The Happy Wife

Waleed Basyouni

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All Praise, praise and blessings and peace be upon our Prophet Muhammad sallallahu

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alayhi salatu salam is lost on Final messenger.

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Maybe brothers and sisters, few or two weeks ago, I spoke to you about

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having a husband at home, how can our sister ensure that they will have a happy man at home.

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And today is your turn,

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man to talk about the other side of the coin.

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The other important component of this beautiful relationship

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that I wasn't happy with the other half of himself made that time between both of you, you and your spouse.

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When they die, it is

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among the signs that you have created for you from among your souls, a spouse that you can grow in turn quality with them, and live in peace and harmony with the love

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and mercy.

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The prophets will allow

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for things like happiness, and use,

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I'm sorry, that the person will be among four things one happiness will ensure a happy life for you. I said two weeks ago that the husband needs a happy family. And a Happy wife definitely means a happy family.

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For things among happens, they bring happiness to your life, to have a good wife,

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a good wife,

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a good wife, as the prophet SAW a lot of

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stuff. And this just mentioned about the happiness.

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And also the Prophet sallallahu Sallam said as a matter of importance in the center message that

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there is nothing can benefit the medium believer, the main belief after all of us in Canada with an IRA, nothing can benefited more than haiwan in zoomed in slightly better than not a good way, righteous fun in

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another

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way,

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need to go to the next see how

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the

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woman that asked her to do something she will be cooperative, she will obey His order. And if you look at her, he wouldn't be pleased by the way she looked. And if he asked her and asked her biologically astrobiological something she wouldn't fulfill his oath and promise, and in his absence, he definitely should protect his honor as well.

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Wow, that's so great.

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In another

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moment, do you want to know the best thing the best treasure that you can ever assess? Because it's not allowed to begin to ask the province of Southern has any

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relation to this study that

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gives us the permission to possess wealth and to have teachers keep

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fighting and abuse

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that allowed us to possess gold and to keep gold treasures as long as we give what they can't and

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then the profits or something so that the companions start doing what I tell them about the best treasure that they can ever do such

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kinesthetic music is not the golden the silver, not the large fat account.

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And the bank. No, it is one of

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the best treasure that you can ever have is you buy that righteous woman she is is the prophet of Southern scriber, I treasured, that something shouldn't be cherished. Something shouldn't be honored. Something should be locked out.

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In maybe some of our settlements, also sell

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whatever a lot how to how to marry a good boy. A lot of how to fulfill half of his

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Big

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deal.

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That's how I looked at it.

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It's not like what you hear some people say, you know, it's it's literally incomplete and to the good man.

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And this guy was saying, I was incomplete until I get married. And after I got married, I was completely finished.

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No, it is the half the other half that is missing, that marriage isn't supposed to be the thing that at you. It's complete.

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My brother and sisters, as a sub today, it's about having

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to find a good husband. Who knows how to win the heart of his wife?

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Do you think there's a true of the self? That the secret of our hardwiring into secret

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out of ourselves?

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Is it true? Without a woman self?

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I never. I never knew what true happiness was until I got married. But then it was too late.

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I don't think so. Could be the case for certain people. And I don't think that's what he does. Because I

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have made the solution and described it in very unique way.

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I was paired with the other said that there is love and tranquility and peace, make it something natural to the person looking for getting married. That's the normal that's the norm to be near each

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other also.

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There's not a single that's why

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he is the best among the super and he was married. That's what he said, No, never believe in dunya Elena nim to kill kelela Isla

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only have one minute left for me in this life, I will not want to spend that night single.

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I would like to fulfill that I will have my deal by getting them by killing men.

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This relationship was a loss of time, what

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about

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a gun to you?

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Like a gun.

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And you think about a gun. You think about the clothes that you wear. You think about something that suits that something that covers that something that beautified you, there's something that bring protection to you. There's something that beautifying you.

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When you think about a gardener, you think about something so close to you this the things that makes your skin so obviously, you think about something so private. And that's the nature of this relationship between you and him. So we're gonna call and seek some of the solution and describe this beautiful description, this beautiful metaphor by saying that

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you're like a garden to them, and they are like a garden to you.

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live with them with

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what is known as good. And this is super unique, which is known as good. That means our team is known according to the culture, because my in certain culture that's known as good enough, but in our culture, maybe that's not enough.

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I remember a case I had a mother in law came to me and she said my son fully responsible. You know, what, a handful of Barney every week and she gets

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that from should I have the books I'm assuming? No,

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she's not but she's became just absolutely silly. No, just for the sake of my daughter.

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She's been encouraged by my son will be required to do this. That's what the US in the old days handful of barley in

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King waterskin fill it up with water. And that's about it, and one dresser.

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I said maybe that's what is known in the past

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1400 years ago, 1200 years ago, but not today. That's not how the standard of living is today.

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Which is not as good as completely different.

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And this style of what is known as good has nothing to do with only materialistic goods. Those two things beyond the materialistic

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things that you provide goes to what is known as good when it comes to treatment to behavior

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When

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your spouse you should expect from you exactly what you expect from her. If you demand something from her, she should expect the same from you the same treatment.

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If you hold her, if you keep her with you, you should hold into the solution while you are doing with this morning.

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And if you let her go extra

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one of his last speeches, one of his last speaker, they said, I was looking

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for in

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a car,

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he said I can make I bought him to treat your wife good. To treat your wife.

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They are basically in your house. It's like it's he used the word that means literally like a personal like somebody you have, you know, tied to her to you through that meant.

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The woman get married, she came in, she tried to

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connect connection, just marry. So she was part of what we call kind of freedom. Now she has responsibility duty towards you. So don't take advantage of that don't abuse that right, the kulob giving you as the husband.

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So

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let's share some points that you can practice with today. And I know some of your singles.

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Anyhow, you decided how can I really hold into these points. Now also assume give you the Wild Things you wish that you deserve.

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Maybe you grew up soon to be also married person. And don't say, Oh, come on. That's another one of these talks about being able to live, you know,

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I think a little less than a block

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the smell.

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If both parties have the intention to make peace to make a change in the life, our collective success.

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Don't say Oh, it's not gonna work out. I don't ever give up on the relationship.

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Because it's always possible three to unite that relationship, love it.

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Don't be like the person who said chit chat. I don't love her anymore, I want to divorce him. This is why

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I said you might be someone who said, you know, my car ran out of gas. So instead of refilling the golf, car, no refund all the gas, you can do that you can reignite that relationship.

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You can keep that machine work and good. And these some tips, some points that I hope that you will take them seriously and try to practice. And

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we all should take down any points that we raise here. And someone sent me an email as a feedback about my foot basic check isn't the too many points you mentioned. And our my philosophy for that I'm not expecting everybody to remember the 1015 points. But I always mentioned these because it's very vast, different points. And everybody can pick two or three or four of them, grab them and focus on them. And they'll be good enough for me that just my philosophy in getting 10 points or 11 points. So you can live up to three or four this something I can do I can I don't think every points we share, everybody in the city can be able to do

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one, which is an interesting, I'm going to be very practical in this one, how to weight your wife how to make or how one dress up for your wife. It is so sad that so many times we don't give the attention to this. And I start with this because not many people pay attention to that when they go home. They were the worst time to the right.

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You know, they just go through their you know, nice closet just with that old junky pajamas, you know, in his box or whatever. And it's just not all books in the present. It

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was seen before he entered his house, the perfume out putting perfume in his beer fixing these beer. So this student said that

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people dress up to perfume when they need not when they enter how important it is.

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Don't you want her to be dressed up for me and smell good. Also, everybody would like to do that. Then he said well, I wouldn't. Even if we demand this from them which they should expect the same from us.

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So that's one thing you can make her feel like you know what? I tell you something you do and come back to me and tell me that your wife one day was surprised that you're going to change your clothes and all of a sudden, you were a nice show for the next

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day, what are you going?

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And come back and tell me how

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can you just make her happy that you dressing up for her.

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Also, number two,

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try to use the cute the progress of the woman when

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he was cute names when his wives

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give a nickname, nickname. Well, like sometimes you will be surprised some people.

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One guy

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he calling his wife for example, quantum

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that comes to me.

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But I know someone who had in his for his wife put her name in the phone basically, a very cute one. He said, firstly, you know my wife, something like that, give her a nice thick,

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new color with nice color.

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Wherever you may last because she hasn't been cheap for a while.

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Number three.

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Don't treat your wife like a flop. And what I mean by that don't tear like a fly. When you guys notice the flaws in the room.

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When it started puking and bothering,

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that's when you get everything. That's right. Don't ever cheat. Like the only time in existence in the room when she stopped bugging you, when she stopped taking you

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know, taking nicer before she started booking. Give them the attention that she wants that she needs, and see how this room is affected in the relationship.

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We never think about fly in our daily life until

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a wife will do well all day, when she comes no attention from the husband. And she does something knowing or surviving. And then after the period ignites resistance,

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most likely number four.

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And this is a tricky one. But I want you to be

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patient.

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Don't pick an every mistake, he makes some very bad habit that you think that you can correct

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in

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what he does, to a women who consult or in the case law. And a lot of people think it is

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humilated woman or disrespect women that

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are created from the red are created from Adam's Rib from Adam's Rib. And that's so cute by the way to be committed from the read. They say that she was not predicted for example, the speed so you can simply her not from his head to control him. It is from his grip the closest things to his heart. cytosol.

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And apostle said the name the rate is different. The rep is basically

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is not a strength, it doesn't mean that she is corrupt or bad. No, he means that she is different. So woman is sometimes they see things in a different way. They be calculating in a different way than the men. So that man if everything goes against what he used to, we think as men, and you see she doesn't know the difference. And he tried to predict to pick on it to correct. In this case, I'm telling you the person said in this case, you will end up divorcing the small. He cannot come over right now.

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But you have to understand the difference between men and women. Maybe that's within itself

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about how men, men think women encounter different differences. I call them different species.

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The way you think there's a big difference between men and women. And it's very important for those young men and woman about to get married because one of the biggest problems are old. See, we tried to treat them the way we treat men. We expect them to behave like the one men do, or think or react

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mental illness in different ways, and it doesn't at all make any kind of disrespect for her.

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But just the different different ways of thinking, reacting

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and so forth, also, so you need to let little things goes you don't think there's something haha no. And then

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she backed by someone she said he said no this is David's backbiting, I don't know how and he forbade him from that. They just is done. You don't basically let it go who make the correction, but make sure that you remember what the profits are themselves, mechanical efficiency.

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gentleness and being gentle is easy way to handle things on our brain success will always allow you to achieve success. But if you mean if you replace it with you talk, it's not gonna change things. Number five, smile at your wife. As you said

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he used to smell the most inside his house. smile a lot too. Right? Look at her open her eyes. gazing is a powerful tool of making the connection between

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you know how the eye contact, the smile on impression so often in the midst of something before he leaves Houston kisses

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that's a five times

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that attention again makes a huge difference in her life. Number six, thank you for all what she does for you. This is something we forget to do. We're not very grateful. Make sure that you Thank you for the meal. Thank you she correct that if she cleaned out? Thank you. And if she does, she did something good to to the kids. Thank you for being a good wife Do you take her for him for being a wife

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and say that I'm grateful to

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make your sheep feel they have no acknowledgement pets will never feel so happy and so special.

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To like anybody else.

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Number seven, which is a very interesting point. And I hope that you seriously go and do that today.

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I want you to go to her

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and tell her or text message her soft text message every time. I want you to send me the five things, the five things that I have done recently the most five things I have done and that really had a good impact

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to me share with you five things made you so

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I hope that

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you can text takes us

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more than that text message and

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asked her to write down and let's say said not terribly How can it make you happy?

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Because it's about her it's not about you.

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It's about

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you like the weight of luck is

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different because you like what this man?

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Man what's

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inside.

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So we said dress up for her. Use cute names for her. Don't treat her like a fly. If you see something wrong, little things go common to things which is that had to do with how long I'm not acceptable sonically in a gentle way. Smile, days of her was smiling, you know, and brush her off. Because lo has to do with physical touching. That's one of the language of love. Also thank her for all the things good things that she she does, and asked her to write down the last five things you did for her that made her happy, then go and do them more often again and again. Number eight, don't be limited in your design. And this is something very important. Her desires can be different than

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you. Anything your spouse thinks is important. It isn't important

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even if you don't see

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it

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And so many Thumbs up for that drop I will say something

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and maybe it's the biggest things in house it's about her it's not about you

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so you can talk don't even belittling her design what you want

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us to ask the girls to come to play with it because he knows that she loves

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heavyset young seniors when they were in the back of domestic dancing and with the with the spheres and he noticed that she wanted to look at that and that allowed her to do that and the facilitate that for

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anything you think that your wife is interested in, make sure that you get attention as well and respect her feelings.

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You know,

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his wife, you know, she she has with guests so one of his own wife's in food so that's why I'm so jealous. Why would she send food to my house in my day and I was like I should cook for them. She went and she had the plate and the plate fall on the floor in front of the guests can imagine that having this in your house and your wife will do that.

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Then there is a smile on he said she is jealous. Just give your sister another point of views in the store he understand her feelings

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don't play with her feelings. Don't ever belittle your desires in your field. So men are so good in Tz

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are so bad and

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so violent every

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time you bring up I am going to marry another one going to divorce I'm going to do this

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don't don't hate people's emotions. Maybe it means nothing to you but it means everything to them especially your wife

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be us and playing games with your mom

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raised twice with the official guide the process on the spine to the

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lake they used to laugh and joke can be she has known have a good sense of humor. Even one time she had the source of the food and they were playing on the paint each other's face or

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watching us just talking when

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they will talk they will have fun doing playing together

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and after initial if there is any three things deserve to stay for them, they will be one of them.

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But they played together they're fun.

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Did you get the wheel tour and play together?

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You know have you bring her in the mustard got back in the mustard. We have a ping pong table Earhart

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and the master

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do a competition between each other either Okay, it's it's a it's a spring break, isn't it? That's how so fun. I'm gonna compete with you maybe I will cook one day. And he seems cooking is better. Be creative. Be to some activity to get a

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handle on bring happiness.

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Number two, always remember the world allows

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the best of you

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three treat their wives the best. And the best among

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reported by

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the best among the best.

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And that's why I'm saying but remembering that every act of kindness and said before

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even the food that she put in her mouth with your hand. It is a form of saliva that you will be rewarded for. Finally, be faithful and loyal to

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be faithful to

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the provinces is the best example for being

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a mom she said I've not felt jealous for any woman like he even though he made me three years after her death I never met I never met her in my life. I only heard about she loved her so much. even to the extent after her death when the alarm comes he will kill the machine and he will donate from that meat on behalf of her after

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and he will donate food to her friends once had the sister in law her

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sister She came she said how you're going

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to get care

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He heard her voice his face change

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channels you can see the big smile on his face when when when hearing your voice change I did meet my wife

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he stood

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up for her very faithful then he she said

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I'm just wondering she was very old woman lost her team from being all I don't want to play see her a beautiful young wife what is still so connected to her with each other?

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Don't you know that being faithful it means it's part of our faith. Part of

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being loyal that she is someone she can come to you you're not putting her every single day or every other week or every other month

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in systems

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they say vitamin A

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attention appreciation affirmations affection.

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Remember that

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never forget to make your Apple most

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successful

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I don't find a problem to code one of the brothers here in this community that he talks to me great lessons once from this room hours and he is listening to me

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he's a chair by nature of job it's a very tempting job I have so much fun I go to people's house I've been

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in positions where I've been seduced literally by very beautiful rich for a while ago he said this one thing almost kicked me after it was straight and not to look to the heart.

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He said that my vibration with my wife is so strong that he said I've been learning more than 20 years but the way I look at my wife I desire her exactly exactly the same way I desired her 20 years ago

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I said that's impossible so

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even when we do

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that we said to him What's the secret? He said Jeff worldwide I don't remember ever a great measure of federal unless I send my children or make meaning jewelry my wife and

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that's exactly

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how I think it's not because maybe things because

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So don't ever underestimate the power to act almost.

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And it's powerful

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in our in

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our wives and our children cool to satisfy us

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males to make our wives and our family go

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along.

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We need to establish got the you along and silica you know what to call it. I thought it was it was a car added to an EVO loader.

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Nobody voted him I mean overcast will not sleep. What could they take an image even your ophiolitic out how many

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of whom will decide