Common Ramadan Mistakes
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is common mistakes that we made during the month of
common mistakes that we make during the month of June, I think that I have a list of things. And I'm
not going into too much detail on any one particular topic, but something that will hopefully open up our minds
about why we're fasting. And hopefully,
if we have fallen into any of these things that are common mistakes, that we're able to correct them that we're able to think about it correctly. Now, we don't make them up on the bank itself.
Um,
before we get into the actual
idea of new teachers, like you actually teach in a school or a universe Anyway,
you have all gone to school before, at some point you're like,
Sure, go into school right now. Okay, excellent. I want you to, I want you to think about this, because it actually relates directly to our facts.
Think about the different types of people who go to class. All right, especially for those of you who used to teach I say,
you have some people who go to class,
and they sleep in class. Right. And while you've seen that before, I'm not asking you to use the secret class.
Because you all know people who used to sleep in class, I just want to know, how much do you think they were learning while they were sleeping?
Not too much. Okay, excellent. Yep, other people who go to class, but you can tell that they're going to class simply to get the class or in other words, they need to get a diploma for whatever reason. So they're going to class to get a diploma, or to get a degree, not really, that they're there to learn. Right? You know, those kind of people.
You have other people that know exactly what they want to be, I want to be a doctor, I want to be this I want to be an engineer, I want to be an attorney. And so they go to class, and especially those things that are directly related to what they want to study. They pay close attention to they get good grades, they study those things, even outside of class, right.
Okay. We have the same categories of people effects.
You have some people
who fast amount of time
simply to get it over with. In other words, they just want it to be said that they were passing.
He woke up
after fudger before fudging babies on maybe been slept for a lot of the day. And most of the time.
He says I fasted today. In other words, he doesn't have to make the day up.
Finally,
what type of reward is
not too much of anything? Like the guy who went to class and he said
he slept in class? Because the teacher marking action? No, you can't do that. Because if there was a crime, for example, somebody accused that person of committing to crime. He would have to be able to come and say no, I was present in class. I wasn't there. I wasn't there. I was in class.
He didn't get anything out of the class. But he still was.
And so this is how a lot of Muslims are just, I was present I was there.
You get another time. Oh, they're looking for a little something nice. I want to get in the format of say I gotta do the bare minimum. So I can see
So
I just want to do some of the minor things
that's supposed to be done.
But it's very different from the person that went into class knowing what they wanted out of that class. And so they got what they were looking for. And a lot of times a lot more, they were looking for a certain thing from this class. So they got that.
Along the way, they even learned many more things that they never even thought that they were going to get out of that class. And that is the type of fashion that we want to be. We want to go into Ramadan. with certain goals, you will accomplish those goals, we hit the last last one to give you even more than what you could ever imagine. But you have to go in knowing what you're looking for. So the first mistake that many people make during the month of Ramadan is that they go in boldness is no goal whatsoever that they're trying to achieve from the effect except for getting it.
All they're thinking about is the Ramadan, even
we get to celebrate his toys, go out and kill the Muslims. And that is what Ramadan has become. For too many people. That's why you'll find them passing during the day, sending during the night.
Because that fans had no effect on them. It didn't change their course of behavior. So how can Muslim fast one a day and then you get questions? Is his fastball valid? He went to a club at night.
But this is the reality of some was not to only look at fasting as something to get over. All right. So that is the first thing that we have to look at. When we talked about the mistakes of those or common errors that are made during the month of Ramadan is that we go into the month of Ramadan.
That brings up the natural question which is what
we're
What should we be shooting for rather? What should our goals be?
In the month of Ramadan? Anybody have any insight on? Yes?
Okay, we got past that mess. Yes. Maybe pray every night.
Praying every night?
That's a good goal. Yes.
Okay, so
give me a little more than
driving to fear loss driving.
Why Why? Why are we trying to be looking for
things to be better to be to change the fabric of a loved
one why he prescribed the fast? Same way he told us why he prescribed Salah. He told us it is so much more
legally established. Select for my remembrance. If your salon is not reminding you of a loss of time, none other words, you have a certain pattern that you want.
You start to date eight o'clock, nine o'clock. But then door comes and now you remember last Saturday was something that happened between fudges door that wasn't
pleasing to us. What's something that you could have done better to attack Now, remember, Allah says that you're able to recalibrate, able to get back on track. This is actually what a lot is about to remind you of a loss. Fantastic.
And the
insula prohibits you from or prohibits from evil and obscenity?
shameful BS.
So if the sunlight is not doing that for you, you need to go back and look at what's wrong with my salon. So it could start with You're too hot or it could be a number of things. The point is, you're fast as well as my dad told us why we prescribed the fast line tool so that you can achieve
Okay, that requires so that is one of our goals during the month of honor. Once you attain support, it is very, very important for us to know the characteristics of
People will
detail that and go for it. And I've spoken about that on a number of occasions. But just as a reminder, let us write down just mention without going through a bunch of i is all in all of these data describes a pain in the Bri in detail. So if we can just recall some of those, and we'll be able to put those as goals for ourselves for the month of Ramadan. I remember some of them know something. Yes.
Sorry. Okay, so that was one of those parts of the party, somebody has done you wrong, you excuse them for that. That is one of the characteristics of the people in Tableau Yes.
They spend from that was the last time a guy has given them. In other words, if you don't pardon people, the next shows a deficiency in tough one, if you don't spend for this theme, if you don't spend all those things are lost Canada is obligated to find your spouse's children, we use the cans, helping to establish the houses of a loss and die in this land, there is no other way to do it, except from our pockets, we don't have any system of status.
If you don't do that, then that shows that there's a deficiency in template, which means that you are trying to use a month of Ramadan to change that particular habit, you know, you're, you know, you're spending your time
you notice about yourself during the month of Ramadan, and trying to establish a different habit.
But, again,
your goals, and we got to talk about that next because a lot of people have goals. They have no plan, or accomplishing those goals, which we'll talk about next. All right, so what else? Yes.
They believe in the unseen, they believe in the loss of habitat. They believe in his cousin, they believe in the angels, they believe in the last day. And as Muslims, this is something that's, you know, an obligation upon, who may come and say, well, that's not going to change around I know, again, it can, because the more you read the crime, the more your faith grows in those things your faith grows into here. The Prophet is alive.
He was the most generous of all the people
with during the month of Ramadan, he was even more generous.
And the same IP. We're told Why? Because jabril used to come to him and they would study the
thing that's important for us to recognize as well. It wasn't just that they would read the rye, which is where a lot of us get that, oh, we should be reading one juice a day. And running that because that's what the problem is to do with the drill. Now. The problem is like some outside of Ramadan, even since probably something outside of Ramadan stood in one right now, with the data to the side, and prayed one.
And then it's been reset, instead went back and read.
In one record.
He
was reading one through the day. And honestly, I mean, that's not really something.
The point is what that what the proper idea. So like we said was doing with your group there.
It was a study of the grind going on, which shows that it's not simply during the month of Ramadan, that we just read the cry, we should be studying the pride when you read the bride you should be reading for reflection, you should be trying to understand what you're reading.
So believe in the unseen. As you read the Quran, you'll find a lesson that focuses on that throughout the Koran and your man groups and what else characteristics
those who repress their anger, okay, so that you set the excuse
for them, that anger management, they already manage the anger all the time. So when something happens, they're able to not necessarily control the field. Because that's, that's another level. You see certain things that really upset. how you respond is what shows what's your level of play What else?
personal phone, okay. So having good character which is also spelled out in certain places in the crime, right? Yes.
Again,
Okay,
so
avoiding fraud in other words that a person is honest in his business dealings, that is, that is without a doubt, from the characteristics of tougher because from the characteristics that they have signed up last night that emissions
from the characteristics of the people of template isn't the truth, your truth will not only and speak for the actions as well, these are all part of characteristics of the company. I'm not gonna go into a, a
detailed account of that, because we've dealt with occasions, but the point is this, that you have to have
some goals that you set for yourself during the month of Ramadan. And if you set those goals around a teeny, tough one, then that is the highest objective of the month of Ramadan in terms of your pleasure, even the loss of habitat. All right. So if you set your goals around that, and you look, where are my shortcomings,
I get angry quickly, not with the brothers but at home, children get the upset. Wife drives me crazy. So she says this, you turn, your temper is like a firecracker all about this short.
As soon as he gets lit, it blows. Right. So you have to take some time to take account of yourself.
That that's important before the month of Ramadan, which is why I was talking about the football on Friday, is that you start looking at, okay, I need to take a step back, look at my obligations. And when we talk about taking account of yourself, once you look at these four things, right? Don't forget, I'm gonna ask you at the end. And
if you don't, if you're not able to answer them, when you fail the class
like, the first is that you look at your at the thing that lost the data is obligated to find. That's your first thing if you look at what has the last half an aggregate requirement, sorry.
Your your kindness, your parents, all of those things that last cansada has obligated to himself and to create and look at where you stand.
And those things that someone got it. Number two, look at the things that last hella data has prohibited that you can still do.
Okay, suffer too. So, you can start by looking at the actions of the art, a loss of data has forbidden suspicion.
Are you suspicious of Muslims?
A lot of data has prohibited that we fear other than hips habitat. So are we fear that people like we fear loss of power?
assumption that law of attraction, you fear that people lost mentality more right to be feared? So do you leave off certain obligations, that you also lost her data because you fear what people are going to say about?
And if that is the case, you have to
work on it. You have to get that point as you look at your actions, actions with the heart. Do you love something as much as you love a loss
to the point that you will put their love over what a loss of handling time? And we have to really ask us because when you look back and you look at why do I do the things that are displeasing to a loss, not just that you recognize that you've done that. But you ask yourself, why do I do that? The majority of the time is going back to something in the heart
is because you love something more than you love a love. And so you sacrifice what is for love and get whatever it is that you love.
So you start with your heart.
Then you start looking at the actions of the lens, your eyes, what do you listen to? You allow people to backfire. When you around gossip,
say things that they should not say around
and you just sit there and you don't respond. You look at things that you should not be looking at, and television whatever it might be.
You understand you go down the list and you look at EMI disobeyed a loss of power.
Why,
by the third thing that you look at
is your time?
How are you spending your time. So you start with the obligation. And then you go on to the prohibitions, and then you go on to get time. Think about how you spent your time if you do it at the end of the night, for example, you just do what is known as self examination. You take that time at the end of the night, how
was it an unpleasant loss of data? Or was there quite a bit of my time that I used in a way that is not going to bring the benefit?
You know, is possibly running all
day? Yeah. Oh, some
days.
When a day goes away, part of you has gone, something you can get back.
So you have to be very cautious for that time. The fourth and final thing
is
to examine the things that you have done, and this is like, this is another level of examination. A look at the first three before you get to level four, to look at the things that you have done, that are pleasing to us bad. Could you be doing something that is more pleasing?
And this is from the tricks of capon
Josie, no pain, I'm allowed to mention is that when a person gets to a certain level,
where they left off a disobedience in the last meeting, any form of open disobedience to fulfill a fine, is that they become busy with things that are good.
But then they leave off that wishes.
And that's it again, that's another level of self examination that comes that comes all the time the last
exam,
took an exam. An example of that
is a person
who may read a book, for example, you may sit
reads a book, and a book is something that is being presented as reading a book.
At the same time, at the same time, he is somebody who has the ability to also love how the other people in his area, or not getting down.
So instead of sitting in the mansion and reading a book about, he really should be out and about calling the people to the beat on the last contact, unison. So instead of using his time like that, I mean, if you just look at it in a day,
and there's a lot of that that happens. So for example, a person is driving this car, okay, he's listening.
For let's just say he's actually doing something that is pleasing to us, like listening to a lecture, right?
But it might be better for him at that particular time to be reciting the PRI. So, you understand, I'm saying so these are things that, again, it's another level that a person gets to where they tried to spend their time, all of the pleasure of the last
one, one of the things that
that falls under this, this category.
And this is this is a better example, in my in my humble estimation,
is that you look at the things that you do that are permissible, how can you turn them into a bed
so for example, a person looks at he says, had a lot last night when I went to sleep I just went to sleep because I was tired.
Tonight when I go to sleep, I need to go asleep because I want to wake up and worship the last count that
he was saying that there aren't so he's turning his acts
that are permissible he's turning them into a bed
and suddenly, like
like, so
when you look at the first
line, so you look at the first common mistake that people make in the month of Ramadan is that they enter without a goals. We should make our goals centered around
centered around
So what
are the characteristics of people that suffer as a loss?
As much as like,
the second?
The second common error is that there are people who have goals, but have no plan to accomplish equal. Okay. So, the front end you mentioned for example, pray Talia every night,
every night.
That's a great goal. Correct. And inshallah, as a matter of fact, from the characteristics of the people of Tableau
is that they pray at night, then Colleen and you know, Lady
Gaga said, talking about the people of Tableau
at night, they used to sleep very little,
can make out very little
man as well as having some fuel in the, in the s ha, what's the time right before for 45 minutes or hour before they are seeking to be given us a handout? This is one of the characteristics of the people will tell
you something I'm gonna pray to win every night in the month of Ramadan? Do you work?
No Do you work?
Next time you have to get off work.
If you're up before budget for support,
go back to sleep.
Okay, that means pray every night.
as normal human beings, you're gonna have to get some sleep during the daytime, at some point during the day, otherwise, you're going to be burned out after three nights.
I'm not afraid to
have you but you're not going to be able to build that consistency. So you now have to think today as it makes sense. You have to sit back. And you have to say, Where am I gonna pray? How long does it take to get there, you have to think about, you know, unless you live right next to the mansion. And that's another story. But if it takes you 10 to 15 minute drive, you need to consider what time you want to get home from somebody.
Okay, I'm getting home
at midnight 1130 midnight, I need to be up by 315 so that I can have some think about these things beforehand. Because if you fail to plan that you want
to fail.
That's true. You have to plan those things out.
goals, and it should be one of your goals. One of your goal should be to pray totally every single day.
Okay, some people might say, for me realistically, my
my obligation is to take care of my family. And I can't do that every night. It's just not possible for me to do that. How can they figure that out?
Because now you can plan Okay, Monday, Wednesday, Friday, Saturday, I can do it. The other days are not going to be
okay, that's good. But that doesn't mean you stop praying. It might just be you stop praying. It's not a win. So now you can plan to pray those other nights in your home.
But you have to think about that early in the game.
What are some other goals that we should have for ourselves? Like practical things that you're going to do during the month of Ramadan?
Yes.
Okay, teaching your fan by
one.
See,
once
things are moving and I'm working, she's working she got to take care of the kids, the kids. Today this one
is only suitable time to cut out if you make that time, you know.
Make it make it
make it impenetrable. That time can touch like, what else? Yes.
No question about it.
Yeah, Bob and Michelle has to take the example of parties to be more generous, try my best to be more generous and more given
So
I want to be more generous during the month of Ramadan.
Do this one, right? Show me generous,
generous, especially if you have $1,000.
What does that mean to be generous, this is important.
Because
I'm going to put in another error into this one. So we're going to run through together is that many people don't use Ramadan as a time to build consistency of worship. So
one of the goals of Ramadan is that you build consistency in your worship. If you go in Ramadan, without that intention, that that is also an error. It's also an error. So you're going to do things in Ramadan that you don't do outside of time.
But one of your objectives has to be to create a form of change. So let's look at let's look at,
when we say, the issue of generosity,
I want to give away for example, $500 a month.
Okay.
I'm going to make the bulk of that be in the last 10 nights.
So in the first 20 nights of Ramadan, the first one day, I'm gonna give away $10 a day, every day, so $10, either to the best use, or I see somebody need Well, I know somebody, you know, whatever has a situation, I only have $10 every day, you know, what happens when you develop that habit of giving every day? That's
all right now, after Ramadan, you might not be giving 10,000
pounds
on average, take nor would you say 100 people come to this message on a daily basis at least. And you have to budget though I'm talking about unique individuals, right?
So if every one of those unique individuals 100,000 things eventually, how much? 700 $200 a day, times 365 days?
Where are we at $73,000 $73,000 just by giving one
day.
Just that, again,
that's
two hours a day.
If 100 people came to the
event, we have some significant income for ourselves, you know?
So
$10 a day for the first one, right? The last 10 nights
because he's looking for labor.
And he's saying, inshallah, no matter what, I'm going to at least have that on my scale, which that 30 is multiply 10 to 700 times and then multiply that more than 1000 months.
I've given millions
but but more important than that, is that he's established the habit of giving you when you establish a habit of taking something out that you love when
he described this in the primer, he knows this better, we love that.
We love what we have in our pockets. Now. Allison and Tyler told us about Brian
you are not going to attain the highest ambition and tough one, if they are mentioned independent of one another can be accomplished.
So you will not attain
tough one, to give that which you love, love the money, you have to give it away to attain.
It's that simple. So you want to become more generous in the month of Ramadan, think about how it's going to go down. You can't just say I want to be more generous, that's not a tangible thing. But you can say, I'm gonna give away $10 at least, and you might come across situations you might not deserve.
You know. But, again, you've established the head. The same thing with with the prayer with the with the with Halloween,
you establish that habit again, you might really look back and say, you know, this just does not look feasible
in the month of Ramadan, unless that opens up doors. And you said, You know what, I feel strong enough.
I figured this thing out when you start praying might have been a Monday, Wednesday and Friday, Saturday type, but then the last dollar opens those doors for you give you that strength when he does, and you start establishing the prayer in your home.
Tuesdays and Thursdays and Sundays.
after Ramadan. Why did you say now you might not do it at the same level. So you're not going to be praying like it was a totally hour at night or whatever it is, might scale it down to 20 minutes or 30 minutes, but you still develop a consistency. And this is how Ramadan changes. But what are some other goals?
We talked about salon, we talked about giving and sharing. I really want this part for me is the most important the other things that mistakes that are made and those type of things we can overcome those
a bit of education to BC this needs important patience, character, a person that was short with your family, maybe you can work on it. Okay. Excellent. So you want to work on certain character traits, okay, that every individual needs to go back.
And we need to do some self examination we can say You know what?
This part right now you start with a
cold so we're allowed to be German police in the day had
rush on, whether it does leave off false speech
of false good
in acting according to false and false, if you will, and insincerity
acting with a lack of sincerity and a lack of truthfulness
and behaving ignorant.
So we start right there with our top.
And this is pretty
line backed by slander, person.
Anything that she thought was just so lost.
So what happens, what happens and this is where is why it is critical to have this going into Ramadan
is that you really control your tongue.
Most of the other things that come Arby's all of the time, you understand, so even your lack of patience, how's that display?
display for you today. And in general, once you go there, the person is going to respond to time. And then there's no television limit.
So you can control your tongue from the door, the whole situation is
done. And that's why even if somebody insults you,
what do you respond with when you're fasting.
So again, it is controlling the tongue.
And so Pamela, there's no better time to do that.
When you feel that, that goes through, especially towards the end of the day, you're tired, those though, those hunger pains coming on and you're ready. It's a good time to just help you learn faster, be more, more relaxed, not lazy.
Lazy become like what other
memorizes before reading before I'm
over the Quran reflecting requires
And so, one of the goals that I really have
for myself and
recommend it as a goal for all of you is to try to get
us to take one touch, you know,
the one is translated into English is 10 bonds is quite long.
And a lot of what you're going to read and Tafseer in a briefer may not be exactly what you need during the month.
I would recommend
one is translating at least half the price.
Thought which has happened, Brian, just about almost. And then the last three.
Yeah, so I mean, it's definitely enough for you to one.
Yes.
I
pronounced
according to.
Yes. See.
So, again, it was before
you know, with the bride,
you can't stop the same young retests you really need to say, when you are going to do at the end of the day is 24 hours in a day, you need to look at what hour you're going to set aside for reading period. It's not rocket science, you only need you can't wait until around Let me see how this kind of works out set aside time. Now if that doesn't work.
If down the line, you said, You know what, know that time is gonna be both
allocated time.
If you don't, and trust me, it's very difficult for you to accomplish that. You have to set aside time. The thing is interesting, I had no intention.
Know, we sat down the other day. And we just kind of looked at how Ramadan plays out in the beam. What are you doing? If you want to pray totally, and how long? How much time it's going to take? How much time does it take to get from the Prophet smash it back to your house, how much time to take traveling, because those are things that you have to take into consideration. And if you don't, you're fooling yourself, if you think that you're going to be able to accomplish whatever goals that you had, if you've never even put into consideration how much time it's going to take and what you're going to do those things.
Especially
like,
so when you look at when you look at the time memorizing, or I think that's a great goal. That's a great goal, because you can set aside time to
read the brand, on a daily basis. And as I mentioned yesterday, the goal of trying to breed a juicer
in a day. To me that's
that's because people have given themselves, they saw themselves short.
If you push yourself and you start from now and you start seeing how much time does it take me to read a half of us, and then we double that. And now I can read a juice. And then you get to the point you're running. And you're reading two views a day, because you've figured out how much time it takes and where you can put that in how you can allocate that time, so that you have higher aspirations. A lot of people have gone with the idea of reading the juice a day because of the heartbeat of
where he went where he came and study where the profit is
in the month of Ramadan. So he was doing the Jews a day with the process of not reading but what
and so we put ourselves to that goal, like like many brothers, take some time to read 30 minutes to read and do the 40 minutes. We can cut out in a month of Ramadan, we can cut out more time than that, to dedicate to the crime. What else
charity.
making extra prayers in general, I think that is important. Not just totally, but incorporating making sure that you're praying
for budget, and otherwise known as soon as those soon that are before and after some of the obligatory print.
It's all about character. So the tongue curving, that negative behavior in general is also important and these are these are habits that you want to continue after the month.
Okay, I'm going to tell you those three, real quick, the first three common errors
take account of yourself. So there are
four things I just mentioned. Right? Going into Ramadan without goals.
That's and that's a very common error we need to be aware of then second thing, what am
I? Exactly right. So not having a plan to accomplish those goals. And the third thing is, right is the issue of consistency, not having the aspiration of consistency. In other words, you don't even have a goal of being consistent, which is which is which is, which is an error, you should be using the goals that you have for yourself to develop a pattern of consistency, you know, after the month of Ramadan, even if it's not at the same level. So your generosity outside of Ramadan is not going to be like it is in Ramadan.
So you might go from $10 a day.
But you're still doing something daily, that if the last half out of college back in that day, it was a day in which
if the last half dad calls you back on that day, it was actually
developing that that aspect of consistency, like
I'm going to go through these things rather quickly. The remainder of the common errors that recognize the loss that
many people make for the month of
life. The first number four, number four
is that
not taking advantage of the last 10 nights of Ramadan. And what I mean by that many people start off Ramadan with this type of enthusiasts.
And they go for it and give it their all on the first time around the trend.
Lines let them know Gaslight
and Pamela
Eliza was yelling out of his infinite Hickman
has not made labor to other being the first
order Milton
labor's will cover this in the length.
And as with everything else,
the practices as long as in the game.
Like with everything else, like with any other thing, you know, you look at the Olympians,
they might be in a you know, one race knows 40 seconds, and been practicing for years.
For 40 seconds. Right? allies and wisdom gives us the first 20 things to prepare for the last 10 it is really Ramadan, really, besides fasting, it really is about labor.
If you missed labor to
do that, that's a lot. If you missed
it missed the greatest night of the year.
All you did during the first 20 nights, doesn't compare a fraction sustain leaders.
So once you are on a larger scale is allowed us to do is develop a solid team doing those first 10 I mean, the first one.
So don't burn yourself out. Recognize the virtual blame, recognize the version of seeking out
which also is widely practiced.
And many Muslims have left that sooner against again, even if you can't do it every night, during the last 10 nights, even if you can only do it during the night. In other words, you go into the basket
and you don't leave until after but that still counts as its debt if that is your intention. And I'm not saying that that's the way you should, you should try to do as long as you can. But the point is that at least trying to do it at some point. And that's sort of it you can support
The reason why I
really want you to consider this
is that many of us find sickness of the bed
when we're with a group of people, and that's problematic,
because you're not standing in front of a large
group of people, and you're not going into your grave with a group of people.
And if you don't get used to
finding solace with your relationship with the loss of habitat in this life alone,
it is a very strong chance that you won't find that solace in hearing.
And we have to look at in this life,
taking advantage of those times of conflict, that you are alone with the loss of data.
And that's another problem. Another common error is that people make it to cast some kind of social gap.
You know, so we get together, don't
leave the man alone. Let him be let him let him cry.
And if you don't know how to make glass, oh, you know, some people.
Just raise your hands and tell him I would love I don't even know how to properly
properly guide you to say what I need to say to
push yourself to find comfort in that. And then
solid, yes. And then songs. And being alone, the shoe. And the last paragraph is very important that you do that. And there's no other bed like it can when it comes to them, along with Saturday night. A long
fight. So
that was like era number four, and number five, but the issue of
a lack of preparation for the last 10 minutes. So the same way that you prepare for Ramadan. Look at the last 10 nights. I'm gonna ask you right now, what are the lessons on the calendar?
Or you May or June and June from one to one?
Right. So
the search
team picks up the 15th is probably a lot anyway.
The point is
that we should know that from now if this is the calendar that we normally operate on, because it's the calendar that you're operating on when it comes to children school is the calendar of actual operating when it comes to work. And you may want to throw down plants and miss some days of work. Let them know,
I need to take off June 11 because that's probably the
preceding
12 or whatever. But if you plan in advance, then you can have all of that stuff, worked for yourself. Put certain things in place so that you can take advantage of those nights proper preparation for the last night, realizing what lateness
really means labor. So poverty
is the latest 2000 months of worship and
most people take the 27th as the day and they plan for it at another time. And that's another common mistake is that belief that 179 is
a lot of years. The 27 is legal.
Science indicate that but that's not necessarily the case every year.
leaving some public can be the 23rd 24th night but as
late as others in less than headsman.
Another thing about the last 10 minutes and this is this is common error number six
Having instars at your house
is totally not recommended.
Alright? And the reason why is because of what happens, what our idea of
okay? What happens during this time?
Okay, you bring a bunch of people over to the house. Okay? Problem number one, what happens when a bunch of old buddies get together?
Talking about everything except that it remembers the last time we talked about old times talking about this talk about
talking, talking, talking,
you're most likely not going to pray at the message. Which means that you're missing some reward of praying at the message. Just not necessarily how long that depends on a number of factors.
But then what happens
you get full and fat and goes
over eating is another common error. And believe it or not, Ramadan is still
but but no, a lot of times is not just actually talking is that you talk all the way up until
and that's very common.
And they like oh, bro, you
need to get the salon then when you get the salon.
Every second.
Every second. I remember
the first time I experienced was a brother visiting
me and and champers
dividers over 227.
Okay. So as we're breaking the facts,
I mean, they break fast news myself
as the breaking the fast they got amazon
prime.
But they were trying, they do not want to waste one second. And we embrace the fast facts in Muslim countries is a little different than what you would hear
dates. Boring is something that gets you through is something that gets you through yogurt and bread and like this, and it goes to the messy and you pray mother
may come back and
visit the whole time. And it was just like that was a lesson to say that these moments are priceless. You don't want to do that with people that don't value those moments.
And so forget those avatars in the last 10 nights.
Because it turns into a waste of your time and you don't have time to waste less than that is the wrong time not to use your time wisely. So you need to prepare in advance Not to mention the issue of overheating, which generally cause causes you to be lazy and worse.
And so it's critical
that if you are planning and if started not be doing the last two nights of
error number whatever
I'm eating after the event of fudge.
And this requires some some detail. But I'm trying to make it as simple as possible. A lot
more heightened
Alaska data laid out for us, Brian, when you start and when you break events.
He says eat and drink. And so the white thread becomes clear from the dark to the day becomes clear from the night.
And once you know that Father has entered
then it is impermissible
at that point
as another campaign
in advance. The one he was known as tangible right now, the revelation
Right now the prize was being recycled.
And he had support with the project ideas.
And this is
how much time was between the support and the event.
Good, how much time was between the time you are finished in support, and the advent of vegetables calm, they caught up hunger of some senior at the time it takes to read 50
that's interesting in and of itself, to show the relationship with the poor It was such that they used to measure time based on the crime. And so he said, Come on, come see that I that automatically, like we sit back?
How long
is
how long it takes for them that meant something which shows their relationship with the bride, it's critical to understand. All right, so he said cuz it comes to the time that it would take you to read 50 highs
and the lows as
he says that, that's approximately four to six months, four to six months, okay. So, the time between stopping
your support
and then a budget is around there if you want to do as the profit is
at least at that particular occasion, like some people say not at all
because the problem is like some say even dream to hear that.
Right? Like, was that a command?
Or was that letting you know that it's permissiveness?
No doubt that is not a command
the prophets I some of them not all these type of things like that, but anytime
a verb is a command and it comes after a prohibition or presuming prohibition, then the process is letting us know that this thing is permissible, not that you have to do it. So similarly on so and so little Juma
says
finally the Buddha, Allah.
Allah says, a lot is over, then go out into the land woman to whom I catch up along with
a woman
that doesn't know the
latest fashions quite soon, and go out and seek a laws provisions in his bounds. So does that mean there's a command? Right? It isn't. Does that mean that right after selecting Juma, you can't sell it?
You got to go out and do business.
You have to?
Why is that? Why is the verb in the command form? Because Ryan Sunday it is impermissible for you to find stuff.
So now the command comes to let us know that it is permissible. Similarly here. Someone is saying that the lamb caused the event at night. I mean, it's still not fun time again. So you can eat and drink basically, you can eat and drink all the way until
that point.
Okay, here's one exception.
What is that exception
is allowed to censor
the progress of light.
When he now
if one of you use the event
and he has a utensil in his hand, for like a bar,
your hand is a woman and he does not put it down until he takes it until he feels is the product. That is the exception. Now what some people do and this is a huge mistake is they fill up
five courses on one plate and they pick it up and they hand.
Pick it up in their hand.
He says still in my hand.
All right. That is not
is basically saying
that's premeditated.
You are planning to enter the anana Oh, this is a scenario where you have the upper hand, and the advantage being called and
you already have this company and you finish it. That's
not that you owe us.
holding my hand phones in my hand,
don't put it down. And so you're
wasting food is
real
benefits.
So, this is a this is a mistake, but some people do it. Some people believe is okay.
overseas, this is super common
dad is being called, they go get a drink.
And then he
sat eating before you start eating before budget
shot the price of five minutes. And it doesn't mean that you have to stop them. Okay, you can go all the way up until the end but don't eat after the event is called.
All right, I'll try to try to make this as quick as possible.
mistakes and errors related to
women who are pregnant
or breastfeeding.
There is especially missing
there is the idea that if a woman is breastfeeding, or
that not only Doesn't she have to fast, she doesn't have to make up her face.
In other words, all she has to do is feed a poor person
after the month of Ramadan, so she has to be 34 or 29. How many days she missed for the month of Ramadan.
And
though this is attributed to the love and
the love in Oman
know this is attributed to them.
That being attributed to them is questionable.
Number one,
number two, none of the time as zero
not from the Hanafi School of jurisprudence, the school
or the shabby school where the handling school
has dedicated.
All of them agree that she has to at least pick up perfects.
The difference of opinion amongst them is along with the basis of defense. Does she also have to do
for SPS as the feet of workers. And it is strange. It is a matter of fact, it actually remains
or
causes great down so it has been attributed to him
that none of the Maliki scholars would take that opinion, because the Maliki in general and he they follow the payments on on a lot of things. So if this was in fact an opinion on that, only that she didn't have to make up her face. All she has to do is feed for people, then you would have found at least some of the Vatican scholars.
Taking that opinion, the fact that none of the scholars
have taken that opinion is quite interesting. And so women who are breastfeeding women who are pregnant during the month of online, the fast is still an obligation upon them. They either do it during the month of Ramadan or they make it up and
I am not a doctor.
Therefore if a woman wants to fast
She should consult her.
Especially during these days there is very long, especially during the summer, long, Saturday.
But from a physical standpoint, she either fast or she makes up perfect. And I hope that that's clear. All right. And the proof of that
is the statement of a loss account.
Or even a lot of suffering.
Whoever wants to be sick or traveling, make it up another time and other days, and the scholars have said that the woman was pregnant
and you will lose breastfeeding. If she cannot fast, then she is to be considered the bill. She cannot. She is similar to those who are in that regard.
Okay,
to move on. And there are a couple few other points related to
this kind of detail. But
the issue of SGA.
And that is, for example, those who have chronic illnesses that don't allow them to pass they'll never be able to face according to the diamonds, and the Los Alamos best
those people are to feed a poor person for each day that they have missed. What many brothers and sisters as well, and this is a huge mistake, is they just haven't enough time, I'm going to sponsor an inventory that domestic
how many people came in at the domestic 100 supermarket?
I'm done. No, your obligation is not to eat any Muslim, your obligation is to feed a poor Muslim.
So, you cannot just sponsor and if Qatar and think that you have fulfilled your duty of expiating for the fans that
they have to be a 17 which may be poor is a bad translation, they have to be because of the scheme is someone who has this does not have enough income to meet their needs, their expenses exceed their income,
that is someone who if you may not we may not consider that.
But in fact, the term in this country is usually the working for a person may have a job.
But they are not able to make ends meet, not to be able to make any any standard that they are accustomed
to.
And it could be some of the people that came to that
group.
Our issue is not Could it be our issue is it
it's not about me taking the shot in the dark is saying, Yeah, I'm gonna go ahead and feed 200 people at least inshallah at least 30 of you know are going to be
No, you go to certain mesh is not one of them. They all give us a cat I want to take.
So you can't, you can't measure it like that. And the reality is, is that most of us know at least a couple of Muslims who fall into the category of being from amongst those who can't meet their expenses with income.
So you don't have to do 30 different
you can do 10 people three times you can do one person.
Understand
what is it what is it that you? What is it that you are feeding
yourself feeding them a meal that would normally meet someone's requirements for
a night that they hold to the point that they can't worship the law.
But that is a meal.
It's a solid. So if you give them then and that is sufficient for fulfilling one then right or you will give a half a slot which is like a kilo and a half the state of the country. Yes.
about money, no
money
giving money away as an explanation for this is not permissible, unless you are giving the money to someone to buy food on your behalf, that you make them your agents, that you're giving them the money so that they can be a part.
So if you give somebody else $100, to buy a 20 year old gyro play with like,
I want you to buy 20 of those and give them away and that person does that for you, then yes, you fulfill that obligation, but not just giving money to a poor person, but you give it to the poor person, so he was going to the store and give it to him so he can feed himself, so he can buy his dinner.
And he that seems to be a blessing that we seem to be permissible, in this case, events, events, in fact, what's gonna happen?
next couple, I'm just gonna try to back
as quick as possible.
I'll boil it down to the next.
One
is, brothers will make it difficult for a while.
They require to be wise in all types of special food for Ramadan, especially for the gift. Because the iftaar is not to feed a basket Muslim, to show off,
started to show how generous I am.
how great
my wife is, and what you're missing out.
This is what the star is about. It's not about eating those who
wish to penalize would be another thing that we strive for the month of Ramadan. Because the problem is
Assad
ever feeds a person who is fasting, and he gets a reward like the one best. So we should be getting trying to it because there's really no other time during the year, on Mondays and Thursdays and things like this. And you're trying to keep up with it. There's no guarantee like the month of Ramadan is actually feeding people who were fast. All right. So it's important that you win. But but that that doesn't become the goal for a lot of the people who are doing it, it really becomes a show, and it becomes something to hold over somebody, because you want them to also invite you to there.
So we have this, you know, circle of cars. So what happens, a lot of times that the man is inconveniencing his family
to do something like this taking her away from the worship and the loss of data and she's already watching your kids. So she doesn't have as much time as you had,
you know, you want to go sit in the mansion for 20 extra minutes, 30 minutes, it's okay for you. It's not okay for her.
I don't mean that from a legislative point, I'm saying the normal way to
operate our homes, she just can't get up and do this. But we can. And so we have to be very considerate of our wives during the month of Ramadan, that we're not taking them away from their goals that they have, in general, the better your wife in terms of her piety closest family, the better your children.
It's not necessarily the case with us, we don't have that same ability to rub off on our children, the way that our lives, we don't spend as much time with our children as our wives.
And so, you actually should be looking to facilitate your wife's life goals, helping her achieve her goals in the month of Ramadan especially if you have children and you know, trying to help her you know, be closer to the last time
under that under that same topic
is is bringing
bringing your wife to two dimension. And when you come to the message that she comes to the message together
what will lie one of the biggest mistakes they bring little children with
and they go crazy in the message pack setup. And if you go to a pastor that has a separate area for the kids, that's
fine. If not, you have to work that out because you know having children in the management three or four years old and they scream and they've crying
jumping around and enjoy everything that disturbs the people who came.
And if the profit is prohibited us from raising our voices and recitation of the Quran in dimension, so that we don't disturb the people who are praying, how about you bring in a child to the message, who has not been trained him, that child doesn't know how to bring it, there's no other purpose for that child to be here,
except that you didn't want to meet them at home. But when you bring to the message, disturbing the proof, you have to be very cautious of any lesson that I'm going to mention.
The last
area that I'll mention
is, is not encouraging children to face.
So many parents, you know, look at the children as being weak.
And oh, the days it's long, fast, here's the deal. If your child is reached the age of puberty,
then that child is accountable in front of the last
13. And she's Well,
she has to stand in front of a lot. The same way that a 16 year old woman where
you have to stand on women, they are accountable for that
you are sinful. As a parent, you do not facilitate that.
by facilitating, what I'm talking about is encouraging them to event, making sure that they have the meals that they need to
be able to pass.
How's the child supposed to fast if they wake up for support, and there's not a wholesome meal for them.
If they give them sugary drinks, for example, for support, they need what they need things that are going to help them get through the day, rains and so forth, that are going to help them get through the day. Fast.
And so as parents is critical that you start with your children before they get to the age of puberty,
at seven, even in this one, tell him to fast that first day is gonna be super difficult for your time.
Okay.
But tomorrow, I promise you, you will do at least the extra hour, I promise, okay.
And then the next day, and you get them to a point where they can do a couple of days. And they feel proud.
And they'll give some point they
don't want that they love
not because they want to take tougher, because they'd like braking effect.
This fashion person
has two times
the time when they break their fast and the time when they stand in front of a loss.
So late breaking,
even at my game I held accountable.
But you get them down to a custom, they learn how to do that. And they know that they can do it. By the time that it's an obligation for them is no issue. It's not an issue. So As parents, we have the obligation of facilitating them and helping them best and it is a huge mistake that we make, to not encourage them to a bigger mistake is encouraging them not
to say. One is that we don't encourage them to think the second which is even worse is that we encourage them not to, Oh, you got football practice.
We are or you have to do this and you have to do that don't fast.
And this is on the tongue of some Muslim parents.
I mean, maybe a lot of a child's gonna be the next you know, NBA star or something. And that's the big ticket out of it.
Out of the go, whatever.
Is this some kind of luck. We really have to look at what you're telling your children when you do that. Because what what value we're giving them is that this dude is more important
than your sports, your team or whatever else.
is more important than is saying it's more important than your worship of the last time, it is more important that you drawn closer to your Lord delegate out and live a life that is pleasing to the one.
So, those are some of the common mistakes that make during the month of Ramadan, I'm sure that many others.
Hopefully, you had an open file, it was enough
for us to think about and to open up our minds. Before I close out the talk.
I just want to see if we got those four things. And we remember the four areas of self examination, what do we test ourselves in? Because it's important, this is something that you need to be doing
very frequently, especially as the
first thing
you look at? Are you fulfilling your obligations?
And your obligation? Is your creation.
All right, so notice that that salon, and when you look at salon?
Yes, not just when you're praying, where you're praying, how your
Why
is your salon fulfilling what it's supposed to do reminding
you, again, when's the last time
you know how to use it?
It is these are obligations, your obligations, the creation of a contract, your parents, your relatives, your spouse, your children.
Next,
the prohibitions starting with,
look at the things that
start with your heart. Looking at your heart, the actions that are lost in us from suspicion is prohibited us from loving others the way that we love hearing others the way we hear from math putting our reliance on.
Look at those matters of the heart, and then investigate the link, hearing the scientific
Thursday
how you spend your time
to better.
Right, okay,
how to make better the things that you are doing that are permissible or
going that extra mile? How can I step it up with that? How can I make these How can I turn my mundane x into a better? How can I take those things that I'm doing right now that are good? How can I make them better? Or am I spending my time wisely and allow some kind of without an
acronym for you.
Okay, option creation,
time and improving and prawn and proving on
permissible things now.
Yes, you had a question from?
Okay, so the question is about intention and how to establish our intention for the month of Ramadan? The answer to that
is that
the fasting itself requires or the fasting itself is absence. So in other words, you are abstaining from who you are saving from drink, you're abstaining from relationship espouse.
That means you're not doing anything. So the intention that you have is that you are abstaining from these things with the intention of the worship of the last time because people can have the same food and drink and so forth, without any intention whatsoever. It's just that they are saying. So we talked about intention, perhaps you're talking about the next level, which is
class, which is different from intention itself. Here, it means that you are doing this sincerely.
You're not just doing it because it is a head, because everybody else in my family fast, going to run as fast, because they are faster, know the reward for Ramadan.
Even
whoever fast enough to run out of faith, that is a true faith and Allah
obligated this faster, pious and beyond that he gave it as a benefit to us if he gets anything out of it, but that everything that was prescribed to us, is beneficial to us. And so you do that out of faith, and out of hope and his rewards kind of attack, whoever
with that kind of faith, and seeking the love, and he will have his previous Ramadan, from the very beginning, once you know that it is the month of Ramadan, that your intention becomes the fact the entire month. And you don't need to remove that intention every night, unless for some reason, you have stopped fast. So you travel broken fast. Now the next time fast, you need to have the intention of fasting prior to for the rest of the days are for everyday the slip the slip,
I broke my purse for traveling
the rest of the month.
So the question is about those no frame, however, they finish the month of
the early salaries of the same, including this one. And then the majority of those cases are of the opinion that the person saw in totality and outside of the boat the same. And therefore nothing is a lot faster than
anything else that they day I'm ready wherever they can make them boy,
because
the problem is
that
the contract is between us and then
this will leave. And
then there are other Muslims who
they leave off solloway and they leave off some prayers, but they haven't left off prayer. And it's to
them they need to strive prior to the month of Ramadan to make up with the mission of their prayers and to travel the path
upright and to protect the prince as a loss of habitat is that how to do it. solid, solid
safeguards and safeguards especially the middle
and stanzel along with devotion. Okay, so it's important that they recognize that they have fallen short of your obligations or loss and damage is best made up those
if it has been for example, too many to make up. Then they start the time that they turn to Allah Allah in repentance, they don't miss another sign that the increase in
makeup, what has preceded
everything I've talked about is champagne.
Okay, so in terms of in terms of those who have
missed it, but those who have been there multiple ways that that can be done. So person can come
and be 30 people all at one time. 34 people 34 Muslims, all at one time, that will be sufficient or he can be 10
or Muslims over the course of three days.
Or you can read the, you know, lunch and dinner. I mean, there's different ways it can be done. There's nothing specific. The only thing that I would caution
is that the opinion of some of the scholars is a strong opinion is that you cannot see, before it becomes an obligation to find another words, you can't come on the first day of Ramadan. And say that because I have this chronic illness, I'm not going to be able to fast any day. And Ramadan, I don't want the first day I'm going to be 30 maybe
many of the scholars have the same saying, There's no such thing can I read it before it's time. So you can you can't feed until 10 days goes by the
prior 10 days or missed a day. On the first day, a lot of that now you
got to
be a woman when it comes on the month of Ramadan once it once she's once she's clean from it. So she has the main contention as well, like the trap like the one who's traveling.
So if for example, a woman facts for the first 10 days around that.
And now it goes off. And she's on the 18th of all of them. Now she has to make intention for passing
on a prior today.
She has two kids under two years. Stay home
for the sisters who have young children. And the question is a question.
Right? So she she comes to the
board.
Okay, so should she should she stay home? She has no job two years ago?
Should she stay home the entire month?
Or should she come to the messy and again here is where it's very important that we as husbands, or if she's a sister or whatever, but we do our best to make it easy on them. No, she should not bring her children to dementia. And this is a problem for the sisters when it comes to dementia.
And it's 14 babies. All right.
This is the house of a loss.
It's not a place where you are coming with other than the purpose of worshiping
something that arms, the believers who are trying to worship the Messiah, perhaps you're even sinful for doing so. But there's a there's a solution to that problem.
You know, maybe she has relatives, they can walk to town at night, two nights, three nights.
They can take turns, but chances are she knows a sister who's a close friend of hers.
And watch the kids for.
Right and I mentioned that
is also a designated area for the children, then that is another option and managed to try to even if that's something that may be an extra 10 minutes to get to that maximum, as opposed to their local matchstick or whatever they may set, you know, a part of a sacrifice that you make. So it might also participate in worship. That doesn't happen every night. And again, these are the things that you can prepare for prior to running. So it doesn't have to be something that's so spontaneous that it totally throws off the skin.
What about a
pregnant woman who cannot afford?
What about
Jiu
Jitsu
for the elderly who have gotten beyond the age of being able to affect this is important but
necessary to talk to a trustworthy doctor. But a lot of times we get to an age with a gun their ability to fast without harming themselves and if you are harming yourself
You are, You are sinful, it is hard.
Even though that fantasy is considered to be bounded, it is still hard for you to face. And so that's what we're looking at here is this person able to fast without harming themselves? If so, then they should. And if it's going to harm them, that they should not be fast. And if it's meaning if they're at the age where they can no longer fast, and that's considered to be like a chronic disease. And all he wants to do is feeder for person for each day. That being said,
even for this also, for the sisters who are,
for example, event systems on for the last 10 nights, they're just destroyed because they can't pray.
Prayer is not the only thing that we can
still feed someone who's trying to
recycle. And here, you know, some opinion of the majority, you cannot touch the most.
Okay, unless you are in a state of ritual purity.
However, that doesn't mean you can't listen to a party on YouTube, for example, and then recite, and for that part, it doesn't mean that and there's multiple ways that
you can still recite the prime,
she can still make glass and a lot of glass. And this is part of what you should be doing
is making a lot of rock.
And it would not be longer
than the day of ours,
that a person makes from Dover all the way until mother. And so taking advantage of that, you know, these are all things and
even if they can't pray, all they can do is try
drawing
and worshiping
revealed many people yes, they need they should be listening, and you don't know any the Muslims and your locality stretch
as a stretch. If not, you can appoint someone in a Muslim country. Who knows the Beatles or BB
why
she wants to stop breastfeeding, for what reason?
breastfeeding, and you
can
see why not.
That's not recommended. It's not recommended that she stops breastfeeding so that he or
she should continue to breastfeed.
And there's no doubt that even from a medical perspective that this is much better for the infant and for the child and to get the child.
All right. The The issue is this
can change fast and still produce the milk.
A lot of times these longer summer things that may prove to be quite difficult. Whereas during the winter days, it's a lot of times she can test even every other day, and she's still producing milk at a fairly decent rate.
Other thing is that she can express the milk
beforehand and have enough that the child has begun that she's not dried up in that particular day. See the issue is this. And this is something to clarify. There are a lot of women who are pregnant.
And those that are breastfeeding. They can't fast everything. But they can fast some things. And so some women think that because they can't fast, an entire month of Ramadan that they don't eat up to date
on Monday, and then it becomes you know, fast Friday, then the next Tuesday or whatever and then she goes to the days that she has to make up
And as ignore mention that if she begins the day fasting,
but he becomes, to the point that is too difficult for her to continue to fat, she thought she was gonna be able to fast.
And then she was not able to complete
to make it up later days.
Or if you have an elderly person who was unable to fast but also unable to prepare the food, or have the money, or the ability to buy the food, can their children fulfill that obligation?
The question is if there's an elderly person who does not have the ability to fast into the age, however, they also do not have the ability monetarily or even physically to be poor people can their children
feed on their behalf? In other words, can they take on that obligation of feeding on behalf of the parent? And the answer is yes, they can give their parent the money that is necessary for the preparation of that for the 30 days or they can buy on the event.
But that being said it is not an obligation on them. Nor is it application on that particular person. That obligation is
is excuse their excuse because they were not able to do this or not. That
is not the sole capability all the time.