Channel: Taimiyyah Zubair
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inshallah, we will continue with our study of su two cos and today inshallah we will do a quick recap of what we did last time and then we will carry on. So inshallah we will begin from verse number
Almost pantherella says for sale por la Houma, Sumatra, Walla Illa Willie for Karla rabine Lima and Zelda Isla Yemen hyden faqeer Masai Salaam when he reached by the end, and he found a group of people at their watering place, perhaps it was a well, and there were lots of shepherds who were drawing water out of the well for their flocks. But over there, he noticed that there were two women who were keeping their flocks awake. So Mozart's Alam went and asked them that what is the matter how come you're not letting your animals drink? So they said that we just wait for the men to leave before we take our flocks. So mossadegh is Salaam took their sheep and Massara his Salam drew water
out for them. And he gave the sheep the water to drink. And then he took the sheep back to the two ladies. And then he went back to the shade. And he made the raw and what was this Dora Robbie in the Lima and delta Li m in hiring, forget that, oh my lord. Indeed I am for whatever good you would send down to me in need. And he uses the word fatigue, to describe himself for Peters from fucker. And Fokker is poverty. Basically fuckwad is when a person has nothing with them. So he describes his condition as that of a floppy, that Europe I have nothing and I am ready to take anything good that you send my way. So most hardly is said and basically expresses any extreme extreme humility over
here. You see, sometimes there are people who are in need, but they're also very particular about what they're willing to take. They won't accept anything, the end, just anything that is offered to them that they're very particular. And they're very specific, that yes, I am in need, but I want you know, this much or this particular thing. But there are some other people who when they're in need, they're willing to take anything, they will even take your leftover food or or extremely old clothes or clothes that are not, you know, in a good condition. And of course when we are giving the you know, we have been taught the etiquette that only give what you would also be willing to receive
yourself. But that's not the discussion over here. The point is that there are different types of people or different types of beggars there are those beggars who are just willing to take anything and then there are those beggars who are very particular about what they're willing to take well sorry, who said I'm shows extreme humility over here and basically he is saying that I am willing to take anything good that you send my way. Basically what he's saying is I am desperate and he exhibits this great need before Allah subhanaw taala but notice that most are his sin um, he realizes that he is an extreme need, but at the same time, he has that sense of self worth. That you
see sometimes we think that we have worth only if we have certain things in life, right? That only if we have you know a certain car or a certain amount of money or a certain physical appearance or you know we're wearing something, then only we have self worth we define self worth by our
you know, worldly possessions or certain circumstances that we think are good. But Mossad has said I'm even though he has nothing, look at the self worth he has or how, you know, positively he he he thinks about himself. That Yes, he doesn't have much
But he has the ability to help other people. And when he sees that these two women are in need, you know, he, he doesn't just say that, you know, what could I do? I'm a stranger here or I'm a complete loser. No, he, he has that sense of self worth. He has that sense that, you know, I'm still capable of doing what I can. And this is something that we should remember that even if the odds are not in our favor, even if we have suffered a huge loss, even if our you know, resources are extremely limited, things are not, you know, the way we would like them to be, we should still focus on or or feel, and appreciate the blessings that Allah subhanaw taala has given us. And when we appreciate
those blessings, and we use them, well, then Allah subhanaw taala his promise is that like in Shackleton letters he than
the Charlie, if you're grateful, I will, I will increase for you, meaning I will increase the blessings for you. So we see over here that mozzarella is Salam. In he, he uses even though he he is for clear, before Allah, he doesn't act like he is useless, he doesn't act like he is completely incapable, no, he does whatever is within his capacity. And this is what we are required to do that it or rather, this is what is expected of us that we focus on what we can do not, you know, just on our inabilities and our limitations. So moosari Scylla makes this draw. And in the following verses, we will see how quickly his bra is responded to, and how and how Allah subhanaw taala gives him so
Then what happened fauja to the home item she are listed here, then one of the two women came to him walking with extreme shyness and we discussed this before that the way she carried herself. She She reflected a great deal of hire. And like a lot of move as soon have said that this means that she was literally covering her face because she was going to speak to a man. So she she didn't just go, you know openly no she she covered her face when she was talking to him, and then call it in Abuja, the ruka Leah Zika, a dilemma subtitle and she said indeed, my father invites you that he may reward you for having watered for us. Any you watered our animals for us. So my father wants to pay you he
wants to compensate you. Now the word lidsey aka This is from Joseph, James I yet and Joseph is, you know wages or reward. So my father wants to give you wages, reward you for the favor that you showed us. So it's it's not that my father wants to give you some charity, no, my father wants to compensate you. Because you initiated the SN. Right? You You watered our animals for us. And this is why my father wants to compensate you. And my subtitle subtitles from seeing coffea and sukiya is to is to is to give water the same from the same root you have words that mean you know, irrigating the land or giving water to people to drink. And here it was the he he gave the water to to to the
animals meaning to the to the sheep that that belonged to these women. And perhaps because Masada has sent him he he he watered the animals for them they returned home sooner than expected and this is when their father inquired then that how come your home so early so when they informed him he said call that men
and then fell in Nigeria who Walker Sarla Hill also us. Now one thing is that these people
the father and his two daughters, we see their dignity also over here that someone a you know, a stranger help them but they did not just you know, take that help for granted in the sense that they didn't just say Oh, nice of that men, you know, good person, not just that they truly appreciated his his heir son, and this is why they wanted to compensate him. And this is from prophetic from prophetic character actually. We see that even the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam and he was willing to receive the help and the gifts etc. that his companions offered him son Allahu alayhi wa sallam, but he would not take that for
Granted, he would always reciprocate in one way or another. There are times when, you know when when he bought something when he took something from someone, he actually paid the price because that was the agreement. Like, for example, when the Prophet sallallaahu Ernie who was selling them,
you know, he bargained with General de la Mourinho that sell your camel to me. And eventually when they agreed upon a price, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam actually gave that price, right? Then we see that even when it comes to the land, that was taken for most of the nubbly even though the people want it to give it as a charity, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, you know, he, he said he set a price and, and it was paid.
But there are other times when things were given to him as a gift, and he received that as a gift also, when people were especially helpful to him, especially, you know, supportive the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam praise them publicly. So, this shows is that, you know, when people you know, do us favors, we should not just take them for granted, whether those people, our family, or their friends, or they are strangers, any reciprocate in one way or another, you might not be able to fully compensate them for the favor that they have shown you. But at least we can say, a thank you, or we can praise them, right, or we can, you know, make the offer them. Now, of course, when we
are, you know, helping other people that should be entirely for the sake of Allah subhanaw taala. And that is not where we set conditions that you know, I will only do this for you, if you make golf Ruby, I will only do this for you, you know, if you do such and such to me, before me,
any don't don't do favor in order to demand a favor in return. However, when when someone does a favor to you, then don't take that for granted. When it comes to, you know, the care and the love and the the support that your parents show you, thank them for it, appreciate them for it. You know, don't take that for granted that you know you're going to the kitchen, you just eat your food, you leave your dishes at the table, that you know someone is just going to come and take care of them. Or that you're, you know, every month you're taking money your father is paying for your car insurance for the gas, etc. And you're you're never looking at your father with respect, you know,
taking all of that help and all of that, you know, care and financial support for granted. This is something that does not befit a humble servant of Allah. So, reciprocate in some way, you know with whatever though faith that Allah subhanaw taala has given you use your words, use your you know, your your actions in whatever way possible reciprocate. And then what happened for alumni who will Casali will cause us one more time Musashi Salaam came to the father of these two women and passarella he also was he related to him the entire story, which story his story from the beginning and and his story of you know, the events that happened in Egypt because of which he had to flee
from there and how he ended up in Medina and he told him the entire story. Now the word costs costs both of these words are from the root of salt swabbed and also his to his, he narrated a story okay and also this is a story or that which is narrated. So he told him the entire account, you know about the accidental murder, and his sphere of fit our own etc. So the father he said, Call a lotta cough he said Do not be afraid, no joke, I mean, it'll come you learn to mean you have escaped from the wrongdoing people. Now, the word no joke that this is from najat noon Jean was the root and najat is to be is to be saved. Basically,
the primary meaning of the word Is it is it is a high place. So, so, when a person flees to a higher place, then what happens is that that they have escaped whatever difficulty was there for example, in the ground below. Also know Jota This is in Nigeria is from the same root Nigeria is, you know, a private conversation. So, when someone in Britain brings them close to you, you know, they have kind of, in order to speak to you privately they have removed you or they have taken you away from the rest of the people. So now Jota you have escaped the the difficulty that you were in you you have escaped the the fear or the danger that you were in. And how is it that massarotti Sam had escaped
that danger because he was no
longer in the land of Egypt, he you know, he fit our own did not have any rule or power in Medea. So, this this man, the father of the two women, he comforted musala his Salaam, he gave him that assurance. And he he he basically, you know was trying to mend his his broken heart. mozzarella, Sam was afraid he was worried he was lost. So this man comforted moosari his Suleiman in such a beautiful way, latter half Nigel terminal como bonamy lolly, mein is a plural of volume. And volume is someone who does wrong someone who commits oppression. And a coma lolly means the entire nation of Iran was a nation of oppressors. Because remember that, that, you know, a ruler or King no matter
how evil he is, he cannot, you know,
cause harm to others unless and until his subjects cooperate with him or the people who are working with him actually listen to his orders. So the the entire nation was a nation of lovely mean. And why is it that he describes them as lonely mean, as a presser is because they were not being fair with the bunny is slightly ill. And here, we're, we're moosari is sad, I made a mistake, there, we're not going to be fair with him either. So, he comforts him that know Jota meenal tomio bonamy. Now, one thing that we should appreciate over here is that mozzarella is Salaam, he told him his entire story, right, he was very honest with him, he was very upfront with him. And that and you
know, this is this is the habit of truthful people, that a person who is truthful will be truthful in all circumstances, right. You know, sometimes what happens is that if a person comes across someone who is completely
you know, unfamiliar with their life, then a person gives a false image that you know, I am so, this and I am so, that you know, a false image in order to impress other people. And this is where people will try to hide their faults or they will give a completely different, you know, image of the of the reality. So, most artists album is not like that, he tells him the entire story, he tells him about the accidental murder, he tells him about, you know, what caused him to flee to leave Egypt and how he ended up in Medea and this truthfulness is actually something very, very attractive. You see, sometimes when we are meeting you know, people, for example, a potential spouse or you know,
their family or for example, a you know, a new employer or a new business partner, etc, we want to give a very good impression. And we think that being honest, or being transparent means being weak, right, because we look at our flaws, as of course, they are imperfections, but but we think that they make us less worthy. And because of that, we try to change the truth or we try to hide the truth, we try to cover it up, people lie about their age, people lie about their you know, their, their financial position, people lie about their you know, their work ethic people lie about their family, people lie about so many things. And where there is dishonesty, remember, there can never be
any trust and where people will not be able to trust one another How could a relationship thrive over there? So you know things happen in life mistakes happen.
Also me moose Ali Salaam had made a huge mistake over here you know, it was accidental murder.
You know, and likewise there are you know, parts of our lives which wait which we may think are not that beautiful, but embrace you know, your your your embrace your your decreed that what Allah subhanaw taala has decreed for you. Whether it is something regarding your health, or it is something regarding your financial position. Be honest with people, and when you're honest, it shows that you are trusting and that you you want to be trusted, it shows that you are you know you when you're honest, this is something that is actually very, very attractive. It's something that makes a person beautiful, but when a person is trying to cover up pretend, you know do this color of be
pretentious then this is some
thing that that people do not find beautiful. People become wary over there. So most artists Anam was extremely honest over here. And this is something that, you know, spoke a lot about his character. His entire personality was so beautiful. You know, he was helpful. He was strong. He was honest. So what happened
on the Houma, one of the women, one of the daughters of this men, she said, Yeah, but he Oh, my father is the dude who you should hire him. She She is the one who is suggesting to her father that Oh, my father hire this man is that Jew? And is that dude who is from Hamza Jima, I mentioned to you earlier,
agile is a wage, right, or a payment that is given to someone. And it's the job is to hire someone in return for some wages. It is that you employ someone for some work on the condition that, you know, they will do the work and you will pay them. So she says to her father, that Oh, my father hire this man. Why? Because clearly this man has nowhere to go. And we are also in need. And this man is actually a very good candidate, because in the halo monies that gelatin away, you'll amine. Indeed, the best one you can hire is someone who is strong and trustworthy. Any for a person, like you who is old, right? Who has two daughters.
You need someone who is the weak, and who is a mean, someone who is strong, who is capable of doing this difficult work, because tending to sheep is not something easy. And I mean trustworthy. You know, someone whom you can rely upon someone who's not going to cheat who's who's not going to, you know, exploit you, because you are old, you are weak, you have daughters, right. So you don't want someone who will just run away with your flock or who will cause harm to you or your family. So in your position, someone elka will amin is perfect. Now,
one thing that is interesting over here is that as a daughter, she is giving, you know this suggestion to her father, right? Some people think that women, a woman's voice is only good in the kitchen, right or in or when it comes to housework, or when it comes to you know, children, etc. Now, this is a matter of, you know, their family business, this is a matter of hiring someone potentially. And she is giving her suggestion, she feels safe enough to give her suggestion and her suggestion is excellent. Right? Hire this man. Right? This will benefit us and it will also benefit him. And he's the perfect candidate. So we shouldn't be, you know, so
you know, so arrogant that in, you know, a lot of people because of their cultural background because of their, you know, thinking they just completely disregard anything that women say, Alright, and this is unfortunately, common, and unfortunately very sad. Because why be biased against someone just because of their gender, consider what they're saying. Right? There can be women who who are far more intelligent than men. And of course, there can be men who are that who are very intelligent, any, it's not the gender of a person that defines their, you know, their intelligence. It is, you know, their experience, their expertise, their knowledge. And these women,
of course, there were working women, they knew the nature of this work, they had a lot of experience, right? They were very, you know, familiar with the, with their circumstances with the position of their father. And so, this suggestion was was truly very good. It was excellent, right? It was a win win situation for both parties. Right. So she says in the halo minister, gentle karela mean, when we discussed this earlier also that
when it comes to, you know, employ employing someone or asking someone to do some work, selecting someone for you know, for a task, then it's necessary that we examine these two qualities that do they possess these two qualities are not which qualities first of all the quality of goolwa and secondly, the quality of Amana
being capable of doing the required work. And this this means physical strength, but also, you know other types of strength depending on what the nature of the work is, are they capable of doing the work? Are they qualified to do the work and masala Salaam had clearly shown his strength? Right his strength was evident by how he took the flock and he drew the water out of the well and he gave the water to the flock and he returned the animals. And before that, also the way he came from Egypt all the way to Medina and the way he accidentally killed someone, he just punched him he didn't intend to kill him, but a punch, you know, was enough to kill that man. And he his schoolwork was very
And secondly, his trustworthiness, right his his Amana was also very evident, right? How he was very committed and loyal. That first of all, we see that, you know, he even though he was raised by fit our own family, he did not, you know, abandon the bunny is not you, he, he didn't belittle them, he didn't turn against them. He actually tried to help them whenever he could. And this is the reason why when when the two men were fighting, he went to help. And then we see his his trustworthiness in the sense that, you know, he, he took the flock and he returned it. Right. And specifically, the fact that he was dealing with two women, right? And the way that he that he, you know, interacted
with them was so honorable. You see lusardi salaam, and he showed no hana at all, no hana. And a woman knows from the way that a man is looking at her. A woman can tell what kind of a man it is, where the eyes are wandering where the eyes are going. Right? And how is this man talking? Because some men, you know, they will flirt under the guise of religiosity. Right? They're clearly flirting, but they're pretending to be super religious. Well, Sally Cena was not like that. Well, sorry, his sin. I'm very, you know, straightforward. To the point he came and asked, What's the matter. And when the women told him, he went straight to business, he took the animals, watered them return the
animals, and then he went and sat in the shade. Right. So this, you know, this woman knew that Musashi Salaam, he had no piano, even in his eyes. So if he had no piano in his eyes, then this means that he would have no piano in other matters, either. So the person who is worth hiring, the person who is worth getting in a long term work relationship with is someone who possesses strength, and someone who possesses a manner. And remember that when a person fails to do their work, then it is because they lack one or both of these qualities. Either. They don't know what they're doing. You know, they don't have the strength, they don't have that capacity, they lack the skills to do the
work. Or they have the skills, but they're not trustworthy, right? They do piano, and it's because of these reasons that they're not able to, you know, do their work. So, ourselves also, we should, you know, reflect over ourselves and see that any work that I am willing to take,
do I have the necessary strength for it? Do I possess the kuwa? In order to do that work? And secondly, am I willing to be trustworthy over here and completely honest over here, that, which means that if I do make a mistake, I I admit, I confess, right, not that I throw it on other people, and where people act like this, that the mistake is theirs, but they put it on others than such people are not worth working with. Because today, they're putting one person under the bus tomorrow, they're going to put someone else under the bus. And this is only going to affect the work. So musar, like I said, I'm possessed both of these qualities. And so this woman suggested to her father
hire him. And it seems like the father really liked that idea, because most artists, and he would benefit from this and they as a family would also benefit. However, being realistic. And he this man had to, you know, daughters, unmarried daughters who are young, and here is a man. You know who is also single, right? unmarried, and if he was to hire, you know this man well
Most artists um, if he if he was to hire him and hear his daughters, you know, you're just waiting for some problem to happen, right? You're just waiting for some problem to happen because it's unrealistic to expect young people to remain chaste while they remain unmarried. And people from the opposite gender are constantly in their face. So this man very intelligent, he said Allah in need redo an inky haka ahead of Natalia time. He said to Masada, his Salaam, that any redo
I want an en que haka that I should wear Do you I should have you marry, who is that Natalia, one of my two daughters have attained these two, any, I want you to marry one of my two daughters? Why does he begin with marriage? Because,
of course, like I mentioned earlier, you know, it would be very
dangerous to the, you know, to the,
to the soul, right?
Not just, you know, this young man whom they were inviting into their family, but also, you know, his, his his daughters, that it's, it's it's unfair, that you constantly put young people unmarried people in situations where there are, you know, people from the opposite gender constantly in their face, but they have no
either they're not married and this is a constant fitna for them right this is a constant source of trial for them constant source of tribulation for them. And this is why the Prophet salallahu alayhi Salaam encouraged young people to get married in the Quran also we learn what unki who I am I mean, that when it comes to the singles among you get them married. So, we think marriage is only when
you know, you your career is completely established, you know, your businesses completely established, you know, you have completed your degree, etc, you're you know, you you are independent, etc, then you should get married. And yes, that is excellent, that you are, you know, completely independent and, and then you get married that is that is ideal, that is excellent. However, if there is an opportunity where you find a good person, you know, that then Why delay unnecessarily? Yes, it can be a little challenging to, you know, be married and still focus on your education or on your work. But being married at the same time is also very helpful because it keeps
you grounded. You know, it's, it's one thing that you know, you want to do in your life, right? So it's, it's off of your list now, right? You're not constantly worried about Oh, who am I? Who am I going to marry? Am I going to find you know, Mr. Right, or miss right? You know, it cetera, et cetera. So it's something that is a part of life, right? And if you find a good suitable person, then then why refuse? Right? And we see over here that Mousavi salon was not Mr. Perfect at this point. Most artists and I was who he was a refugee. Right. He had fled Egypt, he was hiding in Midian. Right. He had committed, you know, accidental murder. He was fleeing charges, basically. And
that's because he knew he was not going to get a fair trial. fit our own had already decided to kill him. Right, Mossad Assad was not financially stable. He was not financially independent. And he was from the Bani Israel who were a slave nation at the time. So any What did he have? What was his family background? You need this man, this father, he, he looked at the qualities of Masada, his center, right? He looked at his present condition. And this is important that when you're looking for a potential spouse, you look at who they are at the moment. Sometimes what happens is that people get stuck in the in the in their past that, you know, 15 years ago, he did this or she did
that 10 years ago, he did this. She did that. No, look at what they're how they are at the moment. Right? What is their present condition, don't judge them for who they used to be for who they were. And secondly, do not judge them for what they might become in the future. Because this is also a huge mistake that people make that when they are, you know, thinking of getting married to someone they keep thinking of, you know, okay, he's not that religious. But, you know, what if he becomes religious, right? Yes, she doesn't
hijab, but you know what? I will force her to I will tell her to and she will listen to me. Right? Don't Don't do that to people accept them for who they are at the moment. Yes, you you want insha Allah that they will become better in the future. But that's what you're thinking that's what you're hoping for. Right? You don't know who they might become. And there are people who are extremely religious at the time that you marry them or or at the time that you meet them. But then down the road, what happens things change, right, we learn about them Habiba? Oh, do you love her on her she was married her and her husband, they both embraced Islam. And things became extremely difficult in
Makkah, so they migrated to Abyssinia. And Abyssinia was a land of Christians, the land where there was alcohol, etc. And so her husband fell into, you know, bad habits and he actually left Islam. So Pamela, he he left Islam, someone who made hyjal, once upon a time ended up leaving Islam. So these things happen. So when you're looking for, you know, a potential spouse, please don't judge them for who they were, and who they might become in the future. Right judge them on on their present condition. Right. And when you look at the present condition of most artists, and I'm over here, he had shown a great amount of Buddha and also a manner, right, he had been honest. And so because of
these qualities of the father of these two girls really liked him.
And so he said in the ad to an okie haka, Natalia hottie.
Another thing we can see over here is that the Father is making the marriage proposal. And in many cultures you need this is something that is disliked, you know, a man can have his daughter sitting at home, who actually want to get married, who are asking their father to find someone, but the father does not want to because it's, it's, you know, it's against his honor. It's, it's against his pride. And this is something that is not from our religion, this is something cultural. So here, this father has no hesitation in asking a good man. You know, he sees a good man. And he asks him, but I want you to get married to one of my two daughters. And, of course, he says one because it's
not correct that a man marries two sisters at the same time.
But then, of course, musante sent him in, he doesn't have any, any financial stability. So how is he supposed to, you know, provide etc. So, the father, he says Allah and Giovanni Semenya, who judge on the condition that you serve me for eight years, that you work for me, meaning you are employed by me for eight years on the condition and he says, but in Atlanta ashlan, but if you complete 10, meaning instead of eight, you complete 10, feminine or Indic, then it will be from you, meaning it is completely up to you I want at minimum.
firstly, we see that he is setting a condition over here that I would like you to marry one of my two daughters on such and such condition. And this is something completely permissible, that at the time of Nika, it is completely permissible to set reasonable conditions. Okay? A woman can set those conditions, the man can set the conditions the Wali of the woman can set the conditions as long as those conditions are reasonable, that is something permissible. And of course, you know, people circumstances vary, and it is good to, you know, to set these conditions in order to be clear. You know, for example, if if the man if the father of these two girls would say that, you know, I would
like you to marry one of my two daughters and Mozart is and I'm agrees they get married, and then after that, he says, No, but you have to stay with us, you can't go anywhere. Right? That that would cause problems, if you have any expectations, whether it is with regard to, you know, schooling, education or work or, you know, living conditions, etc.
Make them clear, you know, for example, if a woman wants to make sure that she is living in her own, you know, house apartment with her husband, not with other family, she should make that clear. And though and the one he the father is the one who should clarify that. Not that after the wedding now, after the marriage, you know, there's, you know, the girl is just upset in that, you know, this is what I expected. This is what I thought and the guy says, Well, you never asked me, you know, why, why?
Why have expectations that are not communicated clearly. A lot
At times, what happens is that at the time of the marriage, these expectations are not communicated. And then afterwards, there are, you know, there is disappointment, there is anger, there is frustration, there are expectations that are never fulfilled. And this is something that affects the marriage. So, it's important that whatever concerns you have, whatever goals you have, you know, you make that you make them clear to your potential spouse, that I intend to study, for example, I intend to work for example, I intend to live here, for example, make those things very, very clear. So that later on, there are no surprises and no disappointments.
And of course, if you have none, then then that is also fine. But where you do, then make sure you get them clear. So the father communicates very clearly, he says, These are the conditions I want you to work for me for eight years. Now, is he saying this, because, you know, he is kind of selling his daughter to moosari? Son, I'm no, you see, when,
you know, when a man marries a woman, he is obligated to financially provide for her? Right? Well, sorry, listen, I'm had nothing. So if he were to get married, and then tomorrow, leave you Where are they going? Right. And, and how is it that most artists alone is supposed to provide for his family, right. And also, any musar listener was a very capable person, but at the moment, he had nothing, all he needed was some kind of help and support. So, a lot of times this happens that there are young men who are very capable, but they need some help, right, they they need some guidance, they need a mentor someone to tell them that you know, what you work for me or you work in this business.
And you know, I will invest in your business, I can employ you for this work, etc. Any young men, where they are obligated to financially provide for their families, for their wives, at the same time, they need some kind of guidance, some kind of help, to be able to stand on their feet, everyone is not a you know, so privileged, that they come from a very, you know, financially stable background, or that their their current situation is perfect that they have, you know, job security, etc. Sometimes they need that help, they need that guidance. And if, for example, the girl's father is in a position to help him then why not? Why Why be arrogant over here and why expect so much any
think about your own youth? Right? Think think about when you were a recent graduate, when you were struggling to find a job, when you were struggling to you know, to be more financially independent, you you know, you you struggled and if you are in a position to help someone today, then why not help them, but some people make this a matter of their ego. Right? That No, if he is to marry my daughter, he He better be financially strong, He better be like this, He better be like that. And unlike this, you know, people lose good opportunities. So here the father of the two women he sets a condition that you work for me for eight years and of course if most artists and I'm were to work
for him for eight years and what would happen was already Sam would have a place you know, he would have a family and this family would also benefit from his presence from his hard work. But he gives them the option that eight years and if you want you can make them you can complete them as 10 Now the word that is used for yours over here, hey judge, hey judge is the Florida of the word hedger
and hedger definitely you need generally understood as a year why because how is once a year and so it lunar years, because hedges once a year, so eight lunar years, and this shows us that hedge was of course performed at that time. Remember that Ibrahim or his son Abu came years and years before, most artists and because most artists in them is from the descendants of Ibrahim or the center. Brahim, only Sam is the one who began who initiated the Hajj. Right. So this shows us that had existed at the time people people went and did Hajj. So samanya hatred means eight lunar years. Secondly, others have said that so many are headed pigeage hidta actually means a season or or time
of harvest, you could say. So,
if for example, someone had a farm 800 would mean eight harvests. Okay.
But because these people were owners of sheep or you know animals this would mean eight generations of sheep okay meaning you work for me until you know this flock is is replaced by another flock which is replaced by it you know the next one the next one until it okay eight or 10
regardless of you know what exactly the duration of these hedge was the point is that a term was fixed right and agreement it or or very clearly the man communicated that I want you to stay with me and work for me for this long and if you make that 10 then that is a favor from you and I would appreciate that one out what do you do on a show car lake and I do not wish to put you in difficulty. Now, you see, the father was agreeing that moosari sam could offer his services his work as Mahesh okay. And remember that sometimes people are in a position to give something monetary something that that has, you know, money or gold or or you know, house property something like that
something tangible as much but other times they're not in a position to do that. So, a man at the time of marriage must give something to the wife, right? Of course the mark goes to the wife, it doesn't go to her father or her uncle's or her brothers, no, it is for her that is the concept of mother okay. And he musasa was not able to give anything tangible but he was able to work right. And so, this is why the father suggested that you work for me for for eight years or 10th one out what do you do on a show correlate and I do not wish to put you in difficulty No, a shortcut shortcut is to split something and shocker I lay is to impose on someone something which is burdensome okay. So
he says I do not wish to a shortcut or like I do not intend to impose you with what is burdensome with what is you know going to cause you distress what is going to inconvenience you what is going to be very difficult for you. And this can mean two things This can mean first of all that I don't force you to work for 10 years, okay? Eight is also fine. I eight is the minimum and beyond that whatever you do that that is your choice. Secondly, this can also mean that I don't want to hire you in order to make you do very difficult work, meaning I'm not going to exploit you I'm not going to be you know extremely difficult with you without what do you do on a ship car Lake, Saturday dooney
insha Allah whom you know Sally hain so that you don't attenzione you will find me if Allah wills Min asylee hain among the righteous meaning insha Allah if Allah wills you will find me to be righteous. So this shows is that a righteous person is not just someone who is praying and you know making Vicar and fasting etc. a righteous person is also righteous in their dealings. So the father says that insha Allah you will find me to be of the righteous meaning, meaning I will be good to you, I'm not going to exploit you I'm not going to make your life difficult and miserable in sha Allah things will be good.
So most of you sent him
any this offer was a very good reasonable offer very fair and beneficial for both parties. Allah Valley kabini Robaina masala a salon said that is between me and you. Meaning I accept right I accept AML a journey of Kobe to whichever of the two terms I complete a julaine is the dual of Agile agile is a is a is a specific period of time. So either of the two terms that I fulfill, whether it is eight or 10, then fella or the one earlier, there is no injustice to me at all.
Any I don't see that either of these are unfair, you see are the one is is aggression, okay, this is from the root is that well, it is injustice, you need to be to do what is harmful to another to do what is unfair to another. So he says that I don't find either of the two terms to be unfair. If I work for eight years, that's reasonable and if I work for 10 even that is reasonable.
Any musante salon was okay with that and
Then he said well Allahu Allah Nicola kill. And Allah over what we say is lucky. What kill means two things will kill is basically it's from the root while calf lamb and were killed is someone who is relied upon. Right so trusty, any Allah is, is working over what we say, and he we are making this agreement and we put our trust in Allah, we know that he is watching over us, and we rely upon him.
And secondly, what he also means witness Shaheed and any whatever that we are saying, You are saying that you You are not going to be you know, you're not going to oppress me, you are not going to impose very hard work on me. And you were saying that you will be good to me. And I am saying that I will marry your daughter on the condition that I will fulfill that I will work for you for eight or 10 years, then whatever we are saying Allah is a witness over that, meaning we make this agreement knowing that Allah subhanaw taala knows what we we are agreeing upon, and that he will hold us accountable our return is to him. And this is important to remember when any agreement or contract
is being made. Even when it comes to a marriage. Unfortunately, a lot of promises are made at the time of the marriage. But then afterwards, people completely
you know, that, you know, they act as though they never gave their word. And this is extremely unfair. This shows that a person does not fear Allah. Any so often, you know, women are told that Okay, we'll get married now, two years later, we'll move into you know that city or into our own place or yes, you can work yes, you can study Yes, you can do that. But then right after the marriage, the woman is told No, you cannot work you cannot study you cannot do this, you cannot do that. Any This is unfair. Once you gave your word fulfill it, and will law who are alumni Nakula working likewise when it comes to you know hiring someone that whatever wages that you agreed upon,
make sure you pay them whatever compensation you agreed upon, make sure you you carry through. In these we learned the Prophet sallallahu earlier set him said that Allah subhana wa tada says, that I will be against three persons on the Day of Judgment.
First of all, the person who makes a covenant in my name, but then he proves treacherous, meaning Allah subhanaw taala will take revenge from this person himself. Secondly, the person who sells if freemen meaning he captures him seldom as a slave and then enjoys the price, almost penalty will will himself take revenge from such a tired and thirdly, the person who employs a laborer and gets the full work done by him but does not pay him his wages. And he This is extremely dangerous. Yes, a person is able to take advantage of you know, the week today. And a person is able to, you know, enjoy momentarily, but Allah who will be against such a person on the Day of Judgment, so how could
a person like this ever succeed?
So, the marriage any the agreements, any whatever the father said, Will sorry, listen, I'm agreed. And so, the contract was made. This was basically the nikka because a Nika is what a proposal and its acceptance right the motto was set, there was a job coupon and most r&d Center is now married Mashallah. And where is he living now, he is living with his in laws. And this is something that a lot of people, you know, find strange, that first of all, the very concept of living within laws is something that people do not like. Whereas, in certain circumstances, it can actually be very good for both parties, you know, for the couple who is married and for and also the family that they're
living with, whether it is the girl's family or or the man's family,
any living with in laws is not something how long it is not something unlawful. However, it is not something followed either. This is not something that is obligatory either, because in certain cultures living with in laws is considered the norm. And if God forbid, the woman says that no, I want to live on my own. Then this has taken as, you know, how dare she, and and and how, how disrespectful of her. DNA living with in laws is neither and obligation.
Nor is it a, you know, it's something forbidden, it completely depends on the circumstances, and what the couple agrees on. And both the husband and the wife should be happy with that living arrangement. Remember that a woman, if a woman does not feel secure, she does not feel happy. In an arrangement like that, where she's living with her in laws, then the man must, he must provide her a space, where she, she feels that she has freedom, where she feels that yes, this is my own space. And he every woman deserves that.
However, in some circumstances, that is actually very beneficial, right. So, both both, you know, it needs to be seen is is the is the wife happy with that is the husband happy with that. And for a man also to live with his in laws is, is not something forbidden, right, it can actually be very beneficial. So for example, over here, you know, these two women, their father was old, if she was to leave him, any who who would take care of him. Right, so it worked in their favor.
And, secondly, we see over here,
that it's so beautiful, that how most already sent him had certain needs, right. And this family also had certain needs. And, you know, both were fine on their own in the sense that they were surviving, but when they agreed to,
you know, that they agreed to enter this bond of marriage,
then we see that both were so beneficial for each other, which shows us that no human being is perfect, right? each human being each person has their own weaknesses and their own imperfections. And this is how Allah subhanaw taala has created us, right, that we have our imperfections, we have our weaknesses. And sometimes the weakness of one is the strength of another, right, the void in one can actually be fulfilled by another. And it is because we are imperfect, it is because of this reason that we need one another. And when we need one another when we live with one another, then of course, we have to put up with each other, right, we have to be forgiving, and we have to be, you
know, gentle, and we have to overlook the mistakes of of people, of course, where there's injustice, that is a different matter. I'm talking about the everyday, you know,
unpleasantness that happens between husband and wife, between in laws, etc, any of these things are normal, they happen. And yes, you could leave everybody and live on your own and you might survive. But when you accept, you know, the help that other people can offer you, and you also give to them what you have, then this is something that brings you sukoon and brings them sukoon. Right, this is something that makes life easier and happier. And, you know, it's amazing how one person households are actually increasing right there on the rise, that people are living alone independently, without a spouse, right without a parent, without a sibling, these kind of households are actually on the
rise. So, this is because we have become completely intolerant of each other. And we are not willing to, you know, accept the help that others can give us. So Allah subhanaw taala has created, you know, a healthy dependency amongst people. We need each other. Will sorry, he said he had certain needs, and this family also had certain needs. Don't expect people to be perfect, because just as you are imperfect, they are imperfect. And together, you know, there's so much that that you know, can be accomplished. Another thing we see over here is Mozart a son and Dora is accepted so beautifully. He has a job. He has job security for 10 years. Secondly, he gets married, right?
Thirdly, he he he is no longer in danger. Right? Then we see that he has a home. Right? Then we see that he has clear goals now. And he looked at how lost he was before he made this door. He didn't know what he was going to do where he was going to go. He didn't know whether or not he was safe, and so panela look at how
Everything changed so quickly. So some people think that you know, you want to get married make this the route of being neelima and delta Elysium and fighting for clean. And that's excellent. Right? Well, sorry is going to meet this door and he got married very soon. Mashallah, excellent. But that's not the only thing that Musashi Salaam did. He made all but at the same time, look at his actions. First of all, look at the fact that he, he offers help, right? He helps those who are in need, then we see that when someone you know, wants to reward him, he doesn't become arrogant over there. But no, no, I didn't do this for a wage Go away from here, right? No, someone is, you know,
is trying to reciprocate. Most artists lm is not arrogant, he he accepts it gracefully. Alright. And then we see his honesty, we see his over his strength, his Amana. So, if we want our doors to be accepted, then we have to do all of these things, we have to first and foremost, offer help to people, right, whatever help that we can, we have to make those connections. If you if you want to get married, for example, you know, you have to actively do something to find someone. Right and, and you also have to actively, you know, engage with people, not cut not cut off from them. And engaging with people doesn't mean that you know, you become who you are not that you change your
personality that you become pretentious and fake. No, be real, be yourself. Be honest, like most artists, and I'm was. And, uh, when you do help people, when you when you do good to people, you know, do that for the sake of Allah subhanaw taala, like most artists, and he knew that those two women were weak, they wouldn't be able to, you know, compensate him. But he, you know, he he offered the help that he could, you know, had this we learn that off the best deeds is to put a smile on the face of a believer to pay off his debt to fulfill some need of his, or remove some hardship from him. In another Hadees, we learned that whoever removes a worldly grief from a believer Allah will
remove from him one of the grieves of the Day of Resurrection. And whoever alleviates the need of a needy person, Allah will alleviate his needs in this world and the hereafter. So sometimes we keep thinking that, you know, poor me, poor me, I don't have this, I don't have that. And we forget to focus on what we can give, start giving, right start making connections start thanking people start, you know, you know, offering whatever little that you can. And when you take those steps, then you are helping your situation and Allah subhanaw taala will also help you because Allah does not change the condition of a people until they change what is within themselves. Right? But this doesn't mean
that when you do offer help to people, you do it in order to get something out of them. Right? That Okay, let's go, you know, volunteer, you know, in the MSA, or in that Muslim organization, so that maybe, perhaps we will find a good person to marry. That should not be the nega the intention should be that yes, I want to volunteer here I want to help over here for the sake of Allah subhanaw taala you work sincerely for the sake of Allah, like Mossad is surrounded, and Allah subhanaw taala will send people to you, who who will be perfect for you in Sharla. Another thing we see over here is that now most are listed as a shepherd. Right? He's a shepherd, for the next eight to 10 years. And
this is a very different, you know, Chapter of his life. Up until now he was, you know, in Egypt, raised by the family of our own in luxury. And now all of a sudden he's a shepherd in Medina in a small town. Small job, right? But remember, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said that Allah did not send any Prophet, except that he cared for sheep, meaning every prophet was a shepherd. Even the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was once upon a time a shepherd. And we think that, you know, this is something very demeaning, but this is actually a role that Allah subhanaw taala chose for his prophets. Why? Because by looking after sheep, the prophets learned many skills that that
equip them to, to become, you know, better leaders or to to be able to lead their nations musar they SLM was going to do something extremely difficult. He was supposed to lead the bunny is slightly ill he was he was supposed to deal with film.
So, he needed the skills to be able to do that and where does this training happen in Meridian for about 10 years
and there are many lessons that you know we can take from this and inshallah we will discuss that in our next class, the lessons or or the or the skills that one can learn by by tending sheep and inshallah we will discuss that in our next class. So, we will conclude over here. If there's any questions that you would like to ask about today's class, please feel free to ask them and shall like and address them right now or in our next class insha Allah Subhana Allah who will be humbug eyeshadow Allah ilaha illa Anta, stuffy Luca Tobu la cosa Moray Kumara with La Habra cattle