sorry, Zainab. zeyneb.

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No, I myself, I'm forgetting to pantalon not. Yes, it is. mamoon I'm getting I'm forgetting myself. So Pamela, it is maimunah I will confirm with you My memory is now gone blank now. And the problem comes is puts on YouTube automatically people give comments because they now have the luxury of looking it up. But two of them died in his lifetime. I think it is maimunah. And of course Khadija is the first one that passed away, and when he passed away there were nine that he was married to Jay

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I said, these are the ones there's no difference of opinion. Now we get to the issue where many of you have never heard of these issues. So we're gonna have to start them.

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There are many instances and women regarding which there is a difference of opinion. Okay? And because what we know about these is usually one paragraph or two at max. Generally speaking, the books of Sierra that you guys read, don't even mention them. You only find them in the classical in the source books in the original sources, generally speaking, these names, especially in non Arabic sources, or do in English and whatnot, very rarely do the author's writing for, you know, you know, the Muslims like of the masses, they never get involved in this, because why should they, and I don't see any problem as well. And then not to do that. However, as you all know, I'm not talking

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about a very basic level, I'm going to very advanced level, and it wouldn't be fit the series that we have done for the Sierra, except that we spend the same amount of attention upon our mothers upon the wives of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam. So in reality, the first category, those women whom he married, and there's no FDF, regarding, these are the 11. There are five other categories. And we will discuss these categories one by one, even if there's not that much information. But again, that's the point of us going that far. Number one, those women whom he married nica was done, but he didn't consummate the marriage for whatever reason. And there are quite a number in this

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category. For example, one of them and these names I'm not going to mention now we'll talk about them,

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you're in the right place for the series, inshallah, we'll in driving the car, we're gonna get there inshallah, at some point in time, that's not going to be the immediate one, immediately, we'll start with the 11. After we're done with the 11, then we're going to come back to these five categories. So remember, these are five categories. Number one, those whom he married, but the marriage was not consummated. And by the way, none of these five are our mothers. The mothers are the ones whom he married and conservation occurred. So five of them number one, then a guy who was not concentrated, how could the nikka cannot be consummated number of things First and foremost, sometimes, believe it

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or not, there was an instance where he married a particular lady, and she was sent to Medina by her tribe and family and she passed away on the way to Medina.

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Okay, she's not considered our mother. Okay.

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other cases, for example, the infamous one, the lady from the tribe of Joan, the lady from the tribe of Joan,

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that it is said that when the process of entered and upon her, she said, rules will be law he minca right or will be law he Minka. Why she said, this we'll talk about later on. And he said, You have sought refuge and one who is indeed Great, okay, go to your family. So that's a divorce right there. And he sent her back. And there is the case as well of the lady who had a disease and she didn't tell the Prophet so I sent him a skin disease, and she did not tell the Prophet sallallahu sallam. And so when on the night of the wedding, he saw the skin was disfigured and whatnot. He said, wear your clothes and go back to your family because as you know, in the shed era, you tell of a personal

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fault of this nature, you don't hide it, and this was a type of deceit, that had taken place and it is not befitting that, you know, the prophet system is dealt with in this manner. So he said, wear your clothes and go to your family. So he sent her back also, and there are other cases as well. These women are not considered our mothers, because the conservation did not take place and there are others we'll talk about them. Number two,

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whom he proposed to but for whatever reasons, they turn the proposal down. Can you believe there were such women? Yes, there were such women. He proposed and they turned the proposal down for most amongst them the most famous case and the story is mentioned as hypo hottie and again that's just because we don't study the books of it we don't know it so when you hear for the first time you're like, what how know it's there well known multiple women. This is the most famous was none other than O'Mahony Binti Vitaly, the sister of Isley and Jaffer, an athlete, the daughter of robotic Omaha. When the process of conquered Makkah, she was without husband, and he proposed for two. This

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is his cousin, he proposed to her the daughter of Obasanjo, and of course he had known her since childhood, bring residents

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and omiana gave a beautiful response. Yeah. Rasulullah you are more beloved to me than my eyes and my ears. And how can I possibly say no to you? However, I am a lady with five or six children. Hello

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Many she had and I am worried if I give the health of that you deserve, my children will not get their their health. And if I give my children their How do you view your health? So as a mother, she basically said, I would love to be married to you, but I have children and I know that what you deserve, I cannot give to my mother to my children. So the Prophet so I said, I'm then praised her and the women have arranged. And he said, the famous Hadith, the most loving and the most forbearing women are the women have arranged for their children. And he praised you know them for this river. So he proposed to me honey, she doesn't become our mother. And there are other women as well. So

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that's the second category. The third category, those who will have at Neff Sally nibi. The Quran mentioned surah, zap, verse 52. Right, this is a very, very important verse that needs to be very quickly recited that.

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Allah subhana wa tada says,

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In not 52, sorry, 50 verse 50.

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Oh Prophet, we have made lawful to your wives whom you have given your matter to and your right hands, that you whatever your right hand possesses, and your basically your cousins that have done digital with you, and a woman

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who has offered herself what happened enough, sir, to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, if the Prophet system wants to marry her, and this is only for you, Holly SATA, laka mean doing it, meaning it is not allowed for any other believer. Okay, so this is a category, category number three, those who offered themselves in marriage to the prophets of Allah while he was sitting there. Now, very interestingly,

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how many of our mothers came from pedigree?

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How many of our mothers came through this category?

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No, this is before Islam anyway. That doesn't and also this is different. What about NAFTA? How you don't need a Willie.

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Whereas Khadija was married through the standard Woody.

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They just said, we'll get to there. In reality, the correct opinion none of them, none of them.

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Yet this verse exists in the Quran.

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Yet to this verse exists in the Quran. So in reality, the verse shows them a column of the Prophet system, and he never actually utilized it now. Did women offer for marriage? Yes or no? Yes, multiple times, not just once. The famous hadith of Sahiba Hadi is this I Bahati where a woman came and said, Dr. rasulillah, I offer myself to in marriage. And the narration says he raised his eyes and looked at her and looked at her the way that a man would look. And then he put his eyes down, and didn't say anything. And she realized that this was a no, in his o'clock. He didn't say, he didn't say no, but it's understood. And then after a while, you know, another monster masyado sort

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of law. If you don't want to marry her, can I marry her? And the woman was there and she's quietly approving as well. So the President said, What do you have a man he said, I don't have anything said go to your family, meaning your tribe and see what you have. Even if you find a ring of hadith of just anything, find something. He goes back, he goes out of sorrel, I don't even have a ring. So he said, What do you have of the Quran is that I have sort of this sort of this sort of this sort of this says that, okay, I give you her in marriage if you teach with the sutras of the Quran. So the Maha became suitors of the Koran. But the point is that she came in she offered herself to the

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Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and the Hadith in Bukhari as well that are Isha said, this is from Arusha.

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She said,

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I used to have 00 is the type of jealousy that women and men have for their loved ones, it's so it's hella bad, as long as you keep it in check. And it become can become how long if you do something how long but it is halaal. And a level of zero is a sign of a man. And a level of leotta is a sign of decency. If you don't have any lira,

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then you have a problem in your heart. There should be a natural hero. And sometimes lira Can, can can lead you to sin as well. So there's levels but a base level of leotta like you feel a sense of, of personal protection and jealousy and honor with regards to your spouse, okay. And as we said, a level is not just Hello not just watch him. It is natural, even a non Muslim who has dignity will have zero for his or her spouse. And if you don't have any karma and dignity, then you

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them to study for cinema shoot, as they say, let's not go down that path. point is I should have said, I used to have zero more than the other women for the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and those ladies that would offer themselves to him, I would say, How can any woman do this? How can any woman do this that offers out of the process and then a low result? Sort of as a verse 50? Then Allah revealed after I said this, How can any woman do this, then Allah revealed that you're allowed to marry anyone who offers herself? So I said to the Prophet sallallahu sallam, indeed your Lord rushes to please you.

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Like anything so even this reveal, even this earlier, like I said it and Allah revealed the Quran invalidating me, and this is okay permissible here for our show. She has that right and rank and privilege to say there's nobody else should say this, she gets away with it, because she's Asia, and she can get away with it. Not everybody has the same level, the fact that she's Asia, and she loves the process of the way that a wife loves her husband, and she is married to the process of she can get away with this otherwise, if somebody outside said this, it could be interpreted, but she has a genuine fear. And she says your Lord is indeed racing to go please do whatever you want he will give

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to you. So this is category number three. These are obviously not our mother's category number for

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those who are offered to him by others, but he didn't accept. So people proposed there, sisters or daughters or whatever. And they said, Why don't you marry so and so? And he said no. And many examples are here. For example, Ali rhodiola. One who said Yasuda law Why do not marry more women from the ratio marrying these other ladies we want to marry amongst us. And the problem is that do you have anybody in mind there are no ladies of the porridge I can marry? And he said yes. Oh mama Binti Hamza, his cousin, Hamza's daughter. Oh, mama was the orphan girl that grew up now. So mama Binti Hamza, you know, she's of marriageable age, why don't you marry her? So he said, he replied,

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she is not allowed for me. Because Because you are sisters, you cannot have two sisters, right. So is making an offering and other offers have been given as well. So this category four, category five, the last one is milky Ameen. That is the sarathi of the profits of the LA party who was selling them. And these are obviously not our mothers. And how many sarathi he had is another big issue of controversy. For sure, at a bare minimum, there are four that are confirmed, there are four that are confirmed, most famous amongst them as Maria ltpa. But there are three others and we will talk about them when we get there, they might even have been more so out of these Subhanallah, some

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have made the number to be more than 30. Ladies, but in reality we are not interested in by and large, those who offered themselves those are offered to him. were more interested in categories one, two, and five. Okay, those whom he married, but didn't consummate. And number two, those whom he proposed, because that shows he chose them. Alright, and then they said, No, and then the middle came in, these are the ones that we are more interested in. Now before we also conclude for today, we have to rid ourselves of to false notions. And the problem comes I'm giving you this disclaimer now. And then as the lectures Go on, we're going to get new people that are coming. Nothing can be

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done about that. That's the reality of having a long series of lectures, we have to rid ourselves of some false notions. And we're concluding with this. Firstly, this completely erroneous notion that the Prophet says I'm never divorced or never gave quote, this is simply false. It is a myth that has no shred of legitimacy. He gave some women divorces we already mentioned number one, those who when he married but didn't consummate, most of them, there were divorces given and even some of them like hafsa, he came, took the divorce back. So he did divorce hafsa. And then he took her back. So this false notion that he never divorced women. This is simply untrue he did when there was a need to and

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we'll talk about that. Secondly, as we will discuss some of these stories and some of these incidents. If someone has a perception of marriage and of desire that is different than reality, then there will be problematic reports. And we need to rid ourselves of the false perception that we have. There are other scholars and other books out there that have given brief lectures about the mothers of the believers. And the fact of the matter is, by and large, they have sanitized this chapter of the Sierra, and they have cut things that might be awkward, and they have presented a version that might be suitable for the masses. hamdulillah good. As you're all aware, listening to

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my Sierra, that is not my methodology at all. It has been my firm belief that the truth is better than hiding it that telling you the reality is going to save you in the long run. Rather than protect you from something then you hear it from an incorrect source and then you get genuine doubts and this has

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In my methodology for the entire seven years of the Sierra, and the feedback that I've gotten in the last 10 years since I've been teaching in nine years I've been teaching it has confirmed beyond the shadow of the doubt that my methodology was right in Shaolin disregard that in the time that we live in, we cannot hide facts maybe 100 years ago, it would have been beneficial and that's why majority of the lectures you will hear about the wives of the processor, they are sanitized, romanticized cut, so that you find a very very aversion that we we would like to to basically in our minds here, but when you get to the reality, there are things that are not as clean for our minds, meaning

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they present a reality that is different from the ones we have constructed in our minds. And there are awkward stories if we have an incorrect attitude. If we have a correct attitude, no stories awkward. If we understand reality, then no story is awkward. And in the Sierra itself to this day, and I said this last month when we had those setups, and also with us, when you guys asked what is the most difficult story of this hero to present I said it was the story really of Xena vintage actually, it really was the most difficult because

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I know how people are and I know how easy it is for emotional people to really blame you rather than the books that you got it from. Because their version of events is is different. And another very difficult story for me was a story of Madea I mean, how do you really explain to an average Muslim was never studied the Sierra, the story of the Mario, Mario tripolia. To this day, many of our sisters say Wait, wait, wait, what was my idea? They don't even understand. Like they just living in a different paradigm.

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So to be very brutally honest, we need to rid ourselves of this notion that religiosity and taqwa and Eman somehow gets rid of natural attacked attraction between men and women. romance and intimacy and sexuality are a natural part of being a human, just like enjoying good food. And here's the irony. No one, at least in this audience, by and large has any problem when they hear that the process of them loved a shank of lamb. Is that problematic to anybody? Right? Well, to the vegetarian progresses, it is problematic. But I mean, you know, by and large, I mean, we understand he loved even though it's a luxury item, right? We all understand like human being as a human being.

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And if he presented a shank of if he were presented a choice, he would choose the shank of alignments a luxury food item. So the notion that if you're religious, somehow, you become an angel in your desires is simply not true. I did the story of use of the hammer to be he Warhammer beha. And I explained that story, according to the very clear language, and there is no need to go jump around. She desired him he desired her. But he saw a lust test.

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There's nothing religious about having a legitimate natural attraction, as long as it is not acted upon. And this notion that if you're religious, you won't get permissible desires or you won't want permissible relationships. This notion is not coming from Islam. This is another interesting point. It's a tangent.

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But it needs to be said. Where does this notion come from that considers sex and sexuality and romance to be evil. It actually comes from ancient Christianity, from medieval notions of Christianity comes from the Victorian era.

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There are there were ancient Christians origin, one of the one of the ancient Christian fathers died to 54. He claimed that to the serpent who had seduced Eve seduced her sexually. So he began this notion that all sexual activity must inherently be evil. The main person that is blamed for this is St. Augustine, again, three 400 400 ce II way before Islam before Islam, St. Augustine, by the way, he has been diagnosed in modern times as basically being a borderline psychotic he was a sexual pervert or deviant in so many ways. And he felt, believe it or not, that even married couples should view sex as a necessary evil.

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Like even married couples should have this negative attitude towards romance. And they should do it grudgingly. They should do it without any enjoy to enjoy it within marriage we talking about is a sin in the eyes of God. Now, this is something that we do not find even a whiff of in our Islamic tradition. That's why when Allah describes gender with Hold on, again, it's only modern Muslims who find it problematic, right? classical medieval Muslims never had a problem with this whatsoever. Later Christianity, medieval Christianity, and especially Victorian era, you know, Europe, they had these views on sexual

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That actually shaped to believe it or not our own modern views us the Muslim world as well. And we have these notions of religious folks not having any desires. Well, we see what happens. And, you know, when they try to do that in their church, we see what happens doesn't work that way, believe it or not Christianity at some points in time, even forbade couples from engaging in intimacy, five days of the week, believe it or not, Thursday, Friday, Saturday, Sunday, Monday, it was how long? Only Tuesday, Wednesday you had, you know, two days I'm sure they're looking forward to Tuesdays if you're practicing Catholic of those timeframes. So and even then, by the way, even Tuesday,

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Wednesday, if it was lent or season, even then it's not allowed. I mean, they have very weird views. And Victorian times came in cemented these and they had this notion that enjoying sex is somehow backward or not enjoyed by enlightened people and romance should not be done. Well. Frankly, these notions have no basis in the Quran and Sunnah whatsoever, and they fly in the face of experienced reality, which is why By the way, I got all that this is tangent. I didn't intend to talk for 15 minutes about this, but the whole sexual liberation movement of the 70s it is a reaction to Christianity and to Victorian times, when you stifle and you stifle and you stifle what's going to

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This what we see now a fascia, it is because they didn't embrace regular sexuality. When you're going to make everything haram and forbidden and whatnot, well, then when the floodgates open helaas. Now we have to deal with this reality. So my point is, let's go back to what I'm talking about. We're going to embark on a segment of the series that deals with marriage. And we have to acknowledge from the beginning, that religiosity and piety has nothing to do with natural desires.

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We need to get out of our minds, our profit system, like he likes to have good food, there's nothing wrong with him wanting to marry a lady, that perfection is he never ever did anything outside of marriage. That's the perfection. The perfection is he is controlling his desires, and never even staring with a lustful stare. This is the perfection. The the perception that especially in many of our sisters have, that he doesn't have any desires. Well, if you're going to study this next chapter, I'm sorry, you're gonna find a lot of troubling things. Of course he did. He's a regular human being in a biological sense. Like he enjoys good food, every man will enjoy a good

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relationship as well. And he wanted to get married to a lady that he wanted to get married to. And sometimes those ladies were chosen, because he found them attractive. And he found them attractive in a halal manner. You look at a lady and you're allowed to look and you're allowed to propose. If you find this to be problematic, well, then I'm sorry, you really shouldn't attend the next chapters. continue having your view and don't study these chapters, because I'm not going to sanitize. Because if I do, then when you hear the truth, your perception of the prophecies and will cause you to have doubts, not the truth itself. As for me, and I think I speak on behalf of most of

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the men who understand this aspect, it actually makes us respect the prophecies or more being a man and having access to whatever he wanted. He controlled his desires, and he never acted in an indecent manner. And if he wanted to marry he proposed, and sometimes most of the time they accepted once in a while. They didn't know there's nothing nothing problematic at all. And the irony of ironies, dear sisters, in particular, our mothers understood this better than some of you do.

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Our mothers knew our processes that I'm better than modern women do. The famous incident that we will discuss in our own series now, Julia,

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from the new Hitler, right. She was the daughter of the chieftain. And because she was the daughter of the chieftain, she had a sharp tongue and a sharp personality and an arguing and going on behalf of her tribe. She's the daughter of the chieftain. She's not some ordinary lady. And she was a young, she says, beautiful lady. And she was going around arguing on behalf of her people who were all prisoners of war at the time, right? And she was going to go petition the profitsystem to release her own people. And she said, I became worried. This is our issue.

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Because if the profitsystem saw in her what I knew he would see in her

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I thought he would propose and that's exactly what happened. That's exactly what happened. Now. Is it disrespectful? How

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are you going to accuse me of being disrespectful? It's only disrespectful for the lady or the man. Sometimes young men might have this, who view the Prophet system as not being a normal human being. Otherwise, I don't have any problem with it. It actually makes complete sense to us that young lady who had the qualities of a

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leader and everything is there and she's the daughter of the chieftain and she's unmarried and the process and said, Okay, why don't I marry you, instead of you being a slave? Why don't I marry you and inshallah your family will be free to fly. And that's exactly what happened. Right? It's exactly. Now, if you want to sanitize this, and you say, oh, there was nothing of attraction here, he only did it to free all of her people. This leads us to problems number one issue statement in body and other authentic posts of ID. Number two, why didn't he do the same to other tribes that were captured? Why only this one, you see, when you set up the paradigm that is false, you dig your

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own hole, then you have to deal with it. And now that you know me at Hamdulillah, my time is almost up in this community. So I'm not going to make anything you know, hidden or whatnot. Nine years have gone, you know, the reality. I don't mince my words, I don't think it's wise. Our Prophet system is a regular human being in biological ways. And he's the best of human beings in spiritual ways. There's no contradiction. And he himself said, had it isn't this he? and other books, the most beloved things of your world, to me are women and perfume.

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And every man sitting here understands this. Why is that a problem? I don't have a problem with that hamdulillah. Those that do the problem then is with your minds, not with the text here. So the point is, when we start these discussions, we need to have the simple reality. Get this out of our minds, that somehow being attracted to a lady and wanting to marry her is somehow empires. No, it's not at all. And once you get that out of your mind, then insha Allah, pretty much everything now becomes very easy to go our Prophet system. This is the perfection of perfection, never once acted in a flirtatious manner, not even flirtatious, never once had a lustful stare, never once acted on an

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impulse of this nature. But did he want to marry a woman who was attracted to Yes, he did. And there's nothing wrong with this. And many of our mothers, he's fought saw qualities in them physical and other than that, that attracted them to him. And he then proposed and the marriages took place. So we need to start with this realistic mindset, especially as we get to some of the stories afterwards. And of course, we have to conclude with this as obvious and it is very true. If our process of algebra to Bella had been that type of person, he wouldn't have remained with Khadija for 25 years.

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As a younger man, he would have done whatever he wanted. But he was faithful to her and never married while she was alive throughout his 20s and 30s and 40s and early 50s. That is enough of an indication that that's not his main motivation.

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But to deny that as any motivation it is problematic. And that's why I'm saying don't have that in your mind. He is clearly not interested in that to the level that is going to know but has a normal human being. There wasn't any problem in being finding something enjoy it and then saying I want to marry and others as we're going to come across as well in this regard. So with that, these disclaimers inshallah, we will stop here for today. And then next week, inshallah, we will start immediately with the digital the last one half go through all of the 11 that are confirmed. Once we're done with that, we'll move on to the Milky amine. Once we're done with the Milky amine, then

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we'll move on to the other categories that are differences, as we mentioned in shallow to either any quick questions for what we have covered in shuttle only what we've covered, not about the future topics.

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This morning,

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the processor was asking

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what are the three things

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everybody said? What are the three things and then they asked?

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No, that is not the head. As far as I know. The head it simply goes her baby Liam and dunya komati one is our direct Cora dynafit Salah. The authentic version does not have this story before it is simply saying from your dunya the two things that made me beloved to me are asleep and aneesa and the sweetness of my eyes comes into Salah. And he said from your dunya to indicate that this isn't his number one priority. It is from your dunya but it does give me peace and comfort of this world. I'll do one nice. Okay shala. With that we will pause for today and then continue shall the next Wednesday.