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smilla hamdulillah salat wa salam ala rasulillah hora de Asahi home in WA back
continue our weekly class, an explaining the book of
warning from bad manners, which is
part of a chapter called Jama and below Milan and Hadeeth that we started with last week was headed Yakumo hazard for in hazard, I could have sonet kimitaka crew now, I'd help up.
who shouldn't be there? Who would that be reported the process of them said avoid envy, for envy, consume good deeds just as fire consume firewood. And we mentioned how this Hadeeth incident be though there have been major, even though it's very famous, but there is weakness in this study. But the concept itself is correct. And we talked about how a hazard envy which is that you wish you wish, it hasn't still level one that I want. Basically, whatever good that you have, that you lose. So I wish that you lose the good the whatever good that you whatever I like that you from what you have, I wish that you lose it, you don't have it, I'm just envy you why you have that's just one
level. The other level that I wish that you lose it, and I get instead of you.
So it's two levels, okay.
And you see how bad this is just just I'm just
angry that you have it. And sometimes you feel that and you should watch this. I see this sometimes even with kids, that the you make sure that you don't let them race this way. So for example, or why do you have a good time? Maybe, you know, let's say today Oh, not today. I mean, I I stay along with the kids at home doing their schools. So for example, one of them finish early her homework, or she doesn't have homework today and the other one is actually have a good time and other ones still have homework. You know, don't tolerate don't just let it go unchecked. And someone said, Oh, I wish that she has more or why she have a good like you know, that's not good. You know, that's an you don't
want this to grow. should teach her Hey, be happy for your sister, be happy for your brother. You know that they are successful. Don't feel bad, because somebody else have something good in their life, even if you don't have that good thing in your own personal life.
And it has a is a sin and it's a major sin. And in Nabhi sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam said la has said that he left within a team if there is any hazard will be in two things about during Lahu mal and for Salah who Allah halakha t he will help someone Allah blessed him or her with a lot of wealth and he used this word wealth, basically to spread goodness and to
control or eliminate
evil to fight back the bad and to support the good.
What are Julian LaHood hikma for whoever the hell you are Lima and someone Allah bless them whom him with Heckman and Heckman here it means a Sunnah it means knowledge mean was done. Okay? And it looks like means that the most general statement will be knowledge and ask for knowledge. Basically.
Jacobi beha, he will
use it to solve problems between people answer people's questions. And he used this knowledge to teach people
many things you can reflect upon this Hadith, I wouldn't cave by that bizarre, humble man
that didn't have his or Salam mentioned the one who possess a lot of wealth. Okay over to the one who possess a lot of
knowledge or the pen who has wealth and he's been in for the good cause over the one and he first then second came down with the knowledge.
You see, I'm saying so that's interesting, that shows you the value of money that when it's used in a good cause, it's very powerful. that to the extent that endemism started with it before and we'll also look at him it's all solid. Look at this heady when you hear when you hear the process I'm saying for welcome dB, how are you aloha that this knowledge is used for
judging between people, judging between people and teaching people
lm is the best way to solve problems and m is the best thing to knowledge and wisdom help you to resolve issues between people. And also it helps you to
tackle the pain enough to solve their disputes and to answer their questions and you teach them as well.
These are the things that you can have has has a deal it doesn't mean that you wish that they don't have the knowledge of they don't have the money No, you wish that you are like them. So it hasn't here doesn't have the technical definition. Mr. Lawson said this is a HIPAA which is I wish to have what you have without you losing what you have and hazard is a wish that you lose what you have
Yeah, and these are the two things that it is you should it is it is good thing that you wish to have Halla I was reflecting upon this but what else can you see the two thing that didn't be Salalah if you're going to take your mask off completely you have to be kind of far away
I'm okay a little bit down but taken off completely because yeah six feet apart is okay like if you guys apart six feet but just watch out any I don't have a problem as long as you watch the six feet distance somebody comes by stuff like that
having distracted debating in my head should I say it's okay or not okay.
I prefer everybody keep his mask on sorry, shovel I'm sorry. shovel I'm sorry, I prefer everybody keep his mask onyx. If I if I could I would do it but just because everybody feel comfortable around us just to be on the safe side.
So going back to what we say.
So you wish I was thinking about the What about Can't you wish to have the data of someone else?
Like I wish to have this clear MLA citation of the art but you know what decision is part of the element and then you get and I was thinking about the What about the bad like you have the basically the the bad of someone else, it can be included that you wish it but didn't they be so solemn said from the dunya from the worldly matters, that will really matter the most that you have knowledge and you have wealth that you use it in the right cause. So you don't wish to have them fun that people have or the fame that the people have. That's not something you should be
striving for. These are not something that you should be looking forward for it. Yeah, palmolive NaVi Sophia and Karina Jeeva more than anybody knows anything special about Maria
if you think about how you think of what
love and character wise
is very patient person very forbearing also is very intelligent. He knows how to deal with people very well. And you see as a doctor he knows how to basically control the crowd and troll people to that he's a great leader. Okay. And I mean CSE in a positive manner. Your board had an idea and the address and heard about
coolness or Stata and OB everyone I can please I can please everyone. I can I can handle it. Except one person in Lille has it
the person whose has sued the envious person
Ah, that's person you can't you can please him. That's nothing work with him.
Yeah, publicity man has had an allergy in Amrit dunya I never envy anyone for whatever they have from this dunya
I never did in my life. He said How come I envy him for anything from this worldly matter?
He said if this person going to Jenna, how can I look up to something that he has today is nothing compared to what will you will have in general?
And if we go to hell fire of this person goes to hell fire. How can I invite him over something from the dunya that it will lead him to the Hellfire? And yeah, it makes no sense to me at all. And he said the hustle bustle Academy jameelah didn't very beautiful, very powerful in a very detail. It's a very good description, kata model, a two volume and ashba happy mother woman has
never seen someone who's a transgressor.
But when you look at the person you feel like he is oppressed is the opposite he's not the transgressor is not the abuser is the abused
like a hazard except Allah has the envious person Why?
He said his new Lassie Muhammad he envy people, but you always have this pain in his heart. He always living in this worries and envy and sadness and hatred. It's eating him from inside so he's really a presser but I feel bad for him because he is really hurt by the hazard that he does. So he looked like an oppressor but the reality is, he is a person who's suffering
the belief is somewhat pundi said alhazred will be punished with five things in this dunya number one alum sadness why they have this why they have that why is like this well every time you see you're successful, he will become so sad and yeah and he feeling bad too Muslim Allah his sadness is not something you will be rewarded for it because any Muslim through go through sadness and hard time and depression whatever you call you get through for this person will not three madam mahalo Medallia, everybody know that this person envy that person? Nobody will ever care for him. Nobody will feel bad for him.
You know, number four Sahaba rub that the fifth or the fourth punishment that was angry at him in this journey.
And after as well. Number five, you will Akali Baba tofield Yeah, Sarah, I wish that some people here those
that those who envy others, alone never put Baraka on them alone, never give them success alone will never give them will never bless the work
and so many people talk about how envy can physically make you sick. And I believe that because psycho psychology affects our physiology our psychology affects our physiology.
Next, we'll talk about any this will come to the to the enemy that is maybe more points can be discussed. But remember, it's eat up your house and that it basically diminish you it could be belittling you it is it is the worst disease that you can put in your heart. And it has said something's hard to get rid of
hard to get rid of. And every one of us capable of having hasn't had been Tamia, Himalaya port, Mahalla just a domain hazard, there is no body free from hazards, but the movement can control it.
And the faster and the faster the camera will loaded controller to control them. So you can control as a movement, but everybody has this ability to be to have that hazard. So that's why you have to be very careful with yourself with what you say with how you feel about others. Don't let it grow, especially with young, young age or you know, just from yourself, you control it, you always have to come to your hazard. One of it is to be pleased with Allah decree. I'm happy that Allah gave me you know, what I'm happy with. Doesn't matter what he gave you. I'm happy with what I have. Number two, I know that the last one that I give according to wisdom, and perfect knowledge, so come down, I
don't need to be to alumnos Whoo hoo hoo hoo deserve and who doesn't? And not because I don't have it means I'm less or bad. No, I lost my data. In the military body. It's been reported in them in the middle of NATO of Ohio. It's been said that the last one of Dallas. And this may be from the very surreal narrations that among my servant, those who've I give them, and a lot of wealth and money, they will be corrupted.
They will be corrupted. Who knows? You think so you know what I'll choose for me what's best for me.
Also one of the things that this feeling and negativity only hurts me. It doesn't hurt anyone else. Really.
Also one of the so only know that I started to deal with it. Also one other thing that I should take the habit of counting my blessings, not other people's blessings. And that will help a lot. Those who always count other people's blessings. They forget about counting their own blessings. And that's something that we need to practice we need to
work on it when I was young and in high school,
One of my teachers
told me something very interesting one day and I'm been thinking about it I want to try to make kids okay? But I still remember that he asked us
to ask a roofie we said how about today? This whole day? Okay, nobody is allowed to use his fingers
his right hands fingers
just don't use it
imagine that you don't have them
then we'll talk tomorrow
guys it's unbelievable experience
is unbelievable experience
oh my god all this I just too
shirt. Put my
things that I'm getting it for granted.
Believe me, I was like thankful for my fingers. month after that. Remember? Ask us
each and every one of them sometime it's still it is imprinted in my head.
Can you imagine if he decided to just close your eyes for six hours?
Try see how it works, how it feels.
So you appreciate what they are not what is sleeping
you know and data to appreciate the only the eyes of those who have given you. So sometimes we don't really count our blessings.
And also one of the things that can help sometimes we envy people over things. Okay. Elaine, Tara ak therminal wacka
mithila How about him Allah once said that. He said Your eyes will see way more than what the reality is.
Any I see this person Mashallah. Shaka Brahimi must be having the best life in his life. You know, it's life is so smooth for him. I see him always happy with his kids and his wife and his family you know, blah blah blah mitogenomic skin color and
you think that he has the best things and maybe is not he has his own problems who you don't know.
You see this movie stars and I wished like them and you know what they suffer from cancers the first suffer from depression. You seen how many comedians committed suicide you think that they are the happiest people in the world? billionaires they killed themselves
So that is always your eyes tells you way more than what the reality is. So always keep that in mind. Even with beauty by the way.
Sometimes you see all the soul beauty your eyes always give you that deceive you can can really mislead you. So whenever you wish, Oh, I wish those beautiful like that sadness, no matter how long. you envy burrata, like giving them you should.
Might be way way less than what you think even right? It doesn't matter less or more but I'm maybe something to help you to come down a little bit. It will help you to be satisfied with what you have and not to necessarily look what other people have.
The next heading we'll move on. And Abiraterone
para para Sala salatu salam, Lisa Shadi do this Surah Surah Surah comesa.
Bishara, in Nima shadow lady Emily canessa, who and
then abora narrated the process of them said the strong man is not the good wrestler. But the strong man is he who controls himself when he is angry when he is reported by Bukhari Muslim both reports or minchie have unsaved me say and I've heard the alarm and like a shaded strong
Okay, a should eat strong translated stock a Surah kaahumanu Buh
bye comesa and it means the one who rustle with people some people read the Hadith
laser shall he do this? Ah Surah
carnavon is not what
they said the Sora
Are we a Polish
some people pronounce it this way anyway, it's Gomez Sora. They call
the Surah Surah kita livadia. It gives the opposite meaning it means the one who have been beaten how they're living
anyway, in NEMA shadow in
Arizona in Arabic language, hustle castle, the real strong man, the true strong man, it should be translated.
Not the strong man is no the true strong, strong man, the real strong person, okay. And that's basically as a very high form of praising who the one who controls himself or herself, when they are angry, what this headed teachers number one,
there is a great reward for those who have a self control over their anger.
And the person should always remember this. Controlling your anger is something that Allah Santa loves. And also Allah wants and almost Mandela order us to, to do and we call this covenant.
covenant light is to bury your anger, to control your anger, not to seek revenge for yourself. Okay, Allah subhanaw taala said and verse 134, and leadin
while AFI 1991 long will have Baltimore Sydney Orsini, those who spend for LASIK and the time of hardship and time of ease. And those who control their anger, control the reactions. Well as Lena and ness and they willing to forgive people, while law and they are not only forgiving and controlling anger and forgiving, no, they control their anger, then they forgive then they are go and willing to do good to others. Your cat and babble drama, it was said about so one of the amount
he was sitting and he's also rich person with his friends and his son with him. And the servant of the slave that he had a bedtime walk with an iron
stick has like food and
He fall and stick of the squares.
Hmm. See, the hamazon score. The score, the score, went straight to the heart of that boy and killed his son
he looked at the servant the servant said wildcard the mean lie.
Those who control their anger.
He said come to Ohio. I control my anger. He said well Athena and in us
those who forgive he said I forgive you. He said well law who you have been my sin. He said you're a free man.
You know what? It's easy to say stuff like that. But it's hard. When things happen to you.
It's hard when you're the one who got hurt.
When you are when you're the one who got no touch and you can angry insulted
isn't you control yourself
as not an easy thing.
Or even Ambassador the Allahumma para para Sala solemn selasa fee. Our hola houfy canopy was satara Hebrew word holla houfy Mahabharata Allah
three things if you have them, Allah will bring you closer to Him.
And He will cover and cover you covered your mistakes. Mother exposures thing was cetara he brushed metal and he will shower you with His mercy and you will receive His love the Almighty Allah what are the common either or the shocker? What either haidara for what is the Obama photon movies saving him man? Watch him a lot. And it's
this three question.
When he's given his thankful and when he's in control, he's empowered. He forgives. And when he is made angry
he can come down quickly.
He will not let anger took over him.
poultry Rasul Allah dulany Allah Imani, Tony, Jenna, Phil Buhari jasola tell me about something will lead me to gentlemen. He said la bola agenda.
Don't be angry and the agenda is yours.
And agenda is yours. And I still remember in my old days in high school, one of my friend He's a very famous karate Shahada company. He's also a very nice hip hop very nice artist.
He wrote that I still remember it says lots of about Don't be angry and agenda is yours. And I saw I took that paper and they had it you know, we made copies of it we pass it around and something like a lot of people would use it to put it in their wallet put in their car, make different sides of it. It just started my especially if you have an anger problem.
In every cell Allah sent me they would set in the Day of Judgment. Men Kadima haven Oh, Allah anumita those who control their anger and the reaction even though the can seek revenge Allah will call them upon all people on the Day of Judgment he will appoint him from all people and he will honor Him
and will raise his level
that's that's a great thing to think about before you give it to him or to her
before you react and we all need that for you get angry at your children for get angry at your spouse before we get angry at your
revenge or seek revenge or punish your you know, your your friends or the people who works for you. Just control your anger. And I'm delighted me I'm better than
Yeah, so a lot what will be the thing that will protect me from Allah's anger? And alone love be angry at me? What can I do to know that alone will not be angry with me? You know what the person told him service certainly palatable. Don't be angry yourself.
When you're angry at people all the time alone would be angry at you. So those who are always angry at people be careful.
Those are always angry and always grumpy and always like those of you who need to watch out
or come to him and leave his salt. He got angry at his servant, and he was beating him.
He says master
I heard a voice from behind me.
And I was so angry and loud and talking. I didn't even know who's talking.
So I continue because I'm angry and a beating. I heard somebody calling me and I didn't listen. I didn't understand who it was. That was the saying goes that person is so so angry.
All of a sudden this voice came near me then. I mean, when he came so close, I looked and that was the Prophet sallallahu sallam, I come down.
And in Ibiza, Salim said, Yeah, I buy my suit.
Yeah, I buy my suit. LLM I want you to know. And when he said that, I was so terrified and I dropped the web. drop this thick basically.
An aloha cadet haukadalur coming Carla has
wanted to know that Allah has more power over you, then you over this young man, young servant. That you beating him.
Allah has more power he can do to you way more than what you're doing to him.
said girl sort of ba. I would never hit a servant ever in my life after this.
Holla Holla Holla Audrey boom Luke and by the
But their data their livelihood, Accra Maya Kunal abdomen, whoa babila is a hobby.
Whatever until the limb Mallanna sallallahu alayhi wa sallam.
Be careful because the closest you are to Ally's anger when you're angry.
Be careful. Be aware of doing anything that is considered injustice to someone. The only one
Wall revenge him is Allah.
And another word, if someone is someone, the only one can revenge him is alive means that person has no supporter in this dunya has no family has no wealth has no position, there is no system to protect him. That's right. The only one can really prevent him as a lot. So that the weakest person that's the one that you should be aware of worry about the most
should be scared of the most.
Anger is one word from
That's right, just one word from danger.
And hunger. Yes, hunger leads to anger. But anger is one word from danger. And that's why he said, You are the closest to hobo billet or loss, angry anger, when you are angry. Why? Because when you are angry, you will commit things will lead to you receiving a lot of anger.
When you're angry, you didn't control your tongue. You didn't control your hand, you don't know what you can do.
I wouldn't if I forget a story, it will not be the story of one of our classmates
who went to the police station one day to
because his cousin has a divorce and what he called child support, civil issue, okay. And he was stopped by the police because he didn't pay child support. So in order for him to go out of jail, he needs someone to come to do what a sponsor, you know, to bail him out. But in theory, the deal is a VA bail him out and it gave him a sponsor and a sponsor him. I have to bring him back in the day of the court. And if I don't I will be responsible for his cousin never showed up 123 times to the police kept harassing our friend, colleague Shinya.
So one day I went to his cousin, he took him in the car. And his his cousin's angry man, he abuses whatever money right? So
my friend was taking him in the car. He didn't tell him where you're going. And he took him to the police station.
He, you know, the police station, he goes inside there's a building there's a gate. He goes inside the gate. Stop right at that door, the police station. And his cousin looked at and said, What are you doing? He said, I've been harassed by the police. I want to get hurt. I'm gonna take you inside and I'm gonna take my sponsorship back. You deal with it because you break your promises so many times and I don't want to deal with that. I have a lot of work and I can take he was so angry at his cousin who's now gonna
basically take him back to the police in front of the police they are just wanted to know when you're angry, you don't think about anything.
You just became blind. He was so angry at him that he pulled his gun and he shot his cousin who was our friend in our class
five or six times and he killed him instantly.
Overwatch over Child Support is a civil case
any any is not even as you are in front of the police.
You're gonna be arrested and you're gonna go anywhere.
Honey arrested he was executed. He was killed.
I remember the day he was killed.
It just came it can destroy it destroy countries, straight futures, destroyed marriages, destroyed relationships, destroyed works.
Anger is so it's so dangerous. That's why there's so many Hadith about anger. And I believe that's also one of the reason why he brought this a second hobby. Because if you think about the root and the causes of so many sins and bad manners are the result of hazard envy and anger.
They are the sources and the roots for so many bad manners and bad character traits
we had with penises.
Hi, I'm Angela I am in jurati reading the mohab maca mama Abdullah Illa Allah who jovo Amana purifier. Majora Illa Allah modular en de la mangiarotti Hasan Kadima cover Maha I'm gonna devour g love. Imagine one of the most beloved actor Allah is to control your anger. One of the most rewarding act is is controlling your anger and serving imagine the previous ones or him Allah, tada
and the journey and help the basic to hold back to calm yourself down.
Anger as it says danger
killing, beating, cursing,
cutting ties with relatives, destroying families. Hatred comes from anger.
You lose so many friends and our older will let anger lead to crowfall.
There is people say the cover out of anger.
Somebody gets so angry at someone he took the most have thrown away in the floor.
one person I know. We're talking to him about his daughter marrying someone.
I never got angry how you dare to talk to me about my daughter marrying this person when I was so angry out of control. He said I said
I'm just doing it in your favor. She asked me as a chef. I don't care she owes you for a pseudo lock comes and begged me for it. I will not give it to her.
The Bush Why would you bring the profits or Salama anger? This is crazy.
So be careful.
Speak when you're angry. I guarantee you will make the best speech that you will ever regret in your life.
I can guarantee you that.
If you think anger is something that can protect you or like you put it as a face I'll tell you
also can guarantee you that anger is the worst worst buddy guard that you can ever have
will never guard you from anything but goodness it will lead you to destruction.
When you're angry stare Isabella
because anger is from the Chapin well imagine one kameena Chapin in a zoo. Faster is Billa he in
asked a lot of projects protect you from the Shabbat. And you know the Hadith when two people were stabbed is the band we will cursing at each other talking about each other. And one of them became so angry. The narrator said his face became red from anger. And he never told the companion. He saw them from a distance. He knew something of this person would say this anger will go away who will come down. So they also lowered what he said.
But then they didn't tell him because the guy is just so angry that he cannot hear he cannot even see what's happening.
And when he walked away, one of the Sahaba went in and told him by the way, there's a problem. So they said What is it?
He said Why do you think me like kind of Majnoon? Do you think men are insane? Or?
I'm not you know, I'm not he refused to sit it to say he was so angry. You need to come down then you turn.
Also one of the things that process I'm told us whether that be that. He said if you're so angry, change your position. If you're standing sit down if you're sitting lay down.
Also, one of the things that may be Salalah, the ambassador the alarm said that the process of them said were you the holding company is good when you're angry?
Close it Don't talk.
No, no, no, no, we have to finish the subject right now.
No, we have to. I have to get an answer. I have to know why.
No, you don't.
Close it. Stop. Don't talk.
Nonsense. Ignore the problem. But you know what? Until you come down,
and a wise wife and a wife husband, he tells the spouse it goes, Hey, let's talk about it later. No, no, no, that's fine. We'll talk about it. Let's let's just make a decision. Divorce right now. I'll divorce you right now when I come down
You don't know how many phone calls we get I divorce or I'm angry
if you divorce or you're not angry you're not be calling me. He will be just process you're in the process but now you're regretting it that's why you calling
yep lol marakele edgerly mantella wallet lm to copy my family either have it when I get angry I never say anything. I just keep quiet so I don't regret it. Once you are calm, express your anger
I think that's a good advice. Also Nabi sallallahu Sallam he had he say he said anger from shavon shavon was created from fire and fire will be taken away by water. So when you're angry, doable mapable
and also if you had them he said he said anger is like a charcoal gemorah in your heart, like producing fire
Okay, it's gonna be so powerful. So the advice on the faucet was to make
also make liquor of our last panel God I lost my wife called Rebecca in a seat crema in the Hobbit
and Salter Catherine Alessandra. What could rob Beckett remember a lot either in a seat, sort of reverse 24 academic either in a seat means either they'll be when you're angry.
super low ish. Or the last one gonna see. We just said the head if it's like a chart or like a fire inside your heart, okay. Look, make your heart like so. troubling. Listen to the last one that I said what calm the heart down. And leadin
and IBV karela De Palma in blue Lupu Your heart will come to rest, with the remembrance of Allah with the mentioning of Allah. It comes down to the Quran.
Allah Allah, Allah Allah Akbar, Allah for Allah, May Allah forgive you may Allah
May Allah This is a good habit to have. When you get angry, don't curse, say Allah, May Allah forgive you.
Also, don't ever follow anger with actions and you don't make an action based on anger.
99% of crimes, okay.
problems that happen between people. It happened in the following 20 seconds after the person gets so angry.
Like in the first 20 seconds after you get extremely angry that were 99% of the crimes are committed because of that happen in this 29
or 20 seconds. Just let it go come down. Then after that you can do whatever you want.
Me move Nima Han came to he said a man came to sell manufactures and said yeah, Abdullah, give me an advice. He said Don't be angry. He said you asked me not to be angry. But there's a lot of things. Yeah, no, make me angry.
He said if you be if you if you become angry of there's a lot of things happening around you make you angry. Hold your tongue and hold your hand, control your time and control your hand.
Let it just be fuming. And what Abdelaziz he said latter outcome in the whole public, he said to his governors and and lieutenants and generals and Lee and judges. He said, Don't ever punish someone when you're angry.
If you want to if somebody made you angry because of a sin or a crime that they commit, what do you do?
He said, lock him up and this until your anger go away, then punish the first then judge. We see this in the police like most in my in my opinion, most of the police abuse that I've seen in videos and stuff like that so far. It is because no in many of these cases because the police man become so angry that he can't control his anger. And he told the person Show me your ID get inside the car. You're not under arrest. I'm not under arrest. Who are you under arrest me and he made it back and forth. He immediately became so angry so we angry and he has power is a badge is a gun he has a handcuff. What he does, he starts acting according based on this anger. And that's where the people
the problem happen. He can kill someone he can be abused his power, the anger but if he comes
Just don't panic just wait until you come down and you can control call someone else to come to handle it that's also a brilliant idea to have you know in many cases at least in certain cases especially domestic issues you don't need to bring a police you know you bring a police but you bring also counselor you blame people who train to control their anger
ketubah yeah and
one of the things that when it's hard to do that but think about it at least now you know
anger does not bring any good results anger just maybe satisfy yourself I don't even satisfy yourself it just work you out it it just it's hurt you okay
yeah, I need you over regret anger
for every minute that you remain angry you lose 60 seconds of peace of mind.
Man a Ba ba ba ba
Think before you speak because if you follow your anger you will lose a lot.
You see how the problem is that this strong man is the one who control his anger
of course a strong person also a controlling anger it is when you are made angry. Please
at least agree with me on those some people's share what he made me angry Yes, that's the whole point. The whole point is to control your anger when someone makes you angry.
Otherwise nobody make you angry and he still and you're angry for no reason that's like a problem that you need to see as a customer. You need help helps. You know if that's what the whole point the whole idea the whole idea in Islam is for you to control your anger when something making you angry.
And I'm guilty with that and you know, everybody loses sometimes you need to control you need to find it it's not an easy one lightning
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He passed by people who rustling jasola this man he beat them all he is the champion. Then in the B cell ally Sallam said do you want to know who is a stronger than this man? He also he just when every wrestling match match is the champion is that I know someone who's stronger than him who he is who's that person is jasola con Roger omarama Rama Rajan, acaba, Mahi, wahoo, falada, Ramesh Aparna Ramesh upon Asahi,
a person who have been abused by someone someone did something, he harm someone. And that person capable of revenging capable of fighting back. But what that person did, he controlled his anger. He didn't fight back. So he beated him his champion. And he repeated the other guy because he had the higher ground. And he beat that guy. shavon he did three.
Please, watch yourself what make you angry and try to avoid it.
I'm angry when I'm hungry.
When I'm sleepy.
And some of these usplabs are many years old has to do with time has to do with situations sometimes peak places.
Something about people. There are certain people when you see them make you angry. You just don't. Don't bring their names don't bring their you know, just like every time you look at you know, there's certain things make you angry every time you hear you read Trump's tweet, make you angry don't read Carlos unfollowing
every time I watch fox news or watch the news or watch CNN make me angry. Don't watch it.
If that's what make you angry, don't you know what Also be careful? I get stressed out I get angry quickly when I'm about to travel.
When I'm about to travel, I get you know stressed out and I can be angry when I'm late. I'm angry. So you know what I know that about myself. So I try to avoid as much as I can any talk with anyone. So I don't reply. Even sometimes if you ever see me like sending a text message to the group and the master is a little bit sounds mean he knows that. He must did it in the car coming to the to the best or late in the night. Sometimes you can talk
with so when somebody's sick, they are so angry and can you know can't control that anger. You know
Just Just watch these things is it's a time it's a place that is some people when they go to the market they are so stressed out
any for example, if I take my kids to Woods an area where there's dangerous I'm very tense that I can get angry very quickly because I'm so worried about them
yeah, maybe I'm not the best person to take them out for this kind of activity.
You know, I'm not the best person to teach my son how to drive because I will lose my cool very quickly.
While there is other people in my downline and inter ledger is like a freezer doesn't care.
People are different. So what you need to see what's what's making and try to avoid and when you have someone in your family like this, you need not just to say, hey, change yourself. No, yeah, he wouldn't you know that, excuse them,
try to accommodate them. work around them. This is my friend this is that people are different.
You need to basically appreciate who they are, and try to help them and try to avoid this sensitive time where they can quickly get angry.
they say actually a hungry man is an angry one.
So when people some people when they are on hungry, they are angry.
One of the things that I thought it's also interesting for dealing with anger
put a reminder if you put a reminder
like no one person he told his daughter once every time we get angry, just say Dolce Gabbana
was talking about It's uh, you know, it's Dolce Gabbana. And, you know,
I said Why? He said because my favorite perfume
and I love perfume, it calms me down.
carbonic Gabbana no problem.
So, you can't make things like this up, which is helping to come down. That's smart.
And it's not, it's not something new. And eventually man
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one, from the early generations. person, he used to get angry and get so angry. So he wrote three,
he got three pieces of papers, and he wrote something on them.
And he gives one of this basic paper to one man a second to another person to a third.
And he said, if you see me angry, first man, if you see me, give me the paper.
And he told the second person and if I come down, number two, give me this paper that I gave you.
when I completely out of that, an anger mood, the third person you give me the paper. They said Okay, it looks like they're friends or people whose family members or people work with him or servants on the land.
So when you get angry the first one, give him the paper he comes down when he start coming down. The second one, give it to him. Give him the second paper and the third one after his anger goes away. So they want to know what's in the paper.
So they look at the first one and it says oxer from Anto had Alibaba in McAlester villa in Tibet, Sharon Yoshioka and yeah Aquila Baba, Baba, come down. You know God, they're just human beings, this anger will just destroy you.
will eat you up
will harm you. God God's anger doesn't harm him to harm us but our anger harm us before to harm others to come down.
And the second piece of paper has in it there are humans will have their homecoming for summer the merciful those on earth Allah the one and heavens will be merciful with you.
And the third it says Emily by the law hierarchy tabula rasa home illa dannic deal with people according what's in the book of Allah, nothing else.
is something that you be careful especially this will make you anger that was says who anger you conquered you
who anger you conquer, don't let someone anger is a form of weakness because it means you cannot control yourself. You know, one of the things that's I found it very helpful for us
Well exercise angry, maybe it's a good idea for you to go work out, have a walk, go swimming, you know, it helps you to control your stress. take a timeout and when you can constantly angry and stress so much, maybe it's a good idea to go maybe spend a night in a hotel or just just go to the office and walk them that by the water. You know, go to something maybe fun go dive where you can, like, he only be with fish, fish come down people now. Seeing fish comes through them psychologically. You can study that, you know, read about it. This study shows that that's why they put in hospitals and the waiting room. You know, they put fish because it can't people because
people stress and they go to hospital, so can people now
water in general calms people down the sounds of water.
Anger will not solve the problem. Make sure that you pray and you ask Allah Subhana Allah to help you to control your anger. You might not be able to leave. Anger is part of who we are. But the point is, how can we channel anger to a positive outcome? How can we control anger? That's the whole point about genocide, said that his father said some levina amount of NASA Salatin for older Sofia Maria Linda Sala, and he made the Sala very short very fast.
It was fast and short.
Then people said half
a car after our oldest why you rush your soul. I like that. For Karla Amanda, Derek Sokka TAO to fee heavy Do
you think I rushed it. I didn't rush my salon. I made the dua and the Salah that I heard from the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam, which is enough for me, because the whole supply is about you and he didn't give us much time to make a lot of he said I made it through and it's that I heard from the Prophet sallallahu sallam, and it is very sufficient for me that I was able to make it that's good enough. There's no need for more time.
Then he left
for Cairo hotel room in a poem can never sell for salah and
one person said hey, I'm on hold on. Can you tell us what did you say? What is the route that you made? Or do you decide to do so? Or that you heard from the prophets of Allah Salah?
He said since you asked them to us it's interesting how the habit of the dynamic of them yeah, and he he didn't initially said is handling the old days they give the knowledge to those who wants the knowledge. If he didn't ask me then deserve it.
Yeah, if you don't want him to know if you want to ask, you have to seek you have to ask for it. Anyway, he said the drought is
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Along there's a yin there is unity, man. Yeah, Allah beautified us with the man and make us among the guided one.
She always is the individual Allah is Allah. That's why he was so happy that he was able to sit it to say demos, go ahead.
reactions to our anger level. Sometimes my reaction to get when I get angry,
I need to control my hand. Because sometimes I, I live, I hate
I threw things in the floor. Hi punch. You need to control that. That's one little tongue. say things not acceptable.
Also could be the reaction to an Act to the anger is not a fist or words. Or like a comment. Or MiG dragon is the person or cursing or sometimes typing an angry nasty email or like or post. Sometimes it's a look to
given that look of anger,
all this need to be controlled. All this need to be under control.
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this hadith tells us to control our anger. But please don't misunderstand. What are we saying? When we say yet become highly any control and keep his anger or control his anger? It doesn't mean that you keep it inside your heart and became very, you know, helped. And it became hatred? No, no, no, it controlled, it doesn't mean that you keep on control. You know, I'm filing it inside no control. That means I don't let bad reaction comes. And I let it go and move on.
I forgive and forget. And I always say if you can't forgive and forget, pick one of them.
If you can do both do one of them, you will move on
even further Hades very beautiful thing, which is
there in Alamo, Jonathan neffs that the person should always struggle with his manners and their manners. Any it's a struggle, how to possess a good manners. But then it also gives you a good indicator or good news that also bad manners can be changed.
Nobody can say that's me. No, it's basically you control yourself, you find yourself and you can change. Don't say yes, maybe you have more anger than other people. But you know what, come down.
You need to control your anger.
You need to learn how to do that.
And no matter how old you are, no matter how young you are, no matter how, you know,
the situation is.
So this is one of the things that we
learned from this hadith. And as we see there is many points to be learned from that had eaten me some a lot. It's a meme. And the next week inshallah we'll be talking about another third.
The third point that the third bad qualities that we should be very worried about, is a volume. Yes.
Briggs. It Shafi once said, Whoever made anger angry and he is not he's like an animal poco a model ministerially what a meal before him. And he meant by that the anger that the outcome of it is controlled is not something that you lose control over. You mean, I still am angry, but I still control what I'm saying. I control what I'm doing. Control. I have good control my sense, but the anger is a feeling inside and what's Shafi Rahim Allah says, like for example, when I see all this injustice happen to my brothers and sisters around the world, or to innocent people around the world. I am angry from inside. I can be like, oh, who cares?
That's not acceptable.
That's not acceptable. You know what? And I see the harem in front of me. And I'm from inside. So cool. As of there is nothing.
So the anger is a feeling inside.
Is that feeling that
But anger in general in general is dangerous is lead to things which is not correct. But as long as it is something that I always say matters if it lead to something good you know we see what causes it and what it will lead me to so my anger channel and basically picking up a positive
element than an angry that's why I'm exercising more angry at myself but you know, and I don't like the word anger sadness I don't think you should be angry at yourself I should be you should be in your soul your action but that should motivate you to change the course of your action should make you you know, an angry at the situation that we are in as a community but I want to channel this to be something that motivates me to keep doing down to keep advising people you know, angry at God because he's like exceeding the time by four minutes but you know what?
After slideshow sorry shamisen keep don't keep people off the file ticket. I'll take I took her because she's gonna pray there and kind of hard to listen to what she's up. But I'll take your question out of Salah. So in case somebody wants to listen handler, somebody else only go home they can go home.