The Decisions We Make

Tariq Appleby


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every day, we are called upon to make decisions. They range from those that are mundane, what would I have for breakfast? Should I have coffee or tea? Then throughout the day, they become more serious? What business? Would I agree to? What contracts will I enter into? throughout our lives from childhood to adulthood? We are faced with making many decisions regarding our education, regarding our futures, our marriages, we speak to our wives and our husbands we ask, how many children should we have? We should we live? All of these decisions are made throughout our lives. I've been preparing for a course that I teach at Aris, in Kota damansara, called the foundations of

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Islamic civilization. This morning, we covered the Omega dynasty or caliphate. And one of these decisions that struck me as being one of the most disastrous decisions anyone has ever made, was a decision by obey the law, even Zia. His decision not to accept the terms and conditions of Hussein are the long line that immediately led to the Battle of Karbala, or should I say, the massacre of Karbala that day that has had profound effects on Muslim history from the time it happened in the year 61. to this very day, every day, we are reminded about this, when in the news, we read about the Sunni Shia split, we are about what is happening to the Shia in Iraq and Iran, what is happening

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to the Sudanese the fighting that's happening between them. This is not new. After the invasion of the Americans in the early 2000s. We thought that this is a new phenomenon, but it wasn't. So in that fateful period of our history. One man who was in his 20s, he decided that he was going to act on behalf of the son of Mongolia, he was going to insist that Hussein follow the law and that he takes the bait and that obey the law would accept the VA on behalf of yazeed that he was going to pledge his obedience, loyalty and fealty to yazeed bringing an end to a possible rebellion or possible opposition. And we all know how that ended. But I want to ask questions that are relevant

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to me and you to us as an oma, what decisions are we making that 10 2050 years or more from now, we would also regret and we would hope that we had made better decisions. So this is a reality that when one makes decisions, completely divorced and separated from the revelation of a loss of Hannah hautala. When we make decisions based on our ego, on our whims and fancies, we will be forced to live with the consequences of those decisions. Every day, then wildin says hi, yada, yada. This is a decision right there. Well, I get out of bed, will I before my withdrawal, will I go to the masjid or pray at home decisions decisions and the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam by encouraging us by

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exhorting us by making sure that we understand there you would if we were to make the right decisions, but also understanding the consequences. If we made

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wrong decisions. So we as Muslims are required to look at our lives, not in the context of what is best for me.

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In my particular time and situation, what would mine knifes, my ego? What would it truly enjoy at this particular moment? Because I'm sure that if we were to reflect and think about all of the bad decisions that we made throughout our lives, regardless of our age, then we would stop and think and say, Yes, that was a really bad decision. I wish that I could go back into time. And Allah subhanho wa Taala tells us about the co founder and the disbelievers, how they will wish that they had responded to the prophets and messages, they would say that we heard that there was this message from Allah, these men came to our villages and towns in our communities, they called us to believe

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in Allah and to worship Him alone. They said, they wanted us to obey them, but we refused. And now, after Allah has resurrected us, he has brought us before him. The only desire that they will have on that day is they will say, oh, Allah, oh, Lord, send us back. Now I'm gonna lay it on the corner. Amen. We wish to do that which we didn't do before. We want to say that, yes, we responded, we want to make a decision different from the decision which we made on the donia. Because now we see the reality. Women that when I speak to students, teenagers and older, and they asked me to talk to them about education and its importance. I know that many adults in the room are thinking, if only I had

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worked harder in high school and at university, if only I had done better, if only I had not wasted all of that time. So the Muslim understands the reality of this dunya and the reality of the earth, Europe. And he or she is always asking this fundamental question, the decision that I'm about to make now, how will it benefit me in the Euro? Because that is the true life, not this dunya. That person who made that decision in the year 61, that the army should confront her saying that they should insist that Hussein agrees to the conditions, did they think that people would be killing one another? Based on what happened on that day that people would seek revenge, you'd have the movement

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of the total baboon, you'd had a lockdown. And he would use this event for his own desires and his own desire for power. None of these people thought about the consequences of their actions. But we have to, we have to learn from these historical events. And more importantly, and what is even more profound, is that Allah tells us what will happen in the year after, but we seem to be in a state of heedlessness as if we read, but we do not understand. Do we want to be like those people, that on the Day of Judgment, we say to all law, send us back, we'll do good deeds, we will live the way we used to live. Yeah, Allah, we will be obedient, we will be righteous, we will fill you in everything

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that we do.

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We need to learn not only from our history, but we need to learn from a law who's telling us what the future holds. Isn't that what it means to have this relationship with Allah subhanho wa Taala to believe in the Prophet Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam to believe in what he prophet size is to know some parts of the future. Amanda came to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam and asked when the hour will be?

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Now that's a good question. Because if you knew it would be tomorrow, or next week, you could definitely make the best preparations possible, you would make sure that you were praying on time that you were avoiding, you know, sending disobedience and you try to be the best person while there's only a week left kochiyama that may be the best that I could possibly be. But the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam gave that man an answer that each and every one of us needs to make parts of who we are and the way we live our lives. Because the question is not When is it going to happen? You need to decide what you will do to prepare for it.

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You need to make a decision. I don't know when it's going to be it could be tomorrow could be 10 years from now. And when we were studying this with our teacher, he told us that there were many groups and many individuals throughout Islamic history that have tried to predict exactly when the final hour would be.

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There were those who said it would be in the year 500 of the Hydra Alhamdulillah I think we can all agree that we have made it safely. There are those who said it would happen in the year

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and Alhamdulillah I think we've made it safely.

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If there are others who say it will happen in the year 1500, Allah knows best. That is not something that we need to spend too much time or effort trying to ascertain. But rather, the question is, what am I prepared for it? These questions about our decisions relate not only to what will happen in the future, but they affect us right now. If I decide to be a great father, to spend time with my children, to educate them, to teach them to lead by example, I will see the fruits of those decisions. Now, I will see that my children are eager to pray, I will see that they are eager to learn about Allah and His Messenger, I will see that they are eager to live lives there, not only

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would I be proud of them, but they would be proud of themselves. What then about the future,

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then when my sons, when I leave this dunya, they continue to live the life that I have led by example, that I've shown them, this is how you live, those decisions are going to benefit me even after I die, I will leave this dunya each and every one of us sitting here, we will die, and we will no longer be able to do good deeds. But we made the decision to leave behind the legacy that others are following, so that they may benefit from the knowledge that we've left behind the sadaqa jariya that we've given this continuous charity that we spend on the massages than other you know things which Allah subhanho wa Taala loves.

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Then another issue that requires our attention is to look at amazing examples of great decisions. If you look at some of the Sahaba

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when they were toying and deciding whether or not they should join the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam whether they should pledge allegiance to him, whether they should believe in his message, people like abubaker rhodiola one and almost an earthman and Isley and Khadija and Ayesha the list will likely go go on for the entire day. But these people had that decision to make. But for almost all of them, it was so easy. And so we have to look at the example. That lack of hesitation that lack of doubt that they had, when Abu Bakr radi Allahu Allah was faced with that question. When they say to him, that your Prophet, your companion claims that he went to Jerusalem and returned in one

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night. What do you say about this? There was a decision. Do I believe that? Is that something possible? Is that something in the realm of you know, the possible and he didn't hesitate? He said, I would believe him even if he went further than that. If the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam had that triple the journey, I would believe in that he made a decision. But that decision was based in his yaqeen and conviction in Allah subhanho wa Taala and the truthfulness of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam.

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We are living in a time of great confusion, and I want to connect the issue of Karbala, to this particular time and place that we find ourselves in.

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We are constantly having to make decisions, we believe to be in the best in our best interests and the interests of our community. And only hindsight determines whether or not those are the correct decisions. But if we were to take the book of Allah and the Sunnah, as our guide, will lie here we would always be making the correct decisions, and hindsight will always prove that we've made the correct ones even if at the time we were doubtful, or we had some hesitation. Abubakar rhodiola.

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When the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam passed away before he passed away, he was going to dispatch an army led by Osama bin Zayed, Allah De La Hoya and Homer. And when the news of the People's apostasy and they rejection and rebellion reached Abu Bakar, he still insisted on sending out that army to beat to meet the vessels of the Byzantine army and the army of the Byzantine Empire itself. Even though the situation at the time required that the army remain in Medina to protect Medina and the halifa to protect the Muslims. Why would you say that an army that is prepared, fully prepared, fully equipped away from when it is needed, but he made a decision based on obedience to

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the Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and now hundreds of years later we look at that decision and we say that was the best decision possible.

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azhari Rahim Allah, he was talking about divorce. He spoke about Allah and the Sunnah and the guidance of the Prophet when it comes to divorce. And so he says that no one who divorces according to the Sunnah will have any regrets. Divorce is a great decision. It is a serious matter. It is not to be taken lightly. But if you do it according to the Sunnah, you will not be left with regret because of the decision that you've made. And so, I would like to take that statement and make it applicable to the issue of decision making. And that is to say that any person who makes a decision according to the book of Allah and the Sunnah, following the sun, the prophets guidance in every

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matter with a beat divorce or marriage, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said that if someone It is reported, I must be honest by stating that this had his authenticity as being disputed by the scholars of Hadith. But we are all familiar with it. And its meaning is not problematic. If someone comes to you and says that I would like to marry your daughter. If you are pleased with this person's religion and character, then married him to your daughter or the woman under your guardianship. Because if you don't do that, they will be corruption fitna and facade in the community.

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So if we were faced with that decision, I have two men they've come to propose to my daughter, and hamdulillah. One is a man of great status. A great reputation is well known, he's wealthy, but he has no Diem. He's got despicable character, he's selfish, he's got a temper that he cannot control, etc, etc. The second man comes, not only is he a person of a Beida, a person of wisdom and knowledge, but he's also a person with amazing character, a person who I just by being in his company feel that my daughter would be blessed to be in the company of such a person. Now I have a decision to make, will I do what is right for the dunya, my daughter will have financial

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independence, she'll have all of the dunya that you could possibly want. But she will not have been my grandchildren will grow up without add. But this man here, he's poor. He doesn't have much, but he has so much more than will benefit her and my future descendants. So if I follow the Sunnah of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam. I will be happy as an old man. When I look at my family and my daughters and my sons. I look at my grandchildren. And I say Alhamdulillah I saw to follow the prophets guidance when making my decision. I look at my family right now. And I see many Muslims, I see good strong Muslims. And I am now proud of the decision that I've made. So we see that by

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following the lifestyle, the sun the way of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, especially when it comes to the decisions we make, we will as Mr. Masood he said even though he was talking about divorce, we will never regret the decisions that we make. Because we were taught we were guided, we were advised by the best of people see you do one or the other solo love it you will send them the best the leader of the children of Adam, what better what better advisor would you could you possibly seek by doing for myself and for you? Is that Allah subhanho wa Taala guides us to the Sunnah in every facet of our lives, may the decisions that we make big or small, be based on what

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pleases Allah subhanho wa Taala and what the prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam told us and guided us towards.

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We are also living at a time where this issue of Karbala, we are almost in the month of gold hedger and the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam says that there is no other time of the year in which good deeds are more beloved to Allah subhanho wa Taala than in these 10 days meaning the first 10 days of oral hygiene. We are upon those days, I want you to think about the ways in which you could worship a lot more in the coming days. I want you to think of ways in which you can increase your ibadah coming closer to Allah subhanho wa Taala. A few weeks ago, months ago, Allah gave us a season of a bother it was Ramadan, and now another season of a bad day is upon us. Will we make the right

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decision? Or will we regret it when it's the 11th The day after ait Subhana Allah, I wish that I had done x y Zed No, start planning now making the right decision because Allah gives us these opportunities these seasons to increase our reward to draw closer to Him. So let us grab those opportunities.

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With both heads with absolute enthusiasm, and let us be motivated that has motivate ourselves and those around us. When Allah subhanho wa Taala except our a ballad from us, may Allah subhanho wa Taala make us of those that can follow this sooner and every other sooner. barakallahu li walakum filopodial Alvin whenever anyway Jacobi Murphy human and it was decreed Hakeem aku Mateus mount Westerfield, la Li walakum wa ala muslimeen amin Columbian fester Pharaoh who in Navajo will have a photo Rahim.

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Alhamdulillah Alhamdulillah

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wa Salatu was Salam ala Afghani al Mustafa, Muhammad Ali, he was so happy woman died. But regarding the first 10 days of the ledger, people ask, what should we do? Well, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam said, I'm no sila, anything which Allah loves and is pleased with, it includes sadhana it includes giving charity reciting the Quran, it includes any single Iboga that Allah subhanho wa Taala has legislated. So, do as many of them as you can, let us focus on making sure that we take part or that we fulfill our YG but that which is compulsory, let us go to the massages that are spraying jamara Let us give charity let us first all of these are beloved to Allah subhanho wa Taala

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regarding the issue of Kabbalah the 10th of Ashura, it is important that we understand that this is not why we forced on that day. This is not why the 10th of Ashura or the 10th of Muharram, the day of algebra is important to us. Yes, what happened on that day, it said, the grandson of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, he died, not only did he die, but he was killed, he was massacred with the rest of his family. It was a very sad day. But we do not attach any theological or any acts of worship. Because of that day, we do not beat ourselves, we do not cut ourselves, we don't cut our children, as is the practice amongst many people around the world who profess to love Hussein

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Hussein, what I do love I was a man who loved Allah and His Messenger, who strove his entire life, to worship Allah subhanho wa Taala, as his grandfather taught him. And so we should follow in those footsteps. We should love Allah and His Messenger like that, we should always strive to follow in the footsteps of those of the Sahaba and lobate, who made it their life's duty to be the best Muslims they could possibly be. But that does not give us the license, or the permission to do that which Allah subhanho wa Taala has forbidden. So we need to understand that in that context. And the last thing that I want to remind you of is that it is our duty to understand the history of this

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day, what came before it and what came after it. So that we are not confused so that we are not left in a state of bewilderment. When we go online or we listen to lectures, or we meet people in the street, and they tell us about what happened that day. We need to be aware we need to read we need to be educated in a place like Malaysia, where you have universities like this dedicated to Islamic civilization, Islamic history, where you have professors from around the Muslim world, experts on the field, we have no excuse. We living in this community perhaps should be the most knowledgeable on Islamic history than people living in South Africa and other places in the world. So my view is

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that Allah subhanho wa Taala teaches us that which is most beneficial May Allah subhanho wa Taala keep us away from that which has no benefit. May Allah subhanahu wa taala guide our children may Allah subhanho wa Taala protect them from every fitna May Allah subhanho wa Taala guide us to making the right decisions in everything that we do. May Allah subhana wa tada cause us to enter agenda without any hisab without burner it nafi Tonio Hasina Warfield, Hassan Okinawa now a lot of Marysville Islamic Muslim in a lot of Americans al Islam r1 sottile Muslim in Allah is Al Islam a one solid Muslim and we ask Allah subhana wa tada as we always do, that alleviate the suffering of

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our brothers and sisters around the world. May Allah subhanho wa Taala grab the victory against the enemies and our enemies. May Allah subhanahu wa taala brought them to enjoy what we enjoy here in Malaysia, which is safety, security and prosperity. May Allah subhanho wa Taala allow us to do more than make dua so that we become ambassadors instead of only talking and only you know, shouting out slogans May Allah make us of those who can enable

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To change barakallahu li fecal Salalah allow the outer shell of him and your finger comb Nicole Lima, your hypo Hawaii Alba masala la wa salam ala nabina Muhammad wa ala alihi wa sahbihi HMA