Sahih al Bukhari – Kitab al Adab #35

Taimiyyah Zubair

Channel: Taimiyyah Zubair


Episode Notes

share this pageShare Page

Episode Transcript

© No part of this transcript may be copied or referenced or transmitted in any way whatsoever. Transcripts are auto-generated and thus will be be inaccurate. We are working on a system to allow volunteers to edit transcripts in a controlled system.

00:00:34--> 00:00:36

Assalamu alaykum warahmatullahi wabarakatuhu

00:00:48--> 00:01:07

are the Billahi min ash shaytani r rajim Bismillah R Rahman r Rahim wa Salatu was Salam ala rasulillah Karim or Bishop roughly sadri were silly emri washed Lola rock that and melissani yufka who coli along them and the Colby was sadly Sani was rude Sophie moto Colby amin Yoruba are the mean.

00:01:08--> 00:01:59

So inshallah we will continue with our study off keytab will other and we will begin today's class from Bob number 97 which is Bab only read Judy Lila Julie is SAP, cola virtually meaning a person saying lira jewelry to another person is up the expression Elsa, which means Shame on you or get lost? So is it permissible? Is it correct for a person to use such an expression, because this is kitabi other the book of manners, we're talking about proper etiquette. And when it comes to conversation, when it comes to anger, then of course there is a proper etiquette that a Muslim is to observe. So the expression, Ilsa is a Muslim allowed to use that. Now first of all, let's look at

00:01:59--> 00:02:53

the meaning of this expression except it also as you know, it means get lost or shame on you, it's very obvious that it's not a very polite expression. Literally, the word hustle is used to drive away a dog that for example, a person would say, to a dog that stop meaning Do not come near me, except Get away from me, except meaning go far away from me. And every language has its you know, different versions of this expression in English, it is commonly said Get lost. And this expression of horses used in anger, or out of contempt to another person, or to stop them from doing something to scold them. Like for example, you know, if a dog is coming near a person or trying to get to

00:02:53--> 00:03:44

their food, a person would say it's a meaning stop, right? Or, or or get away from me. So it's a way of showing anger contempt, and it's a way of, you know, scolding someone. But I want you to keep this in mind that the word is primarily used for a dog. And sometimes it is also said out of surprise that for example, if a person you know sees something very astonishing, or they're informed of something that is very shocking, they would say Elsa or like, like for example a person would say or or get lost, you know, out of shock. So is it offensive to say this? Remember that when it comes to expressions, if expressions even very strong ones, if they're used in the right place, then there

00:03:44--> 00:04:30

is nothing wrong with using strong language. So what is the right place for using an expression like this? when someone does or says something that is wrong? when someone does or says something that is inappropriate that brings about Allah subhanaw taala is wrath. So in order to stop them or in order to show contempt to them in order to again Stop them it would be appropriate to use an expression like this. We learn in the Quran that people in Hellfire will be told that if Sophie How well are two Kali Mooney that our last panel Tara will say to them Elsa ofI her get away in Hellfire meaning stay there will add to Kali Mooney and do not even speak to me. So, what So, the right place of

00:04:30--> 00:04:59

using an expression like this is when the other is worthy of such an expression when they have done or said something inappropriate that brings about the Wrath of Allah subhanaw taala but this does not mean that you know over every little thing, a person begins to use such expressions. You know, some people develop a habit of of using such strong expressions, even against their own children that over every little thing, you know, they keep saying Elsa or whatever, you know, version

00:05:00--> 00:05:43

is in their language. And we also have to be extremely careful that even if we must use an expression like this Do not use lewd expressions, nor write them because sometimes what happens is that, you know, we're not verbally saying it with our mouse, but we are typing them, we're texting them. So, be careful when using such expressions because the last panel data does not like that which is for harsh, meaning that which is indecent and lewd. These are things that Allah subhanaw taala does not approve of, so we must avoid them even in anger. Now let's look at the heavies had this an apple Waleed had the thinner cell move userid Sameera to about Raja Samaritan now Besson

00:05:43--> 00:05:54

rhodiola more in Houma. Karna rasulillah he sallallahu alayhi wa sallam Livni saw it in a cupboard to like a hobby and farmer who Allah Allah.

00:05:55--> 00:06:42

So mumble hottie brings us Hades over here to show that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam use this expression is set against this person even saw it. Now the in this hadith we see that the Prophet sallallahu earlier said I'm set to even saw it that I have hidden something for you What is it? And even started replied it was smoke and the Prophet sallallahu Urdu Selim said aosa meaning get lost or shame on you. Now, who is this Ibn saw it even saw it also called Ibn Sajjad, it's the same person. He was a young Jewish boy of Medina, who had many strange things about him. First of all, it was thought of that he was the gel, he was the Antichrist. And in a way he was a the gel in

00:06:42--> 00:07:26

a literal sense, because the gel also means a big liar. So he was a big liar because he claimed to be a prophet. And the thing is that he actually communicated with the jinn, meaning he was a soothsayer. So the shell clean will talk to him. And so what happened is that to prove him wrong, to prove that, you know, even Sajjad was not a prophet to prove that he was a liar. The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam went to Ibn Sajjad himself, and at that time the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, he said that he was thinking of surah a Doohan. Alright surah two Doohan, meaning the sutra that mentions the smoke that will come close to the Day of Judgment, it is one of the

00:07:26--> 00:08:13

signs of the Day of Judgment. So when the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam asked him and Sajjad that if you claim to be a prophet, and you know if you are really truthful, then tell me what is it that I'm hiding? What is it that I'm thinking of? So even Sajjad said a dog right he didn't say Doohan he said the why because even say yeah, either misunderstood what his shavon told him or he didn't fully get it right he didn't fully comprehend it. So the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam said it meaning get away Get lost you cannot go past you know your reality basically Stay where you are all right and now more detail of this is coming in the next Heidi's let's look at that Hadith

00:08:13--> 00:08:57

and inshallah more matters will become clear. head doesn't Abuja man of Marana sure he earned his re call it a hora de Salim ignore Abdullah Abdullah Huebner Amara Amara who Nirmala bellhop Bobby. So Abdullah bin remote narrative that remote have been Cotabato de la Mourinho in follow Kumara rasulillah he sallallahu alayhi wa sallam a Fiera when make us happy, people have been saying yet that the Prophet salallahu early he was sending them so remember to accompany the Prophet sallallahu early send them along with a group of the companions of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam two words who two words even say yet had the word or the who yell are Boomer lol many fi auto me Bernie

00:08:57--> 00:09:43

Mahal letter. So they went towards him until they found him playing with some children in the hills of Bhanu mahalo and this shows is that even Sajjad was not an adult at this point. He was still a boy will cut color but no car then he Yama, Eden in Fallujah. And at this day, meaning at this point, even siadh was approaching puberty, meaning he was not yet an adult, but he was almost an adult. Follow me as your head del Baba Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam Allahu Brd he and even Surya did not realize that the Prophet sallallahu Arizonan was there until the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam struck his back with his hand meaning until he touched him on his back. Even Surya

00:09:43--> 00:10:00

had no idea that the Prophet sallallahu earlier said was there some makalah than the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said to him adesh hadoo Ania Rasulullah Do you testify that I am the messenger of Allah for Allah La he for Color Eyeshadow Anika

00:10:00--> 00:10:42

sudo machine. So even Sajjad looked at the Prophet sallallahu earlier send them and he said that I testified that you are a prophet to the machine to the unlettered people, meaning the Arabs. And this is a reason why, you know it is said that he was among the Jews because this is what the Jews said about the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam that he was a prophet sent to the Arabs and not them. So mccollom Musa yadon then even say yet said to the Prophet, sallallahu alayhi wa sallam that utter shadow a neo rasulillah do you testify that I am the messenger of Allah for the hoonah bu sallallahu alayhi wa sallam told the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam refuted that meaning he

00:10:42--> 00:11:29

didn't accept it. So makala are meant to be la he was also he. And he said, I believe in Allah and His messengers. I believe in his messengers, and you are not a messenger of Allah. So I don't believe in you. Some of Khalid Musa yet, then the Prophet salallahu earnings sent him set to even say yet mother thought, Ah, what do you see? Meaning What's going on? Allah yet teeny, Sadiq Khan webcad the bone? Even sahyadri replied that both the truthful and the liars come to me. Meaning that the jinn that come and talk to me some of them what they conveyed to me is truth. And some of them what they conveyed to me is false. So I receive both, you know, true, true news and also false news.

00:11:29--> 00:12:17

Oliver sutala he sallallahu alayhi wa sallam the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said holy Uttaranchal The matter is confused on you, meaning you are in confusion. Allah Sula, he sallallahu alayhi wa sallam in the habit to like a hobby and sorry in the habit to like a hobby and he said that I am hiding something, what is it? Meaning? Meaning I have something in my mind and what is that? Allah Who would do? So even Sajjad said a door he couldn't comprehend Doohan so he just said a door. Allah the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said Elsa Phelan tardieu are the rock that last fallen tardieu carderock you can never go past your real worth meaning Stay where you are. Color

00:12:17--> 00:12:52

Amalia rasulillah attack the new LiFi a belieber Luca who Romano de la hora and who said O Messenger of Allah, allow me to kill him. Allah Rasool Allah salallahu alayhi wa sallam the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said in your Khun Hua if it is truly him, meaning if even Surya is truly the gel, then law to sell to Allah. He was a Lamia con Hua fella highroller Coffee kotli if it is truly the gel, then you won't be able to overpower him meaning you cannot kill him, you cannot get the better of him. And if he is not the gel, then there is no point in killing him.

00:12:54--> 00:13:37

So there is a number of things that we learn in this Hadeeth specifically about even Sajjad, now we see that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said except to him, and even say yard dared to say something, you know very serious, you see, even say Yad said to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam do testify that I am the messenger of Allah, and he This was very audacious of him. Anyone is that a person is lying. And on top of that they're demanding a testimony from the Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. So this is why the Prophet sallallahu Urdu said and said, it's up to him that stop, get away, any Stay where you are, learn tardieu or carderock, you are like the

00:13:37--> 00:14:20

soothsayers and you are not a prophet as you claim and you do not know the unseen. And as I mentioned earlier that even Sajjad does, you know, you know, it seems that he was a soothsayer, he was able to communicate with the jinn. So the lies and truths were both conveyed to him by the gene. And this is actually, you know, something that we learn about in the Quran also that the jinn, you know, they try to go and listen to the conversations of the angels in order to find out as to what's going to happen. And then what happens is that when they try to eavesdrop, then they are, you know, then they're shot at, by, by shooting stars, alright, or so what happens is that they managed to

00:14:20--> 00:14:59

listen to, you know, some information, but not all of it. And then they combine it with the, with their lies, and they convey that to their soothsayers, or to the people, you know, who, who they're friendly with. And remember that for a person to be on friendly terms with the gin with the shaitan means that the gin shaitan is basically, you know, benefiting from that human being. You see, one thing that the gin or the shaitan really likes, is that the human being should be little himself before the shade line. All right, that the human being should bring himself down by you know,

00:15:00--> 00:15:42

By by belittling himself in different ways and and that is what gives the you know, boosts the ego off of shaitan and then it is up to shaitan you know, whether he lies once or twice or many times or combines how many lies with the information that he conveys to a human being, but, whenever you you know, you hear about a person communicating with the gene or the gene informing a human being any there, there is there is definitely some problem over there, which is why we see the people, you know, who are into magic and stuff, they do extremely despicable things, extremely derogatory things in order to draw the attention of the shell clean, you know, they have to stay dirty, they have to

00:15:42--> 00:16:12

write things that are, you know, dirty, they cannot touch water, they cannot wash themselves, etc. So, the point is that if even say, yeah, you know, the gin came to him, then certainly he was not, you know, a dignified person. And this is why the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said to him, except and at the end, we see that when are mortal DeLonge one who asked the permission from the Prophet sallallahu earlier said that that allow me to kill him

00:16:14--> 00:16:55

because they were trying to figure out if it was a gag was the gel or not. So if the Prophet sallallahu Sallam told Ramallah the alohar I know that you know if if it is the gel, you won't be able to kill him And if it is, you know not the gel then there is no benefit in killing him. So this shows us that the gel is going to come at his time and people will not have any power against him. And the Jan will only die at the hands of eSATA Heusen m as we learn from other Hadees let's look at the next Heidi's inshallah that will make things clearer on a Sally mon for some miratorg de la Huebner O'Meara Jaco Impala kabara Delica Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam will obey you blue

00:16:55--> 00:17:43

carbon and Ansari you yet oh man inocula latifi have no say yet. So Salim said that he heard Abdullah bin irmo say that after that the Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam and obey even Cabell Ansari went to the palm Grove where even Sajjad was staying, meaning this was at another occasion that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam went again another time to see the truth of ebenso Yeah, but what is he really and at this time even siad was where he was in a palm Grove meaning in an orchard where the palms are hot that either the 100 Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa selama Buffy called Rasulullah sallallahu early he was selama yet Ducky viju are unknown. Until when

00:17:43--> 00:18:34

the Prophet sallallahu early Islam entered that orchard he actually began to you know hide himself behind the behind some dead palm trunks. Why? Because we're who we're used to is Mara, Miriam nissa yadi Shea and cobbler and Yahoo because he wanted to, you know, hear from him say yeah, I would even say yeah, I was saying before even siadh saw him what no say yeah, then mcpa do your own Allah falacci feel call 314 Allahu fi how Rama Rama tune o zamzar. Matan and even so yeah, that that time was laying on his bed. And he was, you know, under a sheet. And there was a sound of Rama Rama or zamzar meaning some murmuring that was coming from him to the Prophet sallallahu earlier someone was

00:18:34--> 00:19:17

trying to figure out what even so yeah, that was saying what that sound was for to Oh, my goodness. Uh, yeah. Did in Libya. sallallahu Ernie he was selama wahoo. A turkey Buju enough. So the mother of ebenso yet saw the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, you know, concealing himself among the dead palm trunks for carnac liveness a yard in a Salafi wahoo a smuggle? Heather Mohammed. So she said obon say yet. She said all SOF and this was the name of Ibn Surya. This is Muhammad meaning Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam is here. So what happened? fatahna have no say yet. So even say he had stopped meaning he stopped murmuring. He stopped making the sound that he was making. On other

00:19:17--> 00:19:59

sutala he sallallahu alayhi wa sallam the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said lautaro cat who bayona if she had left him, it would have been clear meaning it would have been become clear as to who even siadh really is to us meaning it would become very obvious then that you know it will say yet doesn't truly know the unseen. He doesn't have any unusual Powers and abilities. You know, he's not really the judge. Now, one interesting thing over here is that the Prophet sallallahu wasallam went to him secretly, quietly, meaning he did not want even so yeah, to find out that the Prophet sallallahu early son was there and the Prophet sallallahu early isn't it was trying to listen to

00:19:59--> 00:19:59


00:20:00--> 00:20:42

Now typically we would call this the Justice right spying on other people. But this was not spying. This was to, uh to ascertain or to expose the truth about even say yeah why so that people would not believe the lies of Ibn saya because even siadh claimed to be a prophet. He claimed that revelation came to him and at times and and the fact is that even say, yeah, you need the shouting communicated with him and at times what the shale team told him came true and and otherwise it was false information and this is why even Sajjad had said that that, you know, both the Saudis and the candidate come to me and the Prophet sallallahu Urdu said him said that you are confused, because

00:20:42--> 00:20:51

this is what shaitan does to people that he puts them in confusion. He tells them both lies and untruths basically, you know, putting people in confusion.

00:20:53--> 00:21:34

Now, it continues it is a call of Solomon Kala Abdullah Ahmad Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam avinasi for ethna or Allah He Bhima who are some other called the Jan silent also reported that our de la rhodiola horn who said that the Prophet sallallahu Urdu sent him stood up among the people meeting to address them and he praised a lot as he deserves. And then he mentioned that the gel, some other color, the Jennifer color, and the Prophet sallallahu earlier said him said while he was talking about the gel, that in the under Kumu that I am indeed warning you about that the gel woman in newbiggin in our code under a coma who and there is no profit except that he warned his people

00:21:34--> 00:22:22

about the gen lock code and there are who knew from coma who knew who warned his people of the gel. What are kidneys akula confused colon lamea coluna bu likoma he but I'm going to tell you something about the gel that no other Prophet told his people about Darla Mona and who are well, you should know that the gel is one eyed, what anila her laser br well, and that Indeed Allah is not one eyed Allah. Allah Abu Abdullah told kalba Berto who has a mobile ID remember how he is explaining the word except that has a full kalba means that I bet are two meaning I I drove the dog away hostage in means mobile rd meaning those who are put far away.

00:22:23--> 00:23:10

So here you know this Hadees is not to discuss who the gel is or who even say Yad is but it shows why the Prophet sallallahu alayhi Salaam used such a strong word except to even say yet, you know an expression that is used for a dog? Why did he use this expression against him because even Sajjad was a liar, he claimed to be a prophet. And he was very audacious in saying what he said to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam. And he, you know, humiliated himself by being a soothsayer by communicating with the jinn. And you will see that at one point had been so yeah, this playing at another point, he's laying down murmuring. And, you know, prophets of Allah don't do that. And

00:23:10--> 00:24:02

Prophethood was given at the age of 40. And at this point, even Surya was not even, you know, an adult, he had not even reached the age of puberty. So what this shows us is that an expression like ixa should only be used in extreme situations, it should not be, you know, the first word that comes out of our mouth, when we are exasperated when we're frustrated. You see, harshness is necessary in certain cases. Because sometimes people need strong, you know, language to feel intimidated and to stop what they're doing. Remember that anger is, you know, it needs an outlet, but it also needs control. It's a weapon, and it's wrong use can be extremely destructive. You see, a sharp knife is

00:24:02--> 00:24:52

an essential tool in the kitchen. In fact, it is actually safer than a blunt knife. But in the wrong hand, a sharp knife can be lethal, right? So just like that words, strong words are like weapons. You know, the right use can be very effective, but the wrong use can be lethal. So it doesn't befit us to use, you know, strong expressions against, you know, a Muslim, and especially our own loved ones, or our own children or our own friends. In the Dora, we learned that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, you know, he would say before going to sleep or this or that we should also say Bismillah he will bar to Giambi Allahumma avidly, then B was shale tiny will fuck Gary Hani without

00:24:52--> 00:24:59

killing me Danny would your only if in the deal Allah and part of this da is was shaytani that Oh Allah Cosmos sharp

00:25:00--> 00:25:42

To get lost for me to get away from me. So, this is an expression that is being used to constraint on. This is an expression that is being used against, you know, someone who's claiming to be a prophet. So, such expressions you know, get lost, etc. These words should not be used against our own children against our own loved ones. These are powerful words and their, you know, their excessive use can also, you know, reduce their impact. But it is also not, you know, healthy to use such strong language against our loved ones. Now, one thing that I want you to appreciate in the last section of this Hadees is where the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said that I'm warning

00:25:42--> 00:26:24

you of the jail and every single prophet basically warned his people against the jail and even know Hurley is the first messenger of Allah, He warned his nation against the journey. And this shows us that you know, we should also warn people against the junk but unfortunately when we talk about that the gel, it is more out of, you know, fascination and excitement, and we don't take it as a warning. It's meant to be you know, the mention of the gel is is meant to be taken as a warning. And remember that the pfitzner of the jungle the tribulation of the jack is really really severe, so severe that the Prophet sallallahu earliest and have taught us to seek refuge with ALLAH against the fitna of

00:26:24--> 00:26:45

the geralyn every Salah that before we say Salaam we make Dora that Allah in the arrow to become another bill copy what are other become another big one? What are all the becoming? fitna? Tomasi had the journal? What are all the becoming fitness? Haha, Well, Matt, so we seek Allah's refuge against the fitna of the gel, this is not a topic that you know, we should

00:26:46--> 00:27:24

you know take interest in out of you know, excitement that oh, this is such you know, juicy information, tell me more, tell me more. No, this is something that that we need to take very seriously. It's it's supposed to be a warning. And we see that the Prophet sallallahu earlier Sallam said something regarding the gel that he said no other prophet mentioned it before him. And what is that, that the gel is one is our, you see our is someone who has two eyes, but only one eye works, meaning the other, you know, there's something wrong with the with the second eye. Now, some people when they draw an image of the gel, or if they see the symbol of an eye somewhere, they think that

00:27:24--> 00:28:13

one eye is a sign of the gel. And that is untrue. The gel has two eyes and one of them we learn in a hadith is shriveled like like a grape. So it's like a reason. Meaning it's it's it's it's not fully, it's not fully formed, or it is, you know, deformed or it is, you know, there's some problem with it. And we see over here that the Prophet sallallahu earlier sent him said, well, and Allah laser br word, Allah is not our word. Why did he say that? Because the gel will claim to be not just a prophet, the gel will actually claim to be God. All right, he will actually claim to be God. And this is why he's called the gel the gel means liar, great liar. So this is why he's a great liar,

00:28:13--> 00:28:58

because he will claim to be God. So it has made clear here that Allah is not one eyed. And the other thing is that, you know, we're not able to see a lot in worldly life. We can only see Allah, on the day of judgment, right after we leave this world. And seeing Allah is a privilege, seeing Allah is is a gift that will be given to those who believe in those that Allah subhanaw taala is pleased with. So anyone who claims to be God before you any they're not God, especially if you can see them. Right. So this is what the gel will do. And this is a sign that he is a liar. This is a sign that we don't listen to him we don't believe him. And in that lies our salvation and success. May Allah

00:28:58--> 00:29:52

subhanaw taala protect us. Next is Bab Kohli Rajamouli marhaba a man saying marhaba welcome. Now this is very, very different from the expression that we saw earlier. Marhaba means welcome and this is from the word robber or a hobo when it's used to describe a place or a country or a land, it means that that place is very spacious. That land is you know, very spacious, or that house that you know or the building or that room or whatever it is is very wide and roomy. So when someone arrives and you say Marhaba to them, this is a way of welcoming them meaning that you have come to a place that is very spacious. You have found a place of emptiness, so be happy. You don't have to worry

00:29:52--> 00:29:59

about anything now. So it's a way of welcoming people. So marhaba is aware of

00:30:00--> 00:30:45

Greeting, all right, not just welcoming, but also a way of greeting. And remember that it is not a replacement for senem. When you say welcome to someone, this doesn't mean that you don't have to say Salaam to them. No, first is Sunnah. You say Assalamualaikum. And then you say, Marhaba. Welcome. You see, once when someone enters, you know, a place where, where there are people already, now the person who is coming, who is arriving, may feel in his, you know, in their heart that there's no room for me, right? Or that everybody, you know, has their own, you know, place and everybody's, you know, taking their food or, you know, they're talking amongst themselves. And now I'm the odd one

00:30:45--> 00:31:30

out, or I have no one to sit with, I have no place to sit in, I have no one to talk to, or I may be bothering them. So when someone arrives and you say Marhaba to them. This is a way of, you know, making them feel at ease, right, acknowledging the fact that they have come, acknowledging the fact that they have entered and then welcoming them into your space. So salon and marhaba we'll call it our Isha to call an abuse sallallahu alayhi wa sallam only file kremerata Allah has salaamu Mara haven't been at eye shadow the longer and has said that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said to his daughter Fatima marhaba baby Natty Welcome. My daughter will call it omo Hani in to Elena via

00:31:30--> 00:32:16

sallallahu alayhi wa sallam have a column or heaven be only honey, omo honey etc. I went to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and he said welcome omo honey, now consider the status of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and look at the way that he is addressing the women who are you know, coming into His presence, one is a daughter and the other is a relative hynny and then we see that the Prophet sallallahu earlier send him status is so much higher than that of the people around him. So you know, sometimes we think that it is only the young people who are to respectfully address the elders. Right. But we see here that even someone of a higher status, right, they should

00:32:16--> 00:33:04

address people of, you know, a lower status than them with respectful words. Here, a father is greeting his daughter welcoming his daughter marhaba binetti. The Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam is welcoming who someone from his oma. Right marhaba welcome. And then we see that a lot of men, you know, they look down on women or this is what we think that masculinity is. But we see that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam has no difficulty in welcoming his daughter, right with such a kind, good welcoming words. So when you say Marhaba to someone, when you say welcome, this is a you know, a sign of the spaciousness of the heart that you know what you you're not

00:33:04--> 00:33:46

uncomfortable by their presence, and you don't dislike the fact that they have come. And Subhanallah we're the exact opposite A times that you know, we're just waiting for people to come into our space so that we can attack them. So people avoid us. They feel threatened in our presence, they feel unsafe in our presence and they don't want to come. So you know that the etiquette that we're taught is the exact opposite. That be welcoming with your words, because when you will be welcoming with your words then people will feel safe around you. So this is from the Sunnah of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. mahabang be bility madhuban be omy honey. Now let's look at the Hadees

00:33:46--> 00:34:35

had this in our imraan of numai salata had this an Arab did when he had this in about a year, and a B Janata and if they are best in or the last one in Houma, columna Kadima Wharf to Abdullah Pacey Island Nabi sallallahu, alayhi wa sallam. Even our best for the long run reported that when the delegation of our little case came to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, Allah more haben bill with the lady in a jar. Oh, later, Hosea Whelan, Adama, how beautiful. He said, welcome to this delegation that has come a delegation of people who have come later Hosea without suffering any disgrace, while Anna Dhamma nor any regrets, meaning welcome, may You not suffer any disgrace, may

00:34:35--> 00:35:00

You not be embarrassed, and may you not, you know, experience any regret. Because sometimes what happens is that when we go to a new place, when we go to, you know, when we meet some new people, then what happens is that either we feel humiliated because people have, you know, insulted us or they have mistreated us, or, you know, we suffer, you know, some kind of loss some kind of death.

00:35:00--> 00:35:43

Because of which we feel regret that you know what I shouldn't have come here. So the Prophet sallallahu Urdu said I'm welcome them by, by by, you know, using such so many words basically marhaba and Bill with the larina jell o Hydra Hosea Alana dama for Kala yo rasulillah. So they said O Messenger of Allah, meaning they stayed for some time and they asked the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, that inner hi Yun mineral abeokuta ouabain and our baina Komodo. They said that oh messenger of Allah, we are a tribe of Riviera. And between us and you is the tribe of model. And it is well known that mother and Rubio were you know at war. So they said we're in Allah nasi Lu alayka

00:35:43--> 00:36:26

Illa fish shattered her arm we're not able to reach you meaning we're not able to travel all the way to you in Medina, except in a sacred month because the Arabs would respect the sanctity of the sacred months and they wouldn't fight with one another in the sacred months. So basically what they what they meant to say was the we're not able to come very frequently to you. For more now be unreinforced solid, not hollow be healed Jana How beautiful. They said instructors with with a command with you know, with with an instruction that is fossil that is clear, meaning give us clear instructions, by which we can enter general. Meaning just tell us very clearly what we're supposed

00:36:26--> 00:37:09

to do so that when we do them, we will enter Jenna, when other Ruby hemara Anna, and we can also invite those who are behind us meaning those at home to the same commands we will tell them to do the same things. Meaning tell us what to do. by which we can enter agenda and something that we can teach our families also and out you know and other people back home so that they can also follow it and enter paradise for Karla so the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said Oberon will Oberon, a famous salata will add to Jakarta or Samora Madonna, Will our two homes, Mr. venema. He said, Arbonne will earn four and four meaning for things to do and for things to stay away from. They

00:37:09--> 00:37:53

asked for clear commands and look at the clarity with which the Prophet sallallahu earlier said them, gave them instructions, is it for and for? What's the first four things that you're supposed to do? What are they established, the prayer gives a cat fast in Ramadan, and give the homos of that which you earn as as war booty, meaning the fifth of it, you have to surrender to the head of the state. While at the SRA booth debate, he will hand me when the PT will was a fatty, and what are the four things that you shouldn't do? Do not drink from the bad hamper appeared and was offered. These were different kinds of wine vessels. Now, first of all, we see how the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa

00:37:53--> 00:37:56

sallam welcomed them so beautifully.

00:37:58--> 00:38:47

Later, Hosea will enter dharma. So we should also adopt this habit, right? This culture that when someone comes home, when someone comes to visit us, no matter how surprised we are, and no matter how tired we are, and no matter how much work we have had to do, and are doing and will have to do once they leave. Still, when someone has come, we should welcome them. Why so that they don't feel awkward, they don't feel rejected, they don't, you know, feel that we have insulted them, and they don't feel regretful for having bothered you, right for having caused you inconvenience. So always welcome people, right. And this should be of course with words and also with our, you know, facial

00:38:47--> 00:39:27

expressions and our, you know, our overall behavior. Now, of course, if somebody comes, you know, all of a sudden and you're busy in something, you can always ask them to come at another time. And this is mentioned in the Quran, that what either killer Kumara Giroux found you that when you're told to return, meaning you go to someone's house and they're busy and they tell you to go, then then go that is better for you that is pure for you. Meaning we are allowed to refuse someone from entering our home. If you know for example, we're busy with something and and we don't want to entertain them at the time it is permissible. However, you can also do that after welcoming them

00:39:27--> 00:39:59

right after saying a Salaam Alaikum welcome, you know what, what a nice surprise. And you can you know, have a brief conversation with them. And you can let them know that you know, I'm busy at this time. How about we meet at a later time. So welcome people because this is, you know, the the prophetic way. And we see you know, in the hadith of Mirage, that when the Prophet sallallahu early ascended went on the ascension, the mere lodge meaning when he was taken up through the heavens then every summer every

00:40:00--> 00:40:49

Sky that he reached and he met a prophet of Allah over there. So for example we learn that at the first one he met Adam Ernie his Salaam and the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam sacrificial lamb to LA he he greeted me for color marhaba beaker and he said welcome mean marhaba Ambika welcome you mean evening want to begin that oh you know all sun and oh prophet. So welcome Adam early Islam Welcome to the Prophet salallahu earliest and then in the next sky, Risa and the era center both of them this or more haven't become an athlete when to begin. And then use of early his center. He also greeted him and he said more haben beaker welcome that Idris alehissalaam also greeted him. And then

00:40:49--> 00:41:34

he said more haben because then her own alayhis salam, and then musala his surah ne Subhana Allah every and then finally, Ibrahim already said on every prophet messenger that he sallallahu alayhi wa sallam met any first was Salaam, and then was greeting. So this is, you know a habit that we should also develop, especially when someone is arriving, you know, as a guest, or they're arriving, you know from a journey. For example, your spouse was out all day long. And now at the end of the day they have returned or your children were gone to school all day in a you know, in the evening they have returned so Salaam and welcome, right? Not that Oh, you're here already. You know Subhan Allah

00:41:34--> 00:42:20

we reject people, not just with our words, but also with our expressions so be welcoming. And we see that the angels when they take the soul of a righteous person and they take that soul up into the skies. The angels also welcome that soul. Right, they say more haven't been absolutely yerba, welcome, or good soul cannot feel just at the plate that lived in a good clean body. Subhan Allah, the angels will also welcome you know the souls of the righteous, they actually welcome the soul of the righteous into the heavens. And then we see that earlier we saw how the Prophet sallallahu early ascended would welcome his daughter, right this way, Mohammed marhaba divinity and then we see that

00:42:20--> 00:43:08

he would also welcome his companions in this way. We learned that once a month, a lot a lot more and who asked permission from the Prophet sallallahu earlier set him to enter and he said he then Allah who allow him marhaba multiball Mata Yep. Welcome to a three year person, meaning a person who is really good. And then we see that the Prophet sallallahu rzm also advised his companions to welcome those who come to seek knowledge. Abu sir Edo de la de la Mourinho reported that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said that certain people will come to you seeking knowledge. So, when you see them for kulula, Homer hoburne say to them more hoburne Welcome, we will see it Rasulullah

00:43:08--> 00:43:27

sallallahu alayhi wa sallam as per the instruction of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam meaning the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam instructed us to welcome you. And he said, Our limo who teach them, meaning give them the knowledge that they have come to seek, but first welcome them. And this shows us that it is also important for

00:43:28--> 00:44:14

you know, a teacher, that especially when you know, a new class has come, then at that time, welcome the students of knowledge, especially those who have come to seek, you know, sacred knowledge. And then we see that those who are, you know, welcomed today, meaning in the world will also be welcomed in the hereafter. There's a Hadith, in which we learned that when the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, that when a person goes to a people, and they say Marhaba, to him, then on the day that this person will meet his Lord, then he will also be told marhaba at that time, meaning a person who is welcomed here in this world, will also be welcomed in the next world. And when a person goes to a

00:44:14--> 00:44:59

people, and they say, you know, they, they're basically very unhappy with his arrival, they cannot wait for him to go and they reject Him, then such a person will also be rejected on the Day of Judgment. What does this mean? This means that, you know, the your relationship with people really shows who you are, and how you are near Allah Subhana thada. This doesn't mean that all people will treat you the same. No, but you should check you should check what kind of relationship you have with good people with righteous people. That Are they happy with your arrival with you're coming or are they uncomfortable? Right. And and especially think about it that when you go somewhere why

00:45:00--> 00:45:43

If people get uncomfortable, why do they get uncomfortable? Are they uncomfortable because they know that you're going to start criticizing them, they know that, you know, you're going to start, you know, selfishly just talking about what you want to talk about and not listen to them, do they feel uncomfortable because the kind of things you talk about are hurtful. So, you know, sometimes we blame people for, you know, for our unhealthy relationships, but we fail to hold our own selves accountable, that if people are avoiding us constantly, then perhaps we need to look inward, we need to check ourselves that is there something in me something that I am doing, is it that I speak very

00:45:43--> 00:46:29

loudly? Is it that you know, I can be very condescending? Is it that I can be very selfish? Is it that I can come across as very greedy? Is it that my body smells? Is it that my clothes are not clean? Is it that the you know, I have extremely bad breath? or What is it? What is it that I need to change in myself? So people are not constantly avoiding me? What is it that I can do, because the way that we are treated by people, right is a reflection of who we really are. And then I will also want you to appreciate this Hadees that, you know, when when the people asked the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam the teacher something, give us clear instructions? Why did they ask for knowledge,

00:46:29--> 00:47:15

they said, teach us something by which we can enter Paradise, give us clear instructions, so that we can enter Jannah right, that's what their goal was. And this teaches is that when we are seeking knowledge, then our goal should be the same our goal should be to enter Jannah not that we you know, are reading this learning that so that we can debate with people, so that we can you know, impress people I know this and you don't know it, right, I know about such and such concept and you have no idea. So, I am better than you and you know nothing compared to me, if this is the objective, then we learned that you know, if a person seeks knowledge in order to you know, argue with the with the

00:47:15--> 00:47:57

people of knowledge in order to belittle others, meaning the intention is not for the sake of Allah subhanaw taala then such a person will not even smell the fragrance of Paradise, right meaning such a person will be removed far away from Jenna, what are the other Billa So, our goal in seeking knowledge should be to learn things that we can do, so that we can earn a less power without his approval, that should be our ultimate goal. So this is very admirable in what these people said to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam. And then we see that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi, salaam gave them four commits, they asked for clarity and the Prophet sallallahu Hardison, them give them

00:47:57--> 00:48:39

clarity, for commands, notice that he did not mention Hajj. Why, because at this point, hedge had not been obligated, it was made obligatory later on. And then we see that the four things that the prophets of Allah who earliest forbade them from was using was drinking from certain vessels. And these vessels, as I mentioned earlier, they were, you know, for for drinking alcohol, basically, these vessels were of different materials, like, for example, a hollowed out pumpkin or something like that. And basically, what people would do is that they would, you know, pour liquid in it, and, and, you know, close it and leave it for some time. And what would happen is that the drink, the

00:48:39--> 00:49:28

water inside, or the liquid inside, would would turn would ferment and turn into alcohol. So now, there's two issues over here. The first issue is that the better person would not know that the drink had become alcoholic, and he would drink, he would consume that drink, without realizing that it had it had become alcoholic. All right, because remember that every fermented food is not forbidden, what is forbidden is when it when it turns into alcohol. All right. And when you don't know when something has turned into alcohol or not, then you're putting yourself in danger. So where there is doubt, then what do you do you avoid, okay, because the nature of these of these vessels,

00:49:28--> 00:50:00

like I mentioned to you that they were made off organic materials like a hollowed out pumpkin, the nature of these materials is such that when you put liquid in it and you close it, it would turn alcoholic very soon. So this is why the Prophet salallahu Urdu center forbade them from using these vessels, because there was a chance that a person would end up drinking alcohol without even realizing. And secondly, because these vessels were made of organic materials, any if there was alcohol in it, and you got rid of it, the traces of alcohol

00:50:00--> 00:50:42

would still remain, there was no way of thoroughly you know, washing it, cleaning it. And this is why he forbade them from using such vessels. But remember that a vessel that can be cleaned out, then even if there was alcohol in it once upon a time, if it is properly cleaned out, then there's no harm in using it, because we learned that in Hades earlier that we studied in this chapter, that when people were, you know, preparing donkey meat to eat, the Prophet sallallahu earlier said and told them initially to break the vessels and then one of the companions asked that, what if we just wash them and the Prophet sallallahu Urdu cinema allowed that. So, this shows us that you know, a, a

00:50:42--> 00:50:48

vessel that can be properly cleaned, then there is nothing wrong in in using that as long as it can be cleaned properly.

00:50:50--> 00:51:34

The next is bad, may you The nurse will be about him, calling people by their father's names. Now, this is also a part of other that when a person is called meaning they're given their surname, then that surname is their father's name, not their mother's name, and not their husband's name. So, this is how it is in this world and this is how it will be on the Day of Judgment. Unless a person does not have a father like in the case of rusada his son Embry Sarna has said as always called resub memoriam or he said the son of Miriam because he did not have a father right. So, that is a different case, but in general, people should be you know, identify by their fathers names meaning

00:51:34--> 00:51:44

that should be the surname. However, realize that you know for example, if a woman is called for example, Mrs. You know,

00:51:45--> 00:52:37

Malik, for instance, right, then it is understood in, you know, in basically all over the world, that Mrs means that she is the wife of this person, right? Not that she is the child of this person. So, when we see that in the Quran, where, for instance, in Morocco around the wife of Iran is mentioned meaning a woman is referred to by by the by the name of the man whose wife, she is right, that the wife of Iran or Imre tour Aziz, the wife of the Aziz, right and this has been used for both the righteous as well as the non righteous people so Imre to fit on the wife of Iran in that was ESEA. Right? A woman of Jenna, Mr. autofit around she was a righteous sorry, in utter Iran, she was

00:52:37--> 00:53:00

a righteous woman. So it did so it is permissible in that case, had this it mo said they don't have the scenario here and obey the law or nefarian or didn't remodel rhodiola more in Houma, or an interview sallallahu alayhi wa sallam a Paul Oliver Do you prefer hula hula O'Neal? Well piano tea you call who had he heard rato Fulani me for land.

00:53:02--> 00:53:47

So now if you're reported from imminent Romana that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said that elevar did, the treacherous person, the traitor will be such that unifier Lahu liwan, a flag will be raised for him on the Day of Judgment. And it will be said this is the treachery of soul and soul, the son of so and so full and a bunny full on. Let's look at the next Hadees and inshallah we'll discuss the meaning together, had nothing out of the law have no Muslim Mata and mullikin and Abdullah Jiminy denarian are unable to remodel and the Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam a call the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said in the Lucha de la une sabula haleiwa only MLP Yama a

00:53:47--> 00:54:00

banner will be raised for the traitor on the Day of Judgment for you Paulo and it will be said heavy Hydra to Fulani blee fool and in and it will be said this is the treachery of so and so. The son of so and so.

00:54:02--> 00:54:37

So, there's two things over here that we want to discuss first is the issue of treachery. And the other is the issue of, of calling people by the names of their fathers. And when it comes to calling people by the names of their fathers. This is something that's mentioned in the Quran very clearly, right? Well, the rumely obey Him, call them by their by the names of their fathers. And here are the Hadees you see when it will be said on the day of judgment that this is the treachery of so install a bunny for learning the son of so and so. Right. And it's not

00:54:39--> 00:54:54

you know that, you know, people will be called by the names of their mothers but rather they will be called by the names of their fathers meaning that's where the identity will come from. So this is part of our other. This is how we refer to people.

00:54:55--> 00:55:00

Now, the second thing is the issue of treachery, the issue of

00:55:00--> 00:55:51

Whether now whether is to be unfaithful, right to act treacherously to, to break a contract, that where someone is, for example, trusting you, that you will, you know, do something, or you will, you know, keep their secret, they're trusting you, then you betray that trust that betrayal is treachery, right? Or they're trusting you that whatever you agreed to do, is something that you will actually do. But then you don't fulfill your commitment, right? That is, again, treachery, you neglect it. So, millas, panthro protect us that this is rather treachery, betrayal, breaking a contract, and this can be in different matters, it can be in financial matters. So for example, if a

00:55:51--> 00:56:36

person is buying or selling something, so for instance, you know, when it comes to buying or selling things, you know, a lot of times people will use lies, to portray that something was more expensive than it needs to be, or, you know, that the price tag was different, it cetera, you know, people will come up with different ways, in order to, you know, cheat people in order to make more money or save more money. This can also be in, you know, in other kinds of contracts, like, for example, you make a contract with someone that you're going to work for them, you're going to deliver certain, you know, gold, etc, certain results, but then you don't end up doing it, right, you take the money,

00:56:36--> 00:57:04

but then you don't fulfill it, it can happen in construction, right, and it happens all the time, where people will, you know, make a contract that we will do this and this for you, but then they never actually build the things that they said they were going to build. So it can be in business, this can be in, you know, some other some other contract, it can be an agreement, like for example, a person is made to sign a nondisclosure

00:57:05--> 00:57:52

agreement that I have this and this information, and I am not going to let it out. So you sign the NDA, but then later on for money, you go and tell people about that information. So this can be in different ways. So on the Day of Judgment, how is it that a treacherous person will be treated, Italy, where will be placed, and an announcement will be made? So two things liwa is a flag and a flag is put somewhere? Why for the purpose of identification, especially when there's so many teams or there's so many people from different backgrounds? Then you need to see the flag in order to see you know, who is from where, who is who. So, it is for the purpose of identification, right? So

00:57:52--> 00:58:40

first of all, there will be a flag marking such people that that these individuals are treacherous, right there guilty of treachery. And secondly, an announcement will be made, that for you all who had the run through to Fulani mephala. Any humiliation upon humiliation, always remember that the consequence for a deed is always similar to the deed itself. When a person is you know, committing treachery they're trying to hide, right, they're trying to hide that they're they're trying to hide their crime, their offense, they're trying to do it behind people's back or when people commit treachery, you know, they escape, they go and hide, they cut off all contact. But on the Day of

00:58:40--> 00:59:18

Judgment, there is no hiding a person will be completely any exposed. Right there is a flag there's and there's also an announcement so humiliation upon humiliation. So this Hadees makes it very clear that treachery is something forbidden. It is a sign of a believer that he fulfilled his commitments. And this is something that is mentioned in the Quran over and over again what Latina home you know, when it comes to our head when it comes to a man that there are those who you know that the believers are those who guard them who fulfill their promises and their trust smell this panel to make us amongst such people.

00:59:20--> 01:00:00

The next is Bob number 100 of hamdulillah. And this is Bob Lazar call Hubble sets nuptse a person should not say my knifes has gone bad Caboose that's enough see myself is disgusted My soul is disgusted. Now how about that enough see because remember this is cutable up so this is also part of other that what kind of language are you using? You know to refer to yourself and now the word hub OSA literally is you know to go bad, right to go bad to go. When something becomes foul and publicity enough see literally

01:00:00--> 01:00:05

means my knifes became foul, alright or my knifes became bad

01:00:06--> 01:01:03

or you could say it means I have become hobbies, meaning I have become bad I have become corrupt. Okay, this is what it literally means. But as an expression Caboose at nuptse means that I am disgusted, I feel sick, any my soul becomes has become heavy, I'm agitated, to a point of vomiting, I feel nauseous. So, even though as an expression, it means I am disgusted, because that's enough See? Right it. These words also have a tendency to be very self derogatory, right that a person is really, you know, putting themselves down, that I have become hobbies. I have become bad. No, you don't say that. Right? You don't use derogatory words for yourself. You don't humiliate yourself

01:01:03--> 01:01:59

with the words that you use to describe yourself. You don't put yourself down because this is not dignified. We see that in the Quran. And total curve where the Fatah the the the servant of mozzarella his Salam when he forgot the fish. Alright, so you shower and he said he said Wimmer, and Sani who Illa shaitan Oh, and add cola. Right? He said any nasty to hurt. I forgot the fish. And then he didn't say I forgot because I am so dumb. I forgot because I was not you know, I'm just very inattentive. I forgot because my memory my short term memory is very weak. Very bad. Right? I forgot because I'm not that smart. Alright, he didn't put himself down he said Wilma and Sandy who English

01:01:59--> 01:02:46

a Toronto and of course, it was only shaitan that made me forget to remember that. Right? So this is the proper etiquette that when you're referring to yourself to other people, of course you should you should be respectful. But even when you're talking about yourself, you should use respectful appropriate dignified words and dignified expressions. Don't put yourself down. So layer call hubitat NFC, a person should not say hubitat NFC. Let's look at the Hadees had this an mo hammer double use of had dessiner sufian on a sham or an EB here on our Chateau de la marinha or an NB sallallahu alayhi wa sallam on the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, layer kulana hadoken

01:02:46--> 01:03:32

hubitat nuptse Well, actually opole luckie satnav See, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said none of you should say that my knifes has hubitat rather a person should say luppi said nuptse that that I am annoyed the next Hadeeth is similar had doesn't have done a lot on our below her and Eunice and is a year and a bit Obama to be silent and OBE and in a BSL Allah who are to sell him a call lie akula hadoken kabu satin FC will actually a cool lovely satin FC dabar who wrote a lot of you should say hubitat nuptse rather a person should say lucky set nuptse. Now, one thing we see in this hadith is in both of these Hadees is that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam when he

01:03:32--> 01:03:59

stopped people from using a certain expression, he gave them an alternative right and this was his way of salallahu alayhi wasallam and and this is the correct way that you know when you stop people from doing something you better give them an alternative. And what's the alternative that he gave them? Luckily said nuptse lucky said nuptse and hubitat nuptse as an expression mean the same thing okay.

01:04:00--> 01:04:56

And I mentioned the meaning of this expression earlier that I am you know disgusted or I am agitated or you know, I feel so heavy that I could vomit right. Basically, what this expression means is that I am very uncomfortable, this is you know, this is very upsetting, alright. So, both expressions are similar in meaning, but one has, you know, a more negative connotation or it can be or it is such an expression in which a person is is humiliating themselves, right one is derogatory and the other is not. So, always remember that you know, while there are certain expressions that you may be very used to or that perhaps convey your feelings very aptly.

01:04:58--> 01:05:00

Always go for expression

01:05:00--> 01:05:55

That are dignified meaning do not use undignified expressions even for yourself that even if you are feeling extremely horrible bad, you know your choice of words should still be dignified. And it is a fact a person can be heavy so knifes right as we learn that if a person sleeps through Salah, they do not pray budget. Then the Prophet sallallahu Ernestina sent us Baha kabhi Philips, right that a person wakes up while he is hubby's enough meaning the knifes is in a really bad condition. Right? But it is against proper etiquette that a person uses such words to describe himself. Why? Because when you put yourself down, and you say, I'm so bad, right? Or I have gone hubby's, right, or I am

01:05:55--> 01:06:41

horrible. Right? I am so bad, etc. When you talk about yourself this way, then you know what the people around you are also going to talk about you in a negative way. They're not going to respect you. If you disrespect yourself, then others are also going to disrespect you. Right? your dignity, your respect is in your control it is in your head, the way you treat yourself is the way that others will treat you. I know for example, if you're assertive about you know your needs, or your boundaries, then other people will respect them. But if you if you if you don't have you know any any boundaries, and you let people say whatever, do whatever, then yes, they will walk all over you,

01:06:41--> 01:07:28

they will mistreat you. So when you talk about yourself, in your own words, then you must use respectful language. Secondly, when you you know, talk about yourself using negative words, this means that you are thinking very negatively about yourself. And when you think negatively about yourself, then you will invite more negative thoughts, right more negative thought patterns. And that will only lead to more negative behaviors. So for example, if you keep telling yourself that I'm so bad, then you know what, if I'm so bad, then I might as well commit this sin, I might as well use, you know, another bad word, I might as well leave another salon. Right I might as well take off

01:07:28--> 01:07:42

my hijab. So when you constantly put yourself down, you're inviting more negative behavior. So it is necessary that you, you you know, view yourself as a dignified person. This doesn't mean that you

01:07:43--> 01:08:10

you know become very proud and arrogant know you believe that I am worthy. You believe that I am worthy of respect and you treat yourself accordingly and you use you know, language like that also, and when you will do that and then others will also show you appropriate respect in sha Allah my last panel thought to give us all wisdom. The next is Bab let the sub Buddha Hara do not curse time.

01:08:11--> 01:08:14

Let the sub Buddha Hara do not curse time

01:08:15--> 01:09:01

meeting do not criticize in the sense that do not blame time why because time is decreed by who by Allah subhanaw taala and Allah subhanaw taala can do whatever that he wants. So do not curse time because in a way then you will be cursing Allah subhana wa Tada. So let's look at the Hadees had this Anya have Nobu Kayden had different delays or newness or namely she had been Baroni Abu Salah matter Paula Paula Abu hurayrah thora de la Mourinho, pata rasulillah he sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said Khan Allahu Allah says you're so booboo Adam adara that the children of Adam curse time what enter the room and I am time via delay when the how

01:09:01--> 01:09:13

in my hand are the night and the day. The night and the day are both in my time. And I am time so if children of Adam curse time, they're cursing me.

01:09:14--> 01:10:00

So and in the version of Sahih Muslim we learned that it is said what Ana de Haro via dill amaru that I am time and all matters are in my hand. Now what does it mean by this? That Allah Subhana Allah says that what Anadarko I am time, what this means is that I am its Lord, or I am its owner, meaning one who owns time, and one who regulates time because time exists because of who because of a Lost Planet, Allah He created it. And whatever happens because of Allah, right? I mean, we have a sense of time. Why? Because of the different things that happen, right. So why do different things happen? Why do things undergo

01:10:00--> 01:10:16

Change. Like for example, you know someone grows old or or their life comes to an end. Why? Because Allah subhanaw taala is the one who decreed that he is the one who, you know, who decides what should happen.

01:10:17--> 01:10:45

So EMA know, he said that this means that Allah is the one who causes events and accidents to happen, meaning any misfortune that has struck you, right? It's not because of time, it's because of who because Allah subhanaw taala because Allah is the Creator of all that happens. So remember that time in and of itself, your needs, it's nothing, it cannot do anything. It's just one of the things that Allah subhanaw taala has created, right?

01:10:46--> 01:11:04

But from this Hadeeth end, we should be careful when I'm most proud Allah says we're not the hero I am a doctor I am time This doesn't mean that at the heart is one of the names of Allah Okay, is time is attributed to a line the sense that he created it and in the sense that he is the one who is in control of it.

01:11:06--> 01:11:55

And when he says that it is in my hand, right or in my hand is you know, the night and the day. This means that the last panel Todd is the one who alternates time right or or the things that change with time. All right, so Allah subhanaw taala is a doctor This doesn't mean that you know, this is his name, it just means that he is the one who controls it as He wills next her these had this scenario shouldn't Walid had this in an order had done a murmur on his V and B serenata. And a B who Renato and Nabi sallallahu alayhi wa sallam upon the Prophet sallallahu wasallam said led to some Marina well karma while at the kulu high better daddy for in the Lucha who had the whole he said

01:11:55--> 01:12:01

sallallahu Urdu salon that do not call the grapevine khuddam inshallah, we'll look at that later.

01:12:03--> 01:12:28

And do not say hi, but at the time disappoints, why, because it is indeed Allah who is time meaning time is in Allah subhanaw taala is control, he owns it, he created it, and he causes things to change time in any we have a sense of time, because of the things that are constantly changing, and they change because of Allah subhanaw taala he he created them.

01:12:30--> 01:13:17

So do not curse time, meaning do not curse the one who brings about you know, changes which are painful, right? Or sometimes, you know, disasters. Why because a loss Panthers don't who causes them to happen, then you see this expression over here, hey, but this is an expression that the Arabs would use and they had other expressions as well that they would use to you know, curse time basically, you see when something bad happened, like for example, someone died, right? Or there was a storm or something like that there was some kind of financial loss, etc. And you realize that you know what, this is part of life, people are meant to die, right? Good things are not meant to last

01:13:17--> 01:13:25

forever, the nature of this world and its things are transitory. So then, you know, what they would do is that they would curse time.

01:13:26--> 01:14:14

High but that the high bar means disappointment, right? So time, high, but at the heart, this is the disappointment of time, it's a metaphor, right that they would use a when someone would die or you know, there would be a loss of money etc. So the Prophet salallahu Urdu center forbade the use of such language even such expressions even because what do these expressions show that you don't have faith in Allah? You don't believe that, you know, everything's happening by Allah as well or that you're not pleased with the decree of Allah. Right? So remember that in the time of the Prophet sallallahu earlier said in the in the time of ignorance, okay, meaning before the Prophet sallallahu

01:14:14--> 01:15:00

where it is that there were two types of people, one is the first type of people were those who did not believe in Allah alright. And who basically said that, you know, things happen because of time. And such people are basically called a Daria right the the people who believe in time and this has mentioned in the Quran will call Luma here Illa hyah tuna dunya Nemo Tijuana here when you click una Illa de that it is only this worldly life of ours, we die we live meaning some of us die, others live on and then eventually they also die. And nothing destroys us except time, meaning it's only because of the passage of time. You know that we are here and then we die. So these are people

01:15:00--> 01:15:42

Who did not believe in Allah? And then there were those who secondly, who Yes, they believed in Allah they knew that you know, God is there, but they would still criticize time. Right, that they would still criticize, you know time or or curse it because of the, you know misfortune or or calamities that occurred. So, they would use expression such as the hypothet the her yabut said the her right to the Prophet sallallahu earlier Sallam said do not curse time, write that in our language in our expressions we should use you know we should express our faith in Allah subhanaw taala we should express our

01:15:43--> 01:16:12

you know, our acceptance of Allah subhanaw taala his decree not that we are you know blaming time or or we are saying that you know, time is you know, it heals or that it causes pain? No it's not time itself not at all. It is the things that happen by the will of Allah right so, Allah subhanaw taala is the source and we should always remember that and our language should reflect that.

01:16:13--> 01:17:00

The next is Bab and inshallah we will end with this Bab colon a BS Allah Who are they who is set lemma the statement of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam in the Malcolm called bull moose mean, that come is the heart of the believer. And the previous Hadees, we learned that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, Do not call grape wine column, right. And here, the statement of the Prophet sallallahu earlier said and that column is in fact the heart of the believer. Now what is cuddle? cuddle is basically something that is highly esteemed. Right? Or, or excellent, or very precious, very valuable. And it also means generosity, okay? Now the arrows would basically the

01:17:00--> 01:17:53

concept of drinking, okay, in that culture was a very dignified concept, meaning if a person drank alcohol, then they were doing something very dignified. Why? Because by consuming alcohol, when they would get drunk, what they would do is that they would go and slaughter their animals, right? And they would give it all in charity. Okay, so according to them getting drunk was a way of being generous, okay? Because when you're in your right state of mind, you would be, you know, greedy, you would be selfish, and you wouldn't want to, you know, give so much. So. So basically, being drunk was associated with what with acts of generosity, okay? So, the idea was that a person who drinks

01:17:53--> 01:18:53

alcohol, right, and serves alcohol is, you know, and is buying alcohol and is drinking alcohol. They are a person of dignity, a person of honor, because they are very rich, they can afford it, right? And then they're going to be generous. So the, so this concept of associating generosity and dignity with getting drunk, right, this is something that existed in the pre Islamic Arabia. And when the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam said, Do not call grape wines cut them, it was to break this connection, that do not associate, you know, being drunk with dignity. Okay, because wine was made of what? Of grape of grape juice, right? So,

01:18:54--> 01:19:01

what this teaches us is that our language, you know, again, the word that we use should be appropriate, because there's,

01:19:02--> 01:19:03


01:19:04--> 01:19:50

you know, direct impact on what we say and also indirect impact of what we say, well cut color, enamel, mostly seletti, you flee so young, well, piano. Now, something important to remember, Heidi's clarifying over here regarding the word khuddam, when he said column is only the heart of the believer, this doesn't mean that other things aren't khuddam Okay, the statement cudham is only the heart of the believer, this doesn't mean other things are not, you know, noble, dignified or generous, no other things are also dignified, but ultimate dignity is where in the heart of the believer. So, the imahara is explaining that with the use of you know, different wordings and

01:19:50--> 01:19:59

statements that show that sometimes a word is used in an absolute sense, which doesn't by definition,

01:20:00--> 01:20:47

negate everything else. So for example, when the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said that a loveless, meaning the bankrupt is the person who will go bankrupt on the Day of Judgment, this doesn't mean that a person who loses money in the world is not bankrupt. No, he's also bankrupt. But Alamo fluss the height of bankruptcy is where it isn't the person who will go bankrupt on the Day of Judgment. cucco Lee he liked his statement in the Masuda to levy yummly kunafa who are in the hot tub, the strong person is the one who controls himself when he is angry. Again, a strong person is also someone who can defeat others in a in a physical altercation in a fight. But the height of

01:20:47--> 01:21:36

strength ultimate strength is in a person who is able to control his anger. Coco Lee lamb will Kayla Leila like his statement there is no Kingdom except for Allah, philosopher who Binti her ill milk so he described him with the ultimate Kingdom so Mother karamu Luca island for color in the maloca either the hollow Korean have said to her in the Quran, we learn that when kings enter a city they destroy it, meaning when they attack a city they destroyed. So you see mooloolah Kings which means that people can have authority and power and ownership and even kingship but the mulk that is for Allah that is ultimate that is absolute right. So, the point is to show that this khurrum where the

01:21:36--> 01:21:46

Prophet sallallahu earlier said and said that in the mill, thermo Colville movement, that real column is the heart of the believer, this is

01:21:47--> 01:21:48

this is

01:21:49--> 01:22:07

you know in the absolute sense, okay. So, the words of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam what the enamel, Cardinal Colville movement What do they mean? This means that real dignity is only in the heart of the believer, okay.

01:22:08--> 01:23:01

This doesn't mean that dignity is not in other things, it is but real dignity is in the heart of the believer, why? Because the believers heart is truly dignified, it commands him to do what is right. It forbids him from doing what is wrong, it is filled with a man right it is it has fear of Allah it is adorned with the hula or it was a you know who feel Kuru become Eman adorns that heart. So, that is real dignity. Right? dignity is not because of you know a plant, okay. dignity is not in a certain plant, it is not in a grape line, it is not in a drink, it is not in you know, who gives how much money dignity is with faith. Right and this is something that should really make us reflect on

01:23:01--> 01:23:45

ourselves that you know, we have become so materialistic and so superficial and our language actually reflect that, that where we you know, think that certain, you know, individuals are dignified because of what because of their skin color. Right? Or because of their worldly fame. And what do we learn from this Hadees that it is not what the superficial right it's not with the standards that we have created. It is what the standards that Allah subhanaw taala has given us. So our language you know, the expressions that we use should should reflect that belief. The next Heidi's has had this in earlier you ignore Abdullah hardness sofian on his re and sorry the Messiah

01:23:45--> 01:24:32

Barnaby Herrera, thorough de la Mourinho, colocado Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam were colonial camo enamel Carmel Colville movement. He said that they say column meaning they say that the grape wine is Khurram, whereas the fact is, that column is the heart of the believer. Meaning the believer is more entitled to the word cudham. Because of a man because of taqwa. So, in these are Hadees. The The objective is to basically dissociate the concept of dignity from drinking alcohol, that when it comes to sin, and when it comes to corrupt behavior, then our language should reflect that. Right? Not that we glorify sinful things and sinful behaviors, with, you know,

01:24:32--> 01:25:00

honorable words. So, these statements of the Prophet salallahu alayhi wasallam. In a way, we're emphasizing the prohibition of alcohol and our language, again, we should be careful in the kind of words we use to refer to certain sins and also to refer to certain good things and to people, you know, to individuals. We have to be careful because the way we describe things as

01:25:00--> 01:25:04

The way that we think of things, right? And there's, you know,

01:25:05--> 01:25:41

there's very, you know, clear impact of what we say and also implicit impact. So we have to be cognizant of that malice penalty to give us all wisdom and give us the ability to purify our tongues, our expressions, that we are respectful towards others, we are respectful towards ourselves, and we're also careful in how we refer to different things. Millis pounds Allah grant us all wisdom inshallah we'll conclude over here subhanak Allahumma will be handing a shadow Allah ilaha illa Anta stone Furukawa Tobu Lake wa Salam alaykum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh