Your Marriage Is A Sign From the Signs Of Allah – Don’t Break It! Make It!

Sajid Ahmed Umar

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Abdullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, my dearest brothers and elders in Islam, regarding the home of Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, Allah subhanho wa Taala Allah has given us only the best. He revealed the best book the Quran, via the best Angel you breathe it he Salam to the best messenger Muhammad Emir Abdullah Hassan Allahu alayhi wa sallam, in the best language, the Arabic language, during the best of all nights, the Night of Power and decree and verge a night that we know as being better than 1000 months. And during the best of all months, the month of Ramadan, and in the best of all places Maka to mukarram. The best book via the best Angel, to the best messenger in the best

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language during the best night and best month, and in the best of all places. And in this best revelation that came to us in the best of all ways. Allah subhanho wa Taala reveals that the OMA that receives this book, this ummah is the best of all nations. We are the best of all nations. This is a declaration by the Lord of the worlds and the creator of everything in creation.

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Now brothers and elders in Islam, we know that nations are nothing but a makeup of multitudes of families.

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And if we are the best nation, as decreed by the Creator of everything in creation, that would mean naturally, that this nation, the Anwar Muhammad Sallallahu, alayhi wa sallam particularly, and nations generally, they are assigned from the signs of Allah.

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And if we understand, that nations cannot be except after a makeup of families, with a naturally the family would also be a sign from the signs of Allah. And thus Allah subhanahu Akker Allah reveals in Surah Rome, he says subhanho wa Taala will mean a yeti he and Hala polar mean fusi come as Wagga Lita spoon II li

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Allah subhanho wa Taala Allah says, from the signs of Allah subhanho wa taala, from the signs that he exists, and from the signs that he's the only one worthy of worship is that he created from you, for you, your pay your spouse, Subhan Allah, then Allah subhanho wa Taala Allah goes on to say, and Allah did this, so that the spouses may derive for each other from each other, serenity, tranquility, and the peace of life. And then Allah says that he has placed between them both Allah Himself has placed between them both two valuable characteristics, Muhammad and Rafa and we'll discuss the short

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at the outset of the verse, Allah says from his signs that he exists, and that he is the only one of worship. He is one in His Lordship, one in his worship one in his names and attributes from the science teaching us these realities is that he has created us in pairs Subhan, Allah and the scholars of Tafseer they discuss the meaning of this portion of the verse in detail and they have shared several opinions from them, is the fact that everything has been created in pairs for Allah says woman cliche in Harlequin as Oh Jane. Allah says from everything we have created for

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them its pairs, meaning everything has been created in pairs, you have male, and you have female, you have short and you have taught, everything has a pair. And no two can exist except from a one. And that is Allah subhanahu wa Allahu Camila who ahead, and your Lord is one LORD with no pair.

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Also brothers and elders in Islam, we learn from this verse that marriages, especially from the discourse of Islam, and the paradigm of Islam, is a sign from the signs of Allah subhanho wa taala. And this is an important message that is lost when marriages especially take place, that we get caught up in the excitement of a marriage being imminent, and two families coming together. And we share several pieces of advice with the eminent couple, but rarely do we teach them that you both are about to engage in a contract that will entail a sign from the signs of Allah, that your contract will be a declaration in practice, that Allah subhanahu Attallah exists and is the only one

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worthy of worship.

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As such brothers and elders in Islam we see and we will witness today because there's a Nika after the Juma program, how easy the Sharia has made, marriages and couples coming together. But then when it comes to separating them, the Sharia places more laws to delay that separation. Why? Because the Sharia does not want to cater for marriages breaking because those marriages from the outset are signed from the signs of Allah. And marriages being kept together entails productivity. And the more marriages the Sharia keeps together, the easier it is for the Shetty to create a circumstance where productive transformative nation exists. And we have to be that brothers and elders in Sudan,

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because we are the greatest of all nations. After Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, Allah never took the legacy of Naboo and prophethood and transferred it to the shoulders of one man, but rather he took it and transferred it to the collective shoulders of one OMA, that is yourself and myself, and the only way we can be diligent in carrying this legacy that the best of all individuals carried the Gambia added him was salat wa salam is if we remain together, productive, proactive, transformative as families so that we have transformative nations and as such, we can do diligence to the legacy of Muhammad Ali Abdullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and also transfer it diligently

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to the generation to come after us because there's no messenger to come after Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam with his arrival it was declared that he will be the final messenger and the seal of old prophets. And we know brothers and elders in Islam, that the battle between the truth and falsehood, between good and evil, continue to exist after Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wasallam if no prophet is to come, the only solution for mankind is the Nation of Islam, the nation of Muhammad, Abdullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam for we received his legacy, not as individuals but as a collective ummah. And thus Allah decrees quantum hierarchy, reject leanness, you are the best of all

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nations, brothers and elders in Islam. Unfortunately, today, we see an eye and insist, I mean, I'm going to be brave in saying this is an institution and institutionalized effort in breaking the family structure, not just of Muslims, but families as a whole. And we see this predominant in some continents over others, but with globalization and the television and satellite broadcasts, we see the ideas that go against the functional pillars of what a family should be, and thus functional nation should be these pillars are being eroded from the foundation, and this is from the work of chiffon forshay upon is an enemy to mankind as Allah declares in the Quran, in the shape on Alok

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Kumar, I do one factor for you who are dua Allah says she upon is an enemy to you, so take him as an enemy. We know brothers and elders in Islam, if we knew they were predators in our neighborhood, we ensure that we wouldn't even leave our children on our driveways and our yards we put them in the home we lock the Homs will make sure the cameras are installed and the alarm systems are functional. Why? Because we are preparing to face an enum Allah say Shavon is an enemy to you. So take shape on as an enemy. And in order for us to take shape upon as an enemy. We need to look after the family unit because the biggest win for che upon is when he breaks the Muslim family. And we know this from

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the guidance of the final messenger Muhammad Abdullah Salah Allahu Allah He was selling them for we are

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toward that he meets with his military daily and they report to him what wrongs they've managed to bring into the Ummah and the wrongs that they've made members of the Ummah of Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wasallam do and the bliss rarely that is an island with much that instead, but when Ha upon gets up and says I managed to create a separation between husband and wife. Now Iblees takes notice of that army member from his army that managed to achieve this because he believes himself knows that we together are stronger than when we are apart and bliss knows that when the family is broken, the children will suffer the most. And this is the quickest catalyst in breathing misguidance in the

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Ummah, Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and Iblees fulfilling his promise to Allah or his attempt, which he promised Allah that He would attempt to take most of this ummah with him to the hellfire, the quickest way to do it is to break the structure. Why? Because when a rift happens between the mother and the father in the home, we know that children suffer the most, and the effectiveness of the Father and the man is in felt the effective effectiveness of the woman or mother isn't felt, and the children suffer the most similar to any clips, as we are taught in the story of use of Aarohi Salah because in the story of use of Ira he sallam, he saw a dream as a young

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boy of the sun and the moon, and 11 stars bowing down to him. And decades later, Allah makes this dream come true in the form of his father, and Yaqoob, his wife and his brothers bowing down to him. And he says here that we have been covered. This is the interpretation of my dream before, and scholars have weighed into this dream and how Allah made it manifest. And they said that likeliness of the sun to a father in the home is so peculiar, that when the sun is out, photosynthesis happens. Plants grow, fruits grow, convection, rainfall happens, similar to when the father is around when the father is around, anything happens, the home is moving, there's money coming into the home, the

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bills are paid. Also, when the father is around, the wife and the children feel secure. Just like people naturally feel secure when the sun is out, they feel more brave to walk into life during the day than they would be at night, when they say the likeness of the moon to the mother is peculiar as well, because the mother is serene to look at. And when the moon is around, the stars are twinkling around the moon. And thus you find in the home of the family, the children are more around the mother, and the mother takes or the moon takes its light from the sun, the more effective the father, the more effective the mother, they are these collective realities between the wider

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creation of Allah subhanho wa taala, and the structure that Allah has revealed for the Muslim family. But then, as we see in the cosmos, and with the universal reality, sometimes you find the moon trying to play the role of the sun, and the sun trying to play the role of the moon. And in that circumstance, you have any Eclipse, either a solar eclipse or a lunar eclipse. And when this eclipse happens, the energy of the moon, the benefit of the moon, and the benefit of the Sun is in cells, and the stars are nowhere to be seen. And in the home. When the mother tries to play the role of the father or the father, the role of the mother meaning they go about their way void of the

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guidance of the Quran and Sunnah. The role of the father becomes ineffective, the role of the mother becomes ineffective, and the children suffered the most as well. This is in the book of Allah subhanho wa Taala a social lesson about life and the family albeit in an indirect way for those who ponder and thus Allah says, A fella at the Brunel Quran, do not ponder over the book of Allah subhanho wa taala. And what Allah has revealed, for me, it indeed assigns for those who ponder and Allah constantly guides those of objective understanding and the reading of the book to take guidance that I tell you here only absorb, take guidance from the revelation or people of

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understanding. This topic is a big one, brothers and elders in Islam, but through it hopefully, in terms of the presentation shed Thus far, we've understood matters pertaining to the what, which is a marriage and why, why it's so important that we get married. And we look after the family structure, and its association to towhee, which is that ilaha illa lemma Abu Dhabi have been ill Allah that there's no one worthy of worship besides one Allah, that whenever you see a Nika it's connected to this reality, that there is no one with your worship besides the one Allah subhanho wa taala. But to bring some completeness to the topic in the few minutes that I have left, allow us to touch a little

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bit into the how, how do we ensure that we look after the Muslim family unit

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it how do we ensure that we keep families together at every cost? How can we be sure that we successfully fight this institution that is pouring billions into breaking the family structure? There's so much to say brothers and elders in Islam, but perhaps I can share with you just two. Firstly, brothers and elders in Islam, it's important that marriages come together upon the Quran and the Sunnah, that we are true to this verse in Surah, to room for Allah subhanho wa taala. Allah says that he created for us from us our paths, and Allah teaches us why the test Kulu Elena, that from you being together, you will derive the serenity of life, there is no greater serenity to life

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than to be Jana. Allah is teaching us in this verse, that marriage gives you opportunities to build Jana that you would never ever be able to do. Have you done the same with her or her with him outside of the fold of marriage. When you feed your wife, it is a sadaqa and your agenda grows for you. But if she's not your wife, your Hellfire develops for you Subhan Allah, this is the this is the serenity of life reference and elders in Islam, that we live the reality of Allah as oneness and in that living we build our paradise for Allah only centers here to build paradise that we see the proposition, the return on equity, we are Oh II or ROI the terminologies we love return on

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investment that this marriage is an investment and investment to build our agenda. Allah says, Allah Bina Kumada we placed between the spouses Nevada, this is one of the ways that we can assist our marriages remaining strong. Allah didn't say hope. But rather, he said, My hope is a common translation for this verse. But it is not an appropriate translation because my wife, the brothers and elders in Islam doesn't refer to love, but refers to affection that Allah placed between the husband and wife, affection, and affection is manifested. Love is not just the case of loving your wife, but that love is hidden in your heart or her heart. And none from the two parties feel the

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love that one party has for the other. And many times we see this we ask the couples do you love each other? They say yes, but in reality, nobody believes the other person. Why? Because they live every day, not manifesting that love for each other. And that manifestation happens in different ways. Brothers and Sisters in Islam, for Allah has created us in different ways. And there's different strokes for different folks, as they say some people find the affection being shown when the husband overlooks some of the mistakes of the wife in the home. Some husbands find the affection of his wife in the form of her messaging him during her busy day to check if he's had lunch or he's

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had dinner. And all this is found in the Sunnah of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam that Allah has placed Mohammed death, manifested, love, manifested love and not just love. And this age, the marriage being strong, and helps us against device outside of the home that's trying to infiltrate our home. And then Allah says, well, Rama and mercy, that is not enough just to love each other, and then manifests the love that you have for each other, but you must be merciful to each other. And Mercy here, brothers and elders in Islam refers to the turbulent moments where maybe you don't want to express your love for the other party. But here, it's important that you be merciful

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to each other. Why? Because your marriage has a bigger picture. There are divine values that govern your marriage, that for the sake of us, looking after the Oneness of Allah, and being daily representatives of him being one, I will overlook my desires in this moment for the bigger picture to keep this marriage together and I will be with my spouse with the hand of mercy. And some of the scholars of Tafseer have said that Rama here refers to the children because the children are a means for the family, the parents building the agenda further, because in raising your children, it's an act of worship. And when you worship Allah, Allah rewards you and also if you raise them to die upon

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Islam, then everything they do after you is sadaqa jariya for you. And as Allah subhanho wa Taala says, We're loving em and what Tabata Maria to whom be Eman, Al How can I be Henrietta who

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could Blumarine be my Casa del Rahim? Allah says as for those who believe and they raise their children upon belief, and they die upon belief, Allah will gather them in gentlemen, if the parents are at a higher level of Jannah and the children at a lower level of Jannah, Allah will raise the children to the level of the parents without decreasing the position of the parents. And if the parents are at a lower position, and the children at a higher position, Allah will raise the parents to the level of the children so they can be a family in Jannah together as they spent their time, blooming gentlemen together in the homes on Earth Subhanallah This is the reality of brothers and

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elders in Islam, that everything is a means to an end, even how we get married. Thus Islam is not just a religion

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but an entire way of life. And because it's an entire way of life, I can share with you these pearls from the Quran and the Sunnah. Because as the Quran came down to teach us to heed and release the people from the shackles of following their forefathers in worshipping idols, it spent enough time not just revealing the machine or aka, the permissibility of getting married, but also how to get married, and how to be a husband and how to be a spouse SubhanAllah. Mushy is there to be said, but our point has come our time has come to an end. One thing I'll share just to tie this together, brothers and elders in Islam from this verse, think about it and this is for the couple that are

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about to be married today and for you to share with your children, our elders in Islam, because Inshallah, soon they will be married. When you get into a marriage, for the sake of Allah subhanho wa Taala see your relationship with each other upon the platform of a triangle. A triangle has three sides, two sides are parallel to each other. And one side way above. If you write the husband's name on the bottom corner, and the wife's name, on the other corner at the bottom, there will be a big distance between them. And if you write Allah name at the top point of the triangle, and both parties be with each other, putting Allah first you will go up the triangle. And as you go up the

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triangle, the distance between you and him and him and her doesn't get further apart, it only gets closer together. And these are marriages, brothers and elders in Islam that are marriages for a lifetime. For when Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam came, he taught us that when Muslims get married, they don't get married for life. It's not for children and procreation only, but rather for a life time that they live together. And when they pass away, the one that lives misses the one who has passed away and yearns to be with them in a better abode. In Alpha dos insha Allah and this we see Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam years after Hadiya passes away, he hears the voice of her

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friend, and he starts to remember the idea of the Allahu anha and praising her and even though this might create a bit of sadness in the hearts of the wives around him, Aisha will say why do you remember her? She's the past I'm the now she was old. Allah gave you something better. And the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam say Carla, you don't know what she did with me her. The Allah Who and What did she do for him? She did for him everything that helped him maintain his obedience to Allah subhanho wa Taala you Allah subhanho wa Taala bless our marriages, bless our parenting bless our children inspire us to be substantial human beings stop living life for the sake of the

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blues for the sake of me myself and I but rather for the sake of looking after the legacy of Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wasallam and living life upon these divine values not working with each other on a point system a point a like a golf cart a scorecard. You know how many pounds you had how many birdies you had, how many eagles you have. Now you have you know, the room for a bogey here or there. There's many golfers in the audience. I'm sure you can relate to this. This is not how we should be it shouldn't be I did this for you. Now you need to do this for me. And I did this for your family. They didn't do it for me, so I'm not gonna do it for them. This is shallowness brothers

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and elders in Islam. This these laws came down from Allah in the book, the final testament, the timeless miracle and you will return to Allah subhanho wa Taala and answer for every role that Allah subhanho wa Taala plays to him. Once again Allah bless our families and protect us from evil and cause us to die upon. Amen. And our children upon Amen. And we all gather us with our parents and our children and our loved ones you know through those I mean, you are better I mean or SallAllahu wasallam or baraka and and we you know Mohammed wider and he was he

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thank you. Bye