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The New Year's resolutions and specific goals are discussed, including a successful Star Trek and the importance of setting goals and staying committed to achieving them. The conversation touches on the "slacky hair" problem and the rise of women in military and politics. The importance of prioritizing and setting deadlines is emphasized, along with the "slacky hair" problem and the rise of women in military and politics. A police officer was hired to conduct a job hiring interview and used a donkey and a donkey to conduct the interview, expressing a desire to rule the country and become a military veteran. The interviewer asks about the candidate's past political history and hopes that he will make a difference, specifically in terms of his past political history.AI Generated Transcript ©
Sula, hamdu lillah wa salatu salam ala some laowai daddy or CIBJO Mindwell. But it is my pleasure and I'm very pleased and happy
to be back after a while, you know having going Friday Night Lights or even hold the door for a while been traveling. Today I decided to talk about New Year's resolutions.
And I would like to ask if anyone here
practice this kind of concept. Anyone in the audience here makes New Year's resolutions? Anyone?
And if you feel if you don't mind share what is what's your New Year's resolution for 2024
you want to do the bench for 225
I just heard that a few minutes away. Go from somebody else. To 25 Is that a very high like number?
Yeah. 25 What's your number now?
Last March. I know it's 135
Okay.
25 Excellent. Why would you do it to 25
That's a nice nice number. Wrong number.
Now, but I mean, why would you like to be able to left to 25
It shows that I made progress like in the gym. And then I'm I feel like progressing?
You start with what?
You started with? How much weight? Like 10 2040
Okay, good. Nobody else has a New Year's resolution.
Any sisters? Any brother?
You guys don't have dreams anymore?
Anyone? I'm serious. Anyone? How Yes? System?
aamra. As far as your resolutions Very good. You want to make online 2024. Excellent. Anybody else?
Had you planning to make Hajin? 2024? Good. Did you already OSI and did you know which company gotta go?
Because the websites is like, close where it's spread quickly. I'm not sure even if you will have one now.
Yeah, so my advice for you if you really planned to go round the register right now like SB?
Yeah. To the Saudi government website. What else? Anybody else has any new renewable ocean? That's very good news. Very good. Yes.
You want to start a business? Do you mind if I ask what kind of business
coffee shop
is beautiful.
Do you know at one point in my life, I was very fascinated with coffee shop. Coffee Shop is I think in 2015,
what comes like one of the most profitable second or third profitable business after drugs?
How serious. So I was fascinated by it. And I went to a conference in Seattle, about coffee that if you really want to do that, I advise you to look at that there is annual conference about coffee business. And it told mostly in Seattle,
sometimes they do it in month one on like
Oregon, or sometimes California, San Francisco, but mostly in Seattle. In that place, you will find every single company who makes coffee and you will be amazed by you know, this company can provide you let's say you want to open business or provide you with drinks, even for every day. If you want to provide a recipe they will provide you all support. So I was like interested in this. I didn't know for example, the San Francisco is the capital of coffee in the world.
I would assume Brazil, South Africa, Africa. And we call that San Francisco because the first ever espresso machine was made there.
And the master the concept of frosting coffee. I thought Italy will move but it's not actually.
So very good. Danny I mean, you can look into that. That's that's very profitable business. Very competitive now.
But
also you shouldn't read the story of Starbucks
it's very interesting story. Starbucks almost closed down
last business and then they came and foreflight Just read the story of how they were able to move from a losing company to be very profitable company it's it's very inspiring actually.
All right.
What else what noon is ocean we have
new year's resolutions anybody else
know
you want to finish all your classes of A's Howard last year
Bayes
Okay, that's not as as nice for a medical school. That's that's tough
though that's nice. Was anybody planning to get married
now have you okay good
you know,
what the beginning of the year a lot of people try to have dreams you know, plans for the future.
And that's a good thing.
I started to my son in the car. That is something that call like smart goals.
Many of you know what that means SMART goals stands for s specific, that our goal has to be specific. You can just say I want to be an MIT students
you know, I want to have a business. Now the brother said I want to have a coffee business be more even successful if you decide what kind of coffee business is looking for. To 25 It is saying just increase you know Umrah very specific hunt there's very specific also smart and measurable so you can for example the sister go for ombre she need to know how much it can cost for me to have the Umrah 5000 hours so you know what I measure my progress how much I can save money to be able to have 5000 By the end of the year some way I can major myself now 20 to 25 I'm now 221 saw something major but something you cannot measure it is that smart goal because he cannot track your progress in it
okay you can't you can't say for example you know
I love my husband war
How can you measure that? Maybe it can majors maybe? I'm not sure but something major will smart. Hey attainable
like no one can for example say I want them when I started recording tomorrow
and this person's yeah need from the last 10 years he barely have kilowatt per block openness.
You can't you don't speak Arabic attainable something attainable for you. I want to make a million dollars in one week unless you're planning to rob a bank
you know totally attainable something reasonable.
Smart helmet T yes for timing and that's what I am here related to you very goals are very successful when you at time you have a timeline for them.
And part of the timeline is to know when you start when you end what time you know how long I'm gonna takes then smart. You know, there is some people add smarter. Let's see who's smart among you tell me what's EOD stands for
there is people came after the smart concept they said actually gold should be smart terror. So let's see E R stands for
or does Alma Oh, my son. E R stands for od E stands for
excited, excellent. Somebody you have to be excited about it. Not something boring.
Because somebody I'm excited about that.
And otter is sort for realistic.
You know, something that
attainable pretty close, but also they said you have to be realistic in your planning.
And I was amazed by how people have these dreams and they make their dreams come true. Okay, and I want to share with you a story of three of great companions or great companions, young companions, and yet older successor Kevin and Holman said out of Sahaba WA, Kabbalah campaign
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were a little while of Venezuela. Well, I'm delighted when you're a new Homeowner Bill helped up. So let's have you this is where we're at what happened is what I've done live in Nevada.
They were sitting together. Okay, Phil hinge. You know that Hijra Schneider in the area where you know that there is like a career building like like corn, hedgerow and maca. So they're sitting inside then I'm the liveness is about to be asked each other what is your dream?
How the liveness versus mine dream is to be Hanifa
Kyla turban nahi Rafa, I would like to be the president of the whole world, homeless more.
Ana Rosa. Well, I'm an ephah, teman and Johanna and in Italy.
My dream is that people will learn from me, I'll be the source of knowledge for people
caught on the live neuro model.
What about you? Are that a manufacturing and mafia?
My dream is to be forgiven.
Allah's Father, forgive all thy sins.
Your call Ravi.
The narrator said all of them became a little while I'm gonna Zubair became one of the seven Mufti of Medina,
one of the greatest movies in history of Islam, great scholars of Medina,
organisers of it and then
knowledge was taken from him and documented on Thursday. And am the Lyme disease severe became a Khalifa on the likenesses of air moved the whole entire Arabia, Yemen, Palestine, Egypt, and up on whatever north of Iraq and Syria and poor parts of Syria and Lebanon and part of Damascus and the only it's in his time shrink to be only rolling Damascus. And even inside Damascus people start giving back to him.
Um, the lameness of it.
He became a huge hit up very powerful. Then he lost that later on.
You know, how did they do it?
You're going to remodel NAFTA as is in an innocent a whopper. I had a very big ambitious and life.
One of my dreams to marry Fatima bint Abdul Malik said he mentioned the first one. His girl dream
is Fatima, the daughter of the king. I would love to marry this woman
that's my dream to marry.
And he said also, I would like to be a Khalifa
I would like to be a hubby. Guess what he became a president the Khalifa and he became what the husband of Fatima
then he was asked what when he became a hurry face and what do you want his con will lead to an onshore sooner I want everybody to know about the process Salam Hadith.
So what did he do? He said anyone will dedicate him time to learn the Hadith and teach the Hadith. His salary on me
a full salary good go to him. And you're traveling to spread the Hadith on me. Quite a hot dog southern rhythm that will move teen Phil Quran. He sent this colors to the very rare roar areas was noisy and he knew Imams that
I don't know if he knew what would that what that means to go to a community where it's like new scholars new Shio
or give you two stories. Once I was interning that
someone to play in it next to Trinidad Tobago. So in Tobago, there is a good Muslim community but also there's like Santa roar areas. I went to this West.
And I give a talk there Intersil Sawtell fatsia.
So after I finish,
small community made me like the size the whole community is. So the one simple one verse missing. I said what's that? He said, I mean,
I said I mean there's not verse in the Quran.
Man, I said that. And after everybody was loving my class and respect they and they got so angry. And he said, Now you coming from whatever country you're coming from to destroy our legend. Are you are like this year. You heard a Quran. I said, What would you guys talk about? He said Al Fatiha has one verse, which is I mean it's part of it. Don't you say? I mean in sunnah
I said I said I mean another thing and sum up and is no one me I mean
around sometimes I don't say I mean
he is not like Mama's now I know it's part of the fight acids not part and somebody literally literally stood up and almost pick a fight with me.
Then I said to him, you're heavy it's not now I said okay, how can I convince a guy like that my boy and the hour I tell him I don't in all I memorized the Quran a heavy jazz and the quant nothing he said we read the value how would I mean you are making taking one verse out I said, Okay, Allah Subhana Allah give it to me. I said open the Messiah.
He pick up the Messiah and he look around and there is no I mean the sort of idea that is it No, no, that's the wrong cubby
in this stick I said look at another copy you know we should all be so they must have a isn't says that the Saudi the Saudi? That's no Quran. Then he said he was shocked he couldn't comprehend that really, I mean is not part of the vodka and be almost literally literally beat me up.
The thinking that I'm changing when you go to a rural area where there is no hell, you find an end strange things. One of my friend went to a village or like a very hijra, like in the deserts in Arabia, Saudi Arabia and he said yeah, I need that I have no just few people tend to stalk about Saudi complained to him that the Imam of the masjid he only read kulula
Got my as he saw Fajr motivation every I know that sounds familiar to some of you, but he added a fifth
okay, sorry, but you know, but as an imam that's not thrive, you know, someone who will leave the Salah, every salah, and it's quite a lot in the masjid. Can you imagine that? So that the knights to free behind him first Salah. So he kept he said can you advise him to organize another Surah then he told them in Gemini and he the group saying you only read one sort of Corolla, maybe you can add Joomla one as in any scenario so then in his accent he said, e n the Akali el Cafe Rowlett Hmm
He said I have put a URL Catherine for the visitors and
visitors it is called the cafiero tip
but
what I'm going to tell you that amount of gel is ignorance is unbelievable. Unbelievable.
You a beyond your imagination. Okay, so we're a little bit of his was upset about that. So that's why he was basically dedicated to serve the Sunnah. That's why until today my brother and sister until today
we say as of Imam assumably in his 1000 lines and handmade Hadith, Alfie it's really when he he said it was a way to jam it in I thought it would be no she have in Milan, Lahore to model the first one who ever collected the Sunnah and documented the Sunnah was even she Hubzu every member shows why by the order and the Commission of an imam Omar Abdulaziz.
That's how the Sunnah that you today enjoying and having document by this man or other that's a goal for him. Any one of his goal was to
take care of the people.
And he was amazing. He starred like they told him that the new curtain of film camera cost about 30 or 50,000 pieces of gold. He said no, we're not going to do that 50,000 I can use to provide 100 1000s sets of clothes, and more for the poor people in the Muslim world. Covering their body in the winter. And protecting them from the cold of the winter is more important than covering Aqaba.
And he took that money he wrote he reduced the taxes
on people we told them no they make more money now he's it doesn't matter reduce
you know like what do we say today a Monday is when you reduce taxes and people what happened? Middle class flourish because you know they make more money basically the stock business he he that's basically simple idea for him
And he was amazing you know, he said anyone will marry I will give him that amount of money as a help
if you get married you get that amount of money to help you for the first year to start a house
this is not strange, you know in Turkey for example, the Turkish government they have this amazing program for college students.
So if you're a college student, and you're in Turkey, you will be put in a program by the end of finishing your basically your degree you will be saving enough money that the government will give you the return for this money and apartment
for free so you can start a life
that people think about their own you know citizen
us in America in graduate with 80,050 60 $50,000 student loan you start your life negative
so you always be enslaved to this
financial institute
I don't think it does not can this not happen like that it's happened by design.
To keep you in that loop, you never be able very few can get out of that loop.
But the majority No, any case so he Rahim Allah said any one of his too stupid justice and he was able to do that. Then he said in the end and one of my goal is to be what is to go to genuine
and inshallah Allah that I grant him that
can I look at one one of the Scott Azima human no euro himolla And no, in the beginning he wants to be a doctor.
But he changed his career has basically view and he said that aren't my goal and yes still even necessary sooner. The people understand the hadith of an obese person. It doesn't matter they are scholars see that knowledge all from the average Muslims. So he started writing books that fits everybody. So we wrote very high level books. I crawled by the being like an FIP and Shafee and he wrote simple books like 40 heavy the no like real the sign when
you guys don't understand how popular real sedan is.
I went on island outside of Guam. Anybody knows what is Gomez?
And if you don't know Guam Can you imagine an island outside one
in Guam is in his Pacific Ocean. It's about five hours away from Hawaii three hours away from
Japan
so I landed there and it's been three days there and I search slime and Guam and I find this mustard and it's very nice not far away from them they have an island where does the first Joomla and the earth start
the first dollar in the earth sun than that and not far away from it another island because there is you know the line of the day down the Pacific Ocean when you crossed that line you became day ahead of the day back so one island here and that is 20 minutes flights between them charter flight you go back to this one this is the last Joomla in the face of there
as the last one and this one is the first Roma
as their unique actually place so anyway in Guam it's a very interesting Island it's it's mainly
based on business from Japanese and stuff like that. It's very big base for Marines. Anyway in Guam, I went there and I look at the mustard will lie mustard in the middle of nowhere.
And now guess what I found real sign him
the read rather sada hyndland Ramallah in every corner. In every village I visited in many Muslim countries, Egypt, Saudi Arabia, Gulf countries in Turkey you will find Kelsang and a very annoyed in Europe
what what what is this?
How this man was able to achieve that? He wrote expression was a Muslim.
Just put you guys to know
he achieved all this and he died and he was not 40 years old yet.
We're not brain died before the 40 years.
A lot I know
Some people said the reason because he never married
he was able to come to that many. But I don't think that's the reason.
The reason, Rahim Allah was able to accomplish a lot because of the baraka that Allah Subhana Allah puts in his heart, the baraka and he is somebody focus.
Have you heard? Have you heard of Mohammed Al Fattah?
Mohamed infatti? The one who will conquer, Constantine stumbled today.
Do you know that Muhammad Fattah when he was six years old, seven years old, his mom, you know, the part which is in Europe, that was by the Roman and the Muslim was in the Asian one. His mom used to bring him when he was six, seven years old and a horse and she seemed see the slides of the city. He said yes, she tell him one day you will conquer that city.
One day you will be the one who will bring this to us
as a kind of mother
and she will do this out of South federal
you know,
interesting.
There is a famous Egyptian scientist, his name ashmit. Zewail
is a Nobel Prize winner. Very famous scientists think in chemistry.
Description.
Do you know that in his his mom, when she puts his backpack, she used to write in his backpack, Dr. amot while he's in elementary school.
And he grew up like that. And he put in his door, his name on the door in the dorm, Dr. Iman, because of his mom, and his mom told me Oh, he should overcome that.
It means a lot women aspire to have a dream.
I remember, my father is an engineer,
came my mom, she is a teacher. She's an artist. She's an art teacher.
None of my family ever has anything to do with religion, like stomach studies or anything like that none on a single one. I come from a family that inspired by science. So I just don't want to make too long of introduction. So my father, when he asked me, What do you want to be? And he was very mad at me that I want to study Islamic Studies. He was not happy at all. He said, You should go study some engineer, be a doctor then you study Islam. And he said no. If you want to study Islamic Studies and you want to be specialized, you can do anything else. And I told him I read that the Shafia Rahim Allah said, either polyphony Ali Shah Abbas Allah that He can do muscle Tata and
Oberlin Shafi said, if I have the responsibility to go buy an onion from the store, that day, I cannot seek knowledge because I'm occupied.
So if you want me I have to be full time. Then he asked me a question. He said, Why would you want to study Islamic studies, they said, I want to be a scholar.
I just don't want to be just, you know, a personal study science that I want to be a scholar in Islam.
Professor, I want to do an academic world.
Then in that point, he allowed me to do I still remember my biology teachers, my chemistry teachers were very mad. They came to manages, they said to me, You're crazy, why you're shifting.
Because in my country where I grew up, you know, and many was some country unfortunately, if you're a smart kid, you go to engineer, you go to doctor, you go to this. And if you are like have low IQ, you know, you're not like very good, you're not good in math, you're not good at the stuff, you go to Islamic Studies and Nyan out. And by the way, by the way, that resulted, unfortunately,
that we have a group of people who are religious studies, not very intelligent.
And it was designed to make this you know, to make people who not the smartest and punch, you know, in the bunch, not that the more sophisticated people go to some studies and people make fun of them in high school, and do you think I made fun of this person, not fun. I always see how he is not intelligent. And now you he became chef and he think that he's above that created a fraction in society.
And it did not help us society to grow. There is a lot of gap between elites and religious people. And that was not just like they it was by design. My opinion
Keep them poor Kim did not indicated not smart. So anyway when my father told me that Do you know that my father since since college, I think while still in high school I went to college. He never heard any he always been I don't think he ever called me when he
he owns call me Shefali
though uninspiring
so
when you basically know that
you basically, when you see these examples of people have dreams and they want to achieve
they want to get
you know, that's why it's so important. You know, let me put this out of the way it does not be as not haram as anything to have a new year's resolutions. There's not limited in Kufa as long as it's about it's because this is one of the smart way of doing and goals is to time them. It makes you motivated. I don't think it has to be January 1, you can do February and another golden man Marshal, but timing is really excited and when the whole board are on you excited, you know you get excited too. But of course your studies shows that only less than maybe what 5% Keep them in their New Year's resolutions goals. Most of you will drop
you know,
I have observed the following to be the major reasons. We sometimes fail to meet goals we set for ourselves.
Which is Excuses, excuses, excuses.
Which is just fine excuse.
I find excuse for myself. Not to be with my kids with my family. find excuses not to go to work out. find excuses not to eat healthy. I have an excuse you know, we're not to come to the masjid very often. Have an excuse not to memorize the Quran. Tell me it is now 2020 For
about start. Ask yourself this question. Since 2023 begin until now. How many verses from the Quran you have memorized?
Come on, man. Don't tell me you can't even add 111 Verse.
Man, how old are you
know how busy you are? Just one verse one line.
It's only excuses.
Even if you don't know any Arabic, you still can at least one mine. One small Sure.
Excuses, excuses, excuses. That's what we have.
About that's mainly you know, we're all make them by the way. They're often easier to come up with
excuse the reasons
why we need to do something.
You know.
That's why it's so important to change attitude towards your goals that you want to achieve.
Instead of just say, I can do it. I don't I didn't do it.
I don't know how to do it. To say how can I do it? What it takes for me to do it. What do I need to do? When you shift your attitude everything you're going to heal in the stock will be easier
when I used to take use of my son
you know when he was young to his chemo therapy
I always want to say that I still remember I was walking the line in the in the Alim Dixon house Texas General Hospital
and they sold his shirt.
And I actually went and I bought the shirt and I still have it
in the back of the shirt that says Now which one it says the only disability in life is bad attitude.
The only disability in life was bad attitude.
So your attitude will really determine how what your altitude is
how far you can go.
You know
all these excuses It can range from
I don't have enough time to Allah don't want me to do it.
Hello and what is between?
No, this is my
APA
whatever the case they paralyze us these excuses I personally come up with mine when I'm feeling fearful anxiety uncertain
or just plain all you know a lazy
man can fail many times but he is not failure until he begins to blame somebody else
than what I had learned in my life
and one thing that's excuses there is a trick the ship undo it's called an apple behaved psychologists spoke about that which is this the only thing as a very It works perfectly on us. What's the apple hate, it's called the only as the only reason in this this one thing goes away. I will fix everything.
I give you an example. If I learn Arabic, I will connect to the Quran and just just let's just learn Arabic.
And he keeps saying learning Arabic learning Arabic, Arabic for the next 25 years of his life 30 years of his life
there is no so many other way to connect with the Quran.
Try them
try man.
You know what, just let me go to Hajj and after hunch inshallah everything will change
let's go to Umbra and after hambre our change
you miss that's that's a very old trick of the ship on
you know what just let me lose this 20 pounds and I will stop be healthy.
I'll search sites
you know, I just just didn't finish this you know, if you've ever shall I go to Hajj our sub pork hijab full time.
You know, Inshallah, when my scheduled to graduate, this will have to do this. Let me just finish high school.
And everything will change now why
you didn't need to finish high school to start being religious, and to practice and to memorize the Quran
and to come to the masjid, and to put hijab properly.
You don't have to,
you know what? I can't make Tao right now to others just want shallow and quick my sins, I'll start giving dower Oh, that's
nice thing that this one thing that goes away, my whole life will change you grown. Because you will always find that one thing.
You my advice.
Don't make excuses.
Make something good.
losing confidence in ourselves a direct result for this excuse attitude.
Because they keep excusing cheese, and they feel failure and I lose so steam I moved to trusting myself
to after we talk about things we want to do and fail to do them. The more we not only
lose credibility with others, but mostly with ourselves. If we keep doing that,
when we continually fail, to keep our words to meet our goals we set for ourselves, we become demoralized
and sometimes lose confidence and faith in ourselves and oftentimes abandon even our goals altogether.
So that's why it is important for us, you know,
to, to focus on what we can do and to learn how can we, you know, make results instead of excuses.
Let the results speak for themselves. And by the way the results is doesn't need to be big step by step. Number two, I found a lot of people do not meet their need resolutions,
magnifying our fears more than we do
in relation to our abilities.
And this is something important to think about and to reflect upon. We focus so much in our fields, the thing that we're afraid of more than the thing that we are able to do.
Fear of failure has killed so many dreams before they even get the chance to take off.
Fear is only as deep as the mind allows
your fear of failure fear for whatever we wanted to. He's afraid to start business he's afraid to, you know to push himself you know to gain
But to basically be able to do more weight he's afraid to do this at your feet will only go as deep as you might allow.
Fear robs us of our self confidence and allow us to come up with reasons why we cannot do things or make them happen.
That's why I always say, grab your fear by the horns unstop under estimating yourself, you are more capable than you think. Allah said about you in the island will matter to anyone I know if human routine don't know, I know what you're capable of. Sometimes we're afraid from what people will say about us. We're afraid from how people will look at us. I'm afraid to go against the culture the room I'm again I'm for afraid of the future. My favorite thing when I was in Australia, I don't know if anybody heard my lecture in Australia. I was like few weeks back in Australia on a send a message to you guys. I sent out this message to my brother and sister Clearlake
I said I'm in Australia and anyone in Clearlake thing that the world will come to an end today. It's already tomorrow here. That one
is the DeLorean this is I hadn't come to an end
there is a sister called me a few weeks back and Allah knows what kind of situation I was in.
She's crying. I said what's wrong? She said
the North Pole have passed
the 40 degree I said What do you mean should North col have moved past the 14 degree
I said I still under understand she said 14 degrees it means irreversible we are now going north pole will shift to the south and the South will shift to the north and the whole world system will change and you start talking to me crying scared I have my kids I live in non Muslim country by myself. I have a whole world coming to collapse and she's so scared I want to go buy a raft I want to buy this you know stuff like that I don't Is it allowed for me to borrow money for this work? And she is completely completely
believing in this nonsense that she's shared with so and so said and this color said that and there is a whole rumor about you know that stars that come you know and then appear now in the sky and when the stars that's what Allah said in the prologue PADEP and all this kind of stuff on the internet she reads and it's been about five six minutes to explain to arson it's not true
I'm scared I want to go to my first and go to a family no all our planes not working. I said I this is the biggest lie in the world because I fly every week
communication is not working I said You talking to me.
But see are from the future. There is a lot of fear from the past.
You know what?
Before I used to say don't fear the past don't feel what happened in the past.
But I learned also the hard way
that stay human thing to fear the past especially in painful memory.
To be scared of.
But you have a choice to make.
To make the past in the windshield
and you only see the future through that windshield through that past or you put it in the back rear mirror. You look at what happened in the past and he learned from it. You never lose sight of it.
But you became more positive about it. You've learned from it you grow from it.
The fear from failing the fear from making mistakes all these things paralyze you to achieve your goals
and your resolutions there were three now a strong enough why
I
ask sometimes husband
do you love your wife?
He said yes. I said why?
Well why is somebody told me once I don't know
I never thought about that.
We just got married
that's that's sad.
Where you want to be adopt
your neck can speak to my son Hola.
What do you want to be when you grow up?
Let's say Omar says
I want to have
or this brother he said he want to have a coffee shop. What's your name?
Danielle. You want to have a coffee shop?
You know what's more important than I want to be a scientist I want to be a doctor. Tell the students sons to throw the law leave.
When your son asks you one of these young men ask you, I want to be this or I want to be that Nene job
when I decide to do what I do today, one thing my teachers and I learned in my reading and Miller my spiritual life, it's not about what you get from your work. It's about what you become.
That's the big question that you have to ask yourself
what you become
what kind of person you will be if you do this job.
What kind of person if you go to that career
that's why I ask why you want to have to under 25
I don't know that's a good why strong why
the stronger you have why you want to do that. You might say you know what?
Honesty in this marriage why? Because if I mean this man I don't know what I'm gonna go that's not a good way to live with this person. That
does
he know what this man loves me.
This man take care of me. This man protects me. This man protect my Deen this man care about my akhira this woman you know loves me. This woman take care of my children. This woman is a person who I can trust this woman will always get my back
this woman that you know what she will all stand on next to me when I need her help.
That's that's a good way
somebody proposed to my daughter why would why would you want to marry my daughter?
Somebody came to me and said this true story. He said I want to marry your daughter.
I said Which one is it? Anyone? Let's let me tell you a typical first
from the beginning and he hits her head looks about then I said why? He said the oldest one that comes off to the one that I'm monomeric I said okay, why? He said because I heard that you marry your daughter to someone from Sudan from Africa and I'm from Africa.
I said
yeah. Do you think I have a contract with Africa like Autolycus contracted top?
US that's not why men and Amana my daughter but she's African. You know that's
why you know, you have to be a good guy you have to be worth of my daughter
to marry her. You see, so why is it good is a very important thing to ask yourself.
And I want you to
reflect upon this palette Why is *ty out always connect reasons to actions and connect rewards to actions that to motivate you? Why want to stay in the masjid after saw the Fajr because it is equal to making Umrah.
And so that hadith
why I want him pray you know here to learn what why you want to learn because 123 Because that angels pray for you. When you learn the deen you know this gathering in nebi Salah Salah May Allah make us among them in evisa Salam says every angels in the surrounding area every angels on earth comes and sit listen to us and surround us and we pray for each one of you.
Pray for each one of you.
That's a good why why I have to come on Friday night.
So why it's important? Why sometimes, you know, you know, we sometimes chase after things because other expect us to or to keep up with our you know, peers.
Some people want to do this because my parents many people, especially accountant, people, with all due respect. Okay. Why you want to be an accountant? My mom my dad told me to be an accountant.
Why don't I tell you about the brothers who asked me to propose on Yanni. He asked me to talk to his father to basically, he loves a girl. He wants to marry her. So he asked me if I can talk to her father because her father rejected him twice. And he said their father respect you Sure.
I said, I'll be happy to do that. So I went to the Father and His Son, so I know he's one of my students, good men in he want to marry your daughter. He said, Yes, but he's a computer guy.
I said, Yeah.
He said, chef, I have seven daughters.
All six of them that older than her all married to physicians.
I'm not going to let the younger one go to a piano geek.
A said with all due to structure.
I said the
uni interesting. He said if he's if he's maybe a pharmacist, maybe.
I said, What's your why
are you planning to open a hospital?
Like can the family like seven years old?
I said no, my daughter's physician. And he completely refused.
Then he put a condition. He said my condition that he pays her mom for $300,000.
If he pays her $300,000, he can marry her.
And the guy had agreed.
And I told him you're wrong.
You should not agree. The married and to less than two years, one a year they got divorce.
He lost a lot of money. But
when he said it was like very hard
to survive.
Hey, so why is so important, you know, when we that's why it's so important. Never ever marry someone because because
you're broke.
Petty.
You know, you never marry someone because, you know, he is like, you know, she is like, only one about all all your parents want you to marry her. Now, you marry someone because you really believe in that person is a good person.
You go to this business because you know it's a good business.
When we get goals for wrong reasons, and chase after things we don't really need or desires, we are driven to purpose, to purpose them, committed to them, or to committed to achieve them, we end up wasting a great deal of time, energy and money that could have been spent pursuing things that do basically resonate with us more.
I want to say also,
when it comes to these issues, why
sometimes let me put this sometimes
there is different between your rationale and your heart you feel like
I understand that.
And I've been in positions, when if I look at things very rational, I would not pursue this. I will not do that. I will not start a business. I will not be in this place.
But my heart also guide me
don't be this kind of person who's only use his brain and cancel his heart. We're not just a mechanical thing we're mix of both.
It's okay to follow your heart as long as you take your brain with you.
You don't leave your brain behind.
Next point,
not setting our priority right.
This is big, big problem when it comes to why we got to achieve our goals. He don't set our priority rights.
He any I'm sorry.
If you put your new resolutions, New Year's resolutions all about dunya and nothing about the acapella that is something wrong in your priorities.
Allah subhana data said women home among them, who are those hypocrites
belong to the lowest level and hellfire. Listen, Allah mentioned the quality to be scared of this quality. He said women how many appalled some of them said Rob Benner attina for dunya has
center. Yara give us good Indonesia or what is dreams about dunya or what you want to achieve is about dunya we're mad Oh Phil Akira Tieman Hara
he has no interest in the akhira
you have no interest in the word of the law in the next life
that's not correct. You're pirating to be set straight
remember McGraw himolla married he had two woman
to choose from.
Hey choose one
then somebody asked him
I don't know how it's the end somebody's asking this question is did you choose the most beautiful one
is it now actually, I choose the one list beauty now who had a problem in her eyes and feet and normally that our she has an eye problem
and this is why you have to choose between the two.
He said because that one was much better for my doing diem for my religion
he knows his priority She's a good woman episode I'm attracted to her everything
that's why he sent me an almost honor who ended 30 years we never had a fight
we never let a raise our voice over each other 30 years
maybe it's not the most attractive woman
but prior to correct maybe your husband is not the most rich person not the most handsome person maybe he is has a belly
you know maybe he's in the middle age middle age. You know what they say?
Muhammad
this say middle age crisis Are you familiar with that? I know you pass that
but
they said the middle age crisis appeared and your middle
your tummy to Christ. So what I'm saying maybe he's not the most attractive maybe he is this maybe he's not but you know what, my husband is a good religious person. That's a good well mannered person who wouldn't good tells a good father sometimes that is our priority in life after God
it's not only about me it's not only about what I want
it's not only about the dunya
I will tell you this take it from your brother when it
from your Imam from your NOC or whatever our you call me.
You will never ever get everything in the slide.
Everything in this life you never gonna get it all
believe me you'll go to your grave and still there's so many things you wish you get
in the business long said If Allah gives you two valleys full of gold you still wish for the third one. The only thing when satisfy you is what
a Torah
says and you know what that means? It means when you go to your grave that when your greed stop
that why there is different between some people left nothing for the other couldn't she
couldn't manage to hate the sheet and have everything he desired he get
what's left for the market this is the the agenda is the only place every desire to get
so hearing this dunya something to keep in mind that this priority it's amazing how we managed to find time for things that don't really add value to our lives yet give the excuse for the lack of time as the reason we cannot pursue these goals and important goals. Why because parents are not clear
your priority is games is watching movies
Oh have never ever you know
it's not about having time.
But more so about making time that makes sense
of something important enough to you You will find time for it. You will make it
you know
when we go to eat
a mashallah had a very good full meal. Then they give you this lava chocolates you know
No click on the side and it's so delicious warm nice and some brownies in the middle you know with the ice cream melting just because of the heat of the chocolate on the side of the plate yeah oh my god funnel ice cream with that you know chocolate. Oh my goodness and if you love some caramel you can put on the side. You know? And you are just full. What do you what do you do?
us Americans who are so good at that, you know when we do we make a space for it.
We don't leave a space for a desert we make a space for the desert because it's priority it's important to me. Same thing here
I'll tell you
this ramp this quickly.
I want to do such I don't know how to do my priorities. And I'll do one thing about not having a prayer to straight you will never balance yourself. You will never be able to balance your life take it from me if you have a struggle how to balance your life such a prayer to street I don't know how to balance my life between work family husband wife work Dawa you know and put your purge you correct and the more you put your prayers you correct the easier you will balance your life
also try not to handle everything at once. You can do that.
Also seek help
two hands Clap
that's why I like your ad free two hands.
You and your body you and your friend you and your spouse you and your family you and your you know brother or sister make sure that you have someone to help you to achieve these goals that your two hands what clock
sometimes imagine what if Allah created your two hands in the same site?
Can you imagine you have to lift 10 and all right 10
It is the thing that
how we will function
sometimes I have this weird things I think you got like a lot of weird things like on the limbs this Candyman two hands like the left side
you need left and right
you are the left and the on the right
it's just so nice
if you got the job so you need someone would need to work they
obviously lacking a plan and I told you how to do set goals SMART goal not being committed in now what's what time talking about? When unless as you really fully committed to following through with what your goal is? You're not going to achieve it.
I came to United States some of you know Leslie Do you remember in the old masala
Do you remember my funny English?
Okay, I'm still having funny English Uncas but you know who else here knows me from the days on the masalas okay, I thought Yeah, you remember how like my English was so poor you know when he came still funny English. And you know what? I was committed. I remember he told me live in Philadelphia live in New Jersey live in New York said never live in this area. I want to live in a community where I can learn how to speak English. So I don't know how to speak English. Well, at least very very little. I was committed
that's why I'm proved a lot
when you're committed to do something, you will go through it.
You committed to lose weight you committed to this you will you're committed to LeBron you committed to not to pray Witter
put your prayer just straight is your priority is to
dress up and to take care in Ibiza Salam he asked for someone to come He said your Salah is busy fixing his hair. It's like you know all days they have a long hair, he bringing his hair that maybe sounds okay, next time he said he's fixing his hair. Third time he said and maybe some became angry. He said, if you're gonna do this, do it not very often, because the priority of guide became like, can you imagine? He's like doing fixing his hair. And in the in the other hand, hand losing that opportunity to be with the processor. I'm using the opportunity to fulfill that order the processor
what's more important
I wake up I'm in my bed checking all my messages. They've yeah heavy yeah heavy hefty.
This is the best time in the night. This is when Allah subhanaw taala descend and said, is anyone they're asking me so I can answer him
and Allah looking at you and you're in your bed, checking your messages
or not take that that priorities
also not having a deadline
of him and he knows that very well about me.
When we first start working together, he knows that I always ask for a deadline.
If you want something to work, put a deadline for it.
Always put the deadline
and tried to make you choose that deadline because that always wants to know you were that the timing part and the goal.
And after that, another time or another time and another time another time giving up when
the going gets tough. Nothing worth having is ever easy. That's one of the reasons some people just quit quickly.
Remember this you in Nima Andrus Nusra with hardship comes ease
I always give this example of the woman when she delivered her baby
sisters. How many of you guys have kids
1234567 Okay, tell me if I'm correct. have even a nurse here she can help
tell me if I'm correct.
When is the hardest moment of the delivery
when the baby is about to
come on let's write
the song and the end of it that's when so hard in that very very very hard moment dilation the baby's about to come up what's everybody around you telling you nurses would you guys tell the system that with a woman
Polish Polish husband what do you say to your wife
Polish polish to the slide? Can you imagine my wife in that moment? She is hilarious about I'm embarrassed of me every British accent No No sweetheart don't push to get easy. The credit and development
don't have anything don't push his back off.
Just wait one more day.
Can you imagine that? I mean for our son Ben is hard to read but that's what it does no push when it became hard and tough that when you push that when you dig your heels in
when we're living in a time that promotes instant gratification and does not encourage perseverance enough
were quitting is often viewed as an option
that's why too many divorces
too many failures.
Recently I know someone had a problem with his wife
and he was very upset
because somebody came to the brother and give him an option he said hey bro
he can marry any woman
is too many options for you.
I consider this an evil advice
Yeah, I mean too many options.
But I already have one good option with me.
I will work on it.
And to
help a lot. Friends help a lot.
And it would end with this story.
In Dallas had a period of time the Empire fell in Dallas in Spain. It caught a doula l Hey Maria.
The state of the donkeys
as like what why is it called that? Like what's what's the thing about
Imam Nica Rahim Allah mentioned the story
about a man his name Muhammad Ibrahim, Mohammed.
Mohammed Mohammed. His job was he had a mule or donkey that he used to
his own he owns a dog he used to use it as a transportation what we call today what Wooper
okay so do call them he just you know you're hiring come pick you up from place and his donkey and take you to the other flight that's his job
one time he was sitting and this job is considered low level job in society very like coulomb him matting sometimes he carry loads to stop so him and to his friends him marine sitting together
you know in a in a like an Neeraj dumpsters actually they are sitting like very poor. Then they said like looking on the sky, they said, wish.
Okay.
Then the first one, they both look at Muhammad maybe they told him What's your wish? He said to be the ruler of an den sia of the whole Dallas. I'd be the heart of
the laugh at him.
And he said,
Sharon, really? That's your that's your dream. You said yes.
Then he said what about you? He said My wish is to have 100,000 dinar pieces of gold and a form
and 100 servants between male and female to take care of my house and my family.
Then the third one set,
you guys losers.
You guys dream. In a bad dream.
He said you know what's my wishes. He said what? If you ever become a ruler
for the air become rule that you bring my donkey this this donkey of mine. And you put me upside down facing the rear of the donkey that's was a form of humiliation in the culture. When you want to humiliate someone, you make them ride the donkey the opposite like facing that.
Basically the rear end of the donkey, that's why remember they'll play you wouldn't be humiliated him, they shaved his head and they put him the other direction facing that and been city many of them out humiliated this way. And they put his shoes around his neck. It's a form of humiliation, like shamed them the first hit, I wanted to bring the my donkey, put me upside down, shaved my head, okay. And to make a person walk next to me in the whole entire city of Alibaba said, people, people, this person is a bad person, anyone will talk to him.
I will put him in jail.
That's my wish.
Guys, days goes by. months goes by. And Mohammed. He came to a point he sold his donkey. He got rid of his dunk. And he applied for that military school and called it the law. And quickly he became an a high rank in the military school.
And not only that, he became the second person in command. Then the chief police of corporal bomb. And the chief police have got the word die. And he chose him to be the one in charge of the whole and park police. You know saw him Sherpa. Today we call him in the modern days not cheap police only we call him what? That homeland security secretary or was it the interior minister? That's that's the level he became.
Then guess what? The Khalifa died.
And he left behind him. I children who are very young, four or five years old. He Shan he was about nine or 10 years old. And nine tears cannot be what?
A Khalifa. So the family came his mother came mother don't want to give any part two who? To the brothers because the brothers will take over kill the child and they became the Khalifa. They get rid of the kid. That's how it works, you know and kingdom. So she wants to keep her son, but her son cannot rule. So what she did, she made a committee to rule the country on his name.
And who's that committee was the prime minister the person the Chief of Staff and Muhammad Muhammad, the head of the police.
And in no time the Chief of Staff died and Hindi came to them. Then hung David get rid of the
prime minister and he became in charge. And guess what? He gets rid of the child
also not the idea he killed them or anything like that. But he claimed himself to be the one in charge of the
the whole entire country.
Between the day they met and we talked about the dreams, the day he will call the honey for of the muslimeen. The king of Andrus was 30 years.
After he set a first day he sit on that throne of an Delos. He said, look for these two guys.
And he brought his friends and the walk into him while he is on the throne of it. And there is the most biggest civilization in the world at that time.
And he said to the first one, you get your garden, you get your 1000s, you know, 100,000 piece of gold, and you got your 100 servants.
And as for you,
the donkey is outside.
And he put him upside down on the donkey, run the city of Cordoba. And it was said this man, no but talk to him. Well, he'll go to jail.
And he added one statement. Very amazing. He said, Then you sit in the end every time you make that call you said had Diana am a nurse and Allah had a coalition ordeal.
So people will realize that Allah is capable of everything.
The thing that looks impossible to you is not possible. It's not impossible for Allah.
The sun that you thought it's impossible for him to change. It's not
that disease that you thought the impossible to be cured. It's not
the marriage that you thought it's impossible to salvage. It's not
the attitude and the character traits that you thought it's impossible to change. It's not
the parents thought it's impossible. They will change. It's not
the community that you think it's impossible change. It's not
the situation of the OMA that you think it's impossible. It's not
that you know what I love about this?
It started when Mohamed Navia and was sold that down
every one of us has a donkey need to be sold. To make a trade off.
Every one of us has that package
that's holding you down.
Not letting you trust others trust yourself. Not let you flirt, not let you grow. Get rid of it.
May Allah Subhana Allah make the next year. A year of prosperity. Beautiful. A year of compassionate a year of you know happiness. And the year folder for Eman and Taqwa and closing the storm last panel Darla salaallah ceneval and to be in 101. Thank you