Tom Facchine – Women’s History Month- The Two Zaynabs

Tom Facchine
AI: Summary © The speakers discuss the upcoming men's History Month and the importance of following the Prophet sallua Alaihe. They also talk about the use of words in communication, including "ar passion" and "ar passion," in the context of marriage, including the roles of men in the household and employment. The segment also touches on the importance of men in the court system and their potential outcomes, including their responsibility for the household and economic security. The speakers also discuss the origins of the Prophet sallama's marriage and the couple's romantic relationship.
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For the month of March, is Women's History Month. And if you remember back to last year we did a series on the wives of the Prophet Muhammad Sallallahu I think it was

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last year, we discussed Khadija and so, and I, Aisha and Hafsa. And on Selma, may Allah be pleased with all of them. This year because we are getting very close to Ramadan, we will not be able to dedicate the entire month to the prophets wives on a salon to Sudan. But we will discuss as many as possible in sha Allah Tada

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the importance of the prophets wives, so Allahu alayhi wa salam must not to be lost on anyone. They are mothers, to all of us, Allah subhanho wa Taala said, and maybe you Oh ALLAH will move meaning I mean and foresee him well as well as your home to

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the prophets, Allah Allah Who it he was, has more of a right upon the believers than they have upon their own selves, and his wives are their mothers.

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Think for a second of the elevated status that mothers enjoy. In Islam. A man came to the Prophet Muhammad Sallallahu ala he was asking for permission to fight in Allah's Cause. The prophets of Allah who are at alayhi wa sallam asked him Is your mother alive? He said yes. And so the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said funds for in the agenda to Dotto today have stay with her stick close to her for surely Jana is under her two feet.

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The relationship between a mother and her child is the most immediate, the most intimate, the most intense relationship perhaps in our dunya. She carries the child inside of her body. She nourishes the child from her own body. She loses sleep with every illness or injury that happens to the child. She's the first to sacrifice her convenience, even her well being for the sake of the children. That's the mother.

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Mothers are the first teachers. The home is the first school that are responsible for the transmission of wisdom, the transmission of faith, the transmission of habits and sensibility, it all comes back to the mother.

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So when Allah subhanho wa Taala calls these women, the lives of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa salam, our mothers, it is no small thing. We are asked to take these women as our mothers to take their lives as examples for us worthy of imitation of guiding lights. That does not mean that they are perfect, just like our own mothers, we can recognize their humanity we can recognize their struggles, but these women have something that other role models and other influencers do not have and that is the explicit approval of Allah Subhan Allah with Allah and His messenger. So who are they he was suddenly

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this is one way to measure how much we love Allah Allah azza wa jal said a poll. In contrast to hipbone Allah has that Toby Rooney, your biblical Mala, who we often that come the novacom wala hula photo, Rahim. Tell them if you love Allah, then follow me.

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Allah will love you in return and forgive your sins and Allah subhanho wa Taala is Forgiving, Merciful.

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Can we seriously claim to follow the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa salam, if we do not love what he loved?

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He loves his wires. Do we love whom he loved sallallahu alayhi wa salam? Are we following him? Are they he salatu salam, do we even know their names? Let alone What was special about them. This is something that many of us neglect.

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We hope that by learning about the lives of the Prophet Allah salAllahu Alaihe Salam

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Now that we will be making good on our declaration that we love and follow the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam. Today we're going to be discussing the two Zayn EPS. The Prophet alayhi salatu salam was married to two different women named Xena and so it's easy to get them mixed up. The first is Zainab bint Hoceima, who is probably the less famous of the two and the reason that she is less famous

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than the others Anna or the rest of the wives is that she died in less than one year after marrying the Prophet alayhi salatu salam. In fact, this can be your way of remembering who she is Zane at the bento Zima was the only wife of the Prophet sallallahu ani he was something other than the Legion or the Allahu anha to die while the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was alive.

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And so she was also the first of his wives to be buried and Jana to bethia, the famous cemetery in Medina because Khadija no the Allahu anha, of course, was died and buried in Mecca.

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Two things stand out about Zayn have been to Jose Emma, first. This was not her first marriage. Most of the biographers say that she was married three times before she married the prophets, Allah Allahu Allah, he was on them. She was married to up to fail even a hearth who divorced her. Then she was married to a two fails brother, Ruth Bader, who also divorced her. And then she was married to Abdullah bin Jash, who was martyred during the Battle of feather, making zeyneb a widow,

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then the prophets of the law, why he was proposed to her for marriage.

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Back then, people did not judge you, if you were divorced, they did not consider it a moral failure or something to be embarrassed about. It was normal.

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It was part of life and so was remarried the Prophet salallahu Alaihe. He was one of them. And the other companions, they married widows, they married divorcees, they married single mothers, all the time without hesitation. In fact, every single woman that the prophets of the Lord God he was selling married, other than our Aisha had been married before. They married the prophets of Allah, they have a son, and most of them had children from those previous marriages.

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Islam made it easy, but we make it hard. Look at how far we've strayed from this attitude.

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When it's time for us to get married, or our children to get married, that potential spouse has to have a specific age, a specific ethnicity, a specific level of education, a specific type of degree, etc, etc.

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all criteria that are geared towards economic security and upward mobility, which isn't wrong. It's not wrong, but it's not how the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, or the Companions, thoughts about marriage. They were looking for women that they could be in Jannah with. They were looking for women that would be the best for raising their children, women of character, women have virtue. And guess what the prophets of Allah who Adi who has said them, and the Companions often found that virtue and found that character among divorced women, among widows, and among single moms. Those are the women that the prophets of Allahu alayhi wa sallam loved. Those are our mothers.

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There is a story about Xena vinto Zima that demonstrates her virtue

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and is a tremendous lesson for those of us who are married or hope to be married one day, one time zeyneb had some ladies over her house and they were dying, her clothes the color red. The prophets Allah Allahu alayhi wa sallam came up to the doorway. And he looked in some Allahu Allah, he was setting them. He saw what they were doing. And he turned around and walked away without saying a thing.

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Today, I'll do a lot more on her could tell that

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Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam did not like that they were dyeing her clothes red. And so she simply gathered up her clothes with her friends. And they began to wash out the color. They began to undo all of the work that they had been doing.

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Later, the profits of the loved one and he was and then came back. He stood in the doorway a second time. He looked in, he noticed that the clothes had been washed. They weren't red anymore. And so he smiled. So the law he was, he entered the house, and he sat down.

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That's it. That's the story.

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It's very simple. But it's very instructive. First, and this is for the men. Notice how the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam communicated with his wife.

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He didn't yell. He didn't accuse. He didn't even say a word. So Allahu Allah He was, if it had been you, or

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if we were in that situation, we might have said something like, why you die in your close read?

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What's the matter with you?

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That doesn't look good. I don't like it.

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Actions speak louder than words. And they also protect your dignity. The prophets of Allah Who are they he was salam simply walked away. And when he came back, and he noticed that the situation had changed. He didn't gloat. He didn't rub it in and start lecturing her. He didn't even thanked her with his word. sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, he thanked her with his actions. He smiled. He came in, he sat down, and he acted as if nothing had ever happened.

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As for the ladies, look at Zeno's response. We don't even know from this story. If the disapproval of the prophets Allah Allahu alayhi wa Salam is based in the Sharia. Or it's just a personal preference of his because he did not ask. She didn't ask, is this halal or haram?

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Or is it just McCool.

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She also didn't needlessly die on a hill as we say over this issue. She didn't say I can wear whatever I want. Red's my favorite color. You're always trying to tell me what to do.

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What we see in this story is a method of dignified communication between spouses. The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam showed his disapproval. He doesn't bottle it up. He does not hide it. But on the other hand, he does not be Reiter or blame her. He doesn't even use any words, are they he stood out to us.

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And Zainab is perceptive enough to register the disapproval of the prophets Allah Allahu Ani, he was salam. And she is humble enough

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to worship Allah azza wa jal by seeking her husband's approval, who cares if it's permissible?

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Who cares if it's permissible if your spouse doesn't like it? Allah subhana who is the Allah will reward you for giving it up.

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That is righteousness. That is virtue. And that is why the prophets of Allahu alayhi wa salam deemed her worthy to be our mother.

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No matter how many times she was married before.

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The final thing that stands out about Zainab is her nickname. She was known even before Islam as Uma, Messiah, keen,

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mother of the poor, and that was because she was constantly concerned with the poor, making sure that they had food to eat, making sure that their needs were taken care of. And remember, zeyneb was not always in the easiest of circumstances. She was divorced twice. She was a widow. She had her own children to worry about certainly along the way, there was some economic insecurity.

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But Zeynep teaches us that that's no excuse.

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Allah subhanaw taala says a che Fano facula were Mortal Kombat Sasha Willa Farah 10 Min Hua formula, Allah who was here and I mean,

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the devil is the one who threatens you with poverty and

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commands you to do evil while Allah on the other hand promises you forgiveness and bounty, forgiveness and abundance and the loss of Hannah huzzah Allah is vast. Knowing

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well you are a Munna Tiana Allah have behaved miskeen oh yeah team member se it all. In the manual during more commonly watching Illa Landry Domina come on What as you call it off, they feed despite their love of it, food to the poor, the orphans and the prisoners saying, we only feed you for the sake of Allah. We do not want any reward or thanks from you.

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Sometimes as men, we need this from our women.

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As men, we are responsible for the security of the household and that includes economic security. Often we're the ones plot planning for the financial success of ourselves and our children. We put food on the table, but sometimes we can lose sight of the others around us in need. People that Allah subhanho wa Taala have has placed in your life so that you can purchase your spot in paradise.

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Sometimes it takes the compassion and clarity of our women to wake us up. And to remind us of our priorities. Xena, Bintulu Zima Radi Allahu anha was a model of compassion and virtue mother to the poor and mother to us all of poodle Tony ha That was stuck in a law Honeywell Akuma Lisa and it must be me them equally then the stuff through in the whole of rocky

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wa shadow under the Vienna was Eden and Mohammed Abdullah Hora su a Derrida Ridwan is Allahu alayhi wa. He was however he left when he was suddenly moved to Sleeman kathira.

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As for the other Zaina,

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that is Zainab bint Jash who is much more famous than Zane at the bins for Zima, mostly because she lived longer zeyneb event Jash was the first cousin of the Prophet Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, through her mother whose name is Will May.

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Will may Emma was the sister of the prophets father Abdullah and that means that Ma Ma was also sister to Hamza and to a lot bass and I was with Deanna and the rest of them.

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Zane underprint Josh, herself is the sister of Abdullah ibn Josh, who we just mentioned a little bit ago was martyred at feather and then left behind. Zane had been to Hussein as a widow. That makes the two Zeno's inlaws before the prophets of Allah while he was married either of them.

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As you can see from her relatives, Zainab bint Josh was part of the Qureshi nobility.

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But in Islam, you are not praised or blamed for things that you cannot control. Islam is about your choices, your decisions, your virtues. zeyneb was an early convert to Islam and Mecca, she did not resist the message like some of her uncle's did. And that was because of the purity of her heart while the Allahu icon.

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This was a recurring theme through her life. She also did not resist the Hijra to Medina when the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam suggested that she married his adopted son Zetas. Now, let's take a second and appreciate this. Zaid was a freed slave. He was from northern Arabia and he was captured as a boy and sold into slavery. He eventually came into the possession of the Legion, who gave him to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam as a gift when they got married, and the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa salam set him free and adopted him as his own son. There couldn't be a larger difference between the two lineages, the zeyneb with the Qureshi, princess, and Zaid, the freed

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slave, but Zainab was not puffed up by her lineage. She did not resist whatsoever if she obeyed the prophets, suggestion and married sake

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but say

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Adan saying that we're not compatible as a couple, not because of their lineage, but because of their personalities. They were often at odds. One day Zaid came to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam to complain about the situation. He wanted to divorce her. And it was at this time that it dawned upon the prophets Allah Allahu Allah He was what Allah azza wa jal had planned all along, Allah subhanho wa Taala was going to marry Xena to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam himself, and in this way, overturn a major taboo of Arabian society. You see, Arabian society back then viewed adoption, just like contemporary American society does. Today, you can sign the papers and

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adopt your child and that child is legally the exact same as a biological child 100%. We all know that caring for orphans is a big deal in Islam. It's something that Allah azza wa jal loves. It is a proof of a faithful heart because only a faithful righteous person would care for an orphan just like they would for their biological child. When it comes to your biological child, there's instinct involved, even self interest, it's your child, your descendants, your progeny. That level of motivation does not naturally exists towards someone else's kid, except for the pure of heart and the righteous.

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Now, some people they're tempted to erase those differences because they want to motivate people to take care of orphans that misses the whole point, which is to care for them despite not having a self interested motive. It was the same back then. Zaid was Muhammad's adopted son, Ali, he's allowed to Sudan and upon this understanding of adoption, it would not be okay to marry the ex wife

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of an adopted son like zayde that would be considered *. So when Zaid came complaining to the Prophet alayhi salatu salam, and it dawned on the Prophet alayhi salatu salam, that Allah might use this situation to break this taboo and overturn it the prophets of Allahu alayhi wa sallam tried to resist. He told Zaid fear Allah and hold on to your wife,

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but who can resist the law?

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Allah subhanaw taala intervened and confirmed the divorce of Zaidan Zaina and proclaimed in the Koran the marriage of zeyneb to the Prophet alayhi salaatu

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and when you said to the one whom Allah favored and you also favored hold on to your wife and fear Allah.

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You are trying to hide within yourself something that Allah was about to bring to light

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because you were concerned with what people might think. Whereas it was Allah alone who should have been your concern. But then when xanes marriage had ended, the eye goes on to say we gave her to you in marriage, so that in the future no blame should be attached to the believers for marrying the spouses of their adopted children after their marriage has ended and thus allows will was done. Allah subhanaw taala did not stop there. He refuted the taboo directly saying Well imagine Allah edit or Yeah, uncle Abner that he can oh look on the F word Kiko Wallah who? Yeah cool, hot. Well, who we have this will be

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in the room

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who are Uposatha and Allah and Allah has not made your adopted children, your actual children. This is just something you say with your mouse. Meaning this is not reality. But Allah subhanahu wa Tada he speaks the truth and He guides to the Right Way call them by their fathers names. That is more just to Allah subhanahu wa taala

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and Allah subhanaw taala emphasizes this point in the case of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam say now can and will hang with him

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Zayn and the bins Josh was at the center of this entire saga and through her Allah azza wa jal overturned the incorrect beliefs of her society and her culture.

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And if Zainab never took pride in her lineage, she did take pride in the previous verses being revealed about her.

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There was a healthy amount of competition and rivalry between the wives of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and Xena Ben Josh was heard saying more than once you all were married to the prophet by your fathers, whereas Allah is the One who married me to the Prophet alayhi salatu salam,

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Zina, who was very pious and prayerful. She is the one who was so dedicated to her night prayers, that the prophets of Allah Herati he was salam discovered a rope tied from the ceiling that she would tie around herself to use to keep her from falling over. When she was praying at night she would fall asleep.

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That's how much she prayed at night. That's how dedicated she was to her night prayers. The prophets of Allahu Allahu wa salam, the prophet of mercy. When he came in and saw that he had to tell her look, if you get that tired, please lay down and sleep.

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And even though there were moments of rivalry and competition between the prophets wives, they all understood that their sisterhood in Islam came first.

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And that doing the right thing came first zeyneb His biggest competition was always I should I should remark that she felt the prophets Allah Allahu Allah He was Saddam love to them to the most. Allah knows best.

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But when the if took place, the rumors that the hypocrites spread about our Isha being unfaithful to the prophets of Allahu Allah He was

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saying that did not take advantage of the situation she could have. She could have pressed her advantage she could have tarnished it she was named but when the Prophet alayhi salatu salam came designer that asked her Did you see anything

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Zayn upset directly I know nothing but good from eyes.

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And I shall hold the Allahu Anhu was the same towards saying that even if they got jealous of one another from time to time, they would praise each other behind their back so far as I show now eight to 10 thoughts higher on 15 means as well as calling what a stalker had Ethan we're also live. We're out on a mana was it was sort of, alright, so said I've never seen a woman better in her faith than Xena, or more fearful of Allah or more truthful in her speech or better towards her relatives are more trustworthy and generous.

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Indeed, Zeno's generosity was legendary. Throughout her life, even in her old age, she would make things by hand out of leather and sell them at the market. Every single penny that she earned from this work was given to charity, to the point that when they went into her house after she passed away, they did not find a single coin in her house.

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Before his death, the Prophet Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said that's rockin the hook on V of one a Canadian. The quickest of you to follow me, he meant in depth has the longest hands.

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The wives of the prophets of Allah on a of a sudden, they started measuring up their hands in their arms next to each other since an Arabic You can use the word hand for the whole arm as well. So that was the tallest of them so they figure that she would die first after the Prophet Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam she had the longest arm.

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But then zeyneb died first. Zainab bint Josh and they realized that they had misunderstood what the Prophet says a lot. He said.

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He did not mean literally, the length of her arm. He was using a figure of speech to talk about the one who was the most generous. The one who extended their hands the furthest to help the poor and the needy. That was Xena. Ben Jash Mother of the Believers, mother to us all

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