Taleem al Quran 2021 J02-031E Tafsir Al-Baqarah 229 part 2

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The speakers discuss the legal implications of the concept of "by the last day" and how it relates to the concept of "by the last day" and the concept of "by the last day". They also touch on the legal implications of taking a woman back during a waiting period and the negative consequences of doing so. The speakers emphasize the importance of privacy laws and the need for men to spend on their husbands and provide for them. They also discuss the importance of patience and forgiveness in marriage, as well as the negative impact of women not being patient with their husbands.

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as well as Hindu Liahona aka Krypton nama holla caligraphy are hammy hinda, in Conejo, Mina Billahi will Yeoman acid. And it is not lawful for them for who for the believing women to conceal what Allah has created in their wombs if they believe in Allah and the Last Day, so when a woman has been divorced and now she is in her waiting period, she's observing her into she is not allowed to conceal what Allah has created in her womb. Okay? If she truly believes in Allah and the Last Day, now, what does it mean by this, if you truly believe this is a warning, that if they truly believe in Allah in the last day, they should not hide? And if they hide it, this is a clear evidence of

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deficiency in their faith, problem in their faith. All right, and this is also for Iraq. Any it does not befit you all believing women, that you conceal what Allah has created in your womb, you should not hide if you are a true believer. And in color yo Mina Bella Julio mil acid. This includes the women of the People of the Book, because remember, a believing man is allowed to marry a woman from the people of the book, because the women of the People of the Book believe in Allah and they also believe in the last day, right? Wish the cat don't the women who do shake, wish the cat, they do not believe in Allah and the Last Day, so they're excluded from this and this is why almost a man is not

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allowed to marry them. Now what is created at the wombs, this is a referring to pregnancy or menses hailed. So this means that when she begins her period, she should let her husband know, during her waiting period, during her Ada, when she begins her menses, whether it is the first or the second, or the third, she should let her husband know, if she finds out that she is pregnant again, she should let him know why. Because what happens to her body at this time affects him as well. How does it affect him, if she finds out she's pregnant, while it is his child, he has the right to know. And the purpose of the reader is to reveal pregnancy. Right. So now that she knows she is pregnant, she

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has to let him know so that he knows that she is carrying his child. And if she begins her period, if she begins her menses, again, he should know that now her second menses has begun, the EDA is coming to an end. So he doesn't have much time left, he has to decide quickly. Now a woman would conceal her pregnancy or her hailed why to alter the duration of their EDA, okay. So basically to end it early, so that she can be free of him or to extend it so that she can continue to take advantage of being married to him. Okay. So for example, if the woman does not want to be married to him, she's happy that he has divorced her. And now she lies to him that Oh, I just began my third

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period, or I just ended my third period, and Colosse. Now, where as she is not menstruating at the time, she's lying about it, why would she lie so that she can be separated from Him, so that the marriage can be ended? All right. Or, for example, a woman does that the you know, she lies about it in order to continue to take advantage of being married to him. For instance, a woman begins her period. All right, her third hailed and now basically her era is coming to an end or it has come to an end depending on the opinion you take. And she tells her husband that No, no, I am not menstruating, I have not begun my period yet. Okay. Why would she do that? So that he has to

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continue to spend on her, okay? Because remember, he has to spend on her right? He has to provide her housing, he has to pay for her food, he has to pay for all of her expenses. So she wants to extend their EDA a little bit so that she can continue to benefit from him financially. Okay, so this is wrong. This is wrong. Likewise, if she finds out she's pregnant, and she does not tell him why because now she realizes that her ID there is going to be until she gives birth nine months and she doesn't want to be with him for nine months. She wants to leave. She doesn't want to be with him. So she lies to him that Oh, I had my second period and I had my third period and now my or that

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has come to an end. Goodbye. This is wrong. Okay, if they truly believe in Allah and the Last Day, they're not allowed to hide what Allah has created in their wombs. All right, so remember that the person who believes in Allah and the Last Day for them it is not my body, my choice. I can do whatever I want with my body. Okay. Our bodies are

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are an Amana they are a trust with us from Allah subhanaw taala. And we can only do with our bodies with the creator of that body has allowed us to do. Okay? And if Allah subhanaw taala has commanded us that at this time we must not hide when the period begins when it ends. And, you know, if we know about pregnancy, then we're not allowed to hide that information. Okay. And this also shows us that a woman statement about her period, and her purity is to be accepted. Meaning if a woman says that I have my period, okay, you will believe her, you will not say to her, prove it. Show me your soiled pad. This is wrong. This is very, very wrong. If a woman says that she is menstruating or she is not

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menstruating, you accept her word. Okay? I remember this woman told me about how her aunt would not believe her when she was younger. And she would say that I have my period, her aunt would not believe her, she would take her to the bathroom. And she would say show me your soiled pad. This is very wrong. Very wrong. Even if you have a strong, you know, sense that the other person is lying. So for example, your daughter says to you, she has begun her period and now two weeks have gone by and she still has her period every time you ask her. Are you praying now? She says no. I have my period and now our period has gone on for three weeks or whole month. You will not demand from her

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that she shows you her soiled pad. No, you have to accept her word. Even if you think she's lying. Okay, you have to accept her word for it. Hello us. That's it. Because Allah subhanaw taala says over here with a lulu Honda aka Katana, they should not hide. Alright, which means that whatever they say has to be accepted. Okay? And then we're Marula to Hoonah. A hug Cobra de Nephi Raluca in Urdu is La her and their husbands have more right to take them back in this if they want reconciliation, meaning as long as the woman is in her waiting period, she is observing her into before the third party ends, okay, the husband has the right to take her back. Even if she does not

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want or her family does not want the husband has the right to take her back. So for example, this is very common husband gives divorce to his wife and she gets angry she leaves she goes to her parents house, okay, she should not do that by the way. Or the parents could very upset and they go and pick their daughter up, okay? Or the husband, he tells her go away. Okay, he sends her away. This is wrong. But let's say this happens. Okay. And after a week, the husband goes to, you know, her family's house. And he says to her that, you know, I'm sorry, that was not right. I apologize to you for whatever I said to you, and I want to take you back. Okay, he has the right to do that. Now what

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if she says at this time? No, no, I am not coming back. There is no way I'm coming back. Well, it doesn't matter. She is still his wife. Okay, he has taken her back with his words. And whether or not she likes it, whether or not she comes back to his house. She is now his wife, and she will not be free to marry someone else after three menstrual cycles. No, because he has taken her back. Okay. And this is specifically in the case of revocable divorce and inshallah we'll talk about that more. And what we're gonna do, we're gonna have Cobra Dena fie there Lika during that time, meaning during the waiting period, which means that after the waiting period, he does not have any right over her.

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So for example, if three menstrual cycles are over, and he did not take her back, okay, now, she is free. Okay. She is now separated from him. And she is no longer permissible to him. And if he wants her, then he has to do a new Nica with her. All right. Now the question is, how does he take her back? How is it that her husband will take her back? Uh, her Cobra Deena, how does that happen? Which is called a Roger le joueur. De jure happens with words. So for example, if a man says to his wife, or to her family, that I take her back, okay, he has taken her back. Now she is his wife, the waiting period has ended. And he it's no longer going to be counted. And she is now his wife. And he

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can also take her back with an act of sexual intimacy. Okay. Now the question is, why does the man have the right to take her back? Because he gave the lock and he has the right to revoke

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Get, and he has the right to take her back during the waiting period. Remember that the objective of the waiting period is what? To ensure that the decision to divorce is not hasty. So now during the waiting period, he has the right to take her back. Okay? Because it's possible that during the waiting period, he realizes that he still wants her, he still wants to be married to her, that it was wrong of him to give that up. Okay. So he can take her back. And taking back means that now she is no longer in her waiting period. And the two are going to live like husband and wife do as before in Arado is law her if they want reconciliation? So this right to take back? The wife comes with a

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condition, okay? And what is that condition to make reconciliation, meaning he should only take her back if he wants to make amends and if he wants to live peacefully with her, okay? So this means that if, for example, the family of the woman, even his family, if they know that he is abusive, or that there is no way he is going to live peacefully with her than they should intervene, and they should not allow that reconciliation. All right. Now, if he takes her back with the intention to harm her, Okay, so for example, he does reassure he says, I take you back, he takes her home from her parents house, and then he beats her up, okay? Or he is now you know, emotionally abusive,

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verbally abusive, or he, you know, brings her back to the house and then he just disappeared. We hear about these incidents, right? These stories are real, these things happen, or now what happens is that he just disappears, all right, he does not give her anything financially, you know, same problems are there. So now, is that rudrapur legal? Yes, it is legal. Okay. She's still married to him, but he is greatly sinful, okay. He is greatly sinful for taking her back with the intention to harm her because Allah subhanaw taala has said in Allah do is Salah if they intend reconciliation, well, this man did not intend reconciliation. He intended the opposite of what Allah subhanaw taala

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has said. So when he is opposing Allah azza wa jal, then this man is earning a lot of sin. Okay, he is greatly sinful. So a ruler to Hoonah a help Cobra Deen Nephi delicate in Urdu is slur. All right. And like I mentioned, this router can happen simply with words. Okay, even if there is no act of intimacy, he just says to her, they take you back and she is still in the house of her parents. She refuses to come through your has happened. Okay. Or if for example, she is in his house. And after a week, he says I take you back and they're sexually intimate. And it could be simply him kissing her. Even that is enough for Roger. Okay, well, we're Rula Tahuna. Aha Cabrera Dana V Delica. In Colorado

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is law. While a Honda myth Lula de la Hina. Bill Maher roof and due to the wives is similar to what is expected of them according to what is reasonable. Now, the men have the right to do to juror and they should do it with the intention of Islam with the intention of making amends of living peacefully. Now, how does that happen? How does reconciliation happen when each party is given their rights? Now, for example, if a man gave divorce to his wife, because he got upset with her because she was being very disrespectful, well, why was she being disrespectful? Perhaps the reason is that the husband has been ignoring her or has been depriving her of her rights, whether it is financial

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rights or sexual rights or any kind of right for months and months and years. And now she's reached her limit and she is very angry and she lets it all out. And she is disrespectful because she is letting him know that she is not happy. So if he wants to take her back, he should realize that things need to change now he cannot continue to live the way that he was living before Willa Honda Mifflin Lydia, Elena Bill Maher roof, the wives also have rights and those rights need to be given. Okay. And also if you think about it, a man would typically give the lock to his wife when he's upset with her when he feels that he is not getting much out of the relationship or he feels that

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she is disrespectful, she answers back she fights she you know has many demands. While there is a reason for all of this behavior. Okay, something needs to change the women the wives also have rights. So here it is said that you owe men all

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Your wives rights, just as they owe you. Your rights. Marriage is not about the man having all the rights and the woman having none. No, both the husband and wife have rights. Okay? And these rights are equal while the Hoonah mythical, mythical means same as equal to, okay? Meaning just as the man, you know, has the right to sexual gratification. So does the woman. Okay? Just as the man has the right to be treated with respect and dignity. The woman also has that right to be treated with respect and dignity. All right. Now typically, what happens is that when there's bollock, you know, the woman is blamed, or she is disrespectful, she doesn't listen, she is not an obedient wife and

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things like that. If she answers back, well, you cannot put the burden of blame and responsibility on one party, you cannot expect one side to make all the compromises and the effort to somehow make the marriage work. All right, just as the husband has rights, the wife also has rights. And these rights are the same, they're equal. Now, the rights are not specified over here, okay. But it has been said Bill Maher roof according to what is reasonable and what is reasonable, what is Marlowe, what is culturally acceptable? Any, this varies with regard to place, person, time, culture and circumstances. Okay, with regard to place, now, for example, the husband should provide housing to

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his wife, okay. Now, let's say they live in Canada, in Manitoba, where it snows a lot, it's extremely cold in the winter, and he just pitches a tent, all right, and he says this is your house, okay, is that my roof? Is that appropriate? Is that correct? No, it is not that kind of a house could work in a desert, but it cannot work in a place like Manitoba. All right. So the right very, okay maruf varies with regard to place, also with regard to person with regard to person and each individual has, you know, their unique traits, their unique qualities, okay, their traits, and it doesn't mean that they're less of a person. So, for example, if a person has a mental health

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condition, the wife has a mental health condition and the husband is aware of that he has to provide her what she needs for her mental well being okay. Now, for example, if she needs medication, for instance, he must provide that to her All right, he cannot say well, I just have to give you food that's it, I just have to pay for the groceries I don't have to pay for the medication, no for her What is more aloof is that she is given the medication that she needs all right, socially, she may have certain needs she may have certain requirements for her mental well being he needs to provide that to her also what is Marlo varies with regard to time okay, in books of fic for example, you

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will see you know, what the husband has to provide to the wife and you will see things like comb he has to provide a comb to her now these days things are different maybe it means that he has to provide air conditioning he has to provide enough money that she's able to purchase sanitary pads she's able to purchase you know cream for her face you know she's able to go for a facial once in a while she's able to go for you know a hair cut and things like that, because in present day and age, these things are normal right? Culture also culturally some things are required normal normative and others are not. So, you have to see what is your culture all right. Likewise circumstances okay. So,

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what is maruf varies with regard to place with regard to person, time, culture circumstances, you cannot just, you know, say that these are the responsibilities of the husband towards the wife and only this much No, you have to see the individual case also. All right, well, oh no, Miss Lulu De La Nina. Ben maruf. Now in our Hadith we learned the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said that Allah in Allah coma I only set you can help ah, well in isa Ikoma, Aleikum halka that you have rights over your women and your women also have rights over you. Okay, your rights over your women are that they are not to allow anyone whom you dislike to tread on your furniture, meaning if you

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don't like someone to come into your house, then she should not allow that someone to come into your house, okay, or to sit on a given furniture nor allow anyone whom you do

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like to enter your houses, okay? And their right over you is that you treat them kindly with regard to their clothing and food. And another Hadith the Prophet sallallahu alayhi salam also mentioned that he should feed her when he eats, and he should clothe her the same as he clothes himself with. So for example, some men, you know, they're always going out to eat coffee at Starbucks lunch at Mary Brown's dinner at some other place, and the wife is eating the same dal roti, okay? That she cooked yesterday, and the roti from the freezer, and he is chilling with his friends, and she's at home with the children. This is not right, he should feed her the same as he eats he should clothe

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her the same as he clothes himself with meaning the same kind the same standard. So if he for example, shops at places where clothes are really expensive at Holt, Renfrew, for example, then he has to give his wife he has to pay for, you know, his wife's clothing, which are of the same standard. Okay, same standard. He's wearing the jacket. He's wearing a McCosh jacket, for example. And he gets her jacket from Old Navy. Okay, there is a huge difference. There's a huge difference. So he should give her clothing of the same standard. Okay, and well a Honda Mithila Dr. Les Hina, Bill Maloof, even our bus radula horn who would say that I like to beautify myself for my wife, just

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as she beautifies herself for me. And he even our best little de la Horne, who is saying this, And subhanAllah it's amazing that a woman has to be you know, it's expected that even her nails are perfectly done. And you know, her hair has to be perfect every single day. It has to be styled, and makeup and clothing, everything and the husband and he's been smoking shisha or something and his breath stinks. And his armpits are hairy, and he doesn't care about his hygiene. Any there's such a discrepancy, even our basketball, Dylan Warren, who would say that I like to beautify myself for my wife. Okay, just as I like that she should beautify herself for me how often it happens that when a

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man leaves the house in the morning, he's dressed up so nicely. All right, in his dress, clothes, proper clothing, hair isn't nicely done. He wears perfume brushes, his teeth, you know, makes sure that he is all clean hands are washed. This is how he leaves for work. And then when he comes back home, what happens? He's walking around in a torn and ripped under shirt, as if the wife doesn't deserve anything. So this is not fair. This is not fair to the wife that she sees her husband all nicely dressed up for people at work. And then when he comes home, he doesn't look nice. So how is she supposed to find him attractive? A lot of men complain that, you know, my wife is not willing to

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be intimate with me as often as I would like, well look at yourself. Look at yourself, how do you go in front of your wife? Do you even brush your teeth when you approach her? So well, a Honda Mifflin la de la Hina Bill Maher roof, and someone else has said this means that he enjoys her sexually and she enjoys him sexually. Any both have the right of sexual gratification. This is not just one sided. And a lot of men sadly don't have the patience for that. Or they don't you know pay any attention to this. They're just concerned about their own sexual gratification and not their wives. were literally Jaleo la hinda de Raja, but the men have a degree over them. Well, Allahu Aziz and

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Hakeem and Allah is Exalted in Might and wise. Now what does it mean by this, the men have a degree over them. This means in this context, because this verse is about luck, that the man has the right to give divorce, and she does not have any authority in that matter. Meaning if a man says I divorce you to his wife, she cannot say I don't accept it. Okay? She doesn't have any authority in that matter, because the man has that right? That the man has that degree above her. Okay? Likewise, if during the waiting period, the man says, I take you back, she cannot say, Well, I don't accept it. I'm not coming back home. Okay. No, she doesn't have any authority with regard to that. If she wants

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to get out of that marriage, there's a different process. Okay. However, when it comes to Talaq, he has the right to give it and she does not have any authority. In that matter. Well, Lydia, JD Alejandra, the Raja and this is because he gives her much and he spends on her, okay. And so he has a degree above her. Now this shows us that where there is equality in terms of rights and marriage, okay. There is a degree of authority that Allah has given to the man and not to the woman. And in general, what we understand

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And is that she has to obey Him and He is not required to obey her. Now a lot of people say well see this is not equality, this is misogyny, this is sexism things like that. And that is not true. Why because think about it, hierarchy is necessary for organizations to function, okay? When everyone has equal authority in a certain matter, then that leads to confusion, it leads to indecision, it leads to division, and sometimes it even leads to violence, when people have varying levels of authority or control, okay, that enables that organization to function, okay. So, for example, within an organization when you realize that your boss has the final say, okay, then even when you

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disagree with your boss, you just accept, right, you accept and it maintains the harmony, all right? It keeps things going. And when you have a higher position than other people, you actually develop a sense of responsibility. You step up, all right. So this higher degree that men have been given is in regard to responsibility and authority in marriage. This is not about piety, will it a JD or Elena de Raja doesn't mean that all men will be a degree above all women in paradise, or that men are a degree more righteous than women by definition of their masculinity or because they are male. No, this is not what this means. This means within the relationship of marriage, the men have a

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degree above in regard to authority in regard to responsibility and Allah subhanaw taala mentions that in Surah Nisa, verse number 34, that original Pomona Allah Nisa, men are in charge of women, all right, why the reasons are given by right of what Allah has given one over the other, there are certain privileges that men have been given. So with those privileges comes authority and responsibility and also what they spend from their wealth because men are required to spend on their wives. Okay. So this means that the man makes the marriage contract and because he gives them a her, he has to spend on his wife, and he has to ensure physical and spiritual well being of his wife, and

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he also has the right to give divorce. Okay, now this means well, at JD are leaving the door, Roger, that men must take this matter seriously. They must step up and take care of their wives, and provide for them and strive for their well being a man when he's married, cannot just think of himself that oh my money, my job, my work, my friends, my fun, my career, okay, no, he has to also think about his wife. He has to spend on her. He has to take care of her. He has to ensure her well being also and likewise, a woman when she's married. She cannot be negligent toward her husband that I don't care. And I can treat him however I want. I can say whatever I want. No, Allah has given

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your husband Adonijah a degree over you acknowledge that, in certain Nyssa 34 Allah's parents artists for Saudi hydrocone Titan, so righteous women are devoutly obedient, meaning to their husbands. They're obedient to their husbands, they're good to their husbands. They're respectful, and the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam also said that led turgidum Ratan Halawa, Imani had that to a deer haka Zoji. that a woman cannot find the sweetness of faith until she gives her husband his right. And he this is related to your faith. Now, this right this the raja that men have does not mean that the man has the right to abuse her. Okay? Because Allah Subhana Allah says in surah Nisa,

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verse 34, that for in a foreigner comfortable, who are leanness Avila that if they obey you, meaning if your wife obeys you, she's good, then do not find a way to harm her in the law can Aurelien Kabira indeed Allah is Ever high ever great. He has a higher degree above you, you have a degree above your wife, Allah is above you, and Allah is greater than you. So fear him. Now some say that this is also a greater than Raja any a greater degree of expectation, meaning more is expected of men than women. In terms of forbearance in terms of pardon in terms of patients, meaning a husband should be patient, a degree more than his wife is.

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Okay. A husband should pardon his wife a degree more than his wife

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I've pardons him or overlooks his mistakes. So he should put up with more than she puts up with. Okay? Now you see in every relationship, you know, husband and wife them differences, arguments, things that they're annoyed by. Because when you live with someone, you see their mistakes, you see their shortcomings and just the fact that they're living with you means that they will end up doing things, you know, unintentionally, even that will annoy you, that will hurt you. So patience and forgiveness are a must, must must within a marriage without patients unforgiveness, a marriage cannot function. So a wife is patient with her husband, right? She overlooks his meanness his

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rudeness, his harshness, or, you know, his sometimes the fact that he is negligent, you know, she overlooks she makes compromises, all right. The husband also has to make those compromises the husband also has to forgive her, but he has to forgive her a degree more than she forgives him. You understand? Well, Lydia Jaleo la Hina de Raja, meaning more is expected of men. So the husbands should fear Allah in regard to their wives. And even our boss little de la Mourinho. You know, his statement that I like to dress up for my wife, I like to beautify myself for my wife just as she beautifies herself. For me, that statement continues. He said, but I do not like to take all of my

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right from my wife that is due on her towards me, because I'm supposed to have a degree above her. You understand? He said that I do not like to take all of my right from my wife. There are many rights of mine that I forego. Okay. I pardon her when she does not give me my right. I pardon her. Why? Because Allah subhanaw taala has said, We're Lily jelly Alayhi Nadal Raja, the men have a right over them. So we learned in the Quran, Allah subhanaw taala says about the Prophet salallahu Alaihe Salam that I'll refer Barbara who are Eldon Barb, that when one of the wives of the Prophet salallahu Alaihe Salam disclosed his secret, the Prophet sallallahu already said and let her know

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part of it and he ignored He pardoned part of it. In he, he did not make a big deal about it. But he did let her know that I know that you disclosed my secret, but he did not get upset with her or yell at her or anything like that. So we're little jelly Elena de Raja, meaning the men should pardon their wives more than their wives pardon them. The men should not try to get all of their rights from their wives like even our bustle de la Horne who say, which means that there are many times when you have to overlook, okay, and women also have to do this. You know, for example, if your husband doesn't put the dishes away where they're supposed to be put away, you tell him once you

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tell him twice, but don't tell him every single time. Learn to overlook, learn to ignore because if you tell him every single time, put your plate here, put your cup there, put your spoon there, put this there, put that over there, he's gonna get fed up. And it's not fair that a person doesn't feel safe in their house. There are many things that you have to overlook, but the men have been encouraged over here that they should overlook more, because Allah subhanaw taala has given them a degree above