Why Do Bad Things Keep Happening And How To Heal

Yasmin Mogahed


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doesn't really understand the purpose and the purpose of software.

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And I'm also going to explain

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that we often use

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this question of why bad things happen.

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When I asked my students in

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Well, the answer to this question is actually the question is on this blog, because of the fact that things never happened.

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But hold

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on, what about that person who got

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whether that person has helped?

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You understand, there are so many parties and so many tragedies?

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What am I?

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How can you say that about these people?

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And I'll repeat it again.

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Your question?

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And the answer is, I'm going to tell you this before I was explaining it

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to me for a strange

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the matter that matters is unfair.

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In so many ways, it means that bad things to people, but what about but what about the pain? Well, what about the loss? Right? And he goes on to say that for a believer in my faith, he emphasized

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that is only the case for a believer.

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I said to

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good people, this is

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why because he likes, right, it's something that I really want or something that is pleasing to us, he is grateful and so it is good for him and his

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What is

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that for a leader who learns how to respond properly, everything that happens in life, then something very, very powerful. And no, it is indeed a lever everything that happens to us

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even if it was painful, even a loss even if it is struggle, whatever it is, it actually turns into something good.

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That's why I say

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strange, but

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Leaders amazing. Can you imagine being in a situation where no one can ever talk to you wouldn't be want

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to have to have to be able to have the opportunity to have

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that amazing strength that

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power and it is only a little deeper

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understand or want you to understand and once you get internalize the fact that you're in bed with your faith and with your actions because you see

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Free Free for you to be able to have superpower

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you need to have two elements. You need to have two elements one

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what is Caesar's and

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he man

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so a lot of

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act and do righteous deeds.

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So for us to have our

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own internet or feel free to go another what ends up happening no matter what you get, no matter what you choose for it to be good for you.

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You have to date. You have to have a call with me. You have to have a volunteer

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If you have

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property to welcome,

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what is

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splitting data?

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Why? Because

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we're having one, what are those two responses?

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One is responses,

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patience, and

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so that will be for both between these two between patients. And

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you see, you see, when you change

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when you change your legs, when you change the way you understand your life.

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When you change the way you understand your life, your life changes.

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When you change the way you understand

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things differently. And so we need to ask the question, Why do bad things happen to people? You will find that, what happens to

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And then I'll move on, and I'll explain how.

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But before I do that,

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I want to get a little bit deeper into why we struggle with this question. Why do people struggle with it? Why Why

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do people? Do you know what the problem is? This question

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Your question is true. But there's something else more obvious that's problematic with this question. And you know what it is? It's your definitions.

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Definition of good and bad. Make sense? So here's the key point, people have

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fallen, by the way.

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Okay, because y'all have to land.

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I forgot my little disclaimer at the beginning, where I asked everyone to make advances

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is in the definition of good and bad

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to find good power.

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Right. So

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any increase in

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any increase in

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meaning you win the lottery,

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you got

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anything that is increasing

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in their life?

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Right, following and then

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any loss in general and the loss

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of money, the loss of

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something that a lot by definition, that right, everyone follow me?

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What you see the problem with that definition is limits.

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Do you

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you're making over 100 years, right?

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This is an

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100 years compared to eternity. It's not only this way, you see the attitude the normal attitude.

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It took like five minutes

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then minutes definitions only based upon

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something that happened to me.

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And therefore, the definition of good and bad it is not limited to this life. So now let's redefine these words based on reality capital R, because what is reality?

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what is reality?

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We all need to do this for a minute.

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Right? And then we go to a trade fair.

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So this line is just one little tiny part of our entire existence. That's reality. So now I want you to read

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based on reality.

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What is the definition of good now based on reality?

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The definition of good anytime is anything that brings me closer to my goal, right? I have a goal. Anything.

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You guys following

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away from my role? Okay, let's go back to the definition of what my goal

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You got to

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What does that mean getting closer to him? What does that mean? Anything that brings me

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to finish my sentence

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is good. And anything that takes me away is that

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we've completely redefined good and bad. And now the question changes, right? Because now, the definition of good and bad. What brings me closer to a law is good. And what keeps me away is that

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now I look back, and I

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look at my life experiences. And I'm looking at more money, and more power.

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Now I'm looking at my

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did it bring me closer

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by changing the definition

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of the past.

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So now what my experience is that I asked this question, I don't ask anymore. Did I lose? Did I mean they get rich? Yeah, instead of how did I get closer? It's really very simple. This experience my life didn't bring me closer to a lot didn't make me a better person. didn't make me a better person.

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Whatever it is, it gives you a completely different definition of your story.

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Y'all have a story, right?

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Okay. You have a story. And then you have

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a story

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asking you to actually go back and re define the understanding of your story. Because

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right now,

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certain things will continue to happen to the future yesterday, no.

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And it all how you understand it, and how you define it. When you go back and re define your understanding of your story, it absolutely transforms you

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revolutionize how you see your life.

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People experience in your life. Okay.

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Mind at once, you know,

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you've probably defined this painful experience, as

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am I right?

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Probably, yes.

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I want you guys to go back. And

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I want you to ask

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this experience and how

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did it bring me closer?

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But I want you to ask yourself that question. This painful experience that you have either the past or the president is closer to a lot.

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And we've answered that question, then you can understand why

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make sense, whether it is good for you, or whether it's the bathroom

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doesn't do anything randomly. Everything

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is broken.

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And everything from us is for every experience is for all

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elements is anything that indeed the creation of

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an alteration of identity.

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For those of understanding,

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So here's the thing,

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everywhere around us, like our entire life, and our entire world is full size. Okay? But the problem is not everyone.

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The very first revelation.

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was difficult for me to

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Like he didn't know how to be.

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Right? He was, he didn't want to read books, what is being asked to read? And he was like,

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I don't know how

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to read.

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So obviously, there's a reason why he beat me, right? And

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so now, it's

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in the name of your board. You see, there's different kinds of readers reading the book, like I'm reading this.

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But yeah,

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I just read it.

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No, see? No. Okay.

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So there's different types of reading, right? There's reading but if you read a paper

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and that is the ability to read your cards, and that really,

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makes sense. So read of the signs on the sides, in the hands of the signs in your life, be able to understand that

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right? And he's been told me we

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understand the science and

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they understand that

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and I'm alteration of the animated signs. But there's only a very select few people who can actually understand besides

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those people are Nina.

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This is a very deep, he says most people are

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lost standing and sitting.

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standing and sitting alongside. Can you think of another position and

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basically telling you that these people are the masters in all

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their staffing, they remember, they're sitting there.

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This is not a physical, literal positions of the body. But even when they're strong,

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whether you're standing, even when you're weak.

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you're rich, or when it's convenient when

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you get these are people who remember along all walks in all conditions of life.

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And in the

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creation of

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our water did not create all this purpose. So contact us.

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what's happening here is that these people are understaffed or lost signs throughout their lives throughout the world. And they're able to realize this reality, you know what it is.

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And let me tell you about a secret

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proxy of a business.

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The realization is that all I cannot recall is

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an additive that the signs

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and purpose

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both sides not only in the sun, and stars,

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also creates things in your life.

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In other words, your life experiences were not created.

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What that brings us to is that everything in my life has a purpose.

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even the things that hurt us, even the struggles with the loss.

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It wasn't accidental. It wasn't like a lot of

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people think that they will.

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Sometimes people feel that pain is a punishment.

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even in hardship waiver, because it brings the lever closer.

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here's my

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How do you know if some hardship that's happening to you is a punishment or a test slash?

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If it brings you closer to Allah, then it was not a punishment.

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He was obviously,

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If it takes you away from

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then that's a sign that in fact you do need to work obviously. And that

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involves a lot of

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getting away from his assignment and you need to you need to attend.

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There's a problem inside and it happens.

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It happens because the fetus

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is it

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it touches the heart

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tells us that since a lot of domesticated

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animals heart has, is covered.

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It's for

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those that that status it actually becomes a barrier. So when that person is tested,

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last because of their internal work that needs to happen internally, there needs to be

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inside. Now, if that

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We are moving away from a lot by our chips.

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Does that mean

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I'm hopeless? It's hopeless. I'm you know,

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there's no point in trying. Because it means that it takes me away from a lot. And it's

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because a lot of people

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do not scare the person, you're absolutely right.

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Every single person in this room,

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Every single person in this arena,

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you know what that means?

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That means that there's

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absolutely no reason to spare.

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And I have

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a lot of pain.

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how bad was it?

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Ask definitions.

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understanding why these things happen. Understanding that they have a purpose, that's incredibly important to understand that

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they are intended to be

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intended for me.

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To interval I understand that, before I fixed it, I have to understand

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My question is this.

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There is something in the area that I mentioned. It was like,

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it was a clue on how you can be among those people who know how to read the slides. And

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there was a woman that told us how we can understand this world poverty and understand our life experiences properly. Does anyone know?

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exactly. Remember how it said, I

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don't remember a law standing and sitting on their sides, you know what this is talking about?

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Then in order for us to have that insight, that ability to understand and respond properly to our life, and to everything happening around us

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to be among those people who remember a lot standing and sitting on our side, if we are not remembering and remembering a lot and remembering in all aspects of our life, because a lot of them say those remember a lot of cool stuff. He doesn't say he goes remember a lot and that's it.

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standing and sitting in on your side is something very specific that

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that they remember a long time. You know what I mean?

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It's so fascinating. To offer every motion. Everything he did, there was a lot. You don't need to read like 14

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Have you read

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it, it's just a collection of loss. And you can get it under

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this collection.

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there's a

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there's a drop in the finishing. This is why

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this is not going

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to leave in the bathroom. There's a drop right

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And what is this? What is this example?

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They are

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sitting in on their bodies. They're not only remembering a lot. You know, I'm saying Friday or

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You know, I'm an 18 year

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old designer

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When they're driving, wondering whether we're happy or sad, when they get what they want,

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when they're strong, and also,

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this is what.

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And unless you do that

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a lot,

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a lot, in all walks of life, you will not be able

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to come to these conclusions. What are these conclusions?

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What is that? Because you guys

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are not creative?

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Are you following?

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What I've done right now is I am setting up to get to this point of how do I do?

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stuff? So

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it's incredibly important to redefine, why is that?

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Why is that a struggle? Why Why do we spend time to you?

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Why do these things happen to you? Why are these?

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Why are these happening to other people?

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He does not

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to deprive us of law is by the way, is very important.

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Okay, and what are the attributes of the law?

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You know, what?

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The source of all generosity?

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Have you ever met? A gentleman seems to be

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what one person has

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like to do not like to

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be generous, by definition was to get and does not last too

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long. Now

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is the most generous, he's the source of

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any, any all human beings

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So you have to know.

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You have to know that this

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is a very important reason. And he is

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he is in fact doing.

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he is doing because the law is

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When a lot of holes is due to something else.

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We focus so much on what we don't have right? And you're not able to

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go back.

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Because this is a personal journey. If you go back and read up on your life, remember,

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remember, we're going to go back into our life experiences. And we're going to start

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when you do that,

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when you do that, ask yourself this question.

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Why don't why wait for this trial?

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Maybe I lost the cert

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or maybe there was something I really wanted. I didn't get it.

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But what did you get? What did you gain in your character? What did you gain your nurse overall?

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How do they build you as a human being?

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So you see that either

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strength if they never

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know, like you're not going to become strong. If anybody wants to build

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you have to live at those?

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muscles? Just the reality, right? It's the same thing in the unseen reality in the spiritual reality.

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Yes, he might have been withholding something. But he was giving you something that he would he never does.

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And even when he takes he's good, and even when you're old is the stone is always good.

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I want to now move into healing the healing process. Okay.

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Sometimes we go through experiences in life that absolutely want us ask, absolutely want us

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to talk about?

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I want you guys to think of the physical body, the physical body, how does it feel? And

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now, that person says, You know what?

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I'm just gonna put a bandaid on it, and pretend it's not there.

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And eventually, we'll have to

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Why don't

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you just pretend like it wasn't there?

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You just covered it. You know that? Does this sound familiar?

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Does this

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feel feel?

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This is a tactic that I use as a defense mechanism that was so painful. The way we deal with it, is we pretend like it's not there.

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So the way we deal with it is,

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but this is equivalent.

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With a bad day, and it's okay. It's actually not there.

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It's not there. But it's not making anything.

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For 10 days.

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It's not changing what happened in your arm or in your home is

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reality and it doesn't change the reality not feeling it. Because you pretended like it was there, you actually have to go through a process of tribhuwan before you can say

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not only emotional ones.

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I can't pretend like it's not there and surprise it and it's just going to go away. Because it doesn't work like that, just like a gunshot wound it

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festers and infected and it doesn't go away.

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Because you're not addressing the actual root of the problem. symptoms

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and not to treat it. Now how can you treat as

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A gun shop.

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You gotta take the bullet and have to get in there. Nice and

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clean. You know? Is that process fun?

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Yeah. Is it enjoyable? No. But you have to do it.

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You have to do it. Why?

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Because it's a process that immediately is part of the process, you cannot heal.

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you have to treat

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and cure is not there. And it can't just call. You got to open it up, and you got to clean it out. And yes, I understand that process, but neither is cleaning.

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It's not fun. And

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believe me, it will save you so much future

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to that child and you didn't treat Well, now you're gonna have to get

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because you left it actually got worse. So yeah, you're not helping yourself.

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You're just actually causing more pain and more.

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stay stuck. It's like you're just pausing.

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It's like

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a loss

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in your life. And what you're doing is you're actually keeping yourself out there.

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And you're moving on because he pretended

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to actually move. What you've done is impressive pause.

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All right.

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How do we

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know what is asked?

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What is essential web optional, depending on

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essential part it

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is you have to be real, you have to be careful. You have to and when you turn to a lot, you don't tend

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you cannot pretend a lot. You can't be like, you

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know, your your arm is oozing. Yeah.

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It's not gonna work. You have to learn to be real with the law.

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And there is absolutely no healing whatsoever.

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If you're not willing to do this,

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okay, this whole phases that we have this whole basket where it's not going to work, if you want to

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live like that.

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You will not feel the need to wear these masks and continue to pretend

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it is a person with a gunshot wound who said Actually, I don't have a shot.

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I'm fine.

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They're never going to heal because they haven't even acknowledged that.

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You have to deal with the law and ask yourself, what does that mean? Don't get

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me wrong. A lot of tm means a lot of a lot of drama. It means a lot of crime. It's not fun, but you know what all created tears for a reason. You know that?

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You look at even the scientific like the makeup.

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A lot of tears, emotional tears. They're different than if you tear out this because you got

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to actually make a microscope. It's actually composed of compositions that you know why? Because he fears emotional tears and cleansing is designed to help you is actually designed.

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What's gonna happen when you block that process when you stay

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My pet peeves

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is this idea that being strong means you don't cry.

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You know, that's one of the most harmful myths we have out there is one of the harmfulness we have the strong need to Don't cry.