Channel: Ammar Alshukry
Person who denies lust of the sake of Allah
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Having a lossless file so you log out inside and send it off. Welcome everybody. So Chawla we are continuing the hadith of seven shadid once and we discuss so far, just ruler,
which led us to the youth grew up in the worship of luck,
which led us to a person whose heart is attached to the masjid, which led us to to people who love each other for the sake of a lot.
They gather upon that and they separate on that. And then the last, or today's session, inshallah is going to be as the province of Allied as Adam said, allegedly, that actually Mara, a man who was invited by a woman,
for Canada, India, half a lot, he said, I fear a lot. And in another nation that Allah that months of which I met, a woman invited him a woman of Montserrat, a woman of position, and beauty, and and another narration that has been with a man, a woman of like noble lineage, a woman of nobility, and beauty. So each variation gives us a different,
a different layer to the scenario that the province of Allied ism is describing. And we said way back when we were introducing this idea that the scholars said that the statements or the descriptions,
they are not gender specific, in the sense that even though the province of aleida seldom said a man who was invited by a woman, it goes vice versa, that a woman who is invited by a man, if she says, I feel a lot as though Jen, then she also receives the word of the reward of being in the shade of a lot of Chawla or in the shade of the throne of a lot on the Day of Judgment. But the scholars then analyzed and they said, Well, why is it that the Prophet specifically said what you could have said a person or something like that, but he said, a man who was invited by a woman, and they said,
a number of reasons. One, they said that a man, if he is invited by a woman, women are usually more cautious in their invitation they met, a man will invite a woman, he'll just holler at her on the street, you know, it doesn't really require anything for management by the woman, whereas a woman, if you invite a man, normally, she'll make sure that her you know, i's are dotted and her T's are crossed, you know, there's already privacy that's involved, there's already there's a level of
there's a level of security that's already been put in place. And so what would stop the man is not necessarily a fear of privacy, because she already probably took care of that. It's not because there's anything else really other than the fear of a lot. There's nothing left, you know, the story abusive, the disease, she got him cornered, she locked the doors, she she plant, like she knew what she was doing. So they said Normally, the only thing that will if the if it's the woman inviting the man, it's basically everything is pretty much already,
like taken care of all that's left is the fear of a lot. Whereas the man inviting the woman, there may be no planning up until that point, right. And she might have a million different reasons why she's not interested, or she's not participating. And it may not have anything to do at that moment with the fear of a lot. It could be because she's afraid that they'll be exposed, it could be because of
fear of pregnancy, it could be a fear of a lot of different things that run through her mind in that particular time, that not necessarily run through the man's mind, when you're in the same scenario when there's scenarios reversed. And so, in both circumstances, if the conclusion is, the thing that's stopping them is I feel as though the man or the woman then both of them Michel Italia received that reward of stabbing in the shade of the throne of a lot. And so the you know, the the Great example that's given, of course, is the story of use of it setup and a lot so dimensions use if and use it was in a scenario that is incredibly difficult, no use of it is that he had,
he was a foreigner. So that's one protective layer that he has, he's a foreigner in that land. And usually people will do things when they're traveling that they won't do in their residence. If you're in your neighborhood, where it's, you know, a million people can see you and they also they all know your your parents and you're very cautious.
Right even when you go to high school, you go to college, you go to a college where you're local. So you have Ah, and everybody there knows you and knows your family and things like that. It's not like when you go out of state, where nobody knows you, like it's very, I think this is this point is very clear use of it is that it is a foreigner. Nobody knows him. Nobody knows his lineage. Nobody knows. No one knows any of that. But at the same time, there's also another layer, and that is that he is a slave. He's not someone who's followed by a community, no one considers him to be a prophet. No one cares what he does. There's no there's no nobility attached to him. And so if he does anything,
nobody cares. I mean, it's just asleep, who acted out or who acted that it's nothing special. And so vital with regards to traveling.
You know, the province of Allied SNMP says, if one person travels by themselves, if a man travels by himself, that's one shape. And if two men travel together, that's two shapes.
And then he says three people, that's a group and so even we are taught as Muslims to not travel
by ourselves frequent you have to travel for work or something like that. It's understood but for leisure, you don't necessarily need to you don't go out of your way to travel by yourself because shavon walks with the single traveler, okay, so and shavon walks with two travelers, but three people are a group that are protected inshallah Tada. So
you use it had all of these layers of anonymity in society, and even then,
when a militarized escape of one Latina Baba says Allah, Allah carbines, voila, voila, with any three letter verb, whenever it has a shed that in the middle letter, that means it's been done repeated. So kassala means to break. This is turning into the area class for later but guess what it means to break guests set off
means what? Break again and again and again. katella means to kill. teta means to kill again and again and again. I want
away from losses of Allah tala Mach one Mach two or three left for right of alacati lavoir sheelagh, door after door after door. And then connotated. Right. And then she pronounced her desire for him. And if not, he used that as that um, saw the burden of his lawyers saw the the side from his Lord. So use of it is that I'm in that moment, there's absolutely nothing stopping him. There's nothing other than the fear of Eliza. So usif is a great example of this moment. But I don't want you to think also that Oh, well. Youssef is a prophet.
Because sometimes people say that they'll say, we'll use him as a prophet. I'm not a prophet. I'm a human being Give me an example of a human being. The Prophet sallallahu wasallam taught us a story of three men who had been traveling, and they were locked in a cave thunderstorm happened or a storm happened and they got locked in a cave. And I think we we mentioned it at the beginning of this series as well, we want to come back to it because there is the second scenario. And I remember the first time that this class was this, this, this scenario was mentioned to us, our chef mentioned.
So this The story is this, the three men took shelter from a storm, and they entered into a cave, the boulder falls and the boulder blocks out there exit. And so now they're, they're
No, they're wondering how they're going to get out. It's a very stressful situation, to try to move it, they try to push it, no, it's not moving. It's not moving that finally they resolve that the only thing that's gonna save them is if they make to add to a lot of debt and let them make the out of the sincerest of their deeds, the best thing that they think was done the most sincerely for a lot ever. Let's ask a lot by that. And so the first person, he mentioned that he used to always feed his parents used to serve them dinner milk, he would milk his livestock, and then he would go and he would bring it to his parents. And he wouldn't let his own family drink it. So his parents strength.
And then one night, he came home and he felt he was delayed. And he came home and he found that his parents had already slept. But he didn't want to break his routine. He didn't want to break his habit. And so he waited for his parents to wake up, even though that meant that his kids did not get to drink anything before they went to sleep. And so he mentioned that he had his kids were tugging at him. They were they were weeping, they were crying. And yet he did not feed them until he waited for his parents to naturally wake up. They did not wake up until the morning. And so he waited that night until the morning for his parents to wake up. And then he gave them their food or their their
milk and he said
lot if I did that out of sincerity to you, nobody else, then
move us out of the situation that we're in rescue us from the situation and the boulder moved, a little bit shifted, but not enough to get them out. The second person then said, Oh, a lot.
I love my cousin, as passionately, as fervently as any man has ever loved a woman.
And I approached her a number of times, and she rejected me every single time. Until one time I saw her but she was afflicted by drought. So whatever her occupation was, or whatever her source of of living was, it was damaged by this drought, until she came to me or have a solid, a solid Hydra or salted Hydra. She was afflicted by need, until she came to me. And she asked me for assistance. And I told her, the only way I'm giving you any money is if you give me access to yourself. And so she agreed. And then he says, When I became in the position that a man is from his wife, right, so there's no barriers at this point in time. It's very close to actual intimacy. He says in that
moment, right? Where there's usually No, there's no ration.
And it's the most difficult for a man, she says it tequila, she said, because she is a righteous woman. And even in that moment, even in her name, she cast that last word, that last resistance on her part to him, and she says it tequila, and do not take advantage of me, and do not use me except
through Canada. And so he said in that moment, like he came to his senses, he woke up, and he panicked, and he left. And even the money that he had given her, he left it. And then he said, Oh Allah, if I did that sincerity or sincerely for you, then
remove us from the situation that we're in. And she, the boulder moved a little bit, and it wasn't enough to get them out. And then the third person, he said, a lot, I had a person who was working for me, I didn't give him his his money. He left before he could take his his final payment from me. And so is what would have been his money. I invested it. And I continued to grow it and grew and grew and grew sheep and sheep and sheep and more sheep, until when he returned back in it might have been a number of years later, he asked me for his payment. And I told him, I showed him all of his wealth
that I had invested in growth on his behalf. And I said to him, this all belongs to you. And he said, Are you playing with me? And I said, No, this is all yours. And I let him have it all. He was just expecting what whatever his payment was from two years ago, what have you. He wasn't expecting this investment. That was growth. And so he thought the guy who was playing with him? And he said, No, it's all yours. And he said, Oh, love, I did that sincerely for your sake, that removes from the situation that we're in, and the boulder shifted finally the last time and they all were able to walk out. And so I remember when the chef was presenting the story to us, he asked us in the
audience in the group that was there, he said, How many of you The first is the most difficult and
a different group had raised their hand?
You know, with regards to the parents, and then how many of you found the second one to be the most difficult, and then the college students always dad. And then how many of you find the third to be the most difficult and usually all of the older, the elder people, people had, you know, tasted the sweetness of money and wealth and all of these things. And so the the point here is the passion of Xena, right? This man in that moment, you have two scenarios. One is this man had really lost himself in the love and the lust that he had for this woman. And that's why a lot as I did, he says with regards to Xena that
he kind of
he doesn't say, don't drink alcohol. He doesn't say
don't commit fornication. He says Do not come near it. The language that he uses is very interesting. He says Do not come near Xena as it Xena is some sort of
it has its own gravitational pull. Right. And so if you come into its orbit, it will suck you it. And that's really what it does. You know, it starts off with a glance. And it all goes through these different stages. It starts off with a glance it starts off with
a conversation. It starts off with a smile, or a smiley face starts off with all of these things. And then step by step and stuff and I'm sure you guys all know the story of what season Caesar Caesar was a monk. And he was a very righteous person. And the prophets the license told us his story. But Caesar was a monk who
Shape Up, took step by step, a group of he was just a person who was a worshiper, he didn't have anything to do with lemon or anything like that. But then three people, brothers came to him and they said, we have
you know, we're traveling.
And we have a sister, who we can't find anybody who is more trustworthy than you to look after. But Lisa says David de la, sure, a lot Leave me alone. I don't want to deal with it said, No. There's nobody else other than you. Can you just send her food check, get on her, make sure she's okay. But she says, Okay, finally succumbs.
So, every couple of days, he goes, and he brings food to her. And he keeps it far outside, puts it on the property, she could come get it herself. And he leaves no conversation, nothing. Time goes by the brothers don't come back. For season our seconds is off, man. I mean, at least I could come a little bit closer. I don't have to go that far. I just come a little bit closer and, and, you know, bring it to her doorstep maybe.
And so he starts doing that.
And time goes by.
And finally he's thinking himself, you know?
I mean, she must be going crazy by herself like that. the very least I could do is just, you know, yell from behind the door. Hey, how are you? What's going on?
You see the presented presidential debates last night. So he goes, and now he's having conversations with her.
And that's why
I then step by step by step. He continues to get closer to her and closer to her, and then the door is open. And then Time goes by and he becomes comfortable. And the next thing you know, Percy's actually falls into Xena
with the girl,
the monk, the righteous person who's secluded, he falls into Xena. But not only that,
she gets pregnant.
She gets pregnant.
actually, I don't remember if she how the girl dies. Does anybody remember how she dies?
He kills her that he killed her because of the swimmer that chiffon comes to him and says they're gonna the brothers come back and they're gonna find out. Yes, that you did that. Yes. So she comes to him. And he says that the brothers have you really think that they're, you're going to what happens is that first they they bury the baby. The baby is killed. And then he says she says to him, Do you really think that after you've killed her baby, that she's going to just be silent, like she's never gonna ever bring it up again.
Only ways if you get rid of her too.
And so he gets rid of her too. And now proceeds of the monk has turned into like, some mafia guy. killing babies killing the girls burying them. I know when the girl comes battle and her brothers come back. He's like in 99. And he lives your own year, your sister's died.
I'm like, okay, never go in a year I joke.
But she doesn't leave us alone, because your thoughts been whispering this entire time. And then what happens is shame on inspires the brothers by them seeing in a dream.
and telling them both Sisa killed your daughter, your sister. And he buried her in such and such place. And they had a baby and the baby is buried in such and such a place to work it out for yourself. And so they go and they dig it up and they see the remains of the big.
And so then they come to proceed.
And they're going to kill boss this.
And so when Bill sees himself is not dragged in his moment of truth, his last moments of truth.
Shin possessed him. I got you into this mess. I can get you out.
Lisa says How can you get me up?
Makes you do to me in that last moment like geophones in preseason is surrounded by the brothers. And they are about to extract the exact sauce on it. And so shaytan says he makes a joke to me. I suppose it's an execute. And in that moment, the blade strikes the neck of horses. And he does.
And so we'll see so was taken step by step. This is a classic example of the step by step how Shavasana takes a person from one thing to another to the one thing and one thing that people don't remember, and they forget is that shavon is a very patient fighter shaytaan is not, you know, he's never going for the first round kayo that's not shavon style. She thought of style is to keep you dangling. Round one. Round two. Oh, you won this round. You're really good. Round three, round four, round five. You're not going to knock him out. So he's just waiting group
Waiting, waiting for that 15th round. And then in that 15th round, he goes for the TKO. And that's why in those last moments, he's happy to learn that
a lot as it gets to beat to those who believe we'll call it fabric with with the steadfast, or the
Sabbath, the firm word, could have to dunya on the this world and in the Hereafter, meaning that in this world, meaning in the throes of death, when a person in those last moments of death, that's the moment where she bond is, is throwing everything at a person, because a person's leaving now and then see the
criminal law and he was in his last moments of death. And that's why you have people surrounding the person say, say he died and say died, I lost a loved because you're trying to support that person in those difficult moments. Remember, how am I doing? He was on his deathbed. His family was close to him. And they were say,
you know, say that I lost a light I lost a very little light. He was saying Not yet. Not yet. Not yet. And they fainted.
And, of course, you don't know whether the person's faint is a faint, or whether they just died in that moment. So they panic. And then he came back to. And then they said to him, what were you What do you say? We're saying to say like that, like you're saying not yet. And he said, I saw a pod at my feet. And he was crying. And he said, Oh, I met.
You've eluded me.
And I was saying to him, Not yet Not yet. Not yet. Right? Like I'm not gone from you yet. You understand that this fight is a fight till the very last breath of every single one of us. Associated thought
he his tricks are a step one step after the next one step after the next with regards is in our law says don't enter into its orbit last October, Xena, because it is innocent. Yeah, sure, okay. It's innocent. But Allah says, initiated by local
law says she thought is an enemy for you. So take him as an enemy, because she thought is going to attack you through that glass. And she thought he was going to attack you through that smile in that conversation and all of these things. And that's why we have so many barriers, you know, something very interesting with regards to this enemy concept of shape on one time, I was looking through the whole ad for the verses, I wanted to see which verses are the most commonly addressed to mankind? So what are the verses where our lives we get says, Yeah, you had nice, what are the what are the, what are the commands that appeared the most in the whole animal law says, Yeah, you had less. And so you
know, what's beautiful about before, is, and this entire religion is just how consistent it is, you know, you talk to a Christian and you say to them,
they'll say, Jesus Christ, this is the is your salvation. And then you say to them, okay, well, where's that in the Bible,
and then it's scattered, so scattered. And it's not even like it's never mentioned, clearly, you just have to interpret verses like I am the truth in the way in the life, no one comes to the Father except through me. And that is obviously can be interpreted in many different ways. So you have all of these vague references to their main point, right, which is the cause of His revelation and him being sent? And we say to them, hey, doesn't it make sense that if you have a good teacher, right, if you have a good teacher, that teacher is going to tell you what to expect on the exam, they're going to make it clear for you what they'll be grading you on? What are the core concepts, they'll
make sure that the core concepts are very clear in your mind, it's not going to be something big, we say to them hate with regards to love. Our most core concept is to worship Allah.
And a very to say, Do you find that in the four hour like yes and everywhere, right everywhere. In fact, when you look up swords and buckler sort of the fact that has no commandments sort of the mockery open up or what's the first commandment that appears in sort of a bubble? You scroll first page, nothing second page? Yeah, you had Edina? Yeah you had NASA tokoto back home let the public home that Yeah, you had NASA
public of all mankind worship your Lord who created those before?
What's the first prohibition in local law? The first rule a mission is not to drink alcohol is not don't lie not don't commit fornication the first prohibition that you find is right after that and sort of the bucket Allah says, but I think I really lay under don't want to do not make for a law partners while you are aware. It's so consistent the hold on so then I wanted to look and see what are the addresses or the what address address because a lot as it makes the most to mankind? And so again, it's very consistent. Allah so we did the thing that he commands mankind to do the most is to have
What am I saying? Yeah, nice taco.
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you are not talking about them, let me know either one of them he has a job with me.
that's an example so many verses in the Quran Allah commands mankind. Well, what's the second thing? By the way, taco is incredibly consistent. Why? Because the prophets of the light is the thing that is the most heavy on the day of judgment on the scale of good deeds is a good character, these two things. So the command for a tupple is paramount paramount in our religion, it makes absolute sense that this is the thing that a lot commands for us to have the most. And by the way, duck, what is the thing that's consistent in all of these seven characteristics? The person who is adjust ruler is just because of taqwa. They're not afraid of anyone else. How can they be when they're the ruler of
the land, the person who grows up in the worship of Allah So Jen is a worshiper of a lot because of taqwa. That's what causes them to in their prime of their youth in the prime of their foolishness and heedlessness and mortality or feelings will be mortality is going to stay on the straight and narrow, the person who loves the messenger loves it because of the person who loves each other for the sake of Allah. They have Dumbo with regards to each other, that's where the love foot fosters This one is obviously duck, what a person who gives in charity, when we talk about inshallah tada next week, there is duck war that causes you to start with what it is that you love the most, which
is your wealth. And then the last one is a person who has stepped over a lot in seclusion, and so there is tear. And so it is all over our religion, and there is nothing heavier, and there's nothing that is more worthy of us reflecting on and checking in ourselves, constantly monitoring ourselves. Because if a person has a heart that is conscious of a law, that is fearful of Allah to rectify all of their affairs, so the prophets of the lie, they said, there are a lot of commands for us to have apart. What's the second most popular command that a lot addresses to all of mankind, not just the believers, is essentially a thought is an enemy.
Is he upon as an enemy, like he a lot of repeatedly, again, is saying, hey, that's not your friend. This person for you is an enemy, he's out to harm you. He's out to destroy you. destroy your life, destroy the life of everybody you love. He is to you and open enemies, so don't take him as anything less than extremely serious. Every single day of your life. You have someone plotting against you, this person hates you so much. He slapped you when you are a newborn baby. How vile and evil does a person have to be? How hateful does a person have to be? When they slap, you know, a big, that's what she thought is he is an absolute enemy. So a lot of listeners take him as an enemy. Take shavon
as an enemy and shavon plots against you every single day. And he's got 1000s and 1000s and 1000s of years of experience. And he's very patient. He doesn't care about day one day to day 20 D 40. doesn't care about how this semester begins. He does care about how the semester ends. He wants to make sure that he takes you on.
And that's what he did with courses. He took a monk who was secluded in the western level lot where the boss he said he ended his life with coffee. Even the Zener wasn't as bad as the before even the murder wasn't as bad as a couple. But he took them from step to step, step to step until he felt like there was no he out except for that confirm that he did.
the problem of Xena
you know, Allah azzawajal he says about Xena. He says a new knot when he's prescribing the punishments for Xena he says do not let any refer refer is you know the word woof woof is a type of mercy that's
a mercy with worry, right.
That you are afraid for this person? You are
you have this this this. This you know this like? Almost like
yeah, like the worry is a good word. So you have this worry for this person. We need our alpha Rahim Allah says that the prophets the lesson for the believers was over hate Allah says don't let any compassion come to you when it comes to executing the punishment on the fornicator. Right 100 lashes.
Why do you think that a lot because he just says do not take have any offer on this person. Why do you think that's the case? When it comes to the crime of fornication? laws or he doesn't say he says specifically he doesn't say that for anything else. He doesn't say that for killing. He doesn't say that. He says present his work. He says don't have mercy on me.
What do y'all think?
it's easy, right? Yeah.
It's easy as all of all the sense. Very good. Anything else? What else do you guys think part of it is like in other crimes, there's, First there's a victim and there's a person that was oppressor. Whereas in this time, it could be consensual and you feel like, well, there's really no victim. So why is it a crime? Great. So it's kind of like there's really no victim. It was consensual, it's not like it's rape, right? It's it's consensual.
And so you may not see it necessarily as being a very good
Having mercy on them.
When it comes to, for example, a killer
probable that like the community that's there, also had the same sentiments as the killer at one point in time? Where they're like, yeah, I also I can empathize with wanting to kill somebody, like really wanting to kill somebody. No, right. But when it comes to syndicate, people relate to the feeling of being in love.
These guys have never ever
pious people watch angels, because even pious people can can relate to that.
Naturally, normal people, I'm sorry, normal people can all relate to this concept, right? They've all fallen and bow where they've been attracted to somebody, they've been inclined to it at some point in time. And so you just feel like, Okay, this person made a mistake, but it's a mistake that he really one of us could have fallen into at any point in time, and not at the mercy of alliances. And so you kind of can understand, right? And so a lot as it says, No, do not let your own mercy fall into
prevent you from fulfilling this prescribe. Whereas if it's something else, if it's a person dealing drugs, have a person committing murders or a person doing all these other crimes, then yet you may not understand or empathize or relate to it at all right. So this mercy does not play a role.
Also important is with regards to this concept of Xena is not the private school, it is similar.
For the Sahaba, it was very clear. Why is you know, was was held on why it was prevented.
A man came to the School of Law civilize a young man.
He came to the Prophet, and he asked him permission to commit Zina. Like he also lie, I want to convince enough so can you just please give me a special
and the Prophet civilize gave him a very rational argument? He said to me, he said, Would you like that for your mom?
He said, Would you like that for your sister? said no. He said, Well, other people wouldn't like it for their sisters. So would you like it for your odd? He said, No, he said, a lot of people wouldn't like it for their own. And so he just used this very rational, logical argument to let him understand that
it's somebody's sister, somebody's mother, it's somebody, whoever. And so if you don't like it for your immediate family members, you shouldn't want it for other people's immediate family members either. But when society changes, I literally had this conversation with a 17 year old kid came to me at domestic High School. And he was asking me is like, so is like, being intimate. Is that like, I was like, good morning.
Yes, it is.
Like, he's like, Oh, I didn't know.
he's asking me questions. And I was like, but you know what, that's something that that's a lesson that I learned, by the way is that there's no like, there's no base standard of knowledge that you can expect people to have growing up in the US. It's like, in the Muslim world, there's still some things that are just generally understood. Like you expect that a person knows how to make a cool person knows undecisive, about how a person grade, these things that are considered known by the dean been known of the dean by necessity, there are lots of concepts that are considered known of the dude by necessity. But now you keep coming across people who don't know things that are not of
the D by necessity. It's like, this is like, it's not one one, how do you not know that? And I don't believe that there's a base standard that you should hold people accountable to or expect. It could be as simple as you know, it's learning how to make Google. You can't expect every Muslim who grew up here to know that. So he said, he said, I didn't know that and I said to him, Well, would you like it for your sister? And he said, I mean, if she's okay with it,
far far off, but that just shows you know,
the progress of the cinema speaking
A person who had this natural inclination of fifth law. And this concept called real leaders, protective jealousy is a jealousy that that's intended to protect the person. And this existed in this society up until recently, you're talking about 3040 years ago, brothers would, you know, beat up a guy if he talked to their sister or something like that? It was just understood. It didn't require it's not. But now when society has, you know, really turned to be, you know, so hedonistic and so evacuee that, you know, you actually have to, you can't even argue with these people based on these types of logical arguments, because they're not in the same frame of mind. And that's why you
know, that Hadith, which is part of the collection, every moment, no lien is considered a great pillar with regards to knowing the halala, the Haram for the prophets of Alliance, and it said, it's definitely a good book. He said, A man came to me, he said, Are you asking me about righteousness? And the man said, Yes. And he said, he says,
Seek better from your heart, ask your heart. righteousness is what makes your heart feel contented at ease with and sin is what makes your heart feel resistance, and difficult. you're uncomfortable. So you don't even need to ask anybody about it. If you feel uncomfortable, that's a sign that's the sin. If you feel good about it, then that's a sign that this is something that's righteous. But the caveat, the condition is, that is a heart that is pure and serene, that is the heart that will recognize if something is right or not, when the hearts have been so corrupted, where they no longer see the good as being good, and they no longer see evil as being evil, then that becomes an issue.
Right? It doesn't become something that that person can actually use. And so the promise of lies in them is telling this man that man has a sweetheart. So the province littlebyte is and then it just follows it's very, it's very normal. So with. So nowadays, we don't just ask them, whether they would like to see it for the sister, but you actually have to have a longer conversation where you're talking to them about why is it is not something that's today,
the problems that it creates in society, you have to talk to them about teenage pregnancy, you have to talk to them about sexually transmitted diseases, you have to talk to them about broken homes, you have to talk to them about marriage,
falling as far as percentages in this country, every single year, you have to talk to them about homosexuality, you have to talk to them about all of these different things that come from a society that is just so sexualized, in which case, you know, something incredible to think about, is when you think about your great grandparents,
maybe even your grandparents, some of them may not have ever seen a nude figure of a person until their wedding,
their wedding night in particular, that was the first time they ever saw that new finger.
And so they didn't really have
But their appetite was very healthy and normal.
Because that's all that they do. And that's all that they needed to know.
But the more sexualized the society becomes, and the more frames and images that they've seen and the more they've been exposed, the more they need to become excitable, negative.
And that's why you'll find that
there's no there's no number. There's never any level of which a person is satisfied. You have a person. I think Donald Trump is a good example, because they're seven years old. And he's still not right, he still has this appetite for women. And you must imagine that this person has been rich and wealthy and for I'm assuming all of his life. Right? And I'm so I'm sure that he's had the guy's got University Padgett and not university graduates, but, you know, beauty pageants on all of this. This guy's probably had access to many women over his lifetime.
But there's never any, there's never any desire to end. Right. And so And not only that, but normally you'll find that with people who are exposed to these things is that the more that they're exposed, the more they normalize what they've been exposed to. And so they need what's beyond that to become excitable again. Right? And so that's where you get to actually perversion and this has been studied in pornography, a lot that people begin with very normal porn. That can be normal, right? Basic hardcore porn, and then they go on and they keep requiring to expand and expand and expand until they get to the genre of fetishes until they get to like really aggressive stuff.
really violent stuff. And it just keeps going until some of them fall into child pornography. And they're just, they just need to continue expanding. And so this person who's been exposed to all of that finally ends up the American fault enough in the message. Right? Even though she's like a beautiful girl, right? She's somebody that everybody would be happy to, to marry. for him.
It's nowhere near satisfying, right? Because his sexual appetite has been so perverted over, you know, by that time is 25 years old.
People by the age of seven years old, 50% of Americans have been exposed to their first point net graphic image by the age of seven.
Right? You're talking about kids being addicted by the age of 11, especially now, if you're talking about
the age of high speed internet, and everybody's got their phones, their smartphones, and all of these different issues.
It's very possible that you can have a kid who's 25 years old, they're, they've been addicted to pornography for 14 years since the time that they're 11. By the time it took them five, but most of their life, they've been addicted to pornography, right. So all of this is is
affecting this person. And it creates for a lack of satisfaction from normalcy. Whereas our great grandparents to bring it back to them
completely satisfied with just one or two or something like that. I didn't need a Kama Sutra or like a million different positions or anything like that, that is required.
Anyway, yeah. So
I wanted to conclude with you guys with just like, some golden rules for and I want to use all of your collective experience as well, because I don't think I have any more experience than anybody else. Here. We all grew up in this society together and one benefit from each other's experiences with regards to the things that are the most helpful to protect the person actually, from this concept of laptop colloseum. Not coming close to Xena. What are the things that you found to be the most powerful and the most important for a person to either understand or to implement?
And then we're going to create, we're going to create a top 10 list and
if we can get up to
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okay, so you don't invite any sort of
you keep it very professional.
You don't personalize Communications at all? No lol, small smiley faces nothing. Very good.
Are you taking notes for us?
Yes, please. So that's the first one. Now it's my notes, keeping things as professional as possible.
So that's number one. What else do we have? So this can be considered very controversial. And this is something that I heard a teacher say, and so you know that the topic of
yours and I think
the type of I mean, I'm not going to say music in general, but the type of music that we listen to really affects our frame of mind and what we're thinking, and it really affects our feelings and emotions. So it's a controversial topic, but I know that it does not controversial at all. I agree. 100%. Very good. That's number two. So I would I would put that as being careful.
Yeah. Number two is being careful of your input, input versus output. So being careful of your input, and then I would put a dash movies, music, environments, all of these things. And I just want to illustrate that. So you have, it's impossible, that a person is just sitting there, listen to music, and all that music is very sexualized, that that person, these actions are not going to become normalized in that person's mind and heart. It's not it's normal. In fact, to talk about movies,
the way that the movie will be, you know, set up is you've got this person, right, who's the hero, and you have the hero in. Right. And you will actually, they are so good, right? But it will be set up where you are, you know,
the hero is like, actually in real life. He's the bad guy. He's the guy stealing the girl from her husband. Right? But you're like father and love the husband such a jerk. Right? And so you're actually cheering for this girl to leave her husband. Right and every movie freakin Princess Jasmine and Aladdin.
Princess Jasmine and Aladdin, she's sitting there going on with him and her father's the bad guy because he wants her to marry a prince. And it's all of these concepts. They all they all create our frame of mind, our psyche, our perspective, you always have this issue of the girl going against her parents, which is every Hollywood movie for love. And then of course, there's that scene where in the middle of the night, the girl is creeping into her dad's room, because she has an appointment at the lake with the guy. And she's reaching over her dad's sleeping body to grab his keys. And the music is, like so intense, suspenseful, is her dad gonna wake up or not gonna wake up and she grabs
the keys. And you're hoping like, oh, he doesn't wake up, don't wake up.
And so this is in that moment, if you were thinking about this idea, you'd be like, yes, Bob.
But that's all the facts of your psyche. This is all input, right? All of that is input. So
I agree 100%, you have to be careful.
It's not possible that all of your input is like filth and sexualized content and all this and your output is going to be better than last panel, bla bla bla, bla, that's not the way that it's gonna go.
What is three
friends in a company?
If they pay the things I say, though, they include things they test, you automatically get
very good. So being very careful of your environment. Who are the friends that you keep? Who are the friends that you keep? Are there people who are going to encourage you to righteousness or encourage you to evil?
You know, girls have friends who are like, Oh my god, I can hook you up with this guy or that guy or this guy or that guy? Right? I'm guys, which they have friends that were that cool.
What else do we have
things that help a person stay away from this concept of sin.
Very good. So one of the most comprehensive verses in Milan, that deal with gender relations is actually this embedded in Semite NFC will seal up when
Allah says, rather
than the human being, and NFC will see, is very self monitoring, or sees themselves they know what they're doing.
When outcome it like, even if they cast their excuses, you know what you're doing. When you put on that a job, or that dress, you know what you're doing, when you put on that Polo in those shoes? Like, you understand
what you're doing? What?
You know why you're going and working out super hard. all summer, right?
You know why you're doing. And so, a lot has been said, I don't know stainless steel, they're very, you are very aware of yourself,
no matter what excuses you cast. And so this is very important. You know why you sent that smiley face or that wink or that lol, you know why you call that person when you could have emailed all of these things. And so it's important for you to
conscious be conscious of these things that you do, because the Day of Judgment, a lot has to do. And that which is in the hearts will be expelled, that which is in the hearts will be extract that which you do will become to be presented?
Yes, very good.
I was hoping we get to 10.
Whenever we are, yeah. But establish who you are when you meet new people. So they can't ask you out for drinks. Because I already know that sounds very good. So establishing who you are with people. And
yeah, don't put yourself in compromising positions where you are going out for drinks or you know, doing things that need to. That's why with alcohol, alcohol is considered almost Hubei it's considered the mother of
evil. You know, there was a story of a number of men who were presented with, like three options either to kill a person, or to commit Zina or to drink alcohol. And so they were like, oh, obviously
The most significant one here is to drink alcohol. So they drank alcohol got drunk, committed and killed.
Right? So it's this concept of alcohol is what helps one thing lead to another. And by the way, that's why that concept of Xena, there's always this story of one thing led to another one thing led to another because that's exactly how it goes. One thing leads to another and that's what I lost. That's what I thought.
What else do we have?
Okay, so you know what, this is very good not texting or messaging someone from the opposite gender? I don't want to say, like never doing it.
But you have to one, I really do believe that a person should not do it unless there's a reason.
Okay, you have you have you have barriers, you have parameters? Is there anything in the JDI that says that you cannot speak to the opposite gender, unless
there's a reason to know.
There's nothing that she says that, that I know, there's nothing that says that you can't lol or talk to somebody or do anything like that. There's nothing that says that. But
it's important that a person guards themselves from truth.
And the key here is the issue of fitness.
And guys, usually when they look at themselves, they just assume that there's enough for everybody.
So if that's the case, then you know the story of the man or the shareholder out onto a bus.
He got onto a bus and there was there was no, there is no empty seats, except the seat next to a lady.
And so he's like, man, should I sit next to her or not. And then he said, honestly, she's not a fitness for me. So he just sat down. And he jumped back up, and he sort of stopped for a lot.
I'm not a fitness for her.
The idea here is that there has to be lack of lack of fitness for that type of communication. And you never really know if that person I mean, how many times have you just been friendly with somebody and all of a sudden you find out that they're like, proposing or, you know, they misunderstood or something like that how many times that happens. So you want to make sure that you just keep it as respectful as possible. There are some people who you know, make sure that they always have a third party CC, when they're talking to the opposite gender, or in communication and make sure that it's always in a group. And
definitely respect that and, and appreciate that.
Anyone tight situation try to stay out of is when you're one on one with a person.
So the problem is that I said upsetting it that we all know that when a man and a woman I never together except that, say a thought is there. So that's very important as well. You avoid seclusion.
You avoid seclusion.
Keep in mind though, seclusion is not like, oh my god.
I want the elevator and the guy just got off the elevator. And I have to jump off
is when you're in a place where it's expected that nobody can see you or has access to so if you pull the stock thing on the elevator, then yes, that becomes seclusion. But if it's just the next floor. That's
I think what happens with like, with religious people, or people who think they were religious, instead of like,
what they'll fall into is that they are interested in talking to someone of the opposite gender, and they never think about like, okay, when my parents gonna think this is something that could really have a future, you're not thinking about from that angle, you know, and then they'll catch feelings and then later if something doesn't work out for them, it's been really hard for them to back off. So for for someone that needs I guess it's hard to do. But think about like, is this something that could really have a future down the road before you start talking before you show interest? Or have someone else that you trust kind of vet that situation? Like someone in your family and say it's
something someone I think I might be interested in? What do you think? Is it something that could go down in the future? Yeah, you want to make sure for sure that you keep your emotions and you know, all of these passions that take away from your rational thinking,
take control of those as much as possible. And so if you are interested in a person, that you
that you do see, you would vet it, like you mentioned, to see if it's something that's reasonable, it's something that you're paying
So, I honestly think that for people who are trying to get married, they should have this conversation with their parents, as soon as possible, really? Like, what is it that you are? Because your parents
might have a completely different idea of what they want for you than what you have. And the sooner you are able to figure that out? and figure out what is navigatable?
in that journey for yourself, the better.
Yeah, you know, for free guys, especially a lot of them are like, Well, whatever, you know, they'll they'll come around and whatever. And then then you realize that it's not that easy, if he can come around. So you have to find something that's probably agreeable for both that you want to keep the coalition's Yes, get to find a compromise very much. So you have to find a compromise.
That part of that is just knowing what are the things that you can compromise on? Knowing what they can compromise on, if they can compromise on anything?
And you go from there.
Like a lot of times, I'll talk to you and I'll just ask why some teenagers, high school kids, they're like, goodbye, getting married, and things like that. And the girl was just like, yeah, my dad said, as long as he's a good Muslim might listen. No, that's not the case. So you need to figure out what your dad is looking for. Because you're gonna think good Muslim means that, you know, guy that you're going to meet next year, when you go to your hmsa. And your parents are going to have a completely different idea.
Anything else was a bad stuff, I know, you guys have some ideas, things that have.
You know, one thing for me personally, is I went to public schools all my life, and you get really comfortable with the opposite sex.
And those kinds of settings. And so, once I left that, and kind of started in my adult life, it was like retraining myself, you know, like retraining myself in how I interact and how I, how I perceive things, it was a lot of education on my part. So I think that
you know, like, just public education, it's a good thing. But like, if you're not taught those things from like, an early level, it takes some disciplining as an adult to step back and be like, oh,
okay, yeah, you know, I'm laughing at his joke. Cuz girls laugh, you know, and they don't think anything of it, you know, where a guy will be like, Oh, she toes digging me, you know? And like, you guys, that's what guys think, like,
a young girl does.
So just kind of like learning this kind of things. And
you know, I know it's a very vague.
That's vague. No, yeah. especially girls that grow up and like conservative Muslim families. They're, like, for the most part, they're not. At least the ones I grew up with. They're not like,
going out and doing shady things. They're just giggly girls. Yeah.
I think that's very good point.
You know, a couple of things. One is I remember last year, at the U of hmsa, we had a gender relations session. And I asked the girls like,
and the guys we basically did a quick survey. If a girl is being friendly to you have what was the percentage of the guys who understood that as bH, she's like interested or flirting or something like that, versus the girls. If you're being friendly to a guy, how many of you feel like that is flirting and the girls It was like three out of 10 think that that's considered flirtatious behavior. And the guys it was like nine out of 10 consider that to be flirtatious flirtatious behavior. And so you're absolutely right, the guys meet it completely differently than the girls intended.
I do think also, it's important when it comes to this issue of
abstaining from Xena.
Two things are really important. One is
the prophetic advice, prophets a low bias and who said Oh, yeah, I'm not sure schelotto young men, whoever review is able to get married and get married. So that's advice. Number one, you have the opportunity to get married, then don't delay
for guys and girls. You have the opportunity to get married and don't put it off. You know, I I'm sure you guys took love notes and she was just so great class. I know she's so good justice position with regards to girls is to just get
Marry, like if you have the opportunity to get married at 21, or 22, or 23, or 24, or whatever it is, that you take advantage of it. And what sometimes the girls will delay it because of the degree.
He was like, I know it's not something like population, you're just like I'm on my board, whenever you have the opportunity to get married and like the degree work itself out.
Or the guys obviously whenever they have the opportunity to to sustain a household or whenever that they get married. However, the second part of the prophet SAW said him says that whoever doesn't have the ability to do that, it was salt. And let them fast. They know how to do it, it was awesome. In fact, it is helps a person lower their gaze and guard their chastity. Then the second aspect of that is, so that's the prophetic advice. But also, general advice is always to learn about,
you know, it's always to learn about and again, we remember the hadith of Ayesha Divina thirsty, not the Prophet. But she said if the first verses to read from the Quran were don't commit fornication and adultery, people would have responded by saying we're never going to stop committing fornication and adultery. You know, if you look up the book,
like on muscle, you know, the seal nektar famous book, you open up right at the beginning, there's a hot Ethan Bahati from Ayesha Ayesha talks about the different types of marriages that existed during the times of JD, like fornication was so prevalent in their society, that it would a woman would have flags outside of her house. And if she had flags outside of her house, that meant that she was basically a prostitute, people would come into her house, whenever. And if she gave birth, that she would sum up, she would summon all of the men that she slept with during that period, in which it's expected that she was the
that she got pregnant from. And she would simply say, to point at one of them and be like you are the Father.
And then the social construct was, he did not have the ability to reject what she said. So she would just pick one guy up like that. That's it. That was it.
So the second
you know, she mentioned and another another type of wedding was a man would have, for example, his wife, but he didn't have, you know, he didn't really have lineage in society wasn't. And so he would go, and he would offer his wife to somebody who had high lineage, and that man would stick with his wife, and she would become pregnant from him. And then, you know, he would bury him my son, that had high religion, society. So they were having these really weird type of marriages that existed during the time of, you know, in college. And so I shall have you lie as as a lot cancel all of these up, except for the guy that you know now.
They were a community that lived Xena, it was prevalent in their society. However, I should assess if the first verses to be revealed from the hold on we do not drink for did not commit fornication and adultery. If you would have responded say, No.
We should. She says the first verses that were revealed, we're talking about gender and not until the hearts became attached to their Lord, and then the hell out of the house was revealed. And so if you want people, it's not like people don't know, you know, you can walk up to a guy now and be like, stop having a girlfriend, what are they going to say? No.
dump your boyfriend? No.
Okay, dump one of your boyfriend.
Right? What's the problem? The problem is not lack of information. The problem isn't lack of information. The problem is lack of attachment to a goal. And so the response to that is teaching people about gender and now you're after the Great the Day of Judgment of standing apart from a lot of religion. And then when a person's heart becomes attached and soften, that's when they'll be ready to sacrifice links for allies or getting for his pleasure. Right? So that's I think, Number eight, we have two more
you're consistent in your prayers.
So Allah says in the slot that didn't have any fresh air you have a lot as a yes is that the Saba prevents from fascia and monka. And a man came, you know, the promise of send them people were talking to him about a person who drinks alcohol and prays in the province said, it may be that his prayer is going to stop him from committing from drinking alcohol. Another person committing Zina prophesized to him said inshallah their prayers want to stop you stop them from doing so. And the prayer in and of itself becomes a protective mechanism that prevents people from falling into a fire shower, and it's not possible that a person is going to go out on a date in the middle of the day.
They're gonna be like, Listen, I got to play mobile right now. Or I got to play the show, maybe it is possible, but the prayer is going to eventually inshallah tada protect people from this.
Especially if it's a prayer with contemplation and for sure. We need our tents. So the prayer is number nine. Yes, lawyer gates, very good. Lowering the gates right from the beginning, the gate is a darker shade.
The gate is an arrow for the arrows of shape. And so lowering the gates from the very beginning stops the person from all of the steps that come after that we already talked about the shape templates a person.
So those are our 10 unless a person has an 11th that they want to share.
dressed up, instead of being like, you know, you know, it's hard to be like this.
Very good. So holding yourself to a higher standard, there's a beautiful verse and multiply more or less what I still would have before.
What Oh, I guess so hubby. Allah says Raja Cassavetes, Allah says the pure and the impure are not the same. Even though the prevalence of the impure pleases you.
Like the whole world is going in one direction. And it's just natural for you to be inclined to go in the direction of everybody else. But they're all filthy, they're all impure, it's all disgusting. So Allah says, the pure righteous, the good, the wholesome, and the impure are not the same, even if the prevalence of the impure pleases you. And so even if the entire world is moving in one direction, and they are going in one direction,
then we have to hold ourselves to a higher standard, and be willing to play the role of being the strangers, the promise of Alliance and that says, there's going to come a time when a person will be holding on to that the person holding on to their faith will be like a person who is holding on to hot cocoa. And the Prophet sallallahu wasallam says that there will come a time when people who will receive the reward 50 of you must have I said, O Messenger Allah 50 of them, or 50 of us, and he said no 5050 of you, meaning 50 of the companions, because they'll be living in a time where it's just so abnormal, to be slim, with strong faith with a man and submitting to the Sharia. And we see
that every single day as we will want desire to dissolve into society and be accepted. And that's a normal desire for people to have. But it's a greater desire for an a more noble desire for a person to be willing to hold on to this faith until they meet a law as a reduction in the progress of the lightest, and then was asked by a man.
He said, also, the law tells me something that I don't have to ask anyone after you.
Like, I can just hold on to this, and I'm good for the rest of my life. This was meant to be left in the study said we'll leave on a lot. And then hold on to that.
Okay, very good luck on the table. Someone lives and I'm the guy, the other scientists in the scene, by the way, so after we're done with this series, we've got to two weeks left, we're going to be beginning
one of the classics from a bad idea, but how many. So there's a book collection that was translated into about somebody is obviously a humble scholar. He is known for many beautiful essays, as well as a number of works that he contributed in lots of different fields. But he has these beautiful essays that were translated into English in a very beautiful way, actually very good translation by data center.
And so they call it the Classic Collection. And so what I wanted to do is set up, you know, we actually have a text that we're reading through
for the next course after this. And so there's a different I wanted to get your feedback on which book actually interests you the most. There's one that he calls a short fistula, which is humility and prayer. So that's a book on humility and the books aren't long I imagine they're on 200 pages each. The second book they have is called filaments of floss, which is about a day they have a lot. Okay.
The third book that yes is an explanation of the prophetic advice to even on Beck's
best says definitely
While I called the life digital to jab, preserve, a watch a lot about will preserve the commandment of a line of law will preserve you
preserve the commandments to live a final life bunch of you. So that's the third book. The fourth book he has is called the virtue of knowledge. Specifically, from the admin setup, it highlights the virtue of knowledge of the predecessors over the successors the early generations over the later generations.
Okay, and those are the five books
Okay, then the fifth book is
the book is is an explanation of the Hadith in which the prophets of Allah it is and it says none of you will enter the agenda by your deeds.
And then the Sahaba said even you had a soul alive he said, Even me, unless a lot encompass me or embellishment in his mercy.
That's the fifth book.
So What do y'all think? Book One humility and prayer.
Seems like everybody
Book Two is the explanation of light I don't know.
Okay, nobody on there is my
Book Three is the explanation of the hadith of Nablus.
book four is the virtue of the knowledge of the ritual knowledge.
Actually, ideally, this would have been the book that I would have liked to start with, but I'm cool with not starting with it.
Is that the one of the sharper the Buddha talks about? Because that's when that's translated with a check. Is that
number five is the Hadeeth of
four is the last one. The mercy Oh, yeah, the mercy of Allah embellishment.
Okay, so I guess we're doing humility, and
that's the book that we're getting.
Cool. Fair enough.