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hamdu Lillahi wa Salatu was Salam ala Mala and a view about the whole of Vienna Muhammad you know how early he was so happy he was Selim Illa, whom at the Sleeman Kathira I'm about a shadow Allah Ilaha illa Allah who the hula Cherie Cara, WA shadow under Mohammed and Abdu rasuluh Yeah. Hello Dina. I'm Anna Takala aka Ducati wala temotu nila and to Muslim on all praise due to Allah and His praise and blessings and peace be upon our Prophet, Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam his family, his companions and his followers until the day of judgment. I bear witness that Allah is the only one worthy of worship. And Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa salam, his last and final messenger, my

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brothers and sisters, in a time, where change is something essential, something important,

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changing

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things from bad to good.

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from worst to LIS bad,

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where people struggling to keep the good growing,

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and

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society struggling to keep growing and

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progressing.

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An essential point came to my mind in regard to the time that we're living today, which is in order for us to be able to influence

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others with goodness, we have to be able to win those people.

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Anyone that you want to influence anyone that you want to work with, to cooperate with, to team up with, you need to win them and to win their hearts. Kasbah NASS mutlak, a SAS fetal evenness. Before you even dream to make an influence on anyone, make sure that you win that person. So he or she will be able to listen to you.

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And I will start with the closest people to you, your spouse, your children.

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You know, we think that people will listen to us just because my status code unfortunately we don't live in the time that this is very commonly happened. Even if they listen to you and they work like your work or employees or family members. They do that they do while their hearts is like there's rejections and the moment that they can go away from you they will and they will leave you

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That's why a Dawa il Allah subhana Tada calling people to Allah Spano dada da yo, the caller is an obligation upon all of us as Muslim. There's no specific group either. We call them Darat in Allah and that means the rest of the Ummah is exempt from it everyone is asked to practice something kind of doubt. Yesterday's people are specialized in certain areas. Not everybody will have the same specialty. But everybody been asked to have that positive impact on others.

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And as we think about those who are the closest to us, those the ones that we should care to win their hearts the most, your family members, your extended family members, your neighbors, your co workers, your people who work for you or work with you and the people who surrounding you the community and the society at large.

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And here's some points that might be able to help you to win these hearts number one, us look my buddy Nick Cobain Allah useless Allahumma Bina Kobina ness of Il Hadith the ALMA Sure How did you breed in Allah Hi the hubba Abdon Carla Did you breed a hippo, familia, Morin, Mara equator hippo, through Moldova and a whole cabal for

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the first point, make sure that what is between you and Allah subhanaw taala is good.

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I remember what the Allah and once told one of his generals and leaders, look how people see you and perceive you and deal with you. And that's how Allah Subhana Allah actually seeing you as well. But that's Omar, we're referring to people righteous, not corrupt. Any this person is leading a righteous people. So if those righteous people like you and care for you, that means Allah subhanaw taala like you and cares for you too. And in the famous Hadith, Allah when he loves someone, he made, he called the angels Gibreel to love him, then the angels to love that person. Then in the end of the Hadith, and maybe Salam said that Allah subhanaw taala would put this put for this person and

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acceptance. People accept him and what he says, And subhanAllah sometimes, historically speaking, there are certain individuals in history, ALLAH SubhanA, Allah put so much Baraka in their works. Some speakers, Allah subhanaw taala put so much Baraka in their talk. And when you listen to it, and you start analyzing it, there is nothing special about it at all. It's a monotone talk. It's a simple idea. No, yeah, and nothing sophisticated about it at all. Knowledge is so shallow, but yet, Allah subhanaw taala put so much Baraka in that movement or on that organization on that person's talk that millions of people influenced by Allah Subhana Allah put some time put Baraka, Allah

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Subhana Allah knows what's those individuals have between them and Allah subhana wa Tada in Alladhina, Amman wa middle Saudi had said jolla home Rama and Buddha, yeah and inhabitants anybody that Allah subhanaw taala said, those who believed in Allah, and those who do good deeds, Allah will put for them love in the hearts of the believers, and the hearts of that believers and people in general.

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Number two, sincerity will make people like see how the actions of the hearts affect the actions that affect other hearts. As much as you're sincere in your care and your love, in your actions in your words, your apology, ALLAH SubhanA gotta make people accept you. But those are hypocrites, those who are showing up those who are not sincere.

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Allah subhanaw taala never put Baraka in their work blessings and their work. We don't care for people until they start caring for us. We don't treat people good because they treat us good. We treat them good because Allah subhanaw taala order us to do that. And that's what's a class. That's why one of the earliest colors when somebody came to ask him for money and he helped his wife told him this person or relative to you and her the curry book. He never showed up when you are in need.

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Even though he was an ease at that time. Can I have it? In the manual? Am no nurse Anna Darrin Allah Ock data him. We treat people according to our principles, not agree

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Getting to their principles according to our standards, not to their standards, that what we do

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and that only comes when you do this with sincerity.

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Many times she might or he might cross the line have wronged you at home,

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your spouse, but yet you don't revenge because I do this for the same I do the right thing because of Allah subhanaw taala

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I mean an adjuvant for kaha one of the interesting point recently, someone telling me about a dispute a domestic dispute between him and his spouse, his wife. Then she left the house

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then he told me she if she left the house, am I a slam ugly still responsible for financially

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supporting her? I said yes.

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Islamic Lee still support her. This has nothing to do with this. She'd been like not be nice to me. And she just left she went to her. Father's out. Said you still have to until you divorce her

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hadn't yet any this rules in Islam. It shows you that there is a great level of sincerity I deal with Allah subhanaw taala maybe he or she doesn't deserve a penny. But I'm doing it for the sake of Allah subhana God, I do him because of the right thing.

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You know what, maybe he doesn't deserve that. Or he she doesn't deserve that. But I wouldn't eat I do it because my employee for example. But I do because it's a contract because I'm committed to it, and so forth. Another thing which is when people's heart, do good service to them do good things to them. As an Elan nurse to start with Cordova humo. For coming started by the sun in Santa

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that doing good to people, especially on honorable people. Learn Nikita Karim tell Karim America who in Crumpton, Lima, Tama Raja, the good people, people have good character. People who are from inside good and most most of people are like that. hamdulillah when you do good to them, you own them. They will be good to you. Hopefully the basically that will win their hearts in Nabi SallAllahu, alayhi wa sallam he used to do service to his wife, I shall the Allah and and others, he will clean the house who will help them in the home. Not because he has too many things or too many shores? No, Michelle, Sophie beta had that Angela and you said Allah salAllahu Alaihe Salam, but he

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does this just to show that he cares. An act of kindness. That's why people appreciate Allah, those who do good to them. In Nikola Tesla Rahim. What took Sybil Makhdoom were to revive what we know and in our data before he was a prophet, be woefully as the knowledge of the revelations. He was what he was a man that he look after his relatives, a man who helped the poor, a man who will host the guest well, and a man who will look after those who are going through hardship or disaster. That's how the process of him was. And he continued to be that man. Tyler Mercer if ejabberd pan mursaleen an abuse of Salah manchi for Karla caught Hector para Hassan Lola Tasha hood cannot learn who Nambu Yeah, and

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he had to deal with salatu salam Yeah, nothing ever said he said no, I this actually line was said to someone else other than the process Allah, but it's perfectly fit the process Allah, that he never said no to anything. The only time he said no in his life when he said, No one worthy of worship except Allah, Allah, Allah, Allah Allah. Otherwise, he'll always say yes, Allah Allahu Allahu alayhi wa sallam.

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And it was reported to her due to help, exchange gift and that will basically bring love to between you and others. One of the thing also so important to win people's heart, is to show them that you care about them. People don't care about what you say, until they feel that you care about them.

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No matter how knowledgeable you are, no matter how nice you know how truthful Your words are, using the absolute right thing.

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But your kids, your spouse, your neighbor, your friends,

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your employees, your colleagues. When not your community will not care until they know that you care about them first.

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And that's why Nabi SallAllahu Sallam cared about people that's why they care so much

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For what he's saying, and to the extent can you imagine he's given hope but like now

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and then came in the middle of the hallway, he said, Yeah rasool Allah, I just became Muslim.

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Imagine if this happened now, somebody walked into a chef, I just became a, you know, the person that he loved the hotbar.

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And he took his chair, and he put the chair and he started teaching him about the slump.

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He didn't wait until the solid finish on what he cared.

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Then he came and he gave the hope. If I do that today, I guess after I come back, nobody will be loved.

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You know what?

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What amazed me this hadith, not how much the process of him cares, because I know he does. But how much the Sahaba care about that person to that they waited, you were patient. We are supportive of the Allahu Anhu model. Ah,

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another thing makes you win people smile. Smiling is a great tool of winning people's heart. Smile is something maybe appear in your face, but it's really connected to the hearts of people doesn't make only you happy it makes people around you happy as well. And I really always say I think that's one trademark should be known about us as Muslims. That smile. You know, your smile didn't go anywhere. It just right under your nose. Sometimes I think I need to give a photo about smiling until everyone your teeth is not our you can show it. You didn't need to cover 80 Okay, so smiling is such a beautiful thing and winning people innocent winning.

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Also, one thing about winning people and winning people's heart people everybody value their names

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How about your name you someone who had anything to sauce, something you own it it doesn't have

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a material values unless you're a celebrity it gets your name trademark, but your name is something you own it it's not something that has a price tag on it. But still it's something that you own who are milk when can a woman buy but why we call it milk why they call it something that you possess on your own because something so dear to you so special. So people always like their names and their nicknames and what they called by

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and some people like their family name like their lineage whatever people are different. But see what the amount of the law and understood that then he said the Latin youth a bit nella canwood will be

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three things will make your brother love you.

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That will be Sadam when you meet that your brother or sister give some first show interest what was said Allahu fundamentalists when they come you always make a space welcome Come sit next to me. I don't know sir.

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And the third one tuna de Hibiya esmaeili You call them with the name that they like the love

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another thing magic in winning people's heart, be a good listener.

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good talker is not as much

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you know, you might take the interest of a few for us minutes or hour whatever.

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But listeners good listeners

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are people love those who basically listen to them.

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A study showed that among the category of people liked by people in general, which is kind of strange doctors

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usually go to doctors and hear from them. Not really you go talk to us for prevention and you know, it's but any mostly people who are doctors, there's a sickness there's something to worry about something. But yet doctors are very loved by people to actually among the top categories. So the study shows why people like doctors, they charge a lot of money

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you know to keep rescheduling you take so much time why any logically you will not think that they're on the top categories. Do you know why people like doctors so much study shows because they listen.

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Kid Doctor listen to their patient, just listening to them, listening to them, allow them to relax.

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Be a good listener

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and I my football this story about a man who died around 100 years ago. Weidman Kibera Rila mountain Muslimeen this was chef and Hawaii Rahim Allah

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He's a great, great scholar in Egypt.

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In history, he was the head of the Department of History and Sharia. And Azhar has a long, long career and books by hundreds.

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He got and his stomach warms, or his guts warms.

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But he thought that somebody have put magic on him something that or whatever he has a snake inside him.

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Inside what a snake inside, and he got convinced that there is a snake inside his inside his body. That's why he whenever he eats, digesting problems, does the doctors, people debate with him? Nobody listening to him, he will try to explain himself until a good doctor in Egypt told him

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no problem. I'll tell me what is it? He explained to him how he feels the movement in his stomach and he moved this and he obviously 100 years ago or so doesn't have a clue about how the body function, but that's what he thought, yeah. This doctor listened to him and he said, Okay, now, I have a very good, you know, medicine tomorrow for you. Come tomorrow. He came tomorrow, came next day. And he had this things that he basically made him drink it. They thought about whatever. And he cleanse the whole thing. And he brought a did snake actually from his garden.

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And he said, Look, your snake is out.

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And the holiday weekend back to university and he's talked Norman, he wrote so many books of that. But for the rest of his life, he praising that Dr.

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Kinsey was a good listener, and he knows how to deal with people.

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For the rest of his life he was praising and he wrote about him and shouted Pantoja Rahimullah heard the story from him. He's a great scholar from Dinesh from Syria. He told us the story once May Allah Subhana Allah make us among those who are loved by people and people love them. Some low anna Muhammad

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hamdu Lillahi wa salatu salam ala Milena Viva where that came into play Eva sadaqa came into play Eva taxable organise the process Salam said good words

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are any good words are active charities

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sing the nice things all the nasty husana Say good to people yep all enemy been Ambassador you need a little bit of method the best one to give you the best example he any you can think of to show how important to say to all people what is good. Carlo Allah call lokala leaf round Barak Allah avec la quinta Allahu wa V Kabarak a frown Pharaoh said May Allah bless you I'll tell May Allah bless you too

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may Allah bless you to

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Kabir can you take one of these chairs to the brothers in the back

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he gonna bring you a chair okay. So an older gentleman

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So even for our new tell him about I could say what is right and what is good to him. Cut him out but you but it means to compliment people good words to compliment some somebody to say thank you to make dua for people to tell them about things that make them happy. Also to have a good sense of humor.

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Also to entertain people when you sit with them

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candidness city and you're ever nasty my jealousy had to get home to my human see how happy with hicom had been Serena great Tabby successes. He used to make people cry and laugh so hard as well. And his gathering. Good word it means asking people about how they feel what's going on in their life.

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Take their opinions, listening to them.

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And finally brothers and sisters will end with this

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alumna

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yet if you accept Columbanus H Manahawkin up the person who have you know the ability to see the little small things those people are so good and winning people's heart

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mashallah, you just had a haircut

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and oh, you're the first one who notes that? Yeah, yeah, no, mashallah You look nice today. That's a new glasses. That's right.

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Oh, mashallah, I like your watch those people who notice these small things, you know, it's like you go to the house and your wife say how you doing? Hamdulillah? Is everything okay? Do I look okay? It looks the same.

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You look good.

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I just changed the color of my hair.

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Hello.

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I mean, those who pick these small little things. You look tired. Are you okay? Oh, thank you. It was really a long day today. Thank you for asking.

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Yeah, that's, you know, have a good also emotional intelligence. Those people are so good and winning people's heart. And these things comes with training. Just try and don't be embarrassed sometimes I get embarrassed sometimes. You know, one guy I told him something. Oh, that looks not that looks new and good. Mashallah. He said, No, I had it for about two years. Okay.

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You know, I said, looks neat to me.

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But sometimes can go wrong. But you know what, in the end of the day, people also know that you care. And you do this sincerely, you don't do well, I never. I never did this to anyone just for the sake of it. It just to make sure that people are good and happy. I never want to win somebody's heart to direct them to evil Hamdulillah I never any one of us or to manipulate people. That's not our business. We win people's hearts so we can all together go to Jana. So all together we live in a better life. We're all together to a better future together. That's why we win people's hearts. I ask Allah Subhana Allah Jana, we are committed to Mahalia Shara. Now let's haidara Forgive our sins

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and bless our life and raise our family and bless our wealth. They ask Allah Subhana Allah to protect us from all the fit and motherhood I mean, how am I Bhutan? Lahoma in Minnesota and here I will meet you teen on top of your reality and I'll hammer rahimian Allah morpholino Muslim you know Muslim out will mean in a minute. Yeah, I mean, Hamid Ahmad, Allah Muhammad

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Mustafa you know the mother will mean if he Machado could be on my body behalf la mala and you know, I

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don't know I don't share all of them. Allah how much mercury methanol and how people who die other Gerardo kromm are gonna be tofield liquid you know be Hudak Salah who masala mana and abena Muhammad Ali he was so happy