Taimiyyah Zubair – Taleem al-Quran 2010 – Juz 19 – L187D

Taimiyyah Zubair
AI: Summary © The segment discusses the theory that humans do not do the same things as their owners, but rather do things differently. The transcript covers various historical and cultural themes, including the implementation of theSAed or Day of JFK, the betrayal of shape on insert, the implementation of "has been revealed" meaning "has been revealed," the history of Islam, and the use of "has been revealed" meaning "has been revealed." The segment also emphasizes the importance of respecting people's beliefs and not taking things that are inappropriate. The importance of friendships is also emphasized, including the need for one to have one for the sake of one's ec ec ec luck.
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membership rajim Bismillah Ar Rahman AR Rahim

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lesson number 187 suited for Khan.

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Well yo maya, the more I lay your day he and the day that the wrongdoer will bite on his own hands.

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He is going to bite his own hands. Why? out of regret YOLO he will say, yeah, Layton he has tomorrow vasudha sebelah Oh, I wish I had taken with the messenger away. I wish I had adopted the way of the messenger. I wish I had followed the footsteps of the messenger. Yeah, I'll do the I'll do some newsletters, I am bought, but out

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and around is to bite or grab something with one Steve.

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But in particular it is to bite something that is living that is alive. Like for example, your hand if you bite it, it's going to feel pain. Why? Because it's something that is living. And we have learned this earlier than what either the Hello outdoor an equal an amateur minimized when they enter upon you they bite their fingers out of rage against you.

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So when does the person bite his own hand? When think about when do people bite their fingers when they're nervous, when they're anxious, when they're worried, sometimes when they're angry, sometimes out of shock, sometimes out of grief out of regret.

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So, it could be various reasons. But over here we only have the zalim or aleja D why out of anger he will be angry with himself. He will be very sad. He'll be very regretful

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your outdoor learning or allow your day he but notice that this person has been described as learning he himself is unjust he himself is wrong. Nobody has wronged him. Nobody has been unfair to him. He has been unfair himself. Therefore he cannot find anyone to blame except himself therefore he will bite his own fingers.

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Now as long as over here has been understood as the particular volume and who is he the mushrik the cafe because in the shilka Luna alley and world cafe owner who was Lottie moon

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so the moshiach the cafe is designed and so on that day out of extreme regret he will bite his own hands

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and secondly avoiding has been understood as this is general that anyone who is flooding anyone who has done this particular loop

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and which limb is this that he will bite his own hands his own fingers yeah Oh no. Yeah Nathan he will say oh I wish that later is a health which gives the meaning of wish as well as hope that I wish if only and usually is used for such things that seem impossible like for example yeah late and econ two taraba Oh, I wish I was just that's not possible.

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The similarity when this person will regret Oh, I wish I had taken the way of the messenger is going to help it Oh, no. Is it possible? No.

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Yeah, Layton he has to Morocco su de Sevilla. I wish I had taken away with the messenger. What does it mean by this?

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Meaning, I wish I had believed in the messenger. I wish I had followed the messenger. I had adopted the way that the messenger talk.

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So when the day of judgment will come, such a person will regret and out of that regret and sorrow. He will bite his own hands, but his regret will not avail him at all.

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In throttle Azov is 66 we learn Yamato Padilla Buju whom finau Yoku Luna la Tana authority, no la her or authority Nova Sula, the day their faces will be turned about in the fire. And they will say, how we wish, how we wish that we had obeyed Allah and we had obeyed the messenger.

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So if a person does not obey the messenger today, if a person does not follow the messenger today, it will be a source of great regret for him on the Day of Judgment, great remorse.

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Because when a person does not follow the messenger, he does not obey the messenger. He's not on the right way. His deeds are not going to be accepted. His deeds are going to be turned into a menorah. And that day will become your winner. I see it for him a very difficult day. But more so desperate

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And will regret yeah away letter or war to me way this is different from later Later is I wish and Wayne is destruction. So yeah way letter or war unto me late any I wish that lamotta his phoolan and Haleakala that I had not taken so and so, as my friend.

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I wish I had followed the messenger. And I wish I had not taken that person as a friend of mine,

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colleague who is Holly,

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a friend, but what kind of a friend, a close friend and intimate friend because remember that Harlan, it means gaps, the space between two things

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from this as well. And that is that when a person is doing will do, he makes sure that the space between his fingers is wet. And for a man that his beard from inside, it's also wet. And for that, what does he do

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that he passes his wet fingers through the beard. Similarly, when you're doing will do what you're supposed to do that pass your wet fingers from the middle to make sure that the fingers are wet from inside. This is especially necessary when a person is using less water. But if the tap is running and you have your hands underneath, that's obvious that your fingers are going to get wet from inside as well.

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So Holland is what gap between things. And Holly is such a friend who has entered the gaps of your heart that his friendship has penetrated your heart. It seeped into your heart, special friend, intimate friend, close friend, someone whom you do not want to upset. Someone who you're very, very close to. You're identified with them. You never ever want to displease them. lamotta has fallen kalila. So at that time, he will wish that he had not taken so and so as his friend. Why?

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Because his friend misled him.

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His friend misled him. The fact is that a person is on the religion of his friend.

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Wherever his friend goes, whatever his friend does, whatever his friend says, however, his friend thinks, whatever words his friend says, that becomes a part of him as well.

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Isn't it so?

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unconsciously? You don't even realize and you develop the same habits. You don't even realize and you're talking in the exact same way as them. You don't even realize you're using the same words. Many times it is said that when people get married, they begin to resemble their spouse in their habits and their manner in the way of their speech. Why? Because friends they influence one another especially friends who were close.

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So yeah, we letter late and he loves his food and holiday I wish I had not taken science was my friend, because he misled me.

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about linear unethically, he led me away from the remembrance he misled me from the vicar bar that is Jenny after it had come to me. What does the vicar mean?

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remembrance of Allah.

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liqueur also mean scripture, the Quran laqad abandoning any decree, bother his journey. The Quran came to me. I understood. I believed in it. I began following it. But here this friend of mine came, I took him as a close friend. And what happened then? What happened then?

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He took me away from the

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he made me give up all those things I had started. He made me forget everything that I had learned. Look at Oberlin on a victory burger. It's Johnnie

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Walker on a shape on an insanely high doula. And shaitan is ever to the human being Hadoop. One who deserts one who abandons one who forsakes Hadoop is from how they learn and how the law is to forsake someone at the time when they need your help.

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So she thought misled me. And now when I'm in trouble, he has not come to help me.

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Similarly, that friend of mine, he misled me. Now when I'm in trouble, he has not come to assist me.

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And we have learned about the betrayal of shape on insert. Ebrahim is number 22 that will Polish a formula called El amor in the la hora de comarcal. Help were to come first left to come when Americana de la commensal fun in there under oticon first certainly falletta loony woolloomooloo and full circle.

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Chetan will say on the Day of Judgment a lot told you something I made a promise with you as well. Allow me to promise with you. I made a promise. But obviously I broke my promise. But I had no authority over you. I just told

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You and You followed me. So today, don't blame me blame only yourselves.

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So on the Day of Judgment shaitan is going to abandon people. Similarly, the friends who claim to love you, the friends who claim to be your best friends, those who are very sincere to you, those who are very loyal to you,

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if that friendship is not for the sake of Allah, if this friendship does not draw you closer to Allah, such friends will also abandon one another on the Day of Judgment. Because what do we learn at a high level battledome liberal than I do, that friends, some of them will be enemies to one another on the Day of Judgment except for who in them, except for those people who have done

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so such friendship which is not for the sake of Allah, which takes the person away from the deen, which takes a person away from the Quran, said friendship will be a source of great regret for a person on the Day of Judgment.

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It is said that these ayat were specifically revealed with regards to rocktober even Abby Marine, who was he

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he was one of the chiefs of Makkah. And he was one of the elite of Makkah. And he was also friends with Prophet sallallahu wasallam. before Muhammad Sallallahu wasallam became a prophet. He was also friends with him. And it was the habit of every marine that whenever he would return to Makkah after a trip of his, after a trade journey, whenever he would return, he would hold a feast for all of his friends and his acquaintances.

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So once he returned, and he had a feast, and he had invited many of his friends, and among them was also Muhammad Sallallahu sallam.

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So the Prophet sallallahu Sallam when he was there,

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he asked him to eat. But the Prophet sallallahu Sallam said, I cannot eat your food, until you testify that Allah is one and has no partner in his worship and that I am the messenger.

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Now, can you force someone to do that? Think about it. Realistically, are we supposed to force people like this? No. So why did the Prophet sallallahu Sallam say this to him?

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He was his friend, not best friend, he was one of his friends. And within friends, you can impose such conditions you can say such things to your friends. So because they were friends, the Prophet sallallahu Sallam told him that you have to believe only then I will eat. Sir Aqua. He believed. He proclaimed the Shahada. He accepted him he became a Muslim at that point. And then the Prophet sallallahu Sallam he ate the food.

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Now afterwards, rocla his other friends found out that aurka had become Muslim, and that he had said the Shahada before Muhammad Sallallahu Sallam and amongst those friends was obey even Hanif, who was one of the staunch opponents of the Prophet sallallahu.

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So he began questioning that have you really become a Muslim? How dare you? And how could you leave your religion? How could you go against our way

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Sirocco, he tried to convince his friend that I was just hosting honorable guests. And if they left without eating my food, that would be a source of great shame for me. So this is the only reason why I said, I didn't really mean it. He was just saying that to comfort, his friend will be even harder. But away even harder. He said, I'm not going to accept this unless and until you go and spit on the face of Muhammad sodomized.

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When you will do that, then I will no, you were only saying

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so in order to please his friend. In order to satisfy his friend, he actually went and did that.

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He left Islam, he left his belief he abandoned it just to please his friend.

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And we learned that both of these people requirement of being married as well as obey even call of both of them. They were killed at the battle. But

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now what do we see that akba out of peer pressure in order to please his friends, he even left his religion.

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Now, although these verses are specifically about him, they were revealed in a specific context. But we can extract many, many lessons from these verses for ourselves as well.

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That sometimes because of peer pressure, just to satisfy our friends, just to please them. We say things we do things we compromise our religion. We do such things that are not acceptable which are not liked by aligners messenger, but we do them anyway. Just to gain the approval of people

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just to please them, just to satisfy them.

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Can you think of any examples

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How people end up compromising their religion saying things doing things that are inappropriate just to satisfy their friends.

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Can you think about it in real life?

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Like for example, it's possible that we're at the mall with a friend. And she's not that concerned about tala timings. And just to pleaser, that's to satisfy her, we accompany here and we compromise our Salah. We don't pray on time, we say we'll pray when we get home. What can I say to her, she'll mind I'm seeing her after so long. If I tell her I have to go home, she'll be so upset with me. It's not right friends, even

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sometimes, that with our friends, when we're sitting, we laugh, we make jokes, we say things just to please one another, just to make one another laugh. And such things are absolutely inappropriate, we must not talk about those things. And sometimes making such jokes is actually how long but we will repeat them we will say that we will talk about them. Why? Just to amuse one another, just to please one another.

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Sometimes we have that laid back attitude. Why? So that they don't see is that very strict. And we're very serious, just so that we can be considered as people who are very relaxed, very jolly people who love fun, just to be acknowledged by people, we make so many compromises.

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There are times when people will claim themselves to be other than Muslim just to be admitted in a particular school, just to be admitted in a particular workplace just to get a particular passport visa, people will change the name of their religion.

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Sometimes just to satisfy our friends who may not be Muslim, or who may be Muslim just by name, we accompany them, we go to places and we eat there, where we should not be going where we should not be eating.

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Just recently, somebody was telling me that her son is being pressurized by his cousins that he should accompany them to a concert and you know, it's going to be a lot of fun. And this boy, he knows that he should not be going. But just because there's so much pressure from everybody. He wants to go and he's telling his mom, you give me permission. You allow me but his mother says How can I allow you? What do we see that many times just because of the pressure of our friends, we don't want to upset them. We go to places we witness things, we do things we eat things we say things which are not acceptable just to please them.

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There are certain events like the prom or you know some dinners, holiday dinners, things like that in which we have to go we have to please our friends we have to satisfy them. And in order to be a part of the crowd to feel a part of that crowd, we may dress inappropriately. We may say things that are inappropriate. We may compromise our Salah.

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Sometimes it happens that people say such horrible things nonsense things such as friend will say on the Day of Judgment. I'm going to ask Allah Why did this not happen? And why did that happen? And we don't have the courage to stop them. Similarly, a friend is backbiting we don't have the courage to stop them. In fact, we've become a part of that backbiting.

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Just because your co worker, your boss, your professor has set up a meeting at a bar, you will go there just to maintain that good relationship so that you can get that good work and you can get that paycheck and you can get that thing on your resume. For such things, what happens? major things are the dino compromised.

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Sometimes it even happens because of the family. That your friends Okay, your workplace, you could ignore them. But let's say if someone chooses to marry someone who is not that strong on their Deen, who is not concerned about the demon, what's going to happen? Such a person is going to end up compromising their religion.

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I remember one of my friends. Every time a proposal would come she would set this condition that does he pray five times a day.

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And she would be told you know what? Forget it. No, it's okay. You're so old. Forget about it. You're getting older day by day. Just accept doesn't matter if he does not pray five times a day. You never know he might change. But she stayed firm. No way. I'm not going to marry someone who does not pray five times a day. She did not compromise over there. hamdulillah Allah gave her husband who prays five times a day in the masjid.

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So this is the reward when a person is patient. But what happens when it comes to choosing spouses even people tend to compromise and as a result they suffer in their Deen

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but sometimes this opposition comes from family you cannot exactly cut off from them. And this is why we learned earlier that we have made some of you fitna for one another at US alone will you be patient or not? That when your family is opposing you, when your family is telling you not to do certain things which you must do. Then what do you do at that point? Do you give up or do you remain patient? Do you do suffer

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Anybody else?

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And going to the marketplace is not something that

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That is liked, that is appreciated. We learned from this, I do not be the first one to enter into not be the last one to exit. It's the place where shade line is. But what happens sometimes just to hang out with friends, just to hang out? Where do people go to the mall,

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they're not going to buy anything, they don't have any money. And if they do have money, they will go buy something today, return it tomorrow, exchange it tomorrow. And this is what they do are window shopping, going into one store after the other store listening to music, watching how am scenes I don't understand why people do that.

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Why just to satisfy friends, just to please them.

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Sometimes because of bad company, what happens to a person that he develops bad habits such as, you know, sometimes young boys will develop the habit of smoking, and they don't have much money. So that will lead them do that. And that will lead them to many, many wrong things. Where did it start from bad friends Bad Company.

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So this is a very, very serious thing laqad of Bologna and victory burger it journey that sometimes we remember what we're supposed to do this.

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But on the other hand, a friend is telling us something different. There is a bell going on in our head, it's time to pray, you should not be watching this, you should not be here. But what happens, we ignore that and the friend of Berlusconi, I need victory, barter it journey.

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And such friends, they are not sincere. They don't wish well for you. Because when you will really be in trouble they will not come to you.

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Now, this ayah does not mean that a person must not have friends.

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Because sometimes this is how we understand that friends, they can lead you astray. They can make you forget the dean they can make you do many wrong things. Therefore I do not keep any friends.

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I've seen people who do that, who say that. I might as well stay alone, because friends they're bad influence. Therefore I'm not going to keep any friends. No, this is not what the meaning of this is.

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The meaning is that a person should not choose such friends that are going to affect St.

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Because you see, the Prophet sallallahu Sallam said that Allah or Allah Dini clearly that a person is under a religion of his friend for Alianza hadoken, Manju Harlan. So each one of you should see, who does he have a friend who has he made his friend. Because when you befriend someone, there are two possibilities of maintaining that friendship. The only way that friendship will continue, there are only two possibilities and what are those that either you will change, or your friend will change. Otherwise, the friendship is not going to last.

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You understand?

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Because friendship is only possible within who like minded people.

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If you think a particular way, your friend thinks the same way you will have that friendship. But if you begin thinking differently, or they begin thinking differently, you will notice if you look back in your life, you had many friends before but you don't have them now why you've changed or they've changed, you've gone one way they've gone another way.

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So the only way that a friendship is going to last is going to continue is that either you change or your friend changes.

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So we have to see who are we choosing as our friends? Is it such friends who make us leave the dean or who make us adopted?

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We learned that rather than Java, he said the Prophet sallallahu Sallam said, Allah subhanaw taala says that my love is mandatory for those who love one another for my sake.

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My love is mandatory on those people who love one another for who sick from my sick

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and they sit together for my sake

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and who visit one another for my sake and who give generously to one another for my sake.

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What happens when two people are friends?

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What happens? They will spend a lot of time sitting together talking isn't it? They will give one another gifts. Now one is that a person befriends another Why? Because he gets benefit.

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You understand? You befriend someone Why? Because you get benefit out of that friendship. What is that benefit? Your friend is very good at shopping at makeup at fashion. If you're friends with her she's going to give you excellent tips. You know this particular store has the best makeup as the bestest as the best that and you know she has that interest so you get that benefit that if you with her, you're going to be up to date

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is one reason behind friendship.

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She's an excellent cook. If you befriend her, she'll give you a few recipes. She's very rich. If you befriend her, she's going to give you good gifts. She's very wise. If you befriend her, she's going to give you very good advice.

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So one friendship is because you want to get some benefit out of that person.

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But the other friendship is for the sake of Allah, that when you sit with her, when you meet her, it causes you to increase in your email.

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When you sit with her, she corrects you, when you sit, whether she advises you, when you sit with her, you're not talking about nonsense things. You're talking about useful things.

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When you sit, whether it's not a waste of time, it's a time spent and a lot of productive stuff.

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When you go out with her, it's not going out to the mall, it's perhaps going out to visit a sick person to go volunteer somewhere. So you understand.

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One type of friendship is for the sake of worldly benefit. The other type of benefit is to get closer to Allah subhanaw taala to get stronger in when's the

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and when a person has such friendship. That Allah subhanaw taala as love becomes mandatory for such people. What do we learn inserted? That will ask in the incentive fee hosts Illallah Dena Amma know where I'm going to slightly hurt what the lessor will help with the lesson of this subject. These two things are very important, what the lessor will help with the rest of his sub. If you have a friend who will tell you to do what is right, who will stop you from wrong, who will encourage you to do good, who will encourage you to be patient, that friendship is good.

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But if you have a friend who is encouraging you to do wrong, who is encouraging you to not take it any more and to blow up and to show anger to show frustration is that friendship good? No way.

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In Muslim, we learned another Hadith that we were able to learn who reported the Prophet sallallahu Sallam said that Allah Almighty will say on the Day of Resurrection, where are those people who loved one another for the sake of my majesty, today, on the day when there is no shade, but my shade, I will shade

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Who? Those people who loved one another from My majesty for the sake of my majesty, for the sake of Allah, they loved one another. And it's not necessary that you have friendship with a person in a new love them for the sake of Allah. And you spend a lot of time with them. And you know, you go to their house and they come to your house and you work at the same place. It's also possible you love someone for the sake of Allah, because when you read their books, you're enlightened you enjoy so much. When you listen to their lecture, you are amazed they fill you with a man.

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So this is also loving someone for the sake of Allah. The Prophet sallallahu Sallam he said, a Buddha, which is the strongest link of Eman

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meaning what is it that makes the man strong?

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Buddha said Allah and His Messenger know best. The Prophet sallallahu Sallam said, to help one another for the sake of Allah.

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This is something that strengthens the man to have friendship with one another for the sake of Allah and to have enmity for the sake of Allah.

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So what do we learn that friendship for the sake of Allah, it is a means of it is a means of strengthening your EMA and strengthening your Eman.

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So many times people have this fear. Right now I'm studying.

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Once I go to school, once I go back to work once I get married and move away, what's going to happen?

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Is it I remember when I was studying the Quran, I had this fear, especially towards the end, I was terrified. What's going to happen? Because you come every day, you're studying for so long, you go home, you opened up on any friends, you speak to any friends you work with, even their friends that you've made through the Quran, people who you see on the weekend friends that you've made through the Quran, but when this phase is coming to an end, you got terrified what's going to happen?

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So what's the solution?

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What's the solution? Having such friends who keep you straight, who keep a check on you.

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And it's always better to have a friend who is more strict than you.

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Who is not lenient than you but more strict than you, who has the guts to tell you your faults to tell you you're wrong to tell you that you need to improve. Because if they don't have the guts to do that, they won't be able to correct you they won't be able to keep your string.

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So this is friendship for the sake of Allah.

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Now we also see, it is said that there are three types of friends.

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There are three types of friends.

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One friend is like food. What does it mean?

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You always need them. You can't do without them. You have to see them every day, you have to talk to them, you have to sit with them, you have to touch base with them. They're like food. You need them all the time. You're with them all the time. What does food do gives you energy.

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If you don't eat food, you're going to feel lethargic, you're going to feel lazy, you're not going to have any energy at all.

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So there are some friends whom you need all the time in order to boost your email.

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In order to keep you straight,

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when you leave their company, when you are away from them, what happens? You feel low.

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But as soon as you meet them, you spend some time with them. As you go home, what happens you feel energetic. You feel your Eman has been rejuvenated.

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This is one type of friend.

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Another type of friend is like medicine. What does it mean? What does medicine do?

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It cures disease, it cures certain problems.

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And when do you need medicine everyday?

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Sometimes, right whenever you are suffering from something that is when you need medicine.

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So some friends or like medicine, what does it mean?

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That you do not meet them quite often. You only meet them or talk to them. When you are concerned when you are worried when you're distressed about something, you need their advice.

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Understand, you need their advice, you need their input.

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So what do you do? You share your problems with them.

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And just as medicine, cures disease, similarly, they give you good advice.

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You understand? You don't need them all the time you need them, especially when you need help doesn't mean you're using them. No, it's possible that this friend of yours lives very far away. They live in another country. They live in another city, you can't see them every day, you can't talk to them every day. It's not realistic. It's not practical. But still you're attached to them. Still you feel that they will always give you good advice. So what happens? You send them an email, you send them a text message, you give them a call, and you tell them tell me what should I do? What do you advice?

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So such friends are like what? medicine?

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There are another type of friends and Who are they? Those that are diseased themselves?

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What happens then, when you have those friends, you have a headache?

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When you have those friends, us five hours. When you have those friends, you say something foolish? You do something foolish. You go somewhere where you're not supposed to go? Do you need disease? Do you choose to have edit? Would you ever choose to fall sick? Would you ever choose to have cancer? No, never. So how can we choose to have such friends who do not benefit us at all.

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In fact, when you sit with them and you get up, you feel as though you at least did your good deeds. You feel it was a waste of time. One particular friend you added on Facebook, for example, you started following on Twitter, and what happens? What a waste of time you end up seeing things that are so wrong, you end up reading things that are inappropriate, you end up visiting pages that are not right.

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So such friends are like a disease. When you talk to them, they're negative. When you talk to them, they discourage you. When you sit with them, they make you sick, the backbite.

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So such friends, you do not need them.

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Because if you stay with them, they're going to make you sick, they're going to make you fall back, they're going to make you suffer. So analyze yourself, who do you sit with? Now you see the three types of friends,

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analyze the kind of friends that you have the people who you're with, and see what category they fall into.

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I'm not saying that people who are in are not a good influence on you, you just got off from them, and you never speak to them ever again. Just limit your interaction with them.

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either pull them this way, if they're not coming this way. If they're not changing along with you, then remember, if you stay with them, you are going to become like them, which is very dangerous, isn't it? It's very dangerous. So either you have to put in your maximum effort to pull them this way. If they're not coming this way, then you cannot be with them.

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Like the prophets are allowed to send them What did he say to recover? You have to say the shadow only then I will eat your food. When you will say that I will eat and I will say your friend when he said the Shahada, the Prophet sallallaahu status friend.

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So if you're really friends with them, and if they really claim to be your good friend then remember if you tell them something

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They should accept it. If you encourage them to do something, they should listen to you. If you are doing something, they should support you. And if they're not supporting you, if they're not listening to you, then remember, they're not your friends.

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They're not your friends.

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Because what does friendship mean? loyalty? What does friendship mean? making one another happy, pleasing one another, isn't itself

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cooperating with one another.

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So if you're doing something, they don't cooperate with you. If you want to get up and pray. They say don't pray, pray later.

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If you tell them, I can't go here, I cannot watch this movie. I cannot watch this program. There's a lot of harm. There's a lot of harm, I cannot watch it. But they still tell you no, you have to watch it Don't be so extremist. Are they your friends, then? No, they're not loyal to you. They're not concerned about your feelings. They're not concerned about your offer.

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So never think of such people as friends. They're a disease. So treat them like a disease.

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And what do you do with the disease? you cure it? Isn't it so.

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So such friends as well, you have to fix them, if they don't get fixed, then you cannot put yourself at such a big risk.

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So identify the kind of friends because otherwise, it's very dangerous luck of abandoning on a victory bar that adjourn. After the Quran came to me

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that sometimes I see even in class, that 100 of all of you are sitting together the relationship that you have the friendship that you've developed, it's because of the Quran. When you're sitting together, you have the Koran open in front of you. But sometimes what happens during class even, we influence one another in a very negative way. Like for example, fossa note, write something down and give it to the other person the class is going on. And what happens. As you read the note, as you finish the conversation, you're like, Okay, where are we on the juice, other linear and the decree?

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they made me forget the ayah number. I heard it. But I don't remember anymore. Because she said something to me.

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If you stay with such friends, if you said with such friends, you will not be able to concentrate, you will not be able to benefit from the course.

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There are many people who come who start studying. But because they don't have the right friends, what happens to them,

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their time is a waste.

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They sit in class, but they're thinking about other things. Because constantly constantly people are talking through passing notes to one another, marking each other's notes, talking to one another whispering nudging. This is bad influence.

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So first of all, tell your friends if they ever do something like this, not to do it. Because if you really wish well for them, then you're not only concerned about your notes, but you're also concerned about their notes, you're not only concerned about your understanding, but also their understanding.

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So out of well wishing for your friends, correct them.

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And if you feel that they are a distraction, it's just that you're like that when you're sitting with one another, you cannot help but talk, you cannot help but communicate, then go sit with a stranger, go sit with someone whom you're not that close with.

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I remember when I was doing the course, I would always sit close to the stage. When we were doing the course The stage was very, very usual such that by the desk of the teacher, you could sit on the floor on the right and on the left side. So the right side was reserved for the teachers and the left was reserved for the students. And I would always sit next to the stage on the left side. Always why. Because there you're under the eye of the teacher. You cannot say anything, you cannot do anything, you cannot dare to get up and go. No matter how badly you have to go. You cannot go. And I will do that only to make sure that I am paying attention in class. Because I had experienced

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that I would sit with friends who were actually very good friends. Praying Salah doing they're less than very good at tests. But it says that because you're closer and you're sitting in class, you cannot help but talk isn't it.

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You cannot help but communicate with one another. It's only natural.

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So for your good for their good. Choose a spot in class where you will not be distracted by anything by anyone for your own good for their good.

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I remember my group in charge, she was so strict. She would come and watch each and every one of us during class that what are we doing? Where are we sitting? How are we writing? How are we taking notes and I used to feel very annoyed at the beginning. But then later on I realized she wants my benefit.

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She wants my good and if it wasn't for her strictness I wouldn't be able to complete the course the way I did. I wouldn't be able to benefit

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The course the way I did it was her strictness, it was her firmness.

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So when our friends are strict with us when they're firm with us, don't take them as well. She doesn't like me anymore. She's just gone crazy. I don't know what's wrong, she's becoming an extremist. She doesn't even care for friendship, don't think like that. She wants Good for you. And if you want good for yourself and her do what she's telling you to do.

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Because one type of friendship is for personal benefit, the other type of friendship is well wishing for the other.

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And so if someone is a well wisher to you, accept that well wishes don't consider as something that is against you against your benefit.

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So this is something very very important that local order linear and victory bother it journey.

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as possible, you have memorized your lesson, it's possible you are doing your lesson but because you spend so much time talking to them so much time discussing things with them. You don't get time to revise, you don't have time to pay attention

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all the time you're thinking about their stories.

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Isn't it so?

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So do a favorite yourself and do a favorite your friends. When it comes to certain things like the Quran? Then it requires your 100% attention. And if you have to choose a place where you're not sitting with a friend, it does not matter. It's not that you're not friends with them anymore. No. It's for your good, it's for their good.

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We don't interrupt the sulfat I am 51 to 57 as well. That when people will reach Jenna and other people will reach hellfire. What's going to happen? Are the car illumine home in the cannoli Corinne, a speaker among them among the people of Jana. He will say indeed I used to have a companion. I used to have a very close friend YOLO he would say to me that are you indeed of those who believe what that are either mitten our canal Robin were a lawman in lm a dino that when we have died and become Dustin bones, we will indeed be recompensed. So I used to have a friend who used to make me doubt about the religion used to question me Do you really believe in this? You really

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believe there were going to be resurrected?

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So what's going to happen? Either * and then it will be sad to the people of gender that would you care to look, would you want to see where your friend is? For talara for air who is aware of jehane and he will look and see him in the midst of the hellfire. And then he will say pilot ally in Katana toe Dini, by Allah you almost ruined me.

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You almost destroyed me, if I had been your friend, if I had stayed with you, my religion would have gone I would have been destroyed. While Ola near metalock be the contaminated macaroni. And if it had not been for the favor of my Lord, I would have been of those brought in *.

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So what do we see

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that there are those people who compromise when it comes to their friends, but there are other people who stand for

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you understand? One is the example that is mentioned in this ayah and the other is that which is mentioned in sort of soft fat

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in this ayah what do we see that the person who listened to his friend called other linear unethically BARDA his journey

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and in sort of sofort what do we see, he did not listen to his friend. He did not get influenced by him. If he could not change him, he left his company he left his friendship

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because if you continue with such friendship, it leads to disaster.

Al-Furqan 21-34 Word-Analysis and Tafsir 27-29

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