Yasir Qadhi – Mothers of the Believers – 11 – Zaynab b. Khuzayma & Umm Salama

Yasir Qadhi
AI: Summary © The transcript discusses the controversy surrounding the "out of the tab your own" movement, including a mention of a "hadith" and the potential for "hasith". The conversation also touches on the importance of women being punished for their role in society and the need for more money to cover it up. The transcript ends with a brief advertisement for a new lecture on women's roles.
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Smith al hamdu Lillah wa salatu salam ala rasulillah Allahi wa sahbihi wa.

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So, today we're going to continue and we have two of our mothers to discuss today. And time is limited. So let us jump straight in Xena. Binti hoceima is our next mother that we will discuss. And she is the mother who have we have the least information about because her marriage to the profitsystem was the smallest it was the shortest marriage and why is this the case we'll discuss today. Zane had been to Hosea is from the tribe of Hawaii and she was not a quarter Shia and the only other wife from the tribe of housing was maimunah. So Zainab nama Muna both of them are from the tribe of housing, and her mother hinda bent out we discussed her in one of the theater lectures

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in some detail. Her mother is called the most noble mother in law in human history. And I discussed this in some detail in the car, I'll very quickly go over it. You don't have to take notes because you've already taken notes and shout out to either those two of you that actually take notes in the actual setup that we did. So I said that her mother, and we're talking about

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Zane of his mother, her name is Hynde. Her mother married three times. And from each of these marriages, she has daughters. And so each of these daughters marries some of the most prominent people in human history. So they say she is the most noble mother in law in all of human history. And the six daughters from the first marriage that she had, she had one daughter from the second marriage, she had three daughters. And then from her third marriage, she had two daughters. So two plus three plus one gives you six. her eldest daughter is a ninja hoceima, obviously the daughter of Hosea from the tribe of housing, and she becomes one of the mothers of the believers. Okay, so her

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first daughter, that that means her son in law is the Prophet salallahu idea who was sending them then she had three other daughters may have been tell Hadith who also becomes a wife of the Prophet system later on. So both maimunah and Zainab are half sisters from the same mother, not the same father, and they are not married at the same time. It is not allowed to marry half sister at the same time. So maimunah is married after the death of Xena. So Zainab and maimunah are half sisters, and they both end up the wives of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, so she's a double mother in law to our Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. Then her third daughter is Ahmed father. And

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omble father is the wife of Ibis, even Abdulmutallab and the mother of Abdullah had been a bus and all of his siblings. And then her fourth daughter is Lu Baba and Lu Baba married and Walid Ebner mahira so that is the father of holiday vanilla worried. Okay, so holiday really his grandmother is this Hindu we are talking about from her last husband. She had one girl a smart been to Mason, I gave a whole lecture about a Smeb into her mace. She married Jaffa and then Abu Bakar and then Ali, so all of them are her son in laws, Abu Bakar and Ali and the prophets are some all her son in law's Ibis son in law, Jaffa her son in law, just an amazing person. In that sense, the in the sense

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obviously of her son in law, but we are of course, you know, going back to the story of Xena, Binti, Hosea Zane up into Jose obviously she was a divorced lady or a widowed lady who is her first husband. Actually there are a number of opinions about who her first husband and that's how much little we know about her even side one of the earliest historians that I mentioned 1,000,001 times by now says that her first husband was distant cousin of the Prophet salallahu idea of setting him up to fate ebenen had an imminent polyp. So he is essentially the second cousin of Abdullah. So Abdullah, his second cousin is still fade to fade him that highly technical buddy. So if it is this

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person, then he plays a prominent role. He is an early convert. He is one of the first to shoot an arrow in the way of Islam. He is also the first Shaheed of Islam in the Battle of butter, and he might have also been the first person to lead an expedition after the hegira even before bothered when the reminder expedition is going out this to fail was the first person to lead that expedition. So he's a very prominent early Sahabi what happens to him and the bottle of butter, his leg is cut off and the wound festers and he dies on the way back to Medina and he dies in a place called a sophora and He is buried over there. This is the correct opinion that Xena been to Jose Emma was

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married to this individual. There is another opinion that she was married to Abdullah had been Josh, the brother of Zane had been the judge who died in the Battle of OIT. But that is not valid and we'll explain why in a while. So the correct opinion is that she is married to this person that we mentioned he is the second cousin of

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profitsystem to fade in and Hadith in ultimate party and she being from a foreign tribe she's a lady a woman and she is the, the wife of the first Shaheed and a very prominent Shaheed. So there is no doubt that as the wife of the Shaheed and the first shade of Islam, that the the fact that the process of married her is sending a very, very powerful message. What is that message

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that the families of the Shahada will be taken care of. right this is the first Shaheed in Islam. Her husband is the first Shaheed so the fact that the process is marrying the wife of the first Shaheed is actually a very, very positive message to the families of the Shahada for all future like the process of setting the precedent, he is making this the norm that the wives and the families of the Shahada will be taken care of. And the marriage with Xena took place in Ramadan of the third year of the hedgerow. And this is why the fact that the the claim that her husband was absent having to judge cannot be correct, because the who died in show one of the third year of the hidden on the

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Battle of Ward, so her husband is not at the level of judges who mistake so the marriage takes place in the third year of the hegira. Just a few weeks after the marriage of have settled the law who are unhappy. Even the table says there were 20 days between the marriage of health spa and between the marriage of Zainab and this proves that as we said that her husband could not have been Abdullah had been Jackie because I belonged to Jackie died in offroad, which takes place after Ramadan of the third year of the hedgerow this Zain of her cornea was on mal Misaki. And that is how people called her oma sakin. And the reason why she is called obon Misaki and the mother of poor and the mother of

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orphans is because she had a reputation. Even in the days of Jackie Lee and the days of pre Islam, that she would always feed the poor and the orphan she would always share her food with everybody. And so she was called Omen Misaki. She only lived with the Prophet sallallahu Sallam for seven months, some say only even three months. And she died of natural causes, and rubber and acid of the fourth year of the digital. So we have zero narrations of a hadith from her. We have no incidents in the Sierra, in which she plays any role because the timeframe is so small. And that is why most of the people don't even know her name, because the marriage was very short lived, but she has one of

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the greatest blessings that none of the other wives shared.

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Even though she was the second wife to die, obviously the only two of our partners on his wives died in his lifetime number one is Khadija and number two is Dana there's only two, the only two that passed away in his lifetime. The so but Khadija died in Makkah, and that was before janaza was salata. janaza was made obligatory. So zeyneb is the only wife whom the Prophet says on page play janaza over and then went to Bach here and then buried and she is obviously the first of the wives to be buried in bioclear. Okay, so all of the nine wires are buried in here, but Zainab is the first of them to be buried in there and she is the only one whom the Prophet system himself led the

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genocide for and that is indeed a very very unique blessing that no other person no other human being shares no other wife of the Prophet system shares that is all that we have about her no other information about her because she was so short lived. We now move on to our main lecture for today because there's so much information that actually I have to condense because we have to finish our series before Ramadan inshallah Allah, we are winding up and closing shops, so everything has to be finished by that time. So we now move on to the main lecture for today and that is oma Salama about the Allahu taala and oma salema so much to say about oma selama oma selama Who is she? She is hynt

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been to her they fit even Elmo here are the famous mohila that is already there. That's the mohila. So oma selama is from the tribe of the Luma zoom. She is a relative of Abuja * of hardenability Walid In fact, continuity is basically her heartbeat. His grandfather is essentially her grandfather as well, so hot it is her cousin Holly, the new lead is her cousin, Abu jihad is her father's cousin. So she's coming from the tribe of Banu masoom. On top of that, she is the foster brother of Ahmad Ebony acid because foster sister of Armada vinyasa, because I might have been the acid and her they shared a wet nurse together. So she is a foster brother to our mod had been the acid and she

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had some other brothers as well, who accepted

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Islam later on, they didn't play any prominent role in the early makansutra. Most of them accepted Islam after the conquest of Makkah. So Ole Miss Salama, her name is Hindi. So remember that her name is hinze. She was called Miss oedema. Her name is hint Ole Miss Ella is one of the earliest converts to Islam, along with her husband, Abu Salah ebonyi Abdullah asset from the kurashikku tribe of Abdullah acid. So this is a couple from two of the main tribes, of course, the bundle asset and the volume of zoom. And these are two of the most important tribes of the Quran. Their union is a very important union because it brings together two of these tribes and the both of them are very high

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nobility, and therefore their conversion was a big deal. It was an early conversion, and they are the first family to migrate to Habesha. So this is one of the blessings always mentioned about oma selama. She's the first lady to migrate to Abyssinia and her husband is the first couple to migrate to Abyssinia and in Abyssinia. Their son said Emma is born and as the firstborn of the Muslim population of Abyssinia, it is taken as a good omen. So said Emma is the child born to the Muslims in Abyssinia. And because sinoma is so prominent so then they're called Abu Salah man Oh Mr. Lama, because of the birth of cinema Cinema is a very big occasion like a child is born this exile

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community, it's a very big thing for them. So Salah, then they become Abu salah and ami selama they returned back to Medina sorry to Makkah. And then of course the hijra occurs to to Makkah. And this is where the famous story takes place. I've mentioned it in the Sierra. And we'll go over quickly again. Because again, I mean, the the stories we're doing now we have to reiterate the Sierra so I'm always I'm always between two months. Should I talk about the story in detail? Or should I say you've already done that? And obviously, most of you have already forgotten the sealer six years ago, but that's besides the point. So in a nutshell, if you remember, I will set up my own selama

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the family decided to migrate with selama three of them. They're migrating on one Campbell, and they take their belongings and they start to go towards Medina, what happens? This is the tribe of Abuja. How

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do you think he's gonna let his cousin second cousin leave? This is Abuja, his tribe. He rallies the bundle Maha zoom, and they intercept the family with archers with everything right. And they say to abou Salama, if you have lost your mind, we can't control you. They can't kill him, his bundle acid can't touch him is Vanessa, they don't want to start a cappella warfare. Because you've gone crazy, you want to go you want to go Muslim, whatever, that's your business. But this lady is ours, we will not allow you to take our tribes lady. So at gunpoint, basically, they take their you know, oma selama, along with the baby selama. And they basically forced him to migrate to Medina on his own.

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And they hardly get back to the camp of the blue, the the area of MCO or the boom of zoom live, except that the bunch of us that have heard what has happened. And there's always tension and rivalry between the tribes as you know, and they become so insulted that How dare they have done this? How do they take their anger out? They take their anger out by marching to the camp or the area of bodom ozone and saying, Okay, if that girl is yours, that's your business. But that little kid is ours. Right? So this is pure joy Haley, just like you know, tribalism and whatnot. And so they take the baby, the little two three year old kid sedima from Ole Miss oedema and almost nmi

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remains without husband without son, you know, within a, you know, a few hours like both are taken away. And she goes into basically, you know, she was very, very aggrieved and depressed and whatnot. And she would cry all day, so much so that the books of Sierra mentioned, she would go on the outskirts of Medina every single day and wait all day, just seeing what can be done. But your tribe is not allowed her to go and she cannot leave very they have the the cultural norms there. Essentially, imagine if you don't have the visa, but she cannot leave, nobody's going to take her, etc, etc. She cannot leave and she wouldn't be able to go anyway. So every day she would be crying

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all day long last of her husband have sort of taken away from her husband taken away from her child, until finally one of her cousins saw her crying, and felt so much pity that he interceded on behalf of the elders of the Kingdom of zoom, and just basically said to them, just let her go, what do you should have, she's not going to harm you if she goes there and whatnot. So eventually, the bundle of zoom said it's up to you if you want to go go. And so the bundle was set by this time as well Calm down, and they returned sedima to her, some say a few weeks, it seems to be at least a week or so. So she was for a week or so and that very traumatic situation. And so she was so elated that she

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immediately just packed her stuff took the

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sedima the boy said Emma, and literally started, you know, going towards Medina with no entourage, no caravan. And this is the love of a mother and a wife. I mean, it's not the most rational thing to do. But what is what else is she going to do? And she puts her trust in Allah subhanho wa Taala. And of course, with the woman that she has a lot of zoid is going to take care of her on when she's reaches then they're even outside of Makkah. And she's on basically the highway, you know, and she's on the way to Medina, to name is on the way to Medina, when she reaches the name earthman ambientali is coming back from a journey. And he sees them with bags and everything is like what are you doing

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on Earth, madam and tada? It's not from their tribe, he's neither bundle belzona bundle acid, he is from the bundle of the doubt, which is the tribe of the keys, right with my name and the one who is the keys of the Kaaba. This was a fundamental how he says, What are you doing, and she says, the whole story and he knows, of course, what has happened in terms of the, the the splitting of the family. And so, he says to her, this cannot happen, no lady can go on her own, I will accompany you, I will accompany you. And Ole Miss Ella says, I never saw a man from the outside is more honorable than him. He would walk with us on the camel. So the cat, she has the camel with sedima he would

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walk with us until it was time to stop, he would cause the camel to sit and go and sleep at a tree. Then when it was time to go, he would come and tell me to sit on the Campbell didn't turn away. When I would get on the camel, he would then walk and he did this every day until we reached Medina, we saw a village on the outskirts. And it was the village of the Gambia now and he said to me, Your husband is that city. And he then let us go and he returned back to Makkah. Now this incident takes up three lines in the zero elimination is even is how it just takes up three lines. But I really want to pause here for a second. And I want you to visualize and imagine a minimum 10 day trip most

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likely 12 days the minimum is a 10 to 12 day trip you know we do this in four hours in our cars are 45 minutes in a plane even faster than this right? But this is on foot with man is walking on foot every single day. And just imagine the awkwardness of being with a non Muharram hours and hours and hours of sleeping in proximity because you have to be in visual distance. I mean, anything can happen wolves can come anything you have to be in some proximity there have the food of the of using the restrooms, there's going to be restroom stops, right, all of this happening. And Subhana Allah rathmann is acting like a gentleman. And this really shows us that and at this time, he's an idol

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worshipper. He doesn't even come into Medina. You know, this really shows us that. And we know this because we live in this land. I mean, we see people, they don't have any Eman in a lot, but they have good luck. And that's something that is a lived reality that some people have very genuinely caring, and loving. I mean, here's a man, he stopped. I mean, we wouldn't give 10 hours to a stranger. He gave not 10 days, how many days on the way back, he has to go 20 days minimum, he gave a month. For a person who is not even a tribe member. It's not even the same tribe. There's no direct relationship. He's a very distant relative. But he he feels a sense of injustice, this is

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unfair, what happened to is wrong. And he goes out of his way, he stops his own livelihood, he doesn't get a penny, you know, he couldn't even imagine him because he said, I'm going to go to Medina, I'm going to ask your husband give me No, it's a real humanitarian act, that I'm going to do this, you know, to, to help out. And he did this and he goes back, and he leaves another very, very awkward theological discussion which does need to be set. And that is that from our perspective, this deed of his in and of itself would not have earned him gender without a man. We have to be very clear about this, that good deeds are good in this world, Allah will reward you for them. But only

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if you believe with a man will the good deed get you the reward of the era. And this is something that is no matter how much we because this is one of the big, problematic issues of our times theologically. A lot of people especially us in our youth are struggling with this they don't understand. And that's a deeper theological topic. But to be very, very simple about this. The rights of the Harlock are infinitely more than the rights of the mahalo.

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So no matter how much good you do to them, Look, if you don't believe in and have a man in the holodeck, then you're not going to get the rewards from the hanoch that are really worthy of those rewards. The mahalo you're good to them. That's good at

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Allah says he's gonna reward you back in this dunya it's in the Quran, any good that you do, even if you don't believe in Allah, Noah feed him, I don't

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see how la vaca soon we will return all of their good deeds in this world, and they will not be shown any miserliness every good that the person does. But if you want the hero, you had better believe in the aka, there's nothing illogical there. Why should a law reward somebody with gender? When they didn't do anything for gender? I mean, it's not even a logical it's actually very logical. Why should you get the goal that you never wanted? So whatever their idea was, and that's something has to be very clear about that. But another point, though, and this is a very interesting point is that it is true that if this person Earth man had died in this state, he would not have been of the

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people agenda. Because this we can say categorically, why? Because he's interacting with the process of directly, there's no question that has been done, you are dealing with the process of directly you don't accept Islam, there is no ambiguity, there is no excuse here. And at this stage, he is not a Muslim. So if they had died in this state, there is no agenda there is no possibility of forgiveness. But another point that we learn, generally speaking, good people are guided to the truth.

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Generally speaking, people have good are guided to good. And the two are, generally the rule. There's always exceptions. And we know this from the world that we live in, there's always exceptions.

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So it is not completely out of the blue, that earthman accepts Islam before the conquest of Mecca, you know, he's one of the last he's one of the last batches to make hedgerow Earth might have been part of that along with hydrogen, really, they are the last batch to make digital. It's not a coincidence that this is his own decision to convert to Islam, and make his way to Medina when there's no conquest of Makkah. And so Allah blessed him with the hedgerow. And also the public honoring that earthman was given. Again, he was honored like no other person in this regard. And that is that when I'd even thought it'd be and he got the keys of the garbage. And of course, it's

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understandable why she went to keep it, our boss asked the processor, let's keep the keys now. Right, we already have, you know, the supplier, let's also have the the headline of this also have the keys, let's combine them because there's always been that rivalry that each tribe has been given one area of the GABA, and a boss himself said he also lets us do it. And he had the keys in his hand. And in front of all of the people of mcca. He said, You know,

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this isn't this is literally an award ceremony, where the keys of the gavel are being handed to this person. There's not a joke here. This is not a trivial matter, that Earth not even * is by name, he is brought in front of the cab in the doors of the carrabba, in front of the conquest of Makkah. earthman is awarded, and I say what he did to Osama is not irrelevant to this honor that is being given to him. It's a package deal. So package deal, the goodness that he had to do something like that. It shows that there's so much good in him. And that good is going to be rewarded in some way that eventually this happens to him. And so the process of handed him the keys publicly. I mean,

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can you imagine a higher award ceremony in front of the camera on the day of the conquest of Makkah, with the keys of the Kaaba, and the one giving the honor is the Prophet sallallahu. It was send them this is the highest award ceremony in the history of mankind. Nothing can be higher than this, and it goes to home, or if might have been thought of, and the story with oma cinema, it's directly linked because it's a package deal. The goodness is now being rewarded, even though it's not mentioned that Oh, what you did to my wife, it's not mentioned. But it's understood. This is a gentleman This is a real man who has done so much good. And the process of handed him the keys of

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the Kaaba. And then of course, he said the famous phrase, this is yours, generation after generation, no one shall dare take it from you, except our volume. 1442 years have gone and it is the direct descendant of Earth minded men, but to this day, when the Kings want to enter that garba they have to call the descendant of Earth might have been taught how to come and open the door for the cat, but it is still in the descendants and to this day, and this is something that again, is an honor that goes back to this individual Earth mind avatar, and then we're back to our story for Miss Ella. So Miss Ella is reunited with Abu Salah. And in the course of the next two and a half years or

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so, she has three other children literally one after the other. So a total of four children with Abu Salah masala, Dora Romer and Zeno, two boys and two girls, Salah, Dora Omar and Xena Abu Salah participates in the Battle of butter. So he becomes a Mahajan and a battery, the highest level imaginable of a Sahabi. And then in the Battle of Ohio, he is severely wounded. And he is put on a you know the bed that they would put for the hospitals or whatnot. They'd have a place where they

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would put the wounded and he never fully recovers, he keeps on getting problem after problem until he passes away, half a year after or hurt, and jumada era of the fourth year of the Hydra, so he passes away. And almost selama now becomes a widowed lady with four children. So she is widowed. And she is no longer as young as she used to be. And she has now four children. So she will be

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an estimate. We don't have an exact age of her birth. But an estimate is that she is around in her late 30s at this stage. So you know, the she's not a young age, and she's not elderly. She's basically in her late 30s. This is an estimate that is given. Now, the kurush, the Arabs overall, they valued lineage nossob the most when it comes to marriage, in our modern Western culture, we value looks and money more than anything, but in their culture, lineage was number one, if you were the daughter of a famous outcome, if you were the daughter of a if you had a pure lineage, they prized this, like the Western society and now even the eastern society prizes looks so the beauty of

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a woman is number one in our time in their time. The number one is NASA, the lady of NASA, they want to acquire her for them. That's the way they aren't cultures are different. They want to have the purity lineage and whatnot. That's the way they are. Each culture is different and whatnot. So the fact that she is who she is and the granddaughter of you know, and Molina and whatnot and and the famous bento box zoom, she is getting proposals left, right and center, from all of the elite of the Sahaba. Abu Bakar proposed for her hand, or Omar proposed for her hand and the list goes on basically anybody who's everybody is proposing for the hand of oma Selma, and or miss Ella, turned

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all of them down, because she felt that nobody could compete with Abu Salah she loved Abu Salah immensely, and she felt that she doesn't need anybody after about selama then of course the Prophet says and proposed. So now the Prophet says and proposes to omit selama. And even the proposal of the prophets of serum, it is not accepted immediately. She sends back the message to the emissary that the rasulillah I have three issues.

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Number one, I am full of jealousy. I have a lot of zero. Okay. And I will tell them I only had one Miss Ella, so she's used to having only you know, no co wives. Number two, I am no longer young.

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You know, you have actually you have so you have these or you have I am no longer young. And number three, I have children.

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Again, have so no children, no children. Zainab, no. sodas are no children.

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Who How am I going to compete with that? So these are my three issues. She didn't say no, but she didn't say yes. So she sent back the message out to LA I have these three things, and full of jealousy, and I am no longer young. And I have family, the profitsystem sent back the messenger, give her this reply. As for your era, I will make dua to Allah that Allah will remove it from you.

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As for

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your age, then I am suffering from the same problem that you're complaining about.

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And as for your family, they will be my family.

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Can you think of a better response? I mean, what a beautiful response from our Prophet solicitor. How can you say no to that? And so almost Selma accepts the proposal, and she moved into the house of Xena Binti Jose Emma, who had passed away half a year ago has ended because Emma is now passed away we just mentioned her so she moves into that house. Now, of course, here it must be mentioned the Hadith that all of you know it is one of the most amazing Hadith that I want all of us to memorize. We've all heard of it. And that is the Hadith narrated by Ole Miss selama about calamities and tragedies and it is reported from her own husband Abu Salah. What was ironic and beautiful

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Hadith and a poetic idea as well. That Abu Salah came excited one day back home to miss Emma and Medina and he said Do you know what I heard the Prophet system say? Do you know what I heard him say? He said that any time any person is affected with a mostly ba and he makes this dua to Allah subhanho wa Taala that Allah subhana wa tada will replace his masiva with a better thing that was taken away from him. Okay, Allah will substitute what was taken away with something better than what was taken away. And what is this drop? in law? What Nayla who wrote your own Allahumma Gibney film we'll see but he was lovely. Hi

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I mean ha This is a dog we should all memorize it in narela hey we're in LA Roger on a llama journey famously Bertie, Allah bless or give me rewards because of this mercy, but reward me for my patience at this masiva and substitute be instead of this that has been taken away, substitute something that is better for me than what has been taken away. And the the the condition here, listen to this carefully Muslims and memorize it. It needs to be the first thing that you say when you hear of the calamity.

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You're missing mind has to go to Allah.

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Once you calm down, everybody thinks of Allah.

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As our Prophet says and have said in number sabater in the somatic oola true patience is demonstrated at the first stroke of calamity, when the calamity strikes, that is when a man is demonstrated when you hear the news right then and there. How do you react? Where does your mind go? Where does your heart to go? The one who can think of this door at that time that's what's going to happen and I will sell them passes away and the Profit System is there at his at his death and he makes the art for him as he is dying so Pinilla would a beautiful end, you know, you know, point to die in and he prays janazah for Abu salah and almost Salah when she hears the news, she says the

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first thing I thought of is Abu Salah, coming back and telling me this Hadith, right? She's the I mean, what a beautiful she's the narrator she's the winner. And so she says that

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she remembers it, but then she herself says, and I said to myself, who can be better than Abu Salah

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she was doubtful of the of the substitution. And she turned down Abu Bakar and Omar, the standards that she had of Abu Salah were that I generally you know this is Allah, this is love for you, right? And then she said and Allah azza wa jal did replace me How can you compare? Okay, Abu Bakar Omar understandable but the process of you cannot compare. And so Allah azza wa jal did replace with someone better than Abu Salah. And there is a humorous statement from our Isha as well humorous for us, not so much for her at the time. But that's the way our mother was that if inside narrates that when the processor married or miss Ella, I became extremely agitated and sad because of what I had

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heard of her beauty. So it appears that almost cinema as well, you know, like it shows Well, there were things about her mentioned. And so she said, I made an excuse to find a way to go visit her. Perhaps before this, there was no need to go visit on the cinema. So she doesn't remember what she looks like, whatever. So I made an excuse to go visit her. And voila, he I saw her much more beautiful than what the people had described. Much more immensely more beautiful. So I came back to have some irritated and angry because they were you know, they were one she herself says we were working together. And I'm complaining about this. But how sir, calm me down and have said, this is

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from your own era, your own jealousy, and you're imagining this. And so hafsa then made an excuse to go visit or miss Ella as well. And then she came back and she said, I saw her and she's not as beautiful as as you're saying. But yes, she is jameelah She is Jimmy, let me You're going too much. It's like okay, she's good, but not, you're going a bit too much. So he says, so the next time I saw her, then yes, they're angry and he by my life. It was as hafsa said that my jealousy got the better of me and I made her even more beautiful than my imagination then it was so yeah, anyway, but the point is that this narration tells us that she was a dignified lady that indeed befitting to be a

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wife of a prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam It was also at her marriage, that the ruling for a polygamous situation was instituted where as the process of said to her that if you wish, I will spend three days with you that are only for you three days, and then I will start the rotation. And if you wish, I will give you an entire week. But then I will make those extra four days up with them as well. And the the point of fifth is as follows that if in a polygamous situation and marriage occurs, when do you begin the rotations, like the equal rotations if you marry an unmarried lady, so for one week, you will get a grace period. You don't have to begin the rotations with the others.

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And if you marry a divorced lady, it's three days then you begin the rotation. So this is

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with Miss lm our Profit System mentioned this and that's when it began this ruling and fifth

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that Al Hamdulillah we don't have need to apply in our times and hamdulillah we thank Allah Omar satiric autosource Okay, so we don't

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have to apply this ruling in our time. So this issue of three and seven, it occurred in the marriage of Ole Miss Animoto de la who she's also known for her wisdom and her intelligence, and even look at the way that she managed the proposal process and out of all of the wives of the Prophet SAW said him, she had the reputation of being the most farsighted, the most visionary, the most wisdom and the process and greatly honored her for this. And this has demonstrated a number of issues of them is the new joshy gifting the Prophet salallahu idea, he was sending them some perfume and some garments, and he distributed the perfume amongst his wives. And then the vial that was left there's

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only one he gave the vial to, to or miss Ella, and so the actual bottle that was given from the joshy was given to a miss oedema and other things as well demonstrates the status of Miss oedema as well. At least two verses of the Quran were revealed.

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Not so. So remember we said jabril only came

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when the process was in the bed of whom? Asia but in the house It is possible that you really might have come so whether he came when almost Emma was in the house or whether it was revealed when it was her night we're not exactly sure. But there appear to have been two revelations that she witnessed occurring and again we don't know the details exactly how of them is the hadith of or sorry, the verse of the kisa the verse of in NEMA UD de la jolla hybond. At Allah wants to purify you there Hello elbaite this was revealed in the house of Ole Miss Ella and

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Miss Ella mentioned that when it was revealed, so the process of called Ali and Fatima and Hassan and Hussein Ole Miss Ella was narrating the Hadith. And that incident of the cloak it occurred in her house. So it was revealed at that point in time. And also the other verse that was revealed

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was the verse that dealt with the Toba the repentance of Abu Baba, do you remember Abu Baba story? The repentance of Abu Baba who tied himself to a pillar, it is still in the midst of the process or if you go to the older, you will find it says there the pillar of Toba to this day you will find there it says the pillar of Toba and that pillar was where Abu Baba tied himself and he said until Allah xojo forgives me after the Battle of clay but what happened with claypot right? And that was Abu Baba and Allah subhana wa tada then revealed in the Quran.

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Well, how do I tell a fool between obey Him and there are others, they have confessed of their sins and allows them to repent from them. So the process smiled in the house of olmesartan almost alibi says what happened to pseudo law? He said, Jubilee just revealed this first to me, so it's happening in the house. Okay, and almost Salama, says Yara Salalah Can I go tell abou Baba, and he says you may. So it was Ole Miss selama. Now the verses of hijab are gonna come in a few months from now. It's not had not yet revealed, right? So the verses of the hijab of the wives of the Prophet is gonna come after the Battle of the handbook by a few months, who's going to have the same year but

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later on. So she says, Can I go and tell abou Baba? And he says, Yes, so she went, and she was the one who informed Abu Baba of the fact that Allah had revealed verses about him. And Abu Baba, then said, I will only accept if the process of himself comes and unties the rope and then the process him came and did it. So that is, in the house of omisego moto de la Juana, also of the the main point of wisdom in the Holy Spirit for oma selama you all know the story, I'm not going to go over that or else we spend a whole hour doing that. It is of course, the incident of who they be, right, the famous, famous famous incident of Ole Miss Emma's wisdom being shown, and the process of acting

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on that advice. When the Prophet system told the Sahaba we're not doing our own, we're off, we're going back to Medina helaas, pack your bags and go and shave your hair. And after all of the tension and being so close, and three weeks going by people's moods are very, very frustrated with the origin, everything happening. And so everybody just sitting there,

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nobody obeyed the Prophet sallallahu Sallam at that time. They're just sitting there. And the process of enters the tent of oma selama and he's agitated, and he she asks What happened? He tells her what happened. And look at again, her wisdom, her maturity, and as we said, out of all of our mothers, she was the one that was the most visionary and the most wise in this regard. And she says Yasuda law, why don't you do this, go out. Don't speak to anybody and get the barber

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For Santa Barbara, and tell him to shave your hair in public.

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Let's do this. So he immediately followed her advice. And the rest is history soon as they saw that, and this is the right advice of Ole Miss Ella, now a bit of a tangent area directly relate to or miss cinema.

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Some of our modern Muslim academics of the feminist strand, they read in oma selama as being the first Muslim feminist, that's the title they give her. She is the first Muslim feminist. Now, I'm not going to go into the whole feminist spiel and you know, my, my overall

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analysis of this.

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It's a different topic altogether. Maybe one day, I'll give a lecture about this, when I feel that there's not enough tension in my life and add some more tension and start some online campaigns to boycott me or something at this stage, maybe all life is boring, I want some excitement. But overall, as you know, I am not sympathetic to third wave feminism whatsoever, societal, sorry, gender roles are not just societal constructs, gender roles are a biological and human fact and a historical fact. And I don't believe in this in this term altogether. We give the rights that Allah has given women and men, but they quote to a number of incidents in the life of Mr. lamba, that are

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definitely very intriguing. And eye opening, especially. So here's the problem. person like myself, I definitely don't ally with that set that crowd. But at the same time, we do have problems in the ultra conservative strands of Islam as well. And we do have problems amongst men doing volume to women, amongst men wanting to silence women, and omnicell Emma's incidents clearly proves that they have also gone to an extreme. And by the way, each side feeds off the other By the way, that's another point, right? Just like the far right, and the crazies, they feed off each other. So to you know, the feminists are a reaction to the ultra conservatives, right? And then the ultra

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conservatives become even more ultra because they're because of the horror of the feminist. So it's a two way street here. And people should use wisdom and see beyond that rhetoric. But the point is, this is a very interesting factor. Almost Selma is asking questions about the rights of women. She's asking questions, that's empowering women. And she out of all of the Why is none of the other wives are doing what she is doing. And she definitely, therefore she has this streak in her. And there's nothing wrong with that, and she's admired by the prophet sentiment. That's the point. So it is true that yes, there are gender roles that the Quran and Sunnah have come with. And there are gender

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roles that are biological and whatnot. But at the same time, there's a spectrum. And even within the gender roles, some men, some women, they not exactly in the middle, they go more this way. And that way, you know, so whatever you want to say about these normative roles, you will always find men and women who are not exactly in the middle of the of the norm here. And there's nothing wrong with that. And only selama is on the side of wanting to empower wanting to ask, and she's asking questions that if some of our sisters ask them, many of our brothers would object How dare you ask, but this is the wife of the Prophet says I'm asking. So there are a number of them. And I actually

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do plan to give a longer lecture someday.

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It's just not stuff. Well, I'm not scared of anybody's shallow data, but I just not I'm not interested in that right now. I have other things in my mind, but definitely, definitely, feminism deserves a number of Islamic lectures. And we need to discuss the pros and the cons, the good and the bad, there is good. There is good in some of this. And there's also things that I strongly disagree with. But the point is that almost all of us asking some very, very deep questions of them. Listen to these. I'm only going to mention a few of them. She says Yasser Allah Allah.

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Allah always mentions men in the Quran, how about the women?

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You can see why modern feminists that are Muslim say she's the first feminist because the question is coming from that paradigm, Allah mentions the masculine the Ducker Where are the author where's the net? Where's the woman in the Quran? So Allah subhana wa tada reveals so that Allah has a verse 35 which is of course the famous verse in the Quran in the Muslim in our Muslim it was Medina when moving it right. Well, according to upon it, it was harder to certify to all of this harsher and harsher exactly lovecchio law to have all of this is mentioned there believing men and women, the Muslim men, women, the good the fast thing many women do charity men and women, you know the ones

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doing you think I met a woman, the whole list men, women, men, women, men, women, it's equal Exactly. Then Allah says Allah has promised all of them a great reward. Okay, so it is very clear from this verse. And I've said this very explicitly, that the genders really do have equal opportunity in the eyes of a law to enter agenda and that is the real equality the real equality

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Not to this world, every one of us is treated according with our specifications, our qualifications, our backgrounds. The doctor is not given the role of the engineer, the engineer is not given the role of the mechanic. Everybody has a role to play. If four years of training can give you a different role, how about your biological birth, which is now being questioned as well? And by the way, I'm no I'm getting in trouble for this, but I'm already into trouble anyway. When you start questioning gender roles, you will start questioning genders. And that's what we're seeing now, with my utmost brutality and bluntness. For the last 2530 years, you've been questioning gender roles,

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gender roles, gender roles, well, then how do you have eliminated gender roles by saying their societal constructs? The next result is you will question genders, which is not what is being questioned right now. But that's a whole different issue. There are gender roles that are from a law and there are gender roles that are from culture and society, I'm agreeing some gender roles come from culture, some gender roles are societal, I agree, but some gender roles are not and that is explanation in the Quran. What is the curriculum? And the point is that if you look at this verse, the things that are mentioned are good deeds. When it comes to good deeds, there is no

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Allah will not reward a man for his deker quote, a man more than a lower reward a woman, a law will not reward a woman more for her Vicar for her sight out for her sadhaka just because she's a woman more or less than a man. So in terms of good deeds, the whole list a dozen good deeds, and Allah says they're all equal. Yes, no problem. But we go to the next example.

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Also good deed By the way, so the third example, the second one, that she asked that as well she asked that almost ginger of Allah.

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Allah praises the Maha Jean in the Quran, how about the Mahabharat?

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Okay, so, in the Medina *, Allah mentions hedger, hedger, and the default is masculine as you know, so she's saying how about the Mahabharat? And so, Allah subhana wa tada revealed the last verses of Allah and Milan to respond to her question. By the way, notice Allah is responding to your questions. So this is another blessing of oma selama. At least three verses revealed by Allah to respond to her questions about feminist issues,

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feminine issues, I don't like the term feminist. And so Allah azza wa jal responded in accordance with Allah and will on that first day job by the hombre boom, your Lord answered them. Your Lord answers them. What is the answer? And Neela older Amen. Amen. Amen. Come in Zachary own Sir, I shall not cause the reward of any of you to go to waste male or female. Notice the reward is equal. Notice it is so explicit will light. You cannot argue against this. The equality that comes in the Quran is the equality of follow up. The equality of Allah subhana wa Taala and you're a Buddha to Allah. The male is not a greater worshiper than the female just because he's a male. That is the real equality

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and that's very clear in the Quran. Biological men bow each of you comes from the other every man comes from a man and woman every woman comes a woman in a man, this is Allah equality, how can you be competing against one another, each one of you comes from the both of you. You need each other vowel document out for lead in a larger room. Those of you who did hijra will only German dare him and were expelled from their houses will oofy severely and faced harm because of me while otterloo and they fought in wars while cortito and they were killed, five things are mentioned Luca Ferran nanosatellite shall forgive although their sins and I will cause them to enter gender Okay, now I

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have to be honest with you. So Pamela and

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I have been reading suta Allah and Milan since I was 11 years old memorized it when I was 1314. And I have read this hadith of oma Salama, that Allah revealed this verse to me, because of me, since I was also 1718 years old today as I'm preparing my lecture, and the first time that light bulb went off

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the five things mentioned are exactly what Mr. Lima suffered.

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I never made that causal connection

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just doesn't it looks a pile of people I'm so damn something I couldn't believe it. Literally. What was I think I'm reading the verse. I know it's not but I never made to the board until today. And I have to confess like I really felt really sad. Something so obvious. And it only clicked when I'm, as I'm doing the research for today's almost enemies like so. panela This verse is a biography of oma Selma.

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Her journal. She did the hijab is senior, and she headed to Oak Ridge woman dare him.

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She was kicked out right. Ooh, FISA v. The persecution being separated from her husband from her from her son.

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She was irritated for that she was harmed. Auto to her husband fought in Jihad put to her husband died. Her whole story summarized in the SERPs. It's in the Quran. And this is a great blessing, you know, again, I have to confess I never it never clicked to me. Even though I know the Hadith for more than 25 years, I know the Koran for more than 35 years. I have not but it never clicked until a few hours ago and this shows how weak we are May Allah forgive supine Allah very sad, but then this is the reality we don't

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fly to the bedroom of Quran This is the reality we don't make the debauchery that way. It was only today and I wish I could tell you this. I knew I didn't it literally a few hours ago. It just really is as if I read the verse for the first time since if I didn't understand the meaning, until the whole story of Ole Miss oedema is literally there. And that's when it clicks with Hannah law. You don't think anyway this is anyway I asked Allah for more for him and more to the board. So those are never ending journey, never ending journey you never cease to learn. That's the point I knew this ayah and I knew this hadith for three decades that I have almost four decades but never clicked

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together until you're doing the the the the story together in any case. So this is the second reveal. Now the key for us to really understand. And again, I'm going to inshallah, someday I'll give a lecture about feminism, but this really it shows us that the equality is spiritual and not the roles roles are different. And this is shown in the third incident. Almost selama asked another question as well.

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Mujahideen jabber says that Omar Salah said that the Allah Sula law, we women are forbidden to go for jihad, yet men are allowed to go.

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And when it comes to inheritance, we only get half. Now what she's trying to say. She's trying to say our sources of earning are less than that of men.

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How so?

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Vanilla. Exactly. Vanilla is a major source of money. Or NEMA is a major source of money. So she's saying, Look, it's not our fault. We can't go the Shetty has said you're not allowed to go call us We can't go. But we need to get more money as well. I mean, she didn't say that. But you get the point. That's her the way she phrased the question, right? Like we're not allowed to go men can go yet in terms of inheritance, we only get half. Now before I get to the answer from Allah subhana wa tada Subhanallah this is really what shows you. This is really what shows you that ethics and morality is so finicky in nature. Almost Selma is looking at this scenario. And she's complaining

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now I shouldn't say complaint. Let me take that back. She's questioning the wisdom, why we only get half. And she brings in we can't go for jihad.

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The Sahaba on the male side, use the exact same two things, to question why women should even get a half

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the exact same two things.

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The Sahaba, as is mentioned in poverty and others, when this verse came down that we're going to mention, the Sahaba said Dr. rasulillah. We are the ones who go out and fight, not the women. Why should they get half?

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Literally, imagine the women and the men are seeing the same two things. And they derive the exact opposite from what they see. Right? That's the reality of ethics and morality, you can make a structured argument that is logically coherent from anything. Look at today's morality, look at today's sexuality. You can make whatever argument you want. And it is in its own way solid. You understand what I'm saying here amongst this issue amongst the men, one side, the woman the other side, they're looking at the same facts, the issue of jihad and look at what they're deriving. And that is why you need a higher authority to tell you how from Boston to tell you right from wrong.

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Otherwise, our limited minds can construct an argument out of anything.

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That's why there is something called the moral argument for God. The ethical issue I gave a hope a few weeks ago about this as well that for Muslims, we firmly believe that and this is frankly most modern philosophers from Nietzsche and others. And as Nietzsche said, basically, without God, there is no morality. I mean, many famous philosophers said this, that when you once you remove God from the picture, there is no morality. Anyway, back to our issue here. So what verse came down about this, that Allah azza wa jal says, and this is in the Quran To this day, while a teta man No, Fabiola will be here, Baba comala about Leary giardino sleepable minmatar colinas I know sable mimic

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the seven was a la Hammond for me.

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While at a time and note my Fabiola is a sort of Anissa do not desire or be greedy for the things that Allah has given some over others.

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To men, they have a share of what they have earned. And to women, they have a share of what they have earned. Each one this is the share that has been assigned to you. And all of you men and women ask Allah from his father was a law firm and he

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asked Allah and Allah will give you other ways, okay, money isn't the only thing. Perhaps a woman will also have satisfaction in some other way of the blessings of family of life, whatever it might be, she might have Joy's in another way, was Aloha, midfield, Li go and ask Allah for his blessings. So the point here is that Allah azza wa jal in this verse did not say, Oh, the both of you are the same, the both of you are good. He said that for hegira. He said that for Vicar, for sure. For sadaqa, for Salah, all of this the same when it came to financial issues or issues of this world. Allah said, Look, men and women are different. And this is Islamic feminism, not what these modern

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academics are about. This is their own Western version that they're trying to impose on the Quran. The Quran does not say this, they have to twist and distort or outright reject as some of their main figures are doing completely. They literally anyway, I don't want to start that because I get very frustrated at this, the language that they use about the Prophet Ibrahim Ali, some others is well known what their what their demand is, and they have to answer to a law for what they do. But this is the logical discourse. If you are not willing to take the organic message, you will end up rejecting it in this manner. And that's the reality. The point is that almost selama and suppiler.

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Again, let me just finish with this about the feminism issue. Don't quote me almost selama without quoting these incidents and how she reacted to them,

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she didn't complain after Allah revealed the horror on End of story. Allah spoken End of story. This is real Islamic feminism semi underwater.

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Okay, question. Go ahead. And let's see what Allah says I'm not the one saying this is Allah speaking. And Allah answers explicitly, men and women are equal spiritually, you're both having the same capacity to enter agenda. But when it comes to this world, one at a time and no, my fault blah, blah, blah, there are ranks and privileges men have women have different, it's not a competition. The roles are different, complimentary society functions better this way. You're not competing against one another. You're on the same team. As the team of the family, you work together, each one has a role to play and Allah knows what is best. Allah knows what is what fractions are good for you

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what fractions are good for you and the both of you ask Allah for all blessings, you will get them. So

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the verses very clear in this regard.

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Excuse me, that when it comes to the matters of this world, genders are not the same when he says that Gurukul owns the man is not like the woman original yukawa Mona Lisa, what is Jolly Roger, you cannot be a third wave or postmodernist feminist and read the Quran and accept the both of them there's a contradiction but in any case, that's another point all together enough for feminism back to

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anybody who quotes are Isha and omnicell Emma and her deja as Paragons of feminism has studied their lives, much less emulates them be like Ayesha act upon omis enemas, Amanda taqwa and then I'll actually respect you don't pick and choose one thing from their lies and ignore the other. They are not at all like your version of feminism. They are true believers and ulun is messenger and they embody femininity and not modern feminism big difference between the two in any case so I know this lecture is going to definitely get me into a lot of trouble in my excuse, I will say I'm not feeling well all the way but I think everything I said is pretty legitimate and shallow Donna but if I were

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feeling well, I don't think I would say these things that would get me into trouble anyway.

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inshallah to move on where was I?

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We talked about misalignments for children.

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The second of the children was Omar and Omar. There's a number of narrations from the Prophet system that he also did have them is the famous one in Timothy. That aroma Eben Abbey sedima said that I was a hula in the household of the prophets of Allah while he was setting them. And I rushed into the house and jumped into the food to eat. And the Profit System said to me Yeah, Hola, I'm Sam Miller. We're cool be a Munich we're cool memory leak. The famous hadith of Omar ibn Avi Salama, that he is saying, oh, young boy. So the process is teaching him how to be and manners say Bismillah before you eat, and eat with your right hand and eat that which is next to you. The point is that

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these four children, they were raised by the prophet sallallahu sallam, and he became a father figure for them and there are a number of Hadith that they narrated.

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From the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam almost selama becomes the second most copious narrator of Hadith, after a shot of the Allahu Allah, and what facilitated This was many matters of them as her own intelligence. Clearly she is a very perceptive and wise Lady of them is that she spent relatively six years with the Profit System, as his wife, and of them is that she was the last of our mothers to pass away. This is the key point of almost cinema, the quiz question that if somebody asks you or if you write a quiz for the CLR, which of our mothers was the last mother to pass away? That is Ole Miss enema. So the fact that she lived the longest, and the fact that she was so

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perceptive and wise, and the fact that she accompany the process a number of key journeys, so she becomes the second most copious narrator of Hadith, after Of course, our Isha, she has around 380 a hadith narrated in most of the moment.

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And most of her narrations are from a 15 nature 13 on what de la 29 are in Bahati and Muslim overall, and of her blessings as well is that she saw the angel job read it his setup, but not in its original form. Obviously.

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It is mentioned that once

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she looked and she saw the Hey, I'll be speaking with the Prophet salallahu alayhi wasallam and she said, Who is this Yara sola. And he responded that it is the part that is gibreel. So she, she saw a finger, and the finger in her eyes was telling me as I explained jabril

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if he were to show himself to a companion, it would be in the figure of the year. And he chooses Allah xojo allows certain humans to see. So the fact that oma selama is one of the very few Sahaba who saw Jubilee, this is a gift from Allah. Otherwise, he is invisible in generally speaking, so she saw Jubilee, but she assumed it was there until Jubilee left. So obviously, this is well known that No, nobody saw God and recognize him to be gibreel until afterwards, except for the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. There's also an interesting Hadith. So I mean, because there are 380, I can't do the heavy session with you Just like with ash, what can I do with you know, 3000? What can

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you do 2000. So similar with with our mother, woman, sedima 380 is way too much. And so I'm just going to skip over that. But there's one that is just interesting shows us a little bit about her relationship. So after the death of the prophet SAW Selim, she had a slave by the name of Neb, Han, and Han had agreed to gain his freedom in Arabic is called macatawa, for a sum, and I've explained the concept of McCarter many times. And that is that in Islam, risk is very different than Western slavery. And in Islamic law, any slave has the right to get his freedom and negotiate his freedom with his master. It's a very strange thing for Western minds. That's why I don't like to call it

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slavery. It's not slavery, per se. And it's not indentured servitude, something in between. It's a whole unique system, any slave by text of the Koran, that any person in the room can negotiate with the master that this is my amount, and he has to give be given time to go earn that amount, and then you pay the amount and you're free. So nahan did this macatawa with oma sama, and one portion was left 2000 was left of that. And he then visited Alma Selma to repay that portion Finally, so now he's going to repay the portion and become free. Okay. And almost Selma says to him, yeah, about your hair. This is Konya. Give this 2000 to my nephew who's getting married. And once you give him

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that amount, then we shall never see each other again, and we will say Salaam to one another. Why is this? Because now you're no longer my slave. Okay, so then we will now be so no more, no more, can you come and meet me? Now pan didn't know this 50 rolling, and he begins to cry.

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And he says, I'll never give it and just remain a slave.

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Like, I'll remain a slave so that I can still talk with you and act with and see with you and whatnot and learn from you. He's narrating it and whatnot, I'll remain a slave. And so he had the money, right, but he didn't want to give it because he's, he's gonna give that up. Then Ole Miss Allah says, I heard the Prophet. So they said him say that, whenever then will cut them has enough to pay his debt off, then the owner should wear hijab in front of him. So if you have this money, then we will not see each other again. And then almost Selma says, unless if you see me in the mirror,

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so in the archaea, that's not where it applies here. So the very fact Subhanallah I mean, firstly, the the issue of the the type of relationships that existed in Islamic Society

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Between the master and the servant, they're unparalleled in Western societies, there was genuine care and concern, they became members of the extended family. And this is something that is understood and known when you read the books of history and Sierra, they become they're not treated the way slaves in this part of the world retrieved. They're literally like members of the extended family and they have rights and privileges. And here's nahan. Once he realizes what he has to do when he's gonna pay the money, he's like, okay, in that case, how law payers law remain a slave. And all of a sudden, it doesn't work that way. We had an agreement, and now that you have the money,

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technically you're free. You've come to repay holla now you are free. Now even if you don't pay, you are now free. And this is the Heidi that she quoted from the Prophet salallahu it he was sent them.

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We already mentioned her last times,

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that the mothers,

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our mothers were two camps, that our issue was that the head of one camp would have saw and Ole Miss Salama and Xena Binti, Josh was the head of the other camps right? And the actual leaders were our Asian or miss Emma. They were like two friendly camps rival and I mean, like they're not. They're not the best friends. But they're also there's minor tensions between these two strands. Okay, so,

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oma selama was the leader of the other camp, along with the issue of being the leader of the first camp and that is indicating her status and whatnot. Irwin narrates that when Zainab bint the Joshua we'll talk about next week, when Zane Ubuntu Josh passed away otoa went to visit Ayesha and she was crying. Even though Xena was her rival. This shows you that there was still genuine love and respect between them even if there's co wife tension, which is expected Xena was crying. Sorry, I was crying. So it always says that. Yeah, I'm a Oh my aunt,

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which of the wives of our of the process and was his favorite wife. And so our issue says, I didn't ask him this. But Zayn, Binti, Josh, which we'll talk about next week, and Ole Miss Salama,

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occupied a high status. And I think that after me, those two were his favorite. Obviously, I should know more. Everybody knows that after Khadija I should everybody knows. And Medina after Isha Xena, and ami Salama,

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in no order. And this shows us the status of homeschool Mama. She was also definitely very active politically, after the death of the prophet SAW Selim. She wrote letters to earthman because when she was in hijab, she's not going out to anymore he his wife, the process now she's writing letters to Earth man advising about policy after the death of Earth man or the law one and the murder of Earth man when she heard that she was going to bust it off. So you can tell I mean, this is in her nature, she is

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wanting to participate in these matters, which is not the norm amongst women at that time. So this is not anything new. Some women are like that. There's nothing wrong with that. So now she hears that I was marching to bussola, she sends a letter to Asia, advising her not to do that this is not right for you. She wants to give her advice, to not participate in what is going to become the Battle of the camel, this is before it actually happens. So she advises that, and I should deflects it says, you know, I'm trying to call soda and whatnot. And the idea of the law when it comes to visit or miss Ella and Ole Miss Anima says, If I were allowed to I would go with you. So she

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supported it with your loved one.

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And she said if I could have I would have gone with you. But obviously I cannot go. But she said I will send somebody more precious to me than myself. That is my son. I love my son more than I love myself. And so her son fought on the side of it.

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And he was one of the commanders in the army of it. And this is basically the idea of the the the one who the process and raised you know, it's not a trivial figure. And this is Omar, by the way, the one who narrated the idea so Omar, even Abby selama, he fought on the side of it a lot, the last one. And during the time of Malawi and Addy, she wrote more our letters advising him to give it his rights. So again, she's playing a very political role here, and she's advising various people about what they should be doing. And then it of course, is the last line is assassinated by the Hulk hottie dice. So she's the pragmatist and she understands that unity is important. And hence, when an

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issue happened in Medina and certain people refuse to give the beer to Malia, she wrote a letter to the some of the people that weren't giving their oath. And she said, I commanded my own family, my own nephews to give the bail to Maui you as well should give the bail. So this shows that she's leading a very activist life and it was accepted. Some women are like that, and men need to understand that it's not a problem at all. Again, we have to be fair to our texts like us.

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That one extreme should not lead to the other extreme. And she was of her sad, you know things as well. She was the only wife of the prophet SAW sent him to be alive when the massacre of Hussein happened.

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And it is said that she fainted when she heard the news. And she was in very much grief. And there is a very, very strange Hadith that scholars have been debating for the last 14 centuries isn't Timothy, so six books and and hack him and basically and others. It's a very strange idea whether it's authentic or not, is a big dispute and whatnot. And even Timothy himself says had the headphone hardeep. You know, this is a solitary lady, pretend it doesn't mean is it strange, it means solitary, and you don't know anybody else who narrated it. And this headset goes as follows that

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one of the servants of women sedima entered a bottle beside him and she found her crying, she found her crying. And she said, Thomas, tell me what happened. So Miss Ella said decided he didn't really I saw the Profit System in a dream.

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And there was dust on his face and his beard. And I said, What is the matter Yasuda law, and he said, I have just witnessed the killing of Hussein right now.

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Okay, I've just witnessed I'm seeing this right now. And so she was found crying and this and this. Heidi has invited me there, as I said, and there are other books that also mentioned this, Heidi. So this and she was the only wife alive at this time all of the other mothers had passed away. What year did Hussein die

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61. He wrote 60 161 is the death of Hussein. And after this incident by a few days or weeks, almost selama passes away. So almost Selma passed away in 61 hegira. That is the year of her death during the life of your seat, even while we're the only mother to live two years each time is on Miss Ella, and she was the last wife to die. She was the last wife to be buried in both Claire and her.

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And her janazah was prayed over by some of the tab your own because all the senior Sahaba had passed away in Medina, there were other Sahaba minor Saba in there, but it was passed away, although the others have passed away. And so none of the Sahaba were there for her janazah. And in any of the seniors. So have you had the children of the Sahaba who saw the process and they were still there at the time. And most likely she was around 90 plus years old. We don't have an exact date around 90 plus years old. And her children as we said were raised in the household of the Prophet so they sell them her eldest daughter, sorry, son, Selma, Selma is a boy's name but you can ask your girls and it

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was the boy here. Salah was married to the first cousin of the Prophet sallallahu, alayhi wasallam or mama even Hamza bin Abdullah. Okay, so Salah is married to the cousin of the Prophet solo setup. And Selma lived a very long life until the Salafi Abdul Malik ibn Marwan and, you know, I just wondered how to how I wish how we wish we could interview selama what our life we don't know anything about him other than to three things What a life Born in every scenario, right? And he lives to the Omega dynasty. And he from where to where this generation is just phenomenal. And particularly a person like selama, the stories that would he would have had and the life

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experiences, and then to see the very beginnings of the glory of the Omega khilafah. And literally any his timeframe, you know, underdose is almost going to be conquered and sin and whatnot. And this is essentially being raised in the household of the Prophet system. This is cinema. He grew up in the household of the Prophet system. Yeah. And he was an amazing generation, but they weren't historians going around recording and whatnot at that time. So what we do we know other than a few lines here and there, the second son Omar

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was made a governor of Bahrain during the life of it It never be thought of, and he also lived a long life and he died in the year 83 of the hegira. oma Salah was Dr. Zane that became one of the scholars of the tab your own era. And so she was one of the main narrators of how do you throw the women's side most of the Sahaba yet who is narrating from them, it is designup, the daughter of oma selama and also a little girl raised in the household of the Prophet salallahu idea he was setting them So this leads us to the end of Ole Miss Allah, may Allah azza wa jal Have mercy on her and exalt her rank and to next Wednesday in sha Allah, Allah, we will do

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two very, very difficult story but I've already done it in quite a lot of detail. So I'm going to go over it relatively quickly of zenobia la one has an advantage and we will do that story. And then in sha Allah in another two weeks in sha Allah, we will then be finishing up the mothers of the believers and with that, we'll be finishing our series in sha Allah tada any quick questions?

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About Xena, Binti Jose EMA or about Miss Alma de la weinheimer.

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Not a single question single question Bismillah

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saw Hussein, yes?

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Can that be considered a hadith? The question is Can that be considered a hadith? So, this is a very, very interesting question

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omus Salama, so generally speaking, generally speaking, our scholars have said that anything that is witnessed in a dream from the Prophet system is not going to be considered a hadith. This is the general rule.

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And the reasons for this are many, but of them is that

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Firstly, the person other than almost any other person, how can you be sure that he saw the Profit System? You could be mistaken and his assumption because the Profit System said shaytaan does not take my finger. Anybody who knows what the process looks like she thought I'm about to take his finger.

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What if you don't know what it looks like? Like all of us, and you see a person in the dream? And you make the assumption? Right? So no entity is going to come and say that I am the Prophet, that's not going to happen. The shadows are going to take do not allow to do that. But But what do you know if you see somebody in the dream and he's a bearded person say, Oh, I saw the process? How do you know this could be your imagination. Now, that's not going to happen. She knows what the process is, right? But the scholars of Hadith have defined Hadith to be what the prophet system said in his lifetime. This is the definition of scholars of Hadith. Having said that,

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these specific rules might be exceptions only for the Sahaba.

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And I'll look into the books almost Hello, hi, I haven't looked at those books for many decades. my speciality once upon a time was added but these are these are very technical questions and I'm sure the encyclopedias that I have them they might discuss this, but if a Sahabi sees a dream,

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in that case, the Sahabi his verdict is different, in my humble opinion, because he knows what he has seen. But nonetheless, nonetheless, oma Salama narrating it to us, whether we call it a hadith or not is a technicality.

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If she saw the Prophet system it is him

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and so it will be something true whether you consider it a headache or not becomes a point of technical issue doesn't change the reality. The issue comes about the start of this hadith Is that the one who narrated it is a particular lady from the tab your own and ladies from the tab your own we don't have gender information about them. This is our problem most of the ladies from the tab your own era unless they were Daughters of the Sahaba but in this case then one on average from his enema is one of the ladies of the saburo we don't know anything about her her her authenticity her memory etc etc so she's what's called much hula unknown question mark. So because of this the is not

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is slightly weak because and again this is technical stuff but the majority of the tab your own are given more leeway than afterwards because the tab your own lying was not done in that generation it came after the wars that took place what not so because of this the slightest weakness possible is the Johanna of attack Barry. This is out of all of the life Hadith. This is like the one that's the closest to us and is this one and that's exactly what this one is. And that's why there's this big controversy whether this hadith can be used or not. And Allah xojo knows best inshallah, time has gone very late. So inshallah we will start for today and continue next week inshallah tada where I'm

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not going to make as many blunders and gaps that will be refuted later on on Facebook and show

Shaykh Yasir Qadhi now gives us valuable information in his next lecture on the 5th and 6th wife of the Prophet ﷺ – Zaynab bint Khuzayma RA and Umm Salama RA.

Zaynab bint Khuzayma RA

She belonged to the Hawashim tribe. Her mother was Hind bint Awf ibn Al Harith and Maymunah bint Al Harith RA and Umm Fadhl RA were her stepsisters. Her first husband is Tufayl Ibn Haritha RA and he is a prominent figure in the history of Islam with him being the first to die a Shaheed in the way of Islam whilst returning from the Battle of Badr due to worsening of his cut off leg.

Her marriage to the Prophet ﷺ  took place in the month of Ramadan 3 H, just a few weeks after his marriage to Hafsa RA. her Kunya was Umm Al Masakeen. This came to be because she would always feed the poor and orphans. She died in the month of Rabi Ul Akhira , 4 H of natural causes and just after a few months of her marriage to the Prophet ﷺ. We have zero narrations from Zaynab Bint Khuzaimah RA in the Seerah. Zaynab is the only wife whom the Prophet ﷺ prayed the Janaza for and she is the among the first to be buried in Jannatul Baqee.

Umme Salamah RA

Her actual name was Hind Abu Umayya ibn Al-Mughira. She belonged to the tribe of the Banu Makhzum. Khalid ibn Al Waleed was her cousin. She was married to Abu Salamah who was from the tribe of Banu Asad. She had four children: Salama, Umar, Zaynab and Durrah. Abu Salama died after the Battle of Uhud.

When she was proposed for marriage by the Prophet ﷺ, she did not accept the proposal immediately citing reasons of age, jealousy and existing children. A beautiful reply was given by the Prophet ﷺ and makes for a mesmerising listen.

At least 2 verses of the Qur’an came in the house of Umme Salamah RA. What are they? Please do listen carefully. The famous incident of Umme Salamah RA wisdom is depicted in the Treaty of Hudaybiyyah.

The last of the mothers to pass away is Umme Salamah who dies in 61 H during the Khilafat of Yazid Ibn Muawiyah and is the second most copious narrator of Hadith. She was the only wife of the Prophet ﷺ to be alive when the massacre of Hussain RA happened.


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