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Strength & International Women’s Day

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Waleed Basyouni

Channel: Waleed Basyouni

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Hey

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now hamdulillah no matter who want to stay you know who want to study who want to start Pharaoh

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Villa human surely I'm Christina Marina Maria de la hora de la mejor para Heidi Allahu wa Chateau La ilaha illAllah hula hula Sheree, cara, wash Mohammed Abu rasuluh yeah you have Latina I'm an otaku la Takata Mouton a lava and two Muslim moon. Yeah Johan NASA Pura Bakula de la comin FC wahida wahala minha xojo bethanien humare jarang cattier r1 Isa, what tapa la la de de ser una de Waal or ham in Allaha karnali Kumara peba Yeah, you're Latina de la worku Poland Salida ustelecom Amal Kumar, Nova Khun Alma UT la hora pseudo saccade faza fosun alima

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hiral Cara McCallum la hora de head you Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa alayhi wa sallam. All praise due to align His praise and blessings and peace be upon our Prophet Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. I agree with this that allows the only one worthy of worship and Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam his last and final messenger.

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My dear brothers and sisters.

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If you happen to enter the mustard from the middle entrance

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in that hallway, which is many of us to start using this closer one here to the masala but the one that lead to the community center, we have that wall that we every year put on it a theme that we would like to focus on. We would like to build an ourselves something that we try to focus on in our speech and our hope in our programs, and our events, our talks. And the theme of this year is about strength. And if you haven't seen the beautiful piece of art back there, please do. Because I have a request from all of you as well to do there.

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And the reason I choose that theme, or I basically was in favor of that theme, versus other themes, that the strength is something so beautiful, and also so powerful. But it also so misunderstood sometimes.

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In we as a community, we need a strength because we facing a lot of challenges. We as a society, we need a strength as well. As a matter of fact, I do believe one of the main reason for our president to be elected is because a lot of people in our country thought that we need a strong leader and he thought that that what it means to be strong.

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But the strong person will be, you know, decisive and will lead the respect that

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point for some people that they're looking for that quality of leadership.

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Regardless of the true or not, that's not the point. The point is that that we're motivation for many people to look for. And no doubt that this became an issue that need to be addressed. What strength really means, what it means to be a strong person, what is and what basically in where where strength can be demonstrated, in which areas in life

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and we put in the top of that wall, what the prophet muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam told us, as reported for say he Muslim, that the Nabi sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, I mean kawi high urine. Well, I have a la mina Mina by IEF, where he couldn't lean higher.

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That in Nabi sallallahu. Sallam our Prophet Muhammad Sallallahu Sallam said, a strong believer is better, and is more lovable, or loved by Allah, then a weak believer, and there is good in everyone, or if he could live higher.

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And there is basically the rest of the Hadith continue to address things related also to the concept of a strength, which is what's there in Billa, while attaches, seek help from Allah, because Allah is the strongest thing. And if you connect yourself to the source of the ultimate strength, you became strong, and he said, Well attaches and do not basically despair and do not basically being giving up your dreams, giving up your hopes. Basically, make yourself if I can translate to the slave that makes sense, you know, uncapable of doing things because it means you're capable of something but you're not basically able to do it.

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And also, what's the in Bilawal attaches.

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Cherish care for the thing that it will benefit you.

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When and if something has solid luck and if something from evil or bad happen to you. We're in asaba cache, Fela taco low enough to get our Qaeda working on either Allahu wa Masha fan for in Lo, Rama shavon. If something bad happened to you don't say, Oh, I wish I did this. If I did this, if I did that, if things happened that way. Not this bad things wouldn't be now happening to me is that don't say that. But say whatever Allah decreed upon us, whoa, happen. Because your F will open the door for the shape and to basically making you despair from the mercy of Allah, making you focus on the problem more than the solution, making you focus on your abilities. Then you focus in on your

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abilities, focusing on and driven by your problems and calamities then being driven by your goals and what you want to achieve in life. So the point from the hubby that we put that this is the theme that I would like each and every one of us to make that commitment for 2018 all the way to February of 2019. To be something that we talk about a lot. Think about something that you like to demonstrate in your life, think about your life and say what is my weakness? And what are my strength? Where are the areas that I need to work on, and to make myself a strong person, because we are in dire need to a strong youth. We are in dire need to have a strong youth among our community.

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strong woman, strong children,

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strong community, a strong society,

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a strong country.

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We need a strong government.

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And we want a strong medium. A strong voice in the opposition can stand up and say no. And that's not right.

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We need a strong economy. We need a strong family ties. We need a strong

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community and brotherhood and sisterhood ties. We need unity and cooperation which is so strong among each others as one big family as a community or society. We need a strong message

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We need a strong activities in our master and in our community. We need strong schools we need strong, inner in every area in life, every area that we cover every day, we should focus to make it strong.

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Strength is not ever was in your body and your muscles and your physical strength. No.

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For untap been FC LaBelle just me in San,

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what's make you a human being is not your physical strength.

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What makes you a human being and a strong person is your inner strength.

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It's your emotional strength, or is your mental strength.

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A strength is in faith. A strength is in your belief in your abilities to control yourself. Strength is in your personality.

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We looking for high self esteem individuals, people have trust in themselves and their abilities. That's a strength. We're looking for a strong individuals who they start their strength to start from within where they have self respect.

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Where they have confidence in themselves.

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strength will be exist in people who have more emotional, emotional, emotionless people, not strong people.

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Strong people have the ability to forgive weak people don't.

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Strength shows your ability to love and to be loved

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as a strength,

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your strength in your ability to control yourself. And w Salatu. Salam said in the authentic hadith lays the shadow bisola the strong person is no one not the one who good and wrestling with the big muscles able to knock you down in a second. That's not strength.

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What I can what I can machete LLVM liquid so

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the strong person is the one who have the ability to control his or her anger, anger.

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This Hadith and many other similar concept in Islam or statements and, and basically guidelines in Islam teach us something very interesting that one of the goals of Sharia

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is to make us as human being controlling our desires and our emotions, not to be controlled by our desires and our emotions in many areas.

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In a time when talk became a desirable thing.

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irresistible, especially in the time of

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chaos.

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Everybody can say whatever they want.

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calendar be so solid in this particular time, MC Calacanis and

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hold your tongue.

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Initially I came to order us to control our tongue because they say you control your words as long as they are inside your heart and in your mind until your mouth the moment your words comes out your words control you.

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I guess that's in the old days when there is noble people.

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Calling Kadima Ada carnitine fcwc Malik Taha, were inherited mink malakut

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the ability

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basically to control a desire, like the love of fame, the love of power.

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That's why those who seek power and seek fame and be in position of fame, you find the Sherry acid that you cannot seek these two things through or wrong methods or for the wrong reasons. Lacuna Coil and Shura. Well,

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what a Mr. benbulben What is baffling that's why use of Le Sam was not wrong, when he asked is to be basically in charge of Egypt, because his intention is to be good. And the methods he expressed he said, I am strong. I am basically a person who is very careful and heavy and a person who knows and basically control things very well.

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And I know it

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is why we say as unbelievers what giannelli makina imama make us Imam leaders for that. For not for

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The public leaders for them tap in for the best of the people. That's not just to be, you know, somebody said, How come I felt in this time you should not seek leadership? No, you do. But you do it through the right methods and for the right reason.

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There is another desire that everybody has, which is the desire of

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attaining wealth,

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the love for money.

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And no doubt, that's something most people have. But surely, I said, Don't let this desire control you. We're not allowed to steal, when allowed to cheat, not allowed to do things, you know, small things, you know, they're, you know, which is wrong or cheating or saying things which is not true, just to make money now.

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Another love for the money a [???]ty I came to order as to what to donate to control your love for money. It is your money, you work hard. I always say this, when I go to fundraising, when you see people donating money in the fundraising, don't ever think of those people that they found this money in the street,

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or just came like that. That's why you have so much respect for anyone who donate $1 or 100,000, or 1000, whatever that amount is. Because those people work hard, and they earn that money. But in the end of the day, they never let the money control them. They control it. That's why they can give it to him everything you want.

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And it's been said, wealth is a very bad corrupt master.

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But a very good servant.

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If you it became in your hand and became your servant will serve you very well. But if controlling you, you became a slave to the money slave to the dollar slave to that, you will be in misery desaad the dinar Chinese

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guys Abdo Potiphar dice Abdulhamid.

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The process of them said the loser The one who will be slave to the wealth,

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the sexual lust and desire

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not something to control us not to use it in a way to control people. We control the desire. There is no adultery in Islam. There is no sexual assault, or molestation, or rape. This is considered major major crimes in Islam.

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War During the and there is a severe punishment for it actually one of the most severe punishment in Islam in relation to this

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heinous abuse a woman

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or a minor

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odds will be the punish will be more severe than anything else you can imagine. allowed us to control our desire allowed us to marry

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even when you're married, you have to control your sexual desire.

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No means no. for the right reasons.

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So there is a control. There is a lot of rules and regulation, Islam, all them when you look at them, basically, to help you to control these desires, the desire of revenge. The desire is to you know, pay him back, I'm going to get you back in this time, teach us to forgive, to let go.

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Love is a very strong emotion. But again, we don't let the emotion control us how and Islam says if you love someone so much, it doesn't mean that you will be unfair with others. So if you love your family, your friends so much and there is a dispute you stained up with the truth, not with the one that you love so much.

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That's why enemies a seller must clear about his position. And regard to those who saw real close to him from relatives who do not believe is

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my brother and sisters.

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One of the most important point when we talk about strength is the willpower. Because I believe that's where all comes from.

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Well either as Allah, what's the in Bilawal attaches, seek help from Allah and to not lose heart.

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If you have a determination about something,

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pursue it. Well, that means you are determined to make something to pursue something, go for it. And while you're going for it, you basically you have your trust in Allah subhanaw taala because our world affects how we relate to others.

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What ideas we cultivate

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What steps we take in our life,

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we need to make sure it's working well.

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Otherwise, we are in big trouble.

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We need to build up this inner strength, this willpower, because without it, we may fall victim to circumstances, we risk having our lives run by someone else, or other people are run by chances like so many of us unfortunately, live their lives like that.

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become emotionally strong. Take charge of your life. Remember, that you have power over your mind, power over your thought, not outside events, you realize that you will find your strength

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I don't have power or control over the circumstances, or other people I have control over myself. So you know what it starts from within the person I believe the strength comes. It is so sad to say that so many of people today

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are

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imprisoned, held back chained to so many bad habits, bad ideas, that is holding them back, or chained by their addictions to things that disturbing them slowly, from the strength day after after another.

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their strength is so weak, because they control by their fear by their hesitation.

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And if you want to be strong, he needs to learn how to face your fear, how to take risks, and to go for your dreams. Get rid of toxic people around you, who always read don't remind you of your strength, but you always talk about your weakness. That's why even preachers are criticized of the always talk about people's sins and people's mistakes and what they do wrong. And what's the wrong thing that you do and how the punishment will be those people only focus on the weakness and the negative.

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Sometimes

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we think that we have as a Sud, you know, kind of misconceptions about the issue of strength as well.

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Either way, strength is not bothering others.

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And this is one of the biggest problems that we have, in my opinion with this political climate. That we think strong person is the one who bully others.

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That's another strength.

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Being nice, doesn't make you weak. being selfish, it doesn't make you strong.

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focus in your own self and your own needs. And regardless of how this will harm others is not a strength. It's a strength and its strength in the wrong direction.

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These meanings of a strength need to be clear.

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Start with starting from the children all the way up to the adult.

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Some people also they have another exaggeration. They think a strength may always to be defense and the defense position. That's not true.

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Strong people also can go offense. Stand up for the truth. Yes, strong people usually usually try to avoid sorts of circumstances that will make them play offense.

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But if it comes a strong Paulina visa Salim Lata Mendoza and I do Latin is Allah Chi to mu for spill? do not wish to meet your enemy to not look for a fight. But if you get one, you stand up strong. That's what the provinces have order us to do.

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Yes, I'm not looking for to pick a fight with someone. But if it comes, I will stand strong.

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That's why it is so important for that strength to be demonstrated in our life in our interaction with people.

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Somebody asked me once

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strong people cry.

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I said yeah, the prophets of Salaam cried

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when he lost his beloved ones.

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in Novi Sad, solemn, cried many tears, tears came down and many times

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has demonstrate that you're human, that you have feelings.

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Don't think strong people don't cry. But they're not a crybaby.

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They're not of people who play the victim role all the time. Oh, you're like, victim of the some people pick on on so this this is not strong people

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as not strength.

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Strength also doesn't mean that you don't back down

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from other people, sometimes the strength is to back down is to pull back is not to engage in this conversation is not to go to that level of the person who's in front of you.

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Also strength It doesn't mean that you don't be afraid sometimes fear is a natural thing. But what is not acceptable is to let your fear prevent you from pursuing your life or your fear to make a control.

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And you can't basically progress

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to strong people second guess themselves? Yes.

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I consider myself a strong person.

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On a second guess myself many times.

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Analysis, did they get it right? Did they sit it right? No, all was checked myself. That's the I never felt that this goes against the concept of a strength. I asked our last panel to either to give us a strength in our life, strengthen our strengthen our belief is strength in our family, and to strengthen our community and our society, allow me to muster

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100 Lillah wa salatu salam ala Mallanna Ba Ba Ba,

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I hope inshallah over the course of the year that many of these aspects, because there is many aspects for strength comes to family structures, when it comes to community work when it comes to finances, emotional, mental, physical, health wise, there's many, many, many areas, we can talk about it. And hopefully, we'll focus in some areas during the year through programs.

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And one of the things that I'm going to ask you to do after July shala, after we finished the announcement, in the wall, there is an area, which is I asked you to write down what strength means to you, what is your personal area of strength, so we can kind of learn from each others. And you will find someone directing you to that specific, it's a very clear designated spot in the back. So make sure that you participate.

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Also, I would like to say just a few words before we end that yesterday was the woman International Date.

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And that's deserve a hope but in itself. But I don't want to delay the concept of our theme of the year more than this. That's why I talk about but hopefully I will get a chance maybe in coming weeks to talk about that concept. Woman in Islam is a very important topic,

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woman Islam.

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And Islam came to strengthen and to protect and to support women in a society in a time in a place where they're badly abused. No rights, no respect, no role in most of the society across the globe.

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Even people don't know who they are. In France, they were debating if women are human or not.

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And they come to the conclusion and that's when the process almost 30 years old, come to the conclusion that she she is have the body of the human and the soul of a devil.

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You go to the east you go to the Middle East, you go wherever you go. And Islam came to strengthen woman and to support them and to support the rights.

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So it is not acceptable.

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That that same religion which came to protect them to support woman

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in to guide them in society and in life. To be used to

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basically, to be used to oppress them,

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to be used to against them.

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to strip them from the rights that the law giving them.

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And in the same time you cannot ever talk to the rules of Allah and the guidance of Allah, that they go against justice and rights and human rights.

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A woman Hala power who a lot a fun hobby. He knows what you have created and he's the most knowledgeable.

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I was not biased to manual

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A woman.

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And that notion when people come and tell me chef, how can Islam abused woman, they're not allowed to do this, they're not allowed to do this, they not allowed to do this. And you start mentioning all these things.

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I said, That's manipulating.

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That's a false logic. Because I can do the same. I can tell you, oh my god, I feel so bad for men, men are not allowed to do this. And then another two were self not allowed to show this part of their body. Men allowed to make men must do this, and must do that. And I can list for you 10 or 15 points about men and put it in certain way you feel Oh, my God, really? poor guys.

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And Islam did not come only for no to a woman.

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There's things where it's no, and there is yes.

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do and don't. Right and wrong. Same thing with men. How to stand do not look to people based on discriminate between them based on gender.

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And unfortunately, I will say, those who gather all these less stiff nose are two people, that people who want to attack Islam and some extremist,

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strict individuals in our society and our religion as well. That's every time the woman issue comes, the only thing about the nose. That's the only thing this preacher or this religious person think of when you think about Mormon only think about the thing that she's not allowed to do. That's also wrong.

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That's a very small area.

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But the default rules, that woman should be partner with men in building the society and living the life will mean one hour minute, earlier about. Yeah.

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And as I said, that will be another topic for another day. But I just want to say that this is something we should care for as a Muslim community, and on a site that women are abused in all culture and across all people of different faiths.

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And nobody can think of this is like, No, that's not true. There's a lot of areas where women suffering a lot. And the we still struggle in basic things like equal pay.

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And basic things.

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Like the respect that unfortunately, we living in a political climate is not helping.

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And I'm so happy and proud to say that there is about more than 400 woman's running for positions across the country today.

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And that's something we should as a community support, understand.

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So I asked the last para to Allah to

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forgive our sins and to guide us to the best of manners to the best of actions. I asked the last panel to Allah to bless us and to bless our community, our society, our country. I asked the last panel to Allah to help those who are oppressed around the world. And to give relief to them is going to Las panatela and El Faro the multinomial otaku takuan yahama now yahoo.com he

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was Allahumma salli ala nabina, Muhammad

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Allah,

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Shadow

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