Parenting and How to Raise Children
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Is it possible to raise a perfect child in this imperfect world?
We know as parents we have a responsibility to make sure that our kids are safe and are raised in a positive and healthy family environment.
But, how far do we go with that. What if my child doesn’t listen to what I say? What if my child doesn’t grow up to be the way I want them to be.
Salam aleikum wa rahmatullah wa barakato. Is it possible to raise a perfect child in this imperfect world? That's a question many people they asked me these days, you know, handler as Muslims we value we've, we know the responsibility of being a parent, we know the responsibility of making sure your children are raised in a very healthy family life. That's very important for us. But now, how far Should we go with that? What if my child did not listen to what I say? What if I tried all what I can I have tried all the skills and I've used all the knowledge I have about raising a healthy child, still, my child did not did not grow up to become the way I wanted them to become. You see,
when it comes to raising a perfect child, it's really it's it's a it's a dream, every parent want them to be they want them to be the successful child in school, and religiosity and spirituality in sports and this and that and almost everything. But then is it even possible to raise the pert the perfect child that's one big mistakes many parents they try to do to their children and sometimes it's not really fair, because Allah subhanho wa Taala designed us with different capabilities, different capacities different you know, understandings and skills and so on. You cannot you cannot deal with your children as if it's as if they're all going to be the same and it's not even it's not
impossible to dream of such a perfect child in such an imperfect world. So what do we need to do exactly what we need to think about is to build a responsible child, someone you tell you teach them values and as they grow older inshallah terracotta Allah, they will make their own choices. They will make their own inshallah decisions based on their values that you've taught them when they were young, but to make them perfect, it doesn't happen. Look at Nohara his Salah 950 years, if anyone deserves to save his children from Shere Khan, from coup for for the public service they have done for the sake of Allah azza wa jal will be someone like no Allah has Allah. But Allah has taught us
in the Quran, an important value about our children, and about the loved one about the people that we love in our lives. He says of Hannah Montana in Nicoletta demon, you don't guide the people, you know, you don't guide whom you want, or whom you love. But Allah subhanho wa Taala is the one who guides whomever he wants. So our responsibility is to do our part to deliver the message and make sure to provide them with that with the skills to provide them with with the aim and the knowledge and the environment that would raise them in a healthy way, inshallah xojo. But then as they grow older, your decision and their choices, you're not responsible for their mistakes afterwards,
because you've done what you've done your best know how to Islam. After 950 years, he himself, he stopped calling his son to join them even when the danger was there, but his son chose to be among the non believers. And Allah subhanho wa Taala did not hold you accountable for it. He did his best, but his son made his choices. So for us, we do our best and the results are all in the hands of Allah subhanho wa Taala salaam aleikum wa rahmatullah wa barakato.