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us here this evening

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111 Allah, Allah, Allah, Allah subhanho wa Taala

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to see who has these don't add a

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hurry to Knowledge Building really, you know

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what,

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what opens up someone's early

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to so that a lot

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on our

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respective branches.

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There is no human that has ever lived in any era, who is a complete, perfect and comprehensive example for anyone at any time in any circumstance, except Mohammed bin Abdullah. Certainly

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there is no human, including the Salatu was Salam who are perfect examples up to the end of time, for any human in any time and age in any circumstance, in any era, that he can find guidance in respect of what his condition or what his circumstance in sewers will appear, a lack of Allah, Allah Allah introduces different combiotic salatu salam, to some extent with some detail.

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Allah talks about the body mind his farm and his story and his story

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around the body, but when it comes to Mohammed over sort of law, and the law of IU instead of them a lot of Allah to Allah suffice. This was just one sentence. One of them is the document that we had, I mean, it is sufficient to highlight the greatness, the uniqueness and the comprehensive nature of the example of a suitable body by stating very emphatically that we have sent you as a mercy unto the entire mankind.

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What does it mean that we're so lots of oddity within the Islamic anatomy, it means that the reputable law is a means of mercy for everything that is in existence. Not only

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not only humans, every creation of Allah benefits by the fact that we're sort of lost, the body was eliminated.

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The mere existence of Rasulullah sallallahu Sallam is a means of

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when every instruction, every prohibition, every action, and every word of Rasulullah sallallahu Sallam is a means of missing

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the question that you or I need to ask ourselves is this. To what extent are we tapping into that wisdom?

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When we first Kemal Santa

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Clara mean, is recited, it evokes a sentiment. And there is this ability to look for so much of it. But it needs to move beyond that every time we hear the title over here that verse, do we introspect and reflect? Do we ask ourselves a very difficult equal to the question? To what extent can I be alive being better equipped from the mercy of our bodies. And the mystery of the law, to some extent is far more deterministic, identified his mere existence by the fact that we have his own mind, but the Granger will say masala Hardy, he will seldom will be found in history in history. In this era, in following in his footsteps, I began by start by thinking that there is no you included,

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that left behind the comprehensive example, which would be relevant to anyone at any time up to the end of time.

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This is not something that we as Muslims just say, out of emotion, this is rooted in substantiation, the scholars have written that there are three conditions for you to be a comprehensive exam.

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The first condition exists, that your mandates must not only be confined to a particular town, locality or nation. So when

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we receive revelation from Allah, but their mandate was to go and preach the Word of Allah to a particular nation to a particular sound to a particular locality.

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The second permission to be comprehensible, for example, is that your teachings need to cover every facet of human existence.

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Your teachings need to cover every special of human example, or existence. And if you look at the hero who was alive, and the teachings of

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every aspect of our lives, from the time we are born up to the time that we die, from the time we wake up in the morning, up to the time that we retire at night, in terms of happiness, in terms of in terms of fluency, or whether you are in public, for any aspect of your existence, they started from a sort of loss of honesty. And the third condition that is required for a person to be a comprehensive example is that all of those teachings and practices must be preserved.

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And we know how wonderfully the teachings or the practices of Rasulullah sallallahu have been preserved by the Sahaba and died by McCarthy team, they have to retire at a party, I think set up a tiny chain of the radius right up to the sort of loss of bodies. So these three conditions are found in hand, we say that the soul loss of a loved one at the center is the complete example, the most comprehensive example. And this example is adequate, it's sufficient for any human in any error in any condition up to the rail.

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Not only we know how to use it is the best, but he was the best in every way.

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He excelled in every virtue, you are talking about generosity, his generosity was the highest. You want to talk about courage. He's example of how he was to free, he took every noble attribute that there was every noble quality that existed in every day, and enhanced it and promoted it to another level in terms of his teachings in terms of his example, and in terms of the legacy that he left

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behind. So the best in any regard. There's a famous poll that we listen to all the time. I just want to run through some of the couplets to highlight and to emphasize and elaborate on what I've learned is that, you know, the public face, a superfood, whether we call it the light of dawn is from the radiance of his face.

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The light of dawn is from the radiance of his face. One day one Kaveri asked his father who was

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decided to be the soul of muscle alive. And here we're talking about physical description, physical beauty. So he said you have already lower body. Some somebody asked me, if you had to see him, the site of the Levitical law was as magnificent as the rising of the sun.

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You know, when you come out at night, it's darkness. Then we didn't come out at the time with the sun.

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I think it's time to suddenly the Reiki light all over the darkness. So low right now who want a sense of

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the only topic was a guy that

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has a leather gemstone when

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I have the sun and the sun

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the sun on the horizon rises in the morning, but the sun in our homes used to lie when our husband

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used to come home in the evening.

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So a Super Bowl by the man on ITV, what they do better to work for ie the nightmares of sparkle the sparkle comes from the glimmer of the noble inhale pursuit of love for the love of it.

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So physical beauty and match are

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those women who kept their fingers when they will maximize by the beauty of use of arisa had they been exposed to the beauty of commerce, they will have to have

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they would have come to us.

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Allah has not shown any human the full extent of the physical beauty of our soul.

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The human eye in this world doesn't have the capacity to withstand the full extent of the physical beauty of a soul masala is determined only be revealed in children.

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In terms of spirituality, in terms of durability and virtue for Russo's photo walk, take all the MDR in Busan, Busan and put them on one side was sort of lost. Romani certainly exceeded every messenger and all of the messages in merits having read

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it in terms of his ancestry is finished, as scan slb Allen Cassady this reading is the purest, he stature is the noblest every nothing empirical, to be the miracles of muscle loss of Article seven, sadly, Shadow not had the room, when he used to walk, the trees would walk towards integrating the stones that are dead,

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dead in stone, the stone to speak to him set up a movie shower, he split the moon with one indication of the point.

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Then if we talk about uniqueness, every one of us we want something which no one else had.

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This morning on the radio, we were talking about sharing recipes, is another sensitive topic amongst women, right?

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So a lot of the women who signal you must be a

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target and often see the work in order to soulmates but one lady was one instance he said, Listen, if one woman makes one dish very nicely, then less than we have exclusively. That is a signature dish. People must say, Well, if you really want to have this go to it. Don't don't don't force them to give

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me something which is unique.

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So every human like something which is unique to them, if you want to talk to if you want to talk about uniqueness, and how about this as a unique privilege, as an exclusive privilege, the burrito at

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the very last column comes to him on the life of

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Allah has chosen you for this once in a lifetime journey that's exclusive to you what what was

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he the invitation is not what is meant the messenger It is Allah who is inviting and saying, Oh, my beloved, come so close to me that nothing the Venetian have ever enjoyed such proximity to the greater

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sum the law is

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that

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one is you have greatness and you benefit from your greatness. The other is you have greatness and millions of people out there who continue to benefit from your greatness. Now let's start off low law, a setup monkey because of the greatness of Osama bin Laden, we continue to be pardoned by a lot of our decisions.

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He's greatness out there.

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But the crux of it all boils down to this for heaven's sake.

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We take great pride in proclaiming and announcing the fact that Mohamed Salah Salem is our master. He's our leader for the institute and

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he but the real honor and pride is in following the footsteps of Amador sort of love Southern law abiding user.

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So the learning of football was the most comprehensive

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Example, the most comprehensive example, you know more about

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the book, which I'm currently reading. And he tells us something which is phenomenal, I don't have the time to go into the details of it, but I'll just give you the summary of the entire point. He says, we all know about the period of

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the ignorance, the period, prior to the

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Civil War, we know about what they used to do in that period. So we know some of the common examples. They used to make the combination, because there's a lot of five Tribal Wars, without any real reason. But I didn't know until our essays that they had reached such a low.

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Man in some of the Arabs of BRAVIA had been such a low air, that if you look at the whole history of mankind, never was manufactured in such a low level in terms of how we live.

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And then Allah says,

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Allah, Allahu alayhi wa sallam, in 23 years,

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not only transformed the whole of Arabia, which admits the lowest every Ministry of humanity, but he set the foundation for the transformation of mankind, up to the end of life, in 23 years. So when we say he was the greatest, when he when we say it was the best, it was something we didn't say out of emotion, it's not something that you just stay in a kind of glib way passing, knowing something which is a route, something which is still in fact, in substantiation, when you study the life of

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the only one conclusion that shines through use the best of the best of the best, the most comprehensive, the ultimate example, the highest road model that humankind can ever imagine.

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Now, this shows this whole, we cannot discuss

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a few aspects of it.

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So I have chosen to speak about one

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one quality, one trait in the life of a soul.

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And the reason I have chosen this particular quality is because this has become a rarity, a space to be in our lives.

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And then he leaves

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leniency in the life of a loved one.

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And the people love was a very lenient human being. He was a very gentle human being. He was a very competitive human being. He was a very tiny human being. He was very merciful given me this was returned to me my production a lot about the concluding version of the Toba says, laughter the joy of home was all around me and

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I come to you from amongst you should either be addressed he is the head of the hotel in the country you promised your people in his life story. All humans will be addressed here that all mankind inner peace come to you from us. He's an angel to another creation he's a human like you in another killer in another type of presentation. Meet people in other industries come from amongst you Who is the best from you?

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He is for you. Believe me human is for you is a human like you. But it's not your average human is the greatest human

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life cycle especially you have

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to say yes, indeed, Muhammad is a human

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human who has a long life cycle.

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That mlo is a stone with a big stone. There's a big difference between the stone on the street corner and the time which is also a stone. So remember the job was to win and to say Oh, no one can praise the center okay to produce the puppets of the money send them to us like oh, okay, so we look at the words of the poem and he comes from you and he is the best of you.

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Don't add a diva ID to the difficulties that afflict you are very distressing.

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Whatever we do go through difficulty he goes

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because he thinks your difficulty to be easily.

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This is also a student of Kosovo basketball. So

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the sooner that America is not restricted or confined to how we eat or how we sleep or how we read or how we conduct ourselves at the time of arrival, the student of the Vietnam is comprehensive.

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So this leniency this compassion when other people's clothes because of your own troubles. This is also part of the syllabus.

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How do you solve it? The first thing is very much

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worried about you, always anxious about your spiritual things? Your physical state, your psychological state, believe me, you know, for Rahim, very forgiving and merciful to the believers. The yellow brings the word believers in the heaven. That means that the previous two descriptions I reason Arkema is that whatever problems you're proposing, it doesn't only refer to Muslims meaning whatever purpose any human, even if

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it affects the promise of knowledge

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is the only reference to

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these x's over your condition to say that Muslims will believe him when it comes to the believers that it's one step higher, he is most forgiving, Most Merciful. So the leniency of

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what's the definition of religion or a good definition, we say, nifty means to be more merciful or further than than expected

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to be more merciful or taller than expected, meaning in those circumstances that you find yourself in whatever is a reasonable expectation of alpha will be to be a little beyond that, and then you're in prison. So that was not a breach. When it came to be solvent. He was beyond that he was relieved, and gentleness. gentleness is a form of leniency.

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If you study the life of a syllabus, nobody uses

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the law lot of great interest in the welfare.

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Today, living selfish lives, very individualistic lives,

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the son is worried about his parents, the Navy is no longer worried about the person who stays next door, when communities are worried about the plight of a community that lives on the periphery, simply because they're not part of the same race, or they don't share the same culture, or they don't speak the same language, but then appear from LA was greatly interested in the welfare of people, and particularly interested in helping those people who are in trouble.

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Today, we know someone is in trouble, we say far from the person, because we say he's gonna think he's terrible and make it miserable.

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So I know he's in depth, pay attention to the budget ahead of the other evidence, if he may ask me for some assistance.

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Somebody who was in them, look for those people will be able to assess them one day.

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He said people like these, your wealth is the cap of your body as well. So they said what is the

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percentage, he says the top of the body is that you must take the difficulties of others and make it your own.

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In other words, like he would take his own problems seriously, you must take this problem seriously in your endeavor to help me see the quality that is lacking from us today. We talked about unity. But we only talk about unity when we look at the political difficulty that the home is facing. So you talk about Palestine, the Palestinian issue will never be resolved until you look at Syria.

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The second issue whenever the goal is unity, 100%. That is correct. But unity will only come if you and I are united. It's not only the leaders who will get united. Unity doesn't start at the top, it starts at the bottom. And how can we be your mind is when we live in selfish lives. individualistic lives, we don't worry about others, every man for himself go home.

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That is not the legacy. But it is not any sort of principle or any sort of benchmark or any sort of guideline when it comes to Islam. But you can only hear about people if you yourself are lenient, if you yourself are gentle, the beneficiary cycle in my production, a lot

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of us have a lot of us that have the profile, if you will.

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Honey is a hot hotter than hot boom is that the best of people who were the Sahaba, they would have presented you with

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the discourse to reflect for a moment here. If Sahaba would not have remained loyal to the syllabus,

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on account of it being hard to tell when you think your wife, your children, your students or your employees.

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If you have a template and if you are

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a loving creative designer

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who knows us better than we know ourselves. He said, If you don't have leniency in your disposition.

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If you're not an accommodating genuine human, no one will be with you. No one will work with you. You won't see much

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So, he he is also a

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legacy is also a so

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it is an instruction of the paramount to the greatness of creation. If he had to obey this instruction that you and I have to obey to a greater extent number seven said what Java actually mean lower your wings for the believers, if there was a man who was excited to see my way or the highway,

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if you want to be with me, then you do it my way, can we no other way, if there was any, that was a time to say that it was

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then underseas to him what Phil

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lower means to the believers Be gentle, be gentle, be forgiving.

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Let's take a look at if you are having a possible loss of love and instead of being disregarded, first thing that I want to discuss is from the Mall of America.

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Why?

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And the reason why it wasn't the person

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to take advantage of the club that the people have ruled over the people apparently. And then we have a walk for the distance of money. And he was getting ready now to depart.

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He put his foot into the studio, like we would say he opened the car door. The last advice

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that we gave him was I sent a photo locally and as part of the journey,

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be a man of refined character when you're dealing with people have good character, have decency, compassion, gentleness, leniency, then you will be successful, then you will be successful in this mission that I'm sending you on this, I think it will be

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a lot more than 8% of total the Sahaba that I should I don't inform you about that person, but look at this person.

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So inform you about that person, that he is how the fire of the fire journal is halfway.

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Meaning that this person has such qualities you will never see each

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and every one would aspire to be this

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person.

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He says sadly,

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if a person is accessible,

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and he saw and he is leaning, excessively, people can come to you, you have approachable, you're also highly tanky and mighty that you kind of make yourself a recluse people can't see you they come to you they can't interact with you very difficult, get you know, honey, you close to people, you approachable, you accessible. I mean you saw in your temperament, in your,

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in your attitude and approach. In your speech you saw salary and convenience, you are lenient. These are qualities of agility.

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These were qualities of

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if you do enough of Allah including was the VHS that he

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believes is also a trauma

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that they

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were holding for the amount

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that he says I heard the message, the focus of the body was that there was a man in the previous times and he had passed on. And when he passed on, he had very little very little interest.

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And the angels were looking for something, some excuse to present before law to try and secure this forgiveness. They said

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what could they do?

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said to be honest, I can't remember.

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To be honest, I can't remember.

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Again. So we thought again, instead, you know, maybe we had already discovered when I was a big business but in the world. When I used to do business with people, then those who are reached out, give them time to pay don't give them despite how easy what their in terms of repayments are, give them a little extra time or even a bit of a discount those who are rich and those who are poor, which is why you know, I would wipe it off. And when we presented that to Allah that was the means of the person to

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total forgiveness. You know today, not today. In this week, somebody told me

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I will intercede on behalf of somebody else in order to give

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the person who thought well,

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if we can afford the division, even

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if we can afford it, the person has to discount

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What is preparing? There's so many things that you and I can afford, but doesn't always have

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the sort of discoveries. However,

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it's part of the supernova sort of loss of love.

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So this space, if you will, is a leap agenda, because

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those of the 45 is

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tied to pay

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flexibility. And those were two people saying he could see the Spanish struggling is a breathalyzer hustler, he totally wiped it off. He could take it.

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Wisdom. So I want you guys saw what that was about, that he is lenient, is lenient with me by like asking him, when we go to the guy to buy, we negotiate and to be blocked, we would expect a large drop off of it. So when you buy

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reliance about the dealer will have some corporate power, when you sell also, like so when you buy whether you sell you lead and also when you have to deal with people and you have to be somewhat lenient, and as far as your own rights are concerned. These are great qualities you will find today, society skewed, if a man is lenient, if a man is gentle with his weak, we think it's a negative trait, we're going to use a Monday so it is a hobby and he said that the same was, he said, Allah loves these two qualities in you which Allah Allah,

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Allah, these two qualities with you, which Allah loves, and help your father, you can put away

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our these, our egos are so huge, that we cannot even tolerate the madness,

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with our own spouses, with our own children, for those people that we interact with on a daily basis. The

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The thing is, we don't really we think that when we went to them, we learned the basic life story. I know as of this year, this day,

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father passed away mother passed away.

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And cream also brings to the prospective and brings to the fore another lesson, another tool, another gym. Because we want to make connection with Syrah these values have been lost to us in our lives.

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To quality which will allow us and help you if

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you have tolerance. You know, my wife always tells me like give me a big stomach to my stomach know

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when

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you are very calm, very composed in very impressive

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to see you and I we grew up watching movies. We think that the courageous man is that man fuse, and whose brains are bursting on his forehead and is ready to roll up his sleeves. And he's swearing like a sailor. Whenever somebody wronged him, he screaming and battling on the top of his lungs. That's the mental strength as a matter of courage, no nonsense character.

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attitude and such behavior has no standing the second

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I see you very calm, very composed, no matter what happens. We'll do that. What do you you follow them can you remain unflustered, even if you have to take the person to task even if you are angry, you get a letter, but to remain calm and composed and flustered is also part of the duties of a supervisor. So be lenient, be lenient, this is also something that

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when they

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come

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in,

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you hit with Allah is gentle, and Allah loves

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you and I repeat, we are men and extend my authority. I'm the boss a show that I'm in charge.

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I respect my seniority.

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Ladies and gentlemen, and all the gifts for genitals much more than he would give when it comes to fitness or much more than he would give for anything else. Anything else

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we need to understand that is also part of the sooner Of course will love the lines.

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Because the beauty part is a very nice story.

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Sometime recently,

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in one of his books, he says they were two friends. So they wanted to get married and two daughters of the same man. And they were going to approach the man to ask for his two daughters and the parents who really worry about them save on the costs. So now the two of them

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Am I saying the one to one? Do you think the elder has the data

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so that they can no matter if you take the elder

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now the next issue because of the sense of the right

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to take the right one, I think is

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a lifelong thing.

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Another day that one wants something on the internet, they said, there was this officer, he was opposed to the job. So he radioed him back to the headquarters. He said, most people, they want to

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see who killed the person. And know the wife is mop the floor. The floor was too wet. And the husband came in walk away with his dead tissue. So she started dead. So the boss of the headquarters tells him, have you arrested? He said, No, the first two weeks.

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So medical assessment issue. So now this could be ultimately the breakdown between the two. But you take the other one.

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So the first guy, he was shocked, he understood what this gentleman said. You take they have no one and I think the one negative.

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Why do you think a human has any dog? Many times in life, you don't have to forego your life. You don't have to change your stance. It's just how you package it and presented.

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That's the meaning of gentleness, it remains the same. You can send a man to have a way that you look forward to the journey.

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So gentleness and time is about going about backing down about letting the person prevail, about fuego in your life. But in the main, it's about your attitude, your mannerism, how you package things, how you deal with people, we need to learn to deal with people.

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We think we very educated with very sophisticated we in this technological age, but we have forgotten how to deal with people

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at these values will find in the tsunami so lots of money, sell them. The greatest teacher when it comes to human interaction leads the

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most problems arise when you have an incorrect attitude. We look at medical problems. We look at teaching students, bosses and employees elements. Julius, it's got to do with being overly harsh.

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We don't understand that balance. We don't we have not even thought of leniency as being part of the student.

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With many tough problems, many hard challenges, many integrals in life for the last millennium.

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I didn't work very good. It says that in a gentle way, in a gentle way you can shape the world.

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We think that a gentle person is what you're saying good luck.

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Because he's got to go by him.

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Because he's got no confidence. Therefore, yeah, he's gentle, no, that's gentle. That's a technical person. That's a person who because he doesn't have the ability. He doesn't have the ability can speak when it comes to a point. So people take advantage at the water when I talk about that. The older

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and older yet he chose to be here. He chose to be gentle, and that is strength. That is the genuine Be gentle and it doesn't mean you're weak. Only only the weak people are two people. But gentle. This is what you expect from a person who is emotionally strong. A person who is emotionally really the person resorts to

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resorts to rolling up the sleeves, screaming and shouting because he doesn't have the emotional wherewithal. He doesn't have the emotional strength, nor the mental activity to be able to come up with a plan of action of how to resolve the situation without screaming, shouting, screaming shouting swearing harshness, firmness, threats, an ultimatum. Those are in most instances, an example an instance of a weakness, gentleness and leniency is a sign of strength in character. That's why it is a good thing. The greatest strength is gentleness. Greatest detail to this Why? Because gentleness breeds peace. It breeds. It breeds consistency in a business character. It is not

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abrupt and qualified. Many people are very abrupt and qualified, how they interact with others and how they respond to circumstances in the world. It tells me the system because it remains constant. And it's clear mind when all situations sometimes you can just see the person difference

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Are you ready is composed and calm no matter what's happening we're all allowed to become accustomed to getting worked up, we can remain focus, we can remain reliable, we can remain steady.

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Chapter is a weakness is a strength. Actually many times gentleness is an act of rebellion.

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Even it is a citizen oxymoron when you say two things in the same sentence, it's a kind of like what the victory, the gentleness is an act of rebellion is not a contradiction. Because many times those people who are emotionally weak when they raise their voices, and when kind of go that loose, they're expecting you to do something with them so that they can escalate and prevent.

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But as soon as you can be harsh, these two gentlemen in the fight will be here after that is your rebellion because that determines your game. I'm not going to stoop to your level, I will follow the Sunnah of Rasulullah sallallahu.

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Another misconception that we have, being gentle and lenient is not discretionary. It's not optional. It's not a nice to have.

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It is compulsory and mandatory. If you're listing the structure of a Hollywood cinema, then be gentle be here in the color of the scene.

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Whenever gentleness and it is any equation, it will define the quality while I use

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for the students, gentleness and leniency is expected that if this triggers the environment, it disappears the individual. So if you want to beautify your conduct, your profile the impression to be the only people's mind for the people's hearts, that leniency and gentleness needs to become part of who you are. It needs to become part of who you are. I'll just say a few things in conclusion, because our time is almost up.

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When it comes when we listen to these talks,

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I can remember some years ago, at the delivery tomato at the masjid where there was a big altercation between committee members, and they were two groups. And they were like, at the top, of course. And so it was like a poster.

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And it seems like he has picked up his moments like overly sensitive issues within a drag because it might work in

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one way and

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then book other is it due to my inability closer to the stadium? So anyway, it is better to be by tomorrow? and How

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to say because you might come and talk about something totally different than they say what is relevant if

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you notice a finding the question and people that need to become to talk about something else, and even talk about what is the issue of the day, then each party will do today.

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And he will make much for our senior scholars. And I said well, I said, Now when I'm walking out of the middle school, the one brother from the one group came and said, you know what I am

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better, if only they were listening.

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And I think I reached my car to the other brother who

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was a good buyer. I hope they were listening.

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So you came to the program today and the monitor said that he is it is also still

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it is not for you to go home and tell your wife that it would be it is not for you to go out and tell your boss to tell everyone else to implement what you heard. Tell yourself first, tell yourself first, I'm serious about this. Each one of us needs to introspect and say that if we could have

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any witness finally to follow the suit of who was

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to what extent they might follow Him and with his example when it comes to beginning

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to spike in my own life,

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then have I beautified by all conduct and my old profile is a Muslim is at the end of harmony with gentleness or not.

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I need to look at myself first. And if I start doing as a soul reciprocating we can return.

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But one thing was understand leniencies when it comes to your own life, when it comes to your methods, you can never be lenient when it comes to the command.

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Your wife doesn't dress the way she supposed to dress. Your son doesn't want to break up with the type of person when adding a grill it doesn't apply there obviously must be used wisdom to set you he will still stay within the parameters of Sharia law was very firm and unwavering when it came to the commands of Allah but he was very gentle and accommodating when it came to

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We don't like you and I, it's the other way around. The wife leaves the house is not dressed properly, we're not bothered, but it just feeds back to us that our anger rises in a way which is detrimental when you're on the right address when you don't and then you know from this, but when the when the limits

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when you did apply, I have to be the other way around. Remember brothers in conclusion, Allah loves

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Allah loves leniency. Let me tell you send them love leniency and he lived legally, it's time that we start to love leniency and we start to live leniently and gently will be a

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part of our

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life

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to follow

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up

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to be

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on