Excellence and Flaws #21

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AI: Summary © The segment discusses the concept of arrogance and how it can lead to pride, cutting hair, and not being arrogant. It also touches on the use of "arrogance" in Islam and how it can lead to embarrassment and fear. The importance of avoiding negative emotions and being considerate in one's life is emphasized. The segment also emphasizes the importance of fast eating and offers tips on improving attachment to outcomes.
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Some lavender Lau salatu salam ala rasulillah Ali he also be here woman What about

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Hadith? He had a later an evening tomorrow the Allahu anhu ma Kala Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam mentai a woman few NFC he worked out a few machete he lucky Allahu Allah He helped van a Hollywood hacker Marie Jericho to cut. Even tomorrow the Allahu and narrated the Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, Whoever exalts himself and walks proudly with arrogant, Allah will be angry with him when he meets him, and he and the day of the resurrection, this hadith reported by Al haq him and him said, and with a reliable chain of narrators, or a gel or the chain of narrators of this hadith are trustworthy.

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Been Manasa

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fatty element Howdy. This is a something that maybe you you should know about the ahaadeeth whenever they say that it's not all the narrator's are trustworthy. It doesn't mean that the haircut is authentic.

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Why? Because they might be all trustworthy. But there's other things we look at it, which is did they hear from one another?

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And he's trustworthy, trustworthy, trustworthy, every in every generation, the tab in the follow the TV, but did they hear from each other? Do you hear the study from him or not? That's another issue with decided it's not any data Huawei lotta killer would want to sell is not. Also, we might also know that they hear from me too. But this particular holiday, there is a problem with this narrator hearing that Harry from the other narrator

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some narrators are trustworthy. But when it comes to narrating from certain people, they're not trustworthy, or only trustworthy when they narrate from certain people. Also, we have to look at the method, the text itself, the wording of the Hadith, because sometimes we find a defect on the actual wording that it will look at, well, let's call this hadith reject that the narration. Okay.

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For example, some of them were narrated in a way other than the other people narrating it. So even though they're trustworthy, but because the statement that they made or the harried that generated, it's different than what other people said, and those people are a larger number, so that we take them over that person. So there is many things we look at it. So don't be just deceived by somebody singly journal with your art or the reliable chain of narrators, they

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the previous Hadeeth, if you remember, was talking about

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pointing other people's mistakes, you know, making fun of people's mistakes, or focusing and searching for other people's mistakes.

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And when you do that you feel arrogant.

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You know, because you see their mistakes and you feel yourself perfect. And that was very interesting to follow that Hadith with this hadith which is dealing with arrogance with being arrogant because most of people who does such thing by pointing and looking at other people's mistakes and pointing it out

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ended up end up arrogance. So Allah for him Allah the author of Allah brothers Hadith, because they are these issues or these problems are connected to one another. This had it also reported by limit parameter and Muslim Ed and the Hollywood double move fraud. And when we say Buhari in another bill, more fraud, it doesn't mean inside Buhari, say he'll Buhari that's when the Buhari said every holiday report. I narrate in this book. It's authentic. But the other one more for this another book he wrote. He didn't say every hand even that book has to be authentic. He just mentioned to you the generators and

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you should figure it out over the order matter or comment on it. By aloha Kim,

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anyway, said that is a Yanni the Hadith meets the condition of Bihari Muslim, Diaby said Muslims and I don't agree with either any statement actually. Because this head it has units of no passive

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newness of no passion.

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His narration in this particular head, it doesn't

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Match the condition of Hydra hematoma

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this Hadith,

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he said to Lhasa lamp to Allah MFI, NFC exalts himself exalts himself, Tao.

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Ne it's exaggerated in praising himself and see himself so big or she see herself, so big and very perfect pile, another revive woman tau one VFC. Woman to album so one head, it says the album and the album the same meaning exalts himself over praise yourself. And not necessarily wording as much as you feel that insight.

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And walks proudly. Yeah, and you tell Effie machete, work proudly any walk that it shows arrogance. And this is can be the style of walking or by the way dress where you walk, just to show off and to you know, just like Zoho is one of the lower Yaniv for any you're full of arrogance and, and sometimes, like

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intentionally tried to walk in certain place just to show off certain ways to show off. These are things this is the way this is the type of walk. That didn't be salaallah Salim for bed. What we learned from this heavy number one, this hadith criticize arrogance. And those who are arrogance in the be sallallahu wasallam said as a Muslim, those who have misspelled the Rahman killer adara it's the particles of dust. See how small that is? If you have that much inside your heart from arrogance, okay, you will not entertain and you're not in danger right away. that something can delay the person from intention and can lead to Kufa was panela because Cooper, one of the main

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reason behind it is arrogant, not willing to submit to Allah subhanaw taala to the rules of Allah.

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So I mentioned Yasser Allah arrogance. I like to dress nice. I like to be proud of my like, I look good. He said, that's, that's beauty that's beautifying yourself. And beauty is something that a Lost Planet Allah loves. Allah Himself is beautiful and he loves beauty. I'll kill her arrogance. Baba will have wantonness arrogance is to reject the truth and to look down upon people.

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This is interesting how the process Allah explained to us exactly what Kibera means. He said, do things that you see yourself you see other people less than you knew basically

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don't give people their due respect, do rights. And bottle hockey reject the truth? Because you think the truth is only what you say? Not what other people saying.

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bureau can be a little Jenna though. What do you want to know who the people who belong to gender? Is it kulula Ethan moto vive whoa oxymat Allah He Ababa

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Elena cool to Lin jwala mystic

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the process I'm headed the Bahamas and he said the people of Hellfire are he mentioned three qualities one of them those are arrogant. And a total is the one who is so rude. so aggressive. So mean have no mercy. And in jawab also same very harsh, very loud type. And the people who have done that is the people who are Yeah, nice, nice.

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low key. A lot of those people will be in general not necessarily to be very famous to be very well known. You know. And those people so many of those people, if they ask a las panatela something Allah answers right away, because Allah loves them so much, even though people you don't think much of them.

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Lucky you if you are one of them. In nebby Salah Salam also said that agenda are not debated with one another and not said Allah made me as a place for the arrogance. The arrogant one.

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So now saying the whole pricing This is a place for the people who are arrogant. And in Jenna said, I am Allah's mercy, Allah Subhana Allah give me to whomever he wishes for blackout nascio Misaki name for those who are weak for those who are looked down upon those who people don't care for

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Also Nabi sallallahu Sallam said that previous had is a Muslim, and other Hadith and Muslim as well, maybe the harira three people Allah will not talk to them will not look at them in the day of judgment and they have a severe punishment. One of them were enormous stickler for person, but yet so arrogant, so arrogant.

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And this honey, which is talking about the walk, and the arrogance in the heart shows something very important, we have to be very, very careful about which is there is always a connection between what's in your heart and what you do with your actions. You cannot separate that connection, what's in the heart appear in the action, and what you do outwardly affect you from your inside. And you know, many psychologists today saying that our physiology affects our psychology. You know, just think about it, do like this, put your shoulders together, look down.

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After a while you feel kind of down and depressed.

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You know, open your chest, make your shoulder problem, have a broad shoulder, take a deep breath, look up a little bit. And you will see immediately you will feel there is things changing.

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As Pamela just versus like this, and versus this.

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It outside impact how we feel.

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That's why you don't walk and you don't dress an arrogance. You know, with error, like men, they don't dress in gold all over their body and things of that, or dress or clothes that make them very different than everybody else like leave us sure why it bring that sense of arrogance to the person. You know, I can tell you like a big difference when we you know, like when you ride a car, like let's say your ride

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you know, you ride one of these sports car, you know what's good. So sports car,

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Audi, whatever, these fast cars.

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Lamborghini, you know, you ride a Lamborghini. And you know, you ride your piano, to

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Corolla, Hana, big, different how you feel. You're gonna feel immediately, like, interface shudder, killer. Start looking like, you know, mercedes benz, you know, mebaa

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You know, my

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neighbor has the upper grades of Mercedes Benz, her friend in Houston. I was in his

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car, do his house. He's a car dealer. He always sell these fancy cars. So this guy came with a very heavy Eastern European accent. He said, Hey, Ali, do you have a mobile? You know, my boss Want one?

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He said, Yeah, I use resorts in the website, whatever. He said.

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I want I want His Excellency, in your website. You have one? Yes, I have one. But I, you know, I just don't buy them. They're very expensive. He said, Okay. He said, But I bite you have to take it. He said, Yeah. Just get it. Make sure that is good. I'm in the office. And he said, sure. But I'll need a downpayment. He said, Hold on, he went into the car outside, he brought a briefcase, and he dropped 100 grand just in front of $100,000 cash. He said, Okay, that's a down payment. You can go to the car right now. And he left. So I said to the guy, no papers, nothing, no receipts? No. He said to me, surely eat a mess with people like this.

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He didn't need to receive a fever like this. You know, don't worry, I'll get my money

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is interesting. I didn't I didn't even know that coexist. He said it's very, very like

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what yours are. And

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so when you that's this impact. So that's why the way you want the way you carry yourself. Be careful. Don't underestimate that. I give you an example. A lot of people don't like full growing beard.

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Because when you have that full grown beard, it makes you it kind of make you feel responsible towards certain things. You know, when you stop putting hijab, you know, it's not about the hijab only it's a lot of people a lot of arguments sometimes young girls telling me, oh, hey, Java don't want to do I'm respectful like Yeah, but if the job the outside, impact the inside, you know, give you that sense of humor.

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He sense of self respects of worthless, you know, and so forth.

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One of the

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things we learn from this hadith is arrogance. Why it is so bad? Why in Islam arrogance is so bad because it's the biggest form of life because no human being deserves to be arrogant.

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What make you worth because when you're arrogant you feed yourself perfect.

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And human beings their nature that they are imperfect and not so enamored, many Adda.

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That's why it is the servitude of Allah. Allah is all about you admitting your weakness. He did. Your you don't know and he knows his greatness subhana wa at that.

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Place used to say an adage of Mr. Liddy at Aqaba waka Tara gem in major El Bulli Marathi

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I am I can't understand how a man or a person will be arrogant while he's twice came out from where the urine comes.

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How can you be arrogant

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Mopar riff when Abdullah shifty he sold this leader and mohalla Nabisco for general, very famous general. Walking in Albus Rao Arab with arrogance. He's like he's very proud of himself as a big general in the army. Then Mubarak told him Yeah, Abdullah

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or slave of Allah. Don't walk like this. This is a walk that Allah and His Messenger hates.

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Don't work with arrogance like this. He said, What?

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Don't you know who I am? Or who am I? Don't you know who am I? An attractive man.

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Number he knows him. The motto said yeah, I know who you are. You're a person who started as a lowly sperm. And you're going to end as a rotten Korb and in between you carry your own pieces

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as what it is,

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that's who you are as a human being.

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So that, you know, arrogance, there's no reason for it.

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everything that it is shows a sense of arrogance, and bopper, it is haram in Islam. That's why in Islam, you're not allowed to eat and with utensils made of gold or silver.

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That's why also the Hadith claims that you don't put the pure silk on the ground and you walk on it, and you sit on it. These are very luxurious. You know, that's why we say this crazy thing that you hear people have a toilet seat made of gold, or car made of gold. There is no doubt in Sharia or a cell phone that worth $100 million

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because it has diamonds and gold and 24 karat gold made up or shoes made a couple of million dollars. Why? Because it has, you know

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diamonds and stuff like that, that make it extremely expensive like this. All these are are Haram in Islam There is no doubt about

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that's why Islam said in a call in an experimental kibble dragging your for men to drag their pants or their film on the ground. It is form of arrogance and individual solemn for bed.

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One thing that we learn from this hadith that Allah Subhana Allah get he gets angry, when he is disobeyed, certain sins can make a loss without an anger and the anger of Allah subhanaw taala is like Allah's mercy is not like our anger It is something belong to him somehow that as we can understand His mercy and love we can understand also in his system so that his anger and anger was can't came in many different ways in the Quran, by the way, and the sooner the prophets Allah sunlamp the word anger, many Hadith Allah will be angry at them in the day of genuine will be anger than a Quran says fella as a phone and Topanga minim cannabis as a funa are Bhavana Allah Subhana

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Allah said when they made me angry,

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I punished them when they made us angry or made me angry I punished them.

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So I elbowed

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sorry is that Polish

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Lucky Allah wahoo it here man yeah

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yeah so the anger is one of that

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attributes of Allah we call it superfan Lee happened when the reason of it have any um please

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some yeah any silly argument silly argument people raise he said or who

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he said also not angry a lot of palo hollyanne demo

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class Allah This is the hubbub of his way when your the blood in your body boiled

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okay like the blood of your heart boiling and became boiling that's why he became angry. You know what is interesting that ended today even with modern science still people repeat the same thing

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and he didn't even give it up. But still even the modern like ashati in the modern

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you know,

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Montecito or whatever from added can understand use the same exact old argument. First of all anger in human beings is not the boiling of the heart anger it's an emotion comes from the brain. You know,

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we understand anger. But when you say that whatever you say is the heart in the blood and thought you rush your blood pressure goes high or whatever you seen the human beings you cannot say that this is what anger is.

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You know, okay because that's a human beings anger but not Allah subhanaw taala is anger

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and the anger of Allah Subhana Allah is not a negative things like humans, humans anger, make them lose control, when the anger of a loved one that like doesn't make that impact on him. It just show you that this is something that the last month Allah hates.

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Also, there is a difference between arrogance and self respect.

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Yeah, por una LiFi can keep out when we're in nama radula nan multifeed, Villa Gemma, this claim that I'm arrogant, but I'm not. I'm just a person who have self respect.

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There's a big difference between the two. When you have that self respect for yourself, and people respect you versus being arrogant. They

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respect okay.

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Comes respect comes from knowing your values, from knowing the blessings of Allah subhana wa Tada, on you. People respect you as a result of the good quality that you have asked for arrogance. It comes from ignorance, not knowing and recognizing your strength. It's because you're fool. You're fooling yourself. That's what I think we deal with it like, you know, do things on a cultural level. We see our elders, our parents, the culture, the everything, people you work for, I mean, people talk down to condescending, you get so muddy, so extreme if you deal with it.

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Good question.

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How do you deal with people who are arrogant? you advise them and you avoid them? And you? I mean, somebody act arrogant with me. I just given the advice. Like there is no need for you to do that. But the problem is accusing somebody with being arrogant is also can put you in trouble. But you can reject the statement or the action that don't talk to me this way. There's no need for you to use this kind of language when you talk to him. Yeah, anyway.

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For example, between different cultures, you might feel arrogance from the other culture that you're not worthy of marrying a woman from that culture, for example, and they're like, you know, and then you're dealing with this girl, and

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they do stuff to you, that energetically turns the Hey, and they take action on that they they backstab you, they lie about you, and they try to sabotage your situation. So you have to protect yourself, but you have to deal with it. Yeah, that's why but sometimes part of the dealing because he can change people, let's send like somebody was a racist, for example. And racism isn't the result of arrogance. I cannot change that. So what I do, I just avoid the person.

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I think that he should be avoided and by cop like people until he or she changed.

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Going back to what I'm saying competent versus arrogant. This is an important point because exactly like when we say, humility, in a humility tava is to think less about yourself. Not to think less of

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for yourself, to others to think less about yourself, but never thinking less of yourself. That's not humility.

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Also, confidence is a feeling of self assurance that comes from an appreciation of our abilities and qualities. arrogance is a characterized by having an exaggerated sense of our importance or abilities.

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Luckily, there are few clues that can help us to spot arrogance. With our with ourselves. arrogance, individuals often believe that they have nothing to learn from others.

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Okay, so the act like I know it all. They fight tooth and nails to be right, and to show that others are wrong. As a result, they don't listen to other people's view nor the grow confidence people in contrary,

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have no problem to listen, have no problem to learn. They are aware that they don't know everything and are happy to learn from others.

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arrogant people also like to talk about themselves about themselves. A lot of time, they will focus on themselves. That's the Eric that's one of the signs they just thought that arrogance or not. they brag about their achievement skills, abilities, and often ignore those who around them in meetings. And and I guess, last administration showed us clearly Yeah, it was a clear example of the president sometimes comes up and he say I did I did, I did I did even the check that you run to you you have is B that's just crazy. Somebody like you and it's all the world's centering around his present is a good example of see how arrogance this sign of arrogance.

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Conversely, confident people may shine a light on their colleagues achievements and meetings and group work. They ask for input, encourage teamwork, and generously praises their co workers. arrogance often makes

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is no off any arrogance, people's masks their insecurity.

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That's the opposite of confidence.

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That's why arrogant people are

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truthful about their achievement and abilities, while tending to

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demean others.

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Confidence on the other hand, stem from true self worth, ability believe and a pride in their achievement in their achievements and abilities. confident people also have self assurance that contributes to inner calm, they show composure and do not brag or act

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superior to others.

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Alternatively, arrogance repels us nobody likes to spend time around or again people or to keep them president for two terms.

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By competent people are the opposite. They inspire others. They are more spend time with people like to spend time with them to talk to them to basically become Yanni because they develop confidence in other people and elevate them up versus that kid put people down.

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Five more minutes shall stop once the head of the Sandoval the Alo annual Pilar colossal ly sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, Allah Jalla to Muna shavon Salomon Sandro the Alliance said that the Prophet sallallahu Sallam said,

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Hey haste comes from shavonne haste comes from the shavon religion by tirmidhi who agreed it is a hassle.

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But this holiday reported by Salomon sad, sad, even sad. Aside Saturday, I will abus has Raja Ansari his father was a companions who died in the town of the prophets of Salaam and the live that in the lifetime of the process. He reported many a hadith and his The Lost companions who died in Medina is the last companions were damaged in any way. He was the last one left and Medina from the companions of the process

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and he was about 100 years old.

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He lived Mashallah long life by the way his name was hasn't

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which it means like difficult and like sad and never said no no he told his father change his this boy's name called call him sad easy.

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So in the visa Sallam change his name to set which is an easy purse

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the heavier Hema en la rocket so we're just looking inside him Sasha Rama in his lifetime. He was married to 15 woman in his lifetime he lived my shalonda tears not at the same time 15

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but over the course of his years and it looks like he he married several times

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one after another that to the extent one of his wedding time

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attended by nine from his ex wives

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attended his walima nine of them attended and they lined up outside when he was taking the bride leaving with her

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lining up watching

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and they call the column How you doing about a bus? Okay, our boss How you doing?

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I will pass and it was embarrassing because he basically at that time he was not using this Kenya he was using the Kenya of Abuja, so just to remind him with the old good days, I guess. Anyway, Salomon Assad lived long as I said, and he witnessed the time of it had judge and then had judge humiliated him either low or the Lama

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had judge told him Why didn't you fight with Earth man on earth man needed help? He said I did I actually supported Earth man. He said You're a liar.

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Then he owed me an OBE for huitema hironaka for hajima fee. rune okay?

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What that means he was

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putting mephedrone Okay, as well as it had died. Did this

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an anus of all the Allahu anhu Alba

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and he did this to Jabba Abdullah and this inhotim scholar said it is branding you know when you have you have an iron your brand the animals

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branding So yeah, that's what he did to them he did a mark on the neck

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tire This is the profits of a lot his company companion

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and he marked them in their neck he marked Salim sudden isn't it because you did not you did not show support to the qualifier and to the oma yet that he was serving and earth man anyway and he did this to Anna Sydney Malik and he said

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to Annecy, idiomatic wasn't I was told that you were the prophets of Salaam servant, otherwise I would have killed you.

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I would have followed that up to

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cut your heads off. But only that and jab at him now Abdullah, he brand him in his hand

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and when they brand them with a certain symbol, so when you see someone with that symbol, nobody allowed to talk to them, or to give them the proper respect. It's a form of disrespect.

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people not allowed to talk to them in public and a form of humiliation to them.

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and the reason he was angry at LSB Matic because

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he supported the movement of Natasha, or people who were with Natasha, and had died sold him. Natasha is a somebody who rebel against the omits and against that had just had that fortune until had just defeated him. Judges the general represent the omits Empire at that time, or Halawa. Anyway and that's when it judge also he was so angry at Omar I don't know if you guys know that. He just so angered with the tea poison of an armada. That's why I'm gonna die. He died by poison. He made someone while normal to make him throw off, have a poison spear and when he walked he just

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cut him

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off it takes just a small cut.

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Sorry, then he died a

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couple days later.

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And anyway, some Remember I said no, it knows not a branding pod babraham

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Latin means means

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type of necklace made of

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certain led into the lead or was it made a flood and it will be tied around their neck or tied around their hand.

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And it's like a Mark

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says it's not like really brand new but it's like a marquee put some kind of necklace around the neck. The point is to identify them that those people are in trouble. troublemaker bad people avoid them. It's a form of humiliation. Regardless, this hadith reported by tirmidhi

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and Hadith is very, very weak actually. And it's not from the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam but it seems to be something from Al Hassan or they allow Anwar

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Allah statement is not from the profits on a lot. So number two, just a statement from an element. Angela so the Prophet haste. haste comes from Satan. He's come from Satan. Hey, being hasty and being rushed and hasty. Definitely it is from the sheer Pon

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Why? Because when you hasty in doing things, a shared bond, you became an unbalanced not thinking clearly and that want to share mine can deceive you that want to share bond can mislead you that ownership one can get you because he didn't take your time to think and to process things and the proper way. Also from the SharePoint, it means a SharePoint wants you to be hasty. It could means that shippon wants you to be hasty. He encouraged you to be hasty. He pushed you to be hasty in your decisions and in your life and your reactions and so forth.

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Why hasty, being hasty, something bad? Because most of the time when you're hasty you make mistakes.

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You don't understand things correctly. When you're hasty and your answer. You're hasty to your reactions hasty to make a decision. And also those hasty people just immediately,

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you know, will make this hasty and in his actions and decisions in his

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reactions. Usually those people regret what they did, and that's a sign of a surfer, or kiloton after this person or wanting a wise person. This is a sign that this person is not wise.

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Being hasty or hasty, hasty

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hastiness, the non ob Hmm.

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Yeah. hastiness is from the ship on it. And it comes a lot in the time of fit and a time of confusion, you know, a time of rumors. And that's why we need in, especially in our time, especially social media, not to be hasty

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to come down to take our time. And I give you examples of hasty things. That was disaster, like being hasty in declaring war. Some of us are old enough to remember after 911

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when we immediately you know, is so hasty that the era Anwar and bomb and gun in my opinion, it was, was there is a history of the way dealt with the community, you know, that is a hasty in decline. And if you look in history, oh my god, there is like, plenty of examples of how war started because of a hasty, quick reactions. And that's people, millions of people die because of decision like this, or hundreds of 1000s of them. Also, being hasty in judging people judging actions, making a judgement. That's why the judge take his time. He's not hasty and making judgment. Also, being hasty in accusation,

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accusing people and just because he's so any sign and he's accused the person right away. No, you should not be hasty, especially when it comes to accusations and become judging people's actions and also what is bad when you're hasty in your reaction is so bad. You have to learn not to be hasty in your reaction.

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You have to come down to think

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also, a lot of people hasty in changing positions, powerline, I saw that a lot, some people or the live the leaving something, just because somebody said something online.

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He was uh oh now I change

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I'm gonna have you all your life you've been doing this all your life you believe in that all the live you you're doing that and just an overnight you just change and it's not small thing it's a big thing

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to major thing you know what I know my husband all this time I know my wife I know my share I know my friend all this years and now just I changed my mind my complete position on this person didn't just overnight know

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all my life I know. Like Can you believe I was hearing today? A program's okay. wasn't one of the Muslim countries TVs in one of the biggest Muslim countries in Egypt. Yeah, and in Azhar an element and is not an IT. This is a great country peaking of knowledge

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and one of their main TVs.

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TVs, they're one of their very well known generals there his whole entire episode about what

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don't ever believe that that has anything to call us our knowledge, all this lie that never happened and just made up.

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I mean, I only see people comments in the YouTube. Oh, I didn't know that. This is I mean all your life.

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You know that you just over it because you heard somebody talking nonsense. And now you change. That tasty that's the fit and the people very ready to change.

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Also, one of the thing that you should not be hasty about hasty in passing the information.

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Don't be hasty in sharing everything come to you. Every piece of information come to you on social media. Don't be hasty and forward forward. Like

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it has to stop, we have to learn. That's what I'm the shaper, because that's how the evil spread.

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Another form of hastiness, that I think it is also important when people are hasty for confrontation.

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They just want confrontation. They love confrontation with governments, with enemies with people, they just push for it

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with a spouse and one husband and wife, don't push for. Don't be hasty to that.

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Okay. Also, one of the form of hasty

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hastiness is when people are

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hasty in quitting. Anybody could quickly.

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Yeah, you try and try to change yourself.

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I'm not give up on myself.

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Don't give up on yourself. Quickly. Don't be hasty making that decision. Take your time, things will change over time. One of the things that is so bad also to do it very quickly and fast and not take your time. You know what?

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my wife always told me that I'm a very fast eater. I'm hasty I

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am punished. And she just started she's just Bismillah.

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And she's to slaughter.

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But like, we're the opposite. I'm trying and he always saw me she's really, you never enjoy your food. Because what there's no time for you to enjoy your food. By the time you put it, you swallow.

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You take your time, just enjoy the food. Eating fast not only increases your risk of becoming overweight

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and obese. It's also linked to other health problems, including insulin resistance.

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Type Two Diabetes, eating fast has been associated with a higher risk of type two diabetes. One study found that fast eaters were 2.5 times more likely to get the disease compared to those who eat slowly.

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2.5 times more likely to get the disease. Also, metabolic syndrome, tablet syndrome when you have three problems, high blood pressure, and you have diabetes and cholesterol.

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You get all these three together. Also one of the reasons study

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shows rabid eating and an associated with weight gain may increase your risk of metabolic syndrome, a group of risk factors that may raise your risk of diabetes and heart diseases. Also, fast eating leads to poor digestion.

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Also, lower satisfaction. Fast eaters tend to rate their meals as less pleasant. She's right. Compared with slow eater. This may not be health problem, per seat, per se, but it is important. Any point as well. One of the form of haste hate hastiness, that I think it also shouldn't be careful about. Can you guess? Another thing that people do very hasty and quickly and it's so dangerous?

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praying? No, that one is dangerous, physically dangerous.

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Driving is ecolog so hasty in their driving. So curl.

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very aggressive. Yeah, speeding, you know,

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speeding was a factor in 26% of all traffic fatalities, in 2018, killing 9378 or an average of over 25 per day. 25 people die every day. Because of speeding. That's also in America.

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The total number of fatal motor vehicle crashes attributed to speeding was 1447.

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Teens are more likely

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than older drivers to speed and allowed shorter headways. The distance from the front of one bagel to the front of the next

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if a driver

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Okay, listen to this. If a driver doubles his her speed,

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say from 30 miles per hour to 60 and you double your speed

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the braking distance does not became twice as long.

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Okay, it become four times as far as

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four times that you need double the speed, you basically quantum that distance of break

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distance as far as traveling, if you're traveling at speed of 55

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miles per hour, that's not too fast right?

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It will take about six seconds to stop the vehicle.

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The vehicle will travel approximately 302 feet before coming to a stop

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a complete stop.

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That's longer than the length of a football field by the way.

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All right. hastiness also has a lot of psychological

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impact. Like what

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can you think what tasteless will have to so always hasty ocsd the psychological impact

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makes you not enjoy life. Everything is fast, fast, fast fast. Also make you worry all the time. No patient

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scared freight as if something just chasing you.

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In an Obi sallallahu Sallam told I said jab the ice. You have two qualities Allah Allah loves them. said what are they? part l Hill mu L Annette Annette you take your time. You're not tasting

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something Allah loves the opposite of what the shavon loves. shaitaan loves hastiness, Allah some of our loves when you take your time.

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Learn how to take your time.

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One of the tools that I found it very helpful dicker before you answer before you say before you respond before you make any talk back. Learn how to say stop or a maximum of hours.

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Even in fatwah I love it when the some of the element and my teachers and my colleagues when we are like about to answer Federer before he opened his mouth. He showed me some buzz. Before he ends or any question he will be like, stolen or lost or lost or

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stolen on last night.

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Then he had

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chef de la benchmade one of my great teachers as well. He was used to be the Grand Mufti of Saturday before the

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that whenever somebody asked him a question, he repeats the question. So he gives himself time to think.

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It doesn't matter how long the question he would repeat the question. Exactly. marginalizing excellent memory.

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one time champion who made it comes the questions comes with appropriation, like let's say

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some are Muhammad,

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okay. So, she will put what s m sr, s m, Summer maham.

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So, one time he got a question, and in the end, he said, he repeat the whole question. And then he said, and this sister who referred to herself as

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a, ti, A, which means are named father, but did not understand the concept of procreation. Because the point is not to cut your name and letters, you know, it's just,

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but see, even recognize, you know, who will listen and pay attention to the name of the person? Usually, you know, you focus on the answer, but throw him on.

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So, he takes his time before answer. So that's one thing that will help you a lot. To not to be hasty not to be hasty.

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That's what I have in regard to these two headings.

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And Shall we continue next week, today in in huddle, the drama I talked about the issue of attaching your heart to the dunya and the importance of attaching your heart from the dunya attach it to the archive and do things for the sake of Allah subhanaw taala and I just want to say one point, that helps a lot to to apply this which is

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Watch your tongue.

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Watch your thing, make sure that you talk all most of your talk not about the junior

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try to increase the amount of talk about Allah but the aka yourself, your family, your social media, make sure that you look just look at the percentage, just this is a very practical way to increase your attachment to the outcome. Because something You talk a lot about it, you will attach to it more the impact of appearance, your your outside to your inner sight.

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So this is can be a very powerful tool to

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make you more connected to the athalon to Allah subhanaw taala in your

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actions. Now las panatela accept from all of us zirkel malatya in sha Allah.

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We're going to go back to the class to be after SATA mode. Because the Sunday we're going to spring

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which it means one hour extra, so a show will be very late to have an afterthought in the shop. So we'll have the cost of a software model shall now be around what seven something 730 so shallow will be

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100 call

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