Tom Facchine – Why Doesn’t The Imam Speak About X,Y and Z

Tom Facchine
AI: Summary © The speaker discusses the importance of respecting individual boundaries and balancing one's doldrums. They stress the need to be cautious when it comes to doldrums and the need to be mindful of one's needs and expectations. The speaker also mentions the need to balance one's doldrums and needs with others' needs and expectations.
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When it comes to our expectations about what any man might say on in on the member for, like I said, there was something like that people need to be realistic. That's one thing. You know, not everybody is qualified to talk about everything, and not everybody has experienced and everything, right? If you have any man who knows nothing about business, you don't want to want him to talk about business, right? If he tries to say anything, he's gonna say something dumb, and he's gonna mislead you. Right? Then again, every single individual has a set of experiences and a set of expertise. And you know, and they should feel free to speak from that sort of expertise. So sometimes sometimes we

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approach people and we're not very fair, like, Well, why doesn't he talk about that? Or why is he talking about that, bro, that's not his, that's not his lane, right? If you're trying to push them into a different lane, he's gonna end up saying something embarrassing and misguiding people in the first place. So one thing we need to be sure about is that we respect people's boundaries, if somebody has the sense that you know the the good sense and their own limitations, to be able to restrict themselves to sort of the things that they know more about and let him be let them be in that and let him do his thing. Now, when it comes specifically to things about the dunya like, you

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know, everything comes back to balance and a loss of data and the Quran described us in the court described us as an ummah that is balanced a middle of way, a middle path, a middle, and Allah azza wa jal, he said, you know, take care of your afterlife, but don't forget your portion of the dunya. Right. And so we just need to make sure that that comes in that order. Right. And that sequence because I haven't seen a place usually the problem, at least in North America is that Muslims are really, really good at taking care of their dunya and it's their, their Deen, that is the thing that suffers and is put on the backburner and is the last priority. Maybe there's a place on Earth right

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now where you know, we have a Muslim community, that's all just, you know, acetic. And, you know, just getting by and doing the bare minimum of the dunya. And maybe they could stand to be told to like live a little but that's not my experience. That's not what I see. So Allah subhanaw taala, he put it perfectly when he said that, that you know, the first priority is your deen, the first priority is the afterlife. Once you're doing enough, and you have enough of a regimen that you're you know, you've got that on lock, and that's down, then you can worry about your portion of the dunya. Because the tricky thing about the dunya is that it's never enough, right? You think right

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now, well, if I just have this one type of car, or if I just have this sort of next promotion, or if I have this one type of house, like then I'll be cool, you won't be cool. Now the problem is, is that I'm told us that if if an atom if a person had a value of gold, what would they do? They'd want another one. And he said specifically that people will not be satisfied until their mouths are filled with the dirt of their graves, right? So we have to be aware. And we have to be very, very cautious when it comes to the nature of desire. We have to question ourselves, if we want this thing and we want that thing and we want this other thing we need to question our wants, is it okay for

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you to want that thing? How much is it okay to want it? What are you willing to do to get it? What are you willing to sacrifice? And are some of the sacrifices that you're willing to make religious sacrifices, if that's the situation, and you need to pump the brakes, and you need to be actually, you know, check yourself and say, Well, you know, what, my deen is what takes priority here and the dunya is going to have to wait, there is a theoretical other extreme, though, honestly, I don't see it very much. But there's a theoretical other extreme there where somebody is they just spend all their time in the machine. And they think that being a religious person means to be poor, or means

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to be kind of this sort of Meek personality. And that's also not true, right? Many of the companions were very wealthy, right. And they were traders. They were business people they had they were merchants, you know, they were out and doing things even almost, you know, a lot of times we think and we imagined that the companions were just chillin with a prophet Allah, he's about to sit on, like, 24/7. That's not true, right? I'm not who is the, you know, the second best after Abu Bakar, he switched off every day, he alternated, he paired up with one it was another companion and he said, Okay, I need to take care of my dunya I go out here and I'm going to work the fields and take

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care of my plant my date plantation on this day, and you go be with the Prophet. So I said, um, and then you come back and you tell me what happened. And then the next day, I'm going to go and I'm going to take that time to be with the Prophet alayhi salatu. Salam and Hugo work the fields, right. So you know, there's, they weren't all the time 24/7 Most of them with the Prophet alayhi salatu salam, they had to go out and to make money, but consider that that means Omar is working halftime, right? He's working every other day. He's not working every day, right? So you know, you have to find a way to to keep it balanced, but not just your idea of what's balance, right? Also what's

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balanced according to your needs. Sure, of course, everybody has needs, but also according to look at the companions and how they managed it. They had to manage between all these sorts of different demands on their time and these sorts of concerns and imperatives and needs, right? And again, you need to take the temperature of the room and you need to see where people are attending to exceed or fall into excess. And in North America, I'm sorry, but I have not come across anybody who's, who's who's, you know, in only a handful of people, I can probably count them on one or two hands that have leaned towards the excess of the deen over to the sacrifice of their doing yet or leading a

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sort of miserable poor life or something like that. The vast majority of people that I've encountered that

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It's the opposite is that the dunya comes first and they could stand to balance themselves out with a little bit more demons

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