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Bismillah Alhamdulillah wa salatu salam ala rasulillah. We start by praising Allah subhanho wa Taala and he's going Peace and blessings upon the Beloved Prophet Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam,
and all those who follow in his righteous footsteps until the Day of Judgment is established, and none has knowledge of that day. Allah subhana wa Tada.
Right, welcome back to the voice of Islam platform with myself and shake below Philip, all the way from Addis Ababa is the I'm the founder of the International Open University. And it used to be of course, the Islamic
online. University. Is it check? I Oh, you used to be?
Yeah, it's the international Open University.
As in behind me here. Yeah.
It was called Islamic online university. Yeah. And we we shifted once our courses, which were not pure Islamic exceeded the number of courses which were Islamic. So yeah. so as to avoid confusion. We call it
Yeah, good. So, Lucky locker shake for joining us. Once again, of course, we've been doing the last two weeks, the Seven Habits of truly successful people. The Seven Habits of truly successful people is something which is based on a book that you want read by Stephen Covey, Seven Habits of successful people. And then you had taken it and said, Well, how can a person be truly successful, and that is that these are the seven points we're just about to go through. So maybe you'd like to just go through them very quickly shake. And then by the way, brothers and sisters, this is your opportunity, the one you've been waiting for, to ask questions on the topic of seven habits of truly
successful people. We've got some questions from last week from the New Zealand platform for shake the love, but we're asking you guys to post your questions on the topic. So first of all, shake if you'd like to smell that review, the seven points.
inshallah. Hamza was Salam ala rasulillah. Oh, please do to align your last piece of lessons beyond the last messenger of Allah. as you rightly said, the title of the Seven Habits of truly successful people, was taken from Stephen Covey's work on motivational work on how to be successful. But his focus was, as he called it, the Seven Habits of Highly Effective People, which he deduced from
looking at people who are financially successful, because that was the measure five minutes who are the billionaires, now the multi billionaires, multimillionaires and what were their characteristic included among them is Trump.
oh, even though you could have your billions but you know, if you've got a
people and all these other things, you know, this is not real test. You're not
just a big cheat. But
we said was what's most important to us as
Is the ultimate success that any Muslim can strive for what is above everything else, and it is Jenna. So truly successful are those who make it two gentlemen
And then, okay, those people already agenda, we can't really
try to deduce from them what were the characteristics, but Alhamdulillah
he identified a number of them, there are 10 famous ones. And the
numbers, who he said would be among the people of paradise. So we understand that this designation by Prophet Muhammad Sallallahu Sallam was not something random.
He liked this
onion spirit. So is it okay here amongst the people of Paradise, and another one is dressed nicely, so he likes the way he dresses, so he's going to be among the people. That
wasn't random personal decisions on the part of the Prophet saws, Allah. This was revelation, which came to him from a law supanova, tada through angel, Gabriel. And on the basis of that he designated who knows whom Allah designated as lessons for us. It wasn't just a matter of, you know,
the top or on a list.
You know, pick a prize, whatever.
And that's it.
No, because there was something special about them that they were doing something which Muslims need to do.
Because they're not superhuman. They were not doing what not be done by others. But they were doing the right things. And in order to emphasize the importance of those, right, Allah revealed to Prophet Muhammad wa sallam
about his own compassion means those who would be among the people of God. So this was the the
purpose or reason for death, these habits, and of course,
Heaven is just a number. Yes, there are seven days in the week,
you know, and there are seven heavens and seven hills. And there are a number of other sevens. But
we just chose this for convenience, not revelation, the seven is not revelation.
So the first habit, which we've focused on, was the knowledge habit, seeking knowledge, in order to correct one's beliefs and understandings. Because, as we said, Get into paradise requires knowledge of a law,
knowledge of the Messenger of Allah and knowledge of the deen of Allah. So we looked at companions who had these characteristics, and among those that we mentioned, you know, where those who converted to Islam, you know, like the Jewish rabbi,
who converted and process and and spoke about him as being among the people of paradise. We spoke about Omar Abdullah hottub, also, about being among those people, because of the fact that
he had been blessed with a number of factors, which we consider to be
that couldn't be revealed,
in accordance with his opinion, when he himself and the prophet SAW Salem and Abu Bakr and others discussed matters. You know, when, when all Martin no hot top would advise the prophets I send them it's not whenever
certain occasions when he did advice
and opinions of others were taken, and revelation came, it came in on a number of occasions in these according to the opinion of Omar
and we talked about the dream the process, I love it.
He was given milk and he drank it. And
he gave him the hallmarks, and was asked about what does this mean?
Lm said, knowledge. So we understand from that. And of course, this is key in terms of the realities. We know that when the process, Alam informed us
that whoever believes in the law in the last day, man holla, nine, Allah, Allah genda, will enter Paradise, right? You know, whoever states Lyla and a lava to understand from that, that it's not just a statement. But having understood that statement, you know, because without the knowledge of it, the ritual statement of like, a lot, it's not going to get anyone anywhere.
So that was our first habit, our second habit was that of
or committing ourselves
to the leaf, because not enough for us to academically believe. Because Satan academically believed, he know, knew who Allah was, he knew that he was one, he knew that he was the only one to be worshipped, etc, etc. He knew all of that, and he knew that he was supposed to obey Him, as the other angels did. But yet, when they were commanded to
obey, he didn't, because that commitment was not a commitment from the bottom of his heart. This is the bottom line, that if that commitment is not real, because when we talk about the bottom of the heart, talking about it being
Foundation, gentle with us, that we have that real belief is going to cause and create emotional responses from our limbs. You know, and among those emotional responses that the boss ourselves spoke about, was that of crying.
You know, in other narrations, he talked about one, you know,
here's comes to them, when they remember, a lot of tears comes ties, you know, and we talked about the companions who are known for crying in the prayers, etc, like a walker. And
that was the emotional commitment. And it is also expressed in the statement that Ross Allah made, you know, that none of us truly believed, until I become more beloved to him or her than anything in this world. Similarly, belief in a law, connected to that belief in a law is that we also love a law, more than anything in this world. So loving both Allah and His Messenger, more than anything in this world, is a essential principle of the faith. That is the emotional commitment, because that's what love is about love is an emotion.
It's translated into actions, but it is fundamentally an emotion.
The third habit was that of having complete trust in the law, having complete trust in the law, there are so many verses, of course in the Quran, where Allah speaks about the believers having complete trust in Allah, Allah lahi failure to lock it in with the law kill him to walk alone, those
the word was going to be interesting, they should try to analyze a lot of us. So the end, you know, he talked about the example of some of the companions, you know, who demonstrated that, you know, when he asked, you know, who will
guarantee me that they won't ask anybody for anything, and I will guarantee him paradise. We
knew of the companion who,
who said that he would, and he didn't ask anybody for anything, as far as we know, from that point onward.
And of course, it's not to say that that's what we all have to do in order to be among the madore chiune those who trust in Allah put our full trust in the law, but practically speaking, it comes out of our practice our daily lives. If we trust in a light is clear, it will be clear
If we don't trust in a law, that will also be clear to
in, in doubt, constantly in depression, constantly
fearing this and fearing that.
So this is a key factor, which the process and I'm identified. And the examples, we have already No need to repeat it, those who would like to see the examples from the companions, they can go to the recording, which has been saved on my Facebook page as well as on the force of Islam safe Facebook page and in other locations in like YouTube, etc.
The fifth habit, or sorry,
the fourth habit is that of patience, and patient, perseverance to be patient. And there's so many verses in the grind where a lot of spandana you know, describes the patient as being those who are inserted as being those who would inherit paradise. You know, what, like the first one so in Baccarat, last spoke about Blender blender, combi shaman, and hopefully we'll do that I'll test you and try you in this world etc, with with your welfare, your, your lives, your everything. And in the end, he said, production is slavery.
So give glad tidings to those who are patient. And patients, of course, is an expression of trust in the law. Actually, all of these are inter related. Because if you don't have the knowledge of the law, also, you will not understand how to trust the law. And furthermore, if you're not trusting Allah, you will not be able to be patient.
So, and then the examples that are given, you know, from the companions of the Prophet SAW, Selim, as we said, can be found in our recorded sessions from previous on to habit number five, that is striving for modesty. You know,
we looked at the fact that the process element said that, you know, modesty is from the dean, you don't have modesty, you don't have Dede, it comes down to comes down to that. And the significance of modesty, of course, today is
huge, you know, society has gone so far from modesty, that we can see that the characteristic basic characteristic of Western society, which now dominates the world is immodesty, you know,
what is in the airwaves in the
internet, you know, in the books and the magazines and the movies and whatever it is, you know, filled with immodesty.
And that is the consequence of a society that has drifted away from God.
I mean, all you have to do is go back to the beginning of the first of the 19th century. And,
or, sorry, the beginning of the 20th century. And you look even at that time, I remember seeing some pictures in in from New York from the Coney Island beach out there in New York big major place of for families to go and swim etc. And they showed pictures of the families in their swimming gear, men and women covered right up from their, from their ankles, to their necks, and the heads of the women. You know, the men, you know, completely covered.
you know, diving suits, you know, whether, of course, looser, but that was the
beginning of the 20th century.
How the 21st century, you go there, you know, it's our Billa you know, a Muslim cannot go there.
And, and be proud of his deed.
You have to find some other location to
enjoy this type of recreation, swimming, etc. You know,
Which is far away from modern society.
And the seventh habit,
or sorry, the sixth habit, was to be content with destiny, to be contented with destiny, that what allies decided for you, you know, are you satisfied with, I suppose, I said, I'm told us don't look to those above you, because you'll never find contentment
with what Allah has destined for you. But look to those below you. And you realize in gratitude to Allah, Allah, you'll find out of that gratitude, contentment with your destiny.
And the seventh habit was the sacrifice, that we sacrifice, our wealth, our families, our lives, for the sake of the deen. And the process lm gave us
explanations with regards to the various forms of sacrifice.
Where people do so voluntarily, as well as where people lose their lives
without choice, but
if one accepts it patiently, then one is accepted into the halls of the marchers, you know that people who drown people who have buildings crumble and fall on top of them, all these people who in the course of this, which happened to them, they maintain their faith, they didn't give up their faith in God, curse God, or whatever else that may happen. For those who don't have proper faith,
they maintain their faith and so ally accepts them amongst the ranks of the marches. So
those are the seven groups that we spoke about groups of people,
who would inherit paradise, and they are for a Muslim, the truly successful people, they are the people who should be our ideals, and we should find ideals from among them, and our family should know them, they should be familiar with them, we should name our children
from among those who made that kind of sacrifice. So when our children ask us, for my name, you know, who is who is this, and you will be able to tell them what was such and such a companion of the prophets of Allah, who did this did that did the other and the law promised in paradise through Prophet Muhammad Sallallahu sallam, they should be the idea to should take from all of these groups. And there are others. This is not remember I said in the beginning, it's not limited to seven. from them, we should have these people No, you know, no one examples, we should tell these stories to our family, our family members,
about these people, and have them
enshrined within our homes, you know, whether you write out that story, and you put it up on the wall, and this is something worth putting on the wall. And some of us were putting it of course, you know, these other things. But in Arabic, we don't even understand what it's saying, which is so small, we can't even read it. You know, that's useless. But putting something on the wall, which when you look at it, and you read it and understand something from it, or you notice pictorial it represents something which is inspiring and stomach Lee, etc. This is what we need to put in our homes by ecological. And with that, I'll turn it over to you all.
Just shake Bella and audience. So that's been having real problems. You've got better connection in Africa than I do in the UK. That says a lot
for the state of play. There we go. What do you think shake should all move to Africa, right.
Well, I'm moving to Turkey.
Are you moving to Turkey now?
Well, yeah, thinking about very seriously. Yeah, not that I'm giving up an Africa
Because the headquarters of our universities. So yeah, we'll always, you know, Africa has applied a lot of us from in spite of
spending a lot of time in Africa, we have our major project for, for scholarships, a million scholarships for Africa, we're working on
setting up learning centers to be able to implement it across the country, across the continent. So you know, it is there, I'm there. But Turkey is very alluring, very attractive. I've had so many friends in the last year, come in,
come now made hedra from the US from the UK, from Malaysia from all over, making sure Turkey and telling you, you got
you gotta come.
You gotta come we need some teachers there as well.
Right? So, para pilot says, How do we create pious connection with friends and family, friends and family are often the cause of
why we do certain things, because we crowd together with a certain group of people and their maybe their habits are not of a successful
believer. You know? So the question really is creating pious connections with friends and family?
Well, I think basically, we have to be selective,
we have to be selective, I mean, we don't break ties with our family, because
whoever, you know, breaks ties with family would not enter Paradise. So obviously, we don't want to go to that point. But at the same time, we may reduce contact,
we have family members, who are bad influences, you know, whenever they come over, or whenever you go over, you know, your kids are, you know, badly influenced by them, you know, there you can do, you can see the, the damage being done before your very eyes, you have situations like that you do have to cut down your visits, you know, cut down their visits, you know, if you're, if it's something you get to avoid whatever Move, move,
you're moving for the sake of, you know, your family for your deen. And that is praised by a lot of amongst people who end up in Paradise, who also have made hedra, you know, for the sake of Allah. So,
you know, that, that is fundamental, when it's when, when the family is in danger. You know, you have to be able to read those danger signs early. You don't wait until after the damage has been done. And, you know, it's just wreaking havoc in your family than you realize.
So, until it's too late, the damage has been done virtually. Yeah. So you tried to do it early, you know, and that's one level, the other level, you know, of your relations is that
you got it may have gathered, etc, with them, you
try to ensure that there is an Islamic clearly is like element in that gathering in that visit, in that
point of gathering, etc, you know, to make sure it's not just
a free for all, you know, it is a, it is a plan, you should have a plan. That's the case, the case, you know, they say, if you fail to plan you plan to fail, this is a basic principle, you know, so, you have to have a plan proper, once I select my plans, you know, whatever he was doing, you know, he plan things out carefully. We also have to plan carefully. So, where are we conscious and make the correct lines, then inshallah, we know we can be the greater influence, and we can benefit our family members
and friends more, then they can harm us. That's mean, that's the point whether benefit is greater than the harm when the harm becomes greater than the benefit. No matter how much you do. The harm that's coming far outweighs
benefit that you're trying to convey, then that's time to make his rap.
Show Hidden, meaning not necessarily packing your bags, you know and going to another country. You know, it could be the basic hedra away from what is displeasing to Allah. Because I sent him I said and watch it, man. Hi, Jeremiah. Hello, I'm Mahajan.
From Islamic perspective is one
that leaves emigrates away from what Allah has forbidden.
Zaha cheek below for that answer. Laundry? receive answer.
We've got some other questions here. I'm just trying to say there's one brother saying chic Hello, habit is attaining proper knowledge, the first habit that we've mentioned.
I would like to thank you for you can tell us what subjects he should start to follow immediately. He's 46. And he wants to know, what is the best approach and subject to attain knowledge? Well, maybe we could refer international Open University.
Yeah, I mean, that's too formal, I'm sure at 46 is not necessarily think in terms of formal education. But if we start with the informal, we can say that,
to begin is knowing a lot.
This, this is the beginning point, we need to know a lot. So it means that you need to lead, sit in circles,
whatever, you know, watch programs which talk about a law on you to get a clear picture of a law and your belief, what should be in him, your responsibilities to him, etc, etc. So that's the beginning point. And that comes also from reading the crime.
So now, you know,
books which compiled around those particular topics, but that's his beginning, if he wants to know the beginning point. That's where to begin. I meant to go and list off the other points, no point. What you need to focus on now is knowing a lot being clear. being completely clear, as completely clear as possible. The university is something which can help you in in bottom, that's from the perspective of our free diploma that we have, you know, there are courses there on Arpita you know, etc. So you can take those which deal with a pita, that is knowing a lot. That's the core of knowing along intellectually, emotionally and practically living that knowledge.
Another question is I have issues procrastinating How can I resolve these issues and become more successful procrastination?
Well, it depends on the type of procrastination that you're engaged in.
You know, and what you can do to ensure that you do what you're supposed to do.
I would say that on one hand, you need to turn to Allah and ask for his help. Because without his help, you will not achieve anything.
So this is a beginning point.
read about the, you know those who
are the good example to us in the Dean of the past and the present, and see how they made full use of their lives.
be around those who are
doers who don't procrastinate.
You can sit with people who are professional knows in detail, who can give you
advice in terms of steps to take
for avoiding Plastination.
There's no no end of
this approach, avenues that we can follow. But the the core, I think, will come back from a for a Muslim for a non Muslim, they may base it on other factors. But for us it becomes one on a on a on a baddha on worship, that if we procrastinate, if we find that, you know, we are procrastinating in our prayers, meaning we should you know, the best prayer is prayer at the beginning of the time as possible. Solomon said, the best Salah is that which is done in the beginning of its time. If we are among those likely, if we are procrastinators, for sure, almost, we're going to be among those who,
you know, we will pray at the end of its time, you know, we'll end up you know, going into the prayer time, regularly to be this will be a regular habit, and that's our daily, you know, in a relationship with the last $1 so we procrastinate with that daily relationship. That's why I say focus on that as Muslims, you know, then there isn't this, we should not be surprised to find that we're procrastinating in the areas of our dunya also. So I would say
one of the
major steps that we can take is to remove procrastination from our ibadah because our procrastination in relationship to a law, this is going to destroy this world for us.
Our procrastination with regards to things that our jobs, you know, you know, our
commitments to our friends and families and so on. So, you know, that is not good, but it's not destroying the world.
But the prayer procrastination there our faith, this is a foundation of our faith, the salon
this now destroys so therefore we get that in order and if we can get our daily prayers or five times daily prayers done at the beginning of its time on a consistent regular basis, then you will find that
in our other areas will become much much much easier.
Okay, Zack like a shake?
Which way and where should we learn?
The the Sunnah of the Prophet Mohammed Salah LaHood, from the Sierra of the Prophet Mohammed says, He wants to know how can we connect with Sierra
practically and academically?
Well as academically, knowing the syrup, one of the best books on the era is the life of the Prophet Muhammad wa sallam by the Libyan scholar, salami,
look for this, a saw lobby, there are some others
and others there which are also useful,
relatively authentic, you know, to a large degree, but as a lobbyist is one of the best. Also, you have fickle Sera, Sera, which focuses on the lessons to be deduced from this era, because in the end, it's not about a story that we learned this story. You know, like we like we learn the story of Goldilocks,
or light, you know, stories which were entertaining as children, whatever.
We shouldn't teach the Sierra in that way, even to our children, when we teach them the Syrah should teach them. And of course, obviously, these are the ones who at least have enough consciousness to understand, you know, but we teach them and try to always take from the Syrah the lessons from this era.
They understand that the zerah is something which has guidance, and has practical value. It's not just a story. So this is what I would say, would be the approach that we should take for ourselves and our families. When we are studying it finding the right books first the offending books, and there's also Sera, according to Hadith, the authentic hadith, this is an other is quite good. But
it is not about collecting facts. And knowing these facts, it is about what is the message and the lesson that we're supposed to be extracting from these facts. The problem is our solemn was the blueprint. He was the example. And that's why I lost my doll and self said in the
love of Canada computer su de la use watton hacer una there is in the messenger of Allaah for you the best example.
I think this approach,
seeking the lessons, what lesson is there, because as you read a new study, maybe some points are raised that you don't understand. Okay? What's the significance of this? This aspect of the process? And I'm Sarah, you know, but be sure that there are lessons in all of the Prophet sauce islands, Sierra, because Allah sent him as the guide.
Here's that answer.
Again, my internet is awesome. I do apologize, guys. But uh, you know, we'll make sure that England can get better internet connection and Africa soon. Right. So
that was a good as there's a question here that keeps coming up. Shake, so I'm gonna go for it anyway, standing up for national flags. Is it permissible in Islam? I mean, it's probably nothing to do with the topic, but it keeps coming up. And I thought, well, we better answer this one.
as a as a, as a general principle, we can say that if Prophet Muhammad Sallallahu Sallam
when his companions, those who had gone to Persia,
and Rome, contact, you know, during his lifetime, and came back
with these practices
when they try to do it for him, because he's surely greater than the rulers of Rome, and
so they wanted to stand up for him stand up in his presence, you know, he forbade them
from standing for him. It all do not stem from,
you know, one who desires and who is pleased with others standing for him
So, obviously, as a Giblin Islam, we don't stand for national anthems. We don't stand for, you know, great individuals, etc. As a general principle. But of course, you might find yourself in a situation if you don't stand, you know, you will end up in jail.
Or if you don't stand, you know, you won't get your citizenship, you know, and
making you pledge your citizenship you brought to England, or Canada or America, you know, seeking citizenship, do you want to live a better life for yourself as you see it, you know, and the time comes, the the the anthem is played, and you have to, you know, put your hand on your art and stand up. If you don't do it, then you don't.
You don't get that?
No, for for for those who don't have to go there. That's okay. They can say, Okay, I know, I don't really want to do this, you know, I don't, I don't need to do this. So I'm not gonna do it. But for those people, you know, who have been driven out to their homes, they're refugees in their own countries and all this and now you put that before I'm listening
You don't stand, you don't get this,
then, you know, this is where you say, Well, I, you know, if you stand, you make sure and your art, you ask a lot forgiveness, you mentioned in your heart, your heart is filled with the man, when you're doing this, you know, this is for your survival.
So in that circumstance of necessity, you do it. And as much as you can avoid it, you're avoided.
So, the circumstances will be determined, you know, how does one deal with that circumstance? You know, we've seen the football players, the basketball players and others refuse to stand, and you see the response that has happened across the country and Trump and attacking these people.
And, you know, and it's, and it's not the law, this is not the law of the country, you know, this is just tradition. So, the point is that, as much as we can avoid it, we avoid it, you set up your own school and Islamic school, you don't have the constat if you're going to study in a non Islamic school, and that's a requirement, otherwise, you're kicked out, there's no other means of education and leave, okay? Instead, return your kids, you know, you do it, but it's not right. We're only doing it because you need to study. Yeah. So, you you, you handle your situation, you know, accordingly, with what is most appropriate, ask a lot forgiveness, you know, if you end up being
forced to whatever degree and
try to find some other
land or city or institution or whatever, which would not require you to, to do this.
Shake fellow members not stand in future nominee. joking, right.
wasn't a good joke. Because
I meant to mention, but it's Sydney, that there is a piece of
a companion coming from
being abroad or whatever came back into Midian. And the prophet SAW them told the companions to stand for your,
for your companion, this one was coming in, you know,
to when it was to read him to stand and greet him, you know, get up and greet him rather than you all sit back, he comes in this is your showing your happiness to see him everything, you get up, you greet him, you hug him and then you sit back down. It's not that you get up, he walks in the door and
everybody gets up and they keep signing until he comes in and sits down and they all sit down.
So the distinction between the two should be made, you know, and that Hadith is authentic should not be used to
counter the clear had in the process lm where he told the companions not to stand?
Shake Billa we've got a question. How do we control our anger?
grudges that we have? day to day law? against?
I think is a big issue.
consoling finger Yeah. Yeah, well, you know, the process element, given us some general guidelines, you know, that when you're, when you're angry,
if you're angry when you're standing, sit down. And if you're still angry while sitting down, one lie down, you know, change your position.
Find yourself, we all we can apply that. It's
not that you're in a group setting with people and
you get angry while you're with them. So you just lie down in your place there you know,
but that's what the idea seems to imply. But it's what is important. See what's implied in it is shifting one's position. So, if you are if you are
in a sitting and then this thing becomes this way or that way, then get up and leave. Get up and leave. You know, go make will do
shift your position, don't stay there, because you're already boiling, in order to
best thing is get out of that situation, you know, shift your position, whether it be standing here or sitting somewhere else or whatever, you know, that can help, that can help to control the anger. But
we do know that this is a challenge. And even one of the companions who came to the process element and, and asked him, What can I do to get to paradise, he said, Don't get angry.
He told him Don't get angry. So, okay, you have anger problem, then put this in your head,
you want paradise, then don't get angry. You know, that's what you have to deal with. That's your struggle.
You have to get a hold of that anger, you have to control it. And that control is not necessarily something which is going to come overnight, you recognize is that you shouldn't get angry, you know, you shouldn't get angry. And they tell yourself, I'm not going to get angry. No, that doesn't necessarily change just like that. So what you do is that
you commit yourself to pretend not to be angry. That's your starting point. commit yourself to pretend not to be angry. Don't commit yourself not to get angry. Because that's your problem.
You know, that you can't escape. But what you can do is that is pretend externally, that you're not angry. So when the situation arises, even though inside you're boiling, you're exploiting externally.
Fight, to gain control of your external.
And as you master, I'm not it's not to say that you just decide that Okay, fine. That sounds like a good idea. Let me try that tomorrow. So tomorrow comes and you know, such a circumstance arises you try it but you fail.
This is not something that just happens like that. It's like riding a bicycle. You know, the first time you get on it, one of us was able to get on the Bible the very first time just get up there and start writing right away.
most people get up there and stumble and fall down, okay? What do you do? Again, so you keep trying and trying to eventually you're able externally
to gain control, so you don't show your anger externally.
After mastering the external,
the journal will follow.
And this is based on a principle that the province
told us with regards to patience, right, and this is related to anger. Because when you when people get angry, you know, they usually become impatient. So he said, Romania to sub burn your sub zero law, whoever pretends to be patient,
for the sake of Allah, obviously,
Allah will grant him patience.
So similarly, whoever pretends to be
Allah will grant him control,
And this general principle would apply to all of our emotions, all of the other emotions, that we have that so that we don't, we don't have the ability to control them, etc. We gain it through external pretense.
Repeatedly done produces an internal
Okay, the there's a repeated question here about recommendations for different translations look for the annual apps for the quarter, an
The one I use is Quran heif Quran Hi, because it does word for word translation. And it's all so it gives very good four or five different stuff is here. So can you recommend one check? or two?
Well, if we're talking tough seers, then of course, you know, in case here is tafsir in English,
as well as in Arabic. And in order to is among the best tough seers, that one can work with because it's based, it's tafsir have
focused on so now
you know, the narrations, it's, it's not just the opinions of the individual, but whatever is mentioned there
who can say 90% of it, or 80% of it, is backed up by authentic hobbies. So that's for interpretation and understanding for general reading. One is reading Arabic and they want to read an English translation, then it's about whichever one you know, you feel most comfortable with.
I would say that in general,
the Sahil international is one of the most accurate
and most in Han is also most accurate in terms of translation, but most importantly, is clumsy reading wise, if you have to read it over the airwaves, and that with all the bracketed inclusions and things, it's just
you know, I have actually I encouraged those who were reprinting it to remove all those inclusions and just stick with the main text or those inclusions which you know, help to to give them in included you know, why why why put it in brackets, you know, so that it flows though is there somebody can enjoy doing it. So, you know,
you may find other translations which are done by
moustache, the horn, we call the orientalist and others, you know, might might be better reading might be, you know,
easier reading, flowing ideas. But of course, the problem that you have with that is that, you know, they may have inclusions which
distort the meanings in certain places and things like this. So
it's probably better to stick with those that are the well known approved translations
shall Zahle. Okay. And also the clear code
is a very, very, very recent one written by Mohammed
katabi. I think it is kitabi in Canada, and that's the one that IRA uses for its non Muslim Tao
Amina, she says,
will Allah hotel forgive us for sins that can repeat repeatedly done after doing Toba? We die upon these sins? Are we punished in the grave for them?
The sins which Allah has forgiven us for?
Whether we did them repeatedly, or we only them once, if they're forgiven, then obviously we will not suffer punishment for them.
But if they're
sins that we sought forgiveness for, but are seeking forgiveness here,
then we will suffer in the grave.
As in the aka, if Allah doesn't
on the Day of Judgment.
right, lots and lots of there's actually a question here about Islam and spirituality.
They want us to define what is being spiritual.
As a Muslim, what does that mean? That's a strange question, but I guess it's also quite an intelligent question
because a lot of people tend to externalize
lies the belief and then internally, there seems to be the rest of any thinking or deep inner, spiritual meaning.
Well, let's say that
the basic Pillars of Islam,
if one does them
with understanding, sincerely,
then the problems are seldom promises paradise.
So, external is connected to the internal
we make sure that our external is proper
done in the most correct way
the correct understanding
internal understanding of the dean
if one focuses
on the internal
and neglects the external
then the likelihood is that one will go astray
because what we describe as spiritual
come at us
through different doors
of corruption and
spirituality we know
damage has been done
in examples of the
some of the so called spiritual groups we call them Sufi groups you know and movements etc Where are the leaders
have promised their followers all kinds of things you know and probably in the foremost of all of this is the you know the Naqshbandi Order of the wing or branch which was led by Chef novom. Cobra See, very famous for many followers in the UK, US around the world. Even the ruler of Brunei was one of his followers, many of the princes and princes is
and men this
Okay, they want to connect to the woman no problem but when the leader of the movement tells his followers
that when they die,
this the angel of death will not take their soul.
He will be there to take the soul and deliver it to the angels of the next life.
And furthermore, when they're in the grave, the state of the grave and the angels mooka and Akira come to them and ask them man logbook Who is your Lord.
My Nabeel, who is your messenger, oh my god, look, what was your vision will be there in the grave. beside each and every one of his power whispering to them.
so they have nothing to worry about.
He has guaranteed
so this, this is spiritual hygiene.
They were hijacked spiritually. They believed so much in him
that he was able to convey these messages and they accepted it
in that little guy. Well in
that is the danger
where this focus has been on this
These are recorded what I mentioned, they're recorded in his series of the magazines called the secrets behind the secrets behind the secrets.
You know, this, this kind of spiritual high level, when a person doesn't know,
the external Dean,
if he or she knows the external gene, then this is not possible
has an arm.
of course, we need a balance,
the dean should not
But that internal kerlin core needs the external to protected
when you remove that external, the internal is corrupted, is destroyed.
It goes in the wrong direction.
It doesn't have direct, proper direction.
So what you seek is,
and that's what I saw Sam demonstrated for us, he demonstrated balanced life.
You know, when you go on into that, and you see the gatherings of the, of these so called spiritual Sufi, that sort of movements, in their gatherings in the people are jumping and jumping up in the air and here and there. And, you know, all the kind of
madness. I mean, they've gone beyond
you know, the churches of the West that are evangelical, were the people who are doing all this stuff with the music and you know, their way out there beyond them.
The spinning, you know,
manner we order, you know, the way their heads turned and you know, spinning around in circles, the skirts are up when
did rasulillah do the things that his companions do these things? No, they didn't, no matter what explanation that is given to you about what, why it is good to do things. If the prophet SAW Selim didn't do it. No, it's not good. Because he said, my truck to Shay and I have not left anything, your caribou in a law which will bring you closer to a law in lower amount of to be
accepted to do it.
So anybody who comes along and tell you that this is going to bring you closer to Allah
into the spirit of Islam, then, if the prophet SAW Selim didn't do it, that's the criteria that we have that isn't, you can say it's an external criterion. This is external. From saw someone said, I'd love to do two things. If you hold on firmly to them, you'll never go astray the book of alignment. That's
what, that's what he said.
He said, If you hold on from it, not that you take the physical book, and you know, hold it in your hand, you know, here it is, okay, I've got the prime and I've got the Sunday here. This is holding on to it, you know, very tight, tight cap.
Symbol he's talking about, he was talking about
and firmly to, what is it they contain? It's to the content.
At the core, it contains not the physical
message, the guidance of the client and the guidance of the Sun and the message of the summer, we hold on firmly to them. We will never was great, that was a lot.
that is our salvation.
Shall I just shake a few more last questions before we wind up the show?
Okay, so we've got one here which is quite appropriate, you know, considering the Seven Habits of a successful
person in this world?
How do we help our brothers and sisters deal with depression and anxiety in these trying times across the world?
Well, depression is a huge term
anxiety is, you know, an individual experience
how do we Russian in the world, you know, I advise people ask a law to elite
question, especially Muslims
do what you can in your area.
The Rohingya does not have their homes, you can send aid, food aid, whatever to help them, you do what you can, given your limited resources and means
that's global oppression, big guy
in terms of the
anxiety, your individual anxiety, then you have to look at how it is manifest, how is your anxiety manifests as a general term, very general term. So it may affect it may manifest in different ways in different people. But for sure, for every aspect of anxiety that we might display, or might be overwhelmed by
deals with it, it provides
confidence to handle whatever anxieties we are faced with.
the firmer we are in
ending the Quran and the Sunnah.
The stronger we will be
to overcome the
anxieties that we may face. So the question that said, this is a very general question. And your answer
would need to be general, unless somebody has something specific or
by the use of
particular xiety that wanted to bring out here for general discussion. So please, go ahead.
Yeah, I think was a very general one shake, and it's it's so it's a general one about, you know, really, I think the aim is to try and get people to focus on reliance upon Allah subhanho wa Taala.
You know, the seeking correct knowledge, which are the two, two points that we've raised in the seven points. The Dahlia is repeatedly asking this question, so I'm going to put it to you probably will be the last question. Unfortunately today for the viewers but
shake, please answer the question. One of my relatives died, she went to a magician thinking was pious thought it was Islamic treatment, but may have caused the spread of disease and killed her Allah knows best. But she made it suffer, generally before her death, which be forgiven for this mistake.
She didn't know what the magician was or magic was.
And then she goes on to say, which is a bit contradictory, to be honest. And can we use the pots in which things were told to burn by the magicians? Can I pray for her and give sadaqa on her name? So I basically, she's gone to a magician thinking that she's gonna get
Huh, yeah. Yeah.
So, yeah, I mean, obviously, I mean, and she's saying magician, I mean, I think she means really, you know, a witch or a warlock. You know, a person who is involved in different aspects of
With no witchcraft
and of course, it's very popular and very widespread around the world, even in the Western world where people can are supposed to be secondary and don't believe in superstition, etc. But it's it's deeply embedded embedded in it. So, the mother went, and
she mentioned that
mother's house, but it's not clear that she seek forgiveness for having gone meaning, you know, before she died, she realized that was incorrect.
The law for it.
Of course, if she had forgiveness, sincere forgiveness, then the law can forgive it. Know, that's done finish and but if she sought forgiveness
without understanding what she was seeking forgiveness for, she just ritually said a stop for the law something like this, then you know, this obviously is not going to deal with the issue. Because forgiveness, you know, is valid, when what is being sought forgiveness from or for is clear. No one has recognized the error once error, one has fallen into error.
You seek forgiveness, Oh Allah, forgive me for having done this.
Having said that, or having fought this, you know, etc. So
we can't talk about whether a lie is accepted or not accepted. When these issues are not clear. We don't have knowledge of these issues with regard to
witches or warlocks, instructions to to boil things in, in the her
kitchen, using the pots and pans, etc, that were available, how can you use these now, after washing them,
cleaning them, can you can use them? Technically, you could.
Technically you could. But I would say that if certain items were dedicated,
dedicated, or that, then it would be better not to use them, get rid of them
and get new.
If it was just her regular cookware, but she used to cook and then to use some of them to do certain things, then you make continues it but if she dedicated certain pots and pans and, you know, other items, specifically for these items, and it's better to get rid of them and not use them.
they promise I send them, you know instructions to the companions of the Prophet process to destroy when alcohol became prohibited to destroy,
which were commonly used for drinking, brewing.
Does aka head, shake the law we've reached the end of the show today.
And panatela Bless you, bless the audience and enable them to act upon the advices of the Seven
Habits of truly successful people in this world by adhering to the correct knowledge lines be reliant upon Allah subhanaw taala be emotionally attached to that knowledge to of course have to seek modesty and to be patient.
Upon the advices of these seven habits in sha Allah, Allah subhanho wa Taala
it's been a very successful program, the last three programs because we've had tons and tons of questions thrown at us that we haven't unfortunately been aren't able to answer all of them today.
But we call upon a las panatela to find us solutions in the Quran and the Sunnah of the Prophet Mohammed sal Allahu Allah Islam. Indeed. Those are the two sources
have knowledge and wisdom that we take our
our we take advice from and we live according to as Muslims brothers and sisters
I thank shake bow immensely for his contributions in the last actually five shows we we've had five shows we had two shows on the successful
Muslim parents as it were seven habits and then we had seven on the successful truly successful person or people in this world and we ask a lot help us to
do some more shows very soon inshallah we'll let the audience know what that will be and when when it will be ahead of time in Sharla. And closing words for you shake a lot and we can go
we you've done the job, everybody in our reach
for being present and taking benefit from this program. Our intention is to please Allah subhanaw taala we pray that your intention also wants to be the law and that the law we put this in our scale of good deeds.
And that bid you farewell subhanak Aloma humbucker to shadow Allah in
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