Khutba At Isna

Waleed Basyouni

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The character that and Islam established at an Islamic carriage, every human, especially those who carry this religion, like all of us, the Muslims, to hold into this character and to practice this character in our life, because as the Prophet sallallahu wasallam said, at dealing with religion is an interaction, the real, basically, impact of the religion will show when you interact with others, when you interact with your friends, with your family members, with your co workers and the society, when you are the leader or you want to follow when you are strong, or even you are weak, how you will interact with others. That's what will show the real impact of the religion in your life.

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Brothers and sisters, there is so many verses in the Quran, so many a hadith from the Prophet sallallahu Sallam actually there is so it is a very talking about this character. And it is one of the clear character of Muhammad Sallallahu wasallam, which is the concept of forgiveness, the concept of forgiveness. Forgiveness is something that Islam encouraged so much, and told us and give us the lifetime for those who are willing to forgive and to move on in their life, that there is a great reward for them. But unfortunately, it is something common in human being that they like to hold into a negative field, they will not forgive, you will not let go, they will hold they will

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hold grudges their hearts, and you will always have this negative thoughts. They're not willing to let it go easily. And this is not how the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam want you to be. That's not how Allah subhanho wa Taala through the teaching of a learning center he wanted to be he wanted to learn how to let it go. We want you to learn how to forgive and to be able to move on in your mind. Allah Subhana Allah encouraged us and he said, in moon

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fell asleep in a hallway. All moments are all believers, our brothers and sisters. So what we need to do as a community to help one another when there is a conflict, when there is somebody has a problem with somebody else, to make a slight to reconsolidate to help them to forgive, to help them to move on in their life in their life, when I'm in sabara will refer those who will have the patience

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and subtle in Arabic language it means it means that you will hold yourself into a higher standard, that you will be able to hold yourself to a higher standard. That's why we suffer when this calamity comes. You don't break down us hold yourself into higher standard that you will basically show a strength and you will hold yourself together and you will be able to move on one of the beautiful meanings of the word of Southern also in Islam. As in no time. Rahim Omar once mentioned, a sermon is the ability is your ability to adjust to the new situation. And something it's not just doing nothing and not showing frustration. No a summary of that you will be able to have a positive

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attitude with the new situation that you're in. If it's a sickness, if you lost a loved one, if you lost a job or something terrible happened to you or somewhere it means that I won't be able to hold myself in a higher standard, I will adjust to the new situation and deal with it in a positive manner in a positive manner. Here's the same thing Allah subhanaw taala said those who have the strength which is a suburb and they will be able to forgive will refer in the valley kelemen esmil mode. This is one of the best qualities that you can ever possess as a human being that you will have this ability. So forgiveness is one of the best character that you can have unknown so Allah

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subhana wa tada said well in Turku,

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taqwa if you forgive that closer to be among them with terpene. And we all know that a temple is the highest level of female, it is the highest level of a man or one of the highest level that you can ever achieve feminine.

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feminine alpha was for a Jew who Allah, Allah subhanaw taala said, Those who are willing to forgive, then they will change their attitude, they will change your behavior afterwards. Because it doesn't make sense to say, you know what, I forgive my brother I give I forgive my in laws. I forgive my spouse, I forgive my children. I forgive my parents, but you still holding this back attitude towards them. Maybe somebody has done wrong to you. And you said I forgive them but you still treat them badly. But you still treat them in a negative. That's not possible. That maybe you forgive them in your heart but you have to change even your attitude towards

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towards others, there was a parrot Allah said, I true and Allah that He worked for such person, as belong to us a paradigm, which is if something, if something belongs to Allah that means that reward is something beyond your imaginations is something even way greater than to be described by words. It's like the sea on the edge of the sea and belong to LA. He never told us what exactly the answer is. Because it's so great. It is so great.

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Allah subhana wa Tada. Yeah. And he told us that this is the character of Mohammed Salah lava and he was said that he has this mercy in his heart, that he is forgiveness of Allah, Allah. And first and foremost, it is the clearest quality of our Lord, that Allah Subhana. Allah Himself is different given, there's two things I want you to remember when we talk about the concept of forgiveness, that forgiveness, it goes to everyone. You don't only forgive your friends, you're also willing to forgive your enemies. Forgiveness is not only when you are in status of the strength or weakness in any stance you are, you will be able to forgive, you will be able to forgive. Forgiveness is not for

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those that you like, it's those who you like, and those who don't like you agree, and you disagree, those who have interest in relationship with them in the future, and those who have no interest in having any relationship with them in the future. Also, remember that forgiveness is not one time thing in your life. Oh, should I forgive I forgive someone last year? That's it? No, it is not one time thing. You know what your husband, your wife, your children, I forgive you so many times No, forgiveness is an attitude. It's an ongoing process, it became an attitude that you will have to forgive. And you will have to forgive no matter how many times this will happen. And how many times

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you will be basically you will be encountering with a situation that you need to forgive how many times I was a parent, Allah forgive you how many times you have done wrong, and almost parents are willing to do that. How many times the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was hurt and treated bad by his enemy. And then in the end, he was willing to forgive him on some level. I mean, it was.

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It was certainly a lot told us that this is the quality of the inheritor of Paradise, was that you will feel

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rushed to the forgiveness of Allah, to the forgiveness of Allah, and

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all that walked in the wake of this paradise, it's like the heavens and the earth is like the heavens and the earth, what this to whom this paradise belongs

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to be who

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he was,

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he was

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one of

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those who spend in the time of ease in a time of hardship, those who spend for the sake of time function, and those who will help, they will hold their anger, they have a good self control, you will not be able to forgive if you don't master this, the ability of self control, you hold your anger, then he said not only the hold the grip, they hold the anger know what it is that they are also willing to forgive. What do you mean, Allah loves the machine, and again,

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it is the highest level of female, it is the highest level of a man, because you belong to a machine. You belong to those people who are willing not only to forgive, but also to give to give. Yesterday, I was visiting a school here in Mississauga, and it gave me a very nice sticker. And it says, I just saw it this morning. And maybe that's what inspired me to talk about this topic even today and the change in the original topic I had in my mind, which is it says that Allah gifts and forget our gifts, and he does He forgive. But while human beings, human beings, they get angry, forget. They get things but they forget it's the opposite. And also hanworth Allah want us to have

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this quality, why Allah told us about his quality is to own can not only take advantage for ourselves, no but also as it became in the Hadees, which is Hasson that he said

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that the person when you look at the quality of his Lord, he should follow adopted the path to believing in him as a forgiving Lord subhana wa tada to be a forgiven servant of Allah to be a forgiving person as well.

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And the time of the Prophet sallallahu

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Are you a seller? All these words are nice, but when you put to test it will show who's real and who's fake. The Sahaba hurt is one of them

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on his own daughter, which is the wife of the Prophet sallallahu wasallam. She is not only his daughter, it's a very unique situation. She is from one side, his daughter, and from the other side, she's his mother. She is the mother of the believer actually.

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She she basically connected to him in a few unique ways.

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very dear to him as a daughter, and very respectful in respect to a woman to him because she is the mother of the believers. And she's the wife of his best friend and His messenger, Mohammed Salah.

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Some people talk bad about her.

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So to

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relay some false

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information and accusation about her. One of them a person has been misled. This person Abu Bakar used to help him financially. When he heard that he said that about Tasha, he stopped. But when you heard the verses were Alyssa panna with Alison, what I tell you in Kumasi those who are what give them money, give them and you to that they will give for the sake of Allah. Are you sure about what Misaki in that relative? And the poor people when Mahajan enough? He said the new law? Well, yeah,

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they should forgive. And she basically forget forgive them. A boba rush to Mr. And he gave him back the money that he used to give him every month. And he said, Allah,

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Allah, don't you want to forgive you too? Then I said, Yes, I would love for Allah to forgive me. And I'm willing to forgive this man who talked about

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in Navy sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, like, not to have to do

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like takaharu wakulla de la Juana, Muslim, Muslim proper Salah, don't envy one another. Don't hate one another. Don't turn your back to one another. Don't basically disassociate yourself with your brothers and sisters, when your family members be brothers and sisters, we are a community of love, be a community of cooperation, be a community of one look after one another and care about one another. That's the community that deserve to be honored at the end of the day of judgment. That's why brothers and sisters, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam told us that if you have something with you, brother, let it settle today. So you will come with a free heart in the Day of Judgment.

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So Allah subhana wa tada would reward you tremendously in the next in the next life.

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And we can go on and on and on, and so many ideas and versus talking about forgiveness. But let me be just a little bit practical today. So basically, when we walk out of this loop with a Juma, we have some action items to take things that can help us to really adopt and to hold them to this character.

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What's the benefit of forgiving what you will gain from forgiving me that will help you to reconsider your position from so many people that you still is still holding some grudge against them, or negative thoughts about them? Number one, there is no doubt that forgiving, it will establish this goal, which is brotherhood and sisterhood between the society make the Muslim brothers and sisters, because I'll tell you, if you think that you will have a friend or a family member, or a spouse, or a child, or a co worker who never makes mistakes, you are dreaming, you're looking for an agenda to live in an Earth. Everybody makes mistakes. And if we don't learn how to

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forgive one another, there is one no one will be left for you.

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Tell me what I can pull up for indicating the authority of the new power parity. Rahim Allah said if you will basically count all the mistakes that people do and you're looking for someone free of mistakes and perfect person you will be by yourself and this life. So in order for us to establish this goal, which is a goal of Islam, to have a brother and sisterhood and to be loving to love one another we need to learn to forgive because forgiveness is the road to turn off. Number two. And this is very important to think about. Believe me brothers and sisters. When you don't forgive someone, you are linked to that person or that condition with an emotion blank. It is stronger than

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the steel. You link to that person that you hate that you don't like that.

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position that incident, you are linked to it emotionally with a chain that is stronger than steel.

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The moment you forgive, the moment you break this chain, the moment you set yourself free

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you know, the forgiver ones are free men and woman. And those who don't forgive our prisoners are imprisoned to their own negative emotions in the face negative emotions, taking over your heart, taking over your thoughts, let it go, sit yourself free. Walk out today from this nested. If you have a greater you have bad feeling about someone, let it go and see how you feel that you will set yourself free, set your heart free, no more link to that incident to that person in a negative way in a negative way.

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Forgiveness it shows that you are a strong person because that is our solemn said let's actually do

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the strong one not the one of the big muscles, not the one who controls themselves. The one who have a good self control, good self control. You will be a strong person we people cannot forgive. That's why the hide behind this negative emotion is strong people have the ability to let it go.

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Number four, forgiveness will give you honor and would raise your level not only in the IRA but in the dunya

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any forgiving story into something honor is something you always think of it something an example, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. When you think of the conquered of Mecca, you don't think of the tactic you don't think of the military tactic that you have the strong army that you have the small fight where the Muslim crushed that resistance in no time. He that's what love comes to your mind. The real honor the real story, the real moral in the story of Concord Mecca when he said to the people of Mecca, you are free and

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you're free to go

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you know the starting to sit What do you think I'm going to do to you? Then He forgive me? He let them go. That's what gave the Muslim and Islam that and raise it very high up the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, Man government Avon will call of duty on Anna infatti Nadella we all know.

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A person who have so much frustration and anger they get to someone and he or she can let it can let the person have it. You know, what is that I'm gonna let you have it. He can do that he can release the anger. But he or she will control themselves, they will not let it go.

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Allah will call them in the day of judgment in front of everyone. That's an honor. You raise your level when you learn how to forgive, when you learn how to forgive.

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May Allah Subhana Allah make us among those who forgive one another that was handed to Adam makers among those who forgive one another. So almost Canada will forgive us a Buddha must admit to Muslims.

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I have to rely on

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my brothers and sisters, as we heard some of the benefits of learning how to forgive one another. Also one of the benefit that it will let you to move on in your life, you do need to look back to these bad experience with a person or with an incident or in a town or with a job or anything you need to basically act to stop your journey in this life. If you learn how to forgive you learn how to go very far, you will learn how to go very far. Because these bad thoughts, negative thoughts. It's always pulling you back. It's always coming, pulling you back. And it's always making you imbalance you can have balance your life. But if you want to balance your life and you want to move

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on in your life, you'll learn how to keep moving to keep moving. It's like a bicycle. The only way to keep your balance is to keep moving. You cannot keep your balance what your stop. He cannot stop at one station at one incident with your relationship with anyone because of that negative thoughts. Just let it go and move on in your life and in your life.

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So many people said Jeff, it is very hard for me to forgive. How can you forgive? Okay, no, it's great things but how can I do? How can I do? How can I be a forgiving person number one, learn how not to pick and people know and learn how to let things go. That is some people might shop they never think goes by I will see check every word what is intention? Did he mentors, let things go Don't be so picky when you do

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with people when you watch people, you know what, don't watch everything, every words every incident go too deep into your heart, put layers between people's actions, words and your heart. Because if you let it go into your heart, it will be hard to let it out to let it out. That's why Assam said, Charlotte

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you're in a nine out of 10 in the best way to deal with people and not to pay much attention to their faults or their mistakes or there may be silly comments, let things go let things go.

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Also, always remember the virtues of forgiving like some of the honey that I told you earlier. near what an international law there is no one

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pocket any torture him like a goat has happened. But it doesn't one of the gals are just putting

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in 100 while he's in jail, he used to say, our menu over to Allah, I forgive him. I forgive the hell he was torturing me. And then came to an image. upon his death, he was hiding his face when he entered, he couldn't even attend. And he said, you remember me? He said, How can I forgive you? forget you. You're the one who used to hit me with the web with the soap. And he said your argument before you die, please, please forgive me. He said I have forgiven you in the same day You hit me. Then he his son said your father what you're saying,

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by our law, he could agree to the salt. Now.

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Listen to what law I used to hit him with the web. If I will hit the back of an elephant outbreak. The elephant's back. That's how I was so angry at this email. At one time I

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gave him the same day. I never went to bed with this negative feelings. He said I forgave him for him in the same day. So he says what you're doing for them? Why would you do that? Then he said, Did he hear what Allah subhana wa Taala said, when you have food when you're

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on a

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Sunday, Didn't you hear what I was saying? Let them forgive? Don't they want to forgive him? I need almost forgiveness now more than any other time.

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Three, if you want to know how to forgive people learn how to make up for them. You know that your spouse, pray for them. You manage your parents pray for them. You manage your friends, pray for them. You manage your boss, pray for them. You mad at your copy into their email or whatever, pray for them. Learn how to pray. Because when you make your app, you take that negative feelings away. Also always have good faith in people. Don't be negative, don't think negative about them. Have fun only almost try to find an excuse for for others. One of the thing if you learn if you're going to need if you know how to be forgiving person to forgive people. Don't ever condition your

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forgiveness. on other people's forgiveness, it is your own action is not his. And I mean by that some people said I'll forgive him if he change. I'll forgive my husband if he changed. I'll give my wife if she changed. That's not forgive Fcj house, there's no point from you for to forgive. It's too late. Don't condition your forgiving on somebody else. forgiving me to chew on attitude.

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It is your own attitude. If you need to learn Don't be trapped into that chimpanzee trap. Also,

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forgetting is a blessing. Not everybody can forget. But try not to remind yourself of those people's problems or mistakes or insults are the bad thing that he did. Don't hold into it. Let's say you have a problem with your spouse and you find your spouse cheating. For example. Don't hold into the emails to the pictures to the things that remind you of that. Don't hold into the to these memories. Try to forget it. Try to connect to basically make a report between the person with a new positive thinking. Don't make that report between that person with the negative thinking change that connect that person to something better. That's why it was apparent as I said in the follow up when divorce.

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That's a negative thing. That's hurts. He said what I've done so we'll follow Danakil. Don't forget about the good things happen to you, between both of you. Remember, don't make the lost taste between your and your divorce and your ex is that nasties fight in the divorce if it ever happened, connect you and her to something good happen to your life. Maybe the first month of your life. Make make that report to something good and positive and positive. One of the things that will help me to be a forgiving person, open up to the person. If you somebody hurt you tell them and that will help you to forgive somebody. Sometimes God forgive but he didn't get the point. No, go ahead and tell

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him that you have done this and this really wasn't good. Open up don't feel don't don't hold it. Don't swallow your your

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Beauty of your basically your anger, no, tell them in a nice way, express your feeling to the person that after that, Let it go, let it go.

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Also, finally, let your pride and ego go. So many times this is an equal issue. I'm not forgiving somebody because it's an equal issue. You know what let your ego go, there is better things to gain than there is a better thing you will gain in general better than your basically a pride, your pride.

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So many

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people think that forgiveness is a weakness, but why it's not. As I said forgiveness is a strength, it is a strength, it is a strength. Also, people can choose between forgiveness and hold people accountable for the action. So many people will love willing to forgive because forgive he's not countability share whereas accountability, you should be held accountable. Now as I said, if somebody did something wrong, explained to him his mistakes her mistakes then after that you forgive then after that you forgive that's why even allows forgiveness it just when Tobin would change happen

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the ability to let it go.

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Number four, forgiveness will give you honor and would raise your level not only in the IRA but in the dunya.

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Any forgiving story into something honor is something you always think of. It's something an example, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. When you think of the conquered of Mecca, you don't think of the tactic. You don't think of the military tactic that you have the strong

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Army that you have the small fight where the Muslim crushed that resistance in no time. He that's what love comes to your mind. The real honor the real story, the real moral in the story of Concord Mecca when he said to the people of Mecca, you are free and to

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you're free to go.

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You know the starting this is what you think I'm going to do to you. Then he forgives, he let them go. That's what gave the Muslim and Islam that and raise it very high up. The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, Men cover my Avon will do an anti aging Fannie Nadella we all know

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a person who have so much frustration and anger they get to someone and he or she can let it he can let the person have it. You know, what is that I'm gonna let you have it. He can do that he can release the anger. But he or she will control themselves, they will not let it go.

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Allah will Colvin and the day of judgment in front of everyone. Pattern honor, you raise your level when you learn how to forgive, when you learn how to forgive.

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May Allah Subhana Allah make us among those who forgive one another

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to add and make us among those who forgive one another. So almost Canada will forgive us.

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I have to rely on

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my brothers and sisters, as we heard some of the benefits of learning how to forgive one another. Also one of the benefits that it will let you to move on in your life. You do need almost to look back to these bad experience with a person or with an incident or in a town or with a job or anything you need to basically act to stop your journey in this life. If you learn how to forgive, you will learn how to go very far, you will learn how to go very far. Because these bad thoughts, negative thoughts. It's always pulling you back. It's always pulling, pulling you back. And it's always making imbalance you cannot balance your life. But if you want to balance your life, and you

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want to move on in your life, you'll learn how to keep moving to keep moving. It's like a bicycle. The only way to keep your balance is to keep moving. You cannot keep your balance what your stop, he cannot stop at one station at one incident with your relationship with anyone because of that negative thoughts. Just let it go and move on in your life and in your life.

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So many people said, Jeff, it is very hard for me to forgive. How can you forgive? Okay, no, it's great things. But how can I do? How can I do? How can I be a forgiving person number one, learn how not to pick and people learn how to let things go. There is some people lash out. They nothing goes by I will see check every word what his intention? Did he mentors, let things go. Don't be so picky. When you deal with people. When you watch people. You know what, don't let everything every words every incident go too deep into your heart. Put players between people's actions, words and your heart. Because if you let it go into your heart, it will be hard to let it out to let it out. That's

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why I had to have some said this

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year and nine out of 10 in the best way to deal with people and not to pay much attention to their false or their mistakes or there may be silly comments, let things go let things go.

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Also, always remember the virtues of forgiving. Like some of the hottie that I told you earlier. near what an email. There is no one

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pocket and he torture him like abuse happened. It doesn't. One of the gals does that to

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him. While he's in jail. He used to say, Allahu

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Allah, I forgive him. I forgive the honey who's torturing me, and then came to him and upon his death, he was hiding his face when he entered. He couldn't even attend and he said, you remember me? He said, How can I forgive you? forget you. You're the one who used to hit me with the web with the soap. And he said, before you die, please Please forgive me. He said I have forgiven you in the same day You hit me. Then he his son said your father what you're saying.

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pile of wood could agree boohoo the salt now. Rafi nakasendo. Well, I used to hit him with the way if I will hit the back of an elephant I will break the elephant's back. That's how I was so angry at this email. At one time my life

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forgiving the same day. I never went to bed with this negative

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feelings. He said, I forgive them for him in the same way. So he says, What are you doing for them? Why would you do that? Then he said, Did he hear what Allah subhana wa Taala said, when you're a fool when your

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son Didn't you hear what the law said, let them forgive. Don't they want the Lord to forgive him? I need Allah's forgiveness. Now more than any other time.

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Three, if you want to know how to forgive people learn how to make up for them. You know that your spouse, pray for them, you manage your parents, pray for them, you manage your friends, pray for them. You manage your boss, pray for them. You mad at your copy today via email or whatever, pray for them. Learn how to pray, because when you make your app, you take that negative feelings away. Also always have good faith in people. Don't be negative, don't think negative about them. Have fun only, always try to find an excuse for for others. One of the thing if you learn if you're a neat if you know how to be a forgiving person to forgive people, don't ever condition your forgiveness on

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other people. Forgiveness does your own action is not his. And I mean by that some people said out forgiving if he change, I'll forgive my husband, if he changed. I'll give my wife if she changed. That's not forgive Fcj cause there's no point from you for to forgive, it's too late. Don't condition you forgiving on somebody else. forgiving me to chew on attitude.

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It is your own attitude. If you need to learn Don't be trapped into the chimpanzee trap. Also,

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forgetting is a blessing. Not everybody can forget. But try not to remind yourself of those people's problems, or mistakes or consoles, or the bad thing that they did. Don't hold into it. Let's say you have a problem with your spouse, and you find your spouse cheating, for example, don't go into the emails to the pictures to the things that remind you of that. No holding to the to these memories, try to forget it tried to connect to basically make a rapport between the person with a new positive thinking. Don't make that rapport between that person with the negative thinking, change that connect that person to something better. That's why it was apparent as I said, in the follow up when

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divorce, that's a negative thing that's hurts. He said what I can say will follow Bang accom Don't forget about the good things happen to you, between both of you. Remember, don't make the last case between your and your divorce and your ex is that nasties fight in the divorce if it ever happened, connect you and her to something good happen to your life, maybe the first month of your life, make the make that report to something good and positive and positive. One of the things that will help me to be a forgiving person, open up to the person. If you somebody hurt you tell them and that will help you to forgive somebody, sometimes a shadow forgive but he didn't get the point No, go ahead

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and tell him that you have done this. And this really wasn't good. Open up don't feel don't don't hold it. Don't swallow your your, your basically your anger know, tell them in a nice way to express your feeling to the person that after that, Let it go Let it go.

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Also, finally, let your pride and ego go. So many times this is an equal issue. I'm not forgiving somebody because it's an equal issue. You know what let your ego go, there is better things to gain than there is a better thing you will gain in general better than your basically your pride, your pride.

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So many

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people think that forgiveness is a weakness. But what why it's not. As I said forgiveness is a strength. It is a strength, it is a strength. Also, people confuse between forgiveness and hold people accountable for their actions. So many people will love willing to forgive me forgive he is not countability share, whereas countability you should be held accountable. No as I said, if somebody did something wrong, I explained to him this mistake her mistakes. Then after that you forgive then after that you forgive that's why even allows forgiveness. It is when Toba when change happened.

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May Allah Subhana Allah

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One tough, tough one now.

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