Channel: Waleed Basyouni
spil are from the Los Altos Rasul Allah, Allah, Allah He.
All prayers do to align His praise and blessings and peace be upon the Prophet Muhammad Sallallahu sallam, his family, his companions and his followers until the
last week, our class was the over,
the Facebook and it was live from my house. I couldn't come here.
And the focus of last year last Lastly, last week, last week, the focus of last week was about the concept of
lm era which is arguing with someone to prove them wrong or to pick on somebody talk just in order for you to show that this person to show this person's mistakes.
Today, the hurry to talk about how we say the holy grail, they allow one particular Rasulullah sallallahu wasallam ha sletten Elijah Tamia and if he movement
masala and buffalo so hold on to me Do you have you sent an email off? You're called have that
haven't had Java him on law still the chapter is about the warning from bad mannerism who taught him and
then he reports the three that will really allow underrated the Messenger of Allah said there are two characteristics which are not combined in a believer miserliness and bad moral
miserliness and bad monster, immoral or bad manner. This head is reported by tirmidhi with the weakness and it's changed. This had it also reported by Buhari who followed in his book 11 more fraud and Jeremy rahima who lies the only one that reported this hadith from the six books the famous six books which they are under like you know what all the six books
of widowhood excellent
and necec excellent, very good doctor. These six books have had it some of the earlier model hemolysin Mr. Lim undestood have imagined
some amount when they say the six the million lines to match, but the famous one the six books of Howdy. So the only one from the six books of highly famous books of Hadith reported to me that I came along and it turned me they said after that this hadith is very bland it for eliminating the sort of potted emotion and he meant by Arabia in a week and it only reported from South Africa, even Musa sodapoppin Musa is a weak Narrator As an Imam, Abu Dawood and Bill Murray in an unnecessary and abundant ad you have to be hard or data opening, all of them said there is very weak generator.
But the concept and the meaning is correct.
Which is the criticism of these two character traits, Khosla 10, the word hustler 10, two characteristics, two qualities,
two traits, it cannot be combined in a believer and a hustler, the character traits it means something that can be good and bad, okay. here obviously something bad because they cannot be two of them exist in the same time in a believer language to me on the process of them said the do not
exist or not combined question Is this a statement?
The statement statement, they are not are not combined in them to make a statement making this way. He negating that they don't like the question is is this people have bad manners and have and they are stingy.
They will never say they cannot be combined or they are not combined anywho about me.
But the reality is there is a lot that as many people might have these two qualities together. And then so that shows you that didn't be so solid when he said are not combined. They will not be together in a believer. He didn't mean to make it as a story.
statement he meant to say these should not a believer should not have these two. In this in Arabic language we say that the hub of your Adobe Hill in Sha, this is a statement, but it's not meant for itself it meant to tell you to not have these two quality. It's like last panel data set, divorce woman should stay three or three cycles.
If you look, if you want to translate the statement, it's not doesn't say should it says woman or divorce. They wait three, just sustain. But actually when he translated and we understand from that statement, you should wait three cycles, three periods. But
elbow, elbow comes from bahala. And be careful what Alberto says stinginess or miserliness, what it means. It means originally, when you don't give people what they deserve,
or who have sushi
and that's why we used to call bull for those who will hold back the water
from those who needs the water.
That's what you call stingy so stinginess in Sharia, it is to hold back to hold back what other people deserve you and you don't give people their due rights. That's what alcohol means or stinginess. miserliness means
and mindfulness our level. So you the concept of mindfulness, I don't want you to think about it just money. Mindfulness is a big concept. It's like generosity. You're generous with your words, with your smile, with your money with your time, but also you can be stingy stingy with your smile, stingy with your good words. You barely say anything good. You're stingy with your money is stingy with your time is stingy with your position like Allah give me a position that I can help a lot of people have a lot of connection, but I'm stingy. I don't want to share that with anyone. You know, I don't help people.
So that's that's all this under the concept of stingy, miserliness.
And somehow a lot and a Muslim is the opposite and Muslim cannot be stingy and Muslim is generous. Corinne
inbee sallallahu alayhi wa sallam.
And this one of the what we learned from this issue, there's some benefits from the sorry, that Astin miserliness and stinginess is a bad quality. It's a bad quality by individual saddam said B cannot be exist in a Muslim, bad manners, bad character trait, and stinginess. Is that why this is we call this an Arabic language. It's a way of talking in Arabic. We call this up falam. Aloha. Aloha Salah. Yeah, and you mentioned something General, then you follow up with one specific of the general like, for example, the last month Allah said, Whoever believed in the angels and believe in debris, it doesn't mean jabril is not an angel.
Allah says, Whoever believe in the angels and debris, when you say and debris doesn't mean any Arabic person listening to this talk will not understand jabril is not an angel type Why? He said, believing in ANGEL and believing in Djibouti because he want to emphasis on the importance of believing in jabril
Is that clear? So that's why he mentioned it after even though he's included in the angel but he mentioned by name to mention how important this is all the students came today and the crowd
just to show how important his presence means, okay.
Just an example but
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while Bala they were horrible, Obara, they know how to better recharge. Your ally seek refugee with you from the following, and him will happen in him. The worry about things that it's gonna happen in the future, and I worry about the future will happen is to worry about the past.
Okay you're up Don't make me ever worry about the future or worry about may pass
will as well castle Europe I asked you to protect me from airlines is when I'm interested in something but I'm not able to do it
not capable to doing it I don't have the means to do it and in kesar when I have the means and the ability to do things but I like the interest
because if all of you to do anything you need abilities and what and well so if you don't have these two you cannot accomplish anything if you have the will but you don't have the abilities and the means you're not going to do it. And if you have the means but you don't have the Will you will not gonna do it.
So he's saying y'all are protecting me from these two to have the world but no ability or to have the ability but I don't have no arm no well or no interest. And I asked you protection from an jubin while
miserliness and what cowardness
Why? Because cowardness when you hold back when you hold back from when you became a stingy with your body
any um so I'm when somebody is coward will not stand up and protect
coward when he see people beating up you don't know why
coward he can stand up and protect people
can't basically stand up for what is right
and and when you are holding back your money part of no pain Rahim Allah
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benefiting people have been through two ways through your money and physically you're helping them and benefit
and the opposite of that is not to benefit them with your money or physically. That's why he asked the last month of protection from these two. Well Bala indane wahala better region.
Well, what are they all about wahala better region and to be overtaken by that. Or I can basically
win men are or people are oppressed and cannot stand up and speak for themselves or speak the truth.
In Nebojsa Salaam he asked a lot protection from miserliness. And in Abu Salah Muslim give an example of the stingy person, like a person who have a suit made of iron headed armor.
A full body suit made of iron
it's the process of them said the stingy person every time there is an opportunity for sada what happened this arm, the suit that came more what
tight and tighter and tighter until he suffocate.
As for the generous person, every time there is opportunity and he gives and we can lose on lighter
and then maybe someone was doing like this he put his finger and he was doing like this like big and bigger and making a space he's like demonstrating how this can be in a loose or tight
that's why it was Pamela when you hold back your son, your goodness, your help to others. Allah make your because when you help other you make it easy on them. Because you hold it back Allah make it harder for you.
Jabara the Allah who said that NW salatu salam when he came, he said, Yeah, but he said Mr. Mensa you do come. Yeah Benny Salama, who is your forefather to pride I'm proud of many selama lives in Medina, a little bit farther. If you've been to Medina,
a little bit in the skirt now it's inside Medina but before it was skirt, Miriam polyjet dignitize we're in La nouba. Hello.
Our great grandfather. We belong to are we proud of who our agenda of no pace but he was stingy man. Then in the Bissell Salam said what are you there in a minute?
What can be worse quality than being a stingy that should not be
The forefather or the person that you're proud of in your history. You know what, who's really your forefathers it should be proud of
who say you do Coleman. Hi.
I'm Roger Moore was a generous man. This is your master and this is the person who should be, you know?
Yeah, and you're proud of.
In nebby salatu salam said also what double should
be careful from stinginess, it destroyed nation or people before you.
In a very solid line is seldom said in the end of the days and the end of the days, you will assure people became more stingy, more stingy and spam in the end of the days also the holiday speaks about there is a lot of wealth, inequality.
There's a lot of wealth. But yet there is a lot of miserliness and a lot of stingy people.
Why? Because the stinginess, it never was about the money. It's about the attitude.
It's the audit. That's why you can be so generous, even though you have very little money.
And you can have a lot of money but you are stingy.
I've been hijacked by Pamela pallulah caution if you call openness it will be in the heart of the people since stinginess, pardon me so so
to show you a different format of a stinginess part of hollowness Who is the most sustained g person
parliament is Salim beheaded and whoever is a stingy to give you sanim or to reply to your setup. Yeah, and he passed my you
That's the most stingy if he's stingy with Salaam Alaikum. What do you think he will give you money or he will donate. By also individual Allah Sallam said, I will believe the true stingy person for eternity. Men do kill to India when I'm useful. They are the one who I will be mentioned in front of him or her and they will not say sallallahu wasallam mamasan
Muhammad, your own hairbrush coffee. I was in the presence of Ahmedabad, Hamburg,
in one nanometer off euro, aluminum, magnesium, aluminium and had a moment in my visa money. One of the great scholars were headed near Hebron they will remember they're sitting together and there is a lot of people around them.
For edge mo as odd scholars for asthma all of them agree, unknown liar for now do alongside him but
they don't know anyone who is a righteous person and stingy in the same time.
They couldn't think of anyone that we know being righteous and stingy in the same time.
Men hordes himselves when he has nothing to give away.
People are stingy when they don't have anything to have it reflect what people are. That's why right righteous people have a lot to offer a lot to give you both and have been arrayed the law in knowledge to be a Malina may
lead you to be a money manager bokhara nakina naspo della one of the generals, scholars and people of his time, he said don't think that because I'm generous or generous people don't have the love for the money. No we do. But we have some we're patient.
You're gonna hear the Mad Mirfield and believe us here it is in
one hour can offer Jarrah
generous people people love them even if they are not righteous even if they are capital.
And those who are stingy, people hate them even if they are the most righteous people. Even if he is Mashallah, Salama, stingy, nobody want nobody stand up person. Nobody care for what O'Connor abramo
stingy people have any weird attitude stingy people is all about taking never give. They said one person who was stingy was drowning in the water.
so stingy. So somebody tried to help him. And he said he reached out to him so the stingy person saw him and you know, he's about to pull him out of the water. So the guy in the boat said, Give me your hand. So the word and he said Give me your hand. He pulled his hand back in
You know then the other guy said no I know how to get him out Take my hand and then he stretches and any pull them up you know
there's a lot of funny story about stingy people there is a guy who's so stingy he bought three apples
he three orange sorry, he peeled the first orange it was rotten and bad. So he threw it away and as part of his heart went to the trash then he cut the other one also bad and you throw it away. Oh, good day Good. Then now the third one left. So he did he turn off the light and open as an agent.
He doesn't want to know what this is. how bad it is, you know?
Yeah. They said also us one more thing just they said that is a stingy person who was
you know, in his shop. So somebody came and he gave him a dinar you know, Bitcoin gold.
And he was so happy with it to the fall of his hand. And it started rolling. So he started chasing it. But it went to the drainage and he lost it. He couldn't believe he just lost the dinar he fainted. miskeen
You know, people came on Okay, trying to wake him up. So you know, you need a very strong smell to wake the person up. So they went in the garden big onion from the store. Smash the onion, the brush.
He wake up and it's what happened. He said You chased that dinar until he lost it. And when you couldn't get it, you just fainted. Then we wake you up.
We use this big onion. He said where you got it from? From your store. He fainted again.
light I have seen stingy people in my life. Unbelievable. Unbelievable. Very tight.
Very tight. Yeah. And he very, very tight.
It's okay to be careful about your money. But just you know, there is two areas there is Harlem area.
And there is area where as a good man of bad manner.
You know, the hot arm and when you became a stingy that you don't give people the rights, you stingy that you don't give your Zakat you didn't give the Sadako which is watchman you.
You know when you know that people unhealthy don't give your parents and your wife and your family.
And there is an area that is an area where it's recommended. It's not about sin, it's about you with a lot of new words. It's a good quality. And I know it's hard. I know some people known to be stingy some families, some countries known of being tied up. And we have all these dogs like in Egypt and in Palestine and Pakistan and every area. You know in subcontinent area, you will find people all these are stingy, blah, blah. But you know what, you know, every big people have a sense of bourlon and Harris and holding back, but we should find that and we learn how to be generous. And I said with everything.
When I was in high school.
I had a guy in my days.
He's not my friend because he's not a religious person. But one of the people that I know him is in the neighborhood, okay. I know who he is. I know his father, his father, multi billionaire, not millionaire billionaire.
And his father's on love very live very differently anyway.
It's fine. I don't know if his father is stingy but tight. Let's put it this way.
Tight with his children tight with his son.
One of the brothers told me and last night we were having a dinner
and so and so said something made me
a shaking from inside.
He said to the people in dinner, he said guys wait. When my father died, each one of you will get 10,000
just make a little dog. But he died quickly.
That's how much he hates his father.
His father has this mentality.
Oh, you have to start from scratch,
that you have any whatever money you have. If you and your children and the children of your children or the children of your children can go for five duration, they spend an unbelievable amount of money every year. They will not go broke.
You're a multi billionaire.
And this money growing.
I understand you want your son to talk to teach your son, but doesn't mean he needs to start from scratch. From zero.
You give them responsibility, but doesn't mean that he did. What's the difference between the last time that I give you the money for what? To take it with you in your grave?
Don't make your son spoiled brat. But also don't make him suffer. Make him an hamdulillah field in the name of Allah.
It just I hate when they see that because the stinginess is very bad quality. And again, this Think of it as a big cause.
I'll take the second hand quickly is for short, then we'll call for the nature of why we are a total Delano colocado salatu salam and Mr. Bernie marcada final body man amiata Dilma Raja who Muslim the water of the line narrated the process of them said when the two men insult one another, what they say is mainly the fault of the one who begin it. So as long as the one is oppressed does not transgress and it does not apply back with transgression. So all the sin will be the one who started reported by Muslim and Mr. Ban the people who curse one another and the person Musa and Mr. banyon in the people who said his curse comes from sababa which is this finger. Why because in the old days
they used to
accuse people and insult people by pointing this finger to them so they call them sebab that's why when Islam came, they changed this to become a massage
and massage the how you will learn that is part of a Shara bill must have been the change the culture because we make this beer on them. When c'est la ilaha illAllah in the old days said butchered mean cursing and using to insult people anyway and the people who curse and insult one another, the one who started will take the the sin the other person if he started replying and start no
transgressing he will take that sent
what we learn from this hobby.
This hand he shows you that
if a person insults you, and you reply with an insult, you will be sending like him.
Somebody cursing you cursing you will be sending like him and if you start basically saying the harm okay, but if somebody insults you and you reply with something that is not Haram in itself, but to defend yourself even if it has insult in it, let's say you have no manners you this and you said something enough Haram in itself that's allowed.
So somebody said something back to me and he said something back to them, but the thing that I said bad to them back is not how long in itself that is no for example, oh, curse or son of this or using false language, you know, or making lie or accusing big co for in these things will just add on for itself.
You know, that's will be you transgress and you deserve to be sinful at this point. But if I somebody said back to me and I replied back with a strong language to the person that's not a sin.
Are you lean
out mubadala do because the sin on the person who started to investigate it. So he started off our honor replied back. I'm not sending I'm just defending myself. And Allah subhanaw taala said when levena either asaba whom will belly whom ianto soon, for many toda la confected to Allah he be mythri Matata alikum la himbo la Jara be su Illa Mira Tony in Amman vollem. These verses shows that you're allowed to defend yourself. You're allowed to talk back, but the element put that pipe that the only thing you're not allowed is to see what's in itself.
problem what is in itself good for?
What is in its so is how long in itself. But if somebody somebody said You stupid OnStar like and somebody replies it I'm not stupid, you know you dumb to think I'm stupid that's just you simply it's not a best of manner but it's not a sin, but it's a sin on the person who started it and accusing.
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Tyler either shatta Maccabee Shaq tomatin fish Tomoko mithila Monterey and Todd Todd, Cydia, human logic creator of the tab insert, somebody said bad words might apply with the same bad word to them as long as in itself enough how long and the word that in itself is haram if it contained cover if it contained land,
slander, slonaker law something like that, if it contained false accusations, if it contain accusation with adultery, like Oh son of this or son of that,
or cursing his parents or something of that nature, people love religion to learn about our human life said
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it is allowed for you to reply but no doubt agree that not to reply is better. Not to lower yourself to that person standard is better. Why? Because the [???]ty asset environment forgive those who transgress against you, Sherry acid you should have the higher moral standard. Come out of
three Sherry I said infallibility acid. When someone acts with ignorance against you don't be ignorant like him, treat them with the best. Sherry I said, always say call higher and say what is good and colusa deeds choose the best of words. is Sherry acid, be patient have stubborn so if you look at all these principles and Sharia, you will know for sure that not to reply to the person with the same is better. We're in tactful and tactful Acropolis taqwa. Well yeah for years for Who am I to hipbone a young fella with a family.
I drew arama all these verses talking about those so forgive and let things go. That's why I lost my dad. I said, Well Edina is also bahaman Billy humean posse rune, those who when someone turns aggressor transgress against them, they defend themselves and they seek revenge and this week, basically, to fight back. Okay, Jani and
Carla What does that say? He didn't say to mithila Furman after our drywall Yes, somebody said bad thing to you good sit bad back to them.
Like him. But tell us at Furman I fell asleep but whoever willing to forgive whoever willing to let go for a Jew who Allah that He rewarded with Allah what that means that he worked with Allah yeah Annie Allah The one who knows how much reward will be for that person is like when you say fasting they
belong to Allah. In hula your body mean? Making sure that you don't transgress? Listen to the next one. Well, in many dasara Bhagavad may not come out of him in Serbia. against him. If you take revenge for yourself, no blame for you. In a seminar and a lead in every moon blame should go to those who transgress and Medina will the moon and NASS were born out of the villa. Cara Hamada would leave the transgress against people and abuse people with no rights those people that is a great punishment. Then I come and says what am sabara haha yes sir. Then also like give the other alternative those who are patient also willing to forgive in Metallica, lemon as well or more. This
is among the higher standard because not everybody can't hold themselves from fighting back.
That's not everybody. It's beautiful. How the verse give tell you what's permissible, then give you the better option. And this is sort of the shorter verse 39 to 43.
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The movie bill AF in Canada, Germany, na demon, McLaren some element differentiate between somebody talked back to you. And that person that is arrogance, full of arrogance or Cofer or somebody capital who hate or disrespect to Muslims, you know, who put you down that person, you don't talk back to them or has forgiven me know that back, you basically show a strength so that you will not show weakness in Islam. I remember when they claim that they're going to have a gun. People demonstrate in front of the massage in Houston, they're going to bring the rifle you remember that the simply going to get Brian rifle on stand up in the massage for intimidating the Muslims, some
these islamophobes and anti Muslims. So we're going to bring our rifles on stand in front of the mustards, blah, blah, blah. So all the brothers was in the meeting in the Houston level said, I think we should bring lemonade and roses.
And we give them some flowers and lemonade.
I said, I'm bringing my gun.
Are you breaking my gun, and I'm gonna make my gun appear, you know, I'm gonna stick on my side and walk right in front of them.
Because I don't believe at that point. You need to show strength, not weakness.
Not saying go shoot them. No, but you know what you want to show you an act like mantra. And I'm strong too, because that's a time where you want not to look weak.
At least that's my stance. So what I'm saying, but I mean the highest thing that when the verse said, forgive and let go and be patient, this is with someone who made a mistake who lost control out of anger and lash at you. But someone was doing it in purpose of humiliating the truth humiliating Muslims remitting that the hap and somebody taking advantage of you. Like you know what, there is an abused relationship. Somebody just keep pushing, pushing, pushing your house Enough is enough.
Not gonna let it go. I'm gonna stand up and stop.
And I think that's a very, very good way of combining between the evidence. And according to your Rahim, Allah Tada.
And he mentioned a very beautiful quote from El Kheir. povery para volumen in Tucson about a woman that you can marry him in Serbia Delica battle in dishonored and
those who basically seek revenge for or for himself, that shows you it's permissible, but it's not something that you've been ordered to do. Would you have been ordered to do to have Saba and to forgive? Okay, and this is in case of someone who did it out of mistakes or or one time, but those who insist to transgress, it's better to reply back and to stop the person.
And he said, Because Allah said after that livina either asaba homall belding Tana sorrow la Ito
similar to what we just said earlier, this is what I want to comment in the Howdy. Again, the heavy talk about one of the bad manners is almost to use false language and, and cursing and insulting people. That's a bad quality.
And it's one of the dangerous things of the tongue. And remember, in Libby Solon told us that one of the things that will lead to Hellfire as,
as the as is one of the things that lead people most of you to the Hellfire is the results of the action of their actions that is done through their tongue, the words that we the things that we say.
We ask Allah subhanaw taala to give us the best of manners, and to purify our tongue alarm will stop in Charlotte next week. We'll continue with
two more Heidi if
there's any questions or comments. We'll take it in the zoom we have
any questions from
what is it?
Oh, the man that he said. This is our grandfather.
Oh, boy, he was very well known of generosity. He used to be very generous person. And even he will offer sheep and camels for those who get wet, get married and a very big donor.
And he ended up Muslim to
a maybe. Yeah, indeed a Muslim. Yes, quite often Baptists in general.