Sajid Ahmed Umar – Seerah S01 E13 Part B – He doesn’t know that he doesn’t know!

Sajid Ahmed Umar
AI: Summary © The segment discusses various topics related to Islam, including inviting people to La ilaha IL Allah, sponsorizing messages, giving gifts, and a new Muslim Academy. The importance of Charity is emphasized, and the need for evolution and growth in one's family is emphasized. The speakers emphasize the importance of learning and practicing to become successful, being patient, and avoiding harms. The importance of being aware of one's own mindset and not letting others overcome them is also emphasized.
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Why would all this happen if the instruction was specific to Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wasallam. And this is where you all come in my dear brothers and sisters, you have to ask yourself now, where am I propagating the message of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wasallam you don't have to go to Medina, as we established the other day.

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You know, like a llama, you know, there is no one worthy of worship besides one Allah, you should know the pillars of it, you should know its conditions. This is knowledge everyone should know.

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Right? And you invite to it invite to that which you know, badly Who am the

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message of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam

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to that which I've taught, even if it's one,

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as long as you know it, and you know that, you know, this is very important brothers and sisters, because we have four types of people.

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We have a person who knows and knows that he knows this is an alum, a scholar, a person who is not he doesn't have to be a scholar of everything but a scholar in terms of that which he knows.

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And then we have a person

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who doesn't know and doesn't know that he doesn't know.

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Somebody why the eyes rolling. There was a Latin though that was English, by the way.

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While your eyes rolling, he doesn't know something. Let me reword it. He doesn't know but he thinks that he knows how's that

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better place in my ear is your my ear. which way you want to get to it? short way a long way.

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So the second person is a person who doesn't know but things that he knows this is a dangerous person. This is dangerous. This is compounded ignorance, not using their ignorance more compounded.

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Why? Because what you're going to teach this person he doesn't know. But he thinks that he knows what you want. What are you going to teach him? You're going to keep on arguing? That's because he thinks that he knows the miskeen the poor guy thinks he knows. But he doesn't know. You tell him brother. This is so great. This is black.

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Brother, it's great. This is black. And I know that he's black. So you don't know that it's black? It's gray says no, it's black. What's gonna happen? Tell gray, black, gray, black, gray, black muscular.

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And then you have the third person, third person is a person

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who doesn't know and knows that he doesn't know.

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This is the person you give that power to.

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This is the person you give power to. And then you have the fourth person

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who knows but doesn't know that he knows.

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You get people like this. They know something but they don't know that they know it when you tell them to go Oh, yes, I you know, I used to know this.

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I know this actually thought about this. But I didn't know that I knew that.

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That's the fourth person. Right? You should be a person who knows and knows that he knows in that what you give our to. Do not invite to misguidance invite to guidance, go to a scholar. This is my information. Is it correct? If I say this?

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Now, don't say this say that sometimes what you're saying is correct. But the words that you use will cause a problem a scholar will correct it for you. tweak it for you will tweak it for you.

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Right, and then when you set go and invite to it. You have to do that our brothers and sisters. We the legacy of Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam has been placed on our shoulders, some people more than others, depending on your knowledge. Ask yourself Have I ever attempted to invite towards La ilaha IL Allah Muhammad Rasul Allah, have I ever attempted to bring people to Salah? Have I ever attempted to correct the problems of Zika? In my society, even if it's in taking a person to a scholar and say teach him? about Zika?

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Have I ever have I ever asked yourself?

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Are you true?

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In terms of you being an element that carry that should carry the legacy of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wasallam?

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Do you sponsor the initiative? This is a meeting that

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and there's many ways to do that. Even if you stick a simple message at the bottom of your email.

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Many of us write a lot of things there right? Beware do not print this email look after the environment if you print it at your own risk.

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That's good. also put an ad our message there. And by the way, there is no one who has to worship besides one.

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Why not?

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Is there any law against it?

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disclaimer, just letting you know

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something that I know and know that I know. There is no one worthy of worship besides one Allah. Your job is to convey not to convert Alhamdulillah you've conveyed

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you've left somebody something to read. That's

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if you have, if you're a doctor, you have a reception, stick some material, at least at reception, is it a vision is magazines. We're going to read

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right to the waiting for the appointment, give them something to read.

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Give them something to read.

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This is

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your neighbor. If you can't speak, drop a pamphlet in the letterbox.

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They might throw it away, nine times out of 10 but one time out of 10 they might read it 20 years down the line.

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An event will happen in their life and they will remember your pamphlet

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and they will knock your door and say you know one day you did that. Tell me about it? Well, I the other day we just had a new Muslim Kay vente I gave a talk to the new Muslims. And they stories Allahu Akbar. And in the new Muslim Academy, which I'm a part of for the lion hunt.

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Weekly was new Muslims weekly Well, I you know what i'm so fascinated about how did you come to Islam? What was your tipping point?

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Well, like the some of the most amazing stories, you cannot help but believe Allah Allah, Allah, Allah, Muhammad Rasul Allah, Allah, some people it was just this, somebody left a card with Surah Fatiha and they read, Praise be. All praises belong to Allah, the Lord of the world's who's the most forgiving, the most compassionate, the Most Merciful. Just that introduction. For some reason, they felt this feeling. I have been introduced to the Lord of the worlds I need to study this more. Allahu Akbar, I'm sitting here thinking Subhan Allah Allah, Allah, Allah, Allah. When Allah guides, no one can misguide Your job is to convey not to convert. It's Allah who puts the guidance that

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pushes people over the edge.

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From the realm of darkness, over the edge into the realm of light. Right, our job is to convey so it was not specific to Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wasallam and it wasn't now we're talking about the gradual approach, even the Tao of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wasallam. At the beginning, as for Allah His instruction to him was graduate. As we said, It started in secret. Imagine three years in secret secret. He started with who Khadija rhodiola who? His wife, the first person to accept Islam law who showed the sisters are

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doing tech beers where they are

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the first person to accept Islam.

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And then warabi Nova

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the first man to accept Islam. Yes, there's a slight difference of opinion because he passed away very early on soon after he met Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wasallam but he was a supporter and advocate of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam Allah knows best waratah been over. Who took Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wasallam to him, Khadija, the Allahu Ana, female group two men group still coming.

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Soon Lawson Allahu alayhi wa sallam said

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or he warned us against insulting watercop in Nova.

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He said Do not insult him for indeed I've seen that he has a paradigm so to paradise was Allahu Akbar.

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And this is the evidence the scholars used to say he was the first man to accept Islam, then Abubakar Nagi Allah who I am, and what will make you understand who Abubakar was his closest friend. And then Addy Ravi, Allah who I'm the first boy to accept Islam, the cousin of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and then Zaid, even haritha the slave boy of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, the first slave to accept Islam. Charity begins at home, Allah revealed to His Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam later on when when the message was supposed to when the message was supposed to.

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Early I told you that first that would be my first daddy my tumor was for the for the message to become open.

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Right? confirm there was him becoming a messenger and to start in secret, first that

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was the message to Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam for the doubt to become open and also they are

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Not the instruction which was given to him when the data were became open was actually radical. Let's start with the closest to you. Charity begins at home. So even in open the era he was supposed to start with those closest and even in in secret our he started with those who was closest to him Khadija Abubakar Ali Zaidi bin haritha obioma who and whom, as your main brothers and sisters, another point for you to benchmark yourself against because this these lessons fit the Sierra Where are we and our

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and our families or with our families?

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Where are we?

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How many of us

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trying with our families

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today that's the first hour the first hour you get it right at home. It's gonna be right out Swain Shama get it right at home. This is the

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testing ground.

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Would you persevere with those at home?

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Not to push them away, persevere with them in the right way as upon the the the citations I shared with you earlier in a way that doesn't build a burn bridges but builds bridges. It might take you a long time. The Tao of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wasallam was how long? How long? 23 years. 23 years brothers and sisters.

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And it was a journey. It was a journey. Today we do that? Well. We want instant results haste. We spoke yesterday about always being in haste. instant results we give up. And we'll discuss this we discuss this because this concept of giving give giving up it's a mental issue. We'll discuss it just now. So we neglect our families. Our children, we are there from scratch and we encouraging our friends to set out to further yes they close but our children are closer. Have we gotten them to go to the masjid? Where are we from this?

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Allah subhanho wa Taala says, Go and fusa como la coonara.

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protect yourselves and your families from the Hellfire

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this dour to your families you will be questioned about my dear brothers and sisters, everybody here in the audience and everybody listening at home, you will be questioned.

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You will be sinful if you did not deliver. Allah has made you a messenger to your families when he told you to protect yourself and your families from the Hellfire, your wife, your sparks, as well.

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This is an Amana and thrust upon us.

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So we did a lot of benchmarking today. Right. This is important. That's what we're here for. We're here to grow ourselves. Right adults and youth development. let's develop. Let's grow let's emerge. Let's take ourselves to the next chapter. You don't want to be version one your whole life, right? Even windows now is Windows eight.

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And it's an app. Right? It became an app. So they they moved, it became an app. It's it evolves. You can't be version one. You want to be MS DOS, your life. Some some of the kids don't even know what MS DOS is right.

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disk operating system Microsoft as it was at the beginning windows 3.1.

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You have to evolve.

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People are playing Xbox three is three or four. What is it?

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For one, you on one? You haven't evolved?

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Xbox One is the latest Oculus I haven't evolved.

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You have to evolve you. When are you going to still remain

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upon being average?

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Until when? Until when are you going to let yourself be ever you have to involve brothers and sisters. And your evolvement involves you causing your family and those within your sphere of influence to evolve as well. Right? Even if it means you tell them you know there's a procedure program after a week. Let's go pray Salah in this Masjid. This is that this is you doing your duty but Subhanallah you texting other people you haven't told your father?

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He texted your friends right? Did you tell your father? Did you tell your mother? Did you tell your brothers? Did you tell your sisters? Did you tell your relatives?

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we neglect and we don't know. This is a problem. We learn from the data of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wasallam. How not to we also learn brothers and sisters. How to

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Be diligent when we form our organizations and start up our companies and our projects and our activities. diligent in getting the best people on our team. Look at Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam Khadija rhodiola Anna

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Giant, Abubakar Abdullah one giant Alli rhodiola one giant Amazing, right? already has team members who are going to exacerbate this dour cause this organization to grow exponentially cause my project to fly

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cause my company to explode the halaal explosions. Bahamas

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Abubakar Viola one how many people came to Islam because of Abubakar several from them with magne a fan of the Allahu Zubaydah. radi Allahu

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Allah who I'm sure cause Nagi Allah who I'm Paul hybrid, Abdullah, Ravi, Allah, Who are these names? You don't know, these are names, you know.

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He was a giant and he brought giants into his lab as well. These five are from the 10 that were given glad tidings once they were alive of Jenga.

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We learned how to be selective. You want to start up a project. Look for the best people to bring in and convince them give them the hour.

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This is what you do. I need you on my team. You don't push people out of your organization. You're good people you keep them in. These are people who bring the Baraka Abubakar, he brought the Baraka to the five giants came into the fold of Islam. Not names that, you know, just swam in the seas of the Sierra. No, they were the waves of this year. Because we know these names. So how do we learn this? Just the fact that

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Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam Allah bless Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, what a slab of Abubakar, we learn from this, how to target people, even when you in your family, look for the most influential people look for the purest of hearts from them start there, you most likely to get a bite.

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And as I said, people that do tech lead a lot they follow. They follow. If you going to the power, the one person who will probably fight you the most on your message, you will spend so much energy is there. And none of the people in the family will come in, they want to wait to see what happens with this person here.

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Like the other tribes, they used to wait and see, let's see what happens to the crash, even when they were rebuilding the car. But they said let's see what happens to a little bit. If he's alive, then if they will join him in fixing the camera.

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So be wise, look at those who have the purest of hearts who are likely to listen to you who have an open mind and get them on board. When they get on board. Now you've created some momentum, people Well, you've already is the process for yourself. And who knows that person that you got on board might be so bought in he might have such strong by him that he himself will get the rest for you.

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So cannot be alone. And you get the rewards? Because you got the one man.

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May Allah grant us the understanding. I mean, Now why did that were beginning secret? Was that because Islam was weak? Why? Well, the message was not robust enough. No, no, no, no, no, no. Islam or the dour began in secret. Again, wisdom from Allah subhanho wa Taala the gradual approach him Imagine if Islam came with a shocking old concept, you know, it's shocking or have you heard this statement? Some marriages have shock, no management styles, right? Some organizations shock No. They come in they they come to you with an idea and they shock you and throw you into all

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right. The hot marketing is called shocking or marketing as well. Imagine if Islam came with a shotgun or concept, what would have happened?

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What would have happened? It would have faced annihilation.

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It had absolute no momentum. Its wisdom from Allah, Allah created us. Allah knows best how we think how we operate, that the Quraysh as tight as they are upon their ways. If they see that this man has people with him,

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the reaction will be different naturally Allah knows. And also remember they were tribal people. So dif different people from different tribes. So with Muhammad, the task wasn't as simple as just getting rid of him.

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wisdom from Allah subhanho wa Taala Be patient. Be patient you don't need results. You can memorize the Quran overnight brothers and sisters any time. He definitely needs revision. He needs patience. seeking knowledge, learning a skill. It needs time and its effort needs patience. Again, today's lesson

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Subhan Allah we named the party but we could easily name it the calculated, methodical way.

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So this was from the wisdoms that Allah subhanho wa Taala wanted the Tao of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wasallam to experience some form of momentum before Allah subhanho wa Taala sent him to the oma. Right? So, we this, this was the reason and as I said, the lesson we learn from it is being gradual. We also learn brothers and sisters from this, that Allah subhanho wa Taala does not ask from us that which we cannot deliver.

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He could have told Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam immediately in the cave euro messenger

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and sent immediately to the people.

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But Allah subhanho wa Taala is wise and knows everything knows that is beyond this man's capacity to do so. Allah has, Allah has a specific plan in how this die will be rolled out. And he hasn't given Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam the energies to manage it in that particular way.

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It's the wisdom of Allah subhanho wa Taala to teach us brothers and sisters. He was a human being like you and I, yes, he had specifics. But he was a bachelor, a human being like you and I, he slept, he married, he had children. He became sad. He ate, he became ill sallallahu alayhi wasallam

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these are lessons for you and me.

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Sometimes we think everything is possible. Not everything is possible. Learn what is possible and what isn't from the CEO of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. Sometimes as bosses we ask from our team the impossible. We want them to work the whole night and deliver work as if they slept and came to work and did their work. It's impossible. The mind gets tired. Sometimes our team members we ask from them the impossible

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and some organizations do this as well.

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And I'm going to cite this as Mashallah we have some the our elements in the crowd and this is for those who will watch this on DVD and hear it on mp3 later sometimes my message the messages is in the 21st century, but firstly dedicated to those in front of me.

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Right Some days I see people who I know will benefit from this particular point that that is in my heart I will share it and I'm going to share this given the our entities in the audience today. in doubt also we want our team member to run then we want to chop his legs and tell him to run the same way he was running before we chopped his legs.

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This is what we do sometimes he we've given him a project given his team

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the project they busy then we say do the same project and take on another project and this should be excellent and that should be excellent as well. This is impossible. Play you can evolve out of seven levels.

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Yes I know as a leader as a head as what as as as you being in charge of this process your job is to push

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but push don't shove there's a difference. Push but don't shove there's a difference. Lie you can live Allahu

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Allah subhanho wa Taala does not put burden us with that which we cannot do landless brothers and sisters, parents as well. Lenders, brothers and sisters. Don't put on your child's impossible. Don't every child is unique.

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From unfair.

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burdening is to make one child exactly like the other This is unfair.

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Allah made him unique and made her unique or made that the child's unique. Different.

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Why are you saying well your brother could do it at this age you should your sister could do it at this age you should this is not the same that that organization is doing it we should do the same. A lesson if that's the case, go get those people from that that organization. We still have we need time to get there. Right What I'm saying brothers be sensitive

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as Allah subhanho wa Taala or be sensitive in that you learn from the way Allah subhanahu wa tada was with his Rasool and the way Allah subhanho wa Taala instructed his Rasul to begin this hour, and how Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was with his Sahaba?

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Did they just start praying in front of the Kaaba? No, they will break in secret when Romero became a Muslim. I'm going to say let's go.

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But could he have said let's go? Yes. But he knows you know what? Allah doesn't put a burden that we cannot manage. Why should I take them and they're going to feel they're going to get harmed? So what I'm saying, learn brothers and sisters learn a lot of times, what to discussing yesterday about burnout in the Dow. Right. Some people get burnt out

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because it gets pushed too hard. Many a time a team member comes and says

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I'm struggling. I'm struggling is no more beloved to me and so on and so forth. Why?

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When they cite their reasons, what do you see?

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They have they are being asked that which is impossible for them to deliver. That's what's happening. It's just bad management is bad management you know looking after your people.

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Those are the lesson Allahu alayhi wa sallam God Abubakar invited him and Allah gave him he Daya and Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam looked after him and look at the results. Look at the results. And not only that, when this Tao became open, how many people did Abubakar pay and freedom from the Masters? Because they will be persecuted for saying La ilaha illa Allah Muhammad Rasul Allah

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learn this, my dear brothers sister. Another lesson we learned is we should never act in haste. And we've discussed this, we get this point from the fact that the hour in secret happened for a period of three whole years, Allahu Akbar, three whole years.

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Don't build your organization on matchsticks. You are in such fast growth. It's shaky at the bottom.

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Three whole years making sure the foundation was strong. The best people are with Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, because the turbulence was going to get greater. What are some Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam took his Tao outwards.

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He never wanted to have people that will renounce Islam. Because that's the greatest sin. That's another that's a major sin.

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You need the people who are ready to be with you on the journey. And Subhanallah I don't know how far are we going to get on with the Sierra? But inshallah the next time Allah brings us together my plan was to discuss the period in Medina. And if you just started the Battle of better Allah He the management lessons just from the Battle of better, absolutely amazing. The fact that you know how Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam when they found out that we're not facing, taking this caravan, we are facing an army of over 1000 people, how he stopped the people and said, What do you think you did? Sure.

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Let's see the team morale here. Let's see. Right. Let's let's just check how it is. You know, last year I did a conference of 500 I need to do a conference of 5000 this year before I

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I dropped it on my team. Let me see tomorrow. What do you guys think?

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And what did they say to Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wasallam. We will not be like the people of loser who said to Mr.

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McCarthy katella. In the hood, aka a dude who said to Moosa you and your Lord go and fight we stick behind. Rather, we will be with you with whatever you decide he looked at the team or

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did he have to?

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But yes, we can say he had to because he was the best. He had the best character sallallahu alayhi wasallam. And he was teaching the Ummah, how to do things, how to manage people, we don't force people into positions that they cannot manage, and then orchestrate their downfall and then go to sleep at night along with Stan

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and this is general in our in business in the corporate world at home with your children with your wives with your spouse's.

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Right, sometimes, you know, you can't tell your wife, you know, my friend, his wife, he just comes home. He doesn't have the phone and say I'm bringing a guest. If I do that, we have an argument. You should be like, that's not you don't have to do that. Brothers and sisters. Firstly, that's not fair. It's not fair that you do that. Well, it is not fair. As you know what they said the Quran Carranza, you as a male you, you know you you don't mind healthy competition. When it comes to you, your wife is possessive of you, the moment you start comparing her to another woman, it's more than just her not being as good as her. It's the fact that your eye has noticed somebody else's

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qualities. It's not fair. Firstly, you got to be sensitive. How many times have I said that what we asked her, be sensitive.

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You got to do sure understand team morale, understand what you have in the team.

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The thought process, Allah created everybody different. And that's what makes life fun. That's what makes life fun. It doesn't mean that you need to find your wife.

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And I tell her, you know, I got somebody is it okay to bring that no, that's bad that your wife is not as good as the other one who the person doesn't have to know she's different. And she is different. That's what it that's what makes life fun.

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Right? Next time fun hamdulillah

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we have to fix our our understanding so Allah that this whole session about what we can learn from Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam becoming a prophet how Allah sent him the whole you know the three Adama in secret then the open Dawa. And even how that happened in the wisdoms behind it will lie. This is a DNA of Oh, it's it's, it's that imprint of how life should be. How life should be how you and I should live. Many times of handler we have problems in our homes, in our workplaces, in our data in with

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With those below us, you know who the problem is? You

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you the problem. Many times, you if you just thought about what you were doing, and did it a different way, you might have a different results, if you just lowered the bar a little bit, not because you want to average people, but because the buyer that never is asking for something impossible, you would have seen different results.

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The Allah grant is the understanding. The last thing I'm going to say because time is up, I really wanted to go through the slides, but I want to say it because it's really related. It's really, really related. And as I said, You know, I want you to do the math competed in one setting in in in 16 or 17 episodes, but

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we have to respect this.

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And that's I'm happy to change my mind and say I'll do it in two episodes, in not two episodes, two parts, instead of having mcca period and the Medina period, two parts, we have to mark apart, do Medina pass by the three Medina part for live and get to Medina, la Cava, what you get from from there is so much more as well.

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His life he was a prophet for 23 years, all 23 years, his lessons for us. But one thing I want to discuss with your brothers and sisters, because it's related to everything we said, and I promise to do so and it's good to package, the DVD will come out. And some of us might not be tomorrow, we were talking about about

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or this whole lesson was how to be gradual, and so on and so forth, right? And how not to put more pressure on people then than they deserve, or that then they can manage, right?

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Those who study mindsets tell us a very important thing. That there's two types of mindsets. You have the fixed mindset, and you have what they call the growth mindset.

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Many people by default have a fixed mindset.

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And some people don't. But in many cases our environment gives causes us to grow up having a fixed mindset, our homes, the way our parents are with us. The school system, the school system definitely causes you to have a fixed mindset. What is the fixed mindset? What is the growth mindset? In my humble view, the growth mindset is a mindset that focuses on effort.

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And the fixed mindset is the mindset that always focuses on result.

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It's so result focused,

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that it sees nothing but that, but there's a flaw with the fixed mindset.

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And that flow is

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if the result cannot be achieved, the fixed mindset person loses interest.

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loses interest, as if they are as if that thing is not worthy.

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To be something that they should be pursuing. They become bored, they lose interest. Why? Because they realize realization comes that I'm going to fail. And the scariest thing to the fixed mindset is failing. Many a time we do this with our children, brothers and sisters schools do it. It's all about the results. We batch the kids a batch B batch. So already we given them complexes, then 90% 80% 70% is based on the exam.

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So based on effort, the effort could have been 100%. But they were sick the day of the exam, got the ruler, they forgot they were a human being federal law, they read the question wrong. can we improve? Yes, we can. But does that mean they were a total failure? No. The fixed mindset be the fixed mindset will go into depression. The fixed mindset if the fixed mindset is a leader, this fixed mindset will burn out the people around them.

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This is this is this is documented.

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It doesn't matter that my team or my child was up most of the nights. The fact is you didn't hit the target as a parent he needed 100%. We needed 95%. You didn't get it, it doesn't matter what you did, because the result wasn't they missed the effort wasn't there? And this is not true. This is not true. There's something known as the Father.

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And yes, yes, there's another type of cutter, which means you take the means you lock your home. But yes, we lock our home. But if Allah wills that someone breaks into the home, does that mean we didn't lock our home? No. It doesn't mean that the growth mindset is a mindset that is effort based. The harder the task, the more interested the person is. Why? Because they have the growth mindset. They are focused on effort. And now the effort of the application has become even more interesting. You know, it's one of those.

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One of those ones, this is interesting. I like the challenge. Whatever happens at the end will happen. But I'm focused on the challenge whether I can finish the puzzle, or I can't, but I'm going to give it all I can. I'm going to give it all I can nine times out of 10 I do it, but if I don't need one time, it's fine.

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As long as I did my best, and if I do it, but I cheated doing it, I'm going to be upset.

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Because that wasn't good effort. That wasn't good effort. You got the result but the effort was up was was poor. So what happens? You're not happy. You're not pleased. You have a conscience that brings you down. Brothers and sisters, we need to learn this. today. We were discussing, in most cases, the growth mindset and the importance of having a growth mindset. Tell your children they didn't come first. No, my dear child, come sit down. What happened in the exam? This is what happened. But you know what? You tried hard. I saw you studying. I saw you doing your extra lessons. You are good. You follow the timetable at home. There was only so much PlayStation you played there

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was only so much TV you watch. There was only so much outside time you had you were studying. Don't worry, try next time. As far as I'm concerned as your parent. You are number one. You on number one.

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So hey, well, I you know, there's so many of our machines. When they graduated from universities, they weren't the top graduates. And those were top graduates. We don't even know where they are today.

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I know this, for many of them are

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the superstars today. They are carriers of the Sharia, but they graduated with marks behind Allah.

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You think, gee, if you got those marks, you would say that Hola, La quwata illa Billah.

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But that's just how it was. They weren't exam focused. They weren't those who study everything just to pass the exam. They had a lot of knowledge, just not correct application in terms of exams, and they never bothered them. They got through Alhamdulillah they got through Alhamdulillah but the knowledge that they had was far superior. Well, I when I was studying, I had a I had a good friend. He was an Ansari from Medina. Write this man, this boy, Masha Allah. He was reading Alcor to be or he says he read to be when he was like 11 years old enough to be How big?

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He is.

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It's a mighty tafsir and not for the faint hearted. I made that. And when he was 11, he says I was reading.

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Right? But every exam, I would he would, he would only see my desk in terms of results. He wouldn't perform as good as me. But why not? for one moment? Did I ever think this man had no not in class without the book he would answer things of Hana live with the teachers would be amazed.

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He had knowledge. But exams just wasn't his thing. I'll phone him up Night of the exam. What are you reading? He says I'm reading Arabic poetry. I'm reading a book in the

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exam because what my I can't read

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my heart doesn't allow me to I don't feel the sweetness doing it. I've just left it. I'm enjoying reading Arabic. Tomorrow's the exam, inshallah.

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And he passes with previous knowledge Allahu Akbar that says a lot. Right?

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So don't judge people based on result. Sometimes you set a target for your teams, they work hard, they don't get it, that's fine. As long as you try it, because there's something known as the color of Allah subhanho wa Taala.

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Right, and that will prevail. Al Qaeda, Al Kony al Qaeda II, the universal decree of Allah will always happen whether you like it or not, it will happen. The other

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add, that's taking the means that's in our hands.

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That's in our hands rocking the house. That's it. That's a cutter Yes, working your best studying hard. But the cutter that prevails prevails is Catherine Kony elkader at the universal cutter, that that will prevail. You locked your house, you put your trust in Allah, it doesn't mean your house will be broken into you wear your seatbelt. You might not have benefited from it. But should you add the seatbelt? Yes, that's a feather you have to take should you study? Yes, that's a cutter you have to practice should you lock your home? Yes, you should. That's a cutter you need to practice.

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But have the growth mindset brothers and sisters, especially with your team members, because you will burn them out, you will burn them out. Our job is to art and propagators and parents and teachers is to nurture the oma is to grow them grow their abilities, make them become people who can take our doubt to the next level when they come of age. That's what we need to do. We don't need to be making carbon copies of ourselves. Firstly, firstly, well, it's our standards and we push them to it No, but we push them so that they are rounded holistically. And we have grown them to a stage where they can be they can make the day our what it can be not what it is. Understand that my dear

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brothers and sisters

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growth mindset versus the fixed mindset if you want to learn more google it has taken a long time and Subhanallah today I want to share with you half the lesson.

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And I repeated many points but they need to be repeated. The points I've shared one line just from how to sort of

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Love became a prophet, and how he became a messenger and the stages in his dour we finished, we were just discussing now that we're in secret.

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The lessons we've taken means the world to a parent means the world to a teacher means the world to a boss to an employer, means the world to the head of an Islamic organization, means the world to the president means the world to the Minister means the world to everybody will lie. The lessons we took is for everybody, it deserved the time we spent, it deserved me hopping and hopping and hopping.

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And I don't like to call it that I'd rather call it consolidating, and then re consolidating telling you what you didn't know. And then repeating what you now know. And then telling you again, what you just learned. This is, this is education, right? This is what we do. This is what an educator does. This is important will lie. If you only listen to one DVD from the set that comes out. And it was this one and you changed your life and propagated this message will lie they will be changing.

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Because this is how Islam came to us in this way, physical hair and I love you for the sake of Allah. Let's come back tomorrow in sha Allah, and do part four of the days after a colossal Allahu alayhi wa sallam became a prophet I love you all for the sake of Allah. Everything corrected is from Allah subhanho wa Taala and he's perfect. And any mistakes I find myself in Shabbat and I see colossal Helen who attalus forgiveness, how they will know who I am for Salah Allahu wa Sallim wa barik ala nabina Muhammad wa ala alihi wa sahbihi Germain Subhana Allah He will be having these panic alarm or will be having the connection to Allah Allah Allah and that's the federal governor to

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boo la casa Marley Kumara rahmatullah wa barakato

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