Taimiyyah Zubair – Taleem al Quran 2012 – P22 222C Tafsir Al-Ahzab 50-52

Taimiyyah Zubair
AI: Summary © The Prophet sallam was a double benefit for him and his wife Kathy had a history of multiple marriages, but it was not something that was the right thing to do. The Prophet sallam also had a history of marriages, but it was not allowed on the man. The importance of educating parents about the norm of multiple marriages and avoiding dangerous conversations at night is emphasized. The speaker also discusses the profit margins on s attracted, the importance of being fair and protecting one's wife, and the idea that the Prophet sallama was not allowed to marry women.
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Now, in this ayah especially what has been mentioned is what has been elaborated is the multiple marriages of the Prophet salAllahu alayhi wasallam. Alright. And the main reason behind his multiple marriages is what? The fact that Allah is lightening the burden from him. What does it show? He didn't choose this, Allah decided this for him.

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Right? So the reason behind his multiple marriages was what Allah has command. Simple. And we see this if we just look at the life of the prophets on a lot of sentiments quite evident. The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam who was his first wife, Kathy, Gerald de la hora and her right, who was older than him, who was widowed twice. All right. And could you tell us a little on how was his only wife until her detailed Illawarra Anna passed away? Right? And at that time, the Prophet sallallahu sunnah was around 50 years old.

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And when Khadija blow on her passed away the prophets Allah was Anna was not found smiling for a very long time. And he had children and fought them out of the long run her she became the mother or father. This is how she was described. Why? Because she used to look after the Prophet salallahu Salam, she used to look after the family. All right, in fact, a lot of the low on who was still a girl.

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All right. So what happened? It was suggested to the prophets on Allah Islam that he should marry who sold or de la hora and sold out of the Allahu anha. Who was she? She was also an elderly woman. She was also widowed. All right, and the Prophet sallallahu Sallam married her.

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This is at what point when he's 50 years old. Okay. Why did he marry you so don't have the low on her. Because he needed a companion somebody else is telling her you need to get married. You have a family, you have a great responsibility. And they suggested so though the low on him if the profits on a lot is really wanted a lot of women didn't the wish the keen offer the profits on a lot, etc. You want women will get you married to any woman that you want you to stop conveying this message

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that we learn about this in this era. Then they offer him money. Then they offer him status. They offered him women also, what the prophets of Allah sent him didn't take that offer. Because he wasn't that kind of a man. He didn't need it. He was content with Khadija of the low on her as his wife. He was happily married to her after her death, then he marries soda. Why? Because he needed a wife

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and other people were telling him to marry. And there's no harm. It's nothing wrong for a man to get married to a woman. It's married is not wrong.

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I mean, this is part of life. Isn't it? Isn't marriage part of life? You know, just the other day in the news. I read Rupert Murdoch. What's his name yet? Rupert Murdoch? How old is he? He is

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84 years old.

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And he just announced his engagement.

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He just announced that he's gotten engaged to some woman who was much younger than him. Okay.

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may you might say, is this an age really to get married up? Well for him, he wants that marriage.

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You understand? This is part of life. Married is a part of life. So the prophets of Allah Islam got married, because marriage is a part of life. It's nothing strange. You understand? Okay. Then I see the Prophet sallallahu Sallam he got married to alright shall de la Mourinho. All right. And in that is also a wisdom his relationship with Abu Bakar or below on who that was strengthened inshallah we'll discuss the marriage of eyeshadow on him, okay. Then we see the Prophet sallallahu Sallam he migrated to Medina, who was in his marriage. Now, at this point, two women only who so the an eyeshadow on her, and in fact, the marriage of dowry should have the lower and who was consummated

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in Medina, all right, so sometime after he migrated to Medina. Now what happened? One battle after the other, many Muslims passed away. All right. Amongst them was who the husband of half suck, but Ile de la Horne, who was have sort of the lower and had the daughter of Romani and Arun battle de la one who wanted his daughter Hafsa to get married again after her EDA. Didn't he approachable Bucha. He

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proach Horace Mann he approached earlier the low iron who and have sorted the low one who got married to the Prophet sallallahu radiocentre. So in this was double benefit.

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Okay, one benefit was the Prophet sallallahu Psalms relationship with their middle the low one who would be strengthened and then secondly have started low on who is a widow now she has a husband and which has been a while people Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. All right, then we see the prophets of Allah Azza made Zane have been Jose Miguel de la Juana. She was also a widow. He married him selama she was also a widow. So at this point, now the Prophet sallallahu Sallam had four wives because Xena been Hoceima she actually passed away a couple of months after she got married to the Prophet sallallahu sallam. So four women were in his marriage, who saw the Isha Hafsa on Salama.

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Okay? And the Prophet sallallahu Sallam himself did not marry anybody. What happened? His marriage to Xena brother Laura and her took place. Zainab bint Josh CO was a divorced woman. All right, and who made that marriage happen? Allah the Exalted. Now you see why this was more of an issue? Because firstly, she was the divorced wife of who I will his adopted son, that was going to be a big problem for the people. And secondly is a integral dilemma and how would be the fifth wife of the Prophet sallallahu sudlow How many wives were allowed for. So now it's a completely different thing for the prophets on a lot of Salon. So Zaina been Joshua dilla Juana, she was a fifth wife at the time. And

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Allah subhanaw taala makes it clear in this idea that all of these restrictions are lifted from you, including the for, this is exclusively for you. The Prophet salallahu Salam did not marry for the fulfillment of desire, who is it that has bordered the prophets that allows him to marry this fifth wife or has made this marriage happen? Allah, the Exalted, and you see this idea in that a Helena laka as Whadjuk we have made this lawful for you, Allah has made this lawful for you. Allah has made this exception for you, then who made their question, Allah's decision and object, Allah's decision? Because when Allah has made something lawful for His Messenger, then even the messenger cannot make

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it unlawful for himself.

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Because remember the time when the Prophet salallahu Salam made honey unlawful for himself, just to please his wives. Allah subhanaw taala revealed what? That Lima to her remember Hala hulak How can you make unlawful for yourself what Allah has made lawful for you, you don't have that choice. And the marriage douzaine above the law and the prophets of Allah Salam had no choice over there. So what Janaka so over here also, it's emphasized in Luna locker, we have made this lawful for you. So if you have a problem with this, then you have a problem with who Allah subhanaw taala. And Allah can command what he wants, and he can prohibit what he wants, and he can make an exception for

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whomever that he wants. Because now use aloo Amaya for I know we're home use alone, he is not questioned about what he does, but they will be questioned the servants are questioned, the master is not questioned.

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And we see that some commandments some matters were exclusive to to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam given his status, given his position, given his role, like for example, the HUD job, it was mandatory on him. Is it mandatory on the rest of the OMA? No. Likewise, you see that the Prophet sallallahu Sallam he would fast the fasting of withdrawal, which is continuous fasting, continuous fasting, all right, without a break in the middle. This is not allowed for the OMA. But the Prophet sallallahu Sallam did that. Right? The only man allowed to take sadaqa but the Prophet sallallahu wasallam and this extended to his family not allowed to accept sadaqa Correct. For every single man,

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it's why do you want him to spend on his wife but the Prophet sallallahu sallam, it was not watchable on him.

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Right? So given his role, you understand, given his role, given the work the task that he was entrusted with that he was charged with, because of that reason, there were certain laws that were exclusively for him.

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Part of that was extra worship. And part of that was these extra marriages also, did he have a choice concerning them? No, he didn't. Because he was who the hub, the servant of Allah, the Exalted.

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Then we see that the prophets Allah

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artisan I'm also married after this who do at or below Ana Sofia de la hora. And then I'm Habiba as well as Maimunah. There'll be a lot more.

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So the prophets on a lot of salaam had how many wives nine wives when he passed away? All right.

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Now, the question about the marriage of the Prophet salallahu salam to or Aisha Radi Allahu Mourinho. How do we understand that? How old was she when she got married to him? Some narration say that she was six. Other narration say that she was nine. Right? Some people say she was 18. Might or some people say that she was older. But though more solid narrations they showed that she was nine or 12 maximum. Okay, whatever the age was,

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okay, whatever the biological age was. I have a question for you. When you hear the stories of eyeshadow below are now

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the questions that she asked the prophets Allah already was

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the kind of actions that she did. Okay. Like, for example, you know, the way she prayed, for instance, right, that I had one occasion, we learned that somebody came to see her she was praying, and she was crying. And they went back and after some time, they came and I showed her the LaWanda was still praying, still reciting the same idea, crying,

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all of these stories that we learned about our show glow on her.

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Does she look like a child?

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No, she doesn't. When you read about her, you're reading about who?

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A woman who is very feisty, for sure. amazing woman. But at the same time, a woman who was a young woman who was an adult,

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right? The thing is that when we want to understand the marriage as the prophets of Allah Islam, we have to take anthropology into consideration, we have to take the Society of that time into consideration.

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We cannot think of the marriages of the Prophet salallahu Salam in our context. All right. First thing remember in that society, multiple marriages were a norm. In fact, before Islam, there was no restriction a man could have 30 wives if he wanted. Okay, consent was not even an issue.

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And there were many abuses that we have learned about earlier in the Quran. So with Islam, what happened, restrictions were placed limits were set who ruled were set? Correct.

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So it was a norm to have multiple wives, and especially for a leader. For example, a tribal leader, it was a norm to have multiple wives.

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You see, the enemies of the prophets have a lot of some of the worst enemies were those that lived in his time.

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The worst enemies of the prophets of Allah said, Oh, my God, those that are living today. They were those who lived in his time. But not once. Did they attack him for his marriages? Not even once. Why? Because this was not a problem. It was something normal.

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It wasn't strange. For us, it is strange. All right. You know, for example, here if we learn about, you know, for example, a family in which it's a polygamous marriage, for example, right. A man two wives were like,

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interesting. Right? We have some kind of reaction. You go to some other society. Okay. Like, for example, some Middle East, a country over there. multiple marriages. What? It's a norm,

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isn't it? I remember a friend of mine, her husband was working in somewhere in the Middle East. And people were always offering him.

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Would you like to marry my daughter? And he's like, I'm married? How many

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Because he would say I have one wife. I'm fine. I'm happily married. Thank you very much. But for people, it was very strange. You have only one wife.

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And this is not 1900s. This is 2000 10s. Okay. 2010s. So anyway, this is something that's normal in many societies. I mean, forget about Africa, Asia, North America. Aren't there certain places, certain cultures in which there are polygamous marriages.

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All you need to do is just turn the TV on.

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You know what I'm talking about, right?

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Reality TV shows. One of those shows.

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Sister Wives.

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Forget about what happens in that if

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They're happily married or not the fact that such a marriage exists. And when you see all those smiles on those people's faces, you know, as awkward as you feel it's normal for them, isn't it?

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So what is normal for you is not normal for me. Because norms change, norms vary, you understand? But if you're happy with your norms, good for you.

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And if I'm happy with my norms, good for me, you will need to rescue me because I'm happy.

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You understand? If I'm being abused? If there is a problem, then yes, please come and rescue me. But if I'm happy, you don't need to rescue me. It's like, you know, when people think that a Muslim woman because of her hijab, she's oppressed.

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Right? What do you say? I'm fine. You don't need to rescue me. Right? I put this on willingly. In fact, I put the song against the wishes of the men in my family, for example, right? So likewise, some people think that the wives of the Prophet sallallahu sallam, perhaps they were oppressed women, right? They were forced into these marriages. You know, if I shattered the law on her, as a young woman, if she was happy with her marriage, we don't need to go and rescue her. In fact, Allah gave her the option. You don't want this marriage, you want the dunya and Xena, go ahead. You have the option. The Prophet sallallahu sallam said, consult your parents, what did she say? Why do I

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need to consult my parents? I'm happy with this marriage, she chose it. Then she. So we have to remember the context. All right, the society, the time in which the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam lived at that time, it was perfectly normal, right? To have multiple marriages, and to also marry young. This was also normal to marry young, huge age difference between husband and wife. This was also something normal. All right, this was a norm. And in these days, it might not be a norm, but it might exist.

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You know, like, I just gave you the example of that man, he's in his 80s. He's getting engaged to a woman who was 20 plus years younger than him or something. Right? You hear stories of people who are very old and their wives are very young. Right? This is not an attempt to ridicule or to blame. This is just to make it clear that this is something that happens even today. Right? You know, for instance, this female, the singer, Canadian singer, Celine Dion, her husband also passed away recently, such a huge age difference between the two of them. Right? So the fact that huge age difference can exist between man and wife, even today, then yes, it could exist at that time also.

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Right. Another thing we need to keep in mind is that the nine year olds of today, the 12 year olds of today, we're not nine year olds of that time.

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There's a huge difference. All right. In fact, you could go from one society to the other, and you'll see a huge difference between children of the same age. Why? Because life is different context is different.

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Remember, I told you the story of that, you know, when I was in Pakistan, I went to this particular Bazaar, and I saw little children. I remember a four year you know, a child that looked like age four, literally, if not younger, he was running around with a wheelbarrow. It was extremely cold, no shoes, or maybe slippers, you know, not covered properly running around with a wheelbarrow looking for work.

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Can this happen here? No way. You tell your child to hold a wheelbarrow, he would say how?

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What's this thing?

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It's too heavy for me. Right? What happens to our children, their backpacks are too heavy for them. So mom hold everything for me. Right? So the nine year olds of that time were very, very different. Because life was different at that time, people matured earlier, physically matured earlier. And in fact, even today, if you think about it, children as youngest 1012 They can be sexually active. I'm not saying that that is good, that we need to make this common. I'm just saying this is physically possible. And if you were to leave it to those children, and if you ask them, if they have a problem with it, they don't have a problem with it. In fact, they're very happy. This is why it's necessary

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that we have to educate our children in our societies about these things earlier and earlier.

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Isn't it

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so the fact that my

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Yeah, girls, they can have boyfriends. It shows that a girl, even her age can love.

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You know, a partner, you understand?

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You understand my point over here? Don't you hear little girls young girls talking about boys. I was at a park last summer. And I took my children there. And there were these little girls, I think seven,

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maybe eight. They were just talking about boys.

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Just talking about boys. And I was, I didn't know what to do, because I thought the bigger kids were a problem. You know, and I would avoid certain times at the park so that my children don't overhear their conversations. Now even the little kids, even their conversations are dangerous. All right. So I'm just saying that this is possible. It is possible. And if we allow it, you know, outside the bounds of marriage without any responsibility and security, why shouldn't we permit it? With responsibility with security of marriage? Why not? I'm not saying we need to bring this back. And children as young as nine and 10 should be married? No, this is not what I'm saying at all. I'm

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saying if it happened at the time of Rasulullah sallallahu sallam, we should not have a problem with that. somebody raised their hand over there.

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And, and you see, this is a new concept. You know, for example, teenagers. It's like you're giving people a buffer between childhood and adulthood. Right? That you're in no man's land, you're neither a child, nor are you an adult. So both the parties you don't belong to us, you don't belong to us, and what do we do? Who are we? You know what I mean? And then they just never grow up. Because they're never treated as grownups. They're never given responsibility. And that is unfair.

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Right? So we have to, you know, keep in mind all of these things. And I think the most important thing we need to remember is, if they were happily married, we don't need to go rescue them. Seriously, if they were fine with it. Who are we to question and object and have a problem with their marriage? Right, up until so recently, even maybe your grandmother, your great grandmother, maybe your mother, she got married at a very young age? Right? 1516, maybe 14 Maybe, right? This is a norm and in many societies, it's not considered a problem. As long as there is consent, there should be no abuse, definitely something that needs to be remembered. You know, even in the Jewish

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law, okay. The minimum age, the minimum age for marriage for boys, is 13. And for girls is 12. This is minimum age for consummation of marriage, by the way, okay. And the condition, I don't know if I'm pronouncing it correctly, which is Nica. Basically, this can take place before that. And the minimum age of that for girls is six.

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This is according to Talmudic law. All right. So this is something that happened. That doesn't mean we need to make it happen today. But it's something that has its place, and we don't need to have a problem with it.

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As you mentioned that our grandparents, they have been married, you know, at a very young age, like my own holla. Like my mother's eldest sister, she said she was maybe 12 years old when she had her first child. She was four years when she had her first child. And same with my husband's, or is this harder, like her mother's elder sister, she has the same thing. They both got married at the age of 12, or 13, or something. And also for as you know, they just raise fingers on purpose and sometimes marriage. He wasn't the only guy to get married a younger lady at that time exactly what it wasn't. The whole Arab has that. Custom. Exactly. This was something very common at that time. And the

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reason was that people live shorter lives. People live shorter lives because there was no medical care. You know, if somebody even got a fever, that was it, they would die. Many women would lose their lives, you know, and just childbirth. So people live shorter lives. So for them to delay marriage until they were 2025 they're too old them. Yes, go ahead. Salam Alikum. I married in 15. Masha,

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that's why you're so young, Ma sha Allah, and your children are old enough. Then you have such a good relationship with your children, that you can relate with them, they can relate with you. It's fun. Go ahead. And Salam Alaikum most critics don't understand their own history. If you look at the medieval which is we're talking about the European history time when the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam lived 1000 years ago. Them

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Every JH was 12. Yeah, exactly. So the context is completely misplaced. Exactly. Yes. So Dominica. So just expand on the sisters point, I'm a history student in more specifically a history of religions. And every class that I've taken the first thing, the professor's they mentioned, or they teach us is, you can't isolate history. And think of it. From the point of view, from our perspective, you have to take history from the context that it's coming from. And the norms that they have are completely different from what we understand as normal today. And there's this thing that I always hear that saying is that what's normal for a spider is a catastrophe for the fly. So

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interesting. Yeah. That's very true. Yeah. Another point about the marriages of young when you're young, my grandmother, she tells us a story that when she got married, the first question she asked my granddad was, if he wanted to play dolls,

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on the day of her marriage, SubhanAllah.

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Okay, don't misunderstand this conversation. I'm not saying we're not promoting child marriage over here. Okay. Because, like we discussed, children are different now. They are different now. Right, they need more time to grow into mature. And there is definitely a lot of abuse out there in this world. So each person needs to be careful. But like it was mentioned earlier, that you have to understand history in its context, and not criticize it just because we find it strange, right? It was normal for them. It may not be normal for us, if it was fine for them. Good for them. Right? I mean, this is something basic, okay, this kind of tolerance, we should always have something basic.

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You know, you might like your coffee with cream and sugar.

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And you see a person who doesn't even take a drop of cream in their coffee.

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Alright, and they don't even have any sugar in their coffee, black coffee, bitter coffee. That's how they like it. And you cannot understand how could you drink that even?

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How could you drink that even? Right? You see people eating different foods, and you cannot understand how could you even eat that food? There is a particular kind of a lizard. Okay, that was once caught, and it was cooked. And it was offered to the Prophet salallahu Salam? And he said, No, he refused. He didn't like it. And he was asked is this haram? And he said, No, he just didn't like it. Right? So what's normal for one person may not be normal for another person of the same family even.

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Right, then, of course, there will be difference between what is normal for us and what was normal for people 1400 years ago. So we shouldn't present their norms as catastrophes today. We shouldn't criticize them for what we find strange, This is injustice. This is really not fair.

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Okay. So after making clear about the multiple marriages of the Prophet salallahu Salam now further concessions are made for Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa salam because it's evident that his marriages were for a particular reason it was not due to personal reason. So Allah has probably thought as has through G you may put aside 30 from Elijah Rajim well and Elijah is to defer to delay okay. So you may delay mentor shall whomever you will min Hoonah from them from who from your wives meaning you may you will have the allowance to not even have any relation physical relation with your wives.

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What do we do we Hamza Well, yeah.

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How are you we to accommodate right to bring close and this is, you know, an indirect way of saying that you may have physical relation ileka to yourself, Man, Tasha, whomever you will. So basically, over here, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was not obligated to give each wife her share of conjugal ality right conjugal relations, marital relations between husband and wife. This is something that comes in the matter of variety of obligations. Now, this is why when it comes to marriage, we talk about the rights of the husband, the rights of the wife, the responsibilities of the husband, the responsibilities of the wife, right? So this makes it clear that the Prophet

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sallallahu sallam was not obligated to give each wife her share of conjugal ality Allah subhanaw taala made this allowance for him. Why? Because he had a very important role to play.

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You know, being just between two people is a big issue.

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All right, nine wives, it would be extremely difficult for the Prophet salallahu salam to be 100% fair with all his wives. So Allah subhanaw taala made a concession for him here, why man and whoever EBITA later you sought me man from who as delta, you kept away you separated, Fela Junior High Laker, then there is no blame upon you. Meaning, if you were to have relations with the one whom you have previously avoided, meaning if for after a very long time, if the profits on a lot of sudden word to return to his wife, then this is something that was also permissible for him. valleca That is right, Adena it is closer meaning it's more suitable. Instead of divorce. It's better that they

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stay in marriage with you. And even if there is no physical relation, still, if they remain in marriage with you, that is better. Why? Because other now it is closer undercover or you know hon, that it would cool their eyes for them to know that the prophets of Allah Islam is their husband even that is a big deal. And they're happy with that they'd rather stay married to you than ensure that they get all their rights when I ask them now, and they won't grieve. They won't grieve them. Why are they gonna and they will be pleased be Mao with that which Taita Hana, you gave them Kelowna, all of them.

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Meaning this would be easier for the wives of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa salam, what would be easier for them to know that the Prophet salallahu Salam is not obligated? The way an ordinary man is obligated?

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Right? Because if, let's say a wife of the Prophet salallahu alayhi wa sallam, if she didn't see the Prophet sallallahu Sallam for a long time, for instance, that never happened. But if that was the case, then she would note that he's not doing this out of his own will. This is because of his work. And Allah is the One who has given him this allowance. Well, Allahu Jana, and Allah knows mafia Kullu become that which is in your hearts. What can Allah who aren't even Halima and Allah is Knowing, and he is tolerant. So here the Prophet salallahu Salam has given the freedom to approach his wives or not to have relations with them or not to be just and fair in this regard or not. Allah

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subhanaw taala gave him this choice. And the reason why is because he had to marry all these women at the command of Allah. So the prophets of Allah Salam, he had an obligation like no other. So his burden was also lightened for him.

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And remember, the purpose of the marriages of the prophets of Allah setting was not to fulfill marital needs anyway. It was a part of achieving his mission. All right. Now when it comes to believers in general, in the Quran, Allah subhanaw taala says, well, and test the theory and 30 lubaina Nyssa Walo huddlestone, you are not able to be equal to all your wives, even if you try your best. This is an obligation upon men that if a man has more than one wife, he must be just unfair. Right? Treat them both equally, in the same way. But Allah subhanaw taala himself says that it's not possible for you to be 100% fair and equal. Right? So since the Prophet sallallahu Sallam had, you

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know, the his situation was exceptional, Allah subhanaw taala gave him greater freedom.

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But what did the Prophet salallahu Salam actually do?

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What did he do? Was he fair to his wives? Yes, so fair to his wives, that each wife had her own special time with the profits on aloneness alone, not

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once a week, the profits on a lot of salami he went and saw each one of them every single day. Every single day, he went and saw each one of them. Allah lifted the burden from him. But the prophets are allowed to southern was such a noble companion. He was such a dignified man, that he did his best to be fair with his wives.

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He recorded that I showed the low on her. She said, the Messenger of Allah salAllahu Salam used to divide his time between his wives fairly. And he treated them equally.

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Who's saying this?

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I shuttled the law on her is saying this. She is testifying to His justice to his fairness even though Allah allowed him that you have the permission to not be fair, but still the profits on a lot of salami

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He did his best. What an amazing man.

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You know, this should make us appreciate the profits on a lot of send him even more what kind of strength, mental strength, emotional strength, he was given that he was able to keep nine wives happy at a time. Miracle. This is really a miracle. He was able to give each one her right. This is a miracle.

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And we see that end of the life of the prophet Sallallahu Sallam when he became increasingly sick. And his sickness was not going away. He asked his wives if he could stay in the house of I should have the lawn because what was his routine? What was his routine? He would have to switch. Right? But towards the end of his life, he requested he took their permission. And they all allowed him they said yes, until you're better. You stayed I should have blue on his house. He didn't he didn't need to take permission, did he? According to this idea, did he have to take permission? He didn't. But still he did. Because he was a man who was concerned about the feelings of people. And this is

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something that we need to remember also, because many times when it comes two rights and obligations, we say those my right? You know what, this is this person's responsibility. So I don't care about their feelings. I'm concerned about my rights. Right? That's fine. You have the right to demand your rights, but be considerate of the feelings of others also, if the Prophet sallallahu sallam was, we should also be Allah subhanaw taala says lay your hand No, it is not permissible laka for you Anessa

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the women meaning after this point,

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it is not permissible for you to marry any other women men Bardo after meaning after these nine no more marriages. All right. Well, Nora meaning it is also not permissible on that the but della be hinda the bad data that you take in exchange the bad the law to leave one thing and take another in its place. So you're not even allowed to the bad data that you exchanged between now with that meaning with your current wives, men as wedge of other wives, meaning you cannot even divorce any of your current wives and then marry somebody else in her place. No, wallow our agenda. Even if it impressed you her snow another beauty in that except momella Katya Minogue that Witcher right hand

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possesses meaning that is permissible. What can Allah Who And Allah is Ever Allah Ko? Leisha era Kiba over everything, he is an observer. Now, what does this ayah show that the Prophet sallallahu Sallam after these nine wives no more marriages for him? And it wasn't even about the number nine. All right, that for other believers it was for and for him. It was nine No, what was it? He had to marry these women in particular? Because he wasn't even allowed to divorce them now. You understand? What this is doing this? It's prohibiting the profits on a lot, isn't it from divorcing any of his wives he wasn't allowed to divorce I shoulda Lauren, he wasn't allowed to divorce Zayn over the long

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run, how because Allah is saying, you cannot marry anymore. And you cannot even take anyone else in place of these women. So this idea is further proof of the fact that the Prophet sallallahu sallam was to marry these particular women for the particular reasons that were involved in their situation. Right? There wasn't that his limit was more. It was because of those particular women that he was to marry. It wasn't the number of women, it was the women who were chosen to be his wives.

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And you see over here, what's mentioned that you can't marry anybody else, even if their beauty impressed you. Okay? Do we think over here that the Prophet said a lot of them, you know, he was impressed by somebody's beauty and you wanted to marry that woman? What this means is that at no cost, for no reason, can you leave your current wives for no reason?

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And the prophets of Allah Islam did not. And the prophets that Allah is and and passed away, he left behind all of these wives. Right, they were his wives until his death.

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And in the hereafter also, they will be his wives, because they chose him. Allah chose them. And Allah subhanaw taala rewarded them for their son for their commitment, and the Prophet sallallahu Sallam also

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Allah lightened the burden for him but he did Ersan also and in this is a beautiful example for us that even though some allowances may be there for us exceptions may be there for us our job is to do our sand to the best of our ability that's the essence of recitation yeah

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