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Waleed Basyouni

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Shaykh Waleed Basyouni advises us on the etiquette when visiting.

Lecture was given at the Clear Lake Islamic Center.

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100 Allahu wa salatu salam O Allah May Allah be a vida who Nabina Muhammad wa ala alihi wa sahbihi wa salam ala hamata Sleeman kathira and know that all praise due to Allah and His praise and blessings and peace be upon our Prophet Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, his family, his companions and his followers until the day of judgment, I bear witness that was the only one worthy of worship and Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, his last and final messenger, my brothers and sisters, and these days during the holidays, which is coming up,

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one of the good thing that we see that a lot of family visit one another, a lot of friends, a lot of people get invited to other people's house and to, there is so many social activity take place in the society and inside our community, as well. Because of the nature of the holiday, and no doubt that visiting one another for the sake of Allah subhana wa tada is indeed an act of worship, believe it or not, even though it's a social thing, but if you have the right intention when you visit someone at his or her house, that's something Allah subhana wa Taala love because it increased the love between the members of the society and increase the relationship and strengthen the

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relationship at Islam looking forward for a community for our society, that they love one another they care for another then they know one another. So they will help one another as well. Allah Subhana Allah certain this hadith it would see and it's an authentic hadith

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Palawan Shabbat Maha Betty lil Mata have been a year what Jabba Mohammed Beti lil motor have been a fear while motor jealousy in a fear while motor bodily in a fear while Mutasa will interfere. Yeah, and it is our jet Venus ln l motors our in well metallocene that My love will be granted to those who love one another for my sake. My love Allah subhanaw taala telling us he'll be giving to those who will sit with each other for the sake of God. I'm sitting with you not because I want to make a business out of you not because I'm forced to be here not because I have another agenda in my mind. I'm sitting with you because and the third one those who give for his sake and also then in the end

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the promises on said that Allah, Allah said and my love will be given for those who visit one another for my sake. Also nmbu salatu salam ala mentioned it in another Hadith, how quiet it is basically, indeed My love will be given to those who visit one another help that will help cut Mohamed el Mutasa varina fear and abuse Allah Allah Allah alayhi wa sallam said whenever you visit someone for the sake of Allah, if he is or she is a sick person, or just for a friend, Adam and Adam or even ozada en La Villa, and this tirmidhi Allah will send an angel wall site to that person. Please tell Bob mm check whatever what terminal agenda Team unzila May Allah bless your steps man

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Allah bless your basically trip to where that person's house and meal like grant you a place or grand you have access to paradise. Why? Because of this good deeds that you just did the angel pray for such person and maybe you're still allowed to sell them and this hadith it's a sound Hadith Headington has an Pilar salatu salam ala

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Bureau can very gently come in an agenda. Do you want to know the people to paradise? And be your full agenda? As shahidul agenda are so deep The truth will engender Carla? Well, no, no, we're in the Maya moto. Sorry. I'm Phil Jana and the child who died before reaching the age of puberty and gender war. Roger Louis azuro. How Finney, Mr. Clinton, and you visit your brother and he or she and the other side of town, let's say you're going to visit someone southeast or Southwest or north

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or in the woodlands that will be like traveling okay. Or you go to Austin to visit someone relative to you. Or some friends you know, that's in itself in the other side of town and maybe so some said that a person deserved paradise and abuse Allah Allahu Allah you it was seldom mentioned many a hadith in regard to this. And not only that, he said that he stated that he act upon what he said so a lot is lm. Look at nsmt Allah answered, Canon nibio Sol allowed to sell me azuro and Salafi booty him. He used to go visit unsought in their homes. He will go visit alonside and their homes you Salima Allah Sudan him he gives Salaam to their children and he wiped over their heads and will make

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dua for them when I'm home and this anything in this I also in a tournament in a daddy me it'd be Masuda Allah and said to his students health IT IS OUR OWN. Do you visit one another? Only just meet in the master? Do you visit each other's at home? Then they said Yes, we do. And sometimes we will cross the city. Mina here took over from one site to another just to go with my friend. Then up the lightning Massoud said and Tamara hire madam to medallic you upon goodness, as long as you do so. Abu Bakar or the Allah and honey fertile Muslim in the President will tell her you know, top eight aroma rhodiola and second man and command if you wish, if you wish to say to phrase it that way.

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He will tell Omar on the line pan Yamato De La Hoya and Impaler kobina Ayman nizoral haka. mccannon wU sallallahu alayhi wa sallam he azura but my man is an old woman in Ibiza Salaam used to go visit her.

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She's a member of the society. She's an older woman, and he would go and visit a man or the allow and then after the process of them death abubaker told her mother let's go visit her as well. Like what the prophet SAW the news to them both he went and visited

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when below the alarm and was sick on Monday, meaning I shut off the alarm on her. She came and visited him. And she reminded him of how the profits are seldom used to care for him. And he was very, very happy by her visiting him rhodiola and we're about to the extent that Hydra himolla reported to us that didn't be so Salim used to love when he breathed the energy of come to visit him. And once he said to gibreel Carla, Allah tizona ACTA, why don't you come visit us more often? than Allah subhanaw taala revealed the verses in slotomania while man attendez illa bm rahbek la Huma Abedin a Dena or Mahal fena

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we only come down by the command of Allah subhanho wa Taala.

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Mighty site, what about non Muslims? Is that rule applied to Muslim only the answer absolutely no. The answer is this apply to any individual. Yes, when you visit someone for your brother in your own community, that's very good. But also it's a very good idea to visit a person who's not Muslim, or a relative to you who is not Muslim. That's why if you say hello Bahati they have even a chapter and be affected by Phil Catherine, that you host a person who is not Muslims. And abuse Allah, Allah, Allah you, Allahu wa sallam, when a man has named Yo mama sad, came as a guest and abuse will allow us to send them order his family to bring milk and he hosted him and he was very generous with the

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person and not only one time, seven times the man kept saying I want more I want more so the milk the sheep seven times for him. Certainly, Allah Allah Mohammed and he kept giving him and that man later on became Muslim. As Matt when her mother came to visit her she was a Muslim. She said you have a Salah my mother coming in, she's not Muslim. What should I do? Then in a B cell ally to send them said Sonny omega be good to your mother and holster and take good care of her

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app.

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you're visiting, the reward of it will be multiplied. If you visiting a family member, you visiting your parents. So when you go to visit your parents or your cousin's or your uncle's or your basically daughter or your son, or your grandchildren have that intention, you're doing this for the sake of Allah. And that will multiply because it's an edger of visiting someone, and you basically connecting to your kinship. Also, it is highly rewarded, if you visit someone was sick, or not feeling well, or somebody lost someone that he loves, and you go to offer your condolences or your support. So that's even higher reward than just the visiting itself. It is so sad to tell you that

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in our community in our modern days today, this concept of date of hosting people and taking care of guests, is something vanishing in our society in our community. Yes, I know the nature of work and life, you know, we like to give our business to restaurants. But you know what, it's not always restaurants, it should be also homes where you go and stay with someone and it has a different meaning to it. You know, it has a different feeling to it. When you have someone over in your home, it is so important that we raised very few Muslim community members I visited personally. And I found that their kids are trained to host people to know how to take care of guests, most of the

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cases, especially teenager, what they will do, there are kids like little kids 11 and 10, you have the guest, they will just go play games and they don't care. There's nothing called welcome the help and setting the table. If you know hosting people, I was so proud of one of the young men when I went to visit the family, you know, they told me that their son prepared the food to help them prepare the food. And by the way, I helped making this this sweet, and I work with my family to make sure that you will have this and that, you know that's a good that you're raising your children to be people have good manners, or basically that's a good future for them. I still remember when I was

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young, my father will always tell us when someone come to the house, I will never forget that I've been traveled with my father. If someone come to my home and said Is your father here? And I'll tell him he's not here.

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My father always taught us that we say to someone, then you say a boy schmo dude. You say first come in. Then later you say my father is not here.

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But you don't start with saying, Oh, my father is not here. He said, always tell him to come welcome. Then after that, you can tell him or you tell him by the way, my father is not here. So if you want to continue coming in, he's welcome. And you take care of it. And that God bless that generation, that who really care for raising children. Who cares about this man. But today, it's so sad that kids don't even care about anything like that. They don't understand the value of being a good host. And being really a person of generosity.

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Not gonna even touch the issue of being there is some people are so scared of, of hosting guests. They just don't like it, either, because they have a social anxiety. So I understand that. But there's people just stingy and that's a problem. You know, and those people are known in the history something not new. Is that would have been McCartan. Hey, Natasha Kudo. Tom sayana sayana Castro de Castro

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you know, they used to cite Fatah human co fitness edu or what

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some people are very sad. They just don't like host it's just terrifying thing for them.

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What I will share with you few points whenever you go visit someone in Ibiza Salaam taught a certain etiquettes I would like us to be aware of number one that cannot have a nice asylum whenever the price somebody's house, they used to knock on the doors that we have are fitting him with their nails.

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Like this, they will not like put the five fingers and you know do like the one cinnamon rahimullah somebody came to his house and he was laughing so hard. So they only came like out. It found a person then he said kind of a bit of a shot. Yeah. And he said what's your police? He said I felt the police do the right thing my house. Some people become they just you know push that button for the ring so much. You should be very delicate. And in the beast Allah Allah subhanaw taala said, you basically ask for permission, you knock on the door three times. And if not, you just leave you don't keep

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pushing the ring or the bell or you basically or you

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Knock on the door very strong unless you have an appointment and you know that they want you to wake them up.

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When it comes to taking permission to enter the house, it's a very important etiquette in Islam. And sort of to know Allah speaks in details about that. Unfortunately, in some culture in some culture that has no concept of helmet to boot, the sanctity of house, you will find people just walk in to the house, open the door and walk in. That's not allowed in Islam. That's something absolutely unacceptable. Allah subhanaw taala all dressed before we walk, we give setup as salaam aleikum. So you give out basically a hand that somebody's coming into the house three times, otherwise you go back, you cannot look. If there is basically the door is not completely closed, you can sneak or

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peek inside, out. Oh, that's absolutely how I'm in Islam. Also, same thing, even if we enter the house, you don't just walk into the kitchen, you don't just walk to the bathroom, you just don't walk to the other rooms. In it, you stay where the place unless you're giving permission. Also, you don't check everything out. You know, all this has to do with this. Take that with basically, that lowering the gaze and make sure that you are in the place where you'll be giving permission to stay at unless there is a general permission. Like for example, I told people Hey, I have a thought of my house at six o'clock, everybody Welcome. So the door is open. And you know the people coming in, in

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this case you just can walk in because of the horror or the alarm and when he called on the sofa. He didn't take a permission to reenter the house, because he saw Selim already told him bring them in. And he have pre basically permission.

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One make sure that when you enter to the place you give Salaam to the people who are attending, I don't know insinuating Nabi sallallahu alayhi wa sallam at all, that in Ibiza Salaam used to shake hands with everybody sitting in the gathering. Now, Adam, when you had the awesome facility Nabina sallallahu Sallam I'd never heard and never come across in my life. Or never seen anyone who talked about the subject said that the Prophet when you enter a gathering, he will shake hands with everybody and repeat a Salam Arigato la sala to every single person in the garden. What the processor would do you say I said I'm it come to everyone that he will start shaking hands came when

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you meet someone, one to one or one or two people to shake their hands. But a big gathering like this. There is hundreds of time in Ibiza sanlam gathered with people like that people attending this gathering. And they never reported that they did such thing like that. So if you do it, I'm not saying it's wrong. But some people feel like obligated to do and sometimes it's not appropriate because maybe there is a composition going on. Or the basically the gathering is so big, or sometimes people wouldn't shake hands with everybody. So other people said, Why did he shake out with everybody? What's wrong with this man? So you should not have like a negative view of someone

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who will do that. Also, you set the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said with me so Allah crema de la v evany. You set where the permission given to you. So if he asked you to sit in the front, you said this or they ask you to sit in that place, he said in the place that you've been asked to set.

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Also nlb salatu salam whenever he entered a place he will set and we're basically in the end where there is a spot empty, he will never wake Some may ask someone to move from his place and he will sit in that person's place. But if somebody did that to you out of respect out of love, you're allowed to take that spot some people are very rude you do that to them and they will not even do it they will go sit somewhere else. Have I now stood up for you and I you know I honored you and it gives you that be courteous to reply by by accepting my offer my gift.

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Also in the be sal Allahu Allah, Allah Subhana Allah said in the Quran yeah you had Latina Armando either para la comme des festa hopefully modality FAFSA FAFSA hula hula you want a lot to make it easy for you give you a space make sure when someone come to a gathering and there is no much space you make a space for the people

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some people sir oh these people coming and you know that is like maybe there is let's say loveseat yeah loveseat with people my size two is enough I can leave but you know somebody was like skinny guy, you know tune the good low seat size. You know, like what do you have in Texas? You can comment in a third person, you know who can fit in? But don't do any, you know, just gonna stretch myself and he doesn't even think about it. That's not that's not the whole local Islam. Can you imagine Quran speaks about a very small thing like that to make sure that we have that sensitivity towards others. Also never saw Salim said do not separate two from each other without their permission. So

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if you're gonna sit in that loveseat in the middle, not on the side between to ask them Can I sit here

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Or that couch you don't separate to without telling them. Also Nabi sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, let me just do an attorney Toma, you two people cannot be talking. And the third person don't understand what the sign or he cannot tell what the sign. And this can apply. We all talk in Arabic. And maybe we have someone who isn't the guy that has a sister gathering, and everybody speaking in Arabic, but this sister doesn't understand Arabic. That's not a lot, even if there is 500 of you. So Hadith is not about two or three. It's about someone, one person by himself will be isolated.

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I guess we can make a space for someone who just came we just heard that a ticket. So offer him a space.

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So here that's another etiquette that you should take care of that you don't whisper you don't speak in the language that one person but if there is more than one person, they can talk to each others to here and to there with different layers or in a private manner. That's fine, unless you've taken permission.

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Also, nobody saw Salim said, meantime I'm McCarney

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Raja. And maybe Salim said if you leave your spot, you have more right over that spot when you come back. It's not like the musical chair game you know who catch the spot first. Yet, that's not what it is. If you leave to the bathroom and you come back, you have the right over that spot more than anyone else. Also in the B cell Salim said that you should take permission before you leave. As well as before you enter even when you leave some people just stand up and reach the dark yellow Santa Monica. That's not a proper etiquette. Then there is a song said before you leave you asked. I'm sorry, I have to go. So thank you very much for having me today. It just not you just disappear like

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that.

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Also Nabi sallallahu Sallam said in them and majority so be a man. Gathering is a trust. anything happen in the gathering that's private, to go expose it, don't go release it to everybody. It makes sure that you respect that privacy of people, also one of the etiquettes that tend to be so subtle that Madhava Hammond he never criticized the food. You invite people for wedding, everything next day how bad and terrible The food was, you know, people would have thought oh my god, that was so spicy. That's no good food that just, you don't want to Don't eat it. The assembler the processor, when he doesn't like a food, he just don't eat it. That's why if you are hast, please don't force

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someone to eat. If he doesn't want any what it may be, it doesn't like the food so don't force it. Otherwise, you're gonna force him to say to you, I don't like the food. And that wouldn't be nice. But just if you offer someone and he said I can call us back up you offer you basically do do what Ibrahim did. He offered them the food and he kept it for them. They want to eat the eat, they don't want to eat that's up to them.

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Also, make sure that whenever we gather, please, let's make it a social gathering. You know, American in American culture, something we all familiar with a dinner table we don't talk about two things.

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Religion on politics is very I agree 100% and I mean by religion, there is no need to make this a religious debate a religion you want to remind me of a law you want to remind me of something good. You want to give me a good information about religion does like a lot but we're gonna debate over halal meat or this is like from heroin store or not, are Bismillah not are going to debate over mortgages Hello or not, that's not the dinner time unless you have an alum of scholar you want to benefit from any kind of conversation that kick Delete to dispute, I'm fine. Please keep it out of the dinner table. You know, we're going to talk about Donald Trump and you know what, and Hillary

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Clinton and Democratic Party and Republic that's not the time for it. Let's have a good time socializing with each other during these gathering.

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Also, whenever you are in a gathering, remember what the prophets of Salaam said.

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Lisa Mina, not among us. mela mujin cabbie Ana, the one who showed respect to the elder. Why are hermosa Tirana respect to the older

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young men and women who are listening to me? The one who deserve to be respected the most is your parents.

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No matter how tall you are, you always look up to your parents.

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No matter how old or how smart you are, you always have that respect to the parents.

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Not among us the ones who do not show respect the older Wareham sarana have mercy upon the little one. The young children

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and in ob sallallahu Sallam said, We are lm o de la mina.

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Without any further argument

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and he knows that

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the status the respect, due respect that should be given to the scholars to the people of knowledge to the religious figure

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that's why my brothers and sisters

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It is so important and then they'll be so solemn was very careful about that two people came to the salon argue that individual seldom said cab cab better

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than me say a lock about No, yeah, and he lit the older among you speaks first.

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Like what do you this young man just did. He saw an older gentleman walking to the master immediately stood up bring a chair put it for him.

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You know, you basically walking in the hallway, you always show that respect to the elders among and the seniors among our community. They deserve them. Young people this is something we should all care for. That's that's the etiquette that that the moral that didn't be sallallahu alayhi wa sallam taught us and Islam want to

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make sure that these gatherings during these days will not be around something head on. Obviously start with wine, alcohol. If you with non Muslim family who drink wine or drink something like that, that's up to them. But make sure that you do serve that you don't purchase that because those are not allowed in our religion. But if they purchase it, they consume it. That's their, their their religion and that's basically their Deen and we don't force our Islamic ruling over non Muslims.

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They have their Deen and we have our Deen lokum Dino camaleon make sure that you don't purchase a gathering a gathering where basically drugs are consumed

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smoking marijuana you know, especially young people you going to a party where you know the pass around the smoke pots or whatever the people do. You know, that's something it's

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also similar to that gathering around shisha hookah. It's absolutely how I'm in Islam. There's no doubt about it. There is no scholar knows what's in as knows a little bit about what does this hookah shisha and smokes, does to your body will ever have a single shot of doubt that smoking it is not allowed in Islam.

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Make sure that this gathering will not based on mimimi gossip, backbiting, making fun of people or humiliating others, you know, make sure that this gathering will also not lead to neglecting the obligation of Islam like missing salata missing salon and things of that nature.

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And

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one of the thing also that Islam in the visa salon talked about that there is a you should follow the proper etiquette. Like in the basis elements and gathering somebody burped out loud. in Ibiza Salam said Kufa and Natasha, you should not burp out loud like that. Please say excuse me, you know, it's people like you know, and also don't pick on someone once in the BS asylum gathering somebody release gas. So people start

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laughing at him, then introduce yourself

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you laughing at what you do, maybe that person's have a gas problem. You know, maybe he doesn't have a good control maybe as a medical condition unit so make sure that both ways you don't make fun of the person, but the person also proper etiquette that should be followed either and I'm sorry to go into this detail, but sometimes even the obvious need to be mentioned. And I'm telling you, I'll gather like I give you small things and so you can make a knowledge area. Once I was in a gathering, I asked for water. So the guy who get the water was put his three fingers inside the cup, then hold the cup like from inside with his fingers then give it to me.

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And I was like, I don't have a phobia about people's germs but that fingernails has a lot of germs you know so to hold the cup from inside like that to give it to me that's not a proper etiquette. You know, you don't for example, you you like scratching your head or something else and lend me your nose then you pass to me the bread you pick the piece of bread and you give it to me you know thank you very much. Keep it keep your vitamins for yourself because you know, I don't want to gross you out but this things are unfortunately exhaust. You know, even in the proper etiquette, the telephony sit on the table. You should not put your two arms on the table. Good luck with that. Try

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to try to do that. Keep your arm off the table.

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When you eat, I mean, these things are not French etiquettes these things not a Western etiquette. These things are prophetic etiquettes these small little things, how to behave yourself. That's what to make you and a good human being.

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In order for you to be a good Muslim, you need to be a good human being first.

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Because if you're not a good Muslim, you're not a good human being. You're not a mannered individual. It's very hard for me to see how you're going to be a good Muslim.

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Now last panel to Allah to give us all

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the proper etiquette and increase us in our lap was Allah Salim ala nabina Muhammad What am I submit to mostofa the law is still futile

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attempt to rely why there was select was Salam O Allah Milena Viva about

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my brothers sisters as we talk about etiquettes that should be followed by the one who visit the one who hosts also should be a person offered generosity. Yes, Allah. Ibrahim Alayhi Salam he basically offered a calf just for three guests. Count Oh, can you slaughtered for the pigeon honey 4343 guests.

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generosity with the guests is never don't what's waste. What's waste. waste is to offer something you cannot offer. You take a loan, you put yourself in debt that's not allowed.

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And a very common with a qualified woman and I'm in America living for an offer. And a very common American levy. I'm not among tech tech leaf is to put something upon shoulder you cannot offer but will lie I have one guest and I want to make a whole entire shape where or I want to put like three different three different variety of food. Don't tell me Oh, you're a waster? No, don't worry, I'm not gonna trash it. I'll take care of it. And I will host my guests and the rest I will deal with it in the way that it is don't waste the food. Also, you there's many ways you can donate this food. Or you can, you know, like what my wife did does make us eat it later on.

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over a week or something. Anyway, so this is important. In nebbish, Osaka ajibola home and sunny acomodar. Allah was amazed but amused and very proud of this to have this family will have

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guests, they don't have offered much to offer. So what they did they put the food that they have, they let the kids sleep early without dinner. And they prefer to give that dinner for the guests and the turn of the light. And they start acting as if they are eating and reaching there. And it's dark so they don't really know of the food enough just because the food is enough for the guests.

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Hello is proud and amazed by how generous they are.

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Also make sure that you show you know excitement about your guests coming. Oh, you're here. Okay. Now, you know, especially family member, you know, your mother in law visit you be happy. You know your father in law come to visit to be happy. You know your daughter, your son, your daughter, you know no zarahemla was asked what's his generosity, to be generous with your smile, to be generous with your words.

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People can make sure that you show that also, when you visit someone don't give orders even if it's your son, even if it's your daughter's house. Don't start giving orders to them at their house that's their kingdom. That's why inhibin Rahim Allah to Allah said that among any being having proper integrative visit someone that you became a person is not in charge that person who owned the house in charge, even if it's your own son. Make sure that when you have guests over to offer something even beyond food in Ibiza, Salim said any people gather and they will not mention a lot do not mention Rasulullah sallallahu sallam, they will regret this gathering in the Day of Judgment. So

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make sure that you offer them something beneficial. I love it. I know some people live intentionally booklet or book or article or something like people oh this very interesting article this very interesting magazines article. This is very interesting book or he will start with it. You know this book, one of my favorites. I want you to know about it. Maybe something you guys should check it out. Show them in mentioned something that will benefit them as well. Please, when you have guests, please don't be distracted from them by your social media. As a host especially, or a visitor some people I go visit and their whole entire time is wasted checking their email or like that's

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Not nice.

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You know, especially if you're going to family, keep the phones away.

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Make sure you said Don't sneak the look at people's art. If you make a mess to the kids make a mess in the house, fix it before you leave. To just to leave it like that also offer at least two to help me Allah subhana wa tada and in your new deema Urbino have a habit of Allah, Allah subhanaw taala bring love to our hearts and to make us among those who visit one another often for his sake, and make us among those who are people of generosity. So Allah Subhana Allah will be generous with us. And I asked a lot parrot Allah, this blessed me in this blessed day, the day of Juma on this plus hour when this blessed gathering that Allah subhanaw taala bring mercy to the people of Aleppo, the

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people of Syria that Allah subhanaw taala helped them aid them last month Allah knows that the best we can do to make up for them maybe to help with our money a little bit the refugees the people who are suffering that's the best we can do unfortunately for now, but that's not something small that's something big yeah Allah you hear us you know us you know what is in our hearts and what's our limitation is so your Allah we asked you to forgive our shortcoming and we asked you until you homenetmen moelleux and determine the sealant and sort of metabolic he went to Korea Muhammad Mashallah Oman 200 euro, Bella, Bella vida me and Jada Geraldo de la Masami one of a Philistine

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have three things three quick things really fast for you I'm gonna talk a little bit louder because there's a lot of people in the other area first of all, just not gonna care shake wildly for excellent cookbook. We have a lecture tonight it's continuation from last week shake Kamala mechi How to Win Friends and Influence People part two. It starts tonight here after Isha and Sharla come out and support this small this lecture series that we have also the 23rd to the 24th the Texas dollar convention is happening at the George R brown Convention Center and Sharla everyone come out and support that and most importantly not last is the weekly donation report. I want to thank

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everyone who is making that extra effort and coming out and helping us meet this goal. It is greatly appreciated to bring the quality that you learn to expect from clearlake Islamic center so inshallah we will keep that going. And we really appreciate you guys really making that happen because I cannot care Assalamu alaikum

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I have a for good news for you. I like sharing good news. This

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Charla coming week. We have

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individuals from our community getting married. So we have this Sunday. My brother Bilal Han, he's getting married inshallah Tada. I think all inspired after no hot last week who got married. So congratulations again. But inspired we have brother bilad is getting married. And also we have brother Carter is getting married next week. You know?

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So deity, and then also I have my daughter sada and brother Amata shoukry getting married to each other next week as well inshallah to Allah, it's going to be New York.

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In my culture, we do something we do the contract that will keytab then the actual consummation of the marriage will be Sharla in March, and Marcia goes on by

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if you want to come up to New York, you're more than welcome to. So don't worry, you're not missing the invitation Charlottetown so that's a good news for people that I know from our community getting married in this in the next 10 days and I'm very happy for that. Thank you so I come over here to make the offer them that Allah give them Sofia tiara but to all those who are married