Channel: Taimiyyah Zubair
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In Soto Casals, we were learning about the story of Musa alayhis salaam. And we stopped at the point where we learned that mozzarella his salon was now in Medan he had just been offered basically
a proposal of marriage as well as a job. And he accepted that. And the agreement was that he would stay in Meridian for either eight years or 10 years he was given that option. And most already said I'm said that whichever of the two terms that he agrees to fulfill, he didn't see any problem with that. Meaning he didn't think that there was any, you know, injustice being done to him, meaning he didn't think that either of those two terms were unfair. So he wholeheartedly willingly agreed to
accept this offer. And we learned that this is where now he lived for the next for the next few years. Because Allah Subhana Allah says in in the next area, which is verse number 29, where we will begin from is that philomela Oba muscle Agila that when musala his salon fulfilled the term, meaning he completed the term that he agreed to fulfill. And even our basketball de la Mourinho said that this was the longer of the two terms meaning he stayed in Midian for 10 years. Now for these 10 years what was most already said, I'm doing, we know that the lady that he married, she was a shepherdess before, right and she had asked her father that Oh, my father hire this man, meaning
moosari has sent him Why would he hire him in order to do the job that his daughters were doing? And they were basically, you know, tending to their sheep. So mozzarella, who Sam worked as a shepherd we can easily draw from this that he worked as a shepherd and we learn in a hadith that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said that Allah did not send any prophet except that he cared for sheep, meaning every prophet of Allah who was a shepherd, at some point of his life, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was asked over here that What about you? Did you also look after sheep and the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, Yes, I was a shepherd with a modest wage on behalf of the
people of Mecca, meaning he also worked as a shepherd. Now, we see that looking after sheep, or working as a shepherd is is a profession basically, that Allah subhanaw taala, decreed for all of his prophets and messengers. Why, because through this was basically their training, they had to take care of their nations, of their communities, they had to guide them and be and lead them and protect them and care for them. So their training came through looking after sheep. Now, there's many, many lessons or many skills actually, that one can learn by being a shepherd. Now, of course, for majority of the people being a shepherd is not something that is possible today, however, when
you look after living creatures, living creatures that are entirely dependent on you for their survival, then there are many skills that you learned, there are many changes actually, that occur in your personality even and this can be through looking after you know, pets or even you know, working with little children or even you know, taking care of plants. Any there are very important leadership skills basically, that a person can develop through this exercise. So, there are 10 things that I want to discuss today when it comes to
lessons that a person can can gain or skills that a person can develop by, by being a shepherd or by looking after living creatures. First of all, the first skill that a person develops is responsibility. Why? Because you now have living creatures that are entirely dependent on you for their survival. And you're not just responsible to take care of them for an hour or two of the day. No, they're dependent on you 24 hours a day. Right? If you have plans, for example, in your house, in your work place, you cannot just leave them, you know, for weeks or four days, no, you have to make sure that you are watering them on schedule, you have to make sure that, you know, you are
putting them in a place where they're getting sufficient sunlight, you have to make sure that they're getting the right soil, you have to make sure that if they're infested, you know, with some gnats or something, you take care of that, right. Likewise, if you have a pet an animal, or you're working with little children, whatever it is, you realize a sense of you develop a sense of responsibility, you're not just focused on your own self anymore, you understand that there are living things that are under your care, that are dependent on you. So you can no longer be careless, you can no longer be selfish, you learn to take care of others. And this is something very important
for a leader, if a leader is selfish, self centered, then the people that are with him are going to suffer. But when a leader has a real sense of responsibility, then only can the team or the people that you know they're working with, can flourish. Secondly, you develop strength, how looking after sheep requires a lot of hard physical work, right, you have to take them out for pasture, you have to walk long distances, you know, you take them out early in the morning, you have to bring them back, you have to you know, take them back into the barn, etc. It's it's physically demanding, it's physically strenuous, right? Likewise, if you're looking after plants, again, you know, you have
there's physical work involved, if you have a pet, there is physical work involved. So the strength, you know, that you develop the habit that you develop of, of working, this is also essential for a leader, because a person who is lazy, or person who doesn't want to work, you know, who just wants to chill all the time, who's just looking for, you know, reasons to just take a break, such a person cannot really be a successful leader. So,
so that's the second thing that you develop strength. Thirdly, you develop patience and resilience, patience and resilience, because the thing is that when you're looking after sheep, you cannot yell at them, right? You cannot scold them, you cannot instruct them, you cannot order them around, you cannot expect them to act intelligently. Right? Likewise, if you're working with little children, it's the same thing, you cannot just lecture them, you cannot just put a list of rules on the wall and expect them to follow, right? You cannot expect your plants to, you know, grow in a certain direction. Because you said so. Right? Know, you, you develop a set, you know, patience, and
resilience. And also when it comes to sheep you need they're very miskeen creatures, right? So, you, you you develop patience with them, because you when you get angry at them, you can't just go and kick them, right, you cannot just go and and scream at them, it's not going to make a difference. And you also develop the courage to, you know, to defend them, because sheep are very good prey. So there's lots of predators. So you have the you develop the courage to fight them off. Fourthly, you develop a sense of commitment and consistency. Because when you're looking after sheep, or you're looking after, you know, a pet, or, or whatever it is, you don't get days off. And you learn to work
every day, you learn to, you know, how to, to follow a schedule, you learn to, you know, fulfill your commitments. You know, when it comes to the animals that you keep at home at a pet for example, you have to you know, give it its breakfast, lunch, dinner, or how many ever meals it needs, you know, you have to provide for that. So you develop a you know, a consistency of working regularly. Number five, you also develop compassion because like a man
Earlier that sheep are very, you know, miskeen creatures very docile, very vulnerable, they cannot be left on their own. They need care. Right. So you, you develop a sense of compassion. Also sheep actually reproduce very quickly. So very often you get to see, you know lambs, alright baby animals. So when you're so close to something so beautiful, your your heart kind of becomes soft. And leaders need to be compassionate. You know, leaders must be disciplined, but at the same time, they must also be compassionate.
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So yeah, when you have things relying on you, you learn to
develop consistency, which I think all of us need to temper the law. So yeah, number five is compassion. You you develop compassion when you're dealing with when you're taking care of animals when you have someone relying on you. Number six, you also develop a sense of attentiveness, and watchfulness, when it comes to sheep, you have to be extremely careful, you have to keep an eye on them, you have to make sure that, you know, no one sheep is you know, wandering away. And, you know, you're you're watching out for any dangers, any predators. So, you know, when you when you take a herd, or a flock, for example, for for pasture, you cannot just leave them to eat, and then you go
take a nap, you cannot do that. Likewise, if you have, you know, if you're working with little children, you cannot just take them out to the park, and then just sit with your phone. A lot of people do that some, you know, many parents do that, that they will take their children in different places, and then they're just busy with their phones. And then they realize how their children got hurt, or they, they they saw something they witnessed something inappropriate or that they were taken advantage of any, this is
any very lazy attitude, right, which which leaders cannot have so. So through taking care of sheep, you develop a sense of watchfulness and attentiveness, number seven.
By taking care of sheep, you also learn the skills off, you know, you you learn better geography, right? You learn better geography, you learn navigation skills, you learn the ability to read the sky, because you're closer to nature, when you're taking sheep out, and you You better keep an eye out to see if if there's going to be rain, you start paying attention to the weather, right to the, to the different seasons, to the temperature. Likewise, even when you have plants at home,
you know, you you pay attention to the moisture in the air, you pay attention to you know, whether it's sunny or not. If you have pets at home, the same thing, you you you become more connected with the natural world.
The number eight, you, you you learn and you grow as an individual. When you are living just you know for yourself.
Yes, you may have a lot of skills. But you know, you're kind of, you're not reaching your full potential. When you have dependence, whether it is humans or animals or plants or whatever, you learn, you know good management skills, you realize that your dependents have needs, and you have to fulfill those needs. Right? And in order to fulfill their needs. You realize I have to fulfill my needs as well. You know, for example, if you haven't eaten proper breakfast, if you haven't eaten proper dinner if you haven't slept well, how can you if you haven't rested, well how can you take care of others. So when you have to take care of others, you learn to take care of yourself, you
learn to manage your time well you you learn to, you know, be more resourceful to to take care of your of the resources that you've been given to manage your time well, so as an individual, you learn and you grow. Number nine, you also learn simplicity and humility, right? When you are for example,
Looking after sheep or even a pet at home, you have to clean them, right you have to bring their food, you have to, you know, clean up the mess that they make,
you have to clean the cage, right? When it comes to the plants, again, you have to trim you have to,
you know, touch soil, you have to get your hands dirty, you have to sit on the ground, so that you learn humility. And if there is a leader who is arrogant, you know who's not humble, then such leaders cannot truly lead. Likewise, when you when you're taking your sheep out for pasture you cannot be wearing, you know, the fancy stuff, right? When you're dealing, when you're working with sheep, your your body literally begins to smell up the barn. Right, when you have to walk long distances, you learn to travel lightly. So this teaches us simplicity and humility. And both of these are essential for effective leaders. And finally, looking after sheep,
you know, gives you the opportunity to enjoy solitude, because for hours on end, you are away from people, right. And when you are alone, surrounded by just animals, you you learn to connect with yourself, you get to think you get to reflect on your situation, you you get to reflect on, you know, on the different things that you observe. And solitude is very, very important for personal growth. So
these are, you know, some important skills that one can learn by taking care of sheep. And of course not if not cheaper than other creatures, animals, plants, working with children, etc. ABB skills are important. The prophets of Allah, we're not just you know, people who were selected at random, Allah subhanaw taala chose the best human beings to be his messengers. And every single one of these messengers was made to go through this training, because you cannot lead from just you know, with a fancy title, you cannot lead people, you know, wearing fancy clothes only, or, you know, sitting from or sitting in a fancy office. Leadership means working with people getting on your knees, being
humbled, getting hurt, having that realization that I need to grow, I need to learn, I need to be better, you get to connect with people, you develop more, you must have compassion, you learn to manage your resources as well. You also get to experience solitude. So all of these are excellent, you know, for leaders, and this is why it's important that we allow ourselves and our children to develop these skills by taking up such responsibilities. You know, these days, a lot of people are at home children are also, you know, studying at home online school, this doesn't mean that we are completely disconnected with the world, we can still develop these skills. And I would say for
parents, it's an excellent opportunity, bring plants in at home, also, you know, bring pets why so that children develop these skills. Because one of the, you know, impacts on children off, you know, physical distancing is is that they're actually losing their social skills. They're becoming more socially awkward, and we're supposed to be social creatures. And if we're isolated, we're so disconnected, then, how are we supposed to be effective in our work? So it's important that we provide these opportunities to our children. Now, when it comes to the father of these two girls, who was he exactly? Some say that this was actually Prophet triparty he said, Because prophet
Charlbury Salaam was also for madeon. And this man was, you know, ha, and an elderly man, he was a righteous man. He was very good to me, sorry, son. And so he was sure I barely his son. However, there is actually no evidence for that whatsoever. If you if this was very rarely his son, and that would have been mentioned somewhere, but it has not been mentioned. And secondly, if you think about it, Prophet Shari Birla, his son M is supposed to be any a prophet of Allah who is, you know, respected amongst, you know, his people. How is it that in that entire community, nobody is helping him and his daughters have to go and work like that as shepherds. So, so clearly, any the this was
not very, very excellent profit. Sure. I've already said that was at a much earlier time.
Anyway, now we learned from other muscle Agila
So when musala is Salaam Baba he completed an Agilent the term
Allah is to fulfill to complete something and agile is a, a specified period of time. So it was agreed that either he would stay for eight years or for 10 years. So mozzarella is Sam, he agreed. He fulfilled the term. Okay, even our best for the long run, who said that this was 10 years, the longer of the two terms. So, either one, when he completed the term was Salah, bsv. And he traveled with his family
is, is a word that is used for one's household. It can apply to one's family or even people, but it also applies to one's wife. So either he was traveling just with his wife, or perhaps it was more than just his wife, maybe if they have children. So the children were also their cell will be early. But definitely his wife was with him. So he traveled with his wife, where were they traveling? It's not mentioned in the Quran. But given that we find out that Musa alayhis salaam was travelling through the Sinai, it seems like he was on his way back to Egypt.
But Allahu Arda, so sarabi Allah He now he's traveling anessa he perceived Min janee booty from the side of the mountain food, what did he perceive now on a fire? Now, the word Anissa is from Ines which is to perceive something or to see something from a distance all right from a distance, it is also to sense any either you hear his sound or you see something or you smell something you basically detect you perceive. So this is what Enos is. So he said
at this time when he Anna salmon journey be pulling out or now Jenny, Jenny beside and food is the mount right where Alice panels on a spoke to mozzarella, his center. So from the side of the mountain, he perceived a fire. So he was he was they were traveling on the you know, from the side of the mountain. And at the mountain when he looked in that direction, he perceived a fire. So at that time, when he perceived a fire on a he said leave early he to his family or his wife, Uncle Sue, all of you stay over here, you remain over here, you wait over here on coso is from MacArthur and MacArthur is to stay or to remain somewhere for a long time. It is also used for waiting. So he
said uncle Sue, you stay here in the anus too narrow Indeed, I have perceived a fire. So you stay here lighly t caminhar be hovering. Perhaps I can bring you from that fire some news. So picture this in your in your mind will salia salaam is traveling with his family. And as they're traveling, he perceives he detects a fire on the mountain. They're traveling. They're moving along the side of the mountain. And what happens at that time he says to his family, you stay here. I have received a fire. I'm going to go there. And perhaps I can bring you from it. Some kind of hubbub some kind of news information. And if not that, then at least Oh God, what a minute now. A agenda of fire. Now
what is Jaguar? Jaguar is a piece of or you can say smoldering coal,
burning coal. So basically a piece of wood that is burning, not with with flames of fire, but it is smoldering, right and you can use something like that to light more fire. So he said I can bring that to you learn Lakota star loon in order that you may warm yourselves. Thus the loon is from Isabella and he aspires to warm oneself before an open fire.
Now, there's a lot of things to notice in the suta a lot of lessons to take a lot of things to appreciate. First of all, we see over here that Mozart he said them.
He fulfilled the term, right? He did not, you know just get married. And then after two days, he's like, this is too hard. I don't want to work as a shepherd. I'm not happy over here. I'm going right? And because you know you're my wife, you have
I had no option you come with me I decide I'm the man. I'm the poem I decide. So you just come with me. mozzarella is Sam made an agreement with the, with his father in law, that he was going to stay for eight years or 10 years. Right? And mozzarella Sam, after he got married, what did he do? He fulfilled the term. He will he fulfilled his word. Unfortunately, it happens very frequently. And this is something that is heard a lot that people make promises and commitments at the time of the marriage. You know, for example, the girl is assured that yes, yes, you know, after you after you're married, yes, you go to school, you complete your degree, you complete your education. Of course,
you can, you know, continue working. Of course, you can do this and that any a lot of promises are made.
But then they're never fulfilled. People will back on their word, or they change their mind. And, and this is very, very unfair. A person entered into an agreement with you nica is a contract, right? Marriage is a contract, a person made an agreement with you entered into a contract with you on certain terms. And now, after making the contract, you cannot break those terms. This is unfair. So, mozzarella has Salaam. Look at his integrity. He fulfilled the term. He didn't leave early. We learned in total Isra number 34. What Oh, formula in the law, the kanima schooler that fulfill the promise because the promises are going to be asked about when you when you make a promise with
someone, you know, with your potential spouse that yes, you can work. Yes, you can travel. Yes, you can do this. Yes, you can complete your degree. I'm perfectly fine with that. Yes, we're going to move here. Yes, we're going to live in a you know, this is going to be our living arrangements, etc. Then fulfill that intro to Sapphire, two and three las pantherella says yeah, you are Latina, amanu, Lima, taco, Luna, mulata falloon? Or you will believe Why do you say what you do not do come with a McDonough in the lie and taco lumada tough alone. This is something that is very great.
You know, in anger near Allah, you need this is something that Allah subhanaw taala detests greatly that you say what you do not do. So, you know, any kind of contract that is being made, whether it is, you know, work related, or business related or marriage related, when you agree, on a certain term, then fulfill it. Unfortunately, this is also heard very frequently that people, you know, enter a contract, they say, yes, we're going to work with you, you know, as a teacher, or whatever, you know, for this school year, but then what happens within two, three months? I'm leaving, right? Why? Because I got a better job. Right? Of course, circumstances change, sometimes things are not in
a person's control, they're not able to continue with their commitment. And if there's a, you know, if there's a genuine reason, understandable, but then come clear, right, say that I have the intention, and I'm extremely sorry, but my, my situation is such that I'm not able to fulfill this, so forgive me, but I am not able to do this, any, when you make a commitment, fulfill it, and if you're not able to fulfill it, then at least acknowledge and admit the fact that you're no longer going to fulfill it because of such and such reason and then compensate the person, right, make up for the damage that you have caused them. Because this is a sign of hypocrisy, that a person makes a
commitment and then they don't fulfill it, that they leave people to fend for themselves. And they leave sometimes organizations or businesses or, or whatever it is to just figure to figure it out themselves. So this is unfair. And there will be consequences to this. And not just in the hereafter but even in the world. Any if a person is giving their word and then they're you know, making and then they're doing piano, then do they think that there's going to be no consequences. And if this is coupled a McDonough in the law, this is something that Allah subhanaw taala detests greatly, then using they're going to be no consequences. So yes, we're dealing with people. But you know, Allah
subhanaw taala is the one who we are answerable to. So we should fear a lion in regard to this. So musala is Salaam, Allah muscle agile, he fulfilled the term and then he traveled, then he went elsewhere. Secondly, we notice in this ayah, about how mossadegh is Salaam, ne when he fulfilled the term. He didn't just stay in Medina.
Right, the agreement was that he could stay with them for eight or 10 years. And then Mossad I said, I'm after that any he moved, he didn't stay there saying, you know, there's a home here I have a house here, I have a job here, there's people here, you have all of these free benefits, so might as well stay. No, he wasn't just free writing over here. And unfortunately, a lot of people do this, where for example, you know, a family member or a close friend has offered to help, you know, a certain kind of help for a certain duration, they will enjoy that. But then after that, they will, they will keep taking advantage of it. You know, for example, if a family member offers you that you
can, you can use their house, right? You can live there for, let's say, two years, three years. And then, you know, the three years are over after that, don't just stay there, because what are they going to do? Are they going to evict you are they going to get a court order or something, any respect?
you know, rights as well, they have been generous and helpful towards you. But that doesn't mean that you, you constantly take advantage of them.
Thirdly, we see over here that most artists and I'm Sara Lee, he traveled with his wife or with his family, any when he was moving from medion, or he was traveling in he took his wife with him, he didn't abandon her. Right, he didn't just leave her over there. And this is important that after marriage, and yes, if the husband decides to move to a different country to move to a different city for work reasons, whatever reasons, and he has the right to take his family with him. And actually, he should, this is not fair, that that you know, women are, are left on their own, you know, sometimes with children, and they have to manage, you know, children's schooling and bills and
housework and everything, and where's the husband? Well, he's, he's living in a different country, etc. Any, if it's, you know, for for temporary duration, or met or because of reasons that are beyond your control, understandable. But for years on end, if though, if the husband and wife are living apart, and this is something that's going to damage their relationship, this is something that's going to create, you know, a mistrust and also a lot of distance between the relationship. Then we see over here that Mozart to his son, um, he saw the fire right, he perceived a fire on the mountain. And he said to his wife, that uncle Sue, you stay here, right? You stay here, you wait
here all go and get some news or some coal, right? Now, why it seems like
this was in the night or at a time when you know, night was coming in, it was too close to nighttime. And perhaps it was also cold and they had lost their way. Right? Or it is said that most artists and and couldn't figure out where to find water. So when you see a fire, all right, in the desert, then you know that there are people over there, right? It's it's people who will have lit the fire. So, when you go to them, you can ask them information about you know, navigation and also where to find water etc. So, this is why most artists and have said that perhaps I will go and I can bring some news from there. And if not, that at least I can bring some you know coal so that we can
light a fire and you all can warm yourselves. Now this is mentioned in Surah Taha I and number 10 where last panel Florida says it now one for Cali le him kusal in the anus to narrow busara Listen, I'm sorry, a fire and he said to his wife, you remain here. I have perceived a fire largely it could mean habeas corpus in Urdu Ireland nury houda I can either bring some coal from there or I will find some guidance, meaning from the people who are who have lit that fire in suta naml ayah number seven Allah Subhana Allah says in color most early early in the anus too narrow, so it could mean heavy harbouring o t combi she has been covered in law law contest alone. There also it is mentioned I
will bring you some news or at least I can bring some cold so that you can warm yourselves. So we see over here that most RT is sent out. And he he told his wife You stay here, right? You wait here all goal and get the news information or the quote he he did not send his wife that you know I'm tired. I am
Taking a break, all right, you're going to figure it out.
Nor did he tell her that come with me. Right? I'm not going to go and do this alone. We can clearly see over here that he wants ease for his family. He wants ease for his wife. Even though his wife was actually very capable. She was a very strong and independent and capable woman who worked as a shepherdess. Alright, when will sorry to his son, I'm at the family. So he didn't say to her, you know, you're strong, you're capable, you know what to do. You can figure it out, you're an independent woman, go, you know, find out get some information. And if you can't do that, at least bring some coal from there because hey, I'm cold. And I want some food. I want some Chai, right?
mozzarella has senang is taking care of his family. He's not expecting from his family that you all pamper me, right that I'm going to sit here and you guys, you you do all the work. He's not expecting that from his wife. And this is something very important that a lot of men are actually forgetting these days. In the Quran where Allah subhanaw taala says original kawah Moon Allah Nisa that men are responsible over women, this doesn't just mean that their boss and they should order women around all the time. No, Allah Subhana Allah says over there be mouthful but Allah who Baba whom Allah, because Allah subhanaw taala has given preference to some over others will be my
unfuckable mean unworldly him and because men spend from their wealth, from their property, to reasons are given over here as to why men are column. First of all, because Allah Subhana, Allah has given them that physical strength. And really, on average, we see that, you know, that when it comes to a husband and wife, even typically, on average will find that the husband has more strength, physical strength compared to the wife. Right? I'm talking average. All right. Not were not those exceptional, or, you know, unusual cases where the wife may be stronger. Even if, if that is the case, any there there are situations where, you know, women are, you know, menstruating or they've
recently given childbirth, it cetera. So they're, they're physically weaker, and men don't have that men have that physical strength. And then they are required to spend on their wives. So this is very unfortunate that a lot of men will expect their wives to, to take on so much work on their shoulders, that they have to work as well. Financially cook, contribute to the household, and then they have to do the housework as well. And then they have to cook and clean as well. And they have to take care of the children as well. Any it's unfair if all of that responsibility is given to either person. Any both have to share the load, both have to share the load. And these days really,
but it can it's unfair, where, you know, it is expected that women should do all of the housework. And for some reason, it is undignified any for men to do housework, where we see that the Prophet of Allah will sorry, his name is telling his wife, you stay here, I'll go, right, you rest. I'm going to go all the way to the mountain and climb that mountain and get the information and then bring the coal and then come back to you so that you can be worn. He's taking care of his family. So remember, this is prophetic character. The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam also, when I shadowed the Longhorn, who was asked that what did the Prophet sallallahu wasallam do at home? What was her
reply? her reply was that canopy magneti Allahi that he used to keep himself busy serving his family. And when it was time for Salah, he would leave, he would go to pray. So the Prophet sallallahu earlier said when he was at home, he wasn't just ordering people around that you bring me this on, you bring me that and you do this for me. And I'm just going to take it easy. I'm just going to take a break because Boy, am I tired? No, he was in the service of his family. And the same way when a man comes back home, he there is a Sunnah inside of the inside of the house also, that why is it expected that a woman should be the only one who is preparing the food or who's cleaning
up or who is you know, doing all the house chores. This is hard physical labor, hard physical labor. This is not the wife's job. In fact, him I'm a nobody writes about a woman preparing food and cooking and washing clothes, etc. For the husband. He says that this is all voluntary work on the part of a woman toward her husband.
And her good dealings with him. These are all good acts on her part. And this is not focused on her, this is not an obligation on her. So this is not an obligation if she does it excellent. And if she doesn't do it, she cannot be forced to do it. But it is an excellent tradition. He says that a beautiful custom that women have been following since the first generations that you know, they will do all of this work. Why? Because this is a way of showing love and care to your spouse. But this is not an obligation. And this is something that needs to be mentioned and recognized and remembered that it is not an obligation on a woman to do all of the housework. That in the evening when
everybody's sitting and relaxing, she is the one who is expected to do all the work while everybody else is sitting in front of the TV or just sitting on their phones and, and and chilling. This is unfair. It's because of this imbalance that we see that so many women are suffering in their in their health, they're physically depleted, they're emotionally exhausted. their relationships with their children with their spouses are you know are you know, really becoming weak? And then they have no energy left for a bother any? Yes, we have examples of great women a smart or the long horn, her father modeled yellow horn how they will do all of the housework. But they were not the only
ones doing it. Right. So you have to see what works for your family. But in this is a beautiful example that men must, must contribute to this and there is no it doesn't make a man a less of a man if he is contributing to housework, right and contributing to housework doesn't mean you do the vacuum once a month. No It means every day. You You do the basics. At least you pick up after yourself at you, you you manage your own things. And then you also make time to help everybody else at home. So moosari his solo. He is taking care of his family and then we see his concern for his wife. He wants his wife to be warm, Lauren lagunitas balloon, any there's that empathy. There's love
and care for the other. Right and this is something important within spouses in sort of the room. I have 21 we learn women AR T and Haleakala Coleman and fusi calm as well Jen Lita, schooner, la Hawa, Darla Bina Kuma, that an aroma that Allah subhanaw taala has created molad that love and mercy between the husband and wife, and this love and mercy needs to be expressed. Right? It needs to be shown. And how is it shown concern for the other that, you know, I'll do this, I'll walk all the way. I'll bring the call, I'll bring the fire so that you can be warm. mozzarella ism is willing to take on all of that discomfort, why to bring comfort to his family. And then we see over here that
most artists in any he's really fulfilling his duty as a husband, right as a problem. And then look at the good that Allah subhanaw taala brings him right, he goes to the mountain, just to bring some news or some fire to you know, so that his wife can be comfortable. But look at the good that Allah subhanaw taala gave him at this point, he went searching for information as to how to navigate through the desert. And Allah subhanaw taala gave him Prophethood guidance as to how to free an entire nation. Allahu Akbar. So remember, when you fulfill your obligations, all right, whether as a man or a woman, within whatever relationship that you have, when you fulfill your obligations. When
you care, you know, when you show care and concern for the other, then you're not wasting your time. You're not wasting your time. This is something rewardable the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said that you will be rewarded for whatever that you spend for the sake of Allah. Even if it is a morsel of food that you put in your wife's mouth, a morsel of food that you put in your wife's mouth you get rewarded for it. So what do you think any effort that you make to bring ease to your family, whether it is that you're paying the bills or that you are you know, hiring some help, so that the house can be cleaned, etc, any kind of you know, expenditure you know, that you are incurring,
you're being rewarded for it.
So, then what happened Phelan utter her when mozzarella is Sam came to it, meaning when moosari is Sam came to the fire, meaning in the mountain, what happened No idea. He was called Min shalfleet he from the side and where the of the valley which side of the valley an Amen the rapes and and splits
Specifically that need that that sound was coming from where Phil bucaro till mobile aka in a blessing spot, and in that blessed spot was a tree and the sound was coming from the tree mina shedule from the tree and yeah Moosa that almost sir. What was the NIDA the sound that he heard the call that he heard he was called that yeah Moosa or Musa in me and Allah who la buena alameen. Indeed, I am Allah, Lord of the worlds of Akbar. Just imagine what most artists and I would have felt at that time. Now, some words over here from the ATO. Hi, Nadia, Nadia, this is from NIDA, NIDA is to call out to someone This is also used for calling out to someone with a raised voice. So he
clearly heard and min sharply in where the shouting is, is the side or the bank of a river, the edge right or, or the side of a valley and Amun is that which is on the right side. So this was on the right side of Masada, his salon. So sharply Eduardo, Ayman Phil, bucardo, mobile Raka bucherer is
is a piece of land all right or a spot basically, bookmark is a small piece of land All right.
Or spot Okay, that is site and from the same route back off rain is actually the word back here, right definitely back here. The graveyard next to the masjid must you the number we sow philbrook automa Baraka Chateau rottie, Enya Moosa in me and Allah who tabula alameen so the tree from which the sound was coming was located in the bokhara right and that bucaro was blessing why was a blessing Why was it mubaraka? Because Allah subhanaw taala spoke to me Sorry, said I'm over there. And it is said that the fire was on the tree, the fire that Mozart SLM had perceived, and the voice that musar s&m heard, was coming from there. So Allah subhanaw taala said to him, that the that in
the and Allah that that the one whom you hear being the one who is addressing you is Allah, Who is Allah Rabbul aalameen Lord of the worlds the creator the owner, the master of the entire existence instead of the normal is eight and nine I just said follow murgia when most artists that I'm approached it no dia and booty come and fanatee woman hola her was so behind Allah He rumbleroller mean similar statement. That blessing is the sound that you hear coming from the fire meaning meaning the one who you hear Allah woman how Lucha was so behind Allah here have been robbed Bella Allah mean and Glory be to Allah Lord of the worlds yeah Moosa in the who and Allah who noses would
have came or Moosa indeed it is I Allah, the Exalted in Might be ever wise into the fall how verses 11 to 16. It is said fella utter who knew the area Moosa when he approached it, he was called out that will Moosa in the analog book indeed I am your Lord meaning the one whom you hear is your Lord far learned our Lake so because this was a blessing spot was already Salaam was fold remove your shoes, remove your sandals. Why, because in the Kabbalah De Luca De Soto, indeed you are in a sacred valley of tour. What an outdoor Taka, and I have chosen you I have selected you festa merely my you have to listen attentively to that which is revealed to you. In nanny and Allahu La Ilaha Illa NFR
botany we're up in Asana utterly decree, Allah parent I told him, that indeed it is I meaning that the one whom you hear, I am Allah, there is no god worthy of worship except I therefore worship Me and establish prayer for my remembrance. Here also we see the most artists that I'm is told in the and Allahu la burrata mean, Allah subhanaw taala informed him of his oneness, the fact that Allah is one. The fact that He alone is Lord, the fact that He alone is worthy of worship. Therefore most artists and I was told for Buddha he worship Me meaning worship only Allah and establish prayer.
So the first lesson that most artists that I was given over here was a lesson of no hate the lesson of the oneness of Allah subhanaw taala the fact that he alone deserves worship. And then we learn into the haha 18 to 20 that Allah Ponderosa said well my tilka be a meanie Keanu said that almost What is this in your hand? So most artists that I've replied that this is my our salon, my staff, on which I recline and I bring down leaves
For my sheep and I have other usages in it as well. So Allah subhanaw taala then told him what an LPR sock were and next Aya number 31. That was an LPR swarco that throw down your staff lt in thought is to throw something lamb coffea is the root and the stick of musar SLM he will scroll through it. So he threw it and what happened for the model when moosari sam saw his stick his staff that does Xu quivering moving that the zoo is from has a say, and it is when something is shaking, right or quivering, there's there's a commotion there is movement, the word is also used for something coming to life. Like for example, in the Quran is mentioned that when it rains, then you
see the earth, you see the ground that does it does it sorry, it does that. What about that it? It is moved with life, right? And it's it swells up. It comes to life. So this the staff what happened that the zoo, it was quivering, it was shaking, it came to life. So and it looked unhappy as if it was janome a snake or the word jam? No, this is from their old gene new noon. And the word Jen is actually used for a snare for a ishay plan right aging right? Well hello call Jen Merriman. Now, in total when we're told that Allah subhanaw taala created the jinn and the word that is used over there is a Gen from fire. So it's actually used for a for shaitan right for a demon, but the word is
also used for a large snake, alright, why because just as a demon is harmful dangerous shaitaan is dangerous just like that a snake can also be very dangerous shaitaan is or jinn are hidden from a you know our view and a lot of times snakes also you know, they hide and all of a sudden they appear and they cause you know harm. It is also said that this specific word agenne refers to a male snake that is very large, right? Some say that it is a white or a yellow snake with with black bordered eyes, Alo Arnhem, it was a snake, it looked like a snake when most artists that um saw that one lamb would be Wallah, he turned around, right would be raw wood mood Bureau. This is from dooba dooba
This one's back, meaning he he took a complete turn right showing his back and he ran Welham your octave and he did not even turn back he did not even look back, let me octave dark he was to look back right or to or to follow any he turned around, he ran and he didn't even look back. He kept running away. He was so afraid of that huge thing that appeared to be a snake. So Allah subhanaw taala said to musar they said I'm yamasa or Moosa a kabil approach aquileia cabal is to come forward facing something. So comforting approach, meaning approach this snake, well at the half and do not be afraid. Meaning Do not be afraid that the snake is going to harm you because in the communal
Armenian indeed you are of the Armenian Armenian is a form of the word emin. an airman is someone who is secure, or it's someone who is granted safety. So you're going to be safe, the snake is not going to harm you. Now, a lot of things we can appreciate over here, we see first of all the obedience of Masada, his Salaam, Allah subhanaw taala instructed him, throw your stick, throw your stuff and we'll start Islam didn't ask why, man. Oh, the reason first?
Is there a reason right? He realized the command is coming from Allah. Throw the stick, right? He didn't even ask that as in Should I get rid of it? Why why throw it just for now? Can I take it later? No questions. Nothing at all. Allah subhanaw taala gave him the instruction. And most artists Alam obeyed. He followed right Sameera. Now what Aparna we heard and we obeyed. This doesn't mean that we should not understand the benefit or the reason as to why a certain instruction is given. But that's only a side benefit. Any we don't have to know the reason the reasoning behind why the last panel tada
has given us certain instructions. And we don't follow those instructions. We don't obey those commands for those benefits either. We follow the commands of Allah we obey the instructions that allow us parents or has given y to show obedience to Allah. Right? We do it for Allah for the sake of Allah, because we have surrendered to Allah. Right? You know, for example, if a Lost Planet Allah has commanded us to fast in the month of Ramadan, you could say that, you know, the benefits of fasting in Ramadan to your, to your physical health, right are a, b, and c. Or, you know, you you get to feel the hunger of, of the poor and the needy, etc. Any, yes, these are some benefits, but
they're not the reason why we're fasting. Because of that was a reason to become to have healthier bodies, there are so many other ways. If the reason was to, to feel empathy for those who are in need, while you may have a lot of empathy anyway, or you may be of those who are in need anyway. Right? So the reason why we obey Allah subhanaw taala, or why we follow certain instructions, is not for the benefit that they bring us. No, it is because Allah subhanaw taala commanded us. That is the ultimate reason. So musala his ceram he exhibited this, this obedience, he obeyed, immediately. And then we see that when he saw, you know, his stick turned into a snake, he was afraid.
And he wasn't just afraid, a little bit, he was so scared that he ran away, and he didn't even look back. And this shows us that the prophets of Allah were human, they felt fear, fear, you know, the fear that was very natural. And remember that fear is a is a natural response, right? It's a natural, emotional response, that you know, to something that that your body perceives to be your mind proceeds to be dangerous or harmful. So feel the fear of something, is a very natural response of the body. This is not something that contradicts Amen. All right, the fear of something is a natural response. It doesn't mean that your man is weak. Now, there's different types of fear, of
course, there's the fear that leads to,
you know, seeking refuge, etc. where there could be shipped, like, we learned that the people of Makkah were, you know, so afraid of the jinn, that when they would travel, they would actually seek refuge with the jinn to protect them. Right? This type of fear is, is wrong. So a fear that leads a person to shake, or a fear that leads a person to disobey Allah subhanaw taala, that kind of fear, of course, it needs to be managed, but the feeling of fear the emotion of fear, that is not something blameworthy. I this is a biological response. So it's not something for which a person is blameworthy. And then we see the last panel thought I told him, that almost a comeback approach and
do not be afraid. So basically, most artists is told to face his fears, right? Don't run away from it, rather face it. And he was told two things approach and don't fear. Why, because in the communal, meaning, it won't hurt you, you will, you will not be harmed. And this lesson was actually very important for most already. So he was going to go face the wrong and that was no easy thing. He needed to develop this year pain, this conviction that when Allah subhanaw taala grants me security I am of meaning I am of those who are secure, then nothing can harm me. So instead of running away, I have to face my fear. And we see that this exposure to fear or his his facing of fears
have made him stronger. Look at how most artists and I was so afraid over here but then later on, he's able to speak to fit our own, he's able to deal with money is raw he in fact when he is standing in front of the water and fit our own is behind him. Will sarnia senang was not afraid at that time he said color in memorial of bcfd that with me is my Lord He will guide me Alright. So sometimes it is very difficult to face our fears but it is necessary to become stronger. Now this doesn't mean that you go seek dangerous situations no but then you know sometimes that is the you know if it's done in a controlled way, as part of, you know, therapy that's understandable. However,
if you ever put in a situation
In a world where something you fear comes before you,
instead of thinking constantly of how to get away from it, how to run away from it, start focusing on how you can deal with it.
Then we'll start isn't Emma's told us look either Kofi j Beck insert your hand into the opening of your garment. Let's look is to silica This is to insert something in another. So insert your hand into your Jacob and Jacob is the opening of the shirt. So insert your hand into your shirt and then the huge Baber it will come out meaning when you will take it out it will appear to be by law by law meaning shining white, your hand will be white mean lady Sue without any Sue without any Sue harm, danger or evil any it's not that your hand will be on fire. So your your your hand is burning. No, it's not that your hand is diseased, which is why it has lost its color. You will not feel any pain
mean lady soup. Alright, so this was a miracle that most artists and I was given that his hand when he would insert it into his his, the opening of his shirt.
Some say all the way under his arm and he would bring it out it would shine. Alright.
Secondly, he was told what mommy Laika Jenna had come in a robe what the mom what mom bomb is to is to
bring something right to draw something
join it with another Okay, so what mon join Jana Hakka your side. Okay? To what a Laker to yourself. Okay, so welcome a Laker Jenna Hakka what is Jenna Jenna is the Wink of a bird for example. Now human beings don't have wings what is meant by Jenna of a human being is their arm, alright or some say the hand. So he was told that join your arm or your hand to yourself. When meaner rub out of fear meaning when you're afraid and Rob is extreme fear, a lot of hope. When you're feeling extremely afraid, then what should you do? Join your arm to yourself or put your hand on your chest as one of the companions interpreted this, when you will do that, then your fear will go away. So
musar Listen, I was given a coping strategy, how to cope with his fear, because what he was going to do was something very dangerous, speaking to fit our own, leading the bunny his thought he was he was going to face a lot of dangers. So how was he to calm his fears he was he was taught a strategy. Almost puntata said for then a couple 100 Anima Robic These are two shining evidences from your Lord Buddha Han bohannan is a dual of Buddha Han and bouhanni is a clear evidence clear evidence. And he
It was not enough to just speak to fit around or to give a message to fit out or to warn fit our own fit our own needed to see clear evidences so for Danica bohan animate Robic These are from your Lord enough in our own to fit our own woman that he he and his elite meaning his his his people in the home Kendall Coleman facet pain indeed they have been a people who are defiantly disobedient and they must be stopped therefore goal with these clear evidences and, and deliver the message. Now there's a lot of lessons we can take from this first of all, we see that Allah subhanaw taala, equipped masayoshi son with miracles before sending him to fit our own. Right. So likewise, when
there is you know, a challenge, or you know, some some work that you're getting into, make sure that you are equipped, you know, you have for example, the evidences, you know, what you're going to say, what what you need most artists and I was equipped with the miracles. Secondly, we see that it was not enough to just deliver the message to fit our own fit our own needed to see clear evidences. So it is important that you give to people what they need. Some people it's enough that you just tell them other people they need convincing. So if that's what they need, offer that to them. Thirdly, we see, well sorry, this Anna was given a very effective coping mechanism, right, how to help himself
in a state of fear. And this is important that first of all, we should acknowledge we should recognize
You know, matters in which we need help. You know, for example, if you feel that you easily get anxious, recognize that if you feel that you get extremely afraid, if you feel that you begin to panic, if you feel that you get easily sad or easily depressed, whatever it is, recognize that accept that there is no shame in accepting it. And it is only when we acknowledge when we recognize that, can we help ourselves, right? So Mozart, his son was given a very effective way to help himself, deal with fear. And we see that you know, this way that he was taught that put your hand on your chest, this is one interpretation, this is something that we're actually made to practice five
times a day, where we put our hands and our chest insula. Right? When you do that, literally, you're putting your hands on your chest, you know, on your heart, you can feel your heart, you know,
you know, moving so fast, you, you kind of calm yourself and we see that the Prophet sallallahu already said and whenever something, you know, worrisome,
or difficult came on him, what would he do, he would go and pray. Alright, so, we, you know, we should learn ways to help ourselves, what we do, you know, in contrast is that, instead of helping ourselves, we we shame ourselves, right? And that is not healthy. Recognizing areas where you need help, is is is is a healthy attitude with yourself. And then learning ways to help yourself is also very important. But unfortunately, a lot of times we don't even want to, you know, for example, go to a therapist or or get a diagnosis or even find out if there's, you know, any issue out of the fear of shame, or or the fear of the stigma that is attached. And yes, there is stigma, absolutely,
there is, but you're not doing this for other people. You're doing this for yourself, right? Look at how most artists anime was afraid, and he was not shamed for his fear. He was taught how to deal with it. And this is what we need to shift our focus to, whether it is ourselves or it is our children or penal people in our families, instead of shaming them for their weaknesses or their struggles. We need to shift our focus to helping them inshallah, we will conclude over here inshallah for today and the next class we will continue with the next day. So panicle lahoma, will be handed a shadow Allah ilaha illa Anta as the Furukawa Tobu La Casa La Mora Alaykum warahmatullahi