Taleem al Quran 2021 J02-031H Tafsir Al-Baqarah 232

then it is said well enough to look to Manisa for beloved, Nigella Hoonah. And when you divorce women and they have fulfilled their term. Now over here if our beloved Anna Angela Hoonah means completion of the waiting period, all right, meaning the waiting period of the latter to Kuru has come to an end, or if the woman was pregnant, she has given birth, okay, or if the woman does not menstruate, then three lunar months are over. So we're not gonna Agila Hoonah. And if they have reached the end of the waiting period, this means that Rudra did not take place, right? Because if Rujuta takes place, then the waiting period also comes to an end. So for example, if a man gives

divorce to his wife, and a week later, he takes her back. All right through words, he says, I'm taking you back then she is no longer in her waiting period. Okay, now, things are back to normal. So, what you got to look to Manisa Ferber Laguna Agila Hoonah. Here, what is meant is that Rudra did not take place, there was one menstrual cycle than the second one and the third one, and the man did not take back his wife. So what does this mean? This means that now she is separated from him. She is no longer his wife. All right. So remember, the purpose of the waiting period is what are one of the objectives is that she is not going to get married to someone else. So now if the waiting period

came to an end, she is no longer married to him. What does it mean? It means that now she is free to marry someone else. So it is said fill out our blue Hoonah. Now the woman is free, she is single again, she is no longer married. All right. So now do not prevent them A and kitna as wotja Hoonah, that they marry their husbands when either Toronto Boehner and Bill Maher wolf when they agree among themselves on an acceptable basis. Okay, so what's going on over here? Remember, there are two interpretations of this is the first interpretation is that for lateral DeLuna, here, the ex husband is being addressed. Okay? That when you have given divorce, whether this was the first divorce, or

the second one, or the third one, okay, and the waiting period is over, no Rudra took place, and now she is separated from you. This means that she is free from you, she's no longer your wife. So now you or ex husbands have no control over their lives. So now do not prevent your ex wife basically from marrying someone else. And Karina, as well, Jonah. All right, how could an ex husband prevent the woman from marrying someone else? Well, it happens all the time. Sometimes men will threaten to take the children away, they will threaten that, you know, I will not ever allow you to see your children again. You know, their ego is so big. All right, rather so weak that they can't bear that

they're divorced wife, all right, or someone who was once married to them is now going to live happily with someone else. So the men are addressed over here that filata alumina and Karina as well, Jonah, you have no control over her life. Now she is her own person. All right. So she has the choice to marry someone else. You don't have any say in that matter. The second interpretation is that here, the family of the woman is being addressed. Okay, that when a woman is divorced, and her waiting period has come to an end, and no juror took place, she is separated from her husband. And now she wants to marry as well. jahana in a she wants to marry her previous husband, her former

husband. She wants to re marry him because remember, a new marriage can take place right after the first and the second divorce. All right. So if they want to get married again, you do not prevent them from marrying again. Okay. Now, let's say a man divorced his wife for the third time. Okay, for the third time what happens after the third divorce, he can neither take her back in the waiting period. Nor can he marry her with an unica, of course after the waiting period. However, if she marries someone else, we learned about this if she marries someone else, and then that marriage comes to an end. And now what happens the first husband proposes to her can that marriage take

place? Yes, it can. So the family is addressed over here that do not prevent the woman from marrying her former husband. Okay, can you facilitate that marriage don't prevent it. Now there is a particular incident that happened we learn about Markel or the law Mourinho that his sister

Got married to women. And then what happened is that the men divorced her and her waiting period came to an end. And basically he did not do de jure. Okay. So what happened after the waiting period, you know, she came back to her family. And after some time, the husband he sent a proposal, the ex husband, he sent a proposal and Marco radula horn who got very angry at him, he said, and the words are very interesting. In Hadith, Willard, he said, Yeah, Luca, or you idiot, basically, that what kind of a man are you that I honored you? All right, I showed you so much respect by having you marry my sister, and then you gave divorce to her, and then you did not take her back. And now you

dare to ask me again for her hand in marriage, I will not do that. I will not do that. So Mark and Odilo Moreno got very mad basically at his ex brother in law, that How dare you first you divorce her and then now after the waiting period is over, you propose to her again. But in her these we learn that hustle and bustle he says farlam Aloha Jetta who la her will her Jetta her Isla barley her. Allah knew how that men wanted his ex wife and how she also wanted him back. And he Allah knew how they both wanted each other. So Allah subhanaw taala reveal this idea. And when the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam called Mark luteolin Mourinho and recited this Iota him, Marco de la

Mourinho said some are a little bit more thorough, he said, some are a little bit shorter. And he I hear my Lord and I OB, and then he called that men and he said, was a widow, okay, mocha, I will marry my sister to you, and I will honor you so that marriage took place. So now the question is that, why would a man do this, you know that he divorces his wife, he lets the waiting period come to an end. And he did not do to do or now that she's separated. Now he proposes to her. Because the thing is that, you know, when your circumstances change, and you spend time away from someone, it is possible that now you remember them fondly. Now that your anger has subsided, all right, you are

less focused on things that you dislike about them, and you begin to appreciate all of their good qualities, right? Because this is a fact that while someone could have certain characteristics that really annoy you, they also have some good qualities that you can appreciate. And sometimes what happens is that a person gets really angry at his wife because of the influence of his family, for instance, or the influence of her family. Okay, the circumstances are such you know, children are little or he's having a midlife crisis. He's struggling with his work, he's struggling with, you know, his money and things like that. He's very short tempered, he's struggling mentally any in the

past two years where people's lives have been shaken to the core, you know, you can hear about so many divorces taking place, why because things have changed, right? But also when things calm down, and again they change because life is constantly changing, right? Then you realize that perhaps it was a good idea to be married to that person and you miss them. So there is no harm, okay, but there is a condition Allah subhanaw taala says either Torrado Boehner humble maruf when they have both agreed with one another in the recognized way, in a way that is appropriate, meaning both parties should be willing to marry, okay, the woman should be willing to marry this man and the man should

also be willing to marry her, okay. So, there should be willingness, either Corrado means first of all, there should be willingness. And what this shows us is that no man should be forced to marry a woman he does not want to marry. Sometimes it happens that the man does not get to choose his wife, okay? It's the parents who choose the wife and they want a certain type of a wife for him. Why so that they can get certain work done through her etcetera. Like I remember once a person, you know, asked me that, do you know any good girl, I want my son to marry her. And you know, I knew that her son was you know, mashallah well educated so I thought, you know, someone of similar background

would perhaps you know, they would be more compatible with each other. But the mother said that no, no, no, I want someone who can do this and this and this and this and this kind of housework because you know, I want her to stay with me and she will stay with me while my son is going to be in the other city where he was studying and working. And you know, I appreciated her honesty. I appreciated that but I also made it clear to her that this is unfair, that when you have your son married, you are not getting free, you know housemaid services.

Okay, you are having your son married so that she will be his wife, not your servant. So you have to be careful about that. So anyway, there are many situations where the family kind of force their son to marry someone, or the other way around where a woman is forced to marry a man that she does not want to marry. Okay? So this is not correct, because one of the conditions for the validity of Nika is the real law. Okay. There are many conditions for the validity of Annika, you know, for example, while he should be there on the side of the woman, then there should be witnesses, then there should be Moher, right and other conditions. Another condition is real law on the part of both man and

woman. We learn that that hunt SAP or de la Mourinho, she went to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam and complained that her father gave her in marriage, okay, without her approval, and he she did not want to be married to someone. And her father married her to that man anyway. So she did not like that. And she went to the Prophet salallahu Alaihe Salam and the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam revoked that marriage, he annulled it, right. So III, that although Boehner home Bill Maher roof, when they have agreed with one another, and he both are willing to marry, and this shows us that, especially in this day and age, there is no harm. In fact, it would be good that you know, a

woman speaks to her prospective husband and sees you know that both of them are compatible. She's happy about it, the man also any This is why even when a woman wears hijab, still the man is allowed to look at her before marrying her. Why? So that there is some in a willingness, some kind of excitement that yes, I am varying this person. I liked them. I want to be with them. So either thought although being a humble maruf, so no man and no woman should be forced into marrying someone that they do not want to marry. All right, and the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, he said, that Latin qahal amo had to stop that a woman who has been previously married, okay, she will not be

given in marriage, except after consulting her the stepmom and there should be a clear conversation with her. Her clear approval needs to be taken before she is married to someone else, who a woman who has been previously married. However, in the case of a woman who has not been previously married, then her silence is understood as her approval. Okay. Why? Because in that culture, in young girls were very shy, they did not exactly, you know, express their wishes, etc. But this shows us that, you know, there is a girl who was very vocal about what she wants, and what she does not want. And your daughter lets you know that no, I don't want to marry this person, then you have to

listen to her. You can't force her into marriage, because either Toronto Boehner home Bill Maher roof, so it has to be Bill Maher roof in the recognized way in a way that is appropriate. Now, like I mentioned to you earlier that the man can see the woman, all right, even if she wears hijab, so yes, he can see part of her hair, if she wears niqab. He can see her face, but it has to be in a way that is appropriate. Okay, this doesn't mean that, you know, he says the Roshi should be fully dressed up when I come. And you know, I should get some photos, you know, of hair and makeup and things like No, a little bit is sufficient. So for example, if he comes and she is wearing her hijab

in a loose way, for example, to that a bit of our hair shows, that's fine. Okay, that's permissible, but it shouldn't be that now the two are going on a date and the two are in seclusion, that is not permissible. Okay, it has to be in a way that is appropriate. Now Inshallah, very soon we're going to be talking about proposal and about basically Hitler to Nikka how a proposal should be given an inshallah we'll cover that topic in more detail later. But here, the main thing is that either thought Albina homebuilder model of marriage should only take place when both are willing to marry one another.

All right. And also, another important thing is that if a woman is getting back with her ex husband, now they're marrying again for the second time Nica is taking place. The doctorado Bina humble Maroof must definitely happen in the sense that there should be some consultation, there should be some, you know, open communication, so that the factors that lead to divorce before don't again lead them to divorce, because some tangible changes have to be made. If those changes are not made. Then again, divorce is going to happen, that either you or they'll be him and Callum and commute Middlebury

He will human asset that is instructed to whoever Have you believes in Allah and the Last Day meaning if a person truly believes in Allah and the Last Day, then they should facilitate such a marriage and they should not hinder it. And ex husbands should not interfere in the lives of their ex wives, if they truly believe in Allah and the Last Day and look at the example of Mark radula Mourinho and he looked at his response, he said someone like Robbie will Tara, I hear my Lord and I obey any even though before it was his ego that prevented him right. Now when he heard the Command of Allah, He surrendered. He submitted Allah subhanaw taala says that he come as gala como

AutoHotKey. That is better for you and pure Wallah, we are lemmo we're into Mattarella moon and ALLAH knows and you do not know. Now how is this better and pure? How is this as gasca means more virtuous, okay? Meaning when you let two people who want to marry, get married, okay? When you facilitate that marriage, this is more virtuous for you? How is this more virtuous for you because you're letting something lawful happen. Think about it. A woman wants to marry a certain man, okay? Or she wants to marry her ex husband and the family is not letting her the family is not allowing. And there is no genuine reason. It's just Eagle. Okay? Allah subhanaw taala says that he can ask any

if you let that marriage happen if you facilitate that it is more virtuous. Because in a hadith we learn that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said that we do not see for those who love one another, anything like marriage, meaning when two people love one another, and they get married to one another, this is the best thing that can happen for them. Okay, any, this is the most beautiful relationship that can exist between a man and woman who love one another. So think about it. This woman was married to that man, yes, they were angry. And yes, you know, the husband was impulsive. And you know, maybe there were other factors, he was under the influence of certain people. And now

that he's matured up, you know, he's had time to think for himself, he realizes it was a bad idea to divorce his wife, he misses her terribly, and she also misses him, she wants to marry him, he wants to marry her. But the girl's family is not letting that happen, this is wrong, they should let it happen. Because if they let it happen, this is virtuous. You know, Nikka is something virtuous, it is something good to happen for two people who love one another. Alright. So this shows us that we should not come in the way of a lawful marriage from taking place in general, also, when two people want to marry one another, and it is lawful for them to do so then we should facilitate that

marriage and we should support them. This is more virtuous than not letting them marry. You see, sometimes it happens that young people they want to get married, right? So for example, a young guy, he's in university, he meets someone in the MSA. And you know, he wants to marry her, she wants to marry him. And the parents just keep saying no, no, not yet. Not yet, you have to complete your master's degree first, right? Another four years or so, another five years or so another six years or so. And then we will let the marriage happen. Or we you have to wait until your grandmother can come and until your uncle can come and until so and so of the extended family can come and before

the marriage can happen. You have to complete your degree. You have to work a certain amount so that you have a whole lot of money to splurge. And then we have to go back home and make all the clothes and do all the shopping. So we need a minimum of two or three years before the marriage can happen. This is wrong. This is wrong. When you don't let a marriage happen when you don't let a lawful marriage happened. What are you doing? You are facilitating sin. Because think about it. The guy is constantly thinking about the girl and the girl is also constantly thinking about the man that she loves. All right, that she's infatuated with. There is heartbreak there is unfulfilled hopes and

wishes and unfulfilled desires and now their heart is distracted how can they focus on something else? And sometimes you see that a woman who is in love or a man who is in love any they can even make a straight conversation with someone right? So when you see that your child is in love, right with someone who you know it's lawful for them to marry then facilitate that marriage. It doesn't mean that as soon as they have a crush on someone you say okay, Annika no you have a good conversation with them to help them see help them decide that yes, this is a good decision. Alright, but then work towards that marriage. Okay, insert the note I have 32 Allah subhanaw taala says what

MK who am M income was slyly Hina min arriba de como ima econ, that those who are single among you, you should get the married and especially

leave when they want to marry, you know, sometimes people have this fear that if they marry young then how will they be able to, you know, live a comfortable life, let them establish their career first let them you know, save a good amount of money first. Allah subhanaw taala says in your corner for Cara, you will need him Allah hoomin fugly. If they are poor, Allah subhanaw taala will enrich them from his favor. If they're poor, Allah subhanaw taala will enrich them, you don't worry about you know how they're going to save a whole lot of money. Allah subhanaw taala is your provider and their provider. So you should facilitate that marriage. All right, and just I think yesterday, or

day before so just very recently, I read somewhere that studies show that people who marry young people who marry young their marriage tends to last long. Okay? Meaning the rates of divorce are less in people who marry young and the reason is that they have not lived with someone else. Okay, so their marriage tends to last longer. Inshallah, if I come across it I'll share that link with you I thought it was very interesting. So that he can escala can walk up to her at the hub it is more pure any because now you are abandoning your ego. Right so this is pure for your hearts like Marco de la Mourinho said some are a little be with our and has an adversity who reported this incident he

said about Marco de la hora annual debt, Fatah, Oracle, Hamid Yetta, was the Caudalie umbrella that he left the arrogance that he had in his heart. All right, and he surrendered to the Command of Allah. So this is purification of the heart, right? That you oppose your Eagle basically, and you let something lawful happen and you surrender to the Command of Allah. And if you don't let this marriage happen, and especially in the case where a woman wants to marry her ex, then any you know, constantly she's missing him. She wants to be with him, how can her heart be clean? She is always thinking about a non Muharram she's wishing to be with her ex husband, who is now a non Muharram

right? You know, when she hears His names, that you know, something happens in her heart it he How can her heart be pure and How can his heart be pure? So that E commerce gala como alto, if you facilitate that marriage, this is better for you. And this is better for them. Well, Allahu Yarlung Wawa and Tamila tharla Moon Allahu Akbar, Allah knows and you do not know Subhanallah you see, it's possible that a woman that does not express you know her feelings to her parents. How is she supposed to tell her parents that I really miss my ex and I really want to married him again, and I really want to be with him. In many families. In many cultures, it's considered shameful for a woman

to express her feelings. So it's possible that a woman will never express she will never say alright, so Allahu Yarlung will Antonella talamona Allah knows the state of their heart? You don't know what's going on in the heart of someone? You may say that No, I know my son I know my daughter know Allah knows. So facilitate the lawful marriage. Before we continue let's listen to the recitation of these verses Bismillah ye either

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Alright, now there's a few things I want to clarify before we move to the next idea. The next idea is about child support basically. So before we get into that topic, a few things I wanted to resolve. So just to make it very clear, remember that there are many

The two types of Talak there is Talak Algeria, which is revocable divorce and this is what is mentioned in a Tala ko mandala 10 The words upon Alchemilla tan divorces twice. This is for Aparajita year. Okay. So this is the first two divorces and first two divorces doesn't mean that a man says Bullock Bullock No, this is Pollock waiting period begins and he does read your waiting period comes to an end all right meaning it stops when he does rudrapur And then after some time he gives the lock again. Okay. So in both of these products, he has the right to take back his wife. All right, and these are the first two divorces and the waiting period of phenylketonuria is the

letter Kuru. All right. And I mentioned to you are the are the women who do not menstruate if pregnant and of pregnancy, if they do not menstruate and three menstrual cycles. All right, in philology at the man has the right to retract the divorce. All right. But this is only during the waiting period. So within the philosophy of Kuru, he has the right to do to Jure and remember, he can do to draw how through his words, or through an act of intimacy. And he has to make sure that during this waiting period, she lives in the same house. And I mentioned if it is safe for her, because sometimes it's not safe for her because the man beats her or something like that, then in

that case, you will spend her waiting period elsewhere, but in general, this waiting period has to be spent in the house of the husband. Okay, and spending in the house of the husband does not mean that she's not allowed to leave the house. No, what it means is that she's still married to him. So she cannot marry someone else. All right, she can go out she will do all the things that she used to do before all right and then in terracotta, do you remember that if the waiting period is over without Rudra and the two have now separated then a new Nikka is possible, all right, it is possible meaning it is permissible. On the other hand, the irrevocable divorce is called Full Apple back in

okay, but in it as in one that completely separates, and this is the third divorce and this is mentioned in the words of ALLAH Fett in halacha. Then if he divorces her, alright, meaning the third time, so this is a third divorce, and the waiting period for this is also the letter to Kuru. However, the man does not have the right to retract the divorce during the waiting period. Okay. She is no longer married to him because filata Hey, Lulu, who Membertou right she is no longer lawful to him. So he does not have the right to take her back. And this means that she will not spend the waiting period in the house of the husband or right of the man rather she will spend the waiting

period somewhere else. And the purpose of the waiting period is one to reveal pregnancy but also to give her time before she marries someone else. Okay, because in some families, if it was up to them, they would get their daughter married the day after she gets divorces because they don't care about her feelings. Right? They just say compromise compromise just you know, is certain things like that. So there is a waiting period before she can marry someone else. And if he tries to take her back, he is committing Zina. Okay, it is unlawful, it is haram for her to take her back. Does she need permission to go out of the house during a day? No, she does not. You know if, for example, the

husband any allowed her to it's understood that she goes to pick up the kids from school, where she goes and does the groceries or she goes out for a walk and things like that you will continue to live life as normal. Okay? It just means that she cannot marry someone else. This isn't the case of the Lakota, Nigeria, okay. Now to local by no means that her Indra is now going to be somewhere else. Okay? Because he does not have the right to do to joueur and after her waiting period, okay, a new Annika with the same man is not possible. All right, unless she marries someone else. All right, she married someone else. And that marriage comes to an end by chance. All right, and then she

marries the former husband again. And that is the lien or halala but remember, it cannot be done with the intention of divorce. Any if a woman marries a second man, all right. Why? Just so that he can divorce her so that she can marry the first husband? This is haram. Okay. In a hadith we learned the Prophet sallallahu earlier said I'm cursed the one who does the lien and the one in whose favor it is done. Okay, the one in whose favor it is done. So all the people involved in the process of fake daleel basically or deliberate delille All right, all those people are cursed. So the former husband, the second husband, the family

The the woman all of them receive the learner of Allah and when they receive the learner of Allah, then how could things work for them? The allele is Allah Allah is where after the third divorce a woman marries someone else. And that marriage ends so that now she can marry her first husband, because after palapa inna remember that the husband cannot take her back neither with a new Nikka nor does he have the right to do to do it during the waiting period. All right, one more thing I want to clarify types of separation, okay, types of by noona This is the same thing just clarified in another way. Now by Nuna is separation, meaning separation between husband and wife, this can be

basically through hula or through follow up. Okay, so the first type of by Nuna is by noona surah. Separation, and this is separation after which a new marriage contract is required. So, for example, a man and woman were married, the man divorced her first time. What does that mean? After it dies over for the two to get back together, though, there must be a new Mica. And this is in three cases. The first case is when a woman's waiting period comes to an end after a revocable divorce. Okay, and in the waiting period, there was no de jure. So after the waiting period, what's going to happen? The woman is going to be separated from the men. And if he wants to take her, he has to do a new

Nica with her a new marriage with her. Another type of ban on Asakura is when a judge upheld the marriage. Okay, by for example, in the case where consent that we'll deal on more on how went to the Prophet sallallahu where it is that even complained to him that you know, my father married me to someone I do not want to marry with. So the Prophet salallahu Alaihe Salam, an old the Nikka right. So this has been una sola. Could that woman married that same man again? Yes. How would the new Nikka a new marriage contract? The third type of separation is when a woman is granted Hola. Okay, then she is separated from the men. Now what if, after a year, after a year, the woman wants to

marry that same man again, her ex husband, even though she's the one who do cooler, but now she wants to marry him. All right, and he also wants to marry her. Can they get married? Yes, they can. Although there is a difference of opinion among the Alana. So some say that No, and others say that yes, it is permissible. And we discussed the reasons earlier that hula is not Pollock. And because it is not the luck. I gave you all the arguments as to why it is not the luck. This is why after hula and unica is possible. The second type of by noona is by noona Cobra, Cobra means major okay. So this is separation after which a new marriage contract cannot take place. All right, and this is

when a man divorces his wife a third time okay he divorces or a third time, so then he can either take her back meaning he cannot do two joueur with her during the waiting period, and he cannot even marry her again. All right, he cannot marry her again with a new Nikka the only possibility is if she marries someone else that marriage comes to an end and then he marries her