Mothers of the Believers – 15 – Maymuna Bint Al-Harith

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hamdulillah Isla niram

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Al Hamdulillah Al Hamdulillah Al Hamdulillah Camden County Daniella Bullock

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be in Moscow Kareem

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salatu salam ala rasulillah. Early he will be here woman wahama back. So we now conclude our series of the mother of the believers with our final lecture for this series and that is beginning with my mon I've been tell how to throw the Allahu taala and this is of course, number 11 of the mothers that we are doing. And her full name is Mei Mota. bentall Harris had been hasn't been able JD Brunel How come from the abundant harem with a heart from the tribe of the new healer, and she is the last of the women whom our Prophet salallahu or you sell them married, and she was alive when the Prophet says that I'm passed away. She is from the tribe of Banu Hillel, the only other lady from the tribe

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and he led to the process and married Xena, Binti hoceima, whom we already mentioned. These are the two ladies from the tribe of the bunu halal now maimunah her mother has already been mentioned many times hynd bent out mentioned or at least four times in the last few years. And I've said over and over again her story so I'm not going to repeat it here. So I mentioned many times that her mother in law as even Kathy and others call her She is the most noble of all mother in law's her mother is the most noble of all mother in laws in human history. Because the Prophet system was her son in law twice. First would Zayn have been to hoceima and then with Maine would have been to hide it. In

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other words he had been to Hosea and maimunah were half sisters. We mentioned this before and of her son in law's is Abu Bakar personalises Hamza have recently lost his Ibis have recently lost his job for our son in law says it have never been thought of. So all of these men married five daughters that that she had one by one day married and of course the last of the sub interface. She was married by first Jaffa and then Ali and then Abu Bakar. As I mentioned so many times, so this lady Hynde bent out she had five daughters, and from these five daughters she had all of these son in laws, even though him died before the coming of Islam, yet she is given the title, the most noble

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love all mother in law's because of the number of son in laws that she had. With regards to my mother bentyl Hadith. It is narrated by the Prophet salallahu it he was setting them in the midst of that I covered how Kim that five sisters are believers and the hawala minute that these sisters are believers sorry, not five, these sisters are believers. Number one maimunah the wife of the Prophet salallahu idea he was sending them number two her sister Ahmed father had been tell Hadith and omal father had been tell Hadith is the wife of humble father, humble father is the wife of on May father. Famous Ibis. Very good. So this is the wife of Ibis. And off to her Selma Bentel How did the

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wife of Hamza and her sister, a smart binter, amaze, all of these are a Hawaii they own. They have the same mother and different fathers. So their mother married multiple men from these men, she had five daughters, and the Prophet system praised many of these sisters in this hadith. We do not know when my mother was born, but looking at her death date around 590 or 594. See, so around 15 to 20 years before the hedgerow around 15 to 20 years before the hedger of the prophets of the law where I sell them. So she was married between the ages of 23 to 26. When she got married to the process of them, she was either 2324 25 around this age, however, the profitsystem was obviously not her first

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husband, she had two husbands before the first of them was Massoud Eben, I'm a Sufi, whom she married before the coming of Islam, and he divorced her before the beginning of Islam. Then she married another person by the name of abora. Hamad bin Abdullah Rosa, and he died and he never embraced Islam. So she was left a widow. So neither of these two previous husbands embraced Islam. Therefore, it is very likely that she herself had not embraced Islam during these stages. We do not have a conversion story for her. We do not have a date of conversion for her all that we know at some point when the Prophet system was in Medina, and she was in Makkah during these years of the

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Medina and phase she converted to Islam. she embraced Islam when the Muslims were already in Medina and the death of her husband left her without any support because she was from the tribe of Banu Hillel. So she does not have any, you know tribesmen in the in the locality of Mk. So the first notice of her comes in the series of books that when the profitsystem came to perform omura she

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Rumi being a Muslim remained in Makkah, unlike the rest of the people who left Mecca. When the processing became to form Mo, when did he come to perform? Remind me? Which year did he come for the ombre and what is this terminal called quickly?

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Which year did he come to perform the umbra? The eighth is the conquest of Makkah.

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60 is the Treaty of Arabia. So what's left? seventh, seventh, he did perform Umrah and this is called Allah to Allah because of the ABS treaty, right? Did you guys forgotten everything? Everything forgotten now wipes. We don't even have the note note taker that I can teach him today. So after the holiday via treaty, one of the conditions of the treaty was what that the next year they would come and perform Umrah. This is the umbra. This is called oma to cuddle, or I'm going to talk about his eighth year of the hedgerow. So the seventh year of the hairdresser, so the profits are some perform a little Cova in the seventh year of the hegira. And she participated because she's

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a Muslim or she is in Makkah, she does not have to leave, she doesn't want to leave, she participated. And it appears that she herself thought that the prophet SAW Selim that she wanted to join the mother of the believers and become one of our mothers. So she mentioned this idea to her full sister, and that is omble father, the wife of Ibis she mentioned that she she only has one full sister. The rest of the ladies are half sisters that we mentioned she has one full sister, and that is Ahmed for the woman father's name is Lu Baba, the wife of Ibis, so she mentioned to omble father, that I am alone I'm single, and what if you know the process and where to take an interest in me? So

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my father mentioned the two Ibis Ibis, then mentioned it to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and suggested that why don't you marry

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Mei Mona, she is without husband, etc, etc. And so the Prophet salallahu idea send them then sent one of his servants, some say Jafar, Vitaly have some say somebody else or we're all here to propose on his behalf to maimunah maimunah, then according to many some reports, appointed by bus as your body, and then then the car took place, however, this this is taking place in the motorcycle club in Makkah. And this is where the controversy begins of fitclick controversy not related to this era, but it's a very detailed classical, filthy controversy. And that is, when did the Prophet says and Mary maimunah What difference does it make? Because even above said, The Prophet sallallahu Are you

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selling married maimunah in the state of Iran? This is a hadith that is authentic from even Ibis. Why is this hadith interesting or filthy? Why is problematic because in the state of a harem, you are not allowed to marry right You are not allowed to marry. And there is an authentic hadith in Sahih Muslim that even Abbas said the prophets are sort of married may Muna while he was in head arm, okay, this is the fifth a controversy not a big deal in this era. Who cares if it's this day or that day, but it raises a lot of 15 questions. So this is one narration from from Ibn Abbas or the Allahu TA. I don't know remember even Ibis? How is he related to maimunah?

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harder in a bus, his mother, or my father, his sister, my mother, so my mother is the holler of our bus. So according to this, then the guy takes place in Makkah. But there are other reports that suggest the neglect takes place outside of Makkah, as we will come to, in any case, for sure. The agreement for the nigut takes place in Makkah. Okay, for sure. The proposal, whatnot agreement, like the what we will call an English the engagement even though as you know, there's no such thing as engagement technically, but still, the notion that we're going to get married, this takes place in Makkah in Ramallah to Cabo. And it is on the third day of the Prophet system state in Mecca final

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day, because the treaty said next year, you will come and you will stay three days, okay, you will stay three days. So on the third day, the envoy of the orange came and said, it is time for you to leave the final thing. So the profitsystem use this as an attempt to prolong the stay in Makkah. And he said I have just agreed to marry maimunah and so he said the Hadith is authentic. He said, what would you lose? Mother I think what's the big deal? What do you lose? If you allow me to spend an extra day and celebrate my wedding night amongst you? And the next day, we will have a wedding Emma and you too can come and join in this walima Okay, so the Profit System use the incident of maimunah

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to try to bring about some that lethal loop some

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Happiness, some camaraderie between the orange and him that look, let's have a festival, of course the food's gonna be on us, you know, who doesn't want me to now we will sacrifice you will come, we will invite you, let's have a feast. So the Prophet system attempted to soften the hearts of the whorish whatnot. And of course, the reply was la hija de la ilaha amic we have no need of your food or origin to get out of here. That was the treaty. Okay. So, the treaty was the treaty and they did not want this to happen. Now, the correlation of course, they therefore enforce the the letter of the law. Now from this we learn that it is completely valid to attempt to renegotiate agreements and

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treaties, even while the treaty is in effect, you can renegotiate you can attempt to renegotiate, and the Profit System tried. But here the help was with the Quraysh. And that is why he didn't press the point. It was their prerogative The agreement was three days and that was their their happy day. They didn't want it. But the process of trial let's give me an extra day. They said no. So the three days it was and so the profitsystem was forced to leave as per the terms of the treaty and the agreement. And according to this other version, no nikka takes place in Mk. The profit system then leaves and he leaves a boat off here his slave his servant Mola, not to slave is freed slave his

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motor our affair and our affairs waits for a minute to prepare herself and then he accompanies may Muna means walks with her shoes on the camel, he accompanies maimunah until May Moana arrives with the caravan at a very well known place, that is called set if scene raw set if and this place set if it is located around eight or nine or 10 miles outside of the Kaaba, and it is right outside of the district of the heart of Mecca, the physical how long it is right outside of that location. The books of Sierra mention that when maimunah came on the camel, she in her nervousness or shyness, she didn't know what to say. And she didn't know protocol. And so she blurted out, this camel, and all

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that is on it is a gift for the Prophet Sall Allahu Allah who said that I'm offering this camel and what is on it to the Prophet salallahu it he was selling. Now, this phrase is a gift

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rings about another controversy. Another controversy like a big one, but still a technical controversy. And that is is maimunah one of those whom the Quran mentions in Surah tele sub verse 50, that there is a category that the Quran mentions that those ladies were bad enough to have the Navy, those ladies that gift themselves what habit and what that means that she can come and say, and there is no need for a wedding because the Profit System is the worry of everybody. So there is no need for a wedding. And the special scenario mentioned in the Quran was that NASA had a Navy in the Navy in Sri Lanka, ha ha ha this utter lack of internal meaning that if a lady wants to what

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happened to the prophet SAW Selim, he can accept this. And then Allah says hard is such a liquor, this rule is only for you, not for the other believers. This is in the Quran. very explicit. So what is this category of we'll have enough to have, we will pause here, come back to this in 20 minutes, 30 minutes or so, and talk about this issue of water. But for now, just put it in your mind. Some odema said maimunah was one of those who will have at NASA. Other said she was the only one who will have enough sir. And yet other said this is not the case. Rather she used the word. I'm gifting myself, but she is not. What about NASA. And the reason for this is because in this case, there was

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a woody Ibis was her wedding, and the process of center proposal via jar for Buddha affair. And according to some narrations, the Mahara was given the concept of what habit nafsa means there is no map. And the lady says I don't need any more. And I just want to be one of the mothers. So Allah knows best. The position I'm going to take is that she is not of those who were bad enough, sir. And she is a regular, if you like basically a mother of the believers where everything happened in this standard fashion. Of course, the only exception that is confirmed is that of Xena. That's a large xojo revealed Anika and the Orange Is The only exception.

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The other thing that is mentioned is that it is also reported that her name was Barbara and the Prophet system changed it to maimunah at the time of nicaea. Now this is not the first time we've come across this. It is narrated the joy at his name was Barbara and that Zainab bint the judges name was also Barbara and that the process of changed each one of their names. So is it the case

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Some narrator got it confused between all three? Or is it the case that two or three of them all of them were named Barbara? Or is it the case that 2030 years before the marriages or the process of them, the name Barbara was invoked, because as you know, names go up and down. And we all know in some, some eras, some names become popular. So it's not inconceivable that multiple women were given the name, Barbara. And as we explained, this is not a name that is befitting and so the process of changed it to maimunah. And in this is a blessing for her because maimunah itself means the pure, and the one that good comes from and the blessing. So the process is saying maimunah that she is

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alive xojo will bless her, so the name is chosen. And this is a blessing for her that this beautiful name is chosen. So it was at this location of setif which is outside of Makkah, where the tent was built for the wedding night, and this is where they spent the night maimunah narrates This is now maimunah narrating, the profitsystem married me while he was out of home at the location of setif. So, this narration which is also in Sahih, Muslim clashes with the narration of had been abuzz, who said the process and married my mother in a harem, and therefore, precedence is given to the one who is the companion of the story. I am a munez narrating the story. Even Ibis is a external party even

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though it is harder, but in this case, memories might be wrong. And this shows you sometimes integration can be authentic. But a human being can make a mistake, maybe even as a hobby. So even a boss seems to have maybe just a general honest mistake, something got something got a memory wise and he just thought that it took place in your head on now even as a human his famous book sad and mad. He went into a lot of detail about this controversy award in the marriage take place. And there's no need to rehash all of these 15 pages or whatnot is a fairly well known, and it's a fairly ancient and it's a fairly solved controversy, why it'd been a bus used to give fatwa that it is

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allowed for the one and a half ROM to perform nikka This is his footwork. And as all of you know who have done around hedge, that's not the position of any mentor, but it wasn't when I bust his butt to in the beginning, he said what is what is not allowed is to consummate the marriage in the in, in, in the hell he said you can do in the car and ROM he based on his understanding of maimunah. So because of this in early, early Islam, there was a controversy amongst the Sahaba antipyrine. And that's why we have multiple narrations maimunah said I got married out of Iran and abort affair, the one who went to between the process of men and maimunah also said he got married outside of Iran,

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but had been abuzz had his memory that it was in Iran. So he would give to whether it is allowed to make nica in the home. And all of this is a classical controversy. One scholar even you mentioned this as well that perhaps even at best meant that he was in the land of ROM and not in the state of Iran, he was in the house of Mecca, and not in the state of Iran. But even that doesn't solve the controversy because that is outside of the atom. So anyway, it just seems to be a hole. So to call the end of the story, it seems it's an honest mistake for me when I bust all the law, and then all human beings make mistakes. And then the guy who did not take place in Mecca, much less in the state

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of Vietnam, it took place instead of outside of the city of Mecca, and obviously, outside of the state of Iran as well. So when is this marriage taking place? It was of course the last of the marriages of our Prophet system. And it takes place in order to cover in the seventh year of the hedger up in the month of little card on the way back from their own little corner. So little card of seven, ah, now, her accepting of Islam, and her becoming one of the mothers of the believers also facilitated her tribe, eventually embracing Islam very easily. And that is the tribe of the Hillel, and the battle Hillel tribe. It's a very interesting tribe, which we're not going to go into because

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it's not a part of our CRR to do all of this or whatnot. But you should just know that the new healer is one of the most prominent tribes in early Islam. They played a very, very important role in the military conquests, and also in political and strategic issues, and also in populating the newly conquered lands. So the new Hillel tribe is one of the main tribes that moved to Iraq, and also especially in North Africa, the veteran healer tribe is well known to be the main out of tribe in North Africa, and also in Andalusia. And all of this is facilitated by the marriage of the Prophet sallallahu Sallam to maimunah. And in fact, many of the outcomes of that region are

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descendants of that tribe, including the famous scholar Tokyo de la la Li, the famous one who first tried to disciple hot and whatnot. He's of that tribe, but he does a lot

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Hillary. And also, by the way, remember the line of the desert. He's from Lebanon, where he lives as well. All of these, the outcomes of that region are descendants of that tribe of the Bernal Hill. And anyway, back to our story. That's just a footnote that this is the new Hitler tribe. So maimunah is the harder they've been at us. And we have authentic reports that sometimes even a boss would spend the night at his aunt's house at mamoon his house and of course, even our buses at this stage, and you're not even bothered. He's like 1112 years old, nine years old, depending on what year it was. We don't know for sure. And there's authentic narrations in this regard, reported in Sahih,

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Bukhari and Sahih Muslim amongst them that, that even Abbas said, that one night I spent the night with my Hala maimunah, and the Prophet salallahu it he was setting them and the two of them lied horizontally on the bed and I lied vertically meaning the tour this way and he has a child and he's lying this way, okay, and he's throwing an eyelid this way. They lie that way. Then when it was the middle of the night or around the middle of the night, the Prophet sallallahu Sallam woke up and he wiped the sleep from his eyes, and he recited the last 10 verses of suta either in Milan, which is what how does that begin?

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How does that begin? We did hearted on this two weeks ago in Ramadan

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in a few hot this summer while you are still affiliated with a half, right this is that that narration is imminent abass he is narrating it. And then the profitsystem stood up and did we'll do from a canister of water that was hanging from the wall. Then he stood up to pray. And I as well did as he did, and I stood up to pray. But I stood on his left hand side. So he took my ear with his right hand and gently pulled me over until I was standing on his right hand. And he then prayed rock it in iraq i tender cotton, raw cotton, raw cotton, and then he prayed witted and then he lied on his right side until then came to tell him it was time for sada then he prayed to quick record and

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then he went to pray solid frigid this beautiful narration about the methodology of the process and praying to God. It is narrated by Ibn Abbas who had the honor and the very rare privilege of sleeping the same night with his Honda maimunah. And the Profit System is there. And he is monitoring as a child that how is he paying 200 and then he tells us the details of how 200 are being prayed. So these are some of the narrations we have regarding maimunah and from maimunah. However, there's hardly anything narrated in the eighth ninth 10th year of the hedgerow, about anything else about mamoon or the law they're unhappy. And after the death of the Prophet sallallahu

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alayhi wasallam there is no mention whatsoever of her during the years of the fitna, which means she lived in a political quieted, quiet his life avoiding any controversy, and she passed away after performing hajj in the 51st year of the hero. So she lived a long life 40 years after the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam and she outlive almost all of our mothers are only a few of our mothers are Asian one or two others were alive at the time otherwise, she outlived the majority of them. And she asked to be buried on the exact same spot that her wedding tent was pitched. And the profitsystem spent their wedding night she wanted to be buried on that spot. Now, there is one

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narration that says she died or she fell sick in Makkah, and she died in muck however, that is not the more authentic one the more authentic one which was reported by Imam and Bahati in his biographical book that he held could be not in his in his biographical book is that she fell ill in Mecca, and she realized that she was about to die. And she said, I heard the Prophet sallallahu. I said him say so this is a prediction. I heard the Prophet system say to me, You shall not die in Makkah. So strange, Heidi. So she understood she's about to die, and she should leave. And so she ordered even Ibis was her nephew, and three, four other nephews because of all of her sisters. She

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has plenty of nephews, the sons of abass. And the sons of Java and others are all of her nephews. She orders them to help her and take her to set if, which is where she got married, and to lay her down under the same tree, where the tent had been built for her four and a half decades ago, and she passed away at that location. At that same location she passed away and her nephews and whoever else was their prey, Jenna's over her at that location, and they've dug the grave on that spot, and they then buried her in our bus set as they lifted the body. Do not shake her nor rock her this way and that but be gentle for she is your mother, and her grave is still in that spot in the middle of the

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desert. her grave is not in

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Buccleuch, like all the other wives of the Prophet system, because obviously she is buried in setup outside of Makkah. It was none other than Him but I bust who led her Jenna's Salah, and even our bus and some of her nephews went into the grave and buried her. And when I heard of the news, she said, Now maimunah has gone meaning she is one of the last to be alive now may Mona has gone and will law he she was one of the most Mottaki of all of us. And she was one of those who kept the ties of kinship from with her relatives. And she died around 80 years old and the 51st year of the hairdresser's around 80 years old, she narrated a few Hadith of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa

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sallam seven of them with difficulty, and there's one that he only has in five that only Muslim has. So she has around 13 to 15, a hadith

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from the Prophet salallahu alayhi wa sallam most of them about her life with him, which then gives us 50 rulings. So that's why I'm not going to go over all of them because time is limited, but I'll just narrate a few by meaning of them. The most famous one that the books have mentioned, anytime you study the books of Hadith that relate to film, you will come across this hadith of maimunah, where she said that I was menstruating, and the Prophet system would pray in my small room, and he would sometimes do such that and touch my his body would touch mine, or his my clothes would touch him. So the fact that a lady in Mensa she doesn't become nudges, or her clothes don't become nudges.

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So the processing would here close with touch and the process was in session, and also the Hadith that is reported in Bahati as well, that she fried, a Giardia, and then the process and came to visit and she said, don't you notice that I fried my Giardia. And so the Prophet system said, if you had given it a sadaqa, to some of your a while your poor relatives of your mother's side, it would have been better for you, meaning sadaqa to your relatives is better than this. So there are other narrations of this that are basically 50 rulings of them as she described as well the hosel of the Prophet system. So again, all of these are well known traditions that if you ever study the books of

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Hadith that deal with film you will come across these famous narrations of maimunah quickly will before we get to the the final issue, very quick. sidetrack and that is to talk about this issue of what habit nafsa once again, this is a concept in the Koran. And because we're talking about the mothers of the believers, we need to put this in somewhere.

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And because my moon is the strongest candidate for whatever but Nuff said, Let us quickly discuss it now and then move on. The concept comes straight out of the Quran, it is in verse 30, so that Allah has a verse 13, where Allah subhanho wa Taala mentions that

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who is Hillel to marry and not to marry? And of them is the phrase that occurs that any Emirate attend to any woman who will have at NASA had a Navy who and he basically says I give myself to whatever means to gift I give myself to you in a row then be you and yes, thank you haha, if the professor wants to marry her, it's not something he has to do. If he wants to marry her, he can marry her. Then Allah says hard is such a lacquer mean junius meaning this is a ruling only for you. It is not for the other believers but I am them Aphrodite Allah says I know what I have made out almond halaal for them and what I have made one hell for you so that there is no hardship on you.

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And because again we're talking about this issue and because as you know I'm a thorough inshallah tried to be thorough, I keep on saying my level is advanced intermediate, not fully advanced, fully advanced. It's, it will not be interesting if I go fully advanced. So this is intermediate advanced, I try my best to cover as much as possible in the English language without going to a level that requires a knowledge of Islamic sciences and Hadeeth and it's not an all that. So, one of the things we need to be aware of therefore is this concept of what habit enough to have and to understand what it is. To understand it. Let us look at a hadith that is motiva kalibo Hardy and Muslim motif are

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highly salidroside narrated, a woman came to the Prophet salallahu idea he was sending them and said, O Messenger of Allah. I have come the alphabetic NFC

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NFC so that I will gift myself for Nevada La Jolla. Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam seldom facade another was over. The professor sort of looked at her and he looked up and down. So moto Tara, who, and then he lowered his head and didn't say anything. So when the lady realized that he is not going to do anything means he didn't say yes. So then she sat down. Another man said, y'all rasulillah if you are not going to marry her, can I marry her?

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And so, her she was sitting there. So the profitsystem said, What do you have of her? So he said, Well, La Jolla, rasulillah I don't have anything. So the President said, go back and see if you can find something to make asthma. So he came back and he returned and he said, la will La Jolla, rasulillah. I don't have anything I can give to her. So he said, Go find even a hot man headed even a ring made out of iron, not gold, not silver, just to ring out of Iran find something. So he said, Yato sutala. I don't even have a hot lemon haidet means I don't have anything extra. Obviously, he has a house he's living in. Obviously he has food he's eating but to make a meal, or he doesn't have

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golden silver or something. I don't have it. So he said, Do you have anything from the Koran? He said, Yes, I have memorized this and this and this from heart. So the profitsystem said, so I give her to you in marriage, with the Maha of you teaching her this Koran, famous Hadith, you all know the issue of the teaching of the Koran. Now, the point here is that, in this narration, we're interested in the first part, usually the books of faith, talk about the second part, which is mahute does not have to be monetary. That's the second issue. But we're interested right now. And the first one, the lady comes and says, I am a boon FC, I am the same thing here. Now this indicates

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that the concept was known. And that this lady is following the verse. And of course, marriage is something that has to be something appealing, it's not watching, for whatever reason, the process of did not want to marry this lady. And so he didn't, he did not say yes to this lady. Now the point of the wire, but next to her, like I said, is that there is no need for a manner. And this has to come from the lady that she says that I am gifting and then Allah says, only for you. So it is not allow brothers don't imagine. Stop daydreaming. Okay, it is not allowed for any lady to come and say I give myself No, not allowed. It is hos for the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. This also shows

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by the way the filter issues is that during proposals and this is well known, no problem here. During proposals, it is permissible to look at a person of the opposite gender, the one that you're interested in, interested in and to examine, see, that's why I had this assault Baba and saw other. And of course, this 50 ruling is not needed in our times, because in our times everybody's looking at everyone, that's the problem. We need to curb our looking with Facebook and Twitter and Instagram, and whatever the problem is the exact opposite. These filthy rulings, we're in a very conservative society, where there's fukuhara saying, Look, it's okay, you can look at the lady

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you're about to marry, right? And these days, the problem is not you can look at her The problem is you have to calm down, just you know, don't go out and do it just do this. The problem is getting to the other extreme nonetheless, and the ruling is there that of course you can look at each other before you get married and make sure that you want to get married, etc, etc. Now, question arises, did any of his wives did any of them come under this category of what habit Nuff said? That's the question. And some scholars like ignition hub Zoey. And Zoey is one considered maimunah to be of those who haven't nafsa yet at the same time, as I said, it doesn't seem to be that case. azuri

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based on that narration where when she came up to him and said if on the camel, she said the auto pseudo law, the camel and all that is on it is for you. Meaning I am now your wife. The fact of the matter though, is that in this case, it doesn't appear to be well habit knifes, it appears to be she initiated the proposal like Khadija did, the idea came from her and when it came to the process and he agreed then he sends the formal proposal and then the marriage takes place. And this appears to be the more accurate assessment of the of the incident. And of course there are also narrations where Mahara was given like it was given to all of the other wives. Therefore, it doesn't appear to

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be the case that she was of those who will have bet enough. So

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are there others we will come to in a while inshallah Tada. So now, we are coming to the conclusion of our mothers of the believers. But before we come to the conclusion, we have to quickly go over a chapter that is rarely rarely rarely mentioned. And for many of you it will be the first time you're ever hearing this and had it not been for my own standard of having a thorough class. I would not mention these things but that's my standard that I have come to learn shallow data maintained for the last nine years. I cannot no not tell you these things. Something has to be

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He said,

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the question is as follows. Are these his only wives, the 11, we have mentioned in detail. I have given sometimes three, four lectures about one, at the very minimum one lecture about every one of our mothers and maimunah is one of the smallest lectures because we don't have much information. This is all that we know about her. That's all that we know. The question now, were there other women, for most Muslims, especially in this time and age and especially didn't read the classical sources. They are not even considered psycho questions. It's a done deal. However, in early Islam, there were many other opinions. It is agreed. The 11 that we have mentioned were women that he

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married and lived with six from the kurush Khadija soda Arusha hafsa Arambula btw sufian no Miss oedema, six from the college for from the other tribes, Xena vintage, Zainab bint al hoceima mordanted. Hadith and Judea. These are for from other Arab tribes. Six plus four gives you 10 one was not out of and she was

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no, no, no. How many times have we said Maria was a so then she's not our mother. So we didn't last one of the mother was you know her. Sophia, non Arab. Sophia Vinci, Sophia been to Korea. These are the 11 there is no if they laugh about these 11 they were married and they live with the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam from these 11 to died in his lifetime. know if they laugh. Number one who passed away was hamdulillah at least you know all of this 100 in the first question that most of you answered hamdulillah and the second who passed away

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Xena Which one?

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Binti was the first one you write the first name? Good enough. We'll accept that as an answer. Zeynep Binti Jose. Okay, so these are nine that he passed that when he passed away, these nine were alive. This is Iijima right very quickly, in order very quickly, because just to summarize, because obviously and I understand it's not easy to memorize all of these, so I'll quickly go over them with their marriage dates. Khadija been to Hawaii did married 25 bH bH before the hijra, right. The second was so the Binti zoom out or zoom or both or zoom is zoom are both narrated. So the married one bH the year before the me the year of the hedgerow basically right Isha the marriage was one bH

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and the conservation was show while to Ah, okay, so show was to ah, I should have saw Shaban three ah one year after Isha Zane Ubuntu hoceima Ramadan three h one one month after how some Ole Miss oedema show while four h which is one year after Xena Xena vintage Josh little card the five ah so one year after Alma Selma, Julia Benton had it is Siobhan six h which is when you're after is enough so roughly every year is one nigga taking place until the next one on oma Habiba, Ramallah BTOB soufiane and that's Daughter of Josephine. The nica takes place in the sixth year and she is in where she was senior, and the consummation takes place in morehow ROM or a beer in a world of the

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seventh year when they come back from from Habesha. Okay, so that is on my Habiba. Then we get to Sofia been to her UAE and that is also after high bar. So basically a month or two after after Habiba comes to Medina or comes back, same time a little harder moharram or a little bit all of the seven H and then the final is my Mona in total of seven, eight. So in reality, the last three were basically together and then before that is almost one

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after the death of Khadija, almost one Yanni every year. Now, the question as we said, Were these The only women

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for sure, without a doubt, to short call the view. There were more women that the nigga took place with this is pretty much much money. There is no controversy that the nigga took place. The issue is was the marriage consummated or not. And that's where the controversy is okay. The fact that he married more is something that is mentioned in every book of Hadith and every book of Sierra, but this is not things that most people read. So, that is where the controversy begins. And to be brutally honest, it is very possible to give an entire lecture or two about the various ad Wyatt, and it just gets very technical. Some have said the nigga was with 12 ladies Some have said 13 Some

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have said 14 some had said 15

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The details are beyond the scope even of our advanced intermediate series, because they really don't play any role whatsoever. I'll just mention for those that are interested. The most detailed discussion that I have found of this is in the medieval scholar, Azhar Connie, famous alum of the Maliki method. And he wrote an encyclopedic commentary of the Syrah called sha Allah wa ladonia. And he mentions narrations, narrations, not not actual, not actual incidents, some narrations are weak, some narrations have no it's not. He just lists the narrations that add up to 23 women, some of them are milking. I mean, some of them are inauthentic. But the point is, these are the narrations that

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are in our classical books. Okay, not all of them are authentic. I will mention a few more that are clearly there and then explain them. The most biggest controvert the most the biggest controversy is over a particular lady by the name of Rihanna bein Tisha Maroon, Rihanna, Binti, Sharon, the very name tells you she is no non Arab. She is from the tribe of Bernal Colorado, the tribe that happened what happened and the after the high bar before the after has up sorry. And if you remember the incident of the Bono porada and so the, the the the people were taken as slaves, and they were then distributed as we came in. So Rihanna was the one assigned to the Prophet salallahu it who was

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sending them, the prophet system offered her Islam and said, if she accepts Islam, she will be free, and she will become one of the mother of the believers. And according to one opinion, she embraced Islam, and she became a mother of the believers. This is why the controversy happens. However, she passed away in the 10th year of the hegira. So we don't have details about her whatsoever. However, the more correct opinion, which is narrated with authentic is not is that she initially refused to accept Islam and this hurt the prophet SAW Selim. Then she said, I embraced Islam, but I would prefer to remain milkier mean, rather than take on the responsibility of becoming a mother. So she

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chose to remain milking me. And she did not become a wife of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam. And so she passed away, not as a mother, but as a milkman. And she passed away in the 10th year of the digital, and so she is buried in books, a lot of what sir, her name was Rihanna. This is why the controversy occurs, some rhythm of early Islam says she's number 12. Okay, and some said no, and this has occurred to me she is not number 12, she is not known to catic play, she remains really committed

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to authentic, a hadith about niggas taking place,

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are again, somewhat sometimes problematic, and again, had it not been for my own condition that I put on myself, that we shall reveal everything and not keep anything hidden. what not, I wouldn't mention but as I said, I would rather hear it from me than read it anywhere else. And the first one is actually mentioned is a hobo hottie. It's a very well known tradition, and other books of Hadith that is clearly authentic. And that is a lady from the tribe of Joan, that there was a tribe called Joan Jean while known Joan, a lady from the tribe of Joan. And this incident is mentioned in Sahil Bahati and in many books of Hadith, and the details are very sketchy about what exactly happened,

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but what we know authentically inside Bahati, this is what happens is that the profitsystem entered upon her after the nikka and lifted the hijab from her and she then said our rules will be law he minca

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rules will be law he minca. So, he said look at the rules t v r v m, you have sought refuge in one who is mighty, Ill healthy be Aliki. Go back to your family. And he gave her the Maha and the marriage ended right then and there. You seek refuge from the processes and there is not going to be a marriage, obviously. Okay. Now the question arises, how could she say this? That's a controversy. Then the guy takes places well notice and body and this is authentic. This is clearly Annika without confirmation. No confirmation now. Why did she say this? Again the details are very sketchy. Three opinions are given. I leaned towards the first one.

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And that is in tertiary books not an urbanist. How can very later books we find narrations that in fact, she was the daughter of the chieftain of a tribe. And the chieftain his name was Norman came to Medina and said Dr. rasulillah Why don't you marry my daughter and she is this and she is that and she wanted he wanted to like big himself up you know, like married or you have all these women you should marry my daughter.

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She is the most this and that. So the bronze said, Okay, I'll marry her if you offering her marry her. So apparently, she did not want to marry. And she had a haughtiness and an arrogance in her. This is one interpretation that she did not want to marry. And she felt that her whatever her paganism, whatever it was, she did not. She wasn't happy at Islam and her father and whatnot. And so she said what she said, and the person said, Okay, go back to your family, what, what can I do? And so he sent her back, this is, seems to be the correct position, there's a level of haughtiness and even her acceptance of Islam was not done willingly. And so what happened happened, another woman

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had, you mentioned that maybe there was something mentally unstable about her, which could also be number one, I mean, close, close together, okay. And then a third position, which is mentioned, and I did not find any evidence for this, but it is mentioned. And if it is true, then it raises more problems, but there's no authenticity, that perhaps some of the other mothers said this to her to trick her that to get rid of her. And that doesn't make it's not any, it's problematic, but there's no authenticity, but it is mentioned in some classical books, and a lot of xojo knows best. The point is that the nigga did take place. And this is a lady from the tribe of Joan. Perhaps Her name

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was amodal, perhaps but again, details are very sketchy.

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A third incident, a third controversy. So we talked about Rihanna, we talked about the lady of Joan, now we talked about as a five D, a lady from the tribe of the far, and it is nice how the Sahaba covered the names of these ladies up so that we don't even know their names, let these things be covered up. So this narration is mentioned a number of classical books including

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including a silent Bahati is not sorry, not so hearty, including al Bukhari, in his study, Huckabee, which is his biography and other books are mentioned in this. And that is that

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a lady from the tribe of the far end RFID, a lady from the tribal divide your hammock mala that then he got takes place. And the profitsystem entered upon her and again, lifted the hijab, the notion of lifting the hijab means that now they're in privacy, that's what it means here. And he saw that she had some type of disease on her side.

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fee cash she had by album, this is what it says. And the cash, the cash of the person is this area over here. Okay. And the buyout is a word that again, these aren't medical terms, it means white conditions. It could imply

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the white spots, what is it called again? Remind me.

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You know, the white spots where the doctor is here, huh?

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vitiligo, it could imply vitiligo, right,

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and some have said that it could imply a type of leprosy.

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And some have said that the Arabs thought that vitiligo was a precursor to leprosy.

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That was their notion, right? whatever the case might be, because look at these aren't technical, scientific terms that just says, buyout.

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What is the mean, and what does that mean? But there was some type of disease or some type of issue. And when the profitsystem saw this, he commanded her to go back to her family, and gave her the full map. Now, this hadith is used in the books of fear

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when it comes to the issue of

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marriage, that partners need to not hide anything that is going to be relevant to the marriage.

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And if one of the partners hide something that is known, we're not talking about something you didn't know about, we're not talking about you had some disease that nobody knows, you know, beginnings of cancer, whatever Allah knows that we're talking about, you know, there is an issue that is going to affect the marriage, and you are intentionally concealing it. Then the scholars say you have the right of atonement first. You have the right of atonement first, right. And there are many, many scenarios of this. And by the way, this is a two way street. Men as well need to tell of their issues, whatever they might be, that might affect the marriage. For example, if a man knows

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that he cannot have children, right, his count is too low. It says how long for him to marry a lady without giving this information.

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Just how long he is sinful for doing this. He cannot hide this. He must choose a partner

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who is willing, maybe she was well maybe cannot have. So she Oh, okay Me too, I don't have it. So it works perfectly or whatever I have my kids from previous marriage, I don't want any more, whatever the case might be, he cannot hide, she cannot hide. If they do hide, then what? The right of fuss or atonement. And technically, you don't have to give them. But the profitsystem still gave to just you and He gives the gift. But technically you do not have to give the man. So this is a lady from the tribe of Clif Bar. And this, as we said, is another nigga that is authentically narrated, but it was not consummated. Now, these are the three most valid controversies I will not go over there other

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four or five, there were at least one maybe to whom the Nika takes place with with the Wali and the Prophet system and the method obviously in the witnesses are there, but she is not in Medina. And for whatever reason she does not make it to Medina. And therefore there is no marriage, meaning that

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mostly she basically, again, there's a number of such scenarios and one such scenario, she dies on her way to Medina, right, just a natural death or whatnot. So the point is that there are a few of this as well. And again, if there's no no nothing happened, we don't even they don't even come to Medina, then we don't even know much about them. So

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for sure, therefore, at a bare minimum, the actual nikka that took place are more than 11 in the very least 13. But from them, the confirmations that are confirmed are 11. And that is why the number is well known amongst the Muslims. There were also a small handful, who did what about nafsa to the Prophet sallallahu, alayhi wasallam. And most famous amongst them, we have this lady here whose name is not mentioned and again, this shows us the other of the Sahaba Why is embarrassing when there's no question it's embarrassing. Why mentioned her name, we don't even know her name, who it was.

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And there was another famous incident, one of the most famous Sahaba yet and she out of all of the stories of the theater, her name keeps on coming up. So she has a personality that is very outgoing. Mashallah. She's always prominent in the stories of the Sierra. And that is how I've been to Hakeem. And her husband was Earth minded in mo Varun who passed away as she then she becomes a single. And she, in fact, offered herself to the prophet SAW setup. And there was no response, which is basically a no the President would not say no, there was no response. So there are multiple narrations of women who will have an upset. And as far as I can, in my own research I've done there

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does not seem to be a single authentic case of this ever happening. So now the question arises, why then is this concession given in the Quran if it was never acted upon? This is a question that can be raised. Why reveal a verse that is never acted upon? Somebody can ask this question, that there is a ruling given and Allah says hardest recommend doing it meaning, and yet, he never takes advantage of this. He never does this wide. And the response is, firstly, we cannot be sure al hikma is with Allah subhana wa Tada. And secondly, perhaps just perhaps, to show the father of the Prophet system over the oma and to mention that there are certain privileges he has, that nobody else has,

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that is enough of a blessing, that there are certain things that only he has, and no other person has. So there are a number as we said, What happened next

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to the Prophet sallallahu sallam, and you can't be certain, I can't be certain. Allah knows best. I don't think there is any authentic case. And there is a controversy, as I said, a zody said maimunah is this example. And there is a reason he said this because she said the phrase, but it doesn't appear to be that it just appears that as the free shoes j, what do we have left now? Believe it or not, there were some ladies whom the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam proposed to and they declined the proposal.

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That is another category. So you know, that whole list of 20 that I mentioned, this is also included there. So when I say 20 something you don't think that these are the guys these are basically incidents regarding either milkier mean, or somebody will habits or or so all of these come to that much and not all of them are authentic. So again, that's why some set of zoete by the way, said 14 or 15, that he said not 1114 or 15 also made the number higher and it is clearly at least 13

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That then the guy takes place now, one of that so what was the the category is now those ladies whom the process and proposed to and they declined.

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Can anybody think of any example?

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I mentioned one I know I mentioned

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well that she accepted so

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very good Her name is

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you have you have the father knock let's get the daughter

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on behind Mehanna

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you knew but you didn't know you knew Oh mehan, the older sister of the laquan.

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O'Mahony

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the prophet SAW said and proposed to Omaha

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and of course, he must have known mahana as a child that grew up in olives house. And now she was a widowed lady. When the one MK when Fatima cut takes place. She is a widow all right after that, at that time she she had but after that she became widow. So the process of proposed to omiana, the oldest sister of IE, the daughter of Abu Talib, and she said Jada Sula law, will law he you are more beloved to me than my hearing and seeing.

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And it's not that I have no desire to marry you. But the rights of the husband or alvine are great. And my children are young. And I fear that if I marry you, I will lose the half of my children.

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Okay, so she said,

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If I were to marry you, then

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my children are not going to give the same attention that I would have if I were single. In other words, you didn't want to get married at all to anybody not that she said no, she did not want to get married at this. And the process of knew that she was sincere. She meant every word that she said. So she gave up marriage to the Prophet system to be with her children. And well I only the love of a mother. And only mothers know that type of love. We can only just talk about it from the outside. So she gave up this marriage because she wanted to raise her children. And the Profit System at this set the famous phrase, which isn't so hypo hottie, this hadith isn't cibo hottie,

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then the context is not in Bahati. But now you know the context. The Hadith is about praising the women of the harsh. And the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, the best women who ride camels are those of the kurush. They are the most loving of their children when they are young, and the most caring for their husbands when they're old. In other words, they do justice. So right now on mahana, she has to worry about her children. Because of this, she gave up marriage to me. And so the best of the women he praised or mahana, for this decision, and this shows us the health of the mother and the blessings of the mother. And this shows us again that the sacrifices of the mother

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shall be rewarded by Allah subhanho wa Taala. I will lie This is a Hadeeth that and an incident that I wish more of our sisters knew, especially those that are struggling with children, and they don't have husbands, they should think of this hadith that omiana gave up the blessing of being a mother, because she wanted to dedicate whatever time she had to raise the proper children. And the process of praised her for this and admitted that the best woman or the woman of the quarter, so and there are others as well, that might have but the most authentic one without a doubt is omiana. There might have been others by the way there. That's one of those long controversies of those 20 plus

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names. Now, final point for our Omaha to morning series. And again, these are miscellaneous we're just tying loose knots, right we're going to doing this the final point is where we talked about these women whom the profitsystem

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either had nikka handle conservation or vice versa, what not the final issue milkier mean. And once again, these are things that are typically not mentioned, the common perception is he had How many? Now it's your turn.

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What is her name?

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Madea. So the common perception you had How many? And this is without a doubt wrong.

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Again, these are things not mentioned. But there's no nobody says this, who studies the sear on the books of this year. The reason why Maria is well known as obvious is because because of Abraham, because of Abraham, everybody knows this is because everyone on him that Maria status became what did but the fact that he had others is something that there is no controversy over if you read the books of the Sierra and the classical books as well.

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In fact, I just mentioned one of them right now.

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What's her name? Five minutes ago guys, come on. They have an example of

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Rihanna, Binti shamoun. This was another

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milk came in. And she passed away in the 10th year of the digital. So this is around five years, she was milking me four and a half years she was milking. I mean,

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this is authentic. There's no question about that. There's yet another one that is very well, authentically mentioned. And in fact, I mentioned her very briefly in passing in the context of another story. And I don't think you remember this one, but it was just a few last month or two month No. last month is Ramadan, a few months ago, and we're still doing the mothers of the believers I mentioned. I mentioned it in passing. Very good. Very good martial law. Okay. Good. Close. Now. Keep on going.

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Very good. Excellent martial law. Excellent. So we have the right answer, but no price to give, you just just take a look at just make to offer you. Okay, so I mentioned that.

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And the incident of Xena vintage ash, when what happened happened, just leave it at that go back to the story. And remember what happened at the very end of the process of life. And there was no interaction between the two of them for maybe two months or so because of something that she had said. And then for whatever reason, perhaps the process them since the time is near whatever the reason we don't know. He then mended ways. And you know, and she realized she was at fault, he realized that she made a very big mistake, and she shouldn't have done what she had done. So when the Prophet system forgave her, she became so happy that she said yes to the law. Oh, my God, I

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gifted to you. Now, technically, the idea of the wife does not belong to the husband. Until if your wife wants to, she can then say, okay, it's no longer mine. It is yours. Okay, she can gift it to the husband. Of course, the most obvious example of this in human history is Ibrahim. Because, Sarah, right, so how Jade was gifted to

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Nadia Brahim. hajah was gifted to Sarah from the king, the king gifted hotjar to Sarah. And for a long time, she was only sadhas when Sarah gave up any hope of having a child. Then she said, Okay, take my milk, Kimmy. And so how Joe then became the milkman and then from her job, his mind would know. So this is the most famous example. And this is another example where Zayn had been to Josh, she gifted one of her Maybe her only musical mean, and this would only have been literally for a month or less. And we don't know her name for sure. One book mentions that her name was Nafisa. One book mentions Her name was Nafisa. This is three confirmed without a doubt. And there might have

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been a fourth, some books, classical books mentioned that there was a fourth whose name was not known. And Allah knows best. We leave it at that. So with this now, we come to a conclusion of the mother of the believers that without a doubt, the prophet system lived with 11 women, this is something that is married and consumed with 11 women, and of them when he passed away, nine were alive. And that is why these numbers are commonly known. For sure some nuggets were done beyond this, but there does not appear to have been any living with those ladies, one or two proposals or maybe more were given they were not, for whatever reason accepted as well. We have the word nafsa

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which appears to be a category that was never actually availed to there's no example of this as well we have milky Ameen and three without a doubt and most likely a fourth and these are there for the total number that we have narrated and with this we come to the conclusion of our series of the mother of the believers in sha Allah tala next Wednesday we will have a final lecture topics to still be decided. I don't know what the actual topic will be. We'll see inshallah Tada. We come to the conclusion of this series A mother whether there was any quick questions about to my Muna or whatnot. Yes, was made up.

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The question is, why would Rihanna choose to be Milka mean,

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rather than a mother of the believers.

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The response is that really we can only guess. But

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the mother of the believers there, there are

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verses in the Quran that

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if you

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don't fulfill those obligations, right, then they shall becoming the punishment to you. So with blessings and privilege always comes responsibility. This is a general rule in human history. And in Islam and in our shady with privilege comes responsibility. This is well known if you don't maintain that responsibility or privilege becomes against you. This is well known. So Rihanna felt If I don't take on the responsibility, I don't have to worry about sorry if I don't take on the privilege. I don't have to worry about the responsibility. And that's her choice to make.

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We can only think maybe as well as she is alone now her family her tribe, as you know what has happened to them. Maybe that is also playing a factor that is just best for me to remain this way. I we can only surmise, we can only surmise. What is the the the real reason for this?

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Allah knows best I don't, I can't say more than this. Allah knows best.

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She accepted Islam This is authentically narrated, our Prophet system never had a amilcare mean that did not embrace Islam, even though it is allowed. But he did not want this. Even Maria when she came, she was completely Yeah. But eventually she embraced Islam. Okay. And Rihanna was yahoodi. And, as we said, the narration authentically mentioned that the Prophet system offered Islam to her, and to free her and to marry her, and she refused all of it. And this hurt the Prophet system because he wanted her to embrace Islam. And then when narration goes, I didn't go into all the details, but the narration goes back to the process of it came back has seen or sad, and he then

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heard footsteps. And he said, this is so and so coming to tell me the good news that Rihanna has accepted Islam. And it was so and so coming to tell him the good news that Rihanna had accepted Islam. So she had embraced Islam, but she did not want to become mother and she remained milking me for the rest of her life and again, as I said she died within the life of the process on which obviously made it any more the details about her even less known. Allah knows best jesco did

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know we had no no we mentioned this very clearly the Milky I mean,

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the the ones who then the guy took place.

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There is a minor controversy in this regard.

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Some books mentioned again, the problem comes here. Here's one of the problems that come

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most of these narrations about these ladies are found in tertiary books with broken is not they're not Bahati and Muslim. The details about them. So you find narrations Allah knows how authentic they are. And it is mentioned that one of these particular ladies got married to another man

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and almost have no hot tub commanded that that nigga be broken.

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So then her tribe said in that case, she is Mahajan. What meaning?

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And Omar said no, she is not.

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She kinda was left in limbo, then. It's not. This is by the way almost he had who could be right? It could be wrong. There's Ronald cataldo de la wind and he has the right to make that he's dead. And he's the halifa. And in the end of the day is his responsibility he earned on the side of caution.

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But when you're on the side of caution, you will

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have people like this lady left in the morn that's what happened. So Allahu Allah, it's a controversy that

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has no tomato, there's no there's no benefit to mention in a detail where like, there's only two or three ladies that we confirm in this regard. And Allah knows best. So generally speaking, we do not call them mothers. This is something that is well known. And that's why even Omar said No, she's not a mother. But still he applied the filter of no marriage after the Prophet system to her just to be on the safe side that

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in the end of the day, get Nick I did take place. So Allah knows best. Okay, inshallah is good.

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So these are all so the the point the brother is, is that maybe even a boss was talking about the agreement that took place between the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and not the actual nicaea. Well, all of these are nice opinions. But how do you explain that his federal which is well known is that you're allowed to perform Nika in the state of Arizona. And he

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Say the Profit System married maimunah. In the state of Bihar

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there's something called the Philippine Ibis

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the Philippines through the look of you know, they're they have their own methods. By the way, these are the protomer dabs before the madhouse came. And these protests are Muslims believe it or not the each one of them had sometimes somewhat bizarre opinions. And the reason for this is because you see here right here, that they have a position or an opinion that pretty much all of the other Sahaba know has been either abrogated or this or that. And this one Sahabi is adamant, no, I'm certain this happened. So sometimes Allah protected his religion via the majority simply following and the minority being discarded. And this is one of those if an Ibis has other interesting opinions about

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marriage. I do not want to say here but there's other opinions that he had as well. And other Sahaba interesting positions as well about many different things. But Allah will that those positions just remain in the books and nobody lived them. So these days and hamdulillah no matter No, none of the four and beyond the four says that the one in the harem can perform Anika is one of those things that has gone away. So it's a nice attempt. But if an Ibis is Fatou approves, he understood it differently, and Allah knows best inshallah. With this, we come to the conclusion of oma Hutton meaning and we come to the conclusion of all the series that I have been doing here may Allah

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subhana wa Tada. Forgive me for any mistake that I have made, and may He bless all of us to study the Sierra and to study the lives of the Sahaba and to benefit from it.

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