Stop The Blame Game

Sulaiman Moola


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AI: Summary © The importance of religion and acknowledging one's moral compass is crucial to shaping the world and preserving people's rights and privacy in healthcare. The " blame game" concept is highlighted as individuals find their own success and lose through actions, leading to turbulence. The "has been a crisis" and "has been a crisis" is highlighted as result of actions and actions that lead to turbulence. The "will" of men and women in relationships is also discussed, along with the importance of avoiding bluster and rewarding people for actions. The speakers discuss the struggles of modern day dating, including smoothly portraying Islam and the use of images to enhance one's image, as well as the "has been a crisis" and "has been a crisis" as a result of actions and actions that lead to turbulence."
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These were some difficult verses that were presented. But nevertheless, two different parts of the Quran recited, and we appreciate him coming forward spontaneously to recite the Quran. Allah bless him with his recitation. He is one of the students here at the faculty that are completed. And he also has been here, at least on the foundation of Toronto. So without further delay, shall I'm inviting issues. Tony, as we all know him, he's a household name in Toronto, and he is my practice dynamic scholar with tremendous knowledge. And once again, we appreciate you guys coming here to join us at these blessing moments of the duties of Shabbat as we enter into the

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Rahim al hamdu Lillahi Rabbil aalameen Rosalie Rosalie mana

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Pani rajim Bismillahi Rahmani Raheem

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honorable scholars respected brothers, elders, mothers and sisters. Allah tala has impressed upon men through the agency of all prophets and the medium of divine scriptures, the need and the importance to embrace faith and religion with passion and commitment. Addressing the prophet in the Quran, Allah said yah hoo, the kita vetova.

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Embrace the book, but just not casually or haphazardly. Embrace it with firmness.

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Addressing the Prophet Musa in the Quran Allah said for

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Moses embrace the Torah and the Torah enjoys the merit after the Quran. From all the divine scriptures the Quran is number one and they after is that the law of Moses embrace the Torah but how does with firmness, with commitment with passion with diligence, addressing the messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam Allah said, first I'm sick Villa de la

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Omaha mozzarella and it was Sallam hold on to the revelation that has come to you with commitment, with firmness with passion, with diligence. And addressing the general masses, Allah said

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kita masala Inanna.

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Slay those who embrace religion, the common thread that is found in all these verses, Allah references religion with firmness, with commitment, with vigor, with intention with passion, the messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam echoes this very same sentiment in his prophetic innovations. When he said after my demise hold on to my teachings, and the teachings of my rightly guided successes. Again, the phrase that the messenger sallallahu wasallam used was

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being the Word of God.

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Hold on to my faith and the teachings that I leave behind, with your Moeller with your grinding teeth.

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What's the reference in it, let the good be intense let the grip Be strong. We live in a world where practically anything and everything enjoys merit, importance and significance but religion.

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It would not be an exaggeration to say the time in which we live. Sports has assumed the role of religion and religion has been reduced to sports.

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For many people, religion has become a weekly thing, if not a monthly and for others and a new thing.

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In fact,

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the sad reality is such that the chances of the consequences of repercussion against you are stronger. If you make condescending remarks regarding a sporting star versus blasphemous comments regarding a profits,

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they would be more litigation, more legal implications upon you character assassination and the rest of it when you attack a sport in style. And you probably will get off the hook and Aftermath if you make blasphemous remarks regarding any profit.

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And that poses a serious question to the world in its entirety, and not only to the Muslims of North America, but in the entirety we as human as mankind, need to ask ourselves what is wrong away is our moral compass. Where is our moral compass?

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And I'm reminded of the quotation of

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the intellectual giant, and the legend and the great son of Islam, he said lithography Dunia julaine.

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From the billions that inhabit the planet, probably the only two that add real value to this earth.

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From the billions that inhabit the planet, there are two categories that add real value to earn love in July in June as the number

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one is a person who lives the life of sin, and he has decided to now make amendments and he wants to leave and we have the lactate himself. So that's absolutely correct. That's perfect. That's wonderful, that's meritorious that I have arrived in my capacity as a human. We are fallible motives. fallibility is intrinsic to our nature. But I've now realized that I have made a mistake. I've realized that made a mistake and I want to change. So that's the first person and hopefully we make that commitment to our Creator today that I need to change for the better

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Also known as

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no hierarchy, and the second person is one who exploits time, objectively and hastens and leads towards virtue.

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For every moment that I have, let me just exploit it. When I get into a taco

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bell, and scenario the Allahu said, no action is trivial when coupled with nobility and piety, and how can you trivialize something which ally accepts?

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When allies accept something, how can you call it small? And when Allah reject something, how can you call it great? I mentioned the other day in one of my talks, this is some people are so poor, they only have money.

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Some people are so poor, they only have money, no character, no values, no morals, no ethics, no behavior, no mannerism, nothing, they only have money, and others are so rich, they only don't have money.

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Others are so wealthy, they so affluent, they have everything The only thing he doesn't have is money.

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an amazing thing, under the commentary of this ayah men are the husband and the father.

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Allah says whoever will produce a good action for him is the light tenfold look at them ever seen. And that's the beauty of our D. Today we are having issues and we grappling because we have not studied Dean 30.

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The answer is in our faith and our religion. It's the the deficiency of our vision. So the Mufasa writes, in this verse, Allah did not saying the one who performs a virtuous deed, Allah.

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Allah said Mangia bill Hashanah.

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Allah said, the one who produces which means that when you perform a good deed, as much as it's no, your responsibility is far from over.

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You've got to perform that preserve that harness that capture that and bring that with you on the day of the AMA.

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To simplify the parable, a man could argue, you know how much I earn. And the wife is like, okay, just hang on there. Don't speak of how much you earn, how much you bring to the table.

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Allah doesn't want to see how much you've performed in this world allowance to see how much you bring with you and your eyes close.

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When you die, what are what are your assets? How much of that have you preserved? How much debt Have you captured?

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There's a youngster you've asked him for a glass of water is walking, probably falling, slipping. And you are afraid that by the time he gets to you, there'll be nothing left in the vessel. From a full brimming glass by the time he comes to you, you're lucky if you're gonna get few drips of water, a few drops of water. When you perform the virtuous deed, then it's your responsibility and my responsibility to preserve that to capture them, to harness them, and that bring us along these innovations.

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Were in the messenger sallallahu wasallam said that a person will appear before long the day of Yama

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and his good deeds will be presented. And then he would peruse through his own records and allow will ask him Is everything fine in your records? He will say oh my lord, everything looks okay. But there are certain virtuous actions that I performed, which I don't find captured and recorded. It's deleted and allowance a yes we deleted that because of your constant backbiting of people.

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Mansa Musa, who

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is leading our lt m sokola, who listen to

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a quotation of Immanuel jozi Rahim Allah, He who unleashes Eastern on others. Mansa raha Lisa will be our the muslimeen on the honor on the integrity of the respect of others

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to him, and he only probes and prize the flaws and the weaknesses of others. The possibility is allowable deny him the utterance of Mr. And Amjad at the time of death, may Allah protect us

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And furthermore,

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Why we want the point, that when you perform a good deed, the author their rights Allah.

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Allah under this ayah in the 19. One,

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Torah bajo,

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de cassani, that the supplication of Sulaiman was, oh my lord Give me the ability to do good deeds. But he didn't stop in use the request

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that you accept, and you are pleased with any rights from this ayah that it's the duty of a believer after the performance of a virtuous deed, now to pay his creator for acceptance. We perform and we say, I'm done. I've offered my mother play, I'm done. I've observed my path I'm done. And He further lies that there is no compelling argument neither logically nor rationally, nor through sacred law, that if an action is knowable, it has to be accepted,

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simple analogy, you could furnish a document, you could fill in a form, you could submit a visa application, everything could be done precisely as required. But that doesn't guarantee the approval of your visa, it's at the discretion of the ambassador who designs over that particular case. You submitted the document you furnish you put in the relevant funds, everything was done precisely, to absolute precision. Again, it's waiting, it's anticipation. And many of these embassies will even tell you don't even contact us. We'll notify you. So if you haven't heard from us just relax.

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No timeframe,

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no updates.

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An amazing thing in healthcare to only listen to this, and that would set the tone for us to move forward. This is just a preamble to my talk. It's not the focus.

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In hatred of India, there is this quotation and when I read it a sense of harmala look at these words of the pious

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a great scholar once mentioned

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in the UK, ESL take this man

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be safe.

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In the UK, USA, UK is meant

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to be safe.

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The most intelligent, wise calculated circumspect, methodical individual is He who enters paradise because of a vise he permitted.

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Who's the noblest human who enters paradise because of a crime he committed? Because of an offense he perpetrated? Put flesh to the theory elucidate What am I saying? For a moment lucky the chef's got jetlag

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nama jetlag,

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NASA babina a lot but he made one mistake in his life. But that mistake was enough for him to open his eyes for the rest of his life.

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So on a disguise No, we don't condone or advocate or promote the the perpetration of the wrong. But as soon as he did the wrong and he burned his hands once that was enough. The messenger sallallahu Sallam said

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he didn't know what a believer is smart, I believe is intelligent. A believer is wise. He will never be bitten by the same snake twice. It is Britons once Once bitten, twice shy the English proverb.

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In English, they say no human makes the same mistake twice. The first is mistake, the second choice.

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You never make the same mistake. I made a mistake again. No, no, no, no, no. The first was a mistake. The second was a calculated choice. You knew what you were hitting for. You went into infidelity, promiscuity. You compromise your marriage. You lost your job, probably losing your EMR. You see the repercussions you lost contact with your family you lost contact with your Creator. You pop the poor my young man you lost focus you lost vision.

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You understood the consequences yet you succumb to the bias again.

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NASA bahala na na na na na na

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na na na na FC mental Katia. He kept that sim before him for the rest of his life. He reminded himself remember what happened to you. You did it once and then you remember what happened. And

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there is a beautiful exploration of an area

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Which kind of supports this academic write up?

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So the verse is in the 19 Jews

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in Surah Furqan,

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where Allah subhanho wa Taala speaks about those who commit horrendous crimes, heinous crimes, and the penalty and the punishment will be hellfire. May Allah protect us. But the beauty of the Quran is, wherever Allah speaks about the, the harm, Allah mentions about Whoa, clemency respect, forgiveness. And again, this is the challenge people take it out of context. Look at the verse before, look at the verse after that understanding in a holistic way, and then you will appreciate that this is divine speech of Allah.

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So Allah speaks of those who funny gay, those who kill those who murder who do the wrong, they will end up in hell.

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Longer say

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elementa. But for those who repent, to embrace the faith,

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and perform the righteous deeds for Allah,

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Allah will convert the bias into virtue.

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What did Allah say, Allah will convert their bias into virtue. There was a delinquent, a rebel youngster who reformed himself. And then he went to a chef and he said, Sure, if you're a sage of the age, you're a noble man. But I must tell you, I have more virtuous, more virtuous actions than you. I have no, no virtue, the new so this pious person said, Okay, that's fine. But what makes you make the claim? He said, I have repented. And Allah has promised that when you leave them to convert your voice into virtual, and surely my advice was more than your virtual.

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Surely my advice, and the one that I have done in my life was more now academically, academically scholastically, the scholars debate the conversion of bias into virtue, what does it mean? Is it literal or metaphorical?

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Is it happycar homages to simplify the whole thing?

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So some scholars say it's metaphorical. And you can read this as a plug? In implica fieldbuses mentioned

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it's metaphorical. What does that mean? Allah when you repent, Allah will delete your evil. Allah will wipe out your evil give you the ability to perform noble deeds, and that is how Allah bless you with virtue. But then there is a nother principle of the sea. And that is, when it's possible to give a literal interpretation. There is no need to migrate to a metaphorical interpretation.

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These are basic things of the sea. If you're into it, you will know what I'm saying. But I hope I keep myself humble and simple that you can identify with what I'm saying. So if there is a

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possibility, and that's what he writes, we'll call the family and the telecast say everything in Malia kalibo Bina secto Bettina so he has an array

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of size. The second opinion is that when you return which then Allah will literally convert your values into virtue.

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Literally, and then he explains why in Ludhiana Hakuna Matata, Corona muda Medina was sterile jar for young cannabis

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can be heavily Atiba how, when a person sincerely regrets, then every time he would pass the location of vice, probably if you had a gambling habit, probably if you had a habit of committing Zina, every time he would pass that area, that location that venue, it would trigger a fresh regret in him. And he would say oh years of my life went here 1000s of dollars been wasted here. So in essence is some will be a source of him renewing his regret. Hence the sun itself will be converted into virtual because the rest of his life he will eliminate the bias and that will motivate and inspire him towards virtue Subhana Allah

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and the scholar writes in a little Odia and the most foolish and naive individual is one manga novel.

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A person who enters hell because of the virtue of the performance.

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Can you imagine the foolish

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The negativity of this individual. He enters hell because of a virtual he performed. NASA Habana ima he magnifies this one virtue.

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It takes one virtue he magnifies it. And because of that he becomes complacent in the performance of other virtues. Is his brother Do you know? What do I did? How?

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Do you know what a dream I know of a person who relies on entry into gender because of a dream. I'm like, brother next.

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You know, today we don't even pick up there was a brother who had a dream. And I knew he was indebted. He was owing money to people. And he had a bit of a scary dream. And he came to me and he said, I had this dream and this vision, I bounced his vision of one of my scholars, and he said, tell him this is an indication that he needs to make haste in paying the money that is outstanding. So I tell him that Listen, I got your interpretation, and it means that you need to make haste in settling your debts. And these are the teachings of Islam. And the Prophet sallallahu wasallam was exhorted us to hasten in the performance of debts. And Luqman Hakim said

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don't incur debts, it will make your night into insomnia deprive you of sleep, and it will make your day into depression.

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And today until we consciously incur that, we just go out and out index the world. So I told him, this is the indication in the dream, said, Oh, that's all nothing serious. I just got to pay now. That's fine. We'll pay that's okay. That's the message.

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That's probably what you've been told. How can you brush it off? How can you trivialize it? That's the clear indication given to you. So the most foolish person is one who will enter hell because of a virtue perform one virtue? And then you become complacent? No, no, no, we did this in my youth in my prime, I did this. Yep. Let me as early as guru ha, He will speak about it, he will harp about it, he will rave about it, you will be optimistic because of which he will become negligent in the performance of virtues, and he will lose every opportunity and die and end up into hell simply because he thought one action was adequate for him.

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May Allah protect us? Now what I really focus on today.

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One of the things that has paralyzed the woman today is what I call the blame game.

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the blame game, what is the blame game, every person directs and attributes.

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He attributes the crisis in the world, in his personal life, in this political circle on the global stage to every one besides himself. So my marriage is in a crisis because of my wife, and my marriage on the lines, good. Okay.

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I was just flying back the other day. So in business class, I sat down, and then this couple walked in. And then the wife had the seat adjacent to me. And the husband had the seat in front of me some particular about the aisle seat for my easy access and movement. So I looked at this and I said, I mean, I'm traveling alone. I just told the gentlemen, so I'm happy to change seats. And you know, you can see rotated these days when your wife his wife wasn't looking, man, I need a break.

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I know your language is fine. It's just like, Listen, you know what I mean? you're traveling. Yes, your wife. I'm happy to come there. And we can please, man, I need a break.

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No worries. It's fine. Have a peaceful sleep.

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Okay, so what's the notion my marriage is in a crisis because of my wife. My business is not performing at optimum because of the competitors because of my employees. Because of this because of inflation. My ministry is not vibrant and active because of my trustees and because of my president, and because of other members. My country is not good because of my Cabinet and the rest of it. We have come into this way we have settled into a blame game, almost implying that the wrong and the mass the mayhem and the chaos. The Anunnaki in the world is because of everyone but we

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it's high time we rise beyond this. And we take responsibility. The English proverb is when you cannot change a situation you are challenged to change yourself.

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When you cannot change a situation, you are challenged to change yourself. There's only two options, make excuses or make progress.

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There's only two options, make excuses and blame and accuse and implicate and say this and say that and she's like this and they like that. And that's it. Just go on and on, and hopping, yell and scream. So our speaks of an incident. And this is what got me thinking on my thought pattern. Sometimes when I am reading or one funny thing that occurs in my life, and it just gets my thoughts triggered. Allah speaks about an incident in the 29 Jews, where there was a father who had an orchard

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and he would harvest his crops. And after harvesting his crops, the poor people would come. And he would give them a shed, he would bring some crops home and he would sell it as well. This was his good practice it carried on and there was great Baraka coming in his life. Sometimes when we start seeing money, and we have cloud and we have muscle and economic strength, we start blowing our horn too loud.

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We start flexing our muscles too much. There were two brothers in the company of the Prophet sallallahu Sallam one was generating revenue, and one was in the company of the messenger somebody some all the time, he was just sitting.

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And you know, serving the messengers allowed to sell them for chicken.

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So the brother who was only he then once complained to the messenger sallallahu wasallam. And he said, my brother, he sits with you and holiday I earned and I toiled and I labor, and my brother is in your company, probably he needs to understand responsibility as well. And the messenger sallallahu wasallam said, you are earning the money you are learning in your shop because your body is sitting here.

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You are earning what you're earning not because of skill, not because of competence. And I say this all the time. I'm sitting here with the grace of Allah, not because of ability but because my parents have prayed for me, and May Allah reward them. And may Allah bless them. And may Allah give us the ability to serve them. It's no skill, it's no intelligence. It's no abilities, no charisma, but it is the prayer and supplication of someone that thinks that will turn in landlocked,

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landlocked tourism movie and this is where we break. And this is where we differentiate with our I have spirituality versus the common commercial I.

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This is where things are viewed differently by a believer. So the father had this amazing practice, harvest the crops, the poor would come give them a healthy shake, give them a chunk of it, take it go enjoy. Allah has given me to pass it on.

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I told him the Quran Allah speaks of the pious, when Allah makes mention of the generosity of the

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is a new version

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of E, learning in

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this environment, that Allah uses an amazing phrase, the wealthy and the pious and those who don't believe that I gave my wealth to the poor, but rather they say, Allah kept your wealth by me. So this is your wealth in my possession, I need to give it to you.

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When the young blood came on board, and the old man moved, now, this was young, it was energetic, they had maps, they had figures, actual science, they had calculated themselves there it was a different art academic I monetary, I calculated I they said Listen, listen, listen, we're gonna do away with the old man's practice. This is done in Tustin, our man, good luck to my father. But now, anybody wants they will pay. Nobody gets anything free. That's the rule. That's the philosophy. That's how you operate the business world. It's a cruel world. It's a harsh world. It's a brutal world. You don't differentiate you don't look you don't respect you don't understand nothing. You

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just go out. That's it.

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The only way was evil intention. They didn't even live to execute it. When they made this evil intention. One of the brothers told me this and this is not good stuff. This is not on. This is not the legacy of our late father. This is not the values he is barely left this world. And these are the kind of visions we have and I think we need to change we need to change but his voice was suppressed and subdued. And the other brothers had dominance and they had muscle and they overpowered him. So the Quran throws the entire picture.

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they advance why they whispered discreetly

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una una de la Comiskey no beggar or Papa would come to our autumn

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do it and they advance with confidence that they will execute their vision when they finally come to their orchard. Lo and behold,

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Allah destroyed beyond recognition that the first reaction was, I think we've come to the wrong object.

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This is not our place, we can throw a neighbor's farm.

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lesson we this is somebody else's. And then when they applied their mind, they realize No, in

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no matter, we are not a stray, we have not come to the we have been hit by a divine calamity.

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As soon as this happened that the brother who had advised them otherwise came on board, he said, Listen, I told you brothers, I told you, my siblings.

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I had warned you this not the way we do things. Now, and I don't want to go into the details, because that's not the focus of my talk.

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The Quran says that when they will

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play and rocked by this tragedy, to add salt to injury, to compound, an excessive bank the crisis, they fall into a trap of mutual slandering.

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And this is what has happened. So the marriage is in a crisis, like it or not, it's Rocky, everybody knows the neighbors knows the kids know. But instead of not coming out, it's because of us because of her. It's because of them. It's because of his parents because of our parents. for up to Bella.

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need any money from God, this is nothing. That this unfortunately is a scourge that has hit the oma is that we have a crisis we deal with an issue. But then to increase the payment, the agony we now start accusing and blaming and implicating.

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And then they realize that this and as long as we continue like this, we're not going to make progress. So then they said collectively let the truth be said we all are to be blamed.

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And when they said that was the challenge, and I think it's high guy, the oma in its entirety, Muslim and non Muslim alike, in all spheres of life. For the current crisis that has rocked the planet and has caused turbulence on this earth. Each one of us has to take it to himself and see the wrong that I have done.

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When say the nurseryman salatu salam ala pleased with him. Allah has blessed him with an empire like no other Empire. unique

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part of his entourage

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was humans, Jinan and believe it or not animals. This was part of the entourage, the cavalcade of the Prophet Solomon peace be upon him. And amongst them was a bird that was tasked to locate water. And this bird would identify the water, the Jannat would dig up, water would gush, the army would perform ablution and then they would move on and you know what, you would just fly by by the commander of the wing that Allah had made subservient to him. And as massive as the army was, the wind would take it in a gentle way eco friendly that Ginnie Mae

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is a gentle passive, not aggressive, not ours.

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Just look at them over city and how they unpack everything. So semana de Salaam rotates his gaze and he sees that

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he is not around. Now, reflected interest

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or other.

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He rotates his gaze and he says Buddhahood is not to put the comma say dissolve a loved one.

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When he realized that the bird was not present, he admonished himself first before admonishing the birds.

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He didn't say he said, Man Lee man de la.

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What's wrong with me? In other words, is it that Allah has momentarily curtailed this due to a deficiency on my part?

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Is it a wrong with me that aligns with whole this whole this privilege? I come home from

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Rahim Allah, Allah

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for Allah daddy coffee,

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Mama tea. When I disobey Allah I instantly see my children and my spouse rebelled against me. You've looked and exhausted and depleted every option. Have you ever looked at

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own self and done some soul searching with yourself my brother.

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One of the players said, Every time I recycle, that is Baraka,

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Baraka in my life increase when Xena Bella is being observed. And now my daily recital is 10 Jews of the Quran. And the more I added in virtue and the more good I see, and the more I disobey Allah, the more consequences I see in my own life. So,

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alarms first point of engagement, for the absence of this bird, which was a boon conferred upon him was himself. And then the quotation is mentioned. They are one of the pious scholars in the fact

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that the pious was such when they could not accomplish their spiritual goal, or they could not accomplish the material goal, whatever they were looking for. They first examine their own selves.

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I'm not saying for a moment that others are innocent and free. Probably your wife, probably your boss, probably other members, probably there's probably that, but I'm saying, How long will we continue playing this blame game and accusing and making no progress? I mean, today we were having lunch and again, a similar argument of that came about it's this one, it's that one is what am I doing?

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What am I done?

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And then you realize that no, my actions were in order. And then he said,

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said, No, I have not done the wrong, but it is the bird itself there has been absent.

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Listen to this incident. I read it in

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the syllabi in the first volume on page two double for

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knowledge and amazing incident.

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There was a king in the previous times by the name of an OSHA

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and OSHA one heart into an Abdullah, the grandfather of the messenger sallallahu wasallam. They all passed away in the same year. These were three great personalities and Abdulmutallab being the greatest of them all, simply because he is the grandfather of the messenger, sallAllahu wasallam, but three great personalities. Hatem tie, a man whose name was synonymous to generosity. He was an amazing man when it came to generosity, unbelievable, inconceivable, the kind of muscle and the kind of generosity he displayed uniquely.

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So anyway, this is intimacy, reconvene in the first volume, and thanks to who

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you are, and

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he goes out on a hunting trip, Safari, people who haven't been to Africa, the mouse kept watering. I just went on a safari trip now. I'm not going to tantalize you any further.

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And you anyway, he went on a safari, he went on a hunting trip one kata and scary and he broke away from his Kevin cage.

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And he was now suddenly alone was stolen actually. And thirst got the better of him.

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While he's hunting, he became thirsty.

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I'm reminded of an incident I read in alma stotra, frequently found in Moscow.

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regarding how

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he was one day certain, what can you be sure about tomorrow, and in his hand was a vessel of water.

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So Mohammed bin Salman kurama, tolani, a great scholar, a great pious individual was sitting there. So the ruler of the time told the spice person or a bunny, give me some advice. Those days, people were attentive, they will focus even the rulers wanted to learn is that give me some advice. He said

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many low from the Santa Ana

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de habibollah kick, this water that's in your hand. If he didn't reach you, and you were thirsty, and the first became unbearable, and you couldn't resist it, and you couldn't deal with him. And water was not available. What price would you offer for that water? He said I would give my half half my Kindle, half my kingdom for the water. And when he when a person gets desperate, then nothing is expensive. As long as you're desperate. You traveling you need to buy something so know how much now is crazy. So I go in the lounge and get free. I'll do this I'll do that. But when it hits crisis and a person's life or death, and they say this is a surgeon but his costs are

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exorbitant, whatever it is, regardless of what he wants, just get us the appointment, we'll pay him up front. Life is key. I mentioned this I was in California from a band and then I had to fly to LA just to spend two nights there. And then I was doing trauma bonds and there was a brother from Africa who had flown down

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He had come to take some injections and is passed on May Allah fill his grave with blue and elevate his abode in paradise. And then he had come for for AIDS injections, and each one was a couple of $1,000.

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And I'm like, wow, this is really crazy and exorbitant in my mind, obviously. But obviously, it was the desperation of the condition that brought him to travel across the length and breadth, and cover the continents and pay the price that was requested, purely because it was his life, which is priority. So anyway, you drink the water he's addressing,

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you quench your thirst. And just as there is a need to drink the water, there's a need to release the water. And what if Allah withholds the water, and Allah doesn't release the water, and you have difficulty in passing up and it becomes excruciating and unbearable, and somebody relieves you of this pain, what would you do?

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He said, I will give him the other half of my kingdom and my empire is an Indian American, prima Tunis with a short

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description of the hurry. With an Alfa, Sufi, and Empire, the work of which is no more than a few drops of water, and few drops of urine. Don't be arrogant about

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an empire, a kingdom, a dominion, a power, the words of which easy, I mean, as soon as a person becomes sick and critical. Everything around you just lose this taste and flavor. Like what say, somebody can offer you the best.

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You rave about a particular team and they won't, but as the home in which there's a funeral, which a young man passed away, or there was a tragedy and a woman passed away or there was a tragedy and someone else passed away. What does it matter to him? What does it matter to him it makes no meaning of the matter to significance. Anybody who stole a large rally he first gets the better of him, or masala boustani he reaches a garden for FEMA.

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He sees the pomegranate trees Yeah.

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So he calls a lad he says afternoon mana please boy, give me one pomegranate, Falco Romana, he gives him a pomegranate.

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He splits the pomegranate. Aha, it takes up the grace. Shaka, he then squeezes it hard, I mean, human caffeine. And it's juicy. It's tasty. It's palatable. It's it's sumptuous. It's wonderful. It drinks it. It says this is beautiful.

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is a kidney is a ruler for as a man many other

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than Western men medically, is that a sweet garden like this very sweet fruit. I need to lay my hands on it.

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I need to lay my hands on it. We got to get this out. We got to expropriate. We got to usurp my muscle. I'm the man ruling. You don't realize my brother, your evil intention, the consequences and the ripple effects from your home across the globe.

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So it turns the boy give me I was actually in North I was I was gone to Mombasa in Africa. And I had a program where I was in Kenya and in Mombasa. And there was a chef there. And I went to meet him and he said I just want to share with you something that I already have seen a Kabira said please. And he brought it to me and I was like whoa, this is so amazing. To do with technology, it's easy. Just capture it on your phone. And then I went back home and I opened the scene and I referenced it and I read this and I said my words, man I didn't know who the personality was. And he got me thinking on this incident. So he said give me another pomegranate please. So it gives him another

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pomegranates. Let's say it takes up the grain courage a minimum. Very little water drops. drinks it it's not tasty. He asked the boy

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the masala Romano haka. What is the pomegranate gone from sweet to sour? La

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la la la la, la, la la.

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Romano. I don't know, but I think the ruler of the land has intended to abuse and exploit and the effect of his evil intention is that the sweetness of the fruit has become sour.

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What can

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you tell me when you heard this? He said nothing. The boy was clueless that this was the ruler. But he understood even the simple farmer, the basic person in his simple way how he did things and he understood it.

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He said in his heart he repented in his heart independent

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your intention has to be CINAHL. A woman came to him. And she asked him for something she was begging. So he looked at her and he told his sermon give her 400 theorems. So the surgeon said if you never give me 400 theorems, and now you're given this woman 400 theorems, like what's the logic?

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And I'd also give her for the theorems. But for me, I want to leave her alone to seduce her, I want to entice her, I want to satisfy myself, I want to succumb to my lowly self, my evil self. We might be doing the same action, but the effect will grossly differ based on our intentions. I might be giving a formal dinner nice to invite her. What did he say? Nothing to in a half either here, Geneva, I looked at this woman and I realized she was a woman of beauty. Allah bless them with beauty, a cursory glance and I realized she was beautiful. And I did not one that had desperation must make her prostitute herself.

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I think she's beautiful. It mustn't happen that desperation makes a prostitute herself. For our to an overly fast

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female. I said, let me empower the woman. Hopefully somebody would respectfully and honor her and dignify her and not abuse or exploiter.

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The intention difference I was leading a beautiful Kitab the other day and I said the Subhana Allah This is what I'm saying. The Quran is full with pearls of wisdom. When say that I used to force in the palace.

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And the minister's wife intended seducing him. And then he decides to flee the venue, because he wants to save himself from wrong. So you runs to the door.

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But as he runs to the door, she also runs and this is what the professor

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is, Hillary.

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If you had to just come in, you'd have seen say that our use of running and you'd have seen the minister's wife running both to a common dough. That action apparently is one and the same. Both are running. But the reality Gosney differs, who he is stubby

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stubby Polly balbina

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Yusuf was running to the door of Paradise when she was running to the door of hell. Who are you stupid Polly Berbick Taha

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liberabit dentists use of running Sarah was running to the door of chastity purity integrity, where she was the money to apprehend the user and make him commit the evil act. So one and the same action by a parent but the reality of it grace the difference

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the action would be based on the intentially

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we need to ask ourselves what our intentions my brother you know for a fact and I know for a fact what I'm what crosses my mind and all that has the ripple effects. Anyway, I know sharwanand said, Give me another pomegranate please. And in his heart he repented when the third pomegranate was brought up to me.

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It was more tasty than the first pomegranate. So he engaged in who's the lead? And he said Lima, good delight in Hira. What's happening here in your orchard? He said Lana Malika tada and is

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probably the ruler has repented from his wicked intentions. And the instant positive effects of that is the fruit has become sweet furama semi

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Leah when you heard this, and he knew precisely this was spelling out the emotions of his art. He recanted in its entirety from violence and oppression. And then his name went down in history as a medical rd unit to be examined in medical

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tourism and in medical rd, Bob, Bob meaning garden that meaning the garden and the orchard of justice once his palace was about to be erected, but when the architects looked at it, in the creation and the formation and the building of this archetype, that the structure it was going to encroach and infringe the rights of a little old frail lady who had a heart and he said, I have learned my lesson of life. I will not oppress anyone. We will not design this in a way that it will infringe on the right of any citizen

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Metallica Tenzin under the commentary of this is

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a song.

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Don't incline don't turn towards those who oppress

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con and

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tell me, sorry, the student of Allah masari, who was the great professor.

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who is the student of Allah, Mr. McSherry? He says in this verse, Allah says, Don't assimilate, and don't imitate in those who oppress nice, you are also gripped by the fire of hell

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has been eliminated will be 4k from Berlin.

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If this is the consequences of those who assimilate with an oppressor, can you imagine what fate awaits the oppressor himself?

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When Muslim Imam the medic was in his fatal illness,

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Ahmed Abdul Aziz was in his fatal illness Muslim Imam Abdul Malik was present. And he said to the great honor, he said, You're an amazing man, but I felt you on one front, you've left no wealth for your children and dry legacy, no inheritance. You're a great man with a great history with a great, you know, accolades and achievements, but you leaving your kids dry, empty.

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So I have 300,000 dinars, let the listeners know

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that I'm giving it to you, and you give it to your case. You don't want to die like this, leaving your kids without anything.

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So he said an amazing thing. He said, our hiring mentality. Let me tell you something that's greater than the proposal you met.

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In our office, that means this is not your money. You given it to me, but you have usurped the rights of others. You have cheated, you have abused, you have exploited. You have expropriated the wealth of others. Don't give it to me. I don't want oppression to go on to my children to return it to those people who need rightfully belongs. He said Rahim Allah May Allah bless you that kirtana you have reminded us and then to do when you have soften our hearts, what kind of parcial when it can become rusted because of sin and vice.

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a great scholar

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he said Sultana, Salah, Salah Yun in a European era faith in Jana, I asked the line, a dream and a vision Allah if I make it to paradise, is there any clue who will be next to me in paradise? I want to know who's sitting next to me in the plane. I want to know who's my partner in this paradise. I will deal with that when we get there. It doesn't feature it's not in my thoughts, concerns, emotions, escalations, these were the kind of thoughts and dreams and visions of the pious.

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So he said,

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I asked Allah who would be my partner, so I was told it would be a woman by this name by this origin, dark skinned. So anyway, and I was given the location where she stays I made my way towards and she was a pious woman. When I came there, she advised me and rebuked me at the same time

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for many years Judo,

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Judo, de

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Cana Lima kandalama, no

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yahagi one oh advisor overated you boldly stand up to advise people, but the reality is probably you are more than your audience.

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Zulu, when

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you prohibit people from wrong, you are more sick than others. Now.

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If you had reformed yourself, your words would have carried greater weight in effect.

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I took the words and when I looked around, I found a very, very strange sight. I found that they will move on one side and sheep on the other.

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And I said how is this going to happen? How do you move and she doesn't make sense. Like a person just in the light with humor and on the light side. You know what? A while man, this guy is really blessed man. It's working wife with one hand mother in law and daughter in law shopping together.

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It's a restaurant

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surveysite Ma, I'm not saying move in shape, please use the wolf and lose the shape here. Now they both are good and they both are great. The mother is great, your wife is great. We have opportunity between our spouses and our parents. Well up with Mahatma in understanding. Allah speaks about the boundaries that Allah has conferred upon men and amongst the thieves who will fall upon me In

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fact, I don't know

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to do in the 19 Jews, Allah has created you from water and fluid. And then Allah has blessed you with lineage, ancestry, genealogy and in laws. Allen references in law's extended family as a bounty and a boon. It's all our politics, it's all our heritage, it's all our traditions. It's all our customs, that we have issues. But Allah says, Allah.

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Allah has blessed you with lemons, that's a great thing. If we have an image we know our parents and grandparents and so on. And we know our in laws and extended family. So this is the boundary when I looked around, I said, Wow, what is this? I said,

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How is this?

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me know.

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The sheep are not threatened or not intimidated by the rules. What's this? So she answered them she said a slough tomorrow Bailey will be for us Lucha Nabina machete, I will reform the my relation with my Creator. And he reformed the relation of everyone around me.

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I reformed my relation with my Creator, and he reformed the relation of everyone around me that's focused on ourselves saving,

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patrolling the streets.

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And this was his practice when people would sleep, he would take care of the people. So while he's taking care and

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he's on vigil is monitoring him and now you solve the market of Allah, hula, hula Allah. So he said, okay, you keep watch, I will pray, I will pray you keep watch. So we'll alternate and there is an outside caravan that had come in and they are resting Can you probably try and just close your eyes for a moment and visualize this period, it is so wholesome, it is so good. And we have digressed from that error. Such a distance, that it has become difficult to digest the theory nevermind, the reality. What are you talking real? Shall

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we read the text and you know, it

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said, allow us to patrol the streets so that the general people could sleep. This was a This was let people sleep and we will patrol. So when everybody's resting, there's a middle child that's climbing. So the alarm goes up to the mom in a polite, dignified way. Please would you allow your child would you soothe your child? Would you put him off to sleep people are sleeping, just be respectful about it.

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And you know how it is when somebody else's child cries?

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Then it's a headache

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deal with

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when somebody else's child cries it's like a with the parents when

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these parents you know what they they don't have any sense. You know, you dry in flying and it's a business cabin. And there's a little kid that cries there. And you just see those stairs and glaze. And people turn around is the altitude in the air and the pressure in the cabin and whatever it is, is like listen, that child by body language, you're not welcome to

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come here.

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And today, sometimes we've lost the touch. We've lost touch. We live in a world I was giving a talk in Australia to some you kids in the school. And then I said how many of you kiss your parents at all? No.

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What's this all about kissing?

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The boys that kiss the girl.

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Hon Allah the Hadith of the Buddha whenever Fatima the olana would come, the prophet SAW some would kiss her hand, stand up vacate his place she would sit whenever he would go there with the grace of Allah till today and I'm grateful to Allah and I say this only utter encouragement. I kiss my mum's feet daily. And I'm proud about this. And I cherish this. I hold it. I embrace it. Somebody asked Luqman Hakim, people are raving about your wisdom. Can you give me something heavenly on this earth? He said yes. He went to his mom raised her foot to the sand beneath her foot and brought it and he said that is the only heavenly thing on this earth.

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5374 parties daily he would come pray and they plan for his man. embrace her

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Then leave and go out. We've lost the touch of life we've lost the flavor of life, that wellness that embrace that feeling. When a man is missing the child remember she can express the milk and containing but that motherhood bonding that's happening that parenting that's happened in that attachment that's happening what happens to that you cannot substitute that you argue that you express the milk into a vessel and you give it to the child and you cycle the child through the man's mouth. But remember the bonding scientifically medically islamically you would know better the amount of attachment that happens in the bonding

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we've we've lost those venues we've lost that touch so anyway said number tells the mother please don't allow your child

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so the child again is throwing a tantrum and crying goes for the third time in our kingdom. So in

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the great the giant euro strange mother euro look like a bit of a wicked mother. Excuse the phrase, people are sleeping. It's the late hours of the night when you please put your kid down. Sorry, brother.

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Are you hounding me? You really invading me? This kid has just made my life miserable, and you making it more difficult? What's the issue? Oh, sister in the

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arm, I'm trying to wean my child off. I'm trying to detach my child. Why would you want to do it like this when you're traveling at a foreign place and you're sleeping elsewhere.

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Because armor only gives an allowance from the state to a child that has been weaned off. So when the child is weaned off, then the National Treasury would give an allowance and I need the money. I'm in crisis. I'm in desperation. So I'm trying to meet my charming have quickly to get the money so that I can make ends meet and break even now, Genie, though my sister, you will not to be blamed the child not to be blamed if anybody needs to be blamed the man who legislated this and that is all by himself.

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How many of us how many times we hear this. And we know that for a fact, the due to ill behavior. We make people throw out a tantrum that they don't know of themselves. You drive me to a point that I cannot imagine I won't be anything. But you know, you provoked it, you know you incited it, you know you ignited it, you know that this is what you did, and this triggered this reaction.

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sustain you are not to be blinded. He walks out of there. It's the crack of dawn, the flesh of dawn. He gathers in that machine of the messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. Imagine those days when Omar is leading the prayer and around him. other participants are better and offered and by one way

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or the other.

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And in that campaign was this.

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They were 99 participants of whether anatomy I've been mentioning

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300 odd that were those who participated in

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sub Rania mean Abner is Sahaba 700 Sahaba. Who were the children of those who participated in the campaigns with the messenger sallallahu Sallam came, you probably fathom the richness of that gathering. Say now Omar needs the Father.

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Lazarus to be witness.

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His voice is not audible. Nobody can understand what is leading because of guide. After player he stands up he says listen, people I need to be open and I need to be candid, and let's call a spade a spade and let's grab the bull by its horns. And let's not mince our words and nothing to be euphemistic and diplomatic. The truth they said you call me a miracle. But I guess a better name for me is a killer and a butcher.

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How many of us can do this what they say English angle lenses into problems in front of me I said this in front of me I did that. But pride keeps us

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tied keeps us in our problem in anger. We make a mistake we make blunders we make we all are human. We take the bolts that retract, revoke apologize. Now how can I apologize to my employee? How can I apologize to my wife? How can I apologize to my son? No, I don't apologize. Well, then that's that's where the money is. That's where the money is. All the great the giant the legend. He stands up and he says I have amended this and as of today the National Treasury would take responsibility to provide an allowance for the child from birth

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on earth

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read under this is why to become an agent of wrong is also wrong you become a means you become a cause.

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Now listen to this ayah many of us I was in Sydney two weeks ago and then I have to give a workshop to brothers who are actively involved in inviting you know, they have different campaigns

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inviting people towards Islam non Muslims, fellow colleagues, etc etc. So they are kept to workshop for me to address that and I touched on this topic and I'll say it again briefly in the context of my top one

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Cabernet cuz I

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don't abuse the diabetes and the isms of those who worship others besides Allah Lee's you incite them to abuse Allah.

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Now the scholars have asked a question you're putting in indeed, that the Quran speaks about many weaknesses deficiencies of these objects and isms that were worshipped. Yet this verse categorically, explicitly, unequivocally spells out that you should not be condemning them. How do you reconcile between the two? Is there a dichotomy or not? And they answer very beautifully, that where a lot exposes the weakness of the object that listen you worshipping this item you worship in this object, whatever.

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The secret is weak and the object that has been seeked is also we, the aim of the Koran is intellectual engagement, and not to offend or insult any person. Hence, when you inviting someone towards good, and you address this to intellectually stimulating that is fine and permissible, that listen, look at the flaws of this understand this holistically, objectively, intellectually, but to just say something nasty for the sake of being nasty to say something unpleasant for the sake of being sinister and obnoxious. This is not permissible in Islam. Because you're not you're not getting a response out of this, you provoking him, you, you antagonizing him, the messenger

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sallallahu Sallam said

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May Allah curse the man who abuses his parents. Sahaba sir, okay.

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Is it possible for somebody to verbally abuse his parents? Just imagine that time Sahaba

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Sahaba was so clean in that era was opo the province has been condemned is the one who verbally abuses his parents. Is it possible? Is it possible for somebody to verbally abuse his parents? The Prophet sallallahu wasallam said yes.

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He accuses in South, somebody else's parents, your parents are like this. So that person reciprocates his curse with a curse over his parents. So the prophet SAW SimCity you are liable for cursing your own parents because you curse somebody else's parents. We live in a time where a person has the curse to his own parents.

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We live in a sad time period and error where a person has the closest to his own parents. So from this we learn that awful awful, I'm using a different dimension to support my theory that the wrong in the world is even myself. I became the cause of that wrong.

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It was due to me provoking a situation again. So I share with you an incident of Satan.

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He's patrolling the streets in the night and read the life of Mr. Reed Reed. I gave a talk recently and I urge the people read the lines of Sahaba with bidness. We are a nation whose first words were

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our revelation started with read. That is where it all started about the first revelation under capitalism. And the first time verses of Accra will reveal and then was fourth again three years there was a person revelation three years there was a pause incrimination it was completed and then sorry, but nothing was revealed. That is why in many cases you will find the first verses revealed was horrible, which means post the interval. So this woman needs to read at your bedside again on WhatsApp. And somebody said this so amazingly, it said you know, you look at your WhatsApp last seen 10 minutes ago, and Peron last seen last Ramadan.

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You know your status

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That's also a way where people can can can actually spoke, you know that this whole thing where they can work your way up to one eight and people can stop you there. There's nothing like private left in the world.

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Somebody said this and I hope I can be modest. a youngster and a young woman having a relation, the dating the courting, they feel open with themselves. Nothing of the body remains intimate to the other. But the phones are very private.

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Everything else you can be open and transparent, no issues, you can be intimate but before we go Dutch

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we lost our values and our models. So now

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he sees the light and the glow.

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He follows the glow. There's a wall he scans the role. He gets in the hands of Allah shave he ambushes the man. This man was sitting and he was indulging in his recreation and sin. And let me assure

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you, he didn't realize that a lot of ambushed him. And when he got the bayonet, a young girl singing, and there was alcohol, he was consuming alcohol and the young girl singing away. This is what he was doing. So say now, he said, This isn't a call in sight. This is wicked. I've never seen something more evil than this year.

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So he responded and he said to say now

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masana Bye by Omar what I did is wrong. And there's no defense to that. No arguing

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what they say live without pretending and speak without defending.

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Love without pretending, pretending to live is to pretend pretend to be happy. I often say that. That Beauvoir of the husband and wife with a stroller and a kid in the mall and the celebrity and this glamour and this ambience, and you say Wow, look at that. Look at that. And you think probably is the dress probably the stroller probably is the mall, the marketing strategy that's gonna bring happiness. The very couple that are smiling on the Billboard are not smiling in real life. Live Anybody else? The only time this man is for the camera

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in order to know that the make of the goes before that and all the graphics and playing with the images. Sometimes a person looks at his baby photo. Then he looks at this now I couldn't have looked like this man. Yeah, I guess those is the camera's not so good.

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Okay, brother, whatever it takes to pack yourself and give yourself a compliment. Acknowledge yourself. This is it. That's the world. It's all about praising me acknowledging me.

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I was reading a book on CBT cognitive behavioral therapy. And in that there was an article about how image conscious people have become.

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And they said 69% of men wish to look like others. 50% of young girls smoke not because of an addiction but to suppress an appetite so they can be

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like, I want to look like you speak like him walk like him sing like him. be famous like her do this. Be happy with what Allah has chosen for you. Everyone is unique in the creation of Allah and the individuality of every person is amazing. Except what Allah has decreed. We fight in that all the time look like this appear like this dress like this impressed like this. Love without pretending speak without defending is a Point taken. I've done the wrong.

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But what you've done on has only made things worse.

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What you've done, you haven't remedied the problem.

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So the point I'm saying I'm going to move on with this year is often just to pause and to put your thinking cap on, we deal with the situation. But by the time I've engaged my son and I've come out of there, he's gone deeper into the wrong and it has strained the relationship even more.

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Honorable Ilana accepted this and he did not retaught he did not return he left from the oven Allah.

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He bites onto his government as intense regret. And he comes out of there. He says not a word to a village in this room who was with him. And he then rebukes himself. He chastises himself. And he says the man was doing it privately secretly. He was not flagrant about it. He was not brazen about it. He was not blatant about it. We can condone the wrong but he did it in the privacy of his home. Now you invaded his whole fall okay is going to save our nose. It doesn't. It doesn't matter now, whether you privately or publicly, so honor in essence

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He's rebuking and chastising himself. You've taken him deeper into his role.

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These were people who who introspected who looked at things microscopically who analyze things objectively we come to play the blame game we could quit to play the blame game and to lest accusations on everyone Sahaba was a nation who deflected praise and embrace criticism. We deflect criticism and embrace praise.

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Somebody said never did a nation achieved so little yet record everything like the generation of today

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never did a nation achieved so later everything is on social media everything

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is recorded captured reserved. See my tweets in my Facebook see my post see my likes

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everything is captured and how much am I achieve

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to summer

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Cody. Anyway, just to expedite things Time is running out. So say now returns to domestic. And then what happens?

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A Time passes Hydra Schaefer mentalism and he stops coming to the gathering of honor the alarm. Then he attends the gathering of honor the honor of the period of time, but he sits at a distance on our spots in and it will be hard to shave, please can you assure this elderly man in his RV things? Oh, are they a woman calls me I guess he's gonna blow the whistle on me and expose he's gonna die hard, throw my leg out in public. He says, knowingly or unknowingly come close brings him closer.

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in your ear close to me. I just want to tell you by a law what had happened that night till today remains a secret. Even even a soldier who was with me has no clue about it. I have not shared this with my spouse nor

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nor the oma in any capacity.

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We are we in that regard. measure yourself if you have an unpleasant revelation of someone. And you know what's the irony of the whole thing is that when you have an unpleasant revelation of someone, you start speaking backbiting. But you know, in the heart of hearts, Allah has been kind to you because the truth is you do worse than that.

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The truth is, I know worse than that you knew was that that? You heard about India, and it's this and it's that and when this person said this, he said listen to infamous Omar, I must tell you, when you left the house as much as I challenged you, I was convinced on the sincerity of your load. that day to this day, I'd never consumed the touch of alcohol or never had a young girl singing I've repented forever.

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We have become the cause of triggering situations, reacting to incidents and reactivity.

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He was a great scholar, nice person. In fact, there's something so amazing about me. He said leave me for

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my life and I realize I have 40 odd cells for this talk for too long.

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My wife and I have repented to Allah for every one of the 40 offenses 100,000 times

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and here's my analogy to you. If I did in my life, I have 100,000 sons and I never repented for each cell 40 times.

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He said leave me for

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I have 40 odd cells I did an audit of myself you know with people are very critical. So you must watch this one how he eats was What's that one? You must see that one. You've seen the whole world What about yourself my brother? myself?

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I'm not gonna

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I'm not gonna

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I will know in Canada RT

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ashwagandha who

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knows Sati ashwagandha.

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A lot. But if a person is intelligent and wireless,

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then he's he will make him blind to the role of others like us.

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person, if a person has been admitted into a clinic and we ask Allah to give us good health, and May Allah save us from that, and keep us healthy and active till our last breath, I mean,

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like a sick person, if a person is admitted into a clinic now you ask him, Do you know when the person in the adjacent Ward was admitted? Or when was he released and discharged? He says, You know what? I have no clue. They've sedated me. They rejected me. They administered a drip on me. So due to his personal illness, he's oblivious of the surroundings around him. But no sooner This person says a doctor comes late. Christmas is not working properly, that time to the strategy.

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It's time to go home, he's well, he's well, he's not secure. If he knows what's happening, that means he's recovered, because as long as he's safe, he's clueless of what happens around him. If you know what happens around that means you perfect and if you are consumed with your own wrong, you'll have no time to stop the others, nevermind magnify it.

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So he says, money when

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he says

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last three, he came to meet me. My dad thinks he came to visit my dad after samsara one day. So he asked me that. I said, No, my dad is sleeping.

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So he was a human he, he slept. He said, No, Mohammed Hassan. He says the time to sleep after acid. No, man. You kidding. You gotta be serious. Is your dad sleeping? And then he just walked away. So at the bernama Rasulullah, we sent the envoy and we said, Listen, listen, he's a pious man ask him.

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Should we you know, revive our dad, should we awaken him to say that listen, somebody has come to meet him. But the envoy and the slave when he took time, and by the time he came back was very much. So we told him this and all we told you is go there and ask the man he wants to meet my Dad, do we wake him up or not? He says this man was an cross crying over himself and rebuking himself, and just types in himself. When we were in a family, I couldn't engage with him. And he admonished himself and what is he saying? You are?

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What? Do you have to challenge somebody all the time?

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What do we know about his life? What do you know the circumstances? Often we make remarks about people we know not what's the background in their life. We know not the pain in their life. We never lived in their shoes one day, I often say sometimes we pronounce these casual remarks, but probably if we were in the shoes of that man, our situation would have been much worse than him.

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So he rebukes himself and he just answers himself. This Alina melayani. You ask him things that don't concern you. It's not upon you. And then he rebuilds and so when I went there, I said, What am I gonna speak to this man he is dealing with himself. There's one incident, that just I have a flash of it. When set the alarm on who

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had struck in May Allah cursing the person who were killed and given a fatal blow to say Daddy, which had claimed his life. So he called his son as an enforcer of the alarm on Houma. And he advised them

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advise you to fear Allah, and then

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to incline towards alpha.

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and not to indulge in this world.

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And don't lament any mundane and material loss. I'm just going through it quickly. For in the coma on how are you going to leave this world?

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And then he told his son, Mohammed, who was born to him from a different woman, so she goes, he's known as Mohammed bin Han Fei, so has

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the sons of Annie and Mohammed bin Han Fei is also the son of an Iranian born to him from a different woman but Fatima Ravi Alanna, so he calls Mohammed bin

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and he says Mr. Samia tomorrow say to the Father in his fatal illness, given the final advices on my son, did you listen to what I told your brothers? He said, Yes. For me, be the Hema Motoki rahima

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I'm advising you

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respect them, honor them review them.

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Then he address has an emphasis.

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And he said to them for any OC Kumar.

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Now you too, I'm advising you to be good to this brother of yours for a

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while until Martha alimony and Turner you

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and your house.

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You know this is your brother from a different mother and you know that your father was fond of him and I loved him. So as I told him to respect you, I asked you

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To respect him,

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and then he addressed them commonly collected and he said to see competa Cola, I advise you to feel a lot better, and to incline towards Arthur was

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and not to indulge in this world will cost the Filipina will *ery. And to be moderate in your expenses in wealth and poverty, while

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it will be costly, and to be productive in action, whether you are energetic, or you're lethargic, energetic, we want to complete the Quran in one day. Then we want to start with each player. And then when we lethargic, we omit the obligatory performances. And then he said, and then he said, Man, Saraiva nuptse, he is

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the one who will search for his falls, along with making blind to the falls of others. And that's my plea. And those are my concluding remarks that go back and search with yourself and see what my intention is causing ripple effects and how I can affect the change in my life, how I can, when you change the way you look at things, the things you look at also change.

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When you change the way you look at things, the things now suddenly my wife is good. She wasn't bad, she was good, but because my gaze was wrong, there was no beauty in her there was no attraction because of my wrong. Suddenly, my kids are not wrong just because of my own evil. I'm just giving an example. Man Apsara infc. He's the one who looks at his own wrong is stubborn, and I believe he he will become blind from the role of others.

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And if you dig a hole for someone else, the probability is you will fall in there before others woman is the woman is

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the one who magnifies his own will woman

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who is stuck.

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And when you forget your own wrong, then the small roles of others would look huge. Do you just look at our email, just

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look at this person simply because you forgot your own. I leave you with this last two lines brief stands up a thought provoking and I'm shuffling his words. He said ma

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mithuna the frick.

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You want to change the world? Start with yourself. You want to bring a different style. He said nobody can satisfy the irritation on your body like you yourself. You know your back is scratching and itching. You say can you describe for me slightly up a little intense argument a with myself.

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I'll do it myself. You have this medical I have this each instance of the colleague tinea versicolor. Doctors will tell you better everything is codified in this language. I was in London earlier this year and was performing when I slipped and when I felt I hurt my back. So went to a therapist. He said sure you hurt your leg decimus Dorsey

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said what? He said there's a Valium back. It's called the December's dose investment you've injured us, okay, whatever needs to be done. Anyway, that's academic. That's By the way, you have an invitation on your back, you need to satisfy it. You tell you why. If you tell you slightly up slightly, no little harder, No, leave it I'll do it myself. The model is change things yourself, for the one and

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embrace the change yourself. need to change yourself. You have one of two options now grown or make progress. We ask Allah subhana wa tada the ability that we reflect and introspect, and we make that change tonight. We made that change tonight. The devil has no problems with your good intentions. As long as it's for tomorrow.

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As long as you say I'll be changing tomorrow and next week and next or the devil is fine. He said for a little bit tomorrow he does the same thing. I got nothing. But the day you say I am changing now I'm abandoning for now I'm deleting my forum context now. I'm giving up my role now I'm bringing anger management to my life now I'm going to be more behaved more methodical, more calculated more calm, more thing that whoa them and said, Oh, I'm going to do it now immediately. And I'm going to delete this and I challenge the user whatever wrong you're doing delete it. Now there was a youngster who came to me. He said, Charles, you made a play in a particular talk and I responded to

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your talk. And I just want to show you that from that day. I have only seen goodness in my life. So make the change now embrace the change. Allah grant us all the tofield or sallallahu wasallam Allah Allah

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Allahumma salli

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Sooner or later john

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Allah Allah.

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Allah, Allah.

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Allah Allah.

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Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam

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a Muslim until you start in Walla Walla, Walla Walla.