Who Is Your Best Friend

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Bismillah Alhamdulillah Salaam Alaikum. Peace be with you. Thank you for tuning into the deen show. When we come back, we're going to be talking about who is your best friend. We all have best friends in life. People that we really attached to people that we follow people that we emulate, or maybe we're somebody's best friend. So we want to come back and talk about who is your best friend? Is it a law? Or is it someone other than the Creator of the heavens and earth? We'll be right back here on the D show.

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this is the

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Salam Alaikum

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Peace be with you.

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Can you hamdulillah Thank you hum de la praises to the credit of humans on Earth who's given us this ability to be here and to talk about something is very important.

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The topic today we're going to be discussing best friends. Now when I introduced a topic I was like, Who is your best friend some of my think and then I said, you know is a law your best friend, someone think how am I going to be friends with a law that's the Creator of the heavens and earth? Is this something that's not practical to make a law your best friend? Okay.

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smilla hamdulillah salat wa salam, ala rasulillah is nothing wrong to have friends. Okay. And I don't think we can make it in life without friends. But there is a difference between a friend and the best friend.

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Your wife can be a friend, your husband can be a friend, your neighbor can be many people can be your friends. But the reality when you're talking about who is the best friend, this is a different issue. This is the ultimate friend. Yes. That's toxic talks about what Rahim Allah, that Allah Subhana Allah took Abraham, the prophet Abraham as a ultimate frame.

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And in the Quran talks even about the Prophet Muhammad Sallallahu Sallam fairly, his name is homophones or if you're clueless Rahimi letter in Navajo man, the Prophet sallallahu Sallam who migrated, have thrown away and leave Mecca because the non believers tried to kill him and him and abubakr only and they would hide in the cave. So he was saying to his friend, don't be sad.

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Allah is with us. Okay? Allah is with us. So if Abu Bakr is a friend of the prophets, a prophet is a friend of Bugzilla is a higher position here, that someone who always be there with you when somebody tells you, because Mecca is the town of the Prophet sallallahu Sallam this where he born, when he grow, okay? But for a certain time, this friendship stop, and the people turn against him. So you can understand how things change, if it's a wife is a children.

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So things and even if your wife is the best friend or your husband is the best friend,

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sooner or later they die, they leave you and after this, he said because he left his him. But Almighty Allah is the best friend and the only friends that always can be their supporter. As the Quran say Allahu Allahu Allah, Xena, mm. Allah is the friend or the best friend. The guard is a protector of those who believe and what is the most important thing your collision Minotaur Mattila moon, he takes him out of the darkness to the light. So the guidance, okay? Is something is very important, as the guidance has two types, that you can guide people by talking and guide people by turning the hearts. you as my friend, you can try to convince me to be a Muslim or to carry the same

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ideology you have. But you cannot turn my mind and my heart accepted. But Allah is the only one. He can guide through His revelation. And also you have the control that there in your heart to make you accept disease. So he's a best friend. Friends are very important as you said, you know it's nothing wrong with having your wife as your

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Friend, your husband, your friend, when sometimes we excuse me, let's correct this something we talk in when you say your husband, because when I say I say your wife and you say to your husband, maybe somebody will misunderstand the things that Muslims they can have this kind of relationship gays and whatever. No talking about speaking in people in general, I think it's very important to make it here. Because we don't believe in this stuff. Yes, yes. Oh, so we're talking about is it right? Yes, absolutely. So now we see that many friends and if you have the wrong friends, you can get letters strange exam people, they don't want to practice your way of life that all the messengers of God

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practice Islam submission to the One God acquiring peace by doing all the wonderful things he tells you. So they're nervous, they're scared because they're scared with their friends might say, exactly, these are the wrong friends or you got a spouse because they have impact in you. And Subhan Allah, the Prophet Muhammad sallahu wa sallam had indicated this long time ago. symmetrel jealous of Salah Genesis to combat amisco natural kill the friend or the companion or the gathering of a good companion and bad companion, like a person who sell perfume. And the bad companion or friend is like the person of blow in the furnace. If you sit beside somebody who's selling perfume, it smells

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something good. It has some impact in you, okay? But if he says the sharp of the blacksmith and the blow in the furnace, he can burn your clothes. So you have to watch. And there is a saying, say a Skype session, a Skype session, that means your friend can pull you like a tow truck. Okay? He has this ability that he can make you go stray or make you go to the right or wrong friend. And this was happening on the you know, how many Muslim women stopped working a job because they were concerned about Oh, what was my friends and what my schoolmates going to say about me, because it has impact to them. And same thing, how many people they became Muslim because they have the right frame. So it

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is very important. And don't forget your wife, also part of this companionship and friends, as a result of this a prophet sallallahu Sallam saying, for me that he didn't marry a woman, because he religion, otherwise he be a loser, because she spent more money and more time, a lot more money, more time with you, and she got to have impact on your children. So make sure you get the proper wife for your future generation. So we have to be careful about friends, but nevertheless is still the best friend, no one other than Allah, because he always want to be there for you, everybody else, they may die, you may get angry, they stop, they may go away. So you've been left with no

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friends, but the Creator of the heavens and earth. He was there before the creation will be there when it ends. And that's the one we got to put our certainty reliance on exactly one guy a lot. A lot hungry. Let's take a break. Shake. Okay, right back with more here on the show.

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Outside everything looks good. You see the $100,000 car you see a lot of diamonds you see a lot of females and they think that this is you know, this is a life this is this is like no paradise right here on Earth.

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Not anyone's job to go into someone's heart and change their heart. Your job is to tell people what the truth is. The reality of it is while we're sitting here, while I'm sitting here constantly paying for the disease to kill was free.

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I am not afraid.

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I am not afraid.

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I'm not afraid.

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I am

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not afraid.

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Back here on the D show. We're talking about who's your best friend. Now we're always trying to impress people. But when you want to impress your true best friend Allah, then you're not going to take the job. You're not going to be worrying about impressing other people who can lead you astray in a way actually, they can lead you to the displeasure of the crater, and they can lead you towards the hellfire. The problem is that you don't have the real love for your Creator. Because if you have the real love for your Creator, and you want to be loved by your Creator, this will be your priority. You don't worry about who's happy with you who's mad at you. Your concern is my Lord my

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Creator heavy with me or not. This has to be your priority. Is there one authentic saying by the last in front of messengers sent to mankind the Prophet Muhammad peace be upon him. That says it

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person, you know at this at the

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pleasure of the boys at the pleasure of people at the expense of pleasing Allah Allah will be displeased with that person and make the people displeased with them. Can you? Yes, go ahead. And for you, you understand to try to please Allah, regardless was in for the people alone will be pleased with you and He will turn the hearts of the people to be pleased with you. But if you try to where's the pleasure of the people this reason Allah, Allah this, please resume and stay this way I'm going to maybe smile at your face for now. But maybe a day to be something different. You can't make everybody happy. Exactly. You're always gonna have to worry about somebody like you, okay,

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human being doesn't matter what you're wearing, what is your height? What is their color, and you can be lucky or weak. If he gets sick, he understands or is he dies, he could not help himself. So why am both in these people to be as main priority? Why this is because I have something wrong with me. I did not set my priority. There's a deficiency maybe in a man, any man who fails, of course, because he still value people more than the Creator. But if you have a mod the crate tour as your best friend, you're going to have the best manners, you're going to be the most educated aren't you, you're gonna have the best character Exactly. The people at the end are going to love you anyway, of

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course, this is true. And don't forget that the when you love somebody when you be a friend because he loves the person, admire the person, this is a feeling inside the heart, you have to understand who controls the hearts, the human being could not control their hearts. Allah subhanaw taala is the one who controls the hearts. So you have to be concerned about the one who has the control. If you fix your relationship between you and him, now he will take care of letting the people loving you happy with you all these things. So we have to set our priority. Who's the one I want to please that's the biggest one of the biggest problem especially with the peers even it goes towards an

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adult fitting in you just want to fit in at any expense. And this will cost you it's gonna cost you because at the end you'll be a loser you're gonna lose the hereafter because you're going to definitely lose this life Believe me those people who try to please them to be the fairest one displeased with you give it our time. And this have been mean many times okay in families and friends in schools and jobs Okay, the turns are better you This is reality everybody can relate to this best friends and worst enemies Exactly. But Allah will never turn his back the Prophet sallallahu Sallam teaching us their own when you love somebody, love him understand gradually or

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easy. Don't fall into this loves that when something having you could not even could not could not make it okay. Like somebody was a parent or my wife, my girlfriend we don't believe in God but understand for the public some people don't only marriage in Islam, oh,

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ya know, dating test exactly, exactly about whatever you call the wife or the quality girlfriend, whatever. Okay. So if something happened to this person, now the fields that need for life, the Zambezi River, they commit suicide. Yeah, I understand why. Because they did not have the right understanding who is the ones that need to be loved and seeking zero love, you see, so all these things is temporary, and it doesn't work. Let's take a break and we're gonna be right back with some ways on how you can get a lost love. What's the ways to go about it when we come back here on the deen show?

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There always be someone that'll be there to say something negative, but at the same time, there'll be someone there to say something positive. Just hold on to the wolf of Allah, everything in this universe rely a need for answers don't kill women don't kill children. Don't kill the old people don't attack the civilians. This is what the prophet Mohammed

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Allah said that the prophets are solid never ever start a war against anything.

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So if you find yourself Your mind is going down, check yourself

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there is none waiting to be worship except Allah alone. You got some CDs and music in the car, bobbing your head to 50 cents or?

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No, it's common sense. Don't do things that can hurt people.

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Lady Gaga googoo and all that other nonsense.

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Bullying is head on backbiting, slandering substance as smoking

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today to 18 inch biceps. We'll see what happened to me on the show.

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And we hold it down on the show early. Make sure you're tuning

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back here on the dean show with

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Shaykh Muhammad Ali, shake tell us now, okay. We know that we said earlier that your friends, they can have a great impact on you. They can help you get closer to love their righteous friends. Exactly. Or if they're friends who are corrupt, they're going to the nightclubs, you know, all they're thinking about is fulfilling their lusts and desires and you're trying to fit in, you're gonna go with that bunch, you're gonna, you're gonna end up getting corrupted.

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Give a little bit explanation about a phrase here that is supposed to be that is a carta, Anak what is in a seated locker. The phrase that you take from the human beings are ones that when you remember Almighty God, He will assist you. If you forgot about the remembrance of God, He will remind you Yes, that's a physician if you don't have this type of person. This is better to stay away. Yeah, because he's going to have an impact in you is going to corrupt you sooner or later. So now as example I say,

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oh god we did not preys on the spread zone. So instead of say yes, let's praise or say what about if we go and go to the mosque and pray in congregation good friend You see, this is a good friend. And if I forgot, you will remind me but here is a problem that you have phrased nowadays the approaching you okay about doing the things let's smoke lithium the son have girlfriends let's go to the why he got to San Giovanni Hey, take it out.

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A look at where the 21st century now Why are you wearing this on your head? You need to wear a short skirt. Let the boys whistle at you wrong friends. This this is a bad company. Can you equate it now saying even call him a friend?

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Can you equate it to if you try to again, we go back to some of the world example. You want to get a big degree you want to be a doctor, scientist and engineer and you have a good friend reminding you don't cut class. come to school. Be on time. That's a good friend. This is the same thing. Exactly. Exactly. The other friends that are encouraged you during and after you understand things but other people say email lists go watch TV. Let's go to class. Have fun. Exactly. Not a good friend. This is not the same thing. Okay, tell us shake Now tell us Tell us please. How can we have laws our best friend what will make us earn the pleasure of our Creator so that he will love us and we'll be there

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but he'll be our best friend this this is a big subject but basically if you can look in the Quran, if you look at the index word love if I'm because by the way, a lot of Christians they think that Islam is about duden and this is there is nothing called love. And they always say to you, Jesus is love. God is love. Love is a feeling God is not a feeling God is a creator. So the terminology even is wrong. God is not love okay, but God Almighty loves and he loves us. Exactly. So in Quran if you found in the index and try to find the word love, you will find a lot of verses talks about x which may God Almighty loves you as example. In the law hepato Bina will have been matahari Indeed, Allah

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loves Zeus repin comes back to him, stop sinning and come back. Allah loves him and you're able to supervise himself physically, mentally, spiritually, he understands he always sees themselves to be cleaned purifies himself, stay away from the wrongdoing from the bad mouth sin Okay, from impurity, Allah loves this, okay? So you found description of people who Allah Subhana Allah loves and Allah is Allah subhanaw taala he loves those who spilled in his cause those who understand who care for others and he found this is a lot in Islam, but one of the main things that getting closer getting closer to God okay. And there is many many many ways that make them nice. You have to fulfill that

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obligation First, the five time prayers fasting Ramadan vacanza has given this okay, but after this there is a higher degree now and this will go show you the result of the love mighty God What? Well I set up the attacker

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for either I have to come to some AngularJS malbay Baba sarala Yep, sir, we had this Almighty Allah saying that my slave servant continued getting closer to me by doing optional deeds, addition, more charity, not only the care more Sunnah prayer, not only 510 prayers, okay. When you do extra optional deeds on Mike Allah will love you. And he's saying when he loves the slave seven ways he became the ears.

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You're here with the UAE which you watch with the hand you touch was that mean God Almighty will be there for you to guard all your limbs, so you be directed by your Creator. So you don't find yourself doing the wrong thing. Now he became a shield for your earring for your side. So you always know you do good things. And, of course, when you are loved by Allah, you know, what was the reward? If you love somebody ready to give him anything? Yes. So can you imagine if Allah loves us, that's amazing. That's the love that you want this what it is, yeah, you can live on love. If you have the love of Almighty Allah, you don't need anything else but it's not just a take take what you got to

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give back

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to go ahead and tell us we're almost out of time just a few more points I wanted to put it tell us so the person you mentioned that is fornicating you know jumping from man to man, woman to woman, you know, swearing, cursing, doing evil things dressing, dressing, promiscuous and name and name it just doing drugs. You know, that person obviously is not earning the pleasure of a lot and you're furthering yourself away from a lot but the one who did all that but you said comes back, they can be still the best friend with Allah is not only is the best friend, there is a Hattiesburg boss because the short time that the professor Selim said that Allah Almighty Allah is so heavy, more

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heavier than one of you who lost his camel with everything what is the camel in the middle of the desert, okay, and he keeps searching and he could not find a camel. So he gave up and say, let me die now and waiting for death. He closed a canal close his eyes wake up, he sees a camel. He's young, Behold the camel. See, Allah home and Abdu anara book, Oh, God, you are my slave, I am your God. The man was so happy. He doesn't even have to put the words together correctly. So instead of say, Thank you, God, he say, I am your God, you're my slave. So Allah is so heavy, much heavier than this man who find his last camel with all the food. So whenever you come back to Allah, Allah will

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come you are happy that you come back. And he doesn't need you. Yeah, but this is the love of God. As is the reason he can be your best friend. Can you make that analogy because some people they think desert camel, never been there never done that. But if somebody lost their whole bank account, in a wallet, and now everything credit cards, their whole life savings is in like a box. He's in the middle of the desert, there is no 9110 no one understands it or in the ghetto. And the last thing he's never good is when someone gives it back. It's the same thing.

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It's more than that allows more happier when you repent and change your life for the better. So happier, but he doesn't need us. Yeah, but this is to show you why he can have to be your best friend. Because even after sin coming back, still welcome in you. closing comments and suggestions for those that are having a hard time their influence in the wrong way instead of the right way. But they want a lot to be their best friend what advice you have for them. I tell them

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make a U turn. Make a U turn and make a U turn and come back to Allah and Allah subhanaw taala is waiting on you at any time. Doesn't matter day or night.

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And if you can cry one tear from your eyes, this will wipe the whole thing. Great advice. Thank you very much May Allah the creator that Amazon rewards you again for being with us. Thank you beautiful advice. Make sure you turn you know if you're going in the wrong direction, the right direction. The signs are there, you got to watch this show. If you're just trying to fit in fitting with this crowd that crowd You see, you're not happy you never content. You'll never be content until the dirts in your mouth until you're in the grave. And now you know what the drama of this life.

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It's over. But the drama and the next has just begun. Don't get caught by surprise by mela como. The angel definite snatches your soul and you spent your whole life trying to please the people at the expense of displeasing the one create tour Allah work now to please your Creator and let love be your best friend. That's how you can truly be successful not only in this life, but definitely in the next and that's what we're striving for to be the best in this life and to have the best paradise in the next continue to tune into the deen show. Every week. We're here and share the D show with all your friends, colleagues, neighbors. Pick up the DVD you can go ahead and make copies

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of it and share this message of peace peace acquired by submitting your entire self, your will to the will of the One God we'll see you next time here on the deen show until then Peace be until you

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not afraid

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I'm not afraid

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I am not afraid.

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If

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you have to pray as if everything depends on

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this, but you must work.

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Everything depends on you.

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That's my point. You see, I'm saying, and I don't like that. I don't like us sitting here. What are you waiting for? What are you waiting for right now? What are you waiting for all these people to come to this? What are you waiting for? What are we waiting for right now? When they're gonna come they're gonna come along and bring these people last. Put in our hand the ability to do it now. Do your job.