Riyadh al-Saliheen and Women’s Q&A #42

Rahim Al hamdu Lillahi Rabbil Alameen wa salatu salam ala shuffle MBA almost saline and they've been awkward watching a Muhammad Ali of masala Mosca testing Allahumma Alim that we may in fact run out on fat and I'd be mad at them to the was it now in many Arab Alana means that I'm going to come to LA he would occur to everybody on this last day of I showed up 10th of Muharram 1443 Welcome to our

class that's dedicated to our

ladies of our community

where we're going through real solid hands

and taking any sorts of questions that might come up.

So

today is a new day, we get to start a new chapter on the law Hill hunt.

Chapter on truthfulness,

of Bible as said that the Bible said he said the truthfulness.

As is the style of our illustrious author Al Imam and know where we are him a whole lot harder. He begins every chapter with quotes from the poor and

so he says, Allahu Tada, now the Buddha humanists on regime. Yeah, you had a lady in tupple Ah, how cool oh man, I saw the thing. This isn't sort of the Toba verse 119 We'll call that the audit of Paula. Tada. What's on the Athena was saw the A CT from Surah Al Aqsa, not there's more context to that verse. We'll call it a TATA furlough Sadako Hello Can I hire on a home and that sort of to Mohammed

as for the interpretation of these areas, that email or no we brings,

he says Allah Almighty says, Oh, you who believe be afraid of a law and be with those who are true.

A saw the theme.

The second quotation from sorts of the men and women who are truthful.

And this is part of a larger area where Allah Spano, Tala is promising them their reward. So he's naming

a long list of different positive qualities and one of those qualities is that they are truthful.

And then finally, the ion sort of Muhammad, then if they had been true, if they had been true to Allah, it would have been better for them.

The first i in sort of Tober be afraid of Allah, have fear of Allah have Taqwa of Allah, and be with those who are true?

Where can we find those people?

That's a question to you. Where should we go?

Allah subhanaw taala commanded us to be with people who are true.

We should ask why.

And we should ask how? Let's answer those two questions together.

Why should we be with those who are truthful? What are the benefits of being around those who are truthful?

And how do we do it? We let's say that we want to we're convinced, okay, we want to be with the people who are truthful. Just like last fall data said

what's going to change? How are we going to go about doing that?

Who has an answer

Okay, so

as for the why helps us in our own qualities. Why does it help us in our own qualities? To be around people who are truthful, what's going to happen?

Yes, bring out the good in us, it's going to set an example for us, it's going to create some peer pressure, it's going to all these sorts of things.

You know,

when Allah subhanaw taala says be with the truthful,

what comes to mind first is kind of our friends and our family and things like that.

And that's fairly obvious. We don't want to be around people who lie

or say untruthful things or even believe in untruthful things.

But that, if we're talking about the reason being,

because we're concerned about the influences over ourselves,

then this would extend or it would seem to extend to every type of influence on us.

If we are

looking at how we spend our day,

24 hours, okay, we spend between six and eight of it, sleeping. And on nonfasting days, maybe, however many hours eating, and we have work and we have that sound, we have that and then we zone out on social media and then we're on Netflix and then we're whatever we're doing.

If we take that into account,

are we also being with the truthful?

Is there a relationship with

the things that we view in terms of television in terms of media in terms of articles that we read, in terms of news in terms of forward messages, right? I know, the aunties are great with the forward messages.

Right?

How much of our day is spent being with the truthful and how much of the day is spent being with the doubtful and how much of the day is spent being with the

untruthful

right, this is the importance and if you look at the city, in a broad frame, right? The city

places a lot of importance about sha Allah, right? The signs of Allah, the, the MSG, the minarets, the then the read outside and write public. Yes, Public Religion, because all religion is public, despite what some people imagine,

in order to have influence in order to have influence, because we need to make sure that Islam has influence over the lives of us in the lives of over our children. And we need to make sure that we are being influenced by the proper channels, whether that's media, whether that's friends, whether that's teachers, whether that's books, a lot of there is a there is a

real shortage of quality Fiction

for Young adults

and adolescents. Once they get out of the board books and out of the very, very short books, talking about getting into chapter books, write chapter books that would meet this criteria Kuno Masada 15 are very few

that has an effect we have and we're going to mention this in the clip but tomorrow insha Allah Tada, where almost every parent child relationship is depicted as toxic in some way. The parents just don't understand the parents are overbearing, the child needs to break free from them and liberate themselves and explore etc, etc.

This is not Kunal Masada thing.

This is not spending time with the truthful. This is a lie.

This sort of depiction or the depiction of love, love is love. You know, it's just people who should be able to love who they want, you know, that's something we can talk about all day. All these sorts of lies that exist out in our society. Kunal Masada, fain be with the truthful, the people who speak the truth, the influences that are truthful, and if that applies to us and of course that should apply to our children as well.

So, then we get into it, the Hadith. The first one number 54 of the whole book Abdullah, Radi Allahu Anhu said, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, truth leads to piety.

Albir is the word that we're using here for piety and piety leads to Jannah.

A person persists in speaking the truth, till he is enrolled or registered with Allah azza wa jal as a truthful person

falsehood

leads to Vice

Alkhateeb

yesterday, LOL Fujio for jurors, what we're saying is vice, which for Georgia is a little bit stronger than vice in my opinion.

And vice leads to the fire

and the person will persist in telling lies until he is enrolled or registered with a law as a liar

one of the things that is central to our religion and all traditional teachings,

before our very, very recent modern era

is that there is a fundamental difference between

what you do

and who you are.

There is a fundamental difference between what you do and who you are.

And that is on display through implication, in this hadith

the Prophet sallallahu sallam said that a person will persist in speaking the truth, verb

action, what you do

until he is enrolled or registered with Allah azza wa jal as a truthful person, who you are.

We do not simply come out of the womb

as fixed people,

even if every single one of us is allotted or apportioned

a certain amount of fitna or trial something that we struggle with.

We're not fixed, we have a relationship of ebb and flow, waxing and waning with our

with our actions which reflect the choices that we make. But there is a point after which we've chosen and chosen and chosen and chosen and chosen a certain action over and over and over again

that then it becomes who we are,

in the sense that it is so essential to us, that it is almost impossible

to give it up or to leave it

the imports of this hadith should be fairly obvious, when we have many things that are being litigated in society, such as homosexual relationships, such as

non binary gender definitions, such as

gender transitions, all these sorts of things.

Many of them are predicated

on an idea of fixity, that something is fixed in our nature and it cannot change and it has no relationship with what we do.

I am this way, this is who I am.

If you do not let me pursue my pleasure, if you do not let me act on my desire or my wish, you are denying who I am.

And in today's language, then that's trauma, that's violence, that's et cetera, et cetera, et cetera.

Our tradition would say,

not so fast. There is a fundamental difference between who you are and what you do.

And who you are,

is not made up of your desires. You are not a body that just happens to have a soul as this is a well known quote, You are a soul that happens to have a body

and the body is this arena of all these sorts of different emotions, some of them noble, some of them ennoble, some of them suggestions of good some of them suggestions of evil

and it is Desinger

tenuous

to attempt to suggest that any sort of desire, any sort of inkling, or wish that we have,

that arises within us, is part of our essential self, part of who I am.

And you may not deny me the exercise of that pleasure, or the fulfillment of that wish. And everybody knows this, even if they're not living according to it, even if they're not consistent, and how we can tell that they that people no this is that this is what they would, they would never accept this type of logic with other sorts of things.

If we're talking about cheating on our spouses, if we're talking about stealing, for talking about any other sort of thing that is still, while Lila Hill Hamed disapproved of in our society,

then nobody would accept as an argument of justification. This is who I am.

I came out this way.

I was naturally born with this particular desire.

And to deny me the fulfillment of that desire is tantamount to denying my right to exist at all.

But through money and influence, this particular dalawa this particular

argument has gotten a lot of traction and we ask a lot to preserve us in our families

and protect us I mean,

so the province is someone lays it out here, habitus, I was called by Aristotle, habitus is real, right?

The majority of us are a mixture of good and bad things, good and bad, inclinations good and bad suggestions. And it's the choices that we make

that determine what's the next step ahead for us.

Because it's easier to walk forwards than it is backwards, right.

So if you start walking forwards, the path of least resistance the easier way is to keep going forwards, it takes more effort to turn around one ad and then walk the other way.

So this is what this hadith teaches us. That everything that you choose. It's an isolated choice, yes, it will be rewarded or punished. According to Allah's wisdom, yes, but it also makes the way easier.

It makes the way easier for your next decision. It creates, it tips the scale towards that decision. The next time you have to make a similar decision. If you're honest, if you're a truth teller, if you tell the truth,

then you have tipped the scale towards the truth. And next time you have the opportunity or the dilemma whether to tell a convenient lie or whether to tell an inconvenient truth, then it will be easier for you to choose to tell that truth. Whereas if you told to choose if you chose excuse me to tell the inconvenience, I'm getting stuff here. If you chose to tell the convenience lie, the self serving lie, then you have worn that path just a little bit more. And the next time you come across a similar dilemma, then you will be a little bit more likely to choose to again tell the convenient self serving lie.

And this happens on and on and on. Until you've gotten to the point where it's too far to turn back one way or the other. Either you've been written amongst the people of paradise or you've been written among the people of the hellfire and we ask Allah for Salam and if

the next Hadith

on the authority of Hassan

Ali

or the Allahu Anhu Ummah,

from the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, very very famous Hadith, that Maya Ebuka Illa Allah URI Buka

give up

what is doubtful to you?

For that, which is not doubtful to you.

So in the silica

format, Nina, well, Kariba Riva, for certainly truth is peace of mind and falsehood is doubt.

Give up what is doubtful and causes you doubt.

Give it up for that which

does not cause those doubts.

This hadith of the prophesy Sonam is a very well known concept.

It has to do with proving that we all have this neffs who love WAM, this

part of our soul

that

is our conscience that calls us to good. That calls us to obedience, the little voice in the back of our heads, as we say, in the English idiom

that really knows what's right deep down,

that won't be fooled by all this kind of rationalization that we do to justify the convenient self serving lies that we tell.

And this is why last fall to on sort of the TA, and sort of TA he said that the person who turns away from remembrance, his life is bunk.

Restricted,

he doesn't enjoy it. Don't think that the funeral homes of the world are just living a life of bliss and pleasure and ease, it might seem that way. They certainly have the riches to seem that way. But that's not what's really the internal

situation.

They are wracked with guilt, they are wracked with doubts, they are wracked with

paranoia, as we see so many times in tyrants.

Because that which they're doing, you know, to be generous would be to say, doubtful,

or always looking over their shoulder, Have you ever talked to somebody about something and they kind of like, they're acting really suspicious?

Like, they're already assuming that you're about to accuse them of something. And so they start defending themselves before you even thought to accuse them.

You know, reminds me back, when I was just a new Muslim, I worked in restaurants. And this one restaurant I worked in, you know, we were

something of an upper class restaurant, we did not do delivery, right? sort of thing.

But there was one particular person who was well known apparently, to, you know, notorious customer.

Who was rumored to be faking sort of these physical injuries in order to get people to bring her her takeout order to the car. Okay. So I was new, there, and so on. So came and they told me, Hey, listen, okay, this, we don't normally do this for anybody, but this such and such a person, you know, just take it out to their car, whatever.

And there was kind of this understanding that this person was kind of lying or not being truthful, you know?

And I was like, well, that's really, you know, I was the naive guy. I was like, well, that's really weird. Why would people assume that this person was lying? Why would they assume that this person was dishonest? Why don't they just take them at their word.

And so I bring the food out to this person. And I get to the car. And the first thing that they say is, you see I have my crutches right here in the back.

As if I was going to investigate, you know, and kind of, you know, doubt, their status as an injured person.

And that was very suspicious. And that made me also say to myself, Ah, okay, so maybe everyone else was right, and maybe this person is not being very forthcoming or honest with their, with their health, just to sort of get a little favor, whatever. But you see such a person, take that person in the car, who's, you know, what are they thinking? What's their existence? Like? while they're waiting? They're talking to the person in the restaurant on the phone, they're placing their order. They're waiting for the person to come out. Are they just like, completely relaxed? Hanging out and chillin and not a care in the world? No, they're afraid they're gonna get caught. They're afraid

someone's gonna call them out. They're thinking and thinking and thinking about, you know, what's the story? I'm going to tell? Are there any holes in my story? I have to cover this and I have to account for that.

Bring my props or whatever. That's not a peaceful life. That's the life of bunk. That's the life of doubt. That's the life of

when you still have a conscience, the conscience tries to hold you accountable. And so the prophesy said, I'm just saying, Listen, you know, if you find yourself in that situation, where your own internal speech is on overdrive, because you're like

You're thinking how other people are looking at you, and you are, you know, like, really, really worried that, you know, someone's gonna say something and what are what? How should I respond and et cetera, et cetera, then you should probably not be involved in that thing in the first place. Right, you probably shouldn't be involved in that thing in the first place. That that's an indication that you have Yes, your heart is alive. hamdulillah and that, it's telling you you should stop.

And you should listen to that voice because if you stop just like our last Hadith taught us was habitus the idea of, you know, the decisions that you may create a momentum

if you choose to ignore that voice enough times you might get to the point where that voice stops speaking or you can't even hear that voice anymore and so the prophesy said I'm says if there's something that causes you doubt, then leave it then get out of it then refrain from it and go to something that doesn't cause you to doubt

and gives us a wonderful universal principle

says that truthfulness is peace of mind

if you're telling the truth the person who tells the truth they sleep well at night there's nothing that internal speech that internal interrogation those imaginary conversations, they're not concerned they are clear between them and a loss found to Allah they told the truth

they have nothing to worry about. Whereas the person who is lying there is the life of doubt

I see the battery on my

device is almost out I need to make sure this is broken on the wall just a second any questions that you have please put them in the chat box.

Okay, so let's have one more Hadith it's

it's just about time to break fast. Why don't we stop for today for all those who are fasting? Any questions?

Okay, then inshallah Tada. We will see you next time. Allah Tada Adam Salaam Alaikum laughs