Taleem al Quran 2012 – P28 278E Tafsir Al-Mujadalah 11-13

Yeah are you here Levina ama No, all you who have believed either Pingala comb when you are told the first Sir Who space yourselves filmer jealousy in gatherings in assemblies, then what should you do FAFSA who then makes space? And what will happen when you make space for others? Yep, so hula hula Khan, Allah will make space for you.

Now here in this ayah we're being taught another important lesson with regards to gatherings earlier we were told about Najwa that in a gathering or when you are in a public space, be considerate of the private conversations that you hold, be considerate. And here be considerate of people in another way also, that makes space for them. Make room for them. Don't just think about yourself think about others also.

So here yeah, you have Medina Amma no either Peter Lacan the fossa, Whoville Majelis when you are told the first Circleville Majelis the first row from the first so first scene here

and the first song means the West sir.

The West sir, the West sir from Wistar. Right, what does what's our mean?

When something is vast, so the West sore is to make something wide, to make something spacious. So the first step is to make a place spacious? How do you do that? By stretching out the room?

Yeah. How do you do that? How do you make space? By gathering yourself up?

You understand? Like, for example, if you are sitting on a couch, let's say you're sitting five inches away from the side. All right. And because of that reason, there's room for only one more person on your other side.

Now there come two people. So what should you do? The first Sir, who fill Majelis make space for them how, by moving over, you were sitting so comfortably. Now squeeze yourself up a little bit, occupy less space, so that there is more space for others. This is the fuzzer so Allah says that when you are asked when someone requests you, or when someone instructs you, because it could be a request or an instruction, that you are asked to make space for someone fill Majelis in gatherings Majelis, plural of modulus gathering or an assembly, then what should you do FAFSA who then make space how?

How we just discussed it, by gathering yourself up. And when you will do that you were sitting very comfortably before and now you're sitting a little uncomfortably. What will happen? The epsa Hula, hula calm, Allah will make space for you. What does it mean? Allah will provide you space, you make room for others, Allah will make room for you. When you take care of others than Allah who will take care of you.

When you are considerate of others, that Allah will fulfill your needs.

Now, many times it happens that whenever there is a group of people sitting together, or even standing together, let's say, in a bus, in an airplane, or in a classroom, in a living room, wherever it may be at a social event. All right, when people are together, and as more people come in, generally what happens, we begin to feel concern for ourselves that I must get the best seat. All right, and you know what to be on the safe side, let me just put my bag on the seat next to mind that nobody else will come and sit there. All right, occupy as much space as possible for myself. So I can be relaxed and I can be comfortable. What is Allah subhanaw taala telling us over here, make

room for others. Don't just think about yourself. Think about others also.

Typically, what is our way? Really, if you think about it, honestly, what is our way that if we could take other people's space, we would take it

right? I mean, generally in parking lots, right? There are spots that are reserved for certain individuals. Like for example, for people with disabilities, right. And sometimes people are very nice that they will hold certain spots for

Mothers or families with younger children. Right? And Al Hamdulillah I am privileged to, you know, have that right to park in such a spot. But so often I find that these spots are filled with cars in which there are no car seats. No car seats.

Right and who do I see walking out of the cars?

You know a man or sometimes people with older children or people who don't really need to park there. Just because that spot is closer to the store. Right there's less walking, we will go occupy that. Sometimes people will even park in spots which are reserved for people with disabilities. Right or they will park in the Imam spot. Right? Why do we do this? Because we become selfish. We want to look out for ourselves. We want to take care of ourselves, What is Allah teaching us here? You take care of others, Allah will take care of you.

You will be considered of others and Allah will preserve you, Allah will look after your needs.

So this is the first thing we are being taught. And you see this is something that we encounter every single day. Because whenever we have to sit with other people, you know in the masjid or at home, sometimes the masjid in the month of Ramadan what happens? Even in a restaurant? Right? Always we're thinking about who ourselves ourselves. And Allah is teaching us over here to think about who other people be considered.

So yes, sir hula hula can make room for others in your heart. And Allah will provide you space. You see, in Hadith, we learned that the food of one is enough for to

write. And this is true that the space which is for one person is many times enough for to

write, and Hamdulillah we don't have this problem over here in our class. It's a huge class and hamdulillah in fact, people have to be asked to come and fill in the spots. But I remember when I took the course, mashallah our class was of 500 students. All right, 500 students, and you can imagine the number of listeners that will come also huge class, and always full, Mashallah. And it was a mission to find a spot in the front. If you wanted a spot in the front, you would have to come an hour or two before, right? So the class started at eight o'clock, you have to be there seven, eight o'clock, by the way, yes, six days a week, 60s, right. And we had to be there very early. And

so often it would be that the rows in the front would be backed, completely backed. But honestly, those were the best is best is when you were just fixed in your spot. He couldn't even move. He couldn't. It was like salah, literally. But it was so beautiful. The baraka and the Rama, the Sakina that was experienced in that class, in that place, was very unique. So yep, sir. handla Hula comb, don't worry too much about yourself, Allah will take care of you. He will provide you. And this is true with regards to Majelis gatherings. This is true with regards to food. This is true with regards to everything, when you take care of others than Allah takes care of you.

And you see the side over here when you are asked when you are told when you are requested. Because many times what happens is somebody comes and requests you. May I sit next to you. May I pray next to you? Is anybody sitting over here? Is anybody using this chair. And if we are ever asked about the empty chair or the empty spot, God forbid, what happens? We can offended?

We can offend it. Just yesterday, I saw how somebody asked for a chair if it was being used. And they were basically told in a very mean way go away from here. I don't know what was said. But the expression on the girl's face was refused. Look very sad. I felt bad for her. You know, in a plane, this happened with me. We were trying to check in traveling with kids. And we were trying to check in beforehand, but it wasn't possible. And with the kids, we ended up you know, in the plane quite late. And as we came in, we saw that our seats were all scattered. So we requested somebody if they would please move somewhere else so that the kids could sit next to us and they point blank refused,

refused.

And so I didn't want to put my kids sitting next to strangers. How can you do that in a plane? 14 hour flight? How can you do that?

And subhanAllah and a lady she got up and she helped us out. She moved her kids around because her kids were older. She moved them around and then we got to sit with the kids. So this is not something that we should feel threatened by if somebody is requesting us

May I park here? Or May I sit here? Or would you mind if I requested you to move from here to there so that things could be easy for me. Don't feel threatened over there. Don't feel threatened. Don't get offended. Either feel Ella canta for several filmer, journalists, FAFSA who make space for others, Allah will take care of you.

Secondly, another thing we are taught over here what either P that and when it is said on Tuesday will arise known Chien ze Nasha dereyes. So when you are asked, get up as in, get up and move somewhere else, please. Or you are asked to get up as in now time to go, the party's over. Now everybody, please make your way home. What either peeler on choosing, then don't get offended over there from chisel, then rise and get up and leave or move.

Don't get offended over there. Don't feel that someone has disrespected you by asking you to get up and move or to get up and leave.

Now, generally, this is not something that we should do the asking somebody to get up and move somewhere else so that we can sit on their spot. Generally this is not the proper etiquette. Right? The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said that no one should ask another person to stand from his place, and then sit there.

You don't have the authority to ask somebody to get it from their spot, and then sit there. But you can say make room, make room and accommodate you can say that.

But if there is an exceptional situation, right? Like, for example, there is a person you're on the bus, somebody needs to sit down.

Right? They're not able to stand they have a health condition, or they have a little child with them. And let's say the conductor or whoever the bus driver requests you to please get up and let somebody else sit down. Yes, you have a right to your seat because you came there first. Technically you do. But if somebody asks you makes a request, either Keelan chooses then what should you do? When choosing the believer who is compliant, right, who's not stubborn, who is accommodating, who's considerate of others. So when you're asked to arise that arise, don't get offended over there. The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said that a person is most deserving of sitting in his seat.

Even if he got up from it and returned, he is still more deserving of it.

So for example, you're standing in the masjid first row, or let's say you're standing in the second row, all right, and you have your eyes open, waiting for somebody to break their will to one goal, so that you can take their spot. So let's say somebody has to go, all right, then please don't take their spot. Unless of course Allah is starting, then you have to fill in the gap. However, you know, if it's, let's say it's a break, and they move a little bit, and their bag is still there, their water bottle is still there. Don't just move it off to the side and take their spot. That's not fair. Because the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said that the person who sat there first has

most right to sit there, even if he returned, if he went and he returned. He has a right to it. So respect that.

And then we see that the third thing Allah mentions over here is that yellow Ferrari lehle Levina Amma Newman come Allah will elevate those who believe among you will Lavina alter him and those who were given knowledge that Rajasthan in ranks.

Because if we're asked to make space for others, or were asked to move, to get up and leave, then we feel offended over there we feel disrespected. While this is not the standard of respect and disrespect, where you sit and how long you sit there for this is not a measure of respect. What is the measure of respect near Allah? It is Iman and

Allah raises the status of who those who have Iman, and those who are given knowledge, then they are worthy of respect near Allah, will Allah who be my dharma Luna Javi, and Allah is of whatever you do fully aware. He's fully aware of who is deserving of respect and who is not deserving of respect. So the third thing that we are taught over here is that do not feel arrogant realize that Allah is the One who gives honor.

Allah gives honor. And who is it that he gives honor to people of Eman and people of so if you really want to be honorable

then don't think that you have to sit in a certain seat. What you need to do is strengthen your Eman and grow your knowledge and Allah who will bring honor to you. The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said that when one of you

goes to a gathering and space is made for him than he should sit there. If you go somewhere, and people make space for you than sit there, because it is something that Allah has honored him with, this is an honor for him from Allah, and from his Muslim brother, so accept it. And if space is not made for him, then he should look where there is space, and he should sit there. Meaning you should not feel disrespected over there and get upset with people and get angry with people that Why aren't you making space for me and start crying in your heart? No, don't feel like that. If people make space for you, they treated you with honor and respect, good Alhamdulillah. And if they didn't make

space for you don't feel disrespected over there.

Because Allah gives honor to who, to those who have Eman and to those who are given knowledge. And this is the idea that is used to show the status of alien the importance of

that Allah will elevate people of knowledge and Iman in this world and in the Hereafter.

And this also teaches us that when somebody of Eman and or alien comes, then if Allah honors them, what should we do?

What should we do? We should also honor them.

Right? We should also honor them. So for example, you know that someone has memorized the Quran,

you know that someone is a serious student of knowledge? Right? You know, that, that what should you do? Make space for them? treat them with respect, instead of thinking, Oh, it's, you know, it's a world of equality. And you know, what, if they really needed to sit in the front that they should have come first? No, we must show respect to others. And Allah's panel data will also honor us.

And you see, this also teaches us that you know, a person of Eman a person of own they must be respected. And besides that, there are other reasons also why people should be respected. Like for instance, their age,

or the relationship that you have with them. So for example, if your grandmother comes in,

right, or if your mother in law comes in, or your father in law comes in, your parents come in your uncle or your aunt, the no matter what has happened, whatever argument has happened, or or whatever bad feelings are there because of that relationship and the age difference, and the fact that they're older than you so they were Muslim before you they have prayed more Salah then you

respect them.

You understand? Respect them and make space for them and show them honor?

Allah says Yeah, are you here Latina Amanu all you who have believed in Atlanta J. Tamar Rasul. When you wish to do Najwa with the messenger sallallahu alayhi wa salam, you wish to have a private conversation with the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa salam, there's a personal matter, which you wish to discuss with him privately. I

mean, who wouldn't want to do that? Even if you didn't have an issue, you would come up with an issue, just to have some time, right? With the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam? Allah says either tonight at ml Rasul.

Then what do you have to do for a demo? Then you must present you must send ahead, meaning give before the private conversation, Bay Nia Dana dua, before your Najwa What do you have to give sadaqa charity,

you must give charity before you have a private discussion with the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam.

This doesn't mean that charity is going to go to the prophets Allah Allah already said, I'm not at all you know why?

Why? Exactly because the prophets of Allah do not take charity, charity is not to be given to them. charity in the Muslim community goes due to the poor and the needy. And not just that, but do causes which will be of benefit to the entire community.

Right. So you wish to take the time of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam then what do you have to do? You have to give to the community. Why? Because when you take the time of the Prophet salAllahu alayhi wasallam you are keeping him away from what? From being there for the community. You're taking from the right of the community and when you're doing that, you must make up for it. You must pay for it. beignet Athena DualCom you must give sadaqa VALIC highroller como ATO that is better for you. And it is pure

better for you and pure? How is it better for you? Because when you will give sadaqa you are performing a good deed. Right? There was a problem you wish to discuss with the Prophet salallahu alayhi wa sallam by giving sadaqa? What are you doing, you're increasing the chances of your problem going away, of ease being created for you. You see, many times what happens is that when we have an issue, what do we want? We want to discuss it with a very important person.

Right? It's amazing people will ask me things like, Do you know how I can speak to such and such shares? Why? Because I have an issue. Good, you want to discuss with them, but I don't have the personal contact? And even if I did, why would I share that? Because that's not what they do. Right? If you wish to have a proper discussion concerning your family situation, then go to a marriage therapist, go to a family counselor, right? Or go to someone who offers the services. So the thing is that we think the solution to our problems comes from where from talking to important people.

But what did we learn at the beginning of the surah the solution to our problems comes from who from Allah. So, you know, what, give sadaqa give Sadako draw closer to Allah, so that your matters will be made easy for you, ease will be created for you, it is hydralic and what upon it is pure for you. Because charity, on the one hand, where it brings reward to a person, so it is height, it is good for him. On the other hand, it is also a means of removing one cents, so it will purify you.

And when you are earning a good deed, and you are getting rid of your sins, you're drawing closer to Allah. And hopefully with this effort, what will happen, your problems will be made easy for you.

For lm 30 do, then if you are not able to find meaning you're not able to find the means to give charity. And there were Sahaba who didn't have the money to give in charity, if you're not able to do that, for in the law has a photo Rahim that indeed Allah is Forgiving and Merciful. Meaning if you were to have a private consultation with the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam and you didn't give charity because you couldn't afford to do that, then you haven't incurred any sin. This is not sinful. All right. Now, everyone wanted private time with the Prophet sallallahu alayhi salam who wouldn't? Now many times it happens that people come and they talk to Imams or people of knowledge

and they discuss their issues with them. And how much time do they take you think 15 minutes 20 minutes, sometimes hours. Sometimes the problems continue for weeks and sometimes these issues continue for months. Right? There are meetings then there are phone calls, then there are text messages then there are emails right? And a lot of time goes into this I've seen this my father he's mashallah very good a family counselor, many people that come to him for advice. So, I remember when he was here in Canada honestly, sometimes he would be talking to you know, families with their concerning the problems until 12 In the night

really after midnight even

until so late and then not just once, but multiple times.

So, the thing is that

when you are talking to someone about your situation, right and you want help from them, you are preventing them from their work, you are preventing them from being with their family, you are preventing them from fulfilling their obligations etcetera, etcetera. Right. So, especially when that person has a major role in the community then remember you are taking time you are affecting the community.

So, this is why you must give sadaqa

right. And then what happens is that many times people will come to the Imam and they will talk to them

and then you know what they'll do, they won't even follow the advice. They won't even follow the advice and this is so annoying that you came to me in my head for like five hours. And I researched and I discussed and I you know did so much to kind of present you a solution and when I offer it to you you just go away saying that you're not in need of it.

You're fatwa shopping discussing with one Imam and then another Imam and then another Imam wasting everyone's time.

And so when let's say an imam or a scholar or somebody they charge for this, then people get offended. How could you charge for offering Islamic advice? You know that check if you wish to take your family you should do their they will charge you this much money per hour. You know what they should charge double triple that so that you take their advice seriously

We need to take their advice seriously.

Right? So I mean, think about it, typical marriage counselors and therapists, and how much does it cost? A lot of money, doesn't it?

And many times people will not pay for it. And they will tell you, no one will live with our problems. And then they'll end up in divorce. I read this tweet by a Maghrib Institute, a class on marriage was happening. And they said that people don't want to pay for marriage counseling, because they say it's expensive. Well, divorce is also expensive,

isn't it? It's more expensive, very expensive. So anyway, here, the Sahaba were taught that they must give sadaqa before consulting the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam privately, right?

Time is money.

So value other people's time, you have to pay for it,

and pay the community you must give some sadaqa All right. Now the purpose of this was to teach and discipline the people that if you really want his advice and time and you're serious about your issues, then pay for it. Because when you have to pay for something, then you take it seriously. Now what happened when this idea was revealed, the Sahaba got worried. They thought it wasn't really liked by Allah subhanaw taala that they should go and have private discussions with the Prophet sallallahu wasallam. So you know, who came forward to have a private discussion with the Prophet sallallahu sallam? Nobody, except for our little doula.

So I need a little more on who he had something to discuss with the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, he gives him sadaqa and then he went in, converse with him privately. Then what happened? Allah subhanaw taala abrogated this command. In the following verse, Allah says ash bottom, Ash factum, were you afraid?

Were you afraid? And to add the MOU that you present before beignet? Dana DualCom before your Najwa so the court charities Were you afraid of doing that? What was the fear? Either fear of poverty? Or it was that perhaps it is something wrong? Allah subhanaw taala does not like that. So they refrained from doing this ash * them, were you afraid?

So it is as if the Sahaba are being told there's no need to be afraid over here.

And you see generally also what happens as long as something is free. We'll take it. But as soon as we have to pay for it. Like I changed my mind.

I'll figure something else out. Are you afraid to pay? Are you afraid to give in charity? Are you afraid to contribute to a good cause? What's the fear over here? I spoke to him and to put them obey Nadine edge, welcome to the court. There's no need to be afraid for it. Lanta Farlow. Then when you do not do meaning when none of you dare to give sadaqa and then talk to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam privately, you didn't do it? What that Allah who are naked, and Allah has forgiven you. And what is meant by this is that he has abrogated this command, then what should you do for a penal Sonata? Then establish the prayer what to look at and give this occur? Well, I'll tell your

Allahu wa rasuluh and obey Allah and His Messenger, meaning, now continue with what Allah has already ordered you. Yes, it is not a condition for you to give sadaqa before a private conversation with the messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. However, other obligations that Allah has given you continue to observe them, well, well, Allah who will be it'll be Mata Malone and Allah is acquainted with what you do. So this verse abrogates, the previous right, but it certainly teaches us some very important lessons, you see the Hikmah and abrogation right? In US, firstly teaches us that we must value the time of the Prophet salallahu alayhi wa sallam, and from that we must value the time of

people who are in a position of authority and leadership.

Many times it happens that, you know, somebody's there for a particular work or a session. And what happens people keep asking them one question after the other after the other after the other. You know, sometimes I'm amazed at how, I don't know if you remember that once you will need was here for your session. And after his session, you know, such a long line people are asking him and asking was past 10 o'clock. Fast 10 o'clock. And he was standing and people were asking questions, and he's patiently answering them one after the other after the

I saw somebody who went up to the chef, they were at the end of the line. And as soon as they got there, they just offered him some snack and they left they didn't ask the question. I said, Well, I'll ask another time. You know, have some Rama

right. Be considerate. You see how we're being taught be considering over and over again in different ways, beacons

100 of their time be considered have their health be considered all their break?

Right? You know, this doesn't mean that we should not ask them, we should ask them, they will always make themselves available. But when they do give us an answer,

then we must any respect that answer, right? Because many times it happens that, you know, people will come and say, Oh, that shakes or this and that shakes or that, and so and so said this, you took five minutes from them, and 10 minutes from the other one and 15 minutes from the other one. And now, what are you going to do, you're going to do something that you wish to do, you're going to ignore what the shoe have told you, and you're going to do whatever you feel like, why did you waste their time? If you weren't going to follow their advice, then you know what, don't come and ask them.

If you weren't going to take their advice seriously, then please don't waste their time. So this teaches us the importance of respecting other people's time, respect your time and respect other people's time.

Another important lesson it teaches us is that again, private conversations, even if you have to do them with the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam you have to consult him privately for something

then you have to pay for it. Give some other copy for it. Right.

And if you want to talk to him openly about something, go ahead, that's fine. So the fact that something has been put as a condition for inagua What does it mean and that's why again, is not something that is always welcome, or always praiseworthy. It's disliked.

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