The Middle Gate To Jannah, Parents
Channel: Waleed Basyouni
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In 111 how many who want to stay in who want to study here want to stop Pharaoh? When I will be law him in Cerulean fusina woman Satya Medina Maja de la hora mobila Who am I? para harira y shadow La ilaha illallah wa de la sharika lahu Asha Mohammed Abu rasuluh Allahumma salli ala Muhammad Ali Mohammed Camus Allah tala Ibrahima innaka hamidah Majeed and Eva de la. All praise do to align His praise and blessings and peace be upon our Prophet Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, his family, his companions and his followers until until the day of judgment. I bear witness that Allah is the only one worthy of worship and Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam his last and final messenger. My
dear brothers and sisters, can you imagine
there are not a single janitor, not a single waste management company will go to work.
And the whole entire United States
just imagine if he goes for a week
how chaotic and chaos our city will be in.
Can you imagine the whole world this service or but not any longer available?
How difficult and how hard life was going to be our dysfunctional sometimes can be some cities are because of that. Those from Lebanon, little bit knows what I'm talking about.
But if you have this,
basically service stopped and those who are providing this service is stopped doing it.
Just I want you to think how the world will look like and how the cities and how neighborhoods will look like.
In the other hand, I want you to think of tomorrow.
all Hollywood stars. All athletes decide not to apply not to make a movie. There is a no release of a new movie today on Friday.
And there is no production of any new albums, latest heads or anything of that nature.
Can you just imagine all the stuff?
My question will be Do you think we still function as a society or not?
We'll still function as a community and as the cities and country or it will be dysfunctional.
Would that create a chaos without a create? Basically, a problem in the
cities the level of the cities of the level of the countries answer is known. Obvious
compare between how the society look at the first group of people,
and how they look at the second group of people, like how much we pay those groups and how much we paid the other group. Look how much status some this group how and the other group have in this society.
And don't misunderstand me. I'm not here trying to at all to underestimate the value of art or sports. That's not the point. The point is that we living in a very strange, strange time, in a very strange world, with perspectives is very different than what reality are.
We living in a very interesting time.
And one of the things that I want to talk about today
is one of these perspectives, one of these values, one of these important elements in our life, but yet, people don't pay much attention to it.
Which is the issue of parents.
The parents that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, they are the middle gate of gender called Houma, alserkal, Bible, gender, and the middle gate of generally referring to the most important gate, and then, which it means looking after them, being good to them, honoring them, doing your best to them, what will lead you to that middle gate and paradise.
But yet, we see today a different world. We see today that parents don't get that respect, that position that Sheree and Allah subhanho wa Taala intended for them. They said, there is five type of children. And listen to me, especially the young among you.
The center is a child, and if that's applied to the older and to the young, by the way,
there is a child who will reject his parents request, I will not obey them. And we call that an Afghani led
one who is bad to his parents, and reject them and don't fulfill their rights.
And those who will fulfill what they were asked to do. They will do what they're asked to do. But with so much hate carry. He doesn't like it.
He do just by force, because they need them.
And that person, whatever he does, or she does won't be sinful while they are fulfilling the request, because of their feeling, zoo.
And another one, a third type, who will fulfill the request of the parents. But after he does it, he will keep bragging about it. keep reminding them, Hey, I did this to you. Hey, Mom, I picked the trash two for you, Hey, I did this, I clean that I did this. I did that. And he keeps crying and saying and mentioning all the things that he's did to his parents. That's still a sinful person.
And a person who will do what his parents wants from him or her while they are doing it and happy to do it. Those What do you call Matt jewel, a person who will be rewarded. Then you have another level higher than all this, the one who will do what will please his parents and won't fulfill their needs and requests without them asking for it. Without them requesting it. That's what you call beruwala. Dean, if you heard that word before, that's
because Albert is the highest level. It's like Eman is the highest level of faith.
Just doing what you've been asked to do, as fulfilling your duties and being rewarded for it. It's one of the lowest maybe level of bills, but the true meaning of the bill that you initiate and to do what you think that will please them.
Allah subhanho wa Taala made bid on validate barrel validation it means doing your best to them. Because they're better it means to offer your best to them.
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Allah subhanaw taala man he was mentioning what look man telling his son, every one, every one of these orders, the verse goes like this Yabba Yabba Yabba my son, my son, you know if, if you should always remember that Allah is overwatching Yaga. Now you might son Don't raise your voice my son, but when it came to the parents, he didn't say my son, a lot orders are used to be good to your parents. So you will not think it is coming from the man. And you don't think it just coming from me as a father for me as a mother. It says the verse wakaba book Allah prescribed upon all of you to worship Allah alone and to offer your best to your parents.
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They both are one of them attain an old age do not say to them off of is that air that you blow out your mouth out of frustration
if there is anything less than that, it would have been mentioned
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A percent of it means just to make your hands like hand gesture to show that how frustrated you are.
You know, oh, again, you know, just these hand gestures that people do just to express frustration. So if Allah said do not do that, while attend her Houma, and do not talk to them, with this respect, not to order them.
Do not boss them. What could lahoma Colin Karima tell them the best of speech. And when they are all because when they are all that means you're all too
when they are old, because when they are all it's a little bit frustrating. Because so much demand too many requests.
And you're too busy. It's not like you're still a teenager. Now there are so many things going on in your life. So that is a bigger challenge when you are older to fulfill your parents rights.
Last time we're doing in Lola, we've been wildly dainius. And how many times this verse repeated in the Quran from Surah Baqarah from the beginning through an arm and going down to the surah going through the must have many verses do not take partner with Allah and treat your parents with goodness.
and is currently when you
must be thankful and grateful to me and to your parents. Carla Sophia,
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un, Savannah, Marina reported after and said, commented on this verse, be grateful to me and your parents, he said, if you pray the five time pray daily prayers, you are grateful to him. And if you make throughout you pray for your parents afterwards, you are grateful to your parents.
What I would like
us to focus on today. And that's a point even if I couldn't go over all my points that I have. But if this is something I want you deeply to reflect upon.
Because this is an observation that I see growing by the day,
that there is a big huge difference.
Or a huge difference.
Difference between you being good to your parents, because that's what is naturally people are
and being good to your parents, because culturally that's the right thing to do.
And being good to your parents, because you depends on them. You need them, you living with them.
And that's what you know, culturally, as I said, the right thing to do.
And between beautiful holiday, because the word bearer has a religious connotation to it. Because you do this because Allah order you to do you do this because that's what will bring you closer to Allah. You do this because that's what Allah loves the most. And that's what Allah wants from us the most. And that what Allah expect from us the most. And believe me, there is so many parents that don't teach their kids this
They don't make it so clear to the children to differentiate between that when you do this, you do this because that's what Allah wants you to be. Even if I don't know any need anything from you, you do this because that's what pleases Allah subhana wa Tada.
That's what differentiate those who believe in Allah, and the Quran, and the messenger, and between those who don't.
That's why you see the difference between the one who raised this way, how he treats his parents when he's young, and when he got old,
versus who treated him good, because culturally, that's the right thing to do.
There is many differences between the two approaches.
When you do it as an act of worship, you'll always see your parents or something so great, so honorable, so huge, something so untouchable,
because they are associated almost with the rights of Allah.
versus when it is just connected to benefits, worldly relationship, culturally, ties
it just because that's how it is, because I need them.
There's a big difference between the two approach.
One brother, when he basically spend his money on his family and his mother or his father, when they give this money, the feel that they're not doing any help, they don't calculate it by saying, you know, what about my kids? What about my this? You know, yes, it's important to your family, but when they give the gift because they know that's when police's love the most,
when it comes to time and spending time, they don't look at it from calculating benefits and, and you know, how busy I am in life and how much I can make money if I do this and know the calculated because that's what Allah Subhana Allah will love to see me doing.
When you connect this to the right of Allah, you will not hear the kids say, Yeah, but my father is mean to me. You will not see the kid saying, Yeah, but my mother is not very nice to me.
Dude, because it's not about the father of the mother. It's about Allah. It's not about them and their personality. It's about what Allah subhanho wa Taala Anna wants from me. I'm doing this sincerely to please Him. And you will see the nature and that the way that you show your respect and your honor to them will be completely different. That's why when you hear the story of the early generation, who understand this concept, from this perspective, you say is this can be even real.
You feel so depressed when you look at your own kids sometimes.
And w sallallahu Sallam when he entered agenda he heard
it been said to him that this palace belonged to a man. Then he said Casali can build hedonic Anaconda.
That's because his the way he treats his parents. I just said, I never seen anyone treat his mother like how does the man and the man didn't have fun? The way they treat their mothers? It's amazing. Earth man said I never My life is staring at my mother's face or I since I became Muslim. I never looked straight to her eyes. I always looked down. I always show respect.
I never give her that you know, look with a challenge. Kind of a bias. A shadow in actuality Mercia
you look and you stare at your father as if you charging him or challenging him. Even I busted that's a sin
as part of a poker holiday.
man, he said never ever had a food with my mother unless I fed her with my own hand.
I never asked her to repeat to request twice, or she ever needed to repeat her request twice. Never
have been serene. Can you tell me Mama hakama you can learn with me or one minute. When you speak to his mother. He speaks to her the way that you speak to President to King
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debate on Sofia at Falcon Heavy will never walk in the roof where his mother underneath that roof.
That's not because of culture. That's because we connect the concept to honoring Allah, the connect the rights for them to the right of Allah subhanaw taala, which is something so valuable in the hearts of the believer.
A costume of no Mohammed, the student of Malik, teaching what but Malik in the masjid of Rasulullah saw solemn sitting in the chair on the student around him. His mother just came to look at her son and proud of her son, he stood up.
The students said, Why did you sit up there notice that his mother she was passing by. And he said would be disrespect for me to be sitting while my mother standing
What kind of common
sense you don't lead your father in prayer, even if you have more knowledge and more Koran.
Because there is another perspective is respect. It's honoring.
When his son died, how was he to you? He said, Well, I never walk with him in the daytime, unless he was behind me. And in the nighttime, and losses in front of me. And this has to do with the culture, but just to understand the cancer, why, and then it is in front of him. Because there is no light in the street, there might be something in the street can harm his father. So he will make sure that he will get that hit first.
I know of a brother.
He said he never lets his mother ever open the door of his car of the car, he will always open the door for the for her to enter and he will close the door.
And he will do the same thing to his father. But sometimes he said, I will not close the door just to make the mother and the higher status I open and close for her.
When it is an act of worship, you have so much patience.
You have so much patience with them, no matter how difficult it is, no matter how hard it is. If you're sick of they have a mental ship prop diseases, or maybe their personality is not that good. I'm not saying all parents are good. Some parents. I don't want to say
yes I know is hard.
But you know what when you have that as an act of worship, your perspective is different. No matter how many times they ask you, you just say I will do I'll do it.
Even if things goes against your own desire, you desire so much to do something but you know that will go against you know something that you know it will hurt your parents or something it will not pleases them you willing to give it up easily if you do this for Allah. What can be more than leaving whatever city you live to be with Muhammad Sallallahu Sallam What can be more desirable to the heart then this
jasola laughs and I came to pledge my Legion to you I will migrate live with you Medina I will enlisted in your army. I will fight with you. Then in the peace of Southern told him you have parents. Are they okay with that? You left them behind in your village? He said yes. And they were crying because they left them. He said go back to them.
Be with them. And make sure to them like to make them laugh as you made them cry.
They've been on one set. buka Mercia
you make your parents or your father cry, that's a sin.
Then he said waltzer murase delay Hema Fetterman gender
be at their feet because gender is right there.
didn't go to hedge with the profits are solid What can be more desirable than being had with Rosado masala because he his mother wanted to stay behind.
Sophie anything 30 used to carry his mother to domestic for the salon. Wherever he lived. He would put cushion for her to sit under muster in the back of the master
no matter how difficult the parents can be to serve them. Can you imagine? Hayward even surely one of the greatest discolors and jurist that our history ever known in Medina.
He had a patina
hundreds of students like this while his teaching, his mother comes and she said, Hey,
come, standard macadamia
go feed the chicken call up and meet the Judge kotla
and he did nothing but yes,
sure, I'll do it.
Now he asking you to leave your PlayStation game
not asking you to leave.
all these I'm not going to go on examples.
He's teaching the students and the knowledge. No.
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He said My brother has spent the whole night praying, and I spend the night massaging my mother's feet.
Well, I don't think I will ever wish his night because the reward that I get of what I was doing is much more than what he was doing.
Don't ever anger your parents in order to please other people?
Young men, those people did not spend their lives building yours.
The one who did or your parents.
Kind of Omen sort of
Oliver. They said mum sort of not his mother. She was so rough. So strong woman.
Once she told him and sort of no beta, you need to kind of cover up Fatah.
She wants you to be a judge. And he's saying no. And he holding his beard and looking down did not say a word to her.
You know when you do this for a law, you will be always worried if what I did wrong, or what I just did was considered a corporate holiday. All it means is the opposite of federal holiday. Rococo Holiday Inn it means is to treat them in a way which is unacceptable by Allah. Something that is not right. Something that can be hurtful because fulfilling their needs and fulfilling their duties. The opposite of it not to fulfill that.
And Nabi sallallahu alayhi salam said that about
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He the Prophet sallallahu Sallam said Allah forbid you from Roku can Omaha being doing a book which is basically not fulfilling the needs of the rights of your mothers? Carla No.
Roco Yaakov mahat Jamar will allow you to feed him and now he said the Navy so Salah mentioned the mother specifically here because most of the time the mother deal with the kids more than the father and the kids take advantage of the weakness of the mother sometimes or the soft torchy has, so they will basically stuck step on her and not to fulfill her rights.
Instead of appreciating that mercy and love that she has for them.
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I asked Allah I asked Allah Subhana Allah subhanaw taala Dean, when you embark on your seminar coming up man, according to mostofa
hamdu Lillah wa salatu salam ala Mallanna, ba ba, ba ba.
I've been out and one of also great scholars of Islam.
This scholars lived in Iraq. He never got a chance to travel to seek the science of Hadith and to collect integration of Hadith. Because his mother, she was worried for him to leave the city so wanted to live with me. Don't leave.
He said my friends went all over the place to collect the Hadith. But the knowledge that I collected in my own
study was so much and more beneficial than what they did by traveling all over the world. And he said I couldn't understand the reason for this except that Allah bless my knowledge because I was good to my mother.
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been around once his mother called him said, Mohammed, she was far away. So you'd apply say, yes, he said for kind of salty and salty him my voice was higher than her voice. I thought maybe this is a forum for corporate holiday, Halifax facto property.
I free to slaves. That's so much money to spend that time just because he felt that's a sin.
Those who see it from that perspective, they always worry that you know what, I'm not doing something that caused a loss of panic and an anger at me.
And they always see this not only from that perspective, but another positive perspective, they see this an opportunity to be the most rewarding things ever.
calendar is often the most rewarding deeds, the most beloved deeds to Allah of salata and Octavia filma bird wanting to pray on time, then to be good to your parents, pilot Hasson Leia and you know bureau holiday in law had done while he hadn't while Asada.
You cannot compare the word of veteran while again to hedge or charity or cm or anything like that.
We're not talking about we talk about volunteer had a volunteer fasting a volunteer sada.
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So don't worry about going and listening to fight, go take care of your parents
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There is nothing known in Islam, that a deed will arrays will arrays the major sin in Islam, accepted elimite talk about two things.
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and being good to your parents.
If you good to your parents that last kind of do this for Allah, Allah hastin that he works for you in the dunya by blessing you children that will be good to you.
My brothers and sisters in the end, I have few
I'm not asking you to live your life and to live everything and just to be next to your parents 24 hours.
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It's been said some children faraway, but their blessings and goodness hours coming and their children with you next to you and you see nothing but trouble from them.
Do not teach your kids from the early age. I don't need nothing from your son. I need nothing from your son. I don't need nothing from your son. That's kind of many parents say that that's not a smart thing to say By the way, my opinion. Because you will regret that in that.
Or when you get old you know teach your kids that this is something to bring them closer to Allah to be good to their parents. You don't do it for me personally.
Also, we're not asking you to obey them and something that is haram or obeying something making no sense. That's why when someone tell them my father ordered me to divorce my wife, he said no, don't if she's good woman. She said what about Omar? He said if your father like Omar obey Him, but not all fathers like Rama
I want to say also been invalidated by insalata and do not after their death while they're still alive.
I want to say also a lot of time when we talk about bidding well again we focus on mother and father's are neglected. Father's comes into the bottom of the last father's as if there's no much important for dementia.
And the reality is even absent. which one has the right of the father and the mother kind of happen one at a time.
What happened was
that the right of the father is so honorable, so great. And that's a special hope that I have for you. Justice, specifically focusing on the evidence and a hadith that is specifically focused about the fathers right and honoring them.
young brothers and sisters who are listening to me today,
I encourage you all after this speech, to show your love, sight, expressive
text, message them, go to them, show your respect, Nick, pray for them in front of them and behind their backs.
I want you to know that the best way to please your parents
and as a parent I can say that is to see you successful
is to see you righteous
is to see you with us in paradise. If we go there, may Allah make us all there.
I want you to remember this young man when the father hold his shoulder when he graduated with honors degree from the college and the father said do you know who's the happiest and the luckiest person in the world today? And the sunset me?
The father kind of taken by the answer, but quickly the sunset. It's me because you are standing behind me.
It is me because I have you as my parents.
Love your parents. Love your parents. We are so busy growing up and we often forget that we are also growing old.
And one day our list to bigger gates to you to dinner.
One day you're gonna maybe lose one of them.
But Bill Walton and handler doesn't only restrict and that's what it is for Allah. It doesn't end with the death of the parents.
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Tina, along Selena Mosler. Yeah, Tina. Welcome Yamcha fetal Inaba, Harlem in Harlem Ababa Allahumma salli, ala Muhammad Ali Mohammed
Ibrahim Abu Saleh, Al Hamdulillah