Tom Facchine – Lessons from the Wives of the Prophet- Aisha

Tom Facchine
AI: Summary © The interview segment discusses the importance of the Prophet's words during events, including a proposal made by a woman to her interested man, a woman who wants to become a chef, and rumors surrounding the presence of the Prophet. The segment also touches on the controversy surrounding the presence of the Prophet while he was in his house, and rumors surrounding the actions of the previous king and his followers. The segment ends with a quote from a Muslim community about forgiveness and graduation, and a call to humble oneself and work together to establish a vibrant Muslim community.
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on a cell field

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whatever the who was you know exactly how it

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may have been

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was your hands

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all right

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what else

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yeah a couple more

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that I wanted to see oh

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yeah we want to talk

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of course we know that our swimming pool the idea of you know money is

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what type of water that

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can be

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yeah the

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last hour or two you confident with

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your sector go way up

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What are you

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thinking and the

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last one

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was going to happen? What will

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what will happen?

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Today is the third part

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of our four part series on the wives of the Prophet.

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Today we know that hotkey shift

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by shift was the thoughts are about that we'll talk about Sunday and Ruhlman.

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I should tells us in the books of Hadith that she doesn't remember a time before Islam,

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which makes her one of the first companions to be born and raised entirely upon the faith.

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that'd be sevens. That artist is the most knowledgeable and intelligence female

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in the history of Earth.

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She is one of them.

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Having now risen over 1000 of the province settings and actions of a local army.

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The number of our current operations reaches 2210 According to a deputy placing are behind only right off the line.

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Have the

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power marriage to the process.

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is one of history's most remarkable love stories. Allah azza wa jal destined them for each other in a way unlike any other of the Prophet swipes.

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The problem is that it tells us in academic collected by the FBI, that he had a tree three nights in a row, that angel degree you carry on a shot to the proper audience,

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on a cushion of self, and he said to the prophets of Allah.

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This is surely

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the Prophet alayhi salatu salam replied, If Allah Wilson's, then it will happen.

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Indeed, Allah azza wa jal will this afternoon, but he just died as a female companion advisor. And even though some of them been hacking, approach the Prophet on a solid, asking him if he has plans to remarry, remembering

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the process required some will call for a person of color then recommended both settled.

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the Prophet saw above it

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right away. And eventually, with the worker and his wife

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to discuss.

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The problem was at the time it should have already been offered in average, to the sun,

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isn't it?

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Despite his love and friendships with the Prophet, the police

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would not go back on his word. He said to the Prophet, I swear by the fact that I've never once broken a promise. And so we did the honorable thing he went to his wife, and he asked them to come to a decision regarding their son and his daughter eyes.

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They both answered that they fear that if there are some memory, I'm a chef, he would convert to a smile. And so they rejected the proposal, freeing it chef's look at *, the proposal of the profits of a lot of money in

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their marriage powered into a relationship of events tenderness and affection. Were the prophets of Allah he was asked, Who do you love the most.

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And he responded without hesitation nice.

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People knew this. And so they use it to visit the prophets of Allah while he was on the days he stayed with Aisha.

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If they had a gift to give him, they would actually hold on to it and wait to give it to us until he was in his house. This bothered many of the other wires of the province of the law, quality of assumptions. Why should I get should get all of the attention? Why should she get all the gifts of the visitors and delegates? Why should she get all have the honor?

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When we set them up, approach the Prophet alayhi salatu salam about the issue. She asked him to command the people, not the single outside issues today to visit the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa salam and bring him gifts,

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the proper football but he didn't say anything. He kept silent. So she persisted and asked a second time

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again, he said nothing. On third time she brought up the issue and finally he said I owe you some

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trouble because of it.

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I swear by Allah revelation doesn't come to me in any of your home.

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except for her on sudden I immediately regretted her statement saying, I repent to Allah, I'm having trouble with the Messenger of Allah.

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But she wasn't done. She met with the Prophet saw it or probably said recruits her health bow was much more direct. So the Prophet SAW THE LOVE body and said that she said to him, your wives urge you to be fed between them and

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the prophets of Allah while he was setting them he responded. Don't you love who I love? You found the mother green? Of course, how could she disagree? She went back to the salon and the rest of his wives to deliver the news. They tried to insist that she'd go back and ask again, about the amount of views so next thing recruits him saying that the bids Josh, one of the prophets wives, who had no full lineage, and a lot of influence. Xena was even more bold than Tao.

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She repeated popular statements. Your wife's urge you to be fair, but some better an audition. She raised her voice until artists should hear every word in the next room over. She even started to insult audition. But the abattoir until the provenance of the body was the last turn to look at auditions through the doorway, wondering if she was going to respond.

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She did respond.

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And while I mean most don't tell us exactly what she said. It was eloquent enough and effective enough to silence

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admiring for elephants. The process of a lowboy was someone commented, she's just like her father,

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obviously, is at the center of one of the most important and educational events that happened to the early Muslim community known

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for the slander

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that happened in the fifth year after the input to Medina. So after better after hopefully,

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if the prophets of Allah while he was someone had to travel somewhere such as for a battle, his wives would draw straws to see who would get to go with him, and who would have to stay behind.

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During one military campaign that year. I picked the straw I got to go with the province long running.

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The campaign was already over. The army was returning to Medina and they have stopped to rest. I

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had to use the bathroom. So she walked until she was out of sight of the Army.

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After she had finished her business on her way back to the camp, she realized that a necklace that she had had broken off and problems.

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She loves this necklace very much. And so she retraced her steps, and spent a long time trying to recover and find the necklace. Finally she did find it.

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But as she made her way back to camp, she saw to her horror that the army had resumed the German home and had left her behind.

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As artists, she tells this story, she explains to her contemporary listeners how this oversights was possible. Women used to travel in a sort of carriage that was spits on top of the back of a camera. When the camera rested, men would lift the carriage down from the Capitol and put it on the ground. When it was time to go they would lift the carriage and put it back on top of the camera. This was supposed to let women progress and they don't have privacy and make it stay out of the hot sun. I said explains that in general, women back then were much lighter. She says that they used to eat very, very little and that she in particular was very thin, even compared to the women of her time.

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So it's perfectly imaginable. She says herself that a lot of time when men could have lifted the carriage and placed it back upon the family had not even noticed that our issue was not inside.

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So I sat on the board by herself in the desert but she

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wasn't standing. She made theirs that they will realize what happened and then come back to the effort. She leaves

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and falls asleep.

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I'll come back and by the name of software and even that's what God was bringing up the reader of the army had noticed as a sleeping human figure. When he got closer, he recognized that it was on a show, and she woke up

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on his show says that he didn't never even say a word to her. He simply made this panel stooping down so she could get on top of it. Then he led the camera by the reins back to the female walking in front of it the whole way.

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I showed returns to Medina in this matter riding on the back of someone's camera, not in a carriage design release a little bit, it should know that the rumor mill has already started turning in her absence, gossip was being spread about her. And the reason why she stayed behind. Bad news travels fast. And before anyone who is the city of Medina was on fire with the rumor that I should I have been unfaithful to the Prophet bunnies,

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and that she has stayed behind on purpose to commit an act of fidelity.

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Ah, Isha was completely oblivious to these rumors, to make matters worse upon her while she fell ill. And so she spent a long time with absolutely no interaction with anyone else that will give her a clue about the vicious rumors being spread about.

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The only thing that she noticed was the behavior of the province and the law. While he was some of them, it has changed. He wouldn't sit down in her home, or be his criminal role that action and so instead of he would just pop them for a minute, give her some, ask her how she was doing, and then leave. It wasn't until I had a chance encounter with another woman that she learned what people were saying.

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Back then there were no bathrooms in people's homes. And so there was a pit at the edge of the residential area where people would go to do their business on the show left her house to relieve herself as she ran into over

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the mother off as a post together or just tripped on something. And she cursed. But the strange thing was that she cursed her own son.

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I guess I was shocked at the words that she had heard and she said, What a horrible thing you have said.

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Do you curse a man who fought the battle was better?

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This thought replied to her. Oh, you poor naive girl. Don't you know what he said about you? And she told our patient the whole story, and honestly said she felt sick to her stomach on top of the illness that she already had.

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The next day it showed us the problems of a loved one. It was set up for permission setting at our parents house.

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He agreed she asked her parents what are the people saying about me?

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Her mother told her find the girl. Don't take it personally. When your woman is together with a man who loves her. There are almost always people who wish her arm back will conspire against her.

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she cried non stop for days.

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In the meantime, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam kind of serious dilemma on his hand. He wants him to believe the innocence of his wife. He never have had any sort of suspicion before, nor did he ever have reason to suspect her of any wrongdoing to do what she was accused of would be completely out of her character. But the power of rumors is both in the possibility that they are true. And in the impossibility of finding out who started

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did someone actually see something or hear something that nobody could really be sure

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Revelation on top of it was not being revealed instantly to fix or illuminate the situation, the Muslim community was being left temporarily to figure it out on their own.

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As the rumors spread the pressure to respond to take action group events, much like today's Social Media scandals, but the prophets will along on either Sunday dinners wants to be hasty, or jump to conclusions. So he did what he always did some a lot, a few symptoms. He reached out to those he trusted for advice. He asked husana And Arlene for their products, who sat on the shore, the thought was, oh, hard, and he was southern that I was innocent. And he pointed to her history of good character, I think, reassure the province along with some of that ever was going on, along with never abandon or forsake the province and the love bombing. But

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if he really wanted to know what

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he said, Ask the person closest to her.

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Some of the proper follow up while he was suddenly called buddy, who was a freed slave that audition his best friend, he asked her Have you ever seen anything from audition? To make you doubt her innocence? No, you're required to know. And I swear by the one who sent you in truth, I cannot find anything about somebody or find a fault with except that she's a young lady who falls asleep in front of her food. So much so that the birds come and eat instead.

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The prophets Allah or the Wizard of Oz, now he encouraged his two closest companions and advisors supported ISIS innocence, the person closest to it should have been the same. It was time to set the issue straight once and for all. The prophets of Allah, it was time to move on to address the rumors in front of the entire community. But things will get worse before they got better. I believe we had there was something about that he went to Cambodia this evening, and he was just available in.

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city that

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the prophets of Allah, he stood off and he said, Oh Muslims, who will need to be against someone who has struggled my family, because I swear by the law, I don't know anything from my family was goodness.

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Silence, even while stood up, and he was one of the chiefs of one of the Arab tribes.

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And he said theatrical Allah, I will take care of him for you. If he is remind us, I will slay him with my story.

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And if he is from our brothers and

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the other Arab tribe and Medina, then we only await your orders.

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The thoughts of someone from the house tribe a killing someone from the tribe that has stirred up some of the old and tribalism, that was left over in some of the companions, Sally,

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who was cheeky, of that other tribe that has stood up and responded at that time you lie, you will not kill one of our tribes. And furthermore, you are not able to do so.

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Another man from the first stripe stood up, and he said wrong. We can and will kill him and you are nothing but a hypocrite, arguing on behalf of the hypocrites.

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And this chaos broke loose. Everyone stood up and started shouting at each other and threatening each other old rivalries and grudges surface and the people of faith were the closest they have ever been to full scale. So before all of this took place, while the prophets of Allah was only a member in the mercy of the prophets of Allah, he was

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this scene teaches us two things. First, the devil is always looking to exploit our differences and

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virus. Allah says industry Columna Young.

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Surely the devil seeks to divide them. In order to be effective the devil needs to convince us

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to read his writings, he needs to convince us that we are defending our honor. He tries to convince us that we are defending the sun.

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All the while, we are only weakening the Muslim community and holding it back.

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This scene also teaches us that every community has its portion of drama.

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If this type of drama happens to the companions in front of the prophets of Allah while he was on them, then we can expect with certainty that we will have drama from time to time in our communities.

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The difference between a successful community and then a successful community is in our ability to put these things behind us and keep working together to move forward.

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The problems will evolve.

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Eventually, he was able to calm everyone down and avoid bloodshed. Then the payoff is shown the visits. It had been an entire month since the ordeal has started. And no revelation had been sent down to clear operations planning apartments oh boy, he was sat down with Aisha for the first time since the rumor had began. And September automation, this story has reached me. So if you are innocent, Allah will prove your innocence. And if you have sin, seek Allah's forgiveness and turn it back to him because if a person admits their sin and turns back to Allah, Allah will forgive them.

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These words did not sue that issue. They made her angry. It was as if the prophets of Allah, Allah, he was in Indonesia to the rumors. She asked her father, to respond to the Prophet five equals, she asked her mother to respond to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, but she wouldn't. So she responded herself.

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She said, you all have heard this rumor until it has settled into your hearts and you have been Egypt. So if I told you that I am innocent, and Allah knows that I am innocent, you won't believe me. But if I were to confess, and Allah knows that I have innocence, you will then believe me. I swear I can't find a more suitable example than when Josef's Father said for some of the media, although it was

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so beautiful. She never considered herself important enough that the poor and I wouldn't be revealed about her situation. She knew that along with setting her up, I was hoping the prophets of Allah when he was done that would be given a dream.

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No sooner and she said her peace, and the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam understood to be human, and he was stricken with agony of Revelation.

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The sorts of noise coming down on him. He started sweating profusely, as he often did when he received the revelation. When it was over the prophets of Allah, why he started laughing. He said, God, Allah has declared here medicines. So our nation's mother set the high standard,

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I should refuse.

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She said, I swear by Allah, I will refer to him. And I won't thank anyone except Allah.

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Soon as I show is that fair, innocent type of weapon wants him to punish the spot. Remember, this is not was one of the people who had spread the rumor.

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This thought was more and he was a relative of

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somebody who use to support this financially.

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And we've got there was some upset Microsoft's actions that he took them off that he would never get this off another time as long as he

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then a lot, of course, 22 or so months ago. Do not that some people have virtue of the affluence among you swear to suspend the donations of their relatives, the needy and the emigrants in the cost of Allah let up pardon and for you.

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Do you not love to be forgiven by law? And the law on this all forgiving, Most Merciful

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was correct. To want justice. But she was wrong.

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And the way he went about it, charity is not even for favors. Charity is not given to control the person that you're giving us to.

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We learn from anything that is given with the expectation of something in return, even kindness or offense. It's not for the sake of Allah. That's not charity. That's business. If we are sincere that our charity should be the same, whether we are faked or insulted by the person we're giving it to.

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Although statement reminders have a buffer at this point, so as a buffer, broke his back and continue to support this CP no loss forgiveness event took another hole. I swear by Allah I will never retract my support for myself.

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The story of the ethic shows us that Allah azza wa jal is not the king. He is the most subtle and wise. Look at the wisdom in delaying the revelation. It exposed the hypocrites, and it taught the community valuable lessons.

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One of the most important lessons is that it's not always enough to have good intentions if you don't do the right thing.

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Sure, the rumor was started by people with bad intentions that hypocrites

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what the rumor was carried on and given life and amplified by people who intended good.

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So give a miner an analogy. They hit the share button and you hit the forward button. They didn't take time to think or to investigate, or to realize that it was not their business, or that they weren't in a position to investigate in the first place. Look at all the harm and the cause. Would it be acceptable for those involved in spreading the rumor to simply say, Well, we have good intentions.

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They were convicted of slander and they were given the prescribed punishments and were with

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their good intentions did not excuse the harm that they had cause which requires not just an apology, but retribution.

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Another lesson is that the honor and reputation of your fellow Muslim is sacred. The Prophet sallallahu was was thinking that it was the

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devil who will metaphorical all of a sudden a song from another Muslim, his blood, his wealth, and his reputation. His honor, keep your mouth shut when it comes to the mistakes of other Muslims. Unless someone specific did something specific to you, that needs to be fixed. Or you're trying to help solve a situation for someone else. Don't busy yourself with things that don't concern you.

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Worry about yourself, and what you can control in your immediate surroundings. We're not going to fix the world unless we clean up our own homes and our own communities.

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Another lesson is as everyone will be tested a lot promised us this in the beginning of sorts of unfair votes.

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It was an enormous test that no one expected some of the companions like Zane and Josh pass the test with full marks. Do you remember her? She was the same woman who had raised her voice and insulted Aisha when it came to people visiting the province all about why he goes on auditions day when the rumors began to spread about her on the show, saying sister

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urge to say no to humans a scandal to her advantage to advance her status with the problem. So I want to knock it shut down a notch.

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Let's say that refuse.

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The proper follow up was someone actually asked zaimes opinion on the issue. Before I show was proven innocence. But Zeynep was protected by her piety. She told the prophets of Allah it was something that she knew nothing but goodness or lavish

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as her having a persistent she was caught up in the slavery and the bedroom the posh word

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wishes the other final lesson.

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Other than acapella New Vegas solo the chief of the hammock

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Is everybody else involved in spreading the rumor work good Muslims. This boss was a veteran of the Battle of better. Hamas had attended the wounded on

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campus was the prophets.

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These words evil people, they were good Muslims who got caught up in a slander and were punished accordingly. And after they underwent the punishments, they weren't Shut up. They weren't turned out for expelled from the community. They were taken back. They were reincorporated and welcome them so that they could continue to contribute to the Muslim society.

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As Muslims, we do not hold grudges. We expect people to make mistakes. Every single one of us, myself included.

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We can even expect to have our fair portion of Trump in discord. But eventually we all have to humble ourselves and come back together. For the sake of Allah azza wa jal and to work together to establish a vibrant Muslim community where we live.

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Our community, this community is growing.

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Our messaging is being built.

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It's not going to be easy.

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We will have conflict in this community and there will be issues that threaten to divide us.

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The lessons of the left

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are timely reminders for us as we continue to grow and develop so that we can stay focused and succeed. But most of all, we're certainly out into the hospital because I don't want to put

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in a lot of people who use on do and

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yet I think

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some of the work that he was sending also seen all of a sudden 101 100 came out on Sundays for walking from people walking in a vehicle all the

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around anybody who was able

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to achieve that almost long term. What are people to learn? Watch people

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watch people learn

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anything almost like I

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was looking at dinner I was

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also gonna say no

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no, no, I am a little bit oddly whatever. So anyway, what about well, you don't have to pay more money. Yeah, people from their own federal law have foot wash through water and everything is in Colorado. Yeah.

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