Become A Good Listener

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Sulaiman Moola

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Bismillah salatu salam ala rasulillah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam were banned. We are reminded repeatedly in both Quran and Sunnah about the importance of good character. Now good character is a very broad brush. And today I want to focus on one aspect of good character. There is a very profound condition in Arabic which goes like this. I tend to be a to an tardif metathetical lamb when allowed to enter sturmey lemania tikkun olam, while addable Allah to Katia manyatta. Kalam what veka who Allah to Saudi pakula Maria tequila, Wow, this is so amazing. So tarbiyah, nurturing good values, good morals, would reflect itself that and that metadata column, that it will teach you when

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to speak, there's a moment there's an opportunity when it presents then at the right time you speak because you could be articulate, you could be skilled, you could have all the, the the necessary ability, but it's not always palatable for you to speak. Ibrahim Rahim Allah used to say, could not either submit a sharp attack on the Maliki bar, or use Nam In Hungary, that when we used to see a child just speaking in front of adults, and not allowing them to first speak, give their opinion, then we used to wonder if they will be any good for this boy in the years coming. So we're not denying or saying that the child doesn't have an opportunity because it's a free world. It's an open

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world and we need to recognize and motivate and inspire everyone, but there's a moment and an opportunity. So anyway, there'll be a good nurturing and upbringing ease and data from metadata column that you learn to develop the timing and the ability when to speak. When a HELOC and character, ease and destiny eliminate the column that you can become a good listener if you listen to the person who's speaking. And that's the point I want to focus on. We live in a world today. Sometimes people just need to offload and they know for a fact that you don't have the solution because you haven't been through that situation. But they want to confide and they need to offload

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and we need to become people who can listen while our hello and destiny luminita column and o'clock is that you listen to the person who's speaking. Right? And Adam, Adam. The third thing in these four qualities,

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morals values, respect is Allah to potty amania tikkun olam. You don't get a person, you don't get a person when he's speaking. In fact, in all my marital cases that I arbitrate in, there are some basic in house rules that I say to the couple, the quarterly couple, then when you come to my house, or when we have a sit down, the number one both need to accept me as a neutral arbitrator. And to the best of my ability, I try to arbitrate between the quarterly in parties. But I say to them, when one speaks, then let the other one respect him or her. If you're going to cut him short or cut her short, then it's just like an argument you read at home. It's not gonna make any difference coming

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here in a formal setting and we want to invoke the blessings of Allah, you read that Islam and you are fit the level of being a homer or any more I don't have admin barely handle shoes and Oh, Mr. Vaughn financial now Halima used to have been a woman so

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that you feel in a version from your spouse or your partner or your husband, then opt for peace. So one of the mechanisms one of the methods one of the elementary aspects is Allah toccata when he's speaking or she's speaking, don't interject, don't cut, let her complete his story, let him complete his story. In fact, we know about that narration and I just have a flash of it now, where a bedwin came to the messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam Masjid, during the time of the Prophet sallallahu wasallam. And he was not familiar with the etiquettes of domestic he did not understand, understand and appreciate it. And then he decided to relieve himself he had the call of nature, and we all know

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about the narration. And the Prophet sallallahu wasallam did not rebuke him while he was relieving himself. He sallallahu wasallam allowed him to complete his need and call of nature. And then he told one of the companions I mean, that is taken into a very advanced level of absolute prophetic character right this is now inconceivable for us your blemishes flawless, sublime character of the messengers analyze them impeccable, impeccable character that leave him at the moment let him complete his need. I'm not saying that we need to go to that level. There is a context in which it had happened and in the messengers, a lot

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modestly lovingly embraced him and told him that this is the house of Allah subhanho wa Taala and it's not a place for you to relieve yourself. All I'm saying is allow the other person to speak one of good character is to learn how to listen. What the cow and intelligence is allowed to sedate. akula Miyata calm and intelligence is that you don't believe everything that he's told to you. So you know what you take it with a pinch of salt. You listen to the person you afford him the right of speaking. And if it is a dialogue, then you engage him if it's monologue, let him say his thing. But then you need to be wise and circumspect and intelligent to say, Wait, listen, this person is now

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unfortunately just blurting things. It's not supported. It's not substantiated. And don't be so gullible. So you have tarbiyah you have o'clock, you have adept, and you have the car and intelligence. One of the great luminaries of Islam was Arthur Vieira Rahim Allah, he was a scholar of African origin. He was one of the distinguished teachers of Imam Abu hanifa Rahim Allah. In fact, Imam Abu hanifa Rahim Allah said Mara, a to Africa I mean hammered when are ajumma and illuminata that from all my teachers and tutors, I did not see anyone who was more learned

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who had a greater understanding of jurisprudence than my tutor Hamad. And I did not see anyone from all my teachers who could memorize and commit to his memory more than a Ba ba ba ba. Sol magnet kohane said Mara a to add a new reader will Allah Jalla La la la, la la una Mujahid there are only three people that I can swear an oath for that the motive of the acquisition of the knowledge was purely to please Allah subhanho wa Taala and one was appa he was the disciple of Abdullah Bertha de Allahumma. He stayed in the company of Abdullah navbars Ravi Allahumma for 20 years. They say the salient quality in the life of APA in ABA, were two things. Number one, can you please loosen? Can

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you please loosen? He would be silent for extended period of time, you would never see him just you know what speaking away or just blurting away, he would be in silent mode for an extended period for either Tekken llama whenever he would speak, then we would realize that he is enjoying divine assistance from Allah and know who you are yet we would see that there would be divine assistance of Allah subhanho wa Taala. But the second quality that was amazing about him can appa wouldn't mean the Nancy Thomas who can be hired and

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he had this amazing ability that he could listen to a person patiently and give off the notion that he had never heard this before. For either had death at home or had this if a scholar of Hadith conveyed to him a Hadith, US la la, la la he while he would extend his ear, he would extend you know the Prophet sallallahu Sallam says that how can I enjoy the bounties of this world when his Seraphin has taken the trumpet, and placed it in his mouth, right? And he has extended his ear waiting, the signal that Allah tells him to blow the trumpet wonderful of his soul. In that verse of the Quran, Allah refers to the blowing of the trumpet as though it has occurred, indicating that it's

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inevitable nature is so definite. But anyway, the word that I just extracted is Ursula extended his ear, you know, an attentive ear. And this was the salient quality of ABA, ABA, that he would listen attentively to the extent that it's mentioned that at times a person would come and read to him something, and he would say that voila, I would listen to this man and give him the notion that it is the first time I heard this wakad summit ato cabela you lead, whereas I had heard this narration this narrative this tale before this man was born. Subhana Allah, my message in simple is Islam impresses us on good character. good character is a broad has many branches, and one of the many

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branches of good character is to become a good listener. Everybody wants to become a good speaker. I want to oratory skills I want to mesmerize the audience, I want to impress upon them, while oratory and speaking and mesmerizing, has its benefits. Probably it's time for us to learn and imbibe these two qualities of I thought it'd be alaba who was this the start of remember? How do you follow him Allah, you plan to son, he would have pro long silence and he had this amazing ability to

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Listen to people. May Allah give us the ability that we can extend an attentive ear and just comfort people by listening to their pain and soothing their emotions.