Muhammad Salah – Gardens Of The Pious #667 Prohibition Of Leaving The Fire Burning

Muhammad Salah
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Just give his best religion to allah God has the greatest

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glory to Him

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to be the best and give his best.

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Salam aleikum wa rahmatullah wa barakato. Smilla rahmanir rahim. We praises due to Allah alone. We all praise Him and we seek His help comes to Allah Allah guides is a totally valid one. And whosoever, Allah leads to say, man can show him guidance. I bear witness that there is no God worthy of worship but Allah alone and every witness that Muhammad peace be upon him, is his final messenger and the viewers welcome to another live live edition of gardens of the pious and this program which was started years ago. And Almighty Allah has blessed us to continue for several years, to the extent that today's episode is number 667. In the Blissett, series of the other solar heat gardens

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of the pious, where we explain in depth

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and extract the gems from the if and the verses, which Imam Yahya in the shadow of nowhere we may Allah have mercy on him collected in his beautiful collection of the herbal Salehi various chapters of the deal, the virtuous acts, what is recommended, what is

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prohibited, what is forbidden, what is this like?

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In business, in relationship in family matters. And in acts of worship, today Insha Allah, we will begin a new chapter. This chapter is chapter number 300, chapter number 300. And it talks about and now you and Dawkins, refill Verity and the naumi what are we so antenna T serology, our wide area

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which means the provision of leave leaving the fire on in your house, whenever you go to sleep, and hold the fire on what can the fire at home we're talking about in the past where they didn't have electricity and the only source of warm light was fire. So the lamps were oil lamps and used to hang on walls and put them on the ground. And I myself have witnessed in my childhood, whenever the electricity would be disconnected, and we have a power outage. So you study we used to study on these oil lamps, or gas lamps or candles.

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And when it comes to going to sleep, my father

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and my mother would insist on putting them off, but it will be dark doesn't matter. But you should not leave the fire on. You should not leave the candle lit. You should not leave the fireplace burning wood.

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Nowadays it's winter. In many places, the temperature is below zero. They have the fireplace at home, masha Allah when they burn the wood, and he produces a good smell. Meanwhile, it provides warmth to the entire house. Because the heat

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the gas is really expensive. All electricity is really expensive. And the bills are like sky high. So because of that a lot of people prefer to use the fireplace the word fire in them. That applies to today's practice as well. So the shutter will address the prohibition of keeping the fire on and go to sleep.

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Based on what I mentioned earlier, how do you spend about 16 152

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It's a sound Hadith. And you have learned by now sound Hadith means it is agreed upon its authenticity. Narrated Abdullah ignore Alma in October of your loved one

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and in the video, so love it

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So lemme call

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lert a triple knot of Hebrew up come here in aterna Moon

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and I would like to say the general meaning of the Hadith. Then also read out loud the following Hadith, the Arabic text and the approximate English meaning as well. The following hadith is another agreed upon its authenticity Hadith, Hadith number 16 153 And it is the written by a different companion of water Ashati all the alo I'm required

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by Beighton Bill Medina de Isla La Mina les Philomena hood Thisara so like Salah love it so let me show you call it in heavy and now I do lack of an intern for outfit whoo ha.

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How did it happen? We'll explain Inshallah, but the meaning of the Hadith, Abu Musa luxury, Allah be pleased with him narrated during the life of the prophet Sallallahu sallam. There was one house, it caught fire, and it was burn while the people were inside it.

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They were asleep and they got burned.

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When the prophets Allah, Allah Allah Selim was informed about them. He said, Indeed, fire is your enemy. Fire is your enemy. So put it out.

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Before going to bed, put the fire out before going to get

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the two Hadees together address have mentioned the title of the sharp the interview salatu salam forbade keeping the fire on whether an oil lamp a candle or against that or the firewood in the fireplace one.

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Simply there are some features like the mice,

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we like to play with fire. So they take it out of the fireplace.

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And it falls on the carpet on a rug or any piece of furniture. It catches fire and the houses burn. And fire is very fast, faster the fire department

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passed faster than the people could realize. So it can devour the entire house while the people are still asleep Subhan Allah.

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So Allah Allah they Salam is looking into the welfare of the OMA. Whenever they are awake, whenever they go to sleep, whenever they are in the marketplace, selling, buying, whatever they are in the fields, planting, producing, harvesting, whenever they are in business, whenever they get married, whenever they get divorced.

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In every aspect,

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our religion is a comprehensive religion.

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How to make this danger we discussed a couple of days ago.

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And when we're talking about the prohibition,

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and it is likeness of using the right hand during messenger, which is

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cleaning up after answering the call of nature, which is not permissible.

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So it teaches us everything.

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When you read the I O Surah Al moinet.

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in which a lot of mighty says Elia lemon and color power, who are lovely, who are the

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essential question?

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Doesn't the One who created no best

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he's already the supple the will appointed? Of course he does.

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He is in the creation, and He knows what suits them best. So whenever he prescribes, he prescribes what is best for them. Although I'm not convinced you don't have to be convinced. Now you're not convinced whenever an incident takes place, and then you realize, oh my God, Allah Subhana Allah Rasool, Allah and His Messenger have spoken the truth. Now you realize yes, and there is a difference. That is exactly the major difference between the true believers and the hypocrites.

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So that

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Allah subhanaw taala described one incident

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During the Battle of the Trench, when an abuse Allah Allah Allah Salam shared with the companions of Beshara, masha Allah, you will conquer Persia Mr. Shah Allah, I've been given the treasures of the Roman Empire Allahu Akbar, I will conquer,

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epi Sr.

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O em Yemen.

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Within minutes, we are digging the trench because we're afraid of the enemies because they outnumber us. And you're given us the lab tidings that we're going to defeat not only those enemies, the 10,000 but we'll go into work way beyond that are going to defeat the Roman Empire, the Persian Empire and take over the entire Arabic peninsula, and they are on the whole world.

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So and May,

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Allah Almighty reported the reaction has seen Well,

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the number of workers who saw the Appollo who are also the diversity this is exactly what we have been promised. And Allah and His Messenger have spoken the truth

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with Avi homeownership for Latina, Fiocco, ob in Morocco, know that Allah water su Illa, hoorah.

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While the hypocrites and those who have diseased in the hearts, they are not believers, they pretend they paid sighs everything they question Allah's wisdom, they question the prophets credibility, they question his judgment.

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And Allah subhanaw taala said here could be a matter of

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the have diseases in the hearts, sickness in the hearts thickness of hypocrisy and disbelief. What do they say? No, I had an Allah.

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Allah and His Messenger, they keep promising us victory and whatever. It's all illusion. Nothing of that is happening, or weak or vulnerable and instill in us

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we're going to conquer Persia and the Roman Empire and so on.

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So whenever Allah Almighty says anything in the Quran, or whenever he is messenger SallAllahu Sallam shows us in instructions, the true believers would grasp on it and say this is it. This is the right thing, but before they say, check, is this a sound? Hadith? Is this a sound narration? Is it in the Quran? Is it in the song sunnah? Yes. Hello OS. It's correct.

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People were having doubts. So but I don't really understand the hikma behind it. Many, many back end when the Quran and the Sunnah, the hegner is this kind?

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But does the Almighty Allah O remind new teachers?

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definition of what is the wisdom behind every little thing that he says do Paul do not do? The obviously? Obviously the answer is no. He doesn't. And this is how he tests the believers. Yanni did the Prophet sallallahu Sallam say

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why men shouldn't wear gold was he didn't

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he only say that if you're gold. He said to one of his companions on his wedding. ago, Ray, you're just wearing fire around your finger. So he threw it away, and he never made the

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He didn't ask him. Why?

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What? So? What is wrong? What is the reason? I don't understand.

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I wouldn't if the Creator has to explain every little command of dues or prohibition of do not dues to the minute servants. So what kind of relationship between the creator and the server was servitude? There is no servitude, that servitude is it once you believe that Allah is the most wise and he is well acquainted. Hakeem Have you heard us? That's it. So he says do this you do this. You abstain from doing this. You abstain from doing that?

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Fire at home, whether the fireplace or an oil lamp or gas lamp. And by the way, there are many countries still live in on that.

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Okay, you should not go to sleep

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and leave the far on.

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You have to put it out as a prophet so a lot of celibacy because it can cause a disaster and somebody can get hurt. I don't know interview so the last time was you to be safe.

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The following hadith is going to mention the wisdom

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behind the prohibition after all, whatever see?

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So it's Hadith number 16 154 Seven Hadith collected by Eva Muslim and narrated by the great companion, Jad, if not Dilla, Ravi Allah, Juana

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What else got us malai failure fun for in another voice that will do.

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It. beatdown I really like to read the Arabic text one more time and abuse all allies and I'd say look to the inner

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corner. Wherever you're at wherever we're outfields yada, but in SharePoint Hello. Yeah, hello. See a while after Obama. Well, I actually flew in for LM aged I had to come in. Yeah, whoa la isla ina he rude. Well, of course Mala Evalia fall in and voice like that to the Raman

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Beatty Baytown, a 2 billion naira.

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Hadith for our Muslim. So what does it mean?

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Jehovah did not deliberately Allah humanely read that the Messenger of Allah peace be upon him said cover up the kitchen containers, any vessels, any utterances which contain food

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or drink and it should be covered.

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The ox depends for whatever then he says and die of the mouth of the water skin.

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What is a water skin

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they didn't have

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running water in their homes. So they have the waterways and people the water bearers used to carry the water and go to people's houses and charge them

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in what's container.

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The animal's skin after the slaughter then the time the animals can be cleaned them up, we drive them up. And when the tendons they stitch them and they make them like a water container. So it's actually like to carry the water in them. Meanwhile it is very firm. And then it has a mouse they can pour the water in their in the people's houses in their water containers. So that is the meaning of camera, the kitchen containers and tie up the mouth

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of the water skin. Then he said some a lot of Senate a lack of the doors in which the lamps put out the light of the lamps which lamps, the oil lamps, we're not talking about electricity

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lamps which are run on batteries, like flashlights, we're talking about the particular kind of lamps which is oil lamps.

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Because Satan shade palm can neither untie the water skin. No open the door nor uncover the containers. If one can cover the cooking part,

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even by placing a piece of food that causes

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should do so and pronounce the name of Allah subhanaw taala on it, they let him do it.

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Then he accepted by the end the wisdom he said a mouse can sometimes cause a house to burn alone it dollars. The hadith as I said, is selected by Imam Muslim.

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There are some beautiful teachings here. When I was young

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when we eat dinner, so my mother would say they deliver over to the cage and she would say Mohamed make sure you cover the part and you cover it there is the over food or meat covered up and if the board doesn't have the lid should say just put the knife across

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and that is the meaning of the word. Yeah Hold on. Yeah, I need to put it

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on top of the pot, or the full container or even the water container.

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What does it do

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and then he also Laurie Sullivan has taught us

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that Jim, the E and the drain like us

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they have sexual relations and they have children and offspring like us.

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But virgin look for the food in the dumpsters in the very places. And then and the views on the law or in Salem.

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warn us when you come to your house you should say Bismillah before you enter because vision cafesjian can enter and can cause harm when he did not say Bismillah because if you don't, they will eat with you the shayateen

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Satan's will eat with you as well. EBO you go to sleep and they are running around to mess up the house. The food if it is not covered Shayateen Satan's will enjoy the meal

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will enjoy that there will not be Baraka in the food and it will be contaminated. Likewise with the drink.

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And then we also Lawson and say

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in the shelter wanna lay your head loo Yanni the shaytaan would not and does not have the power of untying the tie around the mouth of the water skin

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and does not have an access to remove the lid of the pot to eat and cover that Subhanallah is in with a level of monkey said in the Quran in the fader SharePoint he cannot buy ephah

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shaytaan and the jinn within the are very powerful. It can mess up our lives they can change our lives only if you let them

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but with the wind from the Quran that you recite for and upon yourself, you recite the top and you serve and family members. You enter your house you say the name of Allah before you see me recite that will say and you follow the prophetic instructions of covering up the food containers, the water containers and close the doors and close the windows and turn off the oil or put out the oil lamps colors. They're stuck outside. They cannot hurt you by any means hamdulillah because you are divinely protected. And there was

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it's a multi million dollar or billion dollar business exorcism a lot of people been possessed politician and they go to the church or exorcise in order to get the evil spirit out of the possessed body.

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And Hamdulillah we as Muslims once you follow these instructions happen the jinn into your body colors. And if you decide sort of Bukhara in your house, it's our last for three days, no shaitan can come across no shaitan can drop by to say hi outside

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so you and your family members can take turns reciting

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sort of opera once every three days in the house, especially if you're experiencing some trouble or innocence and maybe also Lola sensata in the Chateau de la Lucia Paul and

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you will not untie the tie around the mouth of

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the water skin while I have to obey if you close the door shut on will not be able to turn the knob and into Hollis

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Close outside,

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while I actually flew in a shelter will not lift the lid of the ark in order to see what you've been cooking today, and there is a lift over food so that he can eat it. Once it is done, God doesn't have an access Allah forbade him doesn't dare to touch upon what a pin, what a food container, which is covered, even if it is one of those see through and he sees the food, but cannot This is what the Prophet sallallahu Sallam say.

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For 11 years he had opened it. And yeah, how old are Yalda is different than Yarrabah. Yeah is to show ya Rosa is to pull it across

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a stick, a spoon, a serving spoon, or like my mother used to prefer the loan knife, didn't do it. And that will keep the food protected. And we keep the family protected. Then by the end, he said, but look, you should do this for the state for the whatever across and say Bismillah. So the name of Allah will protect.

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Then when he said for in that voice alphoid silica is the name of

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the rats, and mice. And who is a singular, the mouse minimization

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is very narrow. But it can cause big trouble, like what you mentioned in the previous Hadith, when it burned the house on the people and the by being burned. Why? Because maybe they didn't know the prophetic guidance in this respect. The fire was on and the mice that the mouse flipped over, dragged it next to any piece of furniture or the vat or the blanket, it caught fire the whole house fire and people died in Canada who are in a in a Roger home. So in the view salatu salam warned us as He did tell us about what kind of bird

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the fight it likes to create fire. We've seen in Australia recently. This bird is deliberately taken fire from one place to another in order to meet the fire,

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fears and get bigger or larger. So be careful. Brothers and sisters. That was the Hadith and the prophetic guidance in this regard. And this whole chapter was about that. The next chapter will be about the prohibition of tackle of

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which is to put yourself to undue hardship.

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Insha Allah azza wa jal I prefer to discuss it after the break. And we'll go for a short break. And sha Allah will be back in a few minutes please stay tuned

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Salam alaykum Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuh and welcome back, my dear viewers. In this segment, all our phone lines are ready to receive your valuable calls, questions and concerns. And the phone lines, the phone numbers should appear on the bottom of your screen.

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So if you like to by any of the phone numbers and shout loud, you're ready to pick them up. We have some borders already. Salam Alaikum

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salaam hello from Turkey a Santa Monica.

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Welcome Salam che. How are you?

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I am very well. Thank you for asking. How about yourself? I'm doing great.

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How can I help you? Hello.

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Okay, shake. I have a question related to marriage.

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So, three years ago, when I first met with my husband, I wasn't a practicing Muslim yet. So when I first met him, he wasn't actually a Muslim. He comes from a Greek background. So they happen to be Orthodox Christians. And at the time, as long as he like converted to Islam, and we could have our Nicaea it was okay for me. It was sufficient for me to just to be married with him just so that, you know, I didn't commit Zina with him and for me, it was just fine. But then after a couple of years into our marriage, of course Allah subhanaw taala guided me and I started to become more

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practicing Muslim. And when that happened, of course, we started to have disagreements in our marriage. And our situation didn't really end up very well. So right now, we're still married legally on papers. But I am not sure if we're still married Islamically like, he didn't give me nor divorce Islamically. But also, I have read that if the if the man you're married to,

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doesn't come out as like, at least as a full believing Muslim, although they may not practice if they don't believe in Allah subhanaw taala and his oneness and therapy and everything. It nullifies your kneecap.

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So I really want to know about this. And if that's the case, if I'm only married to him on paper, does that still mean that you know, I can't marry again, like, I'm really confused about all of this. Okay, let me ask you a couple of questions. The first question is,

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at the time of marriage, was you muslim?

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Okay, so when I first met him,

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he was culturally Orthodox Christian, but he's believed, yeah, I got

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your narrative in the beginning, but Allah to get a specific answer, at the time of processing the marriage contract. Was he a Muslim? Did he say the Shahada? And he said, I'm a Muslim? Yeah, yes, yes. Yeah, he took his shahada right before the Islamic Nicaea. And then we done the niqab. And then therefore, in my opinion, we were married Islamically. And my family welcomed him and everything like that, you know? Okay. And then marriage is valid. And the witnesses you consider if you're wanting, and he's pronounced as Muslim Alhamdulillah. Then is he practicing?

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No, at the time, I wasn't practicing to I feel very guilty about that, to be honest with you. Like, I don't think I was when I say when I say practicing, you know, I mean, the following. Does he at least pray?

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No, he didn't, because it only makes sense.

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you know, I was the only person that could represent Islam to him prior our marriage, he didn't have such an environment. So because I wasn't one. He didn't even know how to do that. But he didn't have any idea about that. You know, I wasn't, I wasn't enough to just give him Dawa myself, because I didn't know it myself as well. Okay, I got that too. And currently, is he willing to learn?

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Because he learned willing?

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Is he willing to learn how to practice Islam?

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He was he was, he wasn't saying no, but in a way, I felt like it wasn't really, you know, fair for me to be so demanding of him just because I, you know, decided to do something like I started to follow a lot on his way. You know, for me, it didn't really make sense to ask the same from him. Just because of today. I decided to and I will, I want to live like this. So we did have some disagreements there. Like because my change wasn't like, transitioning change. It was like from black to white kind of.

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Hey, happens a lot. Final question to you, Dylan. Where are you from?

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What do you guys

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my husband?

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Do you and your family? Are you mentioned? Okay. Yeah, I'm from Turkey, where it's from Turkey. All of my family are from Turkey. Okay, so basically, the local law and judiciary system is going to sort out your issues. You're not coming from a different country. This is what I meant. Sir. Yeah, my husband, my husband isn't from Turkey. So I am. We do have our differences. He comes from a Greek background. So of course, there's a little bit of a language barrier between him and my family. Also, I do believe that's a big effect. You know, if he was able to connect with them, maybe it would have been easier, but the idea is that now

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you are able to communicate with him perfectly.

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You are, you're able to communicate with him, correct?

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Yeah, yeah, sure. Okay, as far as the language there is no language barrier. Now you can listen to the answer 11 You can stay on the line and listen to the answer. So that

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sha Allah, you catch every word I say.

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May originally was Islamically recognized because your husband says La Ilaha illa Allah Muhammad Rasul Allah, your dad gave you to him in marriage when you consent. And there were witnesses, so the marriage is valid.

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When Allah subhanaw taala cast guidance in your heart, and you knew what his life and what his own and you started practicing, that is the greatest thing ever happened to you in your entire life.

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And the next greater thing would be to intergender inshallah.

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Now, your husband,

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I don't know what kind of relationship between you or disputes, but you owe him, you owe him inviting him to practice is that

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and you only need to invite him as nice as you were enlightened. And before you got married.

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You asked him to say the shahada so that you will not be a fornication relationship, you did very well, even though you're not practicing. Now we'll handle laughter You recognize what is right and what is wrong and you started praying and practicing Islam, you need to transmit this to him in a very simple way, in a very attractive way. And if you achieved that, and hamdulillah both of you are married. What if he says I only say the shahada because you said so but I'm not Muslim, I'm not interested, I don't want to practice is that so the marriage is in his own automatically.

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But there is a legal paperwork, which you need to take into the court in order to get the final statement from, you know, the court and after work, you can look for a husband and get married. And so I'm not before that. Because on papers, the document says, You are a married woman, what I hope and I pray that you will succeed in giving him Dawa, and hedaya and teaching them how to pray and say, We love each other before, and we would love each other, better, more. And sha Allah wants you to practices then. But of course, if there was family issues between you and you're not interested, or you think it is not any consolable anymore, that's a different issue. And it should not still

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affect your intent of giving Dawa or God in him and how to practice is that separation has nothing to do with being concerned about saving somebody from not by making certain that after he shaved said the Shahada. He's actually practicing. Thank you Hello from Turkey, as salaam aleikum wa rahmatullah wa.

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So all from the USA, welcome to

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the TV good.

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To live.

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Thank you for having me. Share your wisdom.

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Love bless you. And thank you, sir, from St. Jude.

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regarding the family and family ties, and severing the family ties and things. So if I could have to relate it to one another.

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So the first one is, how far does your family ties go right?

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into your two generations one generation? Or where did it stop?

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Because everybody in your family and also this severing the ties means that you don't talk to them or doesn't mean that you're avoiding them or that you don't, don't touch them that much. Or if you're cutting them off, like what is what is the definition of

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a question. Now, as you all know, brothers and sisters, the commandment of upholding the pulse of kinship is first out in many I have in the Quran

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and in the hundreds of a hadith

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and so can you say that I live and about 123 Chakra number for the mighty Allah says Why would allah how to sneak will be shy What You'll wear either

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when he's in court

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so Allah commands one of these are mandala worship Allah will lead to shriek will be Shaya will not associate with Him in emotion will led Yes.

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And take care of your parents. But in quarterback, the quarterback, the relatives, the family ties, the family pies.

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So upholding the family ties is compulsory, as compulsory as it for years and the first thing and hajat etc. What are the limitations and the boundaries? Well my uterus? I know answer is for Raka

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As, but I don't know, to what extent I'm supposed to uphold the ties with my kitchen. And well my kitchen.

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Here is the kinship.

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Parents were in Harlow, even if they go up, second, third, or fourth generation, Jonnie if there is parents, grandparents, great grandparents and great great grandparents still living.

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Some people like in the Amish are living in the country, it happens.

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They are like your parents take care of them. The same rights of the parents apply to the rights apply to their grandparents, their book, I have money, I am liable to support him financially, they're sick, I take them to the doctor, I serve them or I pay someone to serve them by the food if they are if they're well off and they are actually supporting others and hamdulillah regularly visited them

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praying for them chicken on their health, asking the anything obey and then as long as the ask you do something which is lawful or good,

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the children are inseparable children and children and they got children, the uncles paternal maternal have uncle for uncles, and aunts. Likewise. Okay.

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Then, up to this, this is one level which is compulsory recommended the cousins and the fourth cousins, their nephews and nieces brothers and sisters, brothers and sisters, the siblings is compulsory like the parents.

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And then the nephews and nieces. Also the Russian as compulsory. So here

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eight occasions, celebrate with them, congratulate them, exchange gifts support them.

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Any event, which is a sad or needed event, you're there to support them.

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Financially, you're there to support them. And if you have the money because you will see the siblings and their children, the cousins and their siblings, the I'm sorry, the siblings and their children.

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the half brothers, we have sisters also have rights upon you. So if I give them from my Zakah it's permissible, it's permissible and you receive double rewards. You see what double words as a Prophet sallallahu Sallam mercy when he was asked about a sadaqa to Allah curry he said it's number Word or Word forgiveness to charity and our word for upholding the Fazal culture. But you're not allowed to pay the care to your parents or to your children. Because before Allah you're financially responsible for them if they're poor, and in need like your own children

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when you're raising them, like your own life, and so Baraka low pecan,

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thank you. So that's a very good question. So, my

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sister Alia

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go ahead society

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perfectly, the library

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she had a question I have I live in the US where if you are divorced, then you are entitled to 50% of whatever assets and liabilities you you have had in this in your marriage. So I had like a 22 year old 22 year marriage after which I have been divorced. The thing is that I have an option to to either pursue that option to

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to go to study to

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request, like you know, through the court system, the 50% of my share in

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in the assets and liabilities. So I was just wondering if this is something that is

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that would be that would be a good a correct thing to do by Islamic law. We have children. We have children

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do yes, yes, I do have one child. He's 13 years old,

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if the child will live with his father, and

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so my spouse used to live in our home that we had purchased together.

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But they have moved out so originally I didn't

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used to ask for that part in that property, because my son and my spouse lived over there, but since they have moved, because my spouse is choosing to remarry, they have moved and nobody lives in that house and there is no more reason I feel for me to take this hardship upon myself to,

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to you know, forego what is by Lee GLE law in the US,

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you know, rightful assignment for me as a divorcee from a long term relationship. But I wanted to see what my religious

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undertaking should be, because I do not want to because I do not want to pursue it, if it is something that

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first of all, will lie, I appreciate that Alhamdulillah Allah, you have the courtesy of inquiring about that a lot of women do not really care if she can take away all his money, she will.

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But there's something called halal and haram if you happen to be a part of his earning or lucky said that we bought the house together. So you check them any money which is used is used, you should take it, you and him would walk in and there is like, you know, 5050 take all your money, no problem. But when you voted him, he had odd house, and he had 100 grands. So that's his money. I cannot take anything out of his money. I take what is Islamically in title for me, like, I'm a mother. And I am Howard I like having the custody. So the child support and money support to raise the child? No, he's gonna take the child, then there is only a motor, which Allah subhanaw taala

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says, Do you feel those arguments are feasible, the man will give you a lump sum, say this is a gift for you. And you can agree to both of you or your arbitrator or representatives, and so on. But I'm not entitled From an Islamic perspective to take any money, which is not mine. No one was a part

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of its earning. If you know what I mean, you got my answer.

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I'm gonna ask one other question because of this. So I,

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in the purchase of the property, chef, I had contributed some monies towards the downpayment of the property. But after that, because I was taking care of the child, I had to let go of my job. And like, you know, I didn't have an income after that. But I took care of the household and everything. And after 20 years, he told me to leave the house because he could not.

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Yeah, could not have me in the household. So

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of course, we don't want to judge the Islamic Sharia or Islamic religion based on the misbehavior of individuals. An honorable man would say, Well, I'm interested in marrying another woman, and you're not interested in staying in the same marriage. It's your call, you've been supporting me left your job for me. You invested some money with me in the house. So I would say the house is yours. And noble man will do that. So this way, you don't have to go to court or whatever. But if you have any rights, which you believe you have the right to claim, you should ask it from him directly, or through maybe an Islamic Center, which you live nearby to make some counseling and some judgment. So

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they would say, Well, yeah, you're entitled for that much. I would prefer I would prefer avoiding any judiciary system, which will give me anything which is not my right before Allah subhanho wa taala. So it will be given without his acceptance and I will take it and it is not my then I will be in trouble with Allah subhanaw taala even if I donate, donate this money. So my advice is, you know, can wise imam or Islamic center committee or if you have a marriage counselor, or counseling system that they should set with both of you or your representatives. And you know, Ray, exactly your financial status at the time when you got married him versus his when he got married to you and they

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will decide what you're into

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In for after your separation. I wish you all the best. And I wish you in sha Allah that you will have a better husband and you will have a better future. May Allah subhanaw taala console you may Allah bless you and your family. May Allah forgive us all our sales. By that we're come to the end of today's edition of Guardians of the pious. It was episode number 667 in diversity is available Salehi. Until next time brothers and sisters, I leave you all in the kill Allah our whole kolyada stuff Almighty welcome, salam ala Sayidina Muhammad li wa sahbihi wa Salatu was Salam ala if

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God is

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to be the best and give his best religion to them. So why did they know that? forgetting all about and in paradise, we're shipping cows fire and stones, sending the rest with the cheapest

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forgetting about how bad guys were shipping cars, fire and stoves selling the best and cheapest

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