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Hello,

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I'm

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Steve fields is the

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theory that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, he wishes to have this provision, expanded and his term of life or bond to treat his relatives as well.

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When

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was the

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man the

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woman

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today, which is the seventh, Ramadan 1438, corresponding to the second of June 2017. We're going to begin with the chapter of Siena, from Iran, which is the chapter of

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treating your parents while being dutiful to your parents and keeping ties with your kin, your relatives.

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Before actually beginning today's lesson,

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I want to do a recap of some of the important messages that were given in today's booklets here, and I'm listening

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for those of you who missed it, and

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to emphasize certain points, for those of you who didn't hear that.

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Now, many of us, as I mentioned, right now, it is the seventh of Ramadan, which means that a quarter of the month is gone. Right?

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Last week, last Friday, in fact, is the first time we began praying total, when

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people were congratulating one another for Ramadan coming in and asking Allah to give them a blessed month. And already a quarter of this month has gone.

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And a lot of times, you know, we've gotten used to the grind of the fast if you will, we've altered our eating schedules, altered our sleeping schedules, we've altered a lot of things to accommodate

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this month, in order to strive so that we can gain in good feats. And that's an important thing that we do in this first in these first seven days, if you will, because in a minute or the first 10 days.

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And then another 10 days go by and it will be the last 10 minutes. And what I just want to emphasize this point here, and that is that everything that you are doing right now is preparation for the last 10 nights.

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And the last show, Diana is so merciful, because he allows us this prep time.

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Now,

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if we take a step back, and we looked at other aspects of rd, how many of you have made hedges before?

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How many of you I mean, like what is the most important day of

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your model? Right? Because the profit is that it was sent and sent and tied to our funds.

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And he talked about the lowest count data boasting to His angels about those who come to him on Yamato, what do they want, they just want to be forgiving. And how the Muslims are forgiven or your motto

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must have died if it gives them this the most important thing is that the first day of

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no fight is fine. Please stay with stay with me because you need to understand this is part of having 15 in your religion.

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What are the most important aspects when do you push yourself extra? What about a person who pushes himself extra the first seven days and then he's you know he can't do anything the rest of the month, for example, is overexerting themselves so that a

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doll hitches The first day of hatch correct

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what rights are prescribed on the eighth of Jaffa? You may get wrong. What do you do? You sold a Gemini on the eighth

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No. Five you make two off on a

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no sorry.

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Sorry,

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not too long, Mashallah, nothing, you do nothing on the eighth of

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a minute. And you're going to pray that you'd be praying anyway, because you pray five times a day. So there's there are no specific rights prescribed for the eighth of the Legion. And part of the wisdom of that is so that you get accustomed to having your time on

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to living in this particular, you know, 10th, or whatever your living quarters are not your normal man, he limits borders, so you get adjusted to everything on the eighth, so that by the time the ninth comes, your artists are busy with other aspects. And then it can be dedicated solely to the worship of Allah subhanho data. And this is the Son of Man in general, the prep that goes into something is always longer than the thing itself. So for example, you guys, you want to take tests. And the test is three hours long, how long did it take you to prepare for the three hour test much longer.

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People who prepare for the Olympics, once every four years, they start planning at the end of the other liquids. So they're planning, you know, three years and 11 months. For the next Olympics, which lasts for a very short period of time, depending on what it is it might be erased this 40 seconds, maybe preparing for so long.

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So likewise, the most important aspect of Ramadan, in terms of Azure is leave it till

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later till COVID Allah Subhana Allah says, a woman only shower that is better than 1000 months, the reward that you get for fast abort the battle that you're doing later, some other is better than worshiping Allah subhana wa tada or it is the reward for it is better than the worship of Allah, Allah data for 1000 months.

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So this is what the Muslim was striving for, it would be a great loss for the Muslim to push himself throughout the month, and then Miss later.

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Right. So this is what we're striving for when it's legal.

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Again,

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I have a last chance to add in those buses sometime in the last 10 nights.

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Maybe the 27th, could be the 25th. It could be the 24th.

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Don't think that it's only on what you believe, is that nice, but that's inshallah we'll cover that when the time comes. But

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the issue here is that the last 10 nights, our approach.

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So we've already done seven nights, soon, it will be 10 inshallah, which means that we only were halfway through the 10 night, for the last 10 nights. I'm saying that to say that these are the days that you have to prepare yourself for that particular time. That was the cook but today is a lot of times when we talk about our preparation and what we're doing in Ramadan, we're talking about extra reading of the Quran.

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You know, doing the best to guard us alive and raise your mind, many of the other things that we do to increase the our acts of devotion to a mosque.

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But what the hook by today was about something that many of us don't pay enough attention to. And that is about being stingy with your good deeds. Don't give them to anyone else. Don't give your good deeds to anyone else. How does that happen? How does that happen? The Prophet alayhi salatu salam said,

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that's how the Luna manual mufflers, do you all know the bankrupt when is someone who is bankrupt?

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Who is that when we say this word bankrupt, what does that mean? People filed for bankruptcy, what do them

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has no money. So they send a message of Allah. He's the person who has the money, he's just solving

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campus bills, can't pay back his creditors.

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He has no money.

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So the privacy of the light it was seven seven, assuming

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that he's talking about his own money. The bankrupt one from this oma is the one who comes on your own the AMA, and he's performed his prayers. He's given the cats.

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He's fasted. Look at that. He's done what he's supposed to do, in terms of upholding the Pillars of Islam.

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Well, yet he will cut shatter my hand. But he comes on that day.

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And he's insulted this one, he slanted that one cutter bad

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thing slanted this one, shed the blood of that one.

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And he hit that one. So what happens now?

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What happens now, but last minute data is going to offense for the oppressed.

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So it takes two good deeds from this guy who came, He fasted his brain, he did all of these things.

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But because he harmed the service of a loss of health data, he has to pay that back.

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So it was kind of data tapes from his 50s

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in proportion to the wrongs that he has done to those people.

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And then if all of his movies are gone, he doesn't have anything left.

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Nothing less than the accounts that Alicia Valley takes from their evil beats, these people who is wrong, they have their bad deeds as well. He takes their bad deeds, and he crushed them upon that other person's

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head to your coffee. Now, this is the one who until he is going to the bank, this is the one who was truly bankrupts. Because what happened, he's built up an account of good deeds of righteous deeds, just like one of you puts money in the bank, right? You put the money in every month, by seller, you come at the end of the year, the end of two years and you say Mashallah, you've saved up, you're ready to buy your house.

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Before that,

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is some time the balances have to be checked? For the checks need to be balanced. So now what happens is, this person comes, all of these cities, they start taking away from the good deeds from the kidneys until he has nothing, he's bankrupt.

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His account of thieves is zero. And then he goes into the red because what happens is, they start trusting their bad deeds. So a lot of times that it takes from their bad deeds and thrusted upon so this is what today's football was about. It was about protecting your good deeds.

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And this is what Ramadan is about as well.

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This is why it goes very heavy with the Prophet sallallahu wasallam instructs us towards the good manners and good etiquette and not harming the other beliefs. for profit idea, select

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whoever from amongst you has oppressed his brother mckenith

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he must not

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fall yet looming, Julio

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kubla, la akuna. Nina,

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whoever is wrong, this brother is the OB say the products I sell them actually specify,

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actually

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actually specify

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which is to speak about the honor of your brother to tarnish his reputation is to say something about me.

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Or for anything, you probably say some say Oh, he's saying anything. You have wronged your brother.

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Then seek to be exonerated today. Go to him and ask him, to exonerate you to forgive you whatever terminology you want to use.

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Before the day comes, when gold and silver will not avail it won't be about dollars and cents. The Prophet alayhi salatu salam said at the nod was given that it won't be about that, on that day, what's going to happen? The same scenario, you wronged someone or someone, hey, the person was wrong. He's going to take for those good B's.

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He's going to take from your good deeds, if you don't deal with it in this life. So you also want this is for everyone to take this, you know this, take a pause right now,

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on this day on Friday, and step back and say, smell I wronged that brother, I need to make that right.

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You don't want the last 10 days to come in. And you're striving for, you know, to reach it too late or to cut it and you've got all this baggage you're carrying. You've done something wrong to your brother to handle him and ask him for his forgiveness.

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If you owe him something, give it back to him.

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And he don't let someone take your good deeds protects your good deeds. Again, this is what the football was about today. I wanted to you know, spread that message because I think it's a critical message for all of us to have to be aware of to make sure that we protect our good deeds, because we're doing so much we're striving so hard. It would be manifest loss

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to take all of this driving that you're doing and to give it to someone else so that you come and stand in front of a loss to Canada over time.

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With nothing leads

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you to see

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a long one there it is narrated that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam has said he wishes to have his provision expanded, and his term of life prolonging should treat his relatives, well, buddy,

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whoever the Prophet is alive, who says as whoever from amongst you, once more wealth, you want to have more wealth,

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and you want your life to be longer.

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Then let him treat his family, well, his relatives, let him keep those signs of kinship.

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let him keep those ties, okay.

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Here are many points that we need to just address from this heading of the prophet Isaiah slotless Today, the first one is

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the Prophet sallahu wa sallam said ever from amongst you wants to have more wealth.

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And once they like to belong, this is a indication of clear indication that it is perfectly permissible for persons who want more wealth.

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And it is permissible for him to want to have a long life.

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Not only that, it is also an indication

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that this is that this is part of your nature, wanting to have more wealth and wanting to have a long life. Otherwise, the prophet alayhi salaatu wa Salaam would not have addressed us in that manner.

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So he's encouraging us to eat the ties of kinship, by mentioning that if you do so, a loss of data will expand your wealth for you and lengthen your life.

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Lengthen your life. So this is what they call a lead right to privacy, Selim is encouraging us through using this mechanism

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of a system of rewards. Okay, now you're going to see that the next Halloween is the opposite. It's a stern warning from the Prophet it is selected. So that is the way of the we're on the way of the bride. So if we look at so little fancy hat, for example, in shorts and fancy, huh.

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You say al hamdu Lillahi Rabbil alameen right.

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So you start off by raising the alarm refer up the line I mean, what is the

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what is that?

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Your Lord by voice your Lord What does that mean? What does the Lord do such thing sustains you? Okay?

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The same word in Arabic is using now talking about an English but in Arabic they use the word tarbiyah which is from the same love is there

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meaning one that there's a nurturing process. The one Danny come out dyani Selena, la you say about the

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right? Oh Allah.

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Allah have mercy on my parents,

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just as they because of the fact that they pay me something about the day nurtured me when I was young, that they sustain me. They taught me

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they raised me. Right. So when we think of rubber, and the anime,

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we should have this thing, Lord of the worlds bellicose method, Lord, what does that mean Lord,

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He is the one who nurtured everything in creation, raising, nurture that brought it to fruition,

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sustains it. So yes,

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that is when we say that. That is to encourage us to love a love.

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Because you love the one who nurtures you. It's natural. It's natural to love the one who nurture and that's why you love your parents.

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How could you learn?

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Right? So let's have a dialogue is the magnificent knees the merciful. Mercy is his characteristics you can have with Adam. And the whole creation is the same who has firstly done the job.

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So that is something that we hope for his person, we hope will allow us to count down as much as we love him, and we hope for his mercy. And this is an encouragement. Right?

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Then we say Manny he'll be

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okay.

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Whether you say too many or Maliki The only

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Are the king on that day, some kind of a time of the day of judgment? What kind of feeling does that give you? When you think about the day of judgment? And the king? Doesn't that scare you? Just a little bit? If not,

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to think that there is a day when you have to stand in front of the cane

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and answer for what you've done.

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And so that should induce some fear, be some degree of fear?

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And then we say yes, and I'm

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not saying that is you alone, that we worship, and from you alone, we seek assistance, assistance in worshiping,

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alone?

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How do we worship Allah, we worship him with love, proper anatomy, and with hope, about man and my hand and with fear Matic yoga theme. And these are the three pillars of worship.

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You worship along with love, fear and hope. But again, the point here, tying it in to what we're studying right now, is that there is that system of rewards and punishments of encouragement and fear.

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That comes so here is a property of salatu salam is encouraging us to keep the ties with our kingship, he's encouraging us through mentioning that if you do so, then your wealth will be increased, and your life will be long. Some people might think that that's strange.

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But a lost count data is the one who creates causes and effects.

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allies who are jealous The one who created the causes and effects. So if someone puts their hand in fire, what's going to happen?

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It's going to get burned. Because fire is hot. And our hands don't have any thing that prevents that heat from coming on the handle burning. So there's a cause and effect fight. If someone said to you,

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if you work out

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moderately for 30 minutes a day,

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for 30 minutes a day, that's what they say no,

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then you will increase your lifespan by an average of five years.

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Anyone find that strange?

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No, no, it's fine. It's a strange, because part of living is that there's you have to have some some degree of health to be able to live, right? If someone said to you, if you go to Wharton School of Business or Harvard,

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and you study business and you get an MBA,

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you will increase your earnings by 300%. Would anyone find that strength?

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No, because we have tangible. we as human beings, we have these tangible causes and effects that we know about. We know that if you do certain things, other things are likely to happen to him. So if you eat a pound of state, then you're most likely going to get full. These are causes and events. Understand that one.

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Here, the profit is slightly, it's telling us about a cause and effect that we wouldn't know about because it's not a tangible thing that we build.

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A lesser power dial is capable of all things. So a lot of saying that if you want your lifespan to be increased, then the one

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that will

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kick the tires will teach you. Now again, like I said, this is not something that we can just come up with a match. But because the proper a select username is a form that somebody knows the truth. And if you want to have more wealth, some people claim that they're poor, they're impoverished, they want more

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authority. They let him keep the ties of kinship. Because this is one of the reasons that helps to increase your wealth in your life. There are

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many benefits that the Prophet is delighted to see that, as mentioned, from keeping the ties of kinship, one of them is that ultrasound data will have mercy on

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as you know, there's the famous Hadith where the Prophet alayhi salatu salam said that of Rahim, the wound is suspended from the out from the throne of Allah.

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If it says it makes it to Allah have mercy on the one who has mercy on me,

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or the one who skewed in size

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and cut off the one who cuts off time. So this is a means of gaining mercy from a loss of No dad.

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Prophet alayhi salaatu wa Salaam also said that

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the one believes in Allah the last day, let him keep tabs with his relatives. And so the one who stands with his relatives, this is a clear indication that he has a belief and Alaska from the data in the last day. But the question here is what the first year is, Who are your relatives that you are supposed to keep ties for? Who are they? Do they include your cousin?

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Do they move far distance, you know, relatives cousins of your aunt's your uncle's? What is it that defines for us? who it is that we are obligated to keep ties with? you're obligated to keep ties to the scholars have differences of opinion on this issue. And the most correct opinion, inshallah tada is that it is an obligation for you to keep ties with everyone who is a Muslim, for

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everyone who is a Muslim. So that doesn't include your customer, even though even though if you keep the relationships with them, and that's something that's good, but we're talking about now, what is wedge it is an obligation. That means that if you do not if you leave this off, then you are simply by Who are your Muslim?

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Your hair in

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your eyes? Whoops.

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Sorry.

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They are corrected. They are mentioned in the versatile website.

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Nope, nope. Right.

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Right. Okay. So someone you are not permitted to marry?

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forever? Not temporarily. Okay. But forever, you're never able to marry this person either. Because they because of lifetimes and because of kinship or because of a separate one.

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And it is a permissible reason.

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Add the eyes a nice that was added to

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the correct they are all mentioned there. I'm giving you the definition that definition

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is everyone that you are not permitted to marry

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Okay, permanent, that you are permanently not permitted to marry either because of kinship or because of a permissible reason. The permissible reason is like a bar that is that is that they have been breastfed from the same one. All right. So anyway, so these are your parents, okay. Obviously,

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we're looking at

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if it was a woman, she's looking at the the male counterparts and vice versa. So your parents, you have to keep ties with them, your grandparents as well. your aunt's your uncle's, your siblings. And then this is something that's a major problem.

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Because many people that grew up in a household, they get the sibling rivalry, and then they'll talk to each other for years. This is

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not something to play with. And

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these are these are people that you have to keep ties with you and your children and your grandchildren. Okay? So your parents, your grandparents, godson, your uncle's, your siblings, and your children and your grandchildren, all of them will come under the category of those whom you have to keep ties with. You have to keep trying to fight. The next question is, well, fitness fam define for us?

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What that means to keep time does that mean that I have to, you know, send them money every month? It doesn't mean that I have to visit them every week that he What does that mean? That I have to keep ties with my family.

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This plan did not come in rigidly defined that in any time. We don't find anytime we find a command

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and the Brian and Azuma without a rigidly

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defined implementation of that command and we're going to go back to custom. We're going to go back to custom. Right. So that's going to change from time to time and from place to place and from even from family to family. Okay, so for some families, you know, it may be custom for them. Maybe the son doesn't live with the mother. He calls her every day to check on her. So

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Mothers may not want you to call him every day, they're busy doing it.

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They don't want you to call every day to determine, you know, the server what she's doing. So every child needs to learn what their parents like and what they don't like. Obviously, we're talking about in the realm of permissibility.

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You can't do something to please your parents.

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There's no tie. There's no obedience to the creation of us parents, either in disobedience to decree.

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So if your mother or father smokes, and they say to you go to the store, and give me a pack of cigarettes, you have to respectfully decline. That's fine.

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You can support that.

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You understand what I'm saying? So don't think that obedience to parents dutiful Miss to them is what we would say unrestricted is restricted in the realm of what is halab in Islam.

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All right, apply. So that may be I mean, in in this particular scenario, and when we talk about

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what it means to keep the ties, if someone invites you from your family, they you should answer that invitation, you shouldn't answer that for any Muslim, but especially with your family, you stand by them, you support them, before you support anyone else. If

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you invite them, you should invite them to your home, for example, so that they can visit you give them gifts from time to time.

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Call them if you can't visit them. Because sometimes you may live with this thing, you know, the distance that makes it very difficult to miss

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any of those things that you know, will bring them joy.

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But this is part of keeping those times with them. And they take precedence, they take precedence, your family takes precedence over the rest of the Muslims, some people neglect their family, and they help everyone else. And that's not right, you should help your family before helping anyone else unless there's a degree of virtue for the person that you are helping. But again, even in this case, not to the expense or at the expense of your own family. So I think the point is that you have to be the one that has some degree of understanding of what it means to keep the times good your family?

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Yes, it does make a difference in your families, Muslim or not? Five, good question. The question is, does it make a difference? Whether the family is Muslim or not? And the answer is no, doesn't make a difference. You are two key times, even with your non Muslim relatives, and

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they will see that as being the difference in you from how you were before you were.

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And perhaps that will be something that would be a form of download to them, something that will show them the beauty of Islam without you even having to open up your mouth and say anything about Islam is this one status that, that they can see from who you are, and from your character. And from the fact that you do keep ties with them that this this must be something that Islam

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has commanded him to do, and change them because he doesn't like to support

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and it would be a shame for someone to have been a good son before they were Muslim. To have been a good sibling to have been a you know, somebody that was well respected in the family and then after they become Muslim, they do a 180 and they hate everybody

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we all love you prefer

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something like that,

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and spend all of their time away from their family. Now, you can as a as a Muslim, you should be better as a Muslim than you were as a non Muslim and show your non Muslim relatives the beauty of this deal. So it does not make a difference. Again, the only difference is going to come in when you are asked from them to do something that may not be permissible for you to do so if your family is saying Yeah, come and celebrate Christmas with us. We must do we don't celebrate Christmas

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with all due respect to the family, but that's not going to be something that you engage

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in another time invite them to your house.

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You know, I mean this is something you know, again, we don't take away something without replacing it with something better without replacing it with something better at nighttime. The last point that was mentioned with this particular heading inshallah

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is that

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the scholars

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Hear,

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based

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or bring up the issue. When the prophet SAW your setup says you want the light to be expanded,

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you want more wealth. Don't we know all know the Hadith

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where the Prophet alayhi salatu salam said in each one of you is created in the womb of his mother 14 days as a no fun to that. And then he talks about the angel coming in, he writes down

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what his lifespan is going to be and how much risk is going to add

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many places in the world where last minute data says that if your time and your appointed time is come, then it will not be delayed. Your appointed time is come, then it will not be delayed by how can we understand here? We have these texts that are telling us No, it's already written. It's written down, done finished. You know, we have this heavy here. But approximately Some say no, you can actually increase your life.

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How can we understand these? Two?

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The question again,

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the question, again, is that we have certain texts from the bride and assume that clearly indicate that the time you're going to die has already been determined, while you're in the womb of your mother.

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So already written down.

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At that, if your appointed time has come

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for less than signs on a subsidy.

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There's no negotiation. Okay, so we have that we have those tests. But then we have this text here with us. For the province, like Simon says, If you want your

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life span to increase, you want your money to increase your lifespan to be LinkedIn.

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Right?

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Then keep the time. Yes, it was in the heart of that, would you do this action? Sorry, it was in the content that you will do. Very good.

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And that is the answer. The answer is that it was already the tree that I lost turns out, I already knew that you would keep the ties of kinship. And so he gave you a lifespan based on it

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and gave you your your wealth based on that

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or he knew that you would not and decreed for your lifespan based on it. So, this is not something that goes out outside of the last few times in the last point that I do want to mention here

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because that I did mention earlier they translate risk is what provisions here what what service provision, well, once this provision is to be increased.

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The many times when we think of provision, we are just thinking of well, that is money and property is something that you can you know tangibly own. But risk actually, the current the term itself also includes your faculties, your mental abilities. So as many of the scholars mentioned here, that by keeping good ties with your family, you actually get smart philosophy that increases you in your in

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by companies time because your interest from your risk is from what a lot of data has provided. So it is an increase in all that Ulises handling data has provided you have good

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I'm going to leave time for questions and answers we left we're only going to take two more heaviness London

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Caribbean

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you may even

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have your loved one there in the pockets of a Walmart he was

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the one who severs ties of relationship will not enter Paradise. Hadid was

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the one who severs the ties and relationships will not enter Paradise last full agenda. He doesn't go into paradise.

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This is collected by the party was more explained his technique to ban

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Muslim

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who was debating

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shall or whatever you named your son debate.

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debate.

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He was the one

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who said that he heard the properly some of this was when he wasn't a Muslim. He said he heard the Prophet I didn't select it was Sam reciting sort of tour of tour with eternity Massoud and Margaret

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and when he got he said what the prophet is tonight.

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Got to be I am fully full when I initiate in

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the home.

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But they created from nothing. Where they created from nothing, or are danger creators, meaning

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everybody that exists today exists, because they were created. This is the eyes. I'm calling woman by the shade. And who

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were they created from nothing, they came from nothing. Or they in fact, they the creators of themselves, that's impossible. So they have a creative to benefit most of them

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money alone time. And who said when he heard this, honey? I mean, when he heard this, I said, Can Can you be a fee? He said it was like my heart was going to fly.

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And that was when he men first came into my heart, he said, and then he accepted Islam money alongside it. So

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now when you raise sort of support, we should think about that. And another thing here. Another thing is that we've gotten accustomed to because it is, and certain gang members,

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if you will, to read very short stories and

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write this article is the minimal hembree serebii short Soros in the last part of the Orion in selected model.

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But that wasn't always the case. In the primary, they saw just saying, you know, quarter, two and a half pages, right. So the baseline was saying he read that and it was wonderful. When he read it

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mentioned, there are other headings as well, that indicated with the private is not the same reading salon, but that's outside the scope of what we're talking about right now. So right now, what we're talking about is this Heidi

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McLaren says that the Prophet is selected with Sam says that the one who separates ties of kinship

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will not enter Paradise, but severed the ties suffocation What that means

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is anything that causes harm

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or annoyance

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to those who you are obligated to keep the ties

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from those with whom you are obligated to keep the ties. Anything that you do that brings them harm. You are severing the ties of kinship.

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And a person who does that

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does not tend to agenda, the profit ideological cynics. Now

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we know that those who not that agenda are the fun. So the private areas so that's what I'm saying here that the one who suffers the times is the candidate No,

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no, I was my son was not safe and not outside of the fold of Islam.

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But anytime we see this kind of frightening there's a bias to scholars consensus of the scholars that the one who severs ties, your kinship is bad go outside of the hole of event.

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But anytime we see this kinds of threats, that comes from a loss of data and the grind or from the profit is allowed to sit in it is sooner

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than we know that this is a Kabira from the cabana and it is a major sin

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is a major sin

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and major sins

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required told us

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so a lot of times are quiet. And you see you've heard the Hubby, whoever fast the month of Ramadan

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out of faith

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and seeking the last before that all of his previous sin will be forgiven correct.

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For that I do like the Bible party and

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many of the scholars of Islam say that when the Prophet says that your previous sins will be forgiven. He's talking about your minor sins.

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As for your major sins, you must make Toba.

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That doesn't mean that you must stand up, face the problem and

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let Toba starts in your heart.

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Toba is negative

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that you regrets what has come from you learning those sins that you have done in the past.

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That is where Toba starts. The second part of Toba is that you leave off doing that action. So you can't lie because this is a real indication that you regret doing that.

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If you truly regret

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Why are you still doing it?

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So you have to leave it off that is an indication of your regrets.

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And you have to have firm determination not to go back to that sin from what you are repentance.

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This is so

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and so if any of you have done something to harm

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his relative, then let him make Toba today, don't postpone COVID, don't delay. Make it right.

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If you have some beef between you and your brother make it right.

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If there is some something that you have done to harm your parents, your grandparents make it right. Today, don't delay.

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Because that is not only Huron, it is from the Kobe

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C major center, he made this because the levels of interaction with your relatives are three, you should keep this in mind at all times. Either that you're keeping the time silica and that is your obligation.

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You got that that is an obligation. Or you are separating the times

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doing something to harm your relatives anyone.

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And that is a major sin, or you're doing either one.

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And that's harangue.

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Me, you are not keeping the time.

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Nor are you severing the ties.

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Some people might say that's in the middle, that is time. So why is it odd because it is waiting for you to keep the tracks. So you're not keeping them when you are doing something that is common.

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But it's not as bad as the one who's actually harming his relatives. So he just, you know, he moved to another state, you know, to another country didn't call his mom in a year.

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And he, he didn't do anything to harm her like as in, he didn't actually do something that would bring her harm, but he neglected her.

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So let's call Claire,

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the dental service, the time will not interfere.

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Many of the scholars prefer to leave the hijab as it is, don't even explain it, he won't get to gender, why because that is more of a means of

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getting the point across that this is a major sin.

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But because we live in a time when people can pronounce Technion other Muslims,

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as if they have the right to do so. And haphazardly and with no restrictions whatsoever, it does become important to sometimes explain these sets sometimes understood.

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So what does that mean?

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entering agenda is two ways the two ways on,

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you either enter immediately, that is without going to the fire first. So you're from the first event to paradise, or someone enters paradise after having been purified in the fire when the other one left.

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And these are the Muslims who have died upon to leave. But who since they are being held accountable for violence.

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So they are punished in the fire. It serves as a purification. And then they enter gender. So this Heidi is clearly saying that

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the one who severs the ties of kinship,

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will not be proud of amongst the people who enter agenda first.

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They are going to be they are under the threats of being punished and they'll fire before they enter then

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that's scary enough. And a person should really look at these hobbies.

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And take a step back and make that part of your Ramadan where you figured out a way that you are going to keep the ties and kinship with your family and this month and beyond.

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Find out what it is that they like and do those things. If your parents are in need of monetary support, support them to the best of your ability.

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If they haven't heard from you in a while make sure that they hear from you.

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And the way that they like to hear from you know, because our communication now has become rapid. Everything is WhatsApp

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before those times we actually used to and before the computer was probably asked us the right thing thing, always the right parts. Send them in the middle

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Your parents probably still like that they remember those little bits

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take that do that from here I don't know if you can find a postcard I don't even know if those things still exists, but they used to have postcards behind the father

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sent one sent one to your to your mother, your father can do something different do something that is going to show them that you actually that you actually thought about them that you care, visit your relatives, these types of things, keep the ties inshallah these are the I think they should encourage us to do that. All the points on sends in if a person does fall into that they should raise to repent to Allah habitat.

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But always remember, in the law and if you will, and you

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will feel my moon and Attica diminish. Allah subhanaw taala does not forget that one commit ship with him associate partners with him. But since there are below that, and which is every since ship is the greatest of all sins are the greatest emotions.

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We don't feel that he can even use that when he forgives, when we will would have less than that. So even someone who several times and was threatened with the punishment of the Fire, it is possible.

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It is possible that a loss of paradata forgives him even if he does not repent.

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We'll stop there

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and take the questions that the brothers may have. And still Montana and also because today is Friday and the profit it was today 4% How many times do we miss out on this opportunity?

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The profit it is illogical Sam informed us that there is a sad

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Okay, which is which is translated as an hour but I'm going to get back to that in a minute. There is a sad an hour on

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Friday

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that if a person calls upon a lot during that sad, then his prayers will be answered with

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his prayers will be answered as to I will be accepted by last time. The majority of the style of the companions and the Tabby Dean and those who came after them said that this sad is the hour that is before it is the last hour of Juma is like the last hour of Joomla.

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A Friday, like

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how many of you know what kind of watch the profit is worth?

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The watch to watch, you know the kind of Toby more generic kind of watch to the primaries.

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Not

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per se something whereby they can have 60 minutes equals an hour at the time of the primary and select the window Swiss

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watch Rolex.

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So what the prophet SAW, said, Sir, what was understood from that was a period of time this is what they use, and for a period of time. Now, in some a hobby, that period of time is clearer than others.

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And speaking about why, in fact, the promise of lightning is seldom talked about the virtue of coming to Dumont early. So you talked about coming at the first hour, and the one who does so is is that he sorted a candidate, the second hour, the third hour, the fourth hour, the fifth hour till you get to the point is if someone and cover up availa he gave me an egg gunning as soon as

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one of the motion.

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Now, the point is that here, what we see is that there's an actual it's clear that says the first hour, the second hour, the third out

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and the

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the oldest scholars that must come down is

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and bless me to take from said that even amongst the older veterans at that time.

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That the sound for them, when they use the word side was about 15 minutes of our time today.

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So what do we understand the last hour of July to be from after awesome until Monday for the last 15 minutes or the last 60 minutes or whatever it may be. It is a time when we should do our best to make lots and lots of data

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Those times will we expect when it is more likely require glad to be accepted.

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Like the last third of the night, like when you are in such between the data, the comma, don't forget it. When you're eating, you're breaking fence that's between the van and the econ make,

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make do at that time, but it's more likely that is going to be accepted at those times. And the last hour of July is the same. So Today is July, and they sell all the time to me

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as much as possible. And once the ducks is over and shala make your eyes as much as possible. And in between now and the time is shown by Are there any questions about sealants on blocking and keeping the ties or separating the tackles or anything that demand discussed today or anything about Ramadan? Or or questions that brothers may have? Please, a lot of brothers come after the dose. And they ask very good questions that other people would have benefited from. And then we sit after the dogs for 20 minutes, where other people could have benefited from the questions that were asked. You still have a question?

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Sure.

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gonna love it. I'm glad that you mentioned that.

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The brother said, then when we talked about the text, those texts, we talked about you having a point in time, that you will not go beyond anyone that will come to you. And those sets the talk about expanding one's life.

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The other said perhaps there's another explanation.

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And that is that there is not that there's an actual increase in the number of years that you live. But that there is an increase in the efficacy of the time that

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the Baraka and the blessing that is in that time, meaning you take more advantage of the time that you are giving, because you have

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kept the ties of kinship.

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And there are many scholars that hold that opinion.

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And I'm glad that you brought it up one

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more time. Sorry, okay, after

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that there are many, many scholars who vote their opinions that it is not, in fact, the actual years or time, days, months, years that is expanded, but it is how you use the years that you have. So is why you see someone like you know, some of the great scholars who died before they remove 40. And their names are mentioned until today.

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Some people

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are given Yanni Baraka in their wealth. So their wealth does not necessarily increase in the amounts, but it does much more for them. In all of us, you know, everybody knows people that are like that, they may make the same amount of money as you but they have so much more.

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So much more how they're able to use it in a different way than the last few dollars, bless them to use it and get them what other people will make the same amount of money and then just don't have.

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Alright, so this is what we call putting Baraka in. The same way we talked about when we talked about the doodles when we were

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discussing the support and the privacy. So I'm talking about there being Baraka in support. Right? None of us now have eaten for over 12 hours, 13 hours. None of us have any. And I think that

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everybody's Okay, I'm getting that. But on a normal day. If you haven't eaten for 13 hours you feel you know, very not just fatigue your stomach is talking to like not up you know, so there's not a lot I can illustrate data, you know puts in different things and that is another explanation I'm also palitana knows best.

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Do we have to keep family ties with abusive family members like

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the property select with Sam was asking similar questions.

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The prophet SAW the light of the sun I'm setting dates and while still being more careful.

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The one who keeps the ties occasion

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is not the one who simply compensates, does not simply don't want to compensate. So return returns a favor with a favor. So they visited you, I visit them, he gave me a gift, I gave him a gift, he brought my daughter something, you know, when she was born, I buy his daughter something when she

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leaves

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the province of Somerset, he said, but rather, don't want to be the one who keeps the time.

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With using that term, the wife is the one who leaves the ties, even when the others have cut.

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Even when the others have cut it, even when they've been harmful to you that you come back now. And you try to make him do that relationship. So this is the ones and this is obviously a higher form of Danny keeping the chance.

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As for the obligation of being kind to the one who was abusive to you, then no, that is not an obligation. But the Prophet sallallahu wasallam doesn't always just tell us what we're obligated to do. Many times the privatized Selim encourages us to do, what is better to do what has been

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done Cava vein and why that was done no?

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No. So what do you have?

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When you push away in the fabula, TX, right, when you

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push away that which is harmful with that, which is better, and you don't meet, you don't meet the abuse with abuse. If you're able to step above that, then many times unless paradigma will put it in their heart to accept your kindness. However,

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and this is a very important aspect of our studio. If

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your kindness is being taken for weaknesses, we say in other words, that now, not only is this person

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being abusive, but they're increasing in their abuse,

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because you are being kind to them. And at this point, it is no longer legislated for you to be kind because now you are encouraging them to gain more sin. Because they're abusive, you are sending it by you allowing them to trample over you.

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It may not start with you in the scholarship. Give us an example for this.

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As we know, it is a great first party. Some

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woman said

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a loved one and that one was that the love and laughter

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only increases his servants

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and honor when he pardoned someone.

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This is actually something good for you to do.

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We know that this is from the qualities of the last marathon in the last 10 nights encouraged you to make what do I

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love my food, our love, you are who you are the one party overlooks in the backbone to him.

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a last minute Dyna loves party, back one. So parties, he loves party. So last year data loss was the party. So whenever they do something that is wrong, right, this is something that goes across the board.

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But the scholars give an example what is not supposed to happen is not desirable. It's not something that you should do. You should not party in certain scenarios. So

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we have someone who is a drifter. Yeah. But the problem is the drag races right.

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And this has been why they give this example many times because this happened here, unfortunately. So this guy

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is doing this drag racing. And he goes somewhere.

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The minute he is arrested, he shows the ultimate remorse. He feels so bad about what he's got taken a life unjustly. He vows to get his life together. While he's in prison, he starts memorizing the Brian I mean, you just see your total change to this individual.

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In this case, it is mostly

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for the family of the one who was killed unjustly to party that individual

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came alive. Right? Of course.

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We have other scenarios where the person is speeding.

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We kill someone money other than that.

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He shows no remorse when we

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The stuff, that's what he does.

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That's what, that's what they do. They like to, they like to rape safe cars. And you can tell by his actions that he doesn't feel

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he doesn't really feel bad about what he's done. And if he's allowed to be let go, that he's going to use that as a sign that he's entitled to go back and do it again.

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Say, pardon me, that was a loss decree for me to get out and do this again. So when he looks at this was his mental, you know, lapse, if you will.

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This is how he calculates this person, if you see someone that's like that, that you should not forgive them, because they are going to harm someone else, in order to harm someone else. So here, it is not something that you should do is not supposed to happen for you. It's not something that is likely to either party in this scenario. So again,

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to get back to the initial question, which was how do I respond to abusive relatives, because it is your obligation to keep ties with them.

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With those who are abusive, you should try to find a way to still keep to times, if they continue in their abuse, again, you are not obligated, you're not obligated to keep the ties with them. And if in fact, you see that they are not only abusive to you, but if you said to other family members, that it becomes your duty to tell them. And to remind them of this Heidi Lyons Purim gentleman's a Catholic

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that the one who severs the ties and relations with that entertainment, remind them,

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instill in them the fear of a lost count, and remind them also of those hobbies, which is where the process of them is encouraging us to say, Listen, you can have your wealth increase your lifespan increase, if you just keep the time of creation. So there should be some level of advice,

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telling them what is right prohibiting them from what is wrong. And if they continue with their abuse, that they are the ones who had severed the relationship, not the one who trying to keep the relationship.

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Yes, I have a question about father, but it's related to what you said, Sure. Is cutter always static? Or is it? Is it changeable? For our last question?

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The question is about cutter about the decree of a loss to attack? And so he says isn't always static, unchangeable? Or can the other change?

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And the answer is that there are the word cut that does not apply to just one thing that in there, that's not applied to just one thing. So we're talking about what is known in the bar on his own little kitten.

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All right.

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So we're talking about the, the mother of all books, if you will, a local, what is written there, that there is no change, let's have a D, there is no change to Alice's melodyne is the creek and we are talking about what the angels have written that there can be a change to that. And it can be a change to that. And that's something that goes beyond the scope of what we're studying. But there there's a good book on on Canada in English after you've been active with us.

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Yes.

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Yes.

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Okay.

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Nice. Okay. So the question is about is about to what the grant do we go in and keeping those in keeping the time so the kitchen isn't enough, as the question says, isn't enough to just be civilized, to be cordial? And the answer is that his family is not defined that

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goes back to the customs of your people. Correct. And again, like I said, this, this is going to vary from place to place from time to time, and even sometimes from family to family.

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And so being cordial and civilized is enough, you know, for you and in certain relatives. No, that's not enough for you and your parents, for example, because even when we talk about the ties of kinship, it's different. The ties that you have with your parents

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I'm gonna be like the time that you have with your, your brothers and your sisters and probably not even your hands. Right. So again, that's going to vary from even from places from family member to family member. And we're also going to talk a little bit more about that tomorrow. We liked it when we, because this is not the end of the discussion on keeping the time someone with the next 10 or so are all going to be doing something

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good, we're going to come to it with a map, for example, with some family members who have inside jokes from other person would seem like maybe even better than that. But so, the brothers say sometimes with family members, you may have inside jokes,

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something that only you and one other person understand. Right? And that is other family members who are around.

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It would be funny to maybe they may be offended by it. And so here's the

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here's the thing is the answer is twofold. The first is, if there are only three people that we've covered, the honey lions, Bonanza is meant, right? Don't let two people speak in sequence, if there are three, doing it, right, without the third person

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with a Nevada, you've seen a move the prospect sounds that because if it makes it sound, so when you have inside jokes, right, it is as if you're speaking another language, because the scholars have actually mentioned here that if two people speak a language, and the third person doesn't, that they shouldn't speak the language amongst themselves without without the, you know, without the permission of the third person. Because that person may think that you're talking about them or something like that. So sometimes that happens inside jokes, and the third person doesn't get it.

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So the rule, as we talked about was, with regards to severing the ties is anything that is going to harm or be offensive. So there's something that harms them or is offensive to them, then that would come come under the category of severing the ties.

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Again,

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yes.

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Very good football. A very good question. I'm glad you asked if you maintain a certain practice with your parents that they've grown accustomed to, right, so the question I mentioned, what if we used to call our parents every day.

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But as we grow older and gain more responsibilities, maybe I have children of my own?

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Okay, more responsibilities. Now, that call doesn't happen every day? Is this considered to be severing the ties of kinship?

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The answer is that that depends on your parents. So if there is some degree of understanding, you've come to the understanding with them, that you're normally going to call them on the weekends.

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Right, because now you're married, you have children, and you have a job that takes everything out. And they understand that they don't have any problem with that, that is definitely not severing the ties of kinship. But I would encourage you that even if that is the case, that you continue, even if you have less than the amounts, even if you're calling them in the car on the way from work, don't text while driving

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with the earbuds

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and don't want to say anything illegal. So you call them while you're while you're going away through you know, while you're driving home from work, for example, you can just say, Mom, how's everything going today? I know a situation that, you know,

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that happened quite recently.

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Four months ago,

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a brother was very close to his mother. And he used to call her just about every day.

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And we spoke to her was a Sunday

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and

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he didn't call on Monday and Tuesday he got busy, you know and then and this is what happens. This is the life of business people they get busy sometimes, you know, things fluctuate all the time.

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And so his dining his mother sister called on Tuesday asked Have you heard from, you know, salsa? And he said no, you know, I didn't. I didn't. I haven't spoken to her since Sunday.

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And it was late that night. And he called no one answered the phone. On Wednesday he went to the house because she still answered the phone. And then he got a key from she was living in a like an assisted living.

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He got the key went to the house and found his mother

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on the floor of the kitchen

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unresponsive.

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Pamela,

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she went, she had a heart attack on Sunday night.

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They found out

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and she was there. And in the kitchen until Wednesday night they got her to the hospital, she was still alive.

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But just imagine, had there been a call

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on Monday or Tuesday? No response, perhaps. And that's what

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we're not going to go and say only if what is in these type of things. I'm only saying that to say that if that is your normal behavior, and if that's something that they've grown accustomed to take the time to do a two three minute call just to check in. How's everything? What's going on today or whatever? And that's something that what I'm saying I'm not saying is wacky, I'm saying even if they say no, we, we know you're busy. You don't you know we'll just speak on the weekends or something like that. But if they've grown accustomed to it, then they like they do they like so it is from Ceylon and it is still from, you know, going above and beyond and keeping those kids those types of

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kinship people that kind of loan having a child or learn

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to be like some of her will pick up tomorrow, same time.