Taimiyyah Zubair – Taleem al Quran 2012 – P21 213C Tafsir Luqman 18-19

Taimiyyah Zubair
AI: Summary © The speakers emphasize the importance of being humble and considerate when discussing one's actions and accomplishments, as it is crucial for personal success. They also stress the need for moderation, including being mindful of one's voice and not being too loud. The speakers stress the importance of learning and setting boundaries, and emphasize the need for clear understanding of the context of one's speech. The speakers also mention the use of "unturn" in walking and the importance of knowing the context of one's speech.
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Wallah and do not do sorry. You turn HUD Decker, your cheek Lin NASCI for the people

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do not turn your cheek towards the people. What does it mean by this to sorry from the letters saw during ra saw and soccer basically is a kind of disease that camels get, okay? Which stiffens their neck, and when their neck is stiff,

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that means they're not turning it. You understand? So the whole neck is stiff. They're not going to turn right they're not going to turn left. This is what sorry, is literally and found this. The sort of the hud hud is cheek.

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It's too stiff and once cheek meaning to show someone your cheek not face them not look at them with your eyes, but always keep your side towards them. He says lead to sorry, the colonists do not turn your cheek towards people. Meaning in contempt in pride in arrogance. Rather, face people. Look at them. Talk to them, hear them, listen to them, no matter how angry you are. Because what happens is that when we're upset, what do we do generally? I'm upset with you. Right? Well, we'll turn our face away. Have you seen little children doing that? I'm not your friend. You know and turn the face away. So this is the sorry, the colonists don't show your cheek to people. This is not polite. Well

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at them she and do not walk them she means Shinya. Fill all the in the earth Marwaha exultantly what is more FTL you know, to think highly of oneself. And when a person is thinking very highly of themselves that have chosen their walk. So don't walk in a proud way.

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Rather, how should you walk Honan gently in a humble way, in Allaha indeed Allah lay your Hibou he does not like color every Matalan for whose

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self deluded and boastful individual Allah does not like Look man doesn't say to his son, I don't like this. Look, man doesn't say people don't like it. Look, man says Allah does not like such an individual. Again, what is he instilling over here? Morava Be careful, Allah is watching you. Be mindful of Allah.

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The two words that are mentioned here, Allah does not like McDowell. And he does not like for her who is McDowell, McDowell. Self deluded, self conceited from FTL ha yeah, love FTL is arrogance or pride that is based on some greatness or superiority that a person thinks he has because it's wrong. Which is to think, right, so person thinks that Oh, I look the best. Oh, I am the best. I'm the most smart over here. I'm the most intelligent one. You know, I can read the best I can draw the best I can paint the best I can run the best I can play this game the best. Whereas in reality is not actually like that. So McDowell, self conceited. In an imaginary world, a person thinks himself is

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very great. So what happens is that more than you know this arrogance, it is reflected in the actions in one's manners in his body language. Allah does not like McDowell, and he doesn't like for whom Who is for whom? boastful fow ha Ra.

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You remember the word for hot?

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For Hot? The clay of pottery.

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Okay, have you ever seen a bowl or a dish or a vessel that is made of mud?

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Maybe you've made it yourself also, what happens when you touch it when you knock on it doesn't make a sound it does right. This is what the whole person is

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that they make noise about who themselves

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I am this I am that I have done this I have done that. I can do this. I can do that.

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So for who boastful, meaning someone who through his speech shows off is arrogant. More Thal is how through one's actions manner, body language for whom it is through one's words through one speech. And what's the objective over here to make sure that you're being given importance, trying to gain attention. Allah does not like such people. So don't walk arrogantly and do not deal with people arrogantly. So how should you treat people in the best manner? What is he doing over here he's warning his son against

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against arrogance, the Prophet sallallahu Ariosa

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Salam said, Allah has revealed to me that you must be humble. You must be humble, so that no one oppresses another and no one boasts over another.

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No person should boast over another.

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You know, sometimes it happens in a very subtle way. Like, for example, if somebody tells you, I was up to one o'clock during my assignment, and you're like, Yeah, you think you're some big shot, I was up to two o'clock. There you go.

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You understand? This is what? For hoof

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trying to display one's sacrifices and one's accomplishments and one's you know, abilities and one's achievements. Why

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Allah does not like such an individual. And if we remember this, ALLAH does not like, then we wouldn't care about how we look in front of people.

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Santa Monica, it's amazing how relevant this iced was these days, because Allah is telling us to be humble. And these days with social networking, our whole society is based on a self praise, right selfies, you know, you go to the top of the CN Tower, take a picture of you at the top of the CN Tower, or whatever else there is, it's all about me, me, me showing off and all that. So, you know, at those moments, when you're really tempted to show off and you post a picture or post something online, you we should think about this is, you know, be more humble.

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I mean, unless there is a certain reason to tell people that, you know, I was here doing something I was here, worshipping Allah subhanaw taala. Remember, I remembered you in my drawers, you know, things like that that's different. Or you want to share with your family that's different, but taking note of every single, you know, big or small accomplishment, what's the point of that? So, Allah does not like such individuals who are constantly boasting. interatrial Arafa 13. We learn about Iblees that how and he said, I am better than

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Adam. I'm not going to do such the over here. Allah said Allah, fabulous minha familia Kuno laka Anta Kabbalah for Raj in Kameena solidi

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You have no right to be arrogant over here. Get out of here. You are those who are made small, you have no honor. No worth, you are those who are debased and this is a reality. Those who tried to exalt themselves, Allah brings them down, but those who humble themselves that Allah who raises them

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in total Israel is 37. The same thing as mentioned what atom she filled all the MaHA do not walk up on the earth exultantly in NACA Lanta helical orba wala Wallen Tableau algebra, Allah Tala. Indeed, you will never tear the earth apart. And you will never reach the mountains in height.

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Because what happens is, you know, multiple, it's from hail. Also hail is horse, right? So horses, when they walk, there's a certain kind of pride in their confidence in their walk. You know, next trade high up. So sometimes what happens is that when we're thinking too much about ourselves, it comes in our walk even.

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So on the one hand, Look, man, Hakeem is telling his son about certain good habits that he must develop like salah, like a marble, maruf nihira, mancha like suburb over here, he's telling his son about what he shouldn't do, there are do's and there are don'ts. And this is how good character is good qualities that must be adopted, and bad qualities that must be abandoned. Works with he says be moderate of solid that costs and what does cost mean? To proceed straight away? Fast is basically your intention. And your goal. This is what cost literally means. And then from this possible is to proceed straight away, where to your goal without going right without going left.

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Now, does it ever happen with you that you, let's say in the grocery store, right? And you say okay, straight to the cash. But then as you're walking, and I call, what's this in this aisle turn left? When we go back, you will back towards the cache. But then what happens? You see something else on the right. So what happened? You didn't go straight? You got distracted, you went right, you went left? All right. So from this, the word cost is also used for moderation. Being moderate, being balanced, not going to extremes, not going right, not going left, staying in the middle, meaning doing what you're supposed to do, being free of any extremism. So walk said fie. machinic He's

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saying be moderate in what? In your walk in the way that you walk, meaning don't be too fast, and don't be too slow. Rather, you should

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could walk peacefully and in a dignified way with dignity, walks at FEMA shake, while both and lower line Bob. But remember, love, don't bizarre lowering of the gaze, but rather is also lowering of the voice. So lower your voice,

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walk and talk to things are being described over here in your walk, be moderate in your talk, be humble. Wildmon so thick and walk Goodman, something especially means don't be too loud, do not talk in full volume all the time. Your volume should be just enough so that the other person can hear you.

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And I heard someone recently that raising your voice if it was really a blessing, and Allah would not have given it to the donkeys, meaning if it's really a good thing, then it wouldn't have been given to donkeys.

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This doesn't mean that we must never raise our voice. There are times there are situations in which voice has to be raised. Like for example of a person who's giving DHEA then if a person is talking to a whole lot of people, there's no microphone. It's necessary. You have to raise your voice. But when you're angry, and the person that you're angry with is sitting right in front of you, is there any point of raising your voice and hurting your ears? Is there no

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if we get frazzled if we get upset, and the person is standing right next to us sitting right behind us and we don't like the fact that they're constantly giving us directions go right go left change your lane, speed up slow down, give the indicator we don't like it because they're being literally backseat driver. So you don't need to turn around and yell at them. We don't need to raise our voice all the time.

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All dogman Celtic lower your voice and look man says in uncurl ASWAT indeed the worst of all sounds is with sound law. So to Hamid surely it is the sound of the donkey and cow known kufra what is mancha wrong? That which is detested that which is to be left? So uncurl is what the most irritating sound.

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The most annoying sound the most uncivilized, wild and disgusting and hideous and loathsome. voice sound is that of a donkey?

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Because the voice the sound of the donkey, the braying of a donkey. It's really not pleasing. It's not beautiful.

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You understand? I mean, if the birds are chirping, okay, or, you know, even if goats and cows are moving and whatever, they're making their sounds, there's some cuteness to it.

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But a donkey

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will see us seriously, what is it? It says loud and it doesn't have any beauty in it. You know, even a mole has some kind of beauty in it. But the sound of the donkey, it doesn't have any beauty in it. It's just pure, annoying. That's what it is. Now for a donkey. This the voice of the donkey is fine because it's a donkey.

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But for human beings, the sound of the donkey is not okay. It's not befitting, you understand? And the donkeys sound the sound of Hamid, how is it? It's low and then high and then low and then high and then low and then high? This is how it is there's a lot of inhaling and exhaling, can you get a video or something out so let them hear the sound of the donkey?

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Because maybe you've never seen a donkey. You should know because Allah subhanaw taala mentions it in the Quran. And the thing is that when we are yelling in anger,

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then it's like we have to stop to catch our breath and then continue again. And then stop and then continue again and then raise our voice and then lower it and then we're tired. So that's why we lowered our voice again. Allah does not like it in uncurl, Swati De Soto homies

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let me know when you're ready. Okay. Is it ready?

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Was it pleasing?

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So sometimes when we're angry and we're yelling, we need to stop and hear ourselves. Really we should.

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Yes, that the raising of the voice is not just in times of anger, but also in times of happiness in times of pleasure that sometimes we're laughing so loud that we could sound like that.

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We could.

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So controlling the voice in general.

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We don't need to raise it all the time. In the uncut Allah Swati la Soto Hamid

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it says if he's telling his son, or my son, don't be like a donkey. Don't

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talk like a donkey. Don't raise your voice like a donkey.

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You see, walk and talk are mentioned together? Because walk and talk, what do they show our character?

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Isn't it. And if you think about it, when we want something when we need something, either we walk towards it, we use our mushy, or we use our salt our voice, to tell somebody to bring it or to call them if it's a person. Right? So whenever we're trying to do anything, our manner, our style, how should it be moderate, free from extremism, not to slow that we're like almost dead and we have no life and no energy. Nor should we be so aggressive that we are almost annoying and hurtful to others.

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The prophets have a lot of slums behavior among his companions. How was it? It was described as the Prophet sallallahu sallam was always cheerful, easy, mannered, lenient. He was not rough, noisy, vulgar, insulting, or stingy.

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He used to overlook what he disliked without depriving others of hope, or answering them negatively. He refrained from disputation.

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He spared others from three things. He never censured them. He never found fault with them, nor did he spy on them. He spoke only what he hoped would be rewarded. When he spoke, his listeners lowered their head quietly. And when he was silent, they spoke. They never spoke haphazardly in front of him. If one talked in his presence, they listened to him until he was finished. He used to laugh and wonder at what they laughed or wonder that the prophets of Allah listen would also laugh. He was patient with strangers who were rude in both their talks and their requests. And there are so many instances that we can think of over here how the Prophet sallallahu sallam was like this, the

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description that is given over here, so walk and talk be moderate, and this shows to us that moderation is needed in everything. What is cost between extremism, right one extreme is MOBA, to overdo something. And the other extreme is to accede to shorten it to not give it its due, right.

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So moderation, in both in walk, talk and in everything in general in one's life. The Prophet sallallahu sallam said, when you hear the calling of roosters ask for Allah's blessing, for they have seen an angel and when you hear the braying of donkeys, then seek refuge with Allah from shaitan. For they have seen a che upon. And sometimes when a person is yelling like a donkey,

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and sometimes it's us, then we need to seek refuge with Allah because who is it that's making us angry and lose control over ourselves? Who is it? It's Shavon so first started Billa seek refuge with Allah the Exalted recitation

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wala 200 Kelin mercy, what does she feel of the mother in law her Allah your book

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will also be the fee machico meal

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Gabon, us, Latino, photoreal. hammy,

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anything you'd like to say before we continue? Yes. So sometimes we think that hijab is just covering the head, let the sister mentioned, you know, a laughter, the way you speak, especially when there's a gathering of men and woman, we have to watch work, the way we speak, the way we conduct ourselves, especially the laughter of, you know, the woman, sometimes it's so loud, just kind of attracts attention. Sometimes even when as girls as we're sitting even in that we kind of get out of control. I mean, if you look at all the things that are mentioned over here, what kind of personality is Luqman developing in his child? A very balanced, calm, responsible individual. Right?

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Who has the sense of identity? I have my rules. What is right is right, what is wrong is wrong. I have to pray. Right? I will be patient over anything that hurts me that annoys me.

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Right? Responsibility and then overall, well mannered person who watches their walk, their talk, their anger, their laughter, everything.

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So I didn't notice that I was reading so loudly or here and sitting. My son came from the men's section and he said, Oh, you're so loud. You shouldn't really sir

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I mean, sometimes it could be our recitation of the Quran also that if it's too loud, that first of all, we're hurting our throats. And so we can't read beyond a page or two. And then secondly, other people are getting disturbed. They can't do anything.

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I think one of the greatest thing that has been shown is how I look man is giving advice to his son, and for parents to be modeling it. Yes. While they're doing it, because the children are the one. So it's not what you say, but what you do, and the setup that they have, if they have created those boundaries, where and set the examples where everybody know their limits, then it's easier for the children to follow. Yes, exactly. Okay, for bringing that up. And we see that respect and love in the speech of Laquan. Right, in how he is talking to his child. Yeah. Bucha. Yeah. And one more thing that I noticed is the words of look, man to his son, how many are there? I mean, how many

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verses are there? How many rules does he give to his son?

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How much information is he giving to his child?

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Not a lot.

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Right? Just a few

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You also see that every time he gives an advice, he gives the reason the logic behind it, which is something that parents should always keep in mind, because a lot of times the you know, their parents are like, Oh, don't do this, don't do this. And children grow up thinking, you know, why? Why shouldn't I do it? Like, even when he tells his son to, you know, speak, not sound like you know, lower his voice, he tells him, he gives him the example of a donkey. Yes, when he's teaching him about Allah subhanaw taala, or about Morocco about consciousness, he gives him an example, when he teaches him about salah, Orban, Mooroopna here and Mocha, he tells him this is all the matters,

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which you have to stick to you have to abide by in Nevada and Arizona LUMO. They require determination, but you have to be determined because Allah is the one who's ordered. So for everything, there is some explanation, there is some reason there's some benefit, or things that he's forbidding him from, there's the harm that's mentioned over there. Whenever we become arrogant or like exceed our bounds, Allah always puts us back in our place, like immediately through something or another. So the other day, I was, I went out and I bought something, and I was feeling good about it. And I was like, walking to the bus stop all happy and stuff. And then leaning against

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this, like telephone pole or whatever. I'll like proud stuff. And then immediately I feel something dropped on my head. And then I touch it.

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Why did you touch it with a piece of paper.

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And it was a bird poo. And then I was like a steal from Allah that this is what I get for being like overly happy for something so small, you know, thing is that you know, happiness, this joy is very natural, you get something you feel happy, but you have to channel it in the right direction. You have to turn it into gratitude instead of arrogance.

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Salam Alikum. I think what has also struck me here is in a world where we are called extremists. That's a word that is actually really used a lot to describe people who actually follow Islam. We're just being told no, actually moderate the word in the Quran is we are people of moderation, moderate, that's moderation is what we're taught cost, right?

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All of the instructions or the advice that Laquan gives to his son, I want you to do this homework. Okay. Write it down. So for example, led to Shrek Billa. Okay. And then next to that, you know, make two columns, basically. And the second column should be why. So what's the reason? And what's the reason over here? Battleship? Billa. Why in the Shilka lagoon Monaldi we'll do it together right now, but you have to do it in writing. Okay, so for the first one is Lautrec Billa. Because in the Shilka

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lovol Monaldi. All right, the next is the commands that he's giving. So, aka ms salata. What more will Morrow roofie when Harun al mon Curry was better Allameh or sabak Why?

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Why in the valley come in as mill OMOs the next is led to the colonists. Let them shuffle out the Mara ha. Why, in Allaha lair have bucola MacFarlane for hold. The next is works at FEMA shake Waldman, Celtic, why? Because in the uncurl, Swati la SOTA, honey, so this is one homework. The second homework is

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share these verses or the content of these verses, the do's and the don'ts with a child

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Whether it's your own child, or somebody else's child, your sister, your brother, a child, okay? I'm not going to give an age over here. Because children are children. Okay? whoever you think is a child, go ahead and tell them about this. And also take their feedback, what do they have to say? So for example, you were telling them about your you're explaining it, take note of the challenges you're facing in explaining this to them. And secondly, what are their questions or what are their comments or what are their reflections on it? Okay, so these two homeworks first of all, write these down and secondly, you have to tell somebody about tell a child about it. Okay, in sha Allah, a

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satanic alone will be handed a shadow Allah ilaha illa Anta, a stuffy rucola to relate a Salam or Aleikum Warahmatullah wabarakatuh

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