Unbreakable Tackling Life S Struggles
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Thank you very much.
it's my honor to be here.
Today speech when I arrived and I saw this beautiful First of all, let me tell you the story. I'm not telling me that we're going to the university. Then we kept driving for about two hours. And I keep saying, What's that university, which is hidden far away from the city gonna look like, Okay. Then he said, No, it's seen as very good city. It's in Toronto, Toronto. I said Toronto, said sound like Toronto. Anyway, it's very summer you can I'm not a Canadian, but Canadian people always add.
And when they talk
on, I guess, religion, they add law.
I'm very, very happy, very proud of you. Because we are one nation, one Muslim. When I see the success in any part of this Muslim Ummah, I consider it a success of myself, because I'm part of this nation, the Muslim ummah. So I would like to congratulate you for this beautiful country that you have. Malaysia, it's my first time to visit the country. Very beautiful.
I would like also to congratulate you for this unique University, the University technology, PETRONAS, it's also a wonderful place, Mashallah. I was very impressed with the little bit of information that I get to know about University from the Vice Chancellor, Professor Muhammad, thank you very much for hosting us today. And also, I would like to thank a Nordic Institute, and Nora Sonic Center, which is something I thought it's very unique to have an Islamic Center inside the university. That's something very unique. I came from a country which is known of its education United States of America. But I'll tell you, you have put so many of our university in shape by the
Mashallah that the beautiful buildings, the beautiful students and wonderful teachers that I have met so far. So I asked him last month, I like to give you a strength to continue your
journey in this life and to be more successful in this life and the next inshallah tada
Alhamdulillah wa salatu salam ala nabina Muhammad all praise do to align His praise and blessings and peace be upon our Prophet Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, his family, his companions and his followers until the day of judgment.
My dear brothers and sisters, I know I'm talking relatively to a very young crowd. So when you talk about challenges in life, so many of us we don't really kind of relate to it yet. You know, when you're a college students, we're still young, fresh, there is no money, too many things to worry about, to worry about, especially if you're a female, single male singles are less worried than female singers, you know, they said, a male young male will not worry about life until they get married until they get married. As a female, young female, she worried about her future until she gets married after that somebody else will worry about it.
But further, he doesn't care about much until he gets married after that he start getting worried about the future. But anyway, there is no doubt that each and every one of us, regardless of our age, regardless of our gender, there are certain challenges ahead of us. There is so many challenges ahead of us. this dunya this life that we live in today, Allah, Allah did not created it to be that smooth ride that we all go through. Allah never promised us never promised us a calm journey, but he promised us a safe landing in Charlottetown if we follow his command, so this rough journey this up and down, Allah Subhana Allah said in the Quran
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all mankind and by the way, yes, it's all mankind and in San, but you'll find some of them have a city and some of the scholars who interpreted this verse said, I'm in San Jose to mentor Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam in an opinion in San Juan Mora Rasul Allah says, Allah, ne O Muhammad, you are going to go through so much struggle in this life. So Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam who is the best
This creation to the law ever created, who is the most pure format of a human being that you can think of the most dear one to Allah Subhana Allah, Allah did not promise him a calm journey, that he will go through ups and downs. So what about the rest of the Ummah, there is no doubt that they will go struggle. And some said no, yeah, you'll have insight meant or who you believe it's removed your inner being here. Know what it means or who you believe you going through a struggle, not because you're a believer, you think this life will be very smooth for you? No. And other scholars said, This verse should be kept as general as it is all mankind, believers and unbelievers, righteous and
wrongdoers, everyone in this life won't go through a struggle, because things will not be achieved easily in this journey. And that's what I like. That's the opinion that I think it is fair because it includes every other opinions as well.
Allah Subhana Allah told us,
inside of the cabinet, we created human beings, and we made them go through Cabot. Yeah, the hardship challenges in life. And another verse, Allah Subhana, Allah said,
about human being in the Huracan in Santa may not fit in M shajing. Literally, we created you from not far from a lowly skirt that and we're going to put you through challenges in life, through hardship in life. This is a promise from the last panel to add to all mankind. Every one of us has his own struggle in life. Anyone who every one of us has our own word, you know what some of us worry about the future, I'm going to get a job. When a graduate. Look, some of us talking Personally, I'm going to be married to the person that I love. Maybe today, maybe you love someone and you worry if you're going to marry that one or not. Maybe you don't even have someone in your
mind. But you always worry, I'm going to be married to the right person or not. Or I will be any having a hard time like so many people I see in life, when they grew up what I was still in poverty, or I'll be able to make money to change my life would ever be able to go back to my country, no martial law. It's it's really the picture of Islamic faith in this universe that has gathered so many colors, so many. And I don't mean the hijab colors, I mean, the faces, okay, there are so many different ethnicities in this beautiful gathering. So everybody has his own, maybe worry about his own future or her own future, would I be able to pay my debts that I had to go through to continue
my education? Maybe I'm struggling with some subjects in the university? Would it be able to go through that maybe I have a hard time to adjust. Maybe some of us have sickness and disease that she doesn't know, she doesn't know how they will overcome this challenge in life. Maybe you have someone who's sick at home, that you're always worry about, I need to know how things will change in your life. It's not even in the personal level, some of us live in bigger problems. We are part of this bigger world, where all this economical crisis that's around us, that affect us somewhere other when we see we talk about global warming, we see countries not far away from us, they are sinking in the
We looking at the world around us, there are so many struggles, there is no stability, there is always fear of war and problems. When you look at all these challenges in life, you come up and you take a deep breath and you look at how I'm gonna be able to deal with all these problems. I'm gonna be able to deal with challenges in life and my role in this talk. I don't want to be just telling you Hey, you're gonna have a hard time in your future Very nice to meet you guys.
I didn't came in 10,000 miles away from Houston to tell you that you know there is a guy falling in a in a hall so he was like inside the hall screaming how powerful so doctor passed by him then he said doctor helped me said what I said I've fallen in love and broke my leg. He said yeah, okay just one second he wrote him prescription that he throat inside
and then he left so another person passing scream the person person and that's the share. So she helped me You know, I'm in the in the hall and they broke my legs. So the chef said, Okay, let me make draw for you. He make draw for him. So
then a friend passed by
and he said, Hey, what happened to you said I'm done. Then he needed to his friend jumped in the hall and carried him and he helped him to get out. That was friend force. Friends are the only one
comes in when everybody goes out
as true friends in life, so I want to be your friend today. I want to not only to get to
know I would like to share with you 10 tools 1010 points, I want you to keep in mind that you're going to need it in your future 10 points it will help you to face any challenge in life. It will help you to handle any problem that it will pass or it will challenge you in your future or even in this time, inshallah, whoa, dad.
It's not important to talk about our problem. As much it's important to talk to our problems.
We can talk about our problems so much as we can, but I think what we need to do we know we need to talk to our problems. That's why I came up with these points, when these points that it will help you to solve these challenges that you might go through it in your future inshallah tada and I'm putting these 10 points while I am putting in front of me, a statement from the Prophet sallallahu Sallam that I consider it one of my favorite headed that they ever come across in my life. And this heavy use of a lot of my preaching in my when I teach I teach to my kids to my community in the master which is it's an interesting hobby the province of Southern said manzanilla home in depth in
janilla. Allison Subhana Allah never put a disease on earth unless he provided a cure for it.
And don't ever limit your mind to the word disease to the physical disease. It's actually ignore him Rahim Allah said that include all kinds of diseases, heart disease, and psychological problems, economical problems, there is no problem in this earth, Allah have made it or allowed it to happen unless he has also put out there a solution for it.
That's why I remember men and women were gentlemen.
Some people will come to know the solution, some people will come to know the cure, and some will not the only thing that is no cure for it, there is no solution for the concept of death. Everybody will die and the concept of an arm which is everybody will get old. Nobody can stay young. Unless inshallah you go to gentlemen. So let's start with these 10 points quickly.
Number one, number one in anytime you're going through a hardship and calamity, what I want you to think of the first thing comes to your mind, to trust that Allah Subhana Allah in your sight that your Creator is with you. Don't ever ever to see a one Billa don't ever think bad or evil or negative of your Lord. You always have to remember that Allah Subhana Allah loves you, that Allah subhanho wa Taala with you, because Allah Subhana Allah told us and taught us inshallah use of this meaning when the father when the father told his children, even though he lost his son, he's about to lose another son, which is useless father, and there is a problem, a calamity that the king
refused to give them food for his tribe, how he can feed his children, his tribe, listened to our last panel, tell us about us about us father, he said, Yeah, Benny
has said to me,
Kung Fu, only the disbeliever The one who will give up hope and
the believers will never give up hope and unless
the believer will always realize in matalon Connie
seanie Allah Mercy is so close to that believer is so close to the believer, we part of our belief as the Muslims, that we depend on a last parameter and you know, what's the bent on the law means to look good, you know, what stoeckel means? To what could it mean to rely on a law to rely on him and to and you will never rely on someone unless you trust
unless you trust you know, what can you try? Go to one of your friend, you know, we do this sometimes the class and let your friend be behind you, and you just let your body go.
would you do it?
Would you completely notice this, they just fall like this and your friend's hand
unless you trust that he's strong enough to hold you that he will not be a cruel Joker and he's
just joke, you know, unless you trust him. You will
Like completing it. Can you believe that you rely completely on the last family? You trust Allah subhana wa Tada.
Well, many intellicad Allah, Allah Haskell, whoever rely on Allah Subhana Allah, Allah is the most efficient. Allah is the most efficient power law. I come across a study been done where I came from I came from Texas, it's a very religious state, very religious state. There is a study chocolate shop. That study in Texas, it was a conducted for more than 200 students, high schooler they are doing very well in their in their school, their grades are very high, they doing very well. And one of the question, the one of the common factor between between these 200 students from different schools in the state, that all of them, they have very positive view towards God. They're all of
them think of God as something positive, something was stands for them. anyone think of Allah Subhana Allah to Allah, as someone who will always for me, it will be very easy for you to go through these challenges. Later loss of Hana data do tell us why we don't always understand that loss of Hana with data's methods.
We don't necessarily always understand a loss of Hannah with the arrows. Yeah, and the way he put things together.
Because Allah subhanaw taala sees the big picture and you don't know what it needs to trust Allah subhanho wa Taala and in the history of Omni AB db familyoven, be at the mercy of Allah, Allah, Allah Subhana Allah says, I will meet your expectation on me. If you expect good from me, you will find good you expect that you will find nothing but that
Allah Subhana Allah always has a way even when it looks like there is no way I have a person they know he Mashallah one of these rich guys who fly in a private jet. Okay, so he said, once I was flying, and I was trying to everybody after we took up, open the tray, you know, the trade to put my laptop or my iPad, and he said mind didn't open minds looks strange, a little bit like from the side said, I'm not like, he sent this my first time to travel on this kind of jet with someone. So he said, I keep grabbing it, grabbing it, grabbing it. Everybody has open except to mine. Then he said to himself, he said to himself, why are you anyone? All of them open except me. Yeah, and it's
embarrassing. And he said, after I'm like grabbing it so hard, I finally realized that there is like 100 things written, don't try to open it. It's not a trade and emergency exit.
at a moment, I was saying to myself why
I got it,
that Allah didn't let it open. Because if it's open, I will be flying out of that airplane. So sometimes you should you need to learn to how to trust the last panel.
Need how to learn how to trust the laws of Canada. Because Allah will never intend bad for you. Allah Subhana Allah always there for you. I want to encourage every one of you, everyone for you today to get your life back and have to stay filled with hope, trust token, and Allah subhanho wa Taala you're giving with the one who sees you, who hears you, who knows your situation, and he's more merciful than anybody else. As to Fianna 30 he used to say while lying, I never want Allah subhanaw taala Yeah, and I never will choose my parents to be my judge. Instead of Allah. They said How come your parents will give you like an easy access to gender? He said no, because I know Allah
is more merciful towards me than my own parents.
That's the trust that we talked about that the feeling that it should filled our heart when we deal with the loss of Hannah with that we shouldn't deal with a lot with doubt. We shouldn't deal with the loss of Hannah data we would have a question mark is he really cares about me does the loss of her really loves me? Well, it no matter what, no matter how much you fall away, or maybe you're not a perfect person, but still Allah Subhana Allah is so merciful, so near to you.
All what it takes from you just to take one step towards him and see how in return he will come back or he will come to you.
Allah subhanaw taala has ways when it looks like there is no ways
you all know the story of Musa alayhis salaam he left Egypt with
His followers and guess what the children of Israel told a Moosa Shall we take weapon he said nobody allowed to take weapons, yeah moves,
no weapons, the left all the weapons, that what are we going this direction, there is nothing there desert, this direction, this direction. And he ended up
on the seat in front of him as he looked back and he see over there, Pharaohs and his soldiers and listen to this, Allah subhanaw taala said for them at all 18 feet.
When they saw one another
this year, they were so near that the children of Israel Moosa, they can see them.
The children of Israel said to Moosa, what have done to us, you brought us to nowhere, he said, I'm not the one who brought you here. I lost the one who told me to bring you here. So what was the answer? He said, Can
No, Allah Subhana Allah with me and He will guide him. See the heart when it foot that's a challenge. That's a very difficult moment to see your enemy and you have no weapons and they will not hesitant to kill you.
But he said, I was a panel with Allah with me, you will never forsake me.
And Allah subhana wa Taala have given him the I was vandalized his own way put things according to his timeline, not according to our timeline. You know, there is a great scholar of Islam. I don't know by hands. How many of you ever heard of someone who's named an Imam? No. Rahim Allah.
great Chaffetz scholars. One a very good number. This scholar remembers, shall remember. No, you're rocking the whole law in the beginning of his life, you know, what do you want to be? You want to be a doctor. He studied a book called
kanoon live in sin. He said I was reading it treating it it's not my field. And I was so mad at myself that I couldn't understand and comprehend this subject. So Pamela, maybe a moment he thought that this is the field the area that is excelling them, but he quit that and he stopped studying Sharia. And today the book rather silent in every corner of the earth, and continent know everywhere I traveled in an area you will never think that you're any Islam Richard and I found in this area, one of the know his book, I traveled to the, to the skimo, north of Alaska, by helicopter, then we took a dog sled basically we travel all the way there to see a Muslim living in a small little
village. Okay. And they have a cover from wherever
you go to the north north of Canada, you will sign a master letter coming from
Africa in an islands in the Pacific oceans I have seen the books of this man.
Maybe if he was a doctor, he wouldn't be that famous.
But almost Why choose for him another pack for a moment he thought he's a failure. But he was not. If you struggling in your study, remember this story, trust the loss of Hannah without do your best Excel and the thing that you are good at.
So number one, always have this trust in your heart. And Allah subhanho wa Taala that you always choose for you the good. The second point I want you to remember that ease comes with hardship. When thing became the hardest, when it reached the peak that the time where thing is going to
I have Mashallah. I witness my so many of my kids delivery, standing next to my wife holding her hand when she deliver the baby. I'm sure some of you may be
I don't know about that. Most of you young, but I'm sure you heard about a sudden TV with a woman deliver the baby. Have you have you come across some scene experience like that one woman deliver the baby that's one of the most difficult moments in her life. Somehow a lot at one moment your wife would be saying or the pregnant woman will be saying that said I don't want to do it anymore. That said I want to stop because so painful.
It is so painful to the extension that said I don't want this anymore. I want to stop. Can you imagine if you should stop at that moment
when the pain reached to the peak
without exactly when the baby about to be delivered, if she stopped and back off at that time.
What will happen?
Brothers and sisters, remember this example. When things reach to the peak, it's not the time to back off, it's the time to push forward.
When you things became so hard in you, you remember that the time not to back up, that's the time to push forward in
bass Alhamdulillah hilarie Ma, what a miracle.
We so grateful to our Lord that Allah said, with hardship ease, and a lot didn't say in the Koran, after hardship comes ease. Allah didn't say that. He said with my
brothers and sisters,
the darkest moment in the night, the moments right before dawn, this is the darkest moment of the night. That's why for those who are struggling in life, those who have things that make them worry, going through hardship and calamity, I want to tell you that I know for sure. And I want you to know that the Pay Day is coming very soon to you.
When you start saying, forget it.
When I hear some father telling me, you know what, this son, this daughter would never maybe they would never be good. I tell them that's not that that's not when you reach that level. That's the level that I telling you a little bit more effort and your son will be good. Your daughter will be good.
If you met it and you say this marriage will never work out. When you reach that level. I'm telling you all what it needs, not to divorce all what it needs to work harder.
One guy came to me right before I came here, just two days before I flew to Malaysia, and he came to me to listen, he said, Sure. That said I want to divorce. My wife
said why I don't love her anymore. I said, Okay. I have no love between us that said, I said you know what? Why don't work it out. He said I tried that I reached I said that's the time you should work harder. said You remind me of somebody telling me. You know what? I want to sell my car. Why? Because I run out of gas.
Because there is no gas in it. So I want to sell the car. You need to do go put some gas not on your wife
could put some gas mix. You can invest in your relationship with her. Go reignite that love again in the heart. That's what you need to work more. Not to the time to quit. When you say I will not change. Maybe some of us have drug problems using drugs or smoking. You know what every time you struggle with that you want to quit and you say I want to quit I want to be good. I want to stop doing this evil thing that I'm doing. When you reach the level you say you will never change know that the time you're going to change that the time you push farther. That's the time you dig your heel and and you stand your ground
either stay subtle Zulu one no
podoco de boo. Can you imagine the prophets and the messengers they reached a level that they thought they thought that Allah forsaken Allah have left
could evil Yeah, I need the promise that the like giving them is not true. That's how far they went in their imagination. Can you imagine you reach that level and you're a prophet or a messenger
when you reach that level
no sooner our victory came to them. Yeah.
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coup. For almost an hour. He moody
Allah subhanaw taala telling us at this story about the incident where the Muslim in in Medina and the army of the pagans in the fall came from everywhere. meme phobic, Mormon spread, I mean Kuma
boo una when they came and approach you from above you from underneath, if you're from all the sides, and you're basically it
Get is cannot concentrate in one place your heart treats your throat so terrified, so scared. And you have all these bad thoughts about Allah Subhana Allah to Allah, Allah talking about the believers, who was with Mohammed Salam at that time, at that difficult moment, the victory came.
So the point, anytime you see reached the peak, know that this is the top and you go downhill easy after that. Number three. Every time you have a challenge in your life, you go through a calamity of hardship. What I want you to do, I want you to start to think about why Allah subhanaw taala put me through such this. What's the wisdom behind that? Don't curse Don't be mad, don't be angry. Don't be sad. Always say what? The wisdom behind that because part of what we believe is Muslim, all our laws, actions based on wisdom, because he's the most wise al Hakim subhanho wa Taala why Allah, Allah put me through their hardship, what's the wisdom behind that?
the ultimate major of a person is not when it's not where he or she stands in a moment of comfort and ease. No, it's actually in a time of challenge and controverse that's the the ultimate measurement measurement a few the value of you will not appear in a time of ease, it will only appear in a time of difficulties
in a time of challenge you real if you're basically your value will appear in the time of your exam. That's the time of challenge not in the day lay it basically during the any your daily activity in the time of a challenge and a time of difficulties that's what your real value will appear.
Allah subhanaw taala sometimes allow certain pressure on you not because see think not because he hates you not because he wants to put you down no because he loves you and He wants you to be stronger.
You guys know what's the most valuable rock on the face of the earth.
one of the cheapest truck in the face of the earth as what the call charco
just unsure you know better than me about that charcoal and black diamonds. They are exactly coming from the same elements.
The only difference between black diamonds which is very expensive. And charcoal is the structure of the diamond different than the structure of the charcoal, the structure of the Black Diamond allowed to resist pressure while the call does not allow it to resist pressure it will be crushed immediately.
Allah subhanaw taala put pressure on you and allowed you to resist your pressure. So you became something valuable in life. Not to be something can be easily crushed. have no value in life.
Allah subhanaw taala wants you to be to grow strong
when I hired a personal trainer, but you can tell I fire him very quickly. Okay to lose weight. Okay. One of the things he told me, he told me he said one of the things that if you want to grow your muscles, when you grow your muscles, you have to work out your muscles to tear your muscles first. Then after that you've allowed your muscle to grow.
Allah subhanaw taala wanted to grow
or do to be strong. You know where I came from? in Texas. It's very interesting. In Texas people in the old days they love cod fish. Okay, cod fish is a fish grown the north of America which is the cold sea. We are very warm sea like you guys here and the Gulf Mexico. So the old days they used to get the fish catch the fish and bring them to dead fish to Texas and Louisiana and Louisiana and Texas. They said you know it's not a fresh fish. It didn't go well. But people love this type of fish. So a man brought a container and filled it with water bait and put all the cod fish in the water and brought it to down south. But the fish by the time it arrived, it was so smooshy in taste
weird because the whole trip the fish like you know and this tanker. So the guy came up with very smart idea. You know what he did. He brought the
natural predators of catfish which is the natural predator of cod fish, which is the cat fish. And he threw several catfish in the tank and the tank. So the whole entire trip, all the fish that cod fish, very alert, they keep moving and the moving around. So by the time they arrived, they were so strong, fresh, their muscle tight, and people enjoy them after that.
Maybe that difficulties in your life, it's that cart, cat fish that Allah throw it in your way.
Allah sometimes drunk catfish in your way to keep you alert, to keep you fresh, to keep you strong, long enough to keep you weak, what law he not meant to keep you down. Because Allah Subhana Allah that we know he's so loving Lord subpoena with
my brothers and sisters.
Since we are an engineering University, it will not be
proper just to pass a name of one of the most respected scientists in the modern history. A scientist who have invented
so many inventions, that until today, nobody broke his record.
He's in the top. As far as I know.
Thomas Edison Edison,
who invented more than 1000
Spartan register by his name.
This man if you know a little bit about his life, you will be amazed this man he was kicked out of his elementary school because his teacher said that these are retarded kids.
Is that a target? He was reasoned by by his own mother. She took good care of him she's his teacher, the teacher refused to teach him in the school This is retarded kids get out.
He had a very rough life in his in his in his life. If you read his life story, you will be amazed maybe in the beginning if you there and you see it you say what is this but this is did nothing to this MAC but to make him a stronger person.
Read the story of Mr. Honda,
car that so many few drive here in Malaysia Mashallah.
If you read his life, for factories were destroyed. He built for factories, and it all were destroyed. He started with a bicycle, he put there like an engine on it. Then he invented the motorbike. Later on, he bid that factory that it burned in that world war two in Japan war. Then after that, you know, another big fire destroyed him. He started from scratch every time. Every time his factory was burned, he starts over again and start over better, in a better way. So these challenges of life never meant to make you to put you down. It's only meant to grow your strong brothers sisters.
When we think about our problems, my advice T the fourth point that I want you to keep in mind, don't ever be led by your problems. only be learned in your life by your dreams.
Don't ever let your problems block your way. These problems that happened to you in your life. Don't make your whole entire focus on live on it. No.
Don't make it live in your heart. Or settle in your brain.
Just keep it somewhere in the side. I know it is there and I'm gonna deal with it.
You know, I have a simple
way to put it. Oh sight.
Live is like riding a bicycle.
Can you tell? What's the connection?
The only way you can keep balance when you ride a bicycle. If you keep
That's life. You want to keep balance in life. Keep moving. Don't stop.
Keep moving. Don't ever stop at your problems said don't make them block you from moving and growing. That's why I said don't be led by a problem. They always lead by dreams and plans in life. I'm going to move on
Quickly, number five.
Make sure that your problems,
your failures will not defeat you from inside. Even if you're knocked down, make sure that you're able to stand up again. And don't ever let these problems in life, these sins that maybe took over your heart, or these habits, or these, or maybe the addiction, or maybe they're failing in the class, or if you didn't do well in one of your courses, whatever the problem is, or your problem with your parents, your problem with your spouse, your problem with your fiance, maybe whatever problem that you have in your life, don't let it ever knock you from inside defeat you from your inside. Don't let anyone defeat you from your inside.
Allah subhanaw taala teach us this lesson. While
no one tunnel
don't ever be defeated from inside. I love said to the Muslim after the last the Battle of
the last technically the last battle of our said don't tell you don't feel down. Don't feel from inside. You lost. No, you're higher, you're bigger.
One of the beautiful things in your country here that you have so many palm trees.
And by the way, palm trees are blessings tree and the process of selling said methylene Moomin can sell in Nevada, the example of movement like the tree, the palm tree, the movement is like a palm tree.
Do you know something about palm tree
just since you see a lot of them around here.
Palm tree, palm tree is the only tree as far as they know that the trunk is alive thing. It's a life.
Palm tree. It's not like so many other trees that the grow wider palm tree and grow taller. But that's not my point. There is one thing about the palm tree I'm using it here for palm tree has the ability to so many types of palm trees. But palm tree has the ability to bend in the wind, then go back again straight. It's not like the oak trees that we have in America, or somebody this big trees thick and they went in the
strong wind or a hurricane comes it will break it somehow law, palm trees, they bend, then they go back.
And in Episode Seven said the example of the believer, like what like the palm tree, don't ever be defeated from sight. Even if you've been knocked down, come back again. Strong.
Come back in strong.
Don't always worry yourself so much that you became from inside defeated. Because worry
will never empty tomorrow from its sorrow and fear. It's only empty today from its strength. That's the only thing worries and being defeated from inside world.
Number six, when you have a problem in life, you need to look at why this problem happened?
What's the reasons behind it? How, what is the root of the problem? So many times I counsel couples like husband and wife, oh, we do this. And I noticed it's always the fight over the symptoms. They never tried to look at the root of the problem. When you have a problem in your life, look at the root of your problem. What is the root of your problem? Let's say you are in so much debt. Maybe the problem is that you have a spending problem. Maybe you are so you always fairly cannot concentrate maybe you have a time management problem. Maybe you have an anger problem. Look at the root of the problem. Look at the basically that the foundation of it and how can you tackle it from the root.
That's the right way to go with your problems.
So many times we deal with our problems in a very naive way. You cannot solve a problem by using the same kind of thinking we use when we created these problems. So that means that is something else I need to look at what the reasons what the where's the source, the source of these problems, and so forth.
Number seven, whenever you have a problem in your life, I want you to watch carefully your words.
How the words that you use when you deal with your problems. Don't say I can't say I will try.
Don't say that
said no, that's the beginning. So Pattern Language is the dress of thoughts. You can tell a lot about your thought by your language, but the language that you use
sometimes just changing the way you're saying it will make a big difference will make a big huge difference.
How something can be done, rather than saying cannot be done.
That's a big difference. A big difference. That's why it Nabi sallallahu alayhi wa sallam for instance the second Buhari forbade us to say low enough al Qaeda don't say if if I do this if I did that, because this language it will bring bad negative thoughts. It will help to defeat you from inside in maybe so Samson is the person watch his done les Sevilla and one of the pan what I've been fashioned buddy is not a person always cursed. Always use false language. No, in another hand, he in another hadn't he said and kennametal Paiva sada good words are a form of church.
So watch your language that you use when you talk about your problems. The prophets of Salaam said mantella holla can nurse for who lack whom out for who to whom to way to pronounce the heavy the process Salam said whoever say all people are bad the process I'm saying it means he is the worst or the other way to read to understand it He is the one who made them back
because the language negative words don't say that don't say you know cannot be changed.
Also how it's gonna work. Number eight, it's something I will keep it for tonight. It's about optimism. So there is a whole thing to be said about being be be optimistic when you deal with your problems. Let optimism lead you lead you in your in your challenge and your challenge.
Somehow I saw a very nice, it's a very interesting picture itself. It's this beautiful boat where boats usually sitting on the beach. That's right on the underside. That's right. But this boat was on the sand.
So I said to myself somehow how's that this beautiful layout on the sand. But underneath of it was a very nice caption. It says the tide always comes back.
The tides always come back the water's coming back. I'll bring it back to the sea. And I thought this is very inspiring, others very uninspiring. But anyway, inshallah we will talk more about optimism and how can you be optimistic person how can you develop that character and I will tackle this tonight from Mohammed Salah Salim sia, I'll talk about it from the life of the prophet SAW Salah how he was the most optimistic person and I will give you also another six or seven points. It will make you an optimistic person because unfortunately, we don't have a button in our body. We can push it
I became optimistic person. We don't definitely work this way have to work your way for
number nine. Anytime you are in a problem. Anytime you're in a hardship, anytime in calamity, turn yourself to a loss panel with
me GE blue in the
chief was sued to the one who always answered the call of those who are in trouble.
A good friend of mine from Egypt.
He told me about a woman.
she's very poor to the extent that she doesn't have any money to bring dinner in so many nights to her children.
her young daughter was so sick,
very high fever. So they told take her to the hospital and their village. There is no hospital she has to travel to the city. She said I don't have the money to have a taxi to take me to the city and I don't have money to pay for the doctor.
She tried everything. She begged for money. She asked for a loan. Nobody. Everybody turned her down.
She said I put water on my daughter's for her. I put turned to Tibet. And I prayed. She's a righteous woman. And she said your honor
and her own language. simple words. She job you're a beginner.
Everybody turned me down.
How to know what to do with this problem?
She's gonna die. Yup. I asked it
Big to find a solution for it
helped me and he said, you saying in the Quran, Emma Eugene,
you're abusive. You're the one who answered the call of those who are an hardship and calamity and now and a hardship and calamity and I'm baiting you and asking you.
She said, Well, I did not finish the salad and close the door, knock
on it open the door and he said, I'm the doctor.
She said I was in tears.
When he said, I'm the doctor. Then he said, Where is the what is the doctor? I said inside.
He walked into the room. He looked at my daughter, he gave her a shot. And he wrote for me a prescription he said, me I'm singing a Madam
150 pounds. And I said what?
She said 150 pounds. I said, I I I have no money.
She said what do you mean you call me? I brought me all the way from the city to this village to tell me you have no money. She said didn't call I don't even have a phone.
She said no. I must call I'll call phone call Kenton.
No back and forth. All the sudden the neighbor coming down. Yeah.
Then he said what should our daughter waiting for you upstairs. I'm the one who called you.
He knocked on her door by mistake.
I'm a big boo boo. Eva.
The one who answered the call.
Of those who
raised their hands towards and subpattern without
so many times in tonight and calamity and hardship. We go to so many worldly things we forgot to turn ourselves to last panel and to sincerely ask him and to pray to Him.
Last point number 10.
When you have a problem.
Don't complain to people about your problems.
Most of the people they don't know how to solve it, and the rest they don't care about.
instead of complaining.
You know what you need to do? Take misura take advice. When you come to visit. Don't go into someone's head on a to complain to him about your problem. ask for advice. Ask them for feedback. Marhaba Mr. Shah, you will never regret consultation. Go consult those who are older than you wiser that you have more experience in life.
My brother and sisters
final words about the subject to tell you that so many times the last one kind of put us through so many any hardship and calamities. And the loss of Hannah gala is not really what she is really interested in who is interested in changing you.
But I found it so ironic that when we go through calamity and hardship, all what we care about is changing our circumstances. We don't think about ourselves will always think how Allah will change the circumstances to things will go good. But you know what Allah subhanaw taala doesn't really care about your circumstances. What do you care about? Is you changing or not? That's what was said in the
hotter you are, you may be unfussy him alone will not change what is in you what's happening to you until you change yourself?
Can you get it?
It's about you, buddy. It's about you, sister and brothers. So
go get your problem solve or untangled.
Go get the life that you deserve. And don't let anything stopping from what Allah Subhana Allah have created you to be
free man, free woman, not chained not enslave to your own problems or worries in life, but to live with strength, to live a happy and a successful life. May Allah Subhana Allah to grant all of us this sallallahu wasallam and Anna Vienna Mohammed. Thank you very much.